Why I'm okay with being average

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05:16 - The rabbit hole
05:52 - I. Get rid of the idea that I can only be or do one thing
07:03 - II. Practice being at peace with the fact that I won't ever be able to do it all
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[@LanaBlakely]

The first 1,000 people to use this link will get a 1 month free trial of Skillshare: skl.sh/lanablakely01221 #skillshare

[@natemarx4999]

I will definitely be user number 999! (:

[@donaldtrumpy5652]

🥰🥰🥰🥰 Oh venus that rise before the sunrise and rise before the sunset, Here I am looking above for your glitch answer. Is miss Blakely my Gloomy Moon?

[@joeymartinez8529]

“I have a fear of not experiencing life as much as I can. I fear that I’m taking life for granted.” Love this quote ❤️

[@veroniicagu]

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[@senioradministrator4719]

But u r not avg

[@yasmenebadereldin]

Celebrating being "average" is the new being extraordinary. It's the epitome of realizing you aren't the center of the world, but meant to experience it from a centered place. Thank you for the reminder Lana! :)

[@conversationcorner1837]

It is hard to undo the social conditioning but it is possible.

[@yasmenebadereldin]

@@conversationcorner1837 Totally, but I think more and more people are starting to realize what matters

[@veroniicagu]

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[@reempatel453]

Omggg this !!!!!!!

[@araealis4178]

Beautifully said :)

[@joehook5533]

‘My mom always used to say that average people are the most special people in the world. And that's why God made so many.’ - Michael Scott

[@kristenk708]

That doesn't make sense. If something is truly special, it's supposed to be rare

[@nabilapinontoan7763]

my biggest mistake is that i'm currently still trying to get a rid of this : i always overthink about the thing that i'm going to do/ take, even just a simple thing like : oh it's holiday, should i use my time to learn language, deep cleaning my house, learning politics, reading a book, or learning to cook? i feel like i'm so indecisive to decide what best to do for my precious holiday time. and then i will end up doing nothing

[@lia1844]

We're the same in terms of overthinking about doing simple tasks. I overthink them to the point that I spend too much time doing them and I have less time to do the other things that I want to do :(( Meanwhile, we're the opposite when it comes to doing things during holiday lol I keep myself busy during the holiday by doing the things that I want to do that is why I tend to be exhausted whenever classes start

[@saatiyashabir753]

So relatable

[@TheJellyEl]

So relatable, I'm 27 and still don't know what to do "when I grow up" I need 100 lives to do it all 😊

[@veroniicagu]

✨

[@abcde269]

haha, your grown up , I guess your talking about when you hit the grave.

[@tamara2384]

@@abcde269 that’s harsh

[@jenn9852]

@@abcde269 im guessing you’re just on your early teens lol but 27 is young and life doesn’t ends at 30’s haha

[@bluemountainw1789]

bitter old Hindu Karen

[@p00dle28]

The whole being ok with being average thing has been the hardest thing to come in terms with for me. As a "gifted child" I was used to being a pro at things, and has believed my whole life that I need to be the best at everything I do. And needless to say that made my life miserable, because it's not possible. And it's OK that you're not the best at everything you do. And I still need to remind my self that now and then.

[@conversationcorner1837]

That should bring a little peace to the mind.

[@fmls8266]

Can relate

[@lia1844]

Can relate as well! Sending hugs to you with consent

[@romuellebarbado2088]

can relate

[@graysonprickett6348]

How did you end up finding some peace in being average? I am in the same boat.

[@lostinadmiration]

I feel that I can strongly relate to this. While live only one life when you could try so many things? Yes, this requires relinquishing perfectionism and accepting the fact that you may have no 'one single grand career' but I would rather treat my life as my own opus magnum and an experience treasure hunt! I have so far trained to be a broadway dancer, studied humanitarianism and work in the field as a humanitarian worker, switched to a hip PR agency in Paris and now I work in a big tech corporation!

[@rookiemonster646]

Whoa!!!! How are you liking the latest switch so far?

[@lexxie225]

That’s incredible, good for you! If you don’t mind my asking, How are you able to make so many switches? And how did you further your education in all of these fields to en able to make a living off of them? they all sound quite different from one another

[@veroniicagu]

✨

[@andromedacoralgutierrez2632]

(no ofense) Do you have ADHD

[@williamjamesmoriarty9628]

This is literally me. I freak out every time someone says that I have to choose a career to specialized in for the rest of my life. I can't imagine myself doing only one career in my life because I'm a very curious person and I wanted to try all the things that this world could offer. I wanted to try different things to satisfy my curiosity and I would freaking regret it If I don't. If I were to be at the end of my life I will regret not trying everything that I wanted in this life.

[@robertct06]

You still can. You just have to be smart and save for when or if you retire

[@ShadowRaven66669]

Instead of choosing a career to specialize in, perhaps consider finding an *employer* that you can stay with for the long haul, even if the work itself isn't glamorous. Somewhere that offers a relatively stable work schedule that allows you to pay your bills and still gives you free time to pursue your interests. Bonus points if it doesn't require you to take out thousands in student loans for a worthless degree that you'll never actually use.

[@serainaburge6928]

I just had a conversation with my boyfriend about this, because I am struggling with choosing a "career" for myself. And this is the conclusion I also came to: I want to earn money to survive and be able to explore as many aspects of life as possible. It's okay to be average, and actually also a liberating thought.

[@DoctorAzmain]

I relate so much Lana!! ❤️As a doctor, I'm happy being "average", as long my patients are safe and well taken care of. I got the highest grades throughout school, and I still have perfectionist and overachiever traits... But I just can't maintain that! I love music, making KZbin videos, graphic design, learning languages etc - I can enjoy these things in life without being an expert at them! Diversity is the spice of life, and I'm not "average" if I'm doing the things I enjoy to the level I enjoy them. So go forth, try out new things, don't worry about being good at them - life's too short for that!

[@dearinlove]

100 love this!!!!

[@veroniicagu]

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[@marssnow7985]

agree!

[@ChrisGaultHealthyLiving]

I wouldn’t classify you as being average, Lana! You have nearly 1M subscribers! That’s awesome! Keep living life, you are young, smart & strong! You will do great things!

[@natemarx4999]

There is nothing wrong with being average, but many would definitely consider you way above average 🙏

[@DrQuizzler]

There's this thing called "analysis paralysis", where we parse out our choices to the nth and never end up accomplishing anything. I think sometimes arriving at this point means we need to step back and take a breath, and other times it means we just need to pick something, and be ok with it possibly not being the perfect thing.

[@conversationcorner1837]

We're never going to have all the data anyway.

[@T.H3DA]

Lana... it is so coincidental that you posted this! I was searching up this exact topic all of last night! I struggle with this so hard, I want to do everything and be good at it so badly that it kills me. Please never delete this video.

[@LanaBlakely]

I was searching for this topic too and couldn’t find much. So I was like, I guess I’ll just make a video about it myself then haha. Glad you found it valuable!

[@ryeofoatmeal]

'not trying to become an elite at everything is liberating somehow' damn... that is true and somewhat agree. at some point in life, i really wish I'm good at ONE thing but after a careful reminiscent, I think being /good/at everything is ok too. means you can enjoy variety of things. and i think that is awesome than just good at one thing you know. you really limit yourself of what you can or cannot do, so just try everything until you find /the one/

[@Lucas_S91]

Leonardo da Vinci is someone I really look up to as a 'universal man', someone with a wide array of knowledge and skills. I have autism, so I sometimes become completely obsessed with a certain topic and really dive into the rabbit hole head first. I want to learn about history and music and science and culture and so much more. And I know that I can never know or do everything. But as long as I continue learning and improving myself I think I'm doing okay.

[@Ava-di1nv]

I think you are lucky that you are interested in so many things! This means you are passionate about life. I myself struggle through finding even one thing that doesn't feel too tedious to pursue.

[@philsmith7398]

Maybe try one, small thing...but do it to the best of your ability and complete it. See where it takes you...

[@enrapturedgoose5317]

@@philsmith7398 how was your comment posted 8 days ago but the original comment was posted 7 days ago lmao

[@Rick_Cleland]

My life has been a complete and total misery ever since Bigfoot stole my precious girlfriend in the middle of the night.😒 He even took all her clothes and the T.V.

[@joelstephenson8017]

Wut

[@Rick_Cleland]

@@joelstephenson8017 😔😔😔

[@amala5415]

I'm an infj and I miss being myself. I've been infected by dealing with so many narcissists in my life that I had to change my personality so many times to save myself and not just only that I've been through multiple mental breakdowns throughout the last few years. Watching you gives me the best feelings ever cuz I feel like I'm watching myself. You are a mirror of me. I'm working on recovering and I will get back to myself eventually. Weirdest feeling ever when you actually miss yourself, never knew that this existed till now. Wish you the bestest of luck in your life. And remember you actually made a difference in someone's life BIG time.

[@lilredsolocup]

This is such an interesting perspective. Love the quote “You can do anything, but not everything”- reminds me of choice paralysis, we fear missing out on something if we make a choice but in actuality pursuing specific interests creates structure, which provides freedom from so many options. To your final point, knowing what you should choose is certainly the hard part when you don’t have any particular interests, it can also be the fun part in relation to exploration and curiosity as you mentioned in the beginning. Great video and content, I certainly appreciated the energy in this one!

[@reempatel453]

This was SOOOO NEEDED!!! I am in my last year of grad few months away and I feel extremely insecure. I want to be the smartest,the prettiest,the funniest,the most knowledgeable,the kindest etc etc. and I’m having a hard time accepting that I can’t just be all. Because I’m only human. Sure I can be good at a couple things or maybe 3 but not all and nobody actually can. Thankyou for celebrating avgness. Because sometimes avgness is the greatest virtue. Why should I just be the best dancer or the prettiest model or the smartest where I work or cook the best. When I can be good at little of everything and enrich my overall life experience !

[@princesschelsea1558]

This video definitely hits home for me as I’ve always had this horrible perfectionist mindset where I must be “extraordinary” at everything. That’s a lot of pressure to put on yourself. I just ended up just being miserable for years. Accepting that my life will not be one of constant amazing achievements has actually lead to me enjoying life more. It’s actually a huge relief. Trying to be perfect all the time is exhausting. I’ll take average any day ❤️

[@vonHNnachMTKnachS]

Lana, this video found me at the exact right time. I am in the same situation. 27, single, I'm in a different country as my family and I'm kind of freaking out because I want to do so many things but feel so pressured by society and this hustle culture to have my profession figured out and settled by the time I'm 30. Often I get petrified by the options when it comes to hobbies and I go in witht this mindset that it has to be perfect. But you're right, even if I bake one bread or go to one kickboxing class, at least I have experienced it!

[@aimeejane_writings]

You speak so much sense. Thank you again, Lana. You’re amazing ❤️

[@martyh8830]

Well, I personally try not to overthink anything. The odds of being born in the first place are extremely remote anyway, I'm just thankful for the opportunity to experience life in the first place; irrespective of how much time I may have

[@davisomusic]

CRAZY FACT: The average human thinks is not average. 🥶🥶

[@maijaziemele]

So many people try to be perfect at one thing (I used to be one of them), but there is something so liberating about trying out everything you wish and failing at some of it. It's like: yes, I definitely do not want to be a lawyer. But in the process you discover something that you genuinely like and with it learn a bit more about yourself. Trying out different things without any expectations is the best mindset change I've had in my life.

[@lunaa1981]

I can't explain in words how much I relate to your thoughts and to your videos in general. I am so happy that I found your channel. Quality work

[@velzoned9743]

The consistency of your videos are amazing and great content btw

[@kimiimore]

I needed to hear this today. Thanks, Lana!

[@Honorou]

I feel the same. In my opinion, the only thing worth mastering is myself. And I discover more about me when I explore all worlds that I'm interested in, not just one of them for my entire life. For others, it's the opposite, but what matters is to not be an expert because the world says so, but because you truly want it.

[@anniedeng571]

Thank you for articulating everything I've always thought about. I've always been aware that these things I think about aren't real "problems," so it feels extremely validating to watch your videos in which you express your thoughts so genuinely and vulnerably. I especially relate to this video so much as I've always struggled with thoughts that I can't ever be "great" at one thing because of my fear of commitment. I'm a curious soul always ready to learn and experience new things, and this video helped me more to embrace and accept the idea that it's okay to just be average.

[@monitoo_fml]

This has to be my favourite video of yours. I so strongly relate to everything you said. Here's to us coming to terms with the fact that we can't have it all, but we can still do plenty!

[@vivianl6906]

you have such an amazing perspective on life! :). it's really refreshing to watch someone with such curiosity and love for trying new things!

[@aleong2005]

This video opened my eyes to life, thanks for the upload Lana ✌️

[@NatureDaydream]

I love your singing!!! You calm me today!!! I really needed this video because I have wasted so much of time here on Earth and taken many wrong decisions in my life that is so short. Thanks for you, I will ultimately appreciate being average and not striving to be constantly better than others. We just have to spend the time wisely and do what we love, because we have only one life. Happy Valentine's Day.❤️❤️

[@laure6623]

I was smiling the whole video. This is really relateble and made realize a lot of things about wanting to do it all when the fact is, i just can't. And that's okay. I will focus more maybe on the things the I wanted to do but not limiting myself to do more of the things that I also want to try. A great takeaway from this video is I can do anything but bot everything. Thank you Lana!This is such an eye opener and gave me wider perspective about living. You videos are always so excellent and meaningful

[@christinele5228]

I so needed to hear this today! Thank you

[@MM-sz7pm]

I absolutely loved this video! I feel so inspired and you perfectly put into words what I have been thinking about for a couple of years now

[@khalilahd.]

I love that you remind us to enjoy the little moments in life and to make the most of what we currently have. I’m you always motivate me 💜💜

[@mrkomoro3979]

Literally everything you said about yourself is so relatable, I felt like I was looking in a mirror . Really appreciate this video, have a great day Lana :)

[@libra-rk3yi]

So relatable. And comforting. Love this mindset

[@alma3266]

Your videos are being really helpful, I'm turning 20 and I find everything overwhelming and you bring peace and introspection

[@soumyashasikumar938]

What a beautiful soul.

[@cheyannehatley9852]

This spoke to me. Thank you for sharing this video, and being so open.

[@user-sm8ox8zm3m]

Ur videos became my safe space lately. I ve been following u for over a year and i ve never been so consistent ab a youtuber for so long. U give such a calm vibe I hope u ll do again vlogs ab ur life and storytell even small things. It s so less but so enough. U have such a realistic aesthetic life so perfectly imperfect. So glad I discovered u.

[@rekhadekakakati1102]

That's what I have been struggling for a long time....you have cleared it all for me. Thank you Lana....you always help me with my problems ❤❤

[@skarletwitcher4175]

I have been watching your videos for months. It's my first time leaving a comment because your videos are just so knowledgeable and amazing to me, giving me a sense of peace and relief out of other noisy channels. Please take your time to post quality videos!

[@devika3477]

This is going to be my comfort video... Thank you!

[@yuliavaiman7626]

Thank you for sharing your insights 💜

[@shraddharai6802]

thnakyou Lana you always make me glad. It's difficult for me to feel glad but somehow your videos and the things you say makes me feel glad. Thankyou!

[@jeanoltt]

Thank you Lana for all the advices you give on your videos, and for showing yourself how you really are. It helped me a lot to grow my own passions, develop my own personality, and discover that I'm made for myself and my loved ones, and not to fit in another groups. It's been a problem since I was a child, but I realized that being confortable with yourself is 100% more important than making other people like you. Sending hugs💕

[@RM-kk1nz]

You talking about this actually made me feel at ease. I’m also like this but I feel like I need to stick to one thing because that is how the society is? My parents wants me to just be one thing or focus on one career. I want to experience so many things and try out different things all the time. I want to learn this and that. I thought I was crazy for that. Thank you for talking about this!

[@lauradove3236]

Thanks for keeping it real Lana!

[@megha7746]

Hey Lana , I can relate to you so much, I Iove watching your videos as it brings so much warmth

[@yohaizilber]

As always, thank you for the great content! I honestly believe thet pure positive emotions come from comparing ourselves only to ourselves; although modern times make this process more difficult for us, we should do our best to stay focused on our subjective being rather than the color of the grass next door.

[@Sera_Vaz]

Thank you for making this video. I relate to this 100%. I never was able to word this feeling and you did that for me!

[@Zombie-hj2my]

Loved this

[@earthlover8606]

this is so beautiful

[@Creamcheese92038]

i'm slowly developing this mindset! i haven't mastered it yet but i'm getting there :) amazing video as always, ms. lana

[@Ghxst969]

Thank you for Doing this. It was. Much needed. BTW Love it when you smile

[@TheDianaJC]

I've been trying to explain this to people around me, and felt like I was never understood. So it feels really good to hear you. I have a HUUUGE list of skills I want to have but I'm never good enough at any of them.

[@thisisrids]

just when i needed this :’)

[@markersandacrylics5898]

Love you Lana!!! 💚

[@rhiannoncain9415]

I really loved this video. You bring your thoughts to explainable concepts really well. Your whole point on being more than one thing was such a good way of looking at life and it resonated a lot with me. Thank you :)

[@sashalena6131]

this came at a perfect perfect time ilysm and thank you so much for your words luv

[@alixocampo]

I needed this. Thank you 💜

[@yesitsmewendy3065]

Thank you! I needed that. I've always felt like that but didn't know how to put it into words.

[@beareads]

I have no idea how I ended up seeing this video, but honestly I’m glad I did. I’m often so overwhelmed with all the options that I end up not doing anything and I really just needed to hear what you had to say! So thank you!

[@sandradias7170]

loved the video! thank you for reading my mind and helping me accept the situation better

[@taylorgang.2624]

Great video as usual, hi from 🇧🇪

[@90Dimah]

Thank you so much for sharing this point of view with us. I feel relieved somehow. Yes, experiencing something can be enough and we don't need to be great at everything we do. It's the experience that matters!

[@DW-ul8np]

Thank You for your Good Work

[@rinkiyakepapa3082]

i needed this rn, your channel helped me 🛐a lot

[@sedra_s]

I'm sure I need this thank you lana💓

[@ziadwael3109]

I can relate so much to this, at 32 i still have the same problem, it's really hard to strike that balance, everytime you get one thing right something else falls, and then new things keep popping up all the time, can't stop exploring life i guess... but i think that's the challenge and the beauty of it. Love your channel btw, just came across it recently, lovely content :)

[@ktravers]

Yay you got it uploaded! Now to watch 😍

[@poojitachand2811]

Oh Lana, this is a thing even I struggle with! It's a constant dilemma. When you have the eye to see beauty in so many different lifestyles, professions and almost everything, it becomes a problem of choice. Which is also known as opportunity cost in economics- cost of next best alternative foregone. There is so much to do, so much, and time is so limited. I think we should take it as a sign to not waste even a single second of our lives on things like social media, worthless scrolling, or any thing for that matter. Lovely content, keep it coming.

[@annah6239]

I never comment on anything but I’m happy because I feel like no one or at least few people understand my thoughts and your channel makes me know that others think this way and go into depth about all these topics. Your channel and some others I’ve found have made me feel more human. I wish the internet was more full of the actual reality of being a person and each part to it, more raw feelings; thank you!

[@ishitaarora281]

Woah. Much needed

[@gaganamanjunath732]

You look more happy in your recent videos, happy and full of life. I think I love this lana more❤️

[@marssnow7985]

thank you so much for your sharing. This video makes me feel better.

[@marifranceri]

thank you for all your videos :c i save the transcript of your vids so i could read and take note of the things you say :c your introvert vid was what got me hooked to your content!

[@db2ez]

I totally agree with you, there is definitely value in being good at a lot of things as opposed to be great at one. Whatever makes you feel more fulfilled just pursue that

[@wood1793]

When you started singing I guess I felt peace for the first time in weeks😌 Please please please keep singing ♥️

[@emafaden2281]

Love you channel Lana 🥰

[@violet18]

Yes there's an opportunity cost to everything. I learned that in an economics class in college,but it applies to everything because your time is a resource. Sincerely, a fellow INFJ

[@conversationcorner1837]

Economics does help understand so much about human behaviour.

[@paqito429]

Noone ever touched this topic of feeling that it might be fearful to think that you’ll never be able to experience everything n that you’re not even seeing a fraction of it . Thank you lana .

[@LorenBenicio]

Amazing video Lana! Totally agree with you. As an ADHD person it gets even more challenging to find this balance, but I got keep looking for strategies, step by step.

[@andrezavalentemartins8731]

This was incredibly inspirational to me. Really. I'm like you, I think it's unfair to have to pick only one thing among an infinite amount of things... It's not simple at all. Despite the fact that I want to follow so many paths at the same time (psychologist, doctor, philosophy teacher, linguistics professor, aircraft pilote...) I've been constantly bored. For years. I'm easily bored, it doesn't make sense. But there are so many things to do! You made me remind that small detail. I decided that, from now on, I'm not going to be bored anymore. I'll make use of my time, even if it's not for useful purposes (I mean, if I feel like drawing, I'll draw, if I want to dig in about a whole new subject online, I'll do it). So thanks!!!

[@girlwhocantbenamed]

thank you for this.

[@nellyymessy]

i love you, lana!

[@caitlyntaylor]

Lana this is the actual biggest coincidence I've seen in a while. This is exactly the thought process I've found myself stuck in recently, and it feels like you're actually talking to me down to every detail. Literally, the book shown at 5:21 is my actual cultural psychology textbook and I read those exact pages just last week-- I'm shocked. Thank you for sharing your perspectives so honestly and in such a way that always makes me think

[@oliviajune8599]

@fooferdoodles what is this book called?

[@caitlyntaylor]

@@oliviajune8599 “Cultural Psychology” by Steven J. Heine. It’s genuinely such an interesting read if you’re interested in the science of culture and how it influences things like behavior and moral development.

[@InPursuitOfCuriosity]

A simple but powerful message, Lana. There aren't enough hours in our lifetime to do everything that we would like, but there are enough to dabble in a diverse range of fields if you are smart with your time management.

[@conversationcorner1837]

True

[@Prachi_Waghmare]

Very relatable video Lana 😇 Thank you so much for putting something I really needed. I am also too curious and want to try different things, and it feels like I am interested in many things at one time. I was feeling something is wrong with me, but watching your video and knowing your views. I am feeling a relief, feels like found the answers of my questions. Keep Growing, lots of good wishes to you 👍😊

[@nusaibahm9904]

I really need to hear this ❤️ Thank you 🙏

[@InnerResearcher]

May we all be multi-passionate and multi-dimensional! I could never fit into one box, and we shouldn't. Thanks for another great video, Lana!

[@NateshasAmbience]

For the past couple of days, I've been thinking about how I want to do so many things. I have also been like this my entire life. I want to experience a lot of things, but not necessarily be great at it all. You phrased that so well!!!

[@shamshersheys7216]

This is the first thing I resonated with so much on KZbin. I thought I was the only one..

[@andresmoralesnolasco332]

I started watching your videos for improving my English skills (because I am mexican hahaha), and I became addicted to your philosophy and it helps me so much. So thank you for being such a great person and a teacher ❤

[@conversationcorner1837]

That's awesome. Hope your English keeps improving.