How I Make Myself Work When I’m Lazy (it’s not discipline)

[@ruriohama]

💡 If you're already a Notion AI user, you can get started today with Q&A already in your Notion workspace ➡️ ntn.so/RuriOhama1 If you want to connect with like minded people, join my waiting list for a free community : uat17stzllq.typeform.com/to/ZYt63RUL 🏁 If you're struggling with procrastination and motivation, check out my Kaizen Notion System: Learn more here 👉 kaizen.ohamaruri.com/

[@norberto6005]

its very strange.. how we r the same.. we live 10.000miles away... have very different lives.. but still.. :) its like I know u... why arent there more girls like u? :) or am I just looking at the wrong places? hmm.. maybe... anyways great video again Ruri... U made me get out of bed.. :D and that's a start.. cheers luv..

[@rezayaseri2790]

❤❤❤❤

[@juanbenavidesj]

Of course I join the community. Discipline and motivation; we deal with this every day!

[@obinator9065]

Let's get to _tweaking_

[@Mr.Gibo.1]

❤

[@sauravwastaken]

These two things gives so much space ( or relief ) to get things done 1. Never skip 2 days in a row 2. Top 3 task + Focus task

[@MisterMevs]

What’s the difference between a top 3 task and a focus task?

[@sauravwastaken]

@@MisterMevs For ex: If you finish top 3 ( non sense tasks ) that does not mean you had a productive day. You must include a focus task. It is top 3 tasks with a focus task ( included )

[@kaltziferYT]

1. Duolingo approves.

[@mrj1299]

@@sauravwastaken And what is a focus task my friend?

[@dantenicolasocrates]

​​@@mrj1299 She said it in the video: a task that helps you in the long or short run to fully one of your goals. If you want to learn other languages, then it may be that. If you are learning some skill, it can be this. If you just want to beat a record in a game, why not? She talked about spending only 20 minutes, or something like that, so maybe she thinks of this as something that can be intimidating/boring/hard but need for your goal and the short time helps you to do it.

[@TylerMiz]

"You don't need Motivation to do something, you just need to take action on it to get Motivation!"

[@marcellszigeti-benedek25]

That's powerful

[@RoberChaimberlian]

That's the real key.

[@IstyManame]

yea nah my brain does not agree

[@mrj1299]

but dont you also need motivation to start in the first place?

[@ericfalley]

I think the key here is that action happens when motivation is greater than resistance. We often have some level of motivation whether we start a task or not, but sometimes the resistance is greater than the motivation so we don't start. The wisdom in this quote is that taking action often removes a lot of the resistance that exists at the start of a task, so instead of waiting for motivation to randomly increase, we can trust that once we start some of the resistance will go away and motivation might then be greater than the resistance, allowing us to continue with the task without requiring huge amounts of willpower. Am I good at following this wisdom? Not really. :P

[@NoahNCopeland]

review cheatsheet after you've watched: 1. brain dump immediately (with a deadline!) 2. filter your brain dump, pick 10 tasks and prioritize (Eisenhower Matrix) 3. pick focus for the day 4. eliminate 5 of your tasks from earlier 5. reflect, at the end of each day,. check if you did your top 3 tasks or not 6. feedback, write in one sentence what was good/bad

[@jakelindsay522]

You’re AMAZING

[@Lilly-m1d]

Ty, I came back to this video to make notes so this is extremely helpful ❤

[@JohnM...]

I would add something people like Mel Robbins and James Clear (Atomic habits) say: do the most annoying or complex things FIRST.

[@jeriheggie]

@@JohnM... actually it can be super helpful to do an easy task or two to help build your momentum and then hit the big green frog 🐸 task and follow it up with a fun task you enjoy

[@asmaaaitbenabderrahman5262]

Thank you!!!!

[@CraigoZ21]

Currently working on my master thesis. As soon as I start the flow and motivation comes itself. So for me doing a task is never the problem. Starting is.

[@vtofu26]

oh my god, watching this to find that sparks of starting my thesis too, my friend. as soon as i start its just goes on and on. starting is really a problem :( hope you doing well on your masters!

[@rasmusturkka480]

Currently working on a medical treatment that cures every type of cancer and makes you healthier than ancient hunter gatherer tribes stuffing their face with berries and meat while hugging and stroking their friends. For me being a genius isn't a problem, others being idiots is

[@DeaBroggn]

An idea for that problem is to just plan on doing only 5min of work on it. 5min are over really fast, so the barrier to start is low. But when you have already started, continuing is easy in comparison :) Doesn't always work but often enough.

[@thomasko0947]

@@DeaBroggn Well this trick doesn't work in my Mind. If I tell myself "Only 5 mins", my mind knows exactly that its going to be way more, and I get demotivated

[@avhakazi3621]

More people need to see this video; it's made me realize why I don't struggle to work but struggle to feel fulfilled. Thank you.

[@DR-Phantom]

I'm currently working on my master's dissertation. An unusual way i overcome resistance is by reminding myself of the limited time i have in this world. There's a saying along the lines of "You are nothing but a number of days, whenever each day passes then part of you has gone." Another powerful one "Leaving things until later deprives you of the very experiences you need to grow" Constantly reminding myself of this helps put things into perspective and focus on the things that really matter in life. Hope this benefits whoever reads this.

[@zaidyunis9240]

Well said

[@Sage.Movies]

"You need to move first because motivation is made when action is already been done"

[@Z5Z5Z5]

Something about you is so powerful. either you have great posture, you practiced professional speaking, you are confident or you have a really high view of youself wow. I barely see people who carry themselves like this

[@ziyaerel2015]

She is very good at to inspire people! The way she does it, is so special…She’s not acting, she is as natural as how she is! Among a lot of fake people in the KZbin world, Ruri makes a big difference…

[@trevcessna1723]

Good advice, I’m ADD and when overwhelmed by the quality of tasks, I just grab one and get it done regardless of importance. I have accomplished something and now pick a really important task, boom! You are wonderful Ruri!❤️

[@polishedandpoisedplanner]

When I am overwhelmed, I lose my motivation and then I feel so far behind and then it turns into a cycle.

[@stevecarter8810]

Ditto. Then when it's properly an emergency it gets easier but it's often too late.

[@tracy4168]

Same, only under pressure i can work efficiently

[@brettinabox5607]

Try breaking your task/goal down into more simple tasks so that they can be digestible.

[@stevecarter8810]

@@brettinabox5607 if you have a spicy brain then this is another task, as it's prioritising when and whether to do this. Two more tasks for the overwhelm.

[@SrKinko]

For everyone wondering what keyboard that is, i believe it to be a Keyball39. There seems to be different versions depending on how many keys you want: Keyball44, Keyball61, etc.

[@Occultus947]

You are amazing, thank you

[@meytallara]

THANK YOU! I JUST POSTER A COMMENT ASKING FOR IT AND ALL I NEEDED WAS TO SCROLL FURTHER DOWN.... TO FIND YOU.

[@Orakse]

It’s so amazing to see how far you have come and how much you have improved over the years.

[@foxy2348]

your inner conflicts and feeling of Ego are probably the cause. So finding motivation is a long process of and a journey inwards. Therapy, meditation, and looking at yourself is the key. Action comes Before Motivation.

[@temjim]

Key points include: 1. Understanding the Root Cause: Importance of identifying the underlying reasons for a lack of motivation and procrastination. They liken it to getting a proper diagnosis before taking medication. 2. Common Causes of Motivation Struggles: Outline several common reasons for struggling with motivation, such as lack of clarity, feeling overwhelmed, feeling unfulfilled, burnout, and lack of a proper system. 3. Brain Dump Technique: Starting the day with a brain dump to clear the mind of all tasks and thoughts, which helps reduce feelings of overwhelm. 4. Prioritization: Using the Eisenhower Matrix, tasks are categorized into urgent and important, important but not urgent, urgent but not important, and neither urgent nor important. This helps prioritize tasks effectively. 5. Focus of the Day: Picking one main task each day that aligns with long-term goals, dedicating at least 20 minutes to it. 6. Elimination of Non-Essential Tasks: From the initial list of tasks, eliminate five to focus on the most critical ones. This helps manage workload and avoid burnout. 7. Daily Tracking and Reflection: At the end of each day, review the tasks completed and reflect on what went well and what could be improved. This reflection helps in adapting and improving productivity methods over time. 8. Adapting and Adjusting: Importance of being flexible and adjusting methods based on what works best for the individual.

[@countdown.moments]

Kaizen has done wonders for me. Tiny habits are an incredible tool to achieve anything. Best regards

[@talonmccauley5445]

I love how simple this is to implement into my everyday life, I've been feeling stuck for a long time and felt I was missing pieces. I'm going to come back and rewatch this and make the effort to implement and stick with this.

[@Sadtiric]

I appreciate that this is relatively low effort to implement and make actionable. I've been stuck for a really long time, as long as I can remember, and this brings me hope. 💚

[@Tamko_Music]

Beyond all the things I had already knew before watching this video, the part with reflecting on what went wrong today, was the most helpful for me. Thank you.

[@ozaneylul]

You always come with videos when i need it, it is a message from universe, i need to pay attention to it i guess. Thanks a lot, Rurii.

[@PhilipzPhilipze]

I don't care what your content are,What I care is watching you, almost all of your vedeos.Thank you.

[@Chan-cm9do]

Metinleri kameranızla çevirin You are like a miracle. Whenever I think about some subject or search for something, you share about that subject as if you are reading my mind. I love you Ruri and wish you continued success.

[@psychegev]

the way you were so humble about your physical health although you're visibly thriving

[@AlexiaArdelean]

Thank you for sharing this method. I’ve been always struggled to get things done and lost my motivation especially when I feel that my life is nothing else than problem solving everyday and I don’t have energy left to do creative things. Also, I was surprised to see Nischa in your video. She’s one of my superhero for finances. 😊

[@DarkSoul-pp7sn]

Let's be honest, Ruri's always relatable. She makes problems much easier 🖤

[@zehragokce2131]

I turned your channel after the three huge years and you still like and put heart on every comments. You are a real youtuber ❤

[@juanplascencia3097]

4:50 @Ruriohama Yoooo, Ruri is JACKED!! 💪💪

[@FunComedyHubbb]

To the person who is reading this, don't give up on your channel. Keep going, Its going to be better. 💯

[@InformativePicks]

There is something special about your videos; they make me watch whenever your new ones come out!

[@pr4360]

Braindump is a great start. Tip about prioritising - do what you want to do least first, this solves the problems of tomorrow today. It's how i wrote my PhD thesis. Excellent point about fulfilling yourself!

[@kageoftheflame]

Ruri out here healing the world 🌍

[@hadagar]

I skip a couple of videos... and now you look so strong 💪 I start working out like 7 months ago, your videos really help me

[@egesoysal]

Trial and error is one of the best methods. Thank you Beril for sharing your experience with us. :) :)

[@n.hemavathi3451]

I have struggled with this problem and i watched your video at the right. i have gained some ideas from your. I easily feel demotivated in my work. I had followed tips, but they didn't work for me. Thanks for your help.

[@saantQ]

This wideo got me just in time, I've been strugglin with my thesis, personal and work stuff and was so overwhelmed by everything that I did nothing through the days and fell bad about it, thank you

[@CheeseCake5990]

This video made me feel so seen. I have felt alone in my struggles. Thank you for sharing about your struggles in this video. It makes me feel inspired to try the solutions you suggest, like I can trust that maybe they will work for me.

[@GameGladiatorsTTV]

Motivation just comes and goes , so just stick to consistency , each day , then each week , then each month , it all start with the right mindset , if you dont't get the right mindset , rewire yourself again , start over

[@dronicx7974]

I agree so much with setting time for life building tasks. You have to learn to not only willingly make the choice to ignore ultra stressful urgent tasks to focus on seemingly selfish tasks like hitting the gym, but to also see that choice as a literal investment in your future and your literal current mental stability. Most people would engage in these tasks feeling that they are wasting their time and that perspective in many cases makes the problem worse. A mindset shift sounds too simple and stupid to work, but it's the extreme opposite. It's very hard to shift your mindset to thinking like this because at first you are just deluding yourself into thinking that doing these tasks will help you. Facts most of the time aren't enough to force this mindset shift. However, eventually after sometime engaging in these activities, you do see the benefits and not the self delusion and at that point, the shift is done because now you'll understand how and why from an anecdotal level you can actually take an urgent task, completely ignore it and willingly engage in selfish activities and not feel stressed about it.

[@DragonBallDynamic]

I’ve been struggling with motivation for ages. I’ve always thought discipline was the key, but I keep feeling burned out doing lots of things for the day by traying to get it done! 🚀 This video is exactly what I needed. Time to put these tips into action! 💪”

[@Vex7eX]

Thank you for teaching me how to get better in life

[@GrindingMindPodcast]

In a world where motivation falters, a detailed plan of action is the most important key to stay productive. Abandon hesitation, act now and stay active for as long as it takes to be more productive. You possess the strength to conquer all challenges. Rise and seize your future!

[@mahirozsut22]

I have been really bad with motivation and discipline for the last few days. I almost can't enjoy life, I always want to lie down and rest. but I know very well that I have to fix this. these days I feel more and more that it is time to stop this. with your help I know I will overcome this process.

[@the_panos]

All your advice is excellent but I'm not sure how anyone gets through your videos without being distracted. Even your mispronunciations are attractive and endearing.

[@sadkebab]

A metaphor I started using to define my productivity is a wave you want to surf whose height and duration will depend on many physical, emotional, and environmental factors. Every day is a different ride. You can't surf for more than the wave will allow, and the more you ride, the better your balance will be. And some days you may need to go to a different beach to find a decent wave.

[@Kyouma.]

It's actually very simple. Do what you enjoy and care about. Then you won't even question whether you do it or not. You just do it

[@GeeGe.]

I don't think you're wrong, but speaking for myself, I've always struggled to find something I "enjoy and care about" in order to be productive about it. The things I actually care about are really simple and don't really follow the "grindset" mentality. Things like spending time with my friends, feeling at peace in general, showing animals love, playing games. I also feel somewhat strongly about healthy living so I do care about eating well and exercising, which I feel is pretty much the only thing I can be really "productive" about lol

[@darthwater999]

Ruri, your videos helped me in the past, but after a while, I went back to being such a screw-up. I'm already sure this one will help me too because you're so good at what you do. I've just watched the intro, and it's exactly me. Now I'll watch the rest. Thank you.

[@Doodlefisher]

Multi tasking 10:39 is counterproductive. I see the need for visual reminders!

[@SirenCityAngel]

Heard somewhere that motivation is a formula.. having said that and going with that, noones ganna move themselves if the work is torture and ends up hurting you mentality physically and spiritually ~

[@iamDiegoVgs]

i'm very hypped for each of your main channel vids, but damn i became HYPED for your secondary hehe

[@FrostKing104]

Is this the main or secondary channel? What's the other one?

[@iamDiegoVgs]

@@FrostKing104 her second channel is "Ruri therapy" and she started it about 1à days ago. It's unedited content, a little as a diary. It's very good :)

[@iamDiegoVgs]

@@FrostKing104 her secondary channel is "Ruri therapy", it's raw footage, almost like a diary. Very relaxing. Recommend 100%

[@FrostKing104]

@@iamDiegoVgs thanks!

[@mntalaohu]

Thank you so much, i feel you really, seriously. In the same situation right now, dealing with self-doubt, the paralysis, and the procrastination, hope to do the gamify thing 🙏

[@vascobroma8907]

First 35 seconds of this video are a biography of my life. I'm going to give these tips a try. Thanks.

[@ElReyCondoy]

It's ok, I used to apply perfection just to discover that nothing is perfect. Anyway thank you for the advice, I'm really appreciated!

[@cecile9026]

Thank you Ruri for this new video. Most of the time, I struggled with too many things to do and it get me anxious. But I found working in an other place like a coffee shop help me with that.

[@RallyPointYT]

Clicking on this while avoiding doing absolutely anything I know I need to do, just scrolling through youtube for the sake of it barely even clicking on videos lol

[@Shincerely]

I think that your last advice is similar to advices of Ali abdaal. It is very helpful for me. I made my tasks gamified and I am accomplishing more things than before. Thank you Ruri this video too.

[@EmmaruFenikkusu]

I'm glad I found your Channel you're certainly an inspiration.

[@axp.1652]

This video came to me at a time when I wanted to pressure myself to work Thank you very much

[@SixCoreSecond]

the hardest way with the best result is the realization that you're in control of your mind. so if you want to, you can chose to be productive and not lazy. It's hard to mentalize and even harder to trigger for it to take effect properly. But once you do, it's like a nuke for your mind.

[@AwwesomeVal]

I wasn't expecting to find a potential solution to being overwhelmed when I clicked on this video. I am overwhelmed constantly. If braindumping can help eliminate overwhelm, I need to try doing this more than just before bed. Earlier in the day likely would be very helpful.

[@renejmartins]

Ruri, I can’t thank you enough for this video! You made my day! 😃

[@zzkkoowwaaww9952]

Helllo hru. It's good to see you again! Thanks alot for making videos for us!!❤

[@DanielDZEM]

This girl look like Billie Elish that's why I like her too much. Calm voice and calm attitude.

[@crazypingping]

Thanks Ruri! I struggle with this a lot. I'll be sure to try this and see how it goes

[@jamesl1806]

These are great. I will be sharing this! Please interview my wife and I on what it's like to continue to be productive whilst married with 4 ADHD children under 10 for your next video on this!

[@TheAmro003]

Take action first, motivation follows! 💪🚀 Stop waiting for the perfect moment and just start. You'll be amazed how quickly your drive kicks in once you're actually doing the thing.

[@teekay3747]

You release this video when I am telling myself I have to organise my life. Lets see how this works

[@GenZ-Inspire-hub]

I am not able to make u understand how much time I tried to reach ur channel but I don't 😢😢😢but unexpectedly I got u again. I am so glad now😊😊. I love ur videos lots. I wanna make like u....

[@HaydenHatTrick]

Opens video: "I struggle with motivation a lot" Me: Subscribes in under 5 seconds. The sheer confidence!

[@AkiiVT]

I feel like the video is more about prioritising tasks than about how to get the work done when you feel lazy

[@Kevin-w2c8i]

I just found her channel today. She's smart, beautiful, and has good ideas that make sense to me. Me subscribed 😊!

[@Trrondee]

After i found out that i am a perfectionist. I still struggle, but have an easier time to overcome it. figuring out a reason, instead of treating the symptom is a very good idea, no matter what you are dealing with :)

[@idleeidolon]

Making yourself do anything you'd rather not, however the methodology, is the definition of discipline.

[@xmelsky]

Own community? Good point in term of evolving your own business model. Teaching/coaching people always makes a good income 😉

[@AtharhusainSaiyed]

I attract by your beauty and mesmerize by your voice,presentation and body language

[@juanbenavidesj]

As I told you before Ruri, "you must have motivation but not depend on it." In addition, also leave you some phrases: "Without discipline you cannot reach your full potential" "Discipline reaches where motivation does not reach" "Motivation is ephemeral and it is difficult to control" Well, the point is that you achieve motivation when you accomplish your tasks and objectives, always little by little, otherwise you exhaust yourself. 👍👍

[@Jennyluuuu]

You’ve gotten so comfortable and good at KZbin that I feel like you’re talking to a friend on the other side of the screen rather than making a KZbin video. I love minute 4:40 when you start showing your gainz from the gym 😂

[@ruriohama]

I didn’t even script this video😂

[@Jennyluuuu]

@@ruriohamathat’s even more awesome! I don’t know how you did that. I started my KZbin channel a few months ago and you have been a huge inspiration. Keep it up!! 👍

[@dasc0yne]

I just arrived in Shinjuku for vacation this afternoon and randomly crossed paths with you in the street. I didn’t say anything, but I hope you’re having a good day!

[@simonkjaerpedersen4167]

Lol i've discovered the same method within a semester of studying, but works very nicely. On top of this i make tight deadlines with my group as the group leader, so that we will work ahead and reduce the overall stress of the task.

[@Christian-ve4bs]

Ruri is a god tier KZbinr

[@PinoyITGuide]

Oh my God, Accidentally stumbled this video. And i really am like how you described it in the beginning. It is a good feeling to know there are people like me :D

[@pasanDsamarasinghe]

self reflection is the motivation itself ☺

[@AhadKhan-sy3ys]

Ruri Ma'am, u r very much fit, I have watched your video for the time I am a student live in India prepare for entrance and i real struggled with managing my time and by watching ur video I think i got the idea its the best thing u said that neither motivation nor discipline can help as discipline cause burn someday. Thank you for making such a helpful video. Plz share with us how u do u reflect back. ❤❤❤

[@xewi60]

you can try all the tricks you want i believe laziness is a sin and only prayer can fully free us from it “Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.” Matthew 26:41

[@T_Civ]

Ruri, you seem happier than in the previous vids. It’s good to see that!

[@oceansuk]

For those with ADHD that don't know how to focus on a 13-minute video, here's a 10-point summary of the main ideas from the video transcript: - The speaker struggled with motivation and found traditional productivity methods ineffective. - She emphasizes understanding the underlying reasons for lack of motivation, rather than trying every productivity tip. - Common reasons for motivation struggles include lack of clarity, feeling overwhelmed, feeling unfulfilled, burnout, and lack of system. - The speaker recommends starting with a brain dump to clear your mind and gain clarity. - She suggests using the Eisenhower Matrix to prioritize tasks based on importance and urgency. - Choosing a daily focus that aligns with long-term goals is crucial for feeling fulfilled. - The method involves listing 10 tasks, then eliminating 5 to focus on the most important ones. - Tracking progress daily and reflecting on what went well and what could be improved is essential. - The approach aims to reduce reliance on motivation and discipline by creating a system and increasing self-awareness. - The speaker emphasizes adapting to personal situations and understanding that motivation fluctuates, rather than pushing oneself constantly.

[@mansoor3159]

Ruri I've been waiting for this video and I really really love all your recent videos so so much✨😀💕

[@qupufu]

I'd recommend everyone try a lot of these things with a physical notebook. I've personally found that a lot of technology being designed to be distracting doesn't help me too much..

[@qupufu]

also not to mention I just find physically writing things down to be more enjoyable, memorable, and easier

[@boyfanplaceswift1886]

2:25 1. Brain dump - eliminasi - tulis semua idea dan agenda 2.

[@boyfanplaceswift1886]

2. Filter - 10 agenda yang harus diselesaikan hari itu

[@boyfanplaceswift1886]

10:00 white board di tempat yang selalu dilihat

[@Today_or_not]

The shirt with the word unfocused, It is great for expressing the episode. I like all the episodes and I started with ADHD episodes 👏🏻😃 great effort 💛⭐ wonderful results

[@donya3540]

This was so helpful :) Getting reminded about things don't always go well and you just need to focus on the most important things was refreshing. Subscribed! 😚

[@BlackenedDecay]

I think my biggest issue is that I don't know what I want to focus on because there's so many things that I want to do.

[@suzannehill2111]

Your skin looks amazing. May I please ask what foundation you're wearing?

[@LoLumpa]

I wish you all the happiness and to pursue your dreams, every day is a new day and don’t blame yourself for what you didn’t do, it’s never to late. ☺️

[@Vikoboi]

happy to see you ruri! appreciate the content! take care and much love!

[@chokoprty]

This video is actually pretty good. Don’t judge a book by its cover

[@2rx_bni]

There's so much negativity in the comments but this is really useful info, Ruri! I always enjoy your perspective. That community guide sounds awesome!

[@rrhorner79]

Time management is a big thing for me. Not the lack of it mind you. I see others where this is such a challenge. Maybe it's what the priorities items or people are.

[@ichigooo7746]

For real, I only watch your videos because you look cool and the thumbnails look promising, they never disappoint though.

[@ursra]

I’m curious about the keyboard on her desk (0:25). Anyone know what brand that is?

[@tifosiye]

It looks like a Charybdis keyboard, but I don’t remember if these come in clear chassis or not. If you google “tented split ergonomics keyboard with trackball”, you might find something similar