How I Make Myself Work When I’m Lazy (it’s not discipline)

[@ruriohama]

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[@norberto6005]

its very strange.. how we r the same.. we live 10.000miles away... have very different lives.. but still.. :) its like I know u... why arent there more girls like u? :) or am I just looking at the wrong places? hmm.. maybe... anyways great video again Ruri... U made me get out of bed.. :D and that's a start.. cheers luv..

[@rezayaseri2790]

❤❤❤❤

[@juanbenavidesj]

Of course I join the community. Discipline and motivation; we deal with this every day!

[@obinator9065]

Let's get to _tweaking_

[@Mr.Gibo.1]

❤

[@sauravwastaken]

These two things gives so much space ( or relief ) to get things done 1. Never skip 2 days in a row 2. Top 3 task + Focus task

[@MisterMevs]

What’s the difference between a top 3 task and a focus task?

[@sauravwastaken]

@@MisterMevs For ex: If you finish top 3 ( non sense tasks ) that does not mean you had a productive day. You must include a focus task. It is top 3 tasks with a focus task ( included )

[@kaltziferYT]

1. Duolingo approves.

[@mrj1299]

@@sauravwastaken And what is a focus task my friend?

[@dantenicolasocrates]

​​@@mrj1299 She said it in the video: a task that helps you in the long or short run to fully one of your goals. If you want to learn other languages, then it may be that. If you are learning some skill, it can be this. If you just want to beat a record in a game, why not? She talked about spending only 20 minutes, or something like that, so maybe she thinks of this as something that can be intimidating/boring/hard but need for your goal and the short time helps you to do it.

[@TylerMiz]

"You don't need Motivation to do something, you just need to take action on it to get Motivation!"

[@marcellszigeti-benedek25]

That's powerful

[@RoberChaimberlian]

That's the real key.

[@IstyManame]

yea nah my brain does not agree

[@mrj1299]

but dont you also need motivation to start in the first place?

[@ericfalley]

I think the key here is that action happens when motivation is greater than resistance. We often have some level of motivation whether we start a task or not, but sometimes the resistance is greater than the motivation so we don't start. The wisdom in this quote is that taking action often removes a lot of the resistance that exists at the start of a task, so instead of waiting for motivation to randomly increase, we can trust that once we start some of the resistance will go away and motivation might then be greater than the resistance, allowing us to continue with the task without requiring huge amounts of willpower. Am I good at following this wisdom? Not really. :P

[@NoahNCopeland]

review cheatsheet after you've watched: 1. brain dump immediately (with a deadline!) 2. filter your brain dump, pick 10 tasks and prioritize (Eisenhower Matrix) 3. pick focus for the day 4. eliminate 5 of your tasks from earlier 5. reflect, at the end of each day,. check if you did your top 3 tasks or not 6. feedback, write in one sentence what was good/bad

[@jakelindsay522]

You’re AMAZING

[@Lilly-m1d]

Ty, I came back to this video to make notes so this is extremely helpful ❤

[@JohnM...]

I would add something people like Mel Robbins and James Clear (Atomic habits) say: do the most annoying or complex things FIRST.

[@jeriheggie]

@@JohnM... actually it can be super helpful to do an easy task or two to help build your momentum and then hit the big green frog 🐸 task and follow it up with a fun task you enjoy

[@asmaaaitbenabderrahman5262]

Thank you!!!!

[@CraigoZ21]

Currently working on my master thesis. As soon as I start the flow and motivation comes itself. So for me doing a task is never the problem. Starting is.

[@vtofu26]

oh my god, watching this to find that sparks of starting my thesis too, my friend. as soon as i start its just goes on and on. starting is really a problem :( hope you doing well on your masters!

[@rasmusturkka480]

Currently working on a medical treatment that cures every type of cancer and makes you healthier than ancient hunter gatherer tribes stuffing their face with berries and meat while hugging and stroking their friends. For me being a genius isn't a problem, others being idiots is

[@DeaBroggn]

An idea for that problem is to just plan on doing only 5min of work on it. 5min are over really fast, so the barrier to start is low. But when you have already started, continuing is easy in comparison :) Doesn't always work but often enough.

[@thomasko0947]

@@DeaBroggn Well this trick doesn't work in my Mind. If I tell myself "Only 5 mins", my mind knows exactly that its going to be way more, and I get demotivated

[@avhakazi3621]

More people need to see this video; it's made me realize why I don't struggle to work but struggle to feel fulfilled. Thank you.

[@DR-Phantom]

I'm currently working on my master's dissertation. An unusual way i overcome resistance is by reminding myself of the limited time i have in this world. There's a saying along the lines of "You are nothing but a number of days, whenever each day passes then part of you has gone." Another powerful one "Leaving things until later deprives you of the very experiences you need to grow" Constantly reminding myself of this helps put things into perspective and focus on the things that really matter in life. Hope this benefits whoever reads this.

[@zaidyunis9240]

Well said

[@Sage.Movies]

"You need to move first because motivation is made when action is already been done"

[@Z5Z5Z5]

Something about you is so powerful. either you have great posture, you practiced professional speaking, you are confident or you have a really high view of youself wow. I barely see people who carry themselves like this

[@Tamko_Music]

Beyond all the things I had already knew before watching this video, the part with reflecting on what went wrong today, was the most helpful for me. Thank you.

[@ziyaerel2015]

She is very good at to inspire people! The way she does it, is so special…She’s not acting, she is as natural as how she is! Among a lot of fake people in the KZbin world, Ruri makes a big difference…

[@SrKinko]

For everyone wondering what keyboard that is, i believe it to be a Keyball39. There seems to be different versions depending on how many keys you want: Keyball44, Keyball61, etc.

[@Occultus947]

You are amazing, thank you

[@meytallara]

THANK YOU! I JUST POSTER A COMMENT ASKING FOR IT AND ALL I NEEDED WAS TO SCROLL FURTHER DOWN.... TO FIND YOU.

[@trevcessna1723]

Good advice, I’m ADD and when overwhelmed by the quality of tasks, I just grab one and get it done regardless of importance. I have accomplished something and now pick a really important task, boom! You are wonderful Ruri!❤️

[@Orakse]

It’s so amazing to see how far you have come and how much you have improved over the years.

[@temjim]

Key points include: 1. Understanding the Root Cause: Importance of identifying the underlying reasons for a lack of motivation and procrastination. They liken it to getting a proper diagnosis before taking medication. 2. Common Causes of Motivation Struggles: Outline several common reasons for struggling with motivation, such as lack of clarity, feeling overwhelmed, feeling unfulfilled, burnout, and lack of a proper system. 3. Brain Dump Technique: Starting the day with a brain dump to clear the mind of all tasks and thoughts, which helps reduce feelings of overwhelm. 4. Prioritization: Using the Eisenhower Matrix, tasks are categorized into urgent and important, important but not urgent, urgent but not important, and neither urgent nor important. This helps prioritize tasks effectively. 5. Focus of the Day: Picking one main task each day that aligns with long-term goals, dedicating at least 20 minutes to it. 6. Elimination of Non-Essential Tasks: From the initial list of tasks, eliminate five to focus on the most critical ones. This helps manage workload and avoid burnout. 7. Daily Tracking and Reflection: At the end of each day, review the tasks completed and reflect on what went well and what could be improved. This reflection helps in adapting and improving productivity methods over time. 8. Adapting and Adjusting: Importance of being flexible and adjusting methods based on what works best for the individual.

[@AlexiaArdelean]

Thank you for sharing this method. I’ve been always struggled to get things done and lost my motivation especially when I feel that my life is nothing else than problem solving everyday and I don’t have energy left to do creative things. Also, I was surprised to see Nischa in your video. She’s one of my superhero for finances. 😊

[@ozaneylul]

You always come with videos when i need it, it is a message from universe, i need to pay attention to it i guess. Thanks a lot, Rurii.

[@foxy2348]

your inner conflicts and feeling of Ego are probably the cause. So finding motivation is a long process of and a journey inwards. Therapy, meditation, and looking at yourself is the key. Action comes Before Motivation.

[@polishedandpoisedplanner]

When I am overwhelmed, I lose my motivation and then I feel so far behind and then it turns into a cycle.

[@stevecarter8810]

Ditto. Then when it's properly an emergency it gets easier but it's often too late.

[@tracy4168]

Same, only under pressure i can work efficiently

[@brettinabox5607]

Try breaking your task/goal down into more simple tasks so that they can be digestible.

[@stevecarter8810]

@@brettinabox5607 if you have a spicy brain then this is another task, as it's prioritising when and whether to do this. Two more tasks for the overwhelm.

[@DarkSoul-pp7sn]

Let's be honest, Ruri's always relatable. She makes problems much easier 🖤

[@juanplascencia3097]

4:50 @Ruriohama Yoooo, Ruri is JACKED!! 💪💪

[@talonmccauley5445]

I love how simple this is to implement into my everyday life, I've been feeling stuck for a long time and felt I was missing pieces. I'm going to come back and rewatch this and make the effort to implement and stick with this.

[@Sadtiric]

I appreciate that this is relatively low effort to implement and make actionable. I've been stuck for a really long time, as long as I can remember, and this brings me hope. 💚

[@PhilipzPhilipze]

I don't care what your content are,What I care is watching you, almost all of your vedeos.Thank you.

[@CheeseCake5990]

This video made me feel so seen. I have felt alone in my struggles. Thank you for sharing about your struggles in this video. It makes me feel inspired to try the solutions you suggest, like I can trust that maybe they will work for me.

[@psychegev]

the way you were so humble about your physical health although you're visibly thriving

[@Chan-cm9do]

Metinleri kameranızla çevirin You are like a miracle. Whenever I think about some subject or search for something, you share about that subject as if you are reading my mind. I love you Ruri and wish you continued success.

[@zehragokce2131]

I turned your channel after the three huge years and you still like and put heart on every comments. You are a real youtuber ❤

[@countdown.moments]

Kaizen has done wonders for me. Tiny habits are an incredible tool to achieve anything. Best regards

[@kageoftheflame]

Ruri out here healing the world 🌍

[@dronicx7974]

I agree so much with setting time for life building tasks. You have to learn to not only willingly make the choice to ignore ultra stressful urgent tasks to focus on seemingly selfish tasks like hitting the gym, but to also see that choice as a literal investment in your future and your literal current mental stability. Most people would engage in these tasks feeling that they are wasting their time and that perspective in many cases makes the problem worse. A mindset shift sounds too simple and stupid to work, but it's the extreme opposite. It's very hard to shift your mindset to thinking like this because at first you are just deluding yourself into thinking that doing these tasks will help you. Facts most of the time aren't enough to force this mindset shift. However, eventually after sometime engaging in these activities, you do see the benefits and not the self delusion and at that point, the shift is done because now you'll understand how and why from an anecdotal level you can actually take an urgent task, completely ignore it and willingly engage in selfish activities and not feel stressed about it.

[@hadagar]

I skip a couple of videos... and now you look so strong 💪 I start working out like 7 months ago, your videos really help me

[@InformativePicks]

There is something special about your videos; they make me watch whenever your new ones come out!

[@ursra]

I’m curious about the keyboard on her desk (0:25). Anyone know what brand that is?

[@tifosiye]

It looks like a Charybdis keyboard, but I don’t remember if these come in clear chassis or not. If you google “tented split ergonomics keyboard with trackball”, you might find something similar

[@Christian-ve4bs]

Ruri is a god tier KZbinr

[@SamuraiPixXel]

Motivation just comes and goes , so just stick to consistency , each day , then each week , then each month , it all start with the right mindset , if you dont't get the right mindset , rewire yourself again , start over

[@DynamicDragonYT]

I’ve been struggling with motivation for ages. I’ve always thought discipline was the key, but I keep feeling burned out doing lots of things for the day by traying to get it done! 🚀 This video is exactly what I needed. Time to put these tips into action! 💪”

[@n.hemavathi3451]

I have struggled with this problem and i watched your video at the right. i have gained some ideas from your. I easily feel demotivated in my work. I had followed tips, but they didn't work for me. Thanks for your help.

[@iamDiegoVgs]

i'm very hypped for each of your main channel vids, but damn i became HYPED for your secondary hehe

[@FrostKing104]

Is this the main or secondary channel? What's the other one?

[@iamDiegoVgs]

@@FrostKing104 her second channel is "Ruri therapy" and she started it about 1à days ago. It's unedited content, a little as a diary. It's very good :)

[@iamDiegoVgs]

@@FrostKing104 her secondary channel is "Ruri therapy", it's raw footage, almost like a diary. Very relaxing. Recommend 100%

[@FrostKing104]

@@iamDiegoVgs thanks!

[@saantQ]

This wideo got me just in time, I've been strugglin with my thesis, personal and work stuff and was so overwhelmed by everything that I did nothing through the days and fell bad about it, thank you

[@egesoysal]

Trial and error is one of the best methods. Thank you Beril for sharing your experience with us. :) :)

[@pr4360]

Braindump is a great start. Tip about prioritising - do what you want to do least first, this solves the problems of tomorrow today. It's how i wrote my PhD thesis. Excellent point about fulfilling yourself!

[@mntalaohu]

Thank you so much, i feel you really, seriously. In the same situation right now, dealing with self-doubt, the paralysis, and the procrastination, hope to do the gamify thing 🙏

[@2rx_bni]

There's so much negativity in the comments but this is really useful info, Ruri! I always enjoy your perspective. That community guide sounds awesome!

[@Doodlefisher]

Multi tasking 10:39 is counterproductive. I see the need for visual reminders!

[@cecile9026]

Thank you Ruri for this new video. Most of the time, I struggled with too many things to do and it get me anxious. But I found working in an other place like a coffee shop help me with that.

[@EmmaruFenikkusu]

I'm glad I found your Channel you're certainly an inspiration.

[@AhadKhan-sy3ys]

Ruri Ma'am, u r very much fit, I have watched your video for the time I am a student live in India prepare for entrance and i real struggled with managing my time and by watching ur video I think i got the idea its the best thing u said that neither motivation nor discipline can help as discipline cause burn someday. Thank you for making such a helpful video. Plz share with us how u do u reflect back. ❤❤❤

[@zzkkoowwaaww9952]

Helllo hru. It's good to see you again! Thanks alot for making videos for us!!❤

[@Vex7eX]

Thank you for teaching me how to get better in life

[@Shincerely]

I think that your last advice is similar to advices of Ali abdaal. It is very helpful for me. I made my tasks gamified and I am accomplishing more things than before. Thank you Ruri this video too.

[@darthwater999]

Ruri, your videos helped me in the past, but after a while, I went back to being such a screw-up. I'm already sure this one will help me too because you're so good at what you do. I've just watched the intro, and it's exactly me. Now I'll watch the rest. Thank you.

[@renejmartins]

Ruri, I can’t thank you enough for this video! You made my day! 😃

[@donya3540]

This was so helpful :) Getting reminded about things don't always go well and you just need to focus on the most important things was refreshing. Subscribed! 😚

[@RallyPointYT]

Clicking on this while avoiding doing absolutely anything I know I need to do, just scrolling through youtube for the sake of it barely even clicking on videos lol

[@Kevin-w2c8i]

I just found her channel today. She's smart, beautiful, and has good ideas that make sense to me. Me subscribed 😊!

[@sadkebab]

A metaphor I started using to define my productivity is a wave you want to surf whose height and duration will depend on many physical, emotional, and environmental factors. Every day is a different ride. You can't surf for more than the wave will allow, and the more you ride, the better your balance will be. And some days you may need to go to a different beach to find a decent wave.

[@mahirozsut22]

I have been really bad with motivation and discipline for the last few days. I almost can't enjoy life, I always want to lie down and rest. but I know very well that I have to fix this. these days I feel more and more that it is time to stop this. with your help I know I will overcome this process.

[@HaydenHatTrick]

Opens video: "I struggle with motivation a lot" Me: Subscribes in under 5 seconds. The sheer confidence!

[@Today_or_not]

The shirt with the word unfocused, It is great for expressing the episode. I like all the episodes and I started with ADHD episodes 👏🏻😃 great effort 💛⭐ wonderful results

[@soulomanroadtripgo9035]

You are such a phenomenal person! I am in awe of you ❤

[@PinoyITGuide]

Oh my God, Accidentally stumbled this video. And i really am like how you described it in the beginning. It is a good feeling to know there are people like me :D

[@jonathanp___________3606]

I love this. I've had very similar struggles, and I like the way this method embraces imperfection (eliminate 5 things you actually planned to do, etc.). It makes it seem more realistic--and robust. I plan to try it out. Quick note about feedback. I recommend writing it down or recording it somewhere you can come back and review. (Even if, for you, like for me, holding it all in your head is easier, eventually your brain will streamline those memory banks enough you'll probably start to forget.) And, if something has worked for you at one time, and then not worked at another, I recommend revisiting it from time to time, so you can uncover when it works for you and when it doesn't. I tried doing this in my head for many years. Eventually, after about 7 years, I had had enough bad days that I'd eliminated everything that had once helped. I felt helpless, and I suffered years of burnout. That's why I recommend recording what went well somewhere besides your brain, so you don't have to remember it, and so you can go back over it when you're low on options and try things that work well for you most of the time, even if they aren't perfect--because what is really perfect?

[@Zenith-d3s]

if you want to go deeper into the rabbit hole, 'Unveiling Your Hidden Potential' by Bruce Thornwood

[@LinkEX]

let it be known that this comment has likely been posted by a bot. the exact same comment has been posted on various other productivity videos. looking it up leads to a website with big promises on the book, but I didn't find anything about this author otherwise.

[@stanijev]

@@LinkEX i bought a book, seems fine to me

[@sportlams]

@@LinkEX maybe instead of watching all those videos you do something for a change bro

[@LinkEX]

@@sportlams I'm on it, lol. But I'll also try to prevent people from spending money on productivity porn that's advertised with shady means. The other video where I first saw this is right in the related videos, with the Matrix reference the comment alludes to being right in the thumbnail.

[@zemenos]

someone knows what's the keyboard model at 0:24?

[@asif.mubassir]

01:39 - Brain Dump 02:53 - Filter 05:04 - Q1-Q4 05:27 - Focus of the Day 05:51 - All or Nothing Attitude (20 Mins/Day) 08:22 - Eliminate 5 Tasks 09:23 - Reflect 10:47 - Feedback

[@mansoor3159]

Ruri I've been waiting for this video and I really really love all your recent videos so so much✨😀💕

[@crazypingping]

Thanks Ruri! I struggle with this a lot. I'll be sure to try this and see how it goes

[@vascobroma8907]

First 35 seconds of this video are a biography of my life. I'm going to give these tips a try. Thanks.

[@Vikoboi]

happy to see you ruri! appreciate the content! take care and much love!

[@Jennyluuuu]

You’ve gotten so comfortable and good at KZbin that I feel like you’re talking to a friend on the other side of the screen rather than making a KZbin video. I love minute 4:40 when you start showing your gainz from the gym 😂

[@ruriohama]

I didn’t even script this video😂

[@Jennyluuuu]

@@ruriohamathat’s even more awesome! I don’t know how you did that. I started my KZbin channel a few months ago and you have been a huge inspiration. Keep it up!! 👍

[@GenZ-Inspire-hub]

I am not able to make u understand how much time I tried to reach ur channel but I don't 😢😢😢but unexpectedly I got u again. I am so glad now😊😊. I love ur videos lots. I wanna make like u....

[@prescottosegie]

Ruri i appreciate the gems 💎 on your channel I definitely took notes 📒 keep up the good work im proud of you 😎💪 I pray that you are having a good week be safe🙏

[@SirenCityAngel]

Heard somewhere that motivation is a formula.. having said that and going with that, noones ganna move themselves if the work is torture and ends up hurting you mentality physically and spiritually ~

[@TinaCentaurides]

God Like thumbnails just like always 🔥 Super informative video thanks BIG RURI ❤

[@T_Civ]

Ruri, you seem happier than in the previous vids. It’s good to see that!

[@RuxshonaRoziqova-z4b]

I love you Ruhi you are the best influencer.l am gonna learning prioritizing❤❤❤😊

[@Shin-777]

Very useful info thanks Ruri!

[@argarok]

@2:15 Would love to know what this ergo keyboard is and your experience!

[@itisciprian]

Kaizen is also a way of life for me . Starting organising tasks with notion and nvim and getting pass to nvim and obsidian for productivity in one collaborative space. Btw your split key keyboard it is amazing what is it? On the go I make tasks wit to do ist on the watch or on the phone and fill all in until the day it is over. Take care and keep it up. Peace out and hugs.

[@SavageQueen-e3z]

Thank u so much. I'll put it into good use.😊

[@fogcat5]

great video! but I'm very distracted by the cool keyboard with trackball mouse :) 2:14

[@TheAmro003]

Take action first, motivation follows! 💪🚀 Stop waiting for the perfect moment and just start. You'll be amazed how quickly your drive kicks in once you're actually doing the thing.

[@imfinetysm]

When someone ask me what's the best video on KZbin:

[@ichigooo7746]

For real, I only watch your videos because you look cool and the thumbnails look promising, they never disappoint though.

[@GrindingMindPodcast]

In a world where motivation falters, a detailed plan of action is the most important key to stay productive. Abandon hesitation, act now and stay active for as long as it takes to be more productive. You possess the strength to conquer all challenges. Rise and seize your future!

[@ElReyCondoy]

It's ok, I used to apply perfection just to discover that nothing is perfect. Anyway thank you for the advice, I'm really appreciated!

[@samhoratio]

This is a brilliant and manageable method. Thank you!

[@pasanDsamarasinghe]

self reflection is the motivation itself ☺

[@AtharhusainSaiyed]

I attract by your beauty and mesmerize by your voice,presentation and body language

[@riyadriyad2816]

8:00 The word written on the T-shirt is very beautiful. Where did you buy it?

[@perry.playss]

5:37 is that nischa ( the investment banker)?

[@ghu_makkar_saurabh]

Yes correct

[@LivingBestLife]

Amazing, I use these methodologies in my productivity coaching too. One thing that really helps to prioritize is a question based on one thing model book that I love asking - What is one thing that you could do such that by doing it everything else will be easier or unnecessary?

[@xmelsky]

Own community? Good point in term of evolving your own business model. Teaching/coaching people always makes a good income 😉

[@XandeR1800]

I'm confused - how do we know what to eliminate? And say we have certain tasks that we do on a daily basis (which is the majority of the tasks I've listed). That's X number of tasks out of 5 that are already predetermined, meaning that a lot of other tasks will always be eliminated

[@niginarinatova2833]

the most needed video to me , on time , thanks a lot

[@officialtimothyphoenix]

The IBNU method, nice. (Important but not urgent). I like breaking that into quadrants and putting the task in each one. I struggle with that same issue of feeling like everything is Important even when they are not Urgent or sometimes even important. One of those ADHD problems for sure. 😊

[@suzannehill2111]

Your skin looks amazing. May I please ask what foundation you're wearing?

[@axp.1652]

This video came to me at a time when I wanted to pressure myself to work Thank you very much

[@jamesl1806]

These are great. I will be sharing this! Please interview my wife and I on what it's like to continue to be productive whilst married with 4 ADHD children under 10 for your next video on this!