How I Stopped Comparing Myself to Others

"How to stop comparing yourself" is a big topic, one that I could make several videos about. Let me know if you'd like more in-depth videos on this topic.
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[@LanaBlakely]

“Why can’t you be more like ravioli?” “I’m creamy penne. And while I can improve my recipe, I’ll never be ravioli.” - Lana Blakely. :-)

[@Charlie-Charlot]

And now I want to eat pasta so bad, thank you Lana 😩

[@mmoarchives2542]

are you coming on to me?

[@Lordbeerus101]

Everyone loves you

[@dorahegedus6088]

I am going to put this quote on my vision board!! Thank you

[@Lordbeerus101]

Lana is so beautiful to everyone

[@ecomyazan]

The reality is you can't truly compare yourself to others, because when you do it, you're not actually comparing yourself to others, but you're comparing your behind-the-scenes to someone's highlight reel.

[@shafshaf2522]

Such a underrated comment 🤟

[@user-vb3kn6ur3s]

That's true but just for experiences and that type of things, not for your physic

[@aileenvillalta5322]

Period

[@coolstoolgames8374]

Truth

[@nadya9947]

What if you know someone’s behind-the-scenes and it’s actually better than yours? 🚶‍♀️

[@smile-uy7mt]

Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.

[@LanaBlakely]

One of my favourite quotes!

[@flow6014]

- jordan peterson

[@andy_holbrook]

Main man JP

[@maxsh545]

This is so true♥

[@wolfgangclark5603]

that is true but i also think that competitive thinking makes us improve a lot.

[@tshiamotaje]

“The reason you started comparing is because someone else decided to compare you first” 💘😭 That hit home!

[@laurensthoughts6920]

@Helga Z Aww no! Being fat is soo cute 🥺❤ maybe he couldn't see it.

[@adnanhowlader143]

@@laurensthoughts6920 Being fat is unhealthy and prone to many diseases, not cute lol

[@arpitshivhare217]

@@adnanhowlader143 luli

[@RawMindBody]

Story of my life. I am still damaged by it....and I hate that their voice is in my head.

[@maiapickup1277]

@@adnanhowlader143 in kindergarten, it’s cute.

[@atsuyak768]

sometimes I feel like I intentionally add toxicity when I go look at certain accounts on Instagram. It's like an addictive feeling mixed with curiosity despite knowing I end up feeling crappy about myself in the end.

[@DesignzRUs1]

SAME.

[@MajorElementFilms]

Can definitely relate. It reminds me of masochistic epistemology - "whatever hurts, must be true." (gotta love ContraPoints

[@fiftyzanes]

SAME!!

[@parkjoytea6362]

the way this is so true

[@k8h991]

ME TOO

[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“If they don’t like you for being yourself, be yourself even more.” --Taylor Swift

[@sara-antoniabogdan939]

@Joshua D at least her music is good (for me)

[@2PLUS2FIVE]

stop spamming are you indian i have seen you in many videos including that of dhruv rathee if your content has power it will go ahead no need to spam everyone u are making ppl hate you

[@asifhashmat4529]

I came here cos I compare my life to Taylor’s a lot

[@anayansi_iris]

@@2PLUS2FIVE Who are you replying to, and why are you asking them if they're indian in a way to suggest that only indians spam? Everyone can spam comments. I'd choose better wording next time for the sake of clarity, if this wasn't your original line of thinking.

[@2PLUS2FIVE]

@@anayansi_iris whoa that escalated quickly i asked if he is Indian 'coz i have seen him spamming in DHruv Rathee's comment section from the beginning that's besides i have no intention of being a racist that too particularly to the ethnicity i belong

[@annarosalyn7372]

The best thing I did was unfollow anyone on social media that made me feel like shit. Now, I only follow accounts that inspire me or people I care about. Truly life changing!

[@LanaBlakely]

Me too! The occasional social media purge is very satisfying.

[@mysteriousm3297]

same

[@colleenwynia]

Omg I totally hear you! I just posted a new video on exactly that.. comparing yourself to others and the negative impact like when I look at social media. Love your suggest to unfollow and revisit who you follow to feel good

[@g.a609]

I want to do this but i can't 😑

[@knal7732]

same and i even delete all my followers

[@nourelhouda2908]

« You cannot compare a page or two from someone’s book to you entire book and call it fair » i love your way of explaining things

[@missrelaxed3872]

Exactly ! Love these words

[@saba4495]

Yes, I replayed that part of the video

[@heyitsme4322]

THISSS

[@IlonaBrant]

As a person, who had been bullied for being chubby, it is so unbelievable to hear, that skinny girls had issues about being skinny... I guess people judge everything. Growing up I always thought that life would be easier if I was thin...and now I hear a person, who has the body type I always dreamed about... Talk about how they tried to be thicker.. This is sad.. Nothing is good enough for society, so we must just love ourselves and show it to the world and those haters.

[@neximus672]

i think ur really gorgeous

[@IlonaBrant]

@@neximus672 Thank you so much

[@ThatHonestPerson]

Girl you are so fine and drop dead gorgeous. Like For real!

[@neximus672]

@@IlonaBrant

[@IlonaBrant]

@@ThatHonestPerson Oh my God thank you! 😳 It's so nice of you to say that! Thank you so much

[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.” ― Lao Tzu

[@kitchendancepartii7025]

always.

[@tprnbs]

We CARE all the time what people think about us. Our brains evolved this way, if you weren't valued by the tribe back then it meant death

[@raulquiroz7492]

If that ain't the truth.

[@kyukachan]

truth

[@CG-wr4no]

I've been a prisoner for way too long..

[@aimeejane_writings]

Since quitting social media, my life has become the best it has ever been. No more toxic people, no more stupid posts, no more self-comparison. I absolutely love it. I feel like I can properly enjoy life and live it to the full now. My perspective on everything has changed.

[@ananyaa.x]

same here. i've quitted social media since the last 6 months and i feel a LOT better

[@xdiaz755]

SAME

[@dadada486]

I have these comparison issues, but social media never really added to it. Maybe I just don't have these kinds of friends, but noone is really bragging on there and noone is really super impressive.

[@phuockhailam6763]

I've been away from social media for 4 months.

[@remochii]

Can't wait to do the same once after I graduate, since a lot of college work is dependent on contacting others and using groups.

[@celiajayne2453]

*skinny shaming is a real thing.*

[@justme-vj5cc]

It truly is

[@dd-eb3bo]

y e s. it killed my self esteem when i was a teenager and i still struggle being a grown woman.

[@finalfantasy2713]

I'd rather be skinny shamed than fat shamed. I'd actually feel happy lol

[@dd-eb3bo]

@@finalfantasy2713 have You experienced either ?

[@celiajayne2453]

@@finalfantasy2713 Both are body shaming and neither would feel good. I've been skinny shamed my whole life and now I have little to no confidence. I hate my body and I don't see my self ever truly loving it. All body shaming is hurtful, cruel and can strongly effect someones life. They are both damaging.

[@gaurabmohanjoshi525]

*IF YOU COMPARE YOURSELF WITH OTHERS YOU'RE INSULTING YOURSELF* - Bill gates

[@humanii9037]

Yeah you're not respecting yourself. Always put yourself first.

[@alessiasutherberry]

so true cx

[@jostsomuan8012]

it was Hitler that said that. sorry to break it to you. no i don’t like hitler. i hate him and what he represents.

[@dianaf9997]

I hope there are days when your coffee tastes like magic. Your playlist makes you dance, strangers make you smile, and the night sky touches your soul. I hope there are days when you fall in love with being alive. (From the Internet)

[@missrelaxed3872]

Thank you so much ! This message was short but powerful !

[@Dimakatso.K]

Thank you for this 😢

[@christineburns3041]

Diana F., soooo beautiful to me. Thanks for sharing. Great peace inside out. :)

[@flamingaish]

Oh wow

[@wings2769]

💙🦋💙🦋💙🦋

[@natemarx4999]

It would be hard to compare Lana to anyone else. This is the only KZbin channel that legitimately makes me smile while i think.

[@missrelaxed3872]

True !!!

[@anndiee88]

Totally agree 🤍

[@mehdichebaane4827]

SAME

[@honeypotfilms6066]

AAH YESS I RELATE TO THIS SM

[@SKumar-ki1yb]

Her notification makes me smile and refreshing.

[@NazaNalani]

*”A flower does not think of competing with the flower next to it. It just blooms.” Beautiful video Lana! I’ve been working on a how to stop comparing video on my channel too and excited to create it especially now with this inspiration from you!*

[@missrelaxed3872]

Yes her words are magical

[@juanfernandomoyanoramirez600]

I used to feel sad while surfing through social media until I decide to quit Instagram. Since then I try to not to compare myself and my productivity has increased exponentially.

[@mr.gamewatch7547]

“Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not. Remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.” Epicurus

[@kitchendancepartii7025]

love this quote

[@mr.gamewatch7547]

@@kitchendancepartii7025 Me too, it really made me change how I think

[@joyjoo2140]

Hmm wow, thank u!

[@xdiaz755]

Deep

[@jesswang1804]

I definitely agree with separating yourself from things that are pulling you into envy. I used to think this made me weak because I couldn't handle certain things without being jealous but honestly once I started removing things from my life, I started to care about them less as well. Just giving things attention is what made them important in my life and once I no longer gave them time, they stopped mattering as much

[@gsalien2292]

Once a person can objectively set their own goals and standards, the only comparison necessary is against oneself. Great video!

[@LanaBlakely]

Thank you! :-)

[@ChristaBello]

If you are reading this: YOU ARE MORE THAN ENOUGH. What YOU ARE no one else IS! You are VALUABLE! You are WORTHY of the GREATNESS that you desire.

[@zahra7755]

@Alina Andreea Ene Awhh honey, I'm sure that there are more people on this planet with the same interests and struggles you have, perhaps you haven't found them yet. You could do some research online and join a community with the same values you uphold. I'm sure that it might be scary at first, especially when you're an introvert but it will be worth it 💕

[@ThePositivityPrincess]

Christina! Hello! You too are so much more than enough! Have a blessed day!

[@ThePositivityPrincess]

There is some shadow work to be done! Yes. Indeed .. thank you for bringing this all to my attention. I needed to take a good look at myself

[@jamien.5528]

Alina Andreea Ene girl I can literally relate so much to this right now :( You’re not alone!!

[@ThePositivityPrincess]

Alina Andreea Ene Alina Andreea Ene you are exactly how you are supposed to be. I used to feel just like this. Join my Facebook group. It’s all about love and positivity. facebook.com/groups/ehbepositive/ You would fit in there perfectly. You must see that being different means you are being authentically you. I want u to focus on one person. There must be one person that is supportive to you. If there isn’t ... you have me... and I love u just for being you... lastly.... google “dark night of the soul”.. that will help u. Sounds like that is what’s happening to u.

[@pumpkin2127]

Confession: I used to compare myself to you alot to the point I became jealous of you. I noticed that I always compare myself to people who have similar personality to me. And usually I would envy everyone, it almost felt like they stole something from me, like if it wasn't for their existence I would have got that position. Jealousy makes us feel like those people we envy took our achievement : I should be the one in that position... Ect. Usually I'm good not comparing myself to others but I cannot help it but fall to the mistake of comparing myself to people who have my type of personality and face? (weird I know hhh). But I forced my self to watch you and instead of hating you, I learned to learn from you. I started Journaling because of your video and by writing more and more, I was no longer in denial with my negative emotions. Admetting i'm jealous was hard but few days later when I got the notification of a new upload: I was no longer holding bad thoughts nor comparing myself t you. It's like with my confession, all the emotions blew away. Thank you Lana for being you and perfectly perfect from your imperfections

[@LanaBlakely]

Wow. Thank you so much for being so vulnerable and sharing this!! I love what you wrote about feeling like someone stole something from you, that's truly what it can feel like. I'm also very happy to know that journaling has helped you :-) Lots of love.

[@pumpkin2127]

@@LanaBlakely omg! Thank you so much for responding! You made my day :)

[@pumpkin2127]

@Niconoclastic Neoc thank you very much for the lovely reply. To be honest I wasn't expecting anyone to read this comment. But I wanted to write this so I can get it out of my chest. Lana has always been transparent in her videos so I wanted to be honest as someone who's been watching her from the very beginning.

[@TheLoachman]

@@pumpkin2127 More people read comments than you think. A lot of wisdom and knowledge can be found within many of them, including yours.

[@christineburns3041]

@@TheLoachman, that is very true and I usually always read others' comments as well. It is great to get more than one persons' outlook on important subjects, ideas, views. etc.. Peace within & out. :)

[@TheProdigalMeowMeowMeowReturns]

Lana Blakely has no reason to compare herself to others. She’s a goddess.

[@andreagarciarojas6977]

It's hard for me to believe you have insecurities (even though I know we all have them). I remember the first time I saw one of your videos in my homepage and I thought "This girl is one of the prettiest girls I've seen" The way we percibe ourselves it's way to different from the way people around do. I admire you, you are even prettier inside. ❤️

[@MisterPol]

Everyone has flaws, but few people show them. The problem with comparing yourself to others is that you just pick the "qualities" they show, but omit all other characteristics that make them "them". Start comparing yourself to who you were yesterday, and you'll fall in love with who you are becoming! ❤️

[@MisterPol]

And great video, thank you Lana for all your inspiration!

[@mayinea8037]

👏👏

[@gabrielgrigore526]

That's so true. A true comparison is only valid if you know everything about the person. And the only person that you can truly know everything about is yourself :)

[@MisterPol]

@@gabrielgrigore526 100%!

[@nicimie]

Dude you’re commenting on like every video I watch 😂

[@clairwerk9521]

Honestly, the most sexy Attribute a Person can have is just being themselves. You cant really change peoples Opinions, so just enjoy yourself and be who you are. There are always People who dont like you and always some who like you. No one can be loved by everyone. You may be ashamed of your ears, but i can assure you there are alot of People who exactly Love that about you :) We should all stop judging others and start appreciate. Love for all of you

[@missrelaxed3872]

Exactly ! You can’t change people’s opinion and just be yourself and be happy about yourself ! Well said

[@MinimalLovin]

just being youtself won't change shit.

[@k8h991]

Thank you

[@classyme7533]

I remember when I was young, I had a “friend” who would called me fat because of how my belly stood out. I didn’t realize until a few years later that she was a horrible friend. I started to eat less and constantly do exercises just to lose weight. I think I did had a lil eating disorder in that time. I’m glad I don’t that anymore (I still exercise time to time thou) I feel better but yes I do still compare myself to others and I need to work on not doing that anymore.

[@missrelaxed3872]

I can totally feel your pain , my ex best friend did that to me

[@sugarmilk28]

I tend to always praise my friends curvy body. They would always say they were self conscious about some part of their body, but I would always reassure them they looked fine. I'm skinny and sadly some of them started build their confidence by putting me down. I had to let them go. Body positivity all the way!

[@Taxxpy]

he motivated you to workout so you should thank him

[@yongy1133]

Recognising who you are and accepting that is as deep as it can get.

[@ibnamin9388]

Abu Hurairah narrated that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “Look at those who have less than you and do not look at those who have more, lest you should belittle the blessings of Allah (that you already possess).” Hadith in Ibn Majah

[@faizaseptania4532]

Thanks for sharing beautiful hadith. May Allah always bless you :)

[@iliveinarichgirlsdream]

Allah don't be talking about nothing tell him to dm me

[@cuvvm8067]

iowegodmoney Allah means god

[@marwaaaa420]

Ibn Amin yeah , I'm Muslim and was always told to be thankful when I was feeling anything negative now I feel unheard and feel horrible bcz I feel bad about myself when I'm not feeling good :)

[@user-if5me6kl5q]

Beautiful

[@jonte6837]

Lana, you could just be a model. Pose and use your beauty for money and fame. Yet instead, here you are. Helping people. Spreading wisdom. Being vulnerable for hundreds of thousands of people to see. This is why you're so precious and we will always support you. No offence to models btw.

[@khaccanhle1930]

She leverages her beauty, she knows it and uses it.

[@missrelaxed3872]

Yes! She is such a gem

[@missrelaxed3872]

vulture cyclops disagree with you, her content is inspiring !

[@wolverine974801]

Yeah she is very beautiful and that is definitely a plus in life. Good looking people earn. more money, more likely to get married, and just generally have more opportunities in life. I have known plenty of beautiful girls, and many are entitled snobby, delish creeps. Lana has a nice personality too and she is well spoken, that is why her channel is a success. Best of luck to her.

[@khaccanhle1930]

@Niconoclastic Neoc I make no Complaint, just an observation. Stating the facts.

[@hazelgreen024_]

It's like everyone goes through these things but only few of them have the courage to speak up and make us aware.

[@leannlai1762]

Thankyou so much Lana, I was having a really bad day. I have a sleepover at my friends' place. I keep comparing my self to them and I'm jealous that they have so many luxury stuff and all other stuff are just better than mine. I know this was so toxic. I''m slowing but surely training myself to not compare to others.

[@SteAndRach]

Love that you opened up about it, that's the first step to let go of anything! One of our favorite quotes is "comparison is the thief of joy", we actually made a spoken word poetry video about it on our channel! We hope it helps and enjoy the sleepover 💛☺️

[@mosfet987]

This goes to show that even very beautiful people can be insecure about themselves. And in before anyone calls me out for being a simp - Yes, Lana's beautiful. No doubt about that. But point is, no matter who you are, you will have insecurities. Even if you're 'perfect'. And sometimes it can take just one comment to destroy your confidence and self esteem. Be kind people!

[@abby_bit7567]

Calling someone beautiful, isn't simping bruh.

[@justokaykk9123]

This video is coming at a great time since during this year most people are probably staying home and scrolling through their social media more often than not and comparing their lives to everyone else that's posting their absolute best and most filtered stories. great video as always! 😊

[@justokaykk9123]

@Alina Andreea Ene agreed!!

[@kitchendancepartii7025]

very true!

[@mariego2068]

True!!!!!!

[@SteAndRach]

totally agree, social media can be so toxic for comparison! We actually made a video about it recently and our take is that if we want to be happy this is one of the major habits to drop! We should only be comparing ourselves to ourselves . That's the best way to improve: focus on our path, do our best and block the rest!

[@paulinalinalina]

When I see some person having, being or doing something I think I want, it is so motivated and I am like : O, if someone can do, be, or have this and that, than this is possible, and I can too.

[@ChrisGaultHealthyLiving]

So true!

[@DishikaTrivedi]

I am just coming out of ED and being comfortable in my own body & mind has been my top priority lately. There is so much we learn about ourselves once we stop comparing and start looking within, the potential we have and the core of our truth. There will always be fall backs but with every fall, we discover a strength that was previously unknown. I hope all of you find that love and acceptance within yourself, that you truly ARE. (:

[@mildadreyer]

Speaking honestly, I would never think and even notice that there is something odd about your ears (if you wore your hair up). Perhaps it's only how you see (used to see) them? You are beautiful, Lana.

[@LanaBlakely]

Thank you Milda! It depends on the angle, too, and I think it's more apparent when I wear a tight ponytail. I never pay attention to it anymore though.

[@loveoneanother-yt]

Lana Blakely my beautiful daughter has the cutest little ears that stick out. It makes her uniquely her. Like you she is beautiful inside and out. As a mother, I am most proud of her inner beauty. 🌸

[@missrelaxed3872]

Yes, I agree, maybe bcoz in most videos her hair are not tied up

[@mildadreyer]

@@missrelaxed3872 Right, but I didn't notice anything even when she had it tied up, for example, in the video "How I stopped being judgemental". Simply normal, cute ears :)

[@inesmonteiro6047]

I had to leave social media because I was so insecure and I couldn't stop comparing me to others. It was physically painful to look at the mirror and sometimes it still is. Comparing ourselves to others is the worst we can do. No one is the same and we're all made in our own way. We just need to be good people and be a better person than u were yesterday. Focus on yourself not others to be happy.

[@adrianperry3311]

Sorry that you were teased, People can be cruel. They were just jealous. Nobody is perfect. Glad you are strong enough to cope.

[@farzadazimzadehmilani9993]

Thanks for your video. It starts with accepting that we are comparing ourselves to others. It’s actually the terrible feeling of catching ourselves while doing it. But there is nothing u can’t change if u want it bad enough.

[@nazeemafarisha7956]

I love when lana blakely posts something like she's been following me around the whole time

[@missrelaxed3872]

Ha ha 👌🏼❤️

[@maricarmenbaldeonsilva217]

I really needed this, I see people my age or younger who are successful and have a lot of the things i wish i have. All of this things have been so bad for my mental health and the way I express myself to the world. I need to have more confidence and stop comparing myself to others (even though its hard). Thank you Lana for this amazing video, as always :). Its nice to know Im not the only one dealing with this.

[@LanaBlakely]

I'm glad you found it useful Mari. Thank you

[@Xyronium]

If this girl have insecurities about her look imagine how the people who are actually ugly must feel.

[@ajaykadam4688]

hahaha

[@thegamerguy56]

It feels bad. Rest assured.

[@nah_.]

Doesn't matter where it comes to insecurity. If you're insecure, you're insecure

[@SimplyDanuzzz]

good point to think about ...

[@InsaneClipszz]

Preach

[@Howlite__]

8:42 Wow. This really hit me. I've been comparing myself to these unrealistic standards that I see and thinking I'm not good enough but the realisation that there is more to it than can be seen is just so reassuring

[@ofeliamicewicz7861]

As always - perfect timing. I needed this so badly

[@LanaBlakely]

Hope it's helpful

[@jesussavedme6260]

Jesus loves you

[@mynameisliana]

My friend and I were just talking about this yesterday. About how if you start to feel jealous, don’t resent that person. Let them inspire you and let them know that. It makes me feel better when I compliment and/or like photos of people I may feel envy towards. It feels like I’m rejecting my insecurity, but it’s still hard. Just gotta remember no ones life is perfect, and be thankful for what I have. Cliche... but yeah.

[@Alice-lp8lu]

I have just found your channel randomly,and trust me,I'm in a need of such talks,I love it and carry on!!!!💕

[@ChrissyZayas]

I don’t know how anyone could dislike your videos, you are so sweet and encouraging. Keep doing what you are doing! 👏

[@Zaneleshoyisa]

I just want to say. Thank you. As an introvert your videos keep me sane and encouraged.

[@LanaBlakely]

This put a smile on my face :-)

[@wi1468]

It's crazy how much I relate to all of your past stories. I used to be bullied by friends and family for being too skinny to the point that I developed an ed in order to look "normal". But even after that they still point at my body and criticize it... I also still don't wear my hair up because I also got teased for having big ears and a bigger looking head but I feel like what you said about looking like an elf will make me love them :)

[@LanaBlakely]

People will try to put you down regardless of what you look like! Some people will just scan you in the hopes of finding something that they can make you feel bad about. I hope you'll start accepting your ears too, fellow elf :-)

[@pondy3490]

I’m skinny and had an eating disorder Muscle Dysmorphia. In which I would force feed myself to gain weight. I’m recovered now and eat because I’m hungry, not because I hate myself 💕

[@strawwberryyy]

your channel is literally a blessing! you're covering such important video topics

[@MALOsstuff]

Hey! I'd definitely like more in depth videos on this topic since this is my biggest problem and the reason I am feeling down everyday. I started going to therapy for this but it would help me so much to see/ hear your videos, your experience and your thoughts since you are speaking out of your own experience! Thank you so much xx

[@sheila.elizabeth]

It's crazy how this video came at perfect timing, I was struggling with these thoughts yesterday.....BTW 3 jeans that's insane 😯

[@LanaBlakely]

Yep! Can only imagine what I looked like walking around like I got cement in my pants! Kids can really be cruel.

[@sheila.elizabeth]

@@LanaBlakely Tell me about it, time to unfollow people that triggers the Dobby Level for my own good. Thanks for all your videos Lana, very inspiring 🕊

[@Patricia-fi9zo]

So many encouraging thoughts, we're all so different so there is really no point at comparing yourself to others all the time. I have to say your openness and vunerability is inspiring Lana!

[@LanaBlakely]

Thank you Patricia

[@susmitapatro3082]

"I'm grateful to Lana Blakely." - This is what I write in my journal everyday .Thank you for your valuable lessons :))

[@hermionecutiepie]

I just found your channel yesterday accidentally and I am glad I found it. Your videos are so relatable. I am going through all of them ever since (anxiety, lack of confidence, negative thoughts, etc) I was a teen. I wish I am just like you. I envy how calm and confident you are. Your voice is relaxing that it makes me wonder how you are when you are angry. You seem smart and kind. You are also really pretty!

[@nazeemafarisha7956]

This is the most relatable youtube channel ever

[@missrelaxed3872]

Agree

[@davidbone3314]

Shes been on my mind and motivating me since i found her channel. Completely random in my youtube home. I just read finished her favorite book Stoner last night. This pandemic has made me kind of a loner tbh so its been nice burying myself in books especially the ones she recommends and its been helping me..

[@missrelaxed3872]

How is the stoner? Thinking of buying this!

[@davidbone3314]

@@missrelaxed3872 Its good and worth a read. I havent read any fiction either for a quite a while so this was the first fiction book i read all the way through since lord of the rings fellow ship, and the first 2 harry potters

[@sydney9912]

I just finished crying about the way I look & telling myself I’m ugly and that I’ll never be loved or enough. Thank you for making this video and sharing. I know it’s gonna take some time but I definitely feel like one day I’ll stop comparing myself to others & start feeling confident. 💕

[@joshuathinkingoutloud]

Your style, which I resonate with, has inspired me to take a different turn with my KZbin channel. Embracing my introverted, aesthetic-seeking, bibliophile tendencies...we shall see how this progresses. Thank you for being a calm and soothing voice while offering us a reprieve from modernity's over stimulation.

[@sabinaeinstein]

You're a truly magical human being, Lana!

[@LanaBlakely]

Warms my heart

[@aboundinggrace7029]

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full." Psalm 139:14 Thank Jesus 😊

[@redtulippie]

this is your second video that i am watching consecutively. thank you for filming this video and saying the things you did.

[@stephanienabweteme5522]

Lana out here saving my soul. No but for real. You've really helped me out in so many ways

[@hard2kill16]

it doesn't matter how someones body look like everyone is unique in their own ways, if you have a beautifull heart that is much more than a body and a beatifull heart is rare these days! and don't forget the smile :) Amen

[@gabrielgrigore526]

I think that most of us struggle with comparing ourselves with people online nowadays. Social media can really be a great place to be. You just need to make sure that you are creating a healthy environment for yourself on there. If you keep your room tidy, why wouldn't you do the same with your social accounts? Both your time and your mental health are at risk if you are not mindful about what you get to interact with on there. I've been in the "comparing myself to others" loop hole before and it's not a nice place to be. Trust me.

[@gabrielgrigore526]

@Alina Andreea Ene Definitely!

[@missrelaxed3872]

Well, it’s so true! Nowadays we compare ourselves with people who could be thousands of miles away from us! We are comparing online and this is jeopardizing our mental health and making us unhappy about who we are!

[@gabrielgrigore526]

@@missrelaxed3872 Glad to find like-minded people :)

[@notavailable2527]

i'm barely able to make it through a video where a person just sits and talks but i felt bad when this video ended. whatever Lana says hold so much value, i could keep listening to her for days

[@tazadams7931]

It’s awesome seeing how you put yourself out there and show the world the things we all go through and add value to others walk in life. Love your work😊

[@DarkHel]

I have this problem. Every single time i see a person that it's better than me in something, i am level dobby. I just close in myself, think about it and i can't understand their success. I just think that i will never be like them all the time, that happiness is far from me and that i will never reach it. Now i know that all people have different abilities and that i cannot have the same of everybody else and the most is that this world is so scary that certain days i don't want to wake up :D self esteem is my problem i know and you're so courageous to tell to everyone this :) trust me, too many people have low self esteem, i am not the only one.

[@zzt5282]

The strange thing is why the effect of all the negative talks lasts forever while the effect of positive ones lasts for just a few seconds! I still remember all the negative words my siblings used to tell me when I was a kid & it hurt a lot, & unknowingly it all made my personality as someone with low self-esteem & self-confidence! Now as an adult, I strive to be better & feel good about myself, but those negative thoughts still haunt me from time to time!

[@missrelaxed3872]

Those negative thoughts still haunt me too, I was abused by a narcissist friend for 13 years , bullied by her in school too! I can totally understand how you feel! But in order to progress in life we have to get rid of the negative thoughts and make room for positivity!

[@AnnieGirlVlogs]

Your videos pushed me to actually do better videos. I am soooooooo happy I found your channel! I hope you keep doing what you do! You're gonna be so much influential !

[@amilisarkar2986]

I believe somewhere it's somehow related to our childhood... When we are kids we believe our parents and our relatives to be loving, we seek attention as a child.. when we are compared with any other kid.. them being given more importance.. it hurts us.. it goes deep inside our mind and.. we start believing them.. and that is where the game starts.. well i believe it's completely reversible.. ❤️❤️❤️

[@anushkasingh7136]

I literally took notes from this video to be reminded again and again, that is how helpful it is. Thank you so much.

[@dagmarh2583]

Woah, I just started going down the comparison spiral and then I saw your video. Talk about perfect timing! Thank you so much for this ❤

[@YasLove111]

Huge, huge thank you Lana, you have talked about many subjects I have struggled with, your videos are so comforting and helpful and you made me aware of journaling which I now do allot thank you!💗💗

[@SyilvIsha]

it always baffles me when I hear people that I think are incredibly good looking and whose looks I would like to have myself say about themselves they have been struggling with self image. It just goes to show you reality is not what it seems.

[@MerryOlSoulGigglesmith]

Missed you lana. Nice cup of tea & Lana Blakey on a Sunday evening, divine. Body image and peer pressure is a psychological mine field. Glad you are happy 🤘🤓

[@RebelReine]

CONGRATULATIONS on 361K , Lana! You have motivated me everyday for the past 6 months and I am truly grateful for that! Watching you grow this fast makes me really happy. And my channel is growing too!! I have just passed a 300 subs and I am really proud to tell you that! You are the type of person I aspire to be, everyday!

[@nmnYT]

This is one of the most 'Complete' videos I've seen online, As a content creator, how do you go about making videos that are honest, unfiltered and on point? I'm happy I discovered your channel 😊

[@demarcomya]

Hi, I love you sm. Thank u for making me feel at peace everytime my heads gonna explode from all the thoughts that keeps on confusing me. You're like the big sister I never had. Thank you for existing and sharing your calming thoughts. Love you, Lana!

[@victoria-li1es]

when I heard level Dobby, Luna and Hermione my heart was like- 💓

[@LanaBlakely]

Ahh fellow Potterhead. This makes me happy.

[@victoria-li1es]

🥰

[@dariakovalchuk251]

I came here because my heart told me, not the bell

[@trippytrappy4282]

Wow, wasn't expecting a video like this from a beautiful person like you. Now I can relate my situation with you and understand better. Thank you so much for making this video, it will help me a lot.

[@laurarosariosanchez731]

I´ve just discovered your channel and let me tell you that I´m loving it. I really like aesthetics and simplicity in your videos, great work!

[@GuledM1]

my fav youtube channel ; thank u lana for this update , you really changing more lives :)

[@aminedk2830]

Thank you for all the lessons you give me

[@LanaBlakely]

Thank you for being here.

[@VASUNTHARAI]

I just recently found your channel. I’m so glad that I did!! I love your thoughtfulness, you really inspire me and a lot of people here!! Great work!❤️❤️

[@angeliebaron1718]

Thank you so much for this video. I'm feeling so down, right now. I feel so ugly. I feel like worthless. My self-esteem is getting lower and lower but I'll try to get myself up and move forward with this insecurities and will try to embrace them.

[@sarahasklegod6922]

You Always choose the best subjects I just love ur videos

[@madhavdaga]

The people who don't get the Harry Potter references are muggles.

[@humanii9037]

I'm a big muggle then

[@renaybaca5596]

Hi Lana, thank you. This shifted my perspective hearing the dobby reference because I always feel sad when he takes criticism and beats himself up with it

[@BenDover-fo5os]

This really helped me clear my head! Thank you Lana you’re honestly so inspiring

[@o.o995]

Hi Lana! After two years of not having any social media, I downloaded it again today so that I can keep in touch with the people I know even after I graduate from school. Already on my first day of having it, I feel insecure once again. I grew so much in these past couple of years and gained a lot of confidence. I just got back on it today and I’m already comparing myself with others. What can I do to not feel like this? I sometimes even feel jealous of people and idk what to do about it. I need your help Lana!

[@augustfever1319]

I don't know how you are doing these days or if you deleted the social media apps again, but i have the same problem with Facebook. Seing my friends getting married, travelling places and throwing money on luxiries is not an easy thing to scope. However, just remember that their wellbeing is nothing to do with your life, your financial status or your wellbeing. The only direction you should focus on is your path ahead. Their achievements are the result of their hardworks. You want to be like them? Work harder !

[@JigglyRuff]

Yes I've gone back on Facebook only for messenger as I'm not adding anyone.

[@jostsomuan8012]

baby all you have to do is feel happy someone else gets to do the things you wanted to do. and just know there’s enough for everyone. you can also be successful. just wait for your time. be happy everyone else gets to do it, too. ❤

[@RacingVideoGames]

Girl you have the most gorgeous body type.. Crazy & sad how society could make you think otherwise! Keep up the positivity, good on you for inspiring others ⭐

[@aeayi9882]

i burst into tears the second u started talking. i guess i couldnt hold it anymore. thanks for this video :)

[@vdsoibwe]

The best thing I ever did during this pandemic is watch your video. Now, one video left then I can comfortably keep up with your new videos and rewatch them to suit my struggle in the future. Thank you so much for making these kinda video, it's more than helpful! ♡♡♡

[@Ross-ve9ww]

I’ve only been watching your channel for about 2 weeks now and you’re already an inspiration to me!!

[@RebeccaAbraxas]

I know .. just found her a few days ago .. after watching her here in some way feel more permission to be ME ON MY CHNNEL .. she is such a lovely bride g😊🦋

[@marianapenalopez7060]

I really enjoy these talks with you. You let me many wise advices and I feel they allow me to grow a lot and become a stronger woman. I have my struggles with self comparison. I'm still on the way of overcoming it, these topic really help me.

[@itsangelajane]

I was enjoying her whole talk when she said that was all for today's video. I have something to look forward to every week & it really makes me happy, thank you for this! Sending you lots of love & good things!! ❤

[@rakhimahajan5384]

Every single person is unique individual so let not compare yourself with others...no one could be you but only you