"How Ma accidentally found my ARVs". What do you do if you think your loved one is HIV positive?

[@olifiloelerato8716]

Your story neh.... that's all have to say. I found your channel today and I've cried, found myself loving the way to look at life and most importantly LEARNED a lot. Thank for your bravery

[@sinovuyonontshiza7759]

I love how you always give your listeners the back story to every situation. Also I can't wait to read your book.

[@rubyheart365]

Thank you for the translations, I live in the US and looove your channel

[@NozibeleQamngana]

Thank you so much. The last time I was in the US was last year, in LA. Would love to visit again!

[@vuyolwethubili5707]

Its crazy how God has a way of directing you to something that he needs you to learn about. I didnt know about you at all and I accidently landed on you Abortion video. Long story short for something reason I watched it and what I found is beyond my expectation! You have a beautiful spirit sis!

[@q.7628]

Yoh but anyone who is close to her is BLESSED!💕🤞🏽

[@beautybeyond8167]

Found you by accident yesterday, and I can't stop watching your videos, very inspiring.. Just love you.. I am from Kenya 🇰🇪 keep up the good work 👍🏾very inspiring..

[@sibongilesitshabane3752]

Nozi you're such an inspiration sisi, and showing that really being HIV positive is not end if the world, thanks for trying to cover the questions anyone that can have, so much appreciated dear, pls after the book launch don't forget to tell us( people who are not in PE) where we can find it, please

[@NozibeleQamngana]

Thank you so much. Please follow this link here, web.facebook.com/events/2963834587071244/permalink/2970162259771810/, I have shared pre-ordering details :)

[@ivykwena1021]

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[@luciangcingwana4864]

Yoooh uyathandeka sana , just discovered your channel yesterday and I'm trying by all means to catch up ... mna ndiyakuthanda shame 😍❤❤

[@iam_virginia4]

You r very inspirational love you... watching from Jamaica 🇯🇲❤🙏

[@NozibeleQamngana]

Thank you so much. Would LOVE to visit Jamaica one day!

[@iam_virginia4]

You should it's beautiful and the ppl r friendly n welcoming.....I too would love to visit SA... hopefully one day and sooner rather than later 😊

[@jessicanyarayitandy4937]

Discovered your channel couple of days ago. I started watching from the beginning and your content is well thought out, informative and well balanced. This video particularly is a great reflection of you seeing the many personas that engage with this content. I’m a mom who is feeling the fear as I have a daughter. Thank you for this. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@Yammie]

Found you by accident and I HAVE BEEN LOVING YOUR AURA!

[@Soccerupdatesdaily]

a friend sent me her link last year november, she is amazing

[@mpoomzadube1429]

Me too lol

[@asavelamakhohliso2323]

Me too! Verrrry much!!🙌

[@faithndungu3367]

Just found her today, started with one of her videos and now am addicted. She is special, inspiring and gosh she is so beautiful ❤️God bless her more 🙏🏼

[@claudiamela4040]

Nozi is so inspirational and people are blessed to have her. Love and light to you 💜

[@junedonaldson8077]

Yes I am from Jamaica too. And I am also commending you. You are so wonderful and enjoy listening and watching your videos. Don't be disheartened. Because you decide not to hide anything God is working out everything for you. Praying for you girl. You are beautiful

[@rumbijc5314]

Thank you and well done for articulating the simplest way to support our families. I am grateful

[@angellahmalapo3583]

Girl you’re so strong. Thank you so much for sharing. Just found your channel yesterday and I can’t stop watching your videos. Much love from🇺🇬

[@sunshineandroses8]

You are incredibly articulate and relatable, such an inspiration... AND you are gorgeous.😍❤️. Love and light to you always.

[@vinitasibindi9235]

We are realy inspired sisi...lm living with my hiv+ husbund and l only discovered after 8yrs of living together that hes positive and he claimed that he dosent know how he got infected coz hes beenfaithfull to me....hes been abusing me claiming that lm cheating on him he wants to know everything l do with who ....amd as a wife of 11yrs with him l feel there no reason l should leave him...l pray to God to give him the heart to accept his status coz l think thats the issue here...once again...thanks mntase

[@vinitasibindi9235]

I fogort to state that lm still negative

[@lucillea-r9568]

Oh boy I do hope you are taking precautions not to get infected... you need to get some counseling for yourself abuse is not acceptable and from what you have said you are excusing what he is putting you through

[@vinitasibindi9235]

@@lucillea-r9568 thanks hey...lm taking 1 day at a time...l know its not easy but with hop and God guidance all shall be well... l do try to be safe always...thanks

[@veevictorius5116]

That's a toxic relationship. You need to manage the disease together as opposed to u just hoping he will accept. So how r u protected??if he doesn't monitor his viral load he could infect you. Is that what you want

[@top10africa65]

How did you find out that his positive?

[@wendymtandagai3613]

Just bumped on your channel, love it you have gained new subscriber

[@lelethu_swapi]

Sisi you are such a beaut, BOTH inside and out. ❤️😍

[@NozibeleQamngana]

Lethu !!!

[@abigailkibet2766]

From Kenya. You're amazing girl!

[@christophermarumo7379]

Haai sisi, what about subtitles. chini. Beside that, your international viewers also loves your african authenticity. I have a family in EC so I love listening to isixhosa. I'm lucky that I also accidentally found your channel while i was watching another. Where is my brother Skhu. I love that guy man. pass my regards to him. PS!!! I loved your wedding anniversary.

[@shelleychristie1929]

Thank you because am watching from Canada 🇨🇦🙏

[@sebenziemaduna6410]

Inspiring💕God bless you for sharing you have no idea how much you are healing most in your journey 😘Thank you dear

[@nomakhalmeshecita9370]

Thank u Nozi your Chanel is inspirational and sometimes fun and in my case I told my family immediately after testing back in 2014 we all cried and then life goes on now started treatment in 2018 still very very very healthy

[@efexkinsinger194]

Iam scared to go for hiv test , i slept streets hawker ..pls advice me. Now iam feeling very heal

[@bladebrown4341]

@@efexkinsinger194 Go get tested. If you have it the sooner you start treatment the better.

[@xobontlane5931]

Girl you are awesome...a gift to us from God. Very informative conversation. We are in the presence of greatness. Love u so much. Hoping in future you will have your own reality show. Parents n families need a lot of information like this. We need to break stereotypes that make it so difficult to deal with hiv issue. Amazing !

[@charityasante8735]

Wow new subscriber from Ghana here...I admire ur outspokenness...thank you for educating us🥰

[@candynyakeishiki8463]

You are a sweet soul and a strong lady . Keep on keeping on my dear lady . Love your strong personality

[@candacepowers5264]

And here it is my ungrateful self complains about being on my job 8yrs with no raise. I appreciate your courage & honesty. Stay blessed & healthy. Thanks for sharing your story, I’m not infected but have been affected because my father died of AIDS in 1991. Prayers to anyone suffering from this illness!🙏🏽

[@VerahMwamburi5569]

Yeah after listening to her story I became more grateful in life😢😢😢❤

[@thembinxitywa9754]

A blessing you are 🙌💕. And congratulations on the book 🔥. You are Strong and Courageous.

[@nozukonjiyela705]

I just discovered your channel and hour ago yoh cc ngaze ngakuthanda🥰

[@deborahmalambe3705]

Loving your confidence mugirl ❤😍❤😍❤😍❤ much love to u 🧠🔓

[@sabela5558]

Your face lured me to your videos but your comedy with Skhu is keeping me permanently in these streets👍

[@mbalimd1438]

Hi cc nozi ..I love u uuu big time ...I followed u way back starting ur channel ..can not mic any topic u had kkkkk ...my god always lead u more n more

[@thabilentshangase2606]

Wow may the good Lord bless you n protect you for me ...am so proud of you my cc🙏

[@didintlempedi9114]

The honesty is refreshing. The backstory 💜💜💜

[@nyashaheather9578]

Sis you are a life saver thank you for sharing your story ❤️

[@naturindaedith7848]

thank you so much Nozibele. you should know you are a blessing to many. thanks for this video.

[@user-cb7pm9tv6m]

You have a big heart Nozi. Love from Malawi

[@sharonjumba4648]

I can relate with your Mum's journey. In as much as our parents ought to love us, we must understand where they're coming from. Sometimes they could use some love from us, they've been beaten down by life that they don't know how to give it.

[@ABeautifulMess101]

You are gorgeous and I love your spirit 🖤 I lost my older sister 3 years ago due to the virus do to her opting out of treatment. So I’m glad to see you are getting rid of the negative notion that being infected with the virus brings. Because I totally agree with you when you say the virus kills you mentally before it does physically.

[@karabomavundla5118]

I would like to thank you Sisi for this.Very eye opening.God bless you❣️

[@phelokazimelitafa6884]

Thank you Nozi , you're such a blessing, thank you for educating us❤️

[@ntando26]

Your videos are so informative and have so much sense, I can relate to a lot of aspects and thank you for sharing.

[@mmakeketsi7729]

Much Love ....I salute you 💞

[@blackbeargrace9286]

My confidence girl❤️❤️

[@bongin2292]

Your mom is somewhat the same as my mom. The first time she hugged me was last year when I got my matric results.

[@LethoHali]

I’m proper stalking you now 🙈😂

[@gracekinyua3137]

Wow love you am the first one to comment

[@sineguguvilakazi6502]

Wow sisi I'd love to meet you one day or atleast have a chat with you 🙌

[@chinsisiwingolo4378]

You and me both

[@magdalenarichard2170]

Much love from Tanzania sis

[@mysisterisafoodie]

My best friend found ARVs in her boyfriends back pocket of his jeans. They have been having unprotected sex. He didn't tell her. She cried in my arms for the whole evening. I don't know what to tell her.

[@cookiecoucou5006]

If his viral load is undetectable, she has absolutely nothing to worry about, coz he can not infect her or anyone else for that matter

[@biancabonapart08]

Damn thats messed up

[@siphosethumbamba4636]

Thank you for this sis, it's very informative. We appreciate you. Xxx

[@Your_Soul_Sister]

Thank you so much for this, I have learned a lot.

[@karaeretjirimuje7036]

Well said your such an inspiration

[@maryjanemofokeng8038]

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[@bontlefelaoliphant5346]

You are the best 👌

[@namhlanjemfeketo5473]

You such a blessing to many God bless you in abundance

[@mammusomanale7544]

Watching from Saudi Arabia

[@chundrefilippus5214]

Coming from fb after watching your dance video

[@ngcalentlenyaka3937]

Thank you so much for this video l always enjoy your videos😘😘

[@rumbidzaigloriatigere9096]

Profound content always🌹

[@kelebetsemogale6736]

You are a genius

[@lisakarenje7615]

Hy dear am following your channels and am loving them soo much dont you have a whatsapp group were we could discuss more about hiv with you

[@olifiloelerato8716]

Yeayyyyyyy close or not. UNTIL THE PERSON IS REALLY READY TO DISCLOSE... STAY OUT OF THEIR BUSINESS.

[@noluthandomthuli2001]

Thank you very much sisi for your channel very informative

[@_Katy]

You are so amazing, just thought you should know 🤍

[@nomthandazoxulu9830]

Thank you for your content sis. ❤️❤️❤️

[@mariamsimango9347]

Your mum 😂 she's exactly like my mum not educated but the woman is very clever.. Much love from me sweetheart you just don't know what you doing to people's lives out here..

[@bonganixaba249]

you are very smart and you ,talk sense.

[@TheNtombi]

I am so grateful i found you mna❤❤❤

[@sihlem444]

FEAR 😩

[@Ijiomah.Oluchi]

Love from Nigeria 🇳🇬

[@phelomatomanematomane1952]

Mntase date ngo April for the book launch??

[@NozibeleQamngana]

16th of April, we launching in Port Elizabeth, at the GFI Art Gallery. R300 for ticket, including a signed copy of the book. To secure your seat, please deposit money using the following details: Bank: Capitec Bank Account Name: Miss N Qamngana Account Number: 1401574767 Branch Code: 470010 Reference: Your name and surname To send your POP, kindly see contact details below: Email: [e-mail] Details Venue: GFI Art Gallery (30 Park Dr, Central, Port Elizabeth) Date: 16 April 2020 (Thursday) Time: 6pm - 8pm SEATS ARE LIMITED! Hope to see you there, if you're around Port Elizabeth.

[@phelomatomanematomane1952]

Enkosi mntase ❤️

[@kwanelechilixo]

You are intelligent.

[@thembelihlemlangeni2106]

I can't get enough of your vedios, love you.

[@Fikzo]

Awumhle Mrs Mayaba

[@boitumelomalaka9396]

Hey😊 I'm in Limpopo and would LOVE to read your book. How do I do that? How can I get it?

[@NozibeleQamngana]

Hi B, please see link here web.facebook.com/events/2963834587071244/permalink/2970162259771810/ We will start distributing the book last week of April. Thanks so much

[@zinhlepresh3841]

My role model Nozie

[@preciousngcongo3285]

I just love u, u are such a bright star

[@tandokazimaku1282]

I relate ke kule yongabikho kondiyakthanda mntanam

[@highandmightyqueen79]

Nozi you so pretty maan

[@SuzetteKhiba]

Awesome Nozi keep up the good work!!!!!!!

[@londiwe1234]

My sister is HIV + ...she has been infected for almost 10 years ...she doesn't take her medication she quit taking her medication she says she can't deal with the side effects of the pills ....I think she doesn't care for her health....what advice do you give her ???

[@NozibeleQamngana]

Nkulee - I wish there could be a straight answer for this question. See, as I mentioned in the video, medication could never be forced on anyone. A person has to willingly take medication on their own. Side effects vary from one person to the next. However, I would have advised that they consult with a doctor to see what options they have. The doctor will evaluate what medication they're giving and see if there's no other dosage they can give your sister. But I've come to understand, as I mentioned in the video, that such cases also has a lot to do with their mental health. Taking medication for the rest of your life is a constant reminder that you're HIV positive. And sometimes others do not deal well with this. All you can do at this point is to support your sister, keep encouraging them, but do not push them. Pushing them may result in them pushing you away.

[@londiwe1234]

@@NozibeleQamngana thank you ... please do a video on the side effects caused by the treatment ♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@NozibeleQamngana]

@@londiwe1234 I promise I will. I promise

[@nalungasandrah7974]

@@NozibeleQamngana can an hiv positive date a hiv negative ?

[@fakeittillyoumakeitwithus5525]

Your mother is my mother❤️

[@hiefia8568]

The way you say your name!

[@NozibeleQamngana]

I'm from the Xhosa tribe in South Africa.

[@hiefia8568]

@@NozibeleQamngana I know that. The clicks in your language are spectacular.

[@pumlamesatywa5115]

You look soo pretty😞😟😢😻

[@khuselwaful]

So what could be hurting the people who dislike your videos?

[@sheraldinemslane7245]

Their ignorance

[@matyfortune5734]

Ppl are weird

[@kelebetsemogale6736]

I love you with all my heart

[@unathi90210]

It’s you and Skhuuuuuuu!!!! Ha a…#IfStrength was a person!!!

[@SuperRENEILWE]

Will you later have an audio book ?

[@NozibeleQamngana]

We're taking it one day at a time. But that's the plan :)

[@avinolanakazwe6170]

I like how she says her name😭💜

[@NozibeleQamngana]

Thank you :) I'm from the Xhosa tribe in South Africa. We have a lot of clicks.

[@avinolanakazwe6170]

@@NozibeleQamngana oh wowwwww😭💜

[@sharonjumba4648]

The clicks are beautiful.

[@takishabibbins826]

Why wouldn’t a person who is HIV positive wouldn’t want to take treatment?

[@zanelengema7354]

Takisha Bibbins denial I guess

[@favouritepeople1519]

The side effects are very bad

[@hilyam.i3226]

Denial

[@bladebrown4341]

@@favouritepeople1519 There are several different tablets they can ask their doctor to change that one.

[@blessingbreakthrough4199]

Nozi 😂😂😂I love you so much lady, may you please include ma in the next video 👏👏👏

[@pamelanqobile1026]

Is it wise to tell your child about it

[@Thokozile_Tee]

Depends on the child's age and understanding

[@NozibeleQamngana]

Hi Pam, there's been a lot of written about this. I've personally worked with children infected from birth, now teenagers. I've also worked with parents who are positive and don't know how to disclose. It varies from person to the next. My own recommendation is to start them early as possible. Explain to them why Mommy has to take pills everyday. They may not understand what HIV is at a young age. But you could make use of different examples. "God created everyone with big and strong soldiers that fight to protect the inside of our bodies everyday. Mommy has these soldiers. Daddy has these soldiers. You have these soldiers. You may not see them, but even now, they're busy fighting inside our bodies. But at the same time, there are bad soldiers that want to fight the good soldiers, so that you are left feeling sick. You don't want to feel sick, do you? You don't want mommy feeling sick do you? Good. Because you are still little, your soldiers are still strong. But because mommy is older, she has to take this pill to help the good soldiers fighting." At this point, you show them the pill. You can actually make it part of the routine that they help you take your pill everyday. The conversation will progress as they grow and develop more understanding. The example above also helps with when the child is the one that's infected. The worse thing, in my opinion, that you can do is wait. Hope this helps.

[@JustMe-ug3mk]

@@NozibeleQamngana very insightful 👏🏿

[@NomaMPride]

Please do a video on confidence and self esteem

[@uyethembekamoyo5421]

I don’t believe in getting close to someone just so they can disclose their status or to see if they will. Sounds very manipulative.

[@NozibeleQamngana]

I think that is interpretation. The reason why those two ladies came to me was because they wanted to support their loved ones but they didn't know how. Remember, we don't know what the cousins are going through. When I say get close to someone, I'm encouraging you to build the relationship first - so that one may eventually get comfortable with you first. I encourage this so that they may have someone they can rely on. Someone they can talk to. Even if they don't eventually disclose, but knowing that there's someone who cares for them is enough. Trust me I know. So I think its about one's intention, when building that relationship. If you're going to stop getting close to that person because they're not disclosing, the intention was not sincere in the first place. I hope this makes sense :)

[@uyethembekamoyo5421]

Nozibele Qamngana - it all really does come down to intention. Thanks for sharing. 💘

[@NozibeleQamngana]

@@uyethembekamoyo5421 Btw - I love your name! I love the meaning behind it!

[@hopeinallah5112]

What does the name mean . I want to know I am Kenyan

[@massramara2485]

@@hopeinallah5112 means someone(God or whomever they believe in) is trust worthy.

[@maypastermongalemongale5840]

My question is what, is that easy at first to disclose the status. I know that it turn out sour and dramatic.

[@khangelanincalu8504]

Enkosi...

[@pamelanqobile1026]

I mean about your status if positive. N which age can you

[@tumedisobree3811]

My friend's mother also accidentally found them but instead she threw them away and never said a word about them and this was 2017 now it's 2020 she still doesn't know her daughter is positive

[@idozaable]

But why throw them away when she doesn’t know what they are?

[@tumedisobree3811]

@@idozaable She probably wanted her daughter to tell her straight up

[@ndoniyamanzi9210]

If you accidentally find someone's ARV 's I think you should mind your own business. If they want to disclose to you they will and if they don't then back off.

[@anniendhluli2790]

What if that person is your boyfriend🙄🙄trust me you won't mind your business

[@ndoniyamanzi9210]

@@anniendhluli2790 am talking about the scenario she's referring to. I won't comment on "boyfriend" that's a whole different topic for another day. They ain t talking about boyfriends here (there's a separate video for that)