Men dont talk about our emotions with women because often times, a woman loses her attraction to us. She doesnt view us as a man anymore. Almost like "how dare you not be invincible, this isnt what i signed up for." She wants a real man who doesnt burden her with his issues. I think this is one of the saddest things for a man. Years ago, i had an 8.5 year relationship end because i cried ONCE. After years of bs piled up, and i cried ONCE. And that was all it took. This was a girl who, for 8 years told me she wanted me to be emotional. If you were in my shoes, would you do it again? A man shows 1 moment of weakness.....jeez. I remember literally saving her from 2 creeps once. Fought 2 guys at once and sent them running. I was in such bad shape, they beat the dog shit out of me, but i defended her. I guess even that wasnt good enough.
@Kaitdoespsych3 ай бұрын
Wow I’m so sorry. Genuinely that’s heartbreaking. I personally don’t understand that kind of behavior and the story around it. What I can personally is that when a man cries it’s heartbreaking maybe because I don’t see it often and I understand how much they compartmentalize over time being told they have to be strong constantly. I’m sure it can become exhausting
@kellygreenii3 ай бұрын
@@Kaitdoespsych Because healthy women tend to not understand (and sometimes not believe) the things that toxic women do. But a lot of how men behave in relationships have been forged by growing up with toxic mothers, and/or having dated toxic women. Men learn VERY quickly to not show weakness in front of women they are involved with. If you do, many will lose respect for you…and start looking for someone stronger. Or they take what you have shared with them in a moment of vulnerability…weaponize it…and then throw it back in your face as an insult the next time she’s mad at you. Add that to your list of things women shouldn’t do. You will permanently damage a relationship with a man if you do that. He may forgive you, but he will NEVER forget that you did that. Because you have shown that you cannot be trusted and that you will not have his back when he needs you. That instead of supporting him, you will turn on him. You have just disqualified yourself as a potential wife.
@wingnut713 ай бұрын
You cant ever cry infront of a woman. They will despise you for showing any weakness. Learned this at age 9 when my female teacher mocked and insult me for crying. Despite being plagued with depression for 34 years i will only ever cry in private. My daughter even asked "why does daddy never cry?" The answer, of course, was Daddies just dont cry. The truth is we arent allowed to, well, not publicly at least.
@zombine71033 ай бұрын
The modern society and people make me want to puke. Current world we live in is cr*p.
@kiwia82713 ай бұрын
LOL, it was for her, just your turn with her, as it is for 99% of women, which is why you just use them, the same way they use/treat us, this from a 74yr old man who learnt at a VERY young age what women are REALLY like and stayed single.
@dealswithnormiesallday3 ай бұрын
"How men date?"...we don't. 63% have walked away.
@Kaitdoespsych3 ай бұрын
Touché
@FocusedFighter7772 ай бұрын
And more W did already
@brianmeen2158Ай бұрын
“63% have walked away” Walked away to where? Their bedroom and videogame system? Many of these guys are going to regret going their own way
@adrielperez3973Ай бұрын
@@brianmeen2158 like most of the women nowadays? If it's that, I agree
@paulbarrington74152 ай бұрын
Biggest point in my relationship with my wife...we thank each other for everything. We don't say 'you're SUPPOSE to do that". Every little thing, I don't care what, making the bed, cleaning the kitchen, going to the grocery store, we thank each other and appreciate it.
@Kaitdoespsych2 ай бұрын
Love that!
@Lissitchka2 ай бұрын
THIS SHOULD BE NORMAL❤
@Lissitchka2 ай бұрын
THIS SHOULD BE NORMAL ❤
@hasensaurusАй бұрын
so true. my ex comes from a loving family, I from a broken one. I was there for her in the way my parents were never there for each other, and wanted recognition for it. She thought everything I was and done for her as normal and "supposed to" so she never bothered thanking me. We broke up.
@monsieurminimal62773 ай бұрын
I had to end the relationship with my GF which I really loved and cared for, because she presented all the signs that you mentioned.
@PlatoThegreat-kv5ho3 ай бұрын
really explain what and why
@sasapetroski9812 ай бұрын
Do it before you buy ring😉😉
@cephkit3 ай бұрын
A very good synopsis, but with two caveats: 1. Intuitive - you said men aren’t intuitive. That’s not strictly speaking true. Men’s and women’s intuition tends to be different, but neither less important. Men tend to be focused on protective elements, so aggression, and threat sensitivity, as well as applications towards hunting. Women’s intuition seems to tend towards social homogeneity, so hierarchy and status. Men don’t really care as much about status, if someone is in charge, we can get behind them, and most often we’ll all get some sort of taking the lead moment. This also applies to the comment about intelligence and complexity. Ask a guy about his interests, and you’ll see he’s got complex thoughts. Just generally not what you’re thinking about. 2. Narcissism and smash - you said most men go through a narcissistic woman controlling stage. While I understand you may mean young teenage boys being jerks, it feels more like you mean the narrow band of well formed, early resourced sociopaths, who’ve learned to be a problem. Most guys don’t really go through a “controlling narcissist” phase, in a sense they’re getting sex out of you, because most 14yo boys aren’t getting any, and aren’t fighting for it like that. Most guys grow out of normal childhood narcissism before they even get a taste of dating. Many guys spend decades waiting for romantic recognition in spite of how good they are. Separately, if you’re getting butterflies over a prospective, it’s a terrible basis for starting a relationship. The guy that you’re getting flutters over? More likely to be the small group not interested in you as a person. So that’s when you should be more cynical. If they show the character over time, that’s what you can trust. Trust is a keyword here. Hence a trustworthy guy is also going to be ready to commit, and not string you along. Most people aren’t ready before 20, but men tend to be ready to commit much earlier than women seem to, but they should be basically ready at the same time. That’s a big question mark in modern relationships. Otherwise, a great overview of why modern pairing has become terrible for men and women.
@kellygreenii3 ай бұрын
@@cephkit That guy who gives them the butterflies? It’s the guy who represents their unresolved family business/ trauma. So they are selecting for people whom will eventually cause them pain…. In an unending cycle unless they recognize it. Healthy relationships start slowly and often quietly. They are characterized by warmth not by ecstatic high and crushing lows born of unpredictability.
@phosion3 ай бұрын
Good Points listed here. I can agree that there was never really a control phase for me, just a time where realizing the results of romantic engagement didnt have cookie cutter results and the longterm intention of women I had been with were not what the romantic ideals inspired the actions to achieve. I find men to be highly intuitive as well, but not in a way that seems socially dependent as you said. I think that pitfall of women's approach to interpreting men's intentions with dating can be rooted in how they are perceiving themselves as a thing that is valuable to obtain, "being the prize" or "being worthy" etc etc, that stencil of logic doesnt leave room for the truth of the timeless tale.
@astrolord43253 ай бұрын
Thank you for this comment. I also wanted to point out how video about men being misunderstood, also makes points that still unfairly misunderstoods men. You beat me to it. Like advice that Men won't change until they want to change is not about the men. It's about women too, therefore it's humans in general! So many toxic, narcisistic traits and behaviours that is explicitly told some men have, it is not just some men, it is also some women too.
@alenaadamkova76172 ай бұрын
Tammy Peterson was talking about it recently how "the birth control" affected her mentality when she was young woman. She wasnt aware of any danger, because the pills caused she was more risky... she would put herself in a risky situations, without selfwareness. She had depressions and when she stopped taking the pills she got better. Then she started to take the pills again and her personality completelly changed. Jordan Peterson noticed it too. She noticed the same attitude with modern women, that if thye take "birth control pills" these women put themselves in risky situations without realising it, flirting with strangers...engaging a risky situations. the pills are altering the hormonal cycle,the microbipom of the guts,it affects the serotonin release, but also the mindset.
@Kaitdoespsych2 ай бұрын
Brith control has a huge impact on women, that’s true - a great piece of information to discuss
@FocusedFighter7772 ай бұрын
And yet when we denounce it.... And yet, the burden is all on us to take contraceptives....
@hasensaurus3 ай бұрын
Men do change, but the woman needs to prove her value for him to change. If the woman that pays close attention to my needs and makes me want to run home to her says she wants something, I will make superhero jumps to do it. If the woman who nags and criticizes me all day, who would rather drain me and bring me down with each conversation about her low self-esteem tells me to change or she`ll leave: good riddance!
@stefanmatton87783 ай бұрын
Dont bother, they'll never get it
@bonnie10972 ай бұрын
Just treat each other with respect. It's that simple.
@cliftonbrooks-peakperforma98163 ай бұрын
I wish my ex would have known a lot of these things while we were together. Don’t get me wrong I fucked up too. A lot of the things you described was my every day life. You’ve got a new subscriber.
@Kaitdoespsych3 ай бұрын
🤍🙏🏼 grateful it was insightful for you and happy that you’re here. Trust we all fuck up the most important thing is that we learn from that
@blikskaters3 ай бұрын
Fantastic. Things are apparently moving back in the right direction.
@christopherparsons32243 ай бұрын
Some guys may resent this, but I will spell it out plainly for you ladies. Men want women for everything they can't do for themselves. So, if they tell you they don't want to get married, don't want to have kids, don't want to live with you, unless they only want you for a friend to hang out with, all that leaves is sex. If he starts going back on his words and saying, oh yeah, but just not right now, then he was playing you. A man knows in his heart what it is that he wants.
@ibrahimjaved55743 ай бұрын
How men date? You mean the ones that get to date?
@LGDarksteed3 ай бұрын
I think you're talking about a very specific type of man in this video. The bad boy or the jock or high level CEO successful types. Most guys I know aren't looking to have their egos stroked. They also aren't looking for random hook-ups.
@Kaitdoespsych3 ай бұрын
Definitely not an “all men are the same across the board” as that would be too simplistic. But there are patterns in groups of men. I did mention this was more aligned with highly successful men that would take into account CEO, athletes, etc.
@LGDarksteed3 ай бұрын
@@Kaitdoespsych OK. Cool. Fair point.
@shawn_and_one3 ай бұрын
I am retired military man.. She did a good job from my perspective. Purpose > happiness
@zombine71033 ай бұрын
I dont care about whoever any man is but whoever hooks up is an id*ot.
@jeffreyrusselljr77133 ай бұрын
@kaitannmichelle what is "sucessfull"
@darrenskjoelsvold3 ай бұрын
Holy cow the "now I'm responsible for her" thing is totally true and often times the woman you love seems like a toddler on red 40 covered in burning napalm running next to the pool with scissors. Suddenly, you're responsible for her, and she seems to want to destroy herself.
@nucle4rpenguins5342 ай бұрын
Bit of a turn off to me at least ….. I’m not a parent lol we’re romantic partners. ‘Playful’ incompetence doesn’t do it for me, I don’t know women I’ve liked so far enjoyed learning, have strong work ethics, are kind, and are emotionally stable (super underrated trait imo)
@live.life.secure.coaching2 ай бұрын
I laughed so hard at this comment cause, as a woman, this is so accurate. 😂 Some women, sometimes myself even, are reckless and naive. It's a miracle we're still alive.
@SterileNeutrino2 ай бұрын
Then it's time to ride away. B.S. is nice when < 20 but after that it becomes tiring fast
@williescraftscorner1467Ай бұрын
I feel like, as a man there's a couple of things I'd love to offer perspective on. For one, seeking "peace" is a big yes. There is a kind of emotional peace women can offer that's golden, valuable and irreplaceable. The dislike for "the wrong kind" of criticism goes towards that goal too, which isn't to say there's not a good criticism. Something many people seem to forget -- its not what is said, but how it is said, that matters. Same goes for "hinting". At least for myself, I tend to not respond to hinting even if I see it as it feels like it leads down a road of repeating patterns. Which essentially makes the relationship exhausting and usually less peaceful, that's not something I do value in a partner.
@petelipson37698 күн бұрын
Peace. Happiness. Joy..........you nailed it.
@alexandercoll48632 ай бұрын
Hi, straight man here. 12:20 we very much NEED sex to feel loved and validated.
@rada2223 ай бұрын
You forgot to mention that if a man is already looking for a woman for a serious relationship, sex on the first date immediately removes the woman from the list, leaving only sex because such things only happen in the movies "Love at first sight, sex and LTR"
@lordelite33432 ай бұрын
😂 95% them had One Night Stands than gonna pretend to be innocent and raise the bar for you, i don't believe none of them unless their a proven virgin Not the wild cherries. Virgin>girl with high interest>girl who make you jump thru hoops>N/A broken 304
@lordelite33432 ай бұрын
95% them had One Night Stands than gonna pretend to be innocent and raise the bar for you, i don't believe none of them unless they have the pass Not a wild cherry
@bonnie10972 ай бұрын
We think the same about you. If you're that easy, that's on you.
@EriPages2 ай бұрын
Wrong. A man with a healthy libido can and will.
@jimenas6620Ай бұрын
I'm sorry but that's not practical, I'm not gonna have any relationship with somebody who is bad in the bedroom. We need to know this as soon is possible, the two of us i mean 😂😂😂
@ManOfHonorChildOfGodАй бұрын
This is such an accurate representation of how I feel about relationships and roles
@MrLu7773 ай бұрын
I wish most women would see things like this one. One thing I hate is coming home after work, after dealing with certain mean or grumpy coworkers you would like to punch sometimes, and having a woman giving me a hard time for little dumb things or things that happened weeks ago. I had an ex-girlfriend who created a big drama after I came from college, just because she had a dream I was with a blonde hair woman.....twice. All that for a stupid dream. Her logic was ( emotions) that she dreamed it twice, which means it will happen. Talking about Minority Report movie...." You are under arrest for a crime you will commit years later." At the end, I said to her that if she keeps bugging me or creating chaos for dumb reasons, eventually I will find another woman.
@MZ-iq9nzАй бұрын
So you threaten her to leave, then she dreams about it and we have nightmares and you threaten her again it must be so nice to live with you what a horror!
@combatseawolfАй бұрын
I'm happy this comments section is passing the vibe check. Subbed to you for how based you are
@LilithCain2 ай бұрын
Your comment section is always 🔥🔥🔥 So many brilliant, introspective minds! Some, however, make me quite sad, and i just want to hug them and apologize on behalf of the toxic women they've known. 💙😘
@Kaitdoespsych2 ай бұрын
It breaks my heart too 🥹
@sgt923 ай бұрын
It Felt for a moment that you are talking to me.
@DanielRicany3 ай бұрын
You forgot another turnoff, vulgar language and promiscuity.
@jimenas6620Ай бұрын
😂😂😂😂
@kellygreenii3 ай бұрын
Professional guy in his 50s. You’re about 85% right. The 15% that you (appear ) to have missed may be just due to the focus on speaking to a presumed female audience. Like most people, you misunderstand what RP is. Just like you (correctly) realize that men have certain qualities hardwired into our biology. Women do as well. Individual and social psychology can significantly bend those factors (a lot more than in men) but biology is always the firmware operating in the background. What RP is in truth, is that men need to recognize this firmware that is part of women’s reproductive “operating system” and work with it… not against it. You will not be able to recognize a man who is fully RP. He will look like that charming, masculine guy who moves with that relationship energy. He simply gives you what you need rather than what you think you want. The men you notice are the ones who have “taken it” but can’t accept what they now can’t “unsee”. They are angry because they realize that society sold them lies. They are resentful because they refuse to accept that it is not a woman’s job to love them unconditionally. Her “job” is to find the most competent and biologically fittest mate (means different things to different women) that is available to her…. …and that our job as men is to BE that guy--BE that guy she deems worthy to have his genes reproduced and passed on to her children-- or keep honing our edge if we are not. …and not whine about the “burden”. Because once you are “that guy” for a woman? She will find you.
@Kaitdoespsych3 ай бұрын
I very much agree strictly speaking from an evolutionary psychology perspective
@kellygreenii3 ай бұрын
@@Kaitdoespsych That’s what “true RP” is. It’s evo psych….and as a guy you learn very quickly that it drives how most women interact with most men. It’s just that most women are not consciously aware of it. The guy who is “true RP” just accepts that this is how women are--in truth-and moves accordingly. As a result his interactions with women improve. Because he stops doing the things that the Romantic myth says women (should) want, but in reality make him less attractive. He starts doing the things that women won’t openly speak of (or actually complain about) but that most women actually are drawn to in reality.
@SALFXEF2 ай бұрын
Never ask a fish how to catch a fish ask a fisherman. While I agree with some of the things that she said she's not correct on all and there is no way a woman would know. One of the things I disagree with is that there are plenty of women who are out here just to be physical. They are heartless and act without emotion they do not care about your feelings. Maybe I'll have to do a reaction video to cover all of this
@Kaitdoespsych2 ай бұрын
Can’t make the conditions true across the board but I think they’re directionally correct. Of course there are women who operate that way, I just wouldn’t argue that’s the majority
@SALFXEF2 ай бұрын
@@Kaitdoespsych It's way more than you think
@theroyalcrownedtiger29463 ай бұрын
She just wants you for your resources, and she brings nothing to the table.
@sasapetroski9812 ай бұрын
I was in relationship with one girl 2 years, never cheat her, always talk with her when she was in bad mood. One day when I was on work she was on party and start dating with one guy behind my back. My intuition is so strong.. Was talking with her over phone and caught tone in her voice... Instantly was clear to me that she have new boyfriend and we talking about basic every day things. I know to read body leanguage and easy can catch how she feel in moment
@joanofarcxxi22 күн бұрын
Years ago, I met a man whom some women considered a "sex symbol." He was 6.3 feet tall, had a V-shaped body, and was extremely charismatic. He had long blond hair and resembled a Viking, which makes sense since he is Swedish. He was quite charming and managed to convince me that he was my dream man, with his looks and charisma playing a part. He was artistic, independent, and diligent-a fearless individual undeterred by any obstacle. Fast forward a few years, he moved to my country, and we started a family together. However, I was unaware that he was an alcoholic. He began drinking again when our child was still a toddler, turning life into a nightmare. He became abusive, with mood swings so severe they could give you whiplash, as Bella Swan might say. Overwhelmed, I didn't know how to react. I begged and pleaded with him to stop, but he didn't. I threatened to leave, yet he always reassured me that everything would be fine, even as the abuse persisted. Eventually, I called the police, and he was arrested and jailed. I severed all ties with him, which was incredibly hard at first, especially since we had been together for 12 years and shared a child. A year later, a friend convinced me to speak to him again. Reluctantly I agreed. I knew that he missed our son. Fast forward: we succeeded in staying friends and co-parenting our child, a choice I made without court intervention. Mutual trust was key, and it proved effective. I knew that he would never strike me again. And I managed to emotionally detach from him romantically, recognizing the high risk associated with his intermittent binge drinking. Interestingly, my detachment only increased his interest and respect towards me. He's someone who is put off by what he perceives as soft, passive, "clingy" women, yet he is drawn to those who seem independent and indifferent. He thrives on challenges, a trait I now understand as genuinely masculine. I am not advocating that women should pursue relationships with abusive men with addiction issues, or those who have emotional dysregulation. Quite the opposite. It's important to carefully evaluate potential partners and not be influenced solely by charm, good looks, or other superficial qualities. I thought I'd share, maybe this will help someone.
@pblade26Ай бұрын
Another thing with masculine women is we don't want to be dominated. For example: if she's physically stronger than he is and she wants something and says, "you're going to do this or get this for me or I'm going to beat your ass" that's going to be a hard no. However, If we're "playing" around and she overpowers me, that's different.
@yogabbagabba2202Ай бұрын
I really felt the “fuck I fell in love and I have to make sure she is safe at all times”
@Mizugumo_Ай бұрын
this needs more views
@fastenthenzip61803 ай бұрын
But...why would Men get married in today's world? It is a bit too risky for us. 8 years of Dating the same Woman...sounds just fine.
@ppmroberts-t5r5 күн бұрын
That women think leading with sex will make him commit: mind boggling. Explains my history with women: at any point after a few conversations with them they would suddenly push for s3x I m out. They usually didn t even know where I lived at that point, wtf. To me it always felt like a huge red flag them pushing for it too hard too early on. Just keep your legs closed and get to know him well. If he likes you he will be more than willing to wait and enjoy the process of getting to know each other. Hope someone can get value from this notion. 41yo male.
@joshuabenitez3260Ай бұрын
I'm definitely an outlier. As a Christian man I was taught from young not to chase after sex. I lusted after women and wanted to have sex, but I was already conditioned to be more focused on long-term emotionally entangled relationships rather than short quickies (actually never experienced a quickie or one night stand). So I don't have a "hook up bucket". Because (1) I don't feel comfortable with sleeping around with strangers . (2) I feel more fullfilled having sex with a woman I love. (3) I lack the social skills required for being a successful flirt. I'm 33 now. I have only had sex with one person in my whole life up to this point and that is now my ex-wife. A dude who is back in the dating market after 8 years there doesn't seem to be any emotionally available women nowadays.
@Adama.1Ай бұрын
This video is almost funny to me. As a guy, sex is like the least important thing to me when dating. I kinda want to fall for a girl without even kissing, then I know it's right. I managed to do so once in my life. But she left. I feel like she was the one that needed more physical interaction. And I was the one holding myself for ''the one''. Kinda sad she left right when I started feeling like she was the one, but whatever.
@francescovalentini29322 ай бұрын
All correct, except the non intuitive part. We are, but tend to avoid trying to figure it out, preferring to hear a woman’s issue directly. No beating around the bush.
@SterileNeutrino2 ай бұрын
Here's one though: absolutely no ring
@BL-N3xus7 күн бұрын
You nailed it. 👏👏👏
@dmitripisartchik1296Ай бұрын
Something else that is overlooked - women can be terrible at communicating sexual attraction - which is what most guys really would be perfectly happy with while trust and connection are being established. If we're on a romantic date with you, it's because we want to sleep with you - eventually. A good man will not try to get in your pants on a first or even a 10th date - but we're not sticking around for much longer if there is no clear (to us) signal that we are desired (or we see a red flag).
@sergejstankovic23882 ай бұрын
When it comes about CHAD hook up is just fine !
@kimmysander2447Ай бұрын
Great video, a lot of this goes both ways.
@KaitdoespsychАй бұрын
agree
@TRXST.ISSUES3 ай бұрын
I’m just going to stay fixated on that cool bookcase in the corner
@Kaitdoespsych3 ай бұрын
We love a good book.
@justinseiyanyx60923 ай бұрын
It is kinda cool
@blikskaters3 ай бұрын
@@Kaitdoespsych Cool. Let's play book oracle. What is the title of the fourth book of the third shelf ? (from the top start counting)
@njparham3829Ай бұрын
Didn't ask for this channel but it's interesting i might stay awhile
@KaitdoespsychАй бұрын
Glad you’re here 🤘🏼
@fourleafcloveer50112 ай бұрын
Great information if we lived in 1800's. These days, women don't see a man for any reason that matters. They see money, comfort and a social position. It's the idea and how things look over love. My ex never cared about me and it was obvious when we broke up. She was down and out and needed some supplies.
@dmitripisartchik1296Ай бұрын
Small contention. Men are intuitive and we do pick up on signs and clues - we're just wired for a different target environment. Men have to be more intuitive with other men, because that is who they are competing with (allies) and against (threats). As such, men have have a more limited intuition regarding women, because they are generally not threats, and although they can be allies, they are of a qualitatively different kind. Moreover, intuition is not simply and innate and inert ability - it can be trained and developed. Many women fail to take accountability for their neglect of this fact, while some only use it maliciously.
@thenateyoulove15 күн бұрын
You'll be surprised how insecure a lot of men are, a lot of men go to women just for sex sure. But you'll be surprised how many men are terrified of being vulnerable with people in general let alone women. If you can earn that vulnerability with a man, he will fall for you. But he ain't gonna show that at the start cause he's had his heart broken too many times.
@danielhamilton509420 күн бұрын
Women don't want a Man in touch with his feelings, they want a Man in touch with her feelings
@Kaitdoespsych20 күн бұрын
you know, this may be a very valid point for many women especially in the modern world. appreciate this comment
@estebancinco85722 ай бұрын
You are really intelligent. I’ve been watching your videos.
@Kaitdoespsych2 ай бұрын
I appreciate that!
@willdean-stobie57302 ай бұрын
This is fantastic. Well done.
@Kaitdoespsych2 ай бұрын
Thank you very much!
@petelipson37698 күн бұрын
The buckets you mention are mostly correct, but lets be honest, any lady can magically be transported from the "do not touch with a 10 ft pole" to the "hook up bucket" if the guy is in his 20s and has consumed 4 or more alcoholic beverages.....this from a 46 y.o. guy, 😅
@Dreykopff3 ай бұрын
Good video. But still, you can definitely not generalize us wanting physical touch. I want and crave it, yes, but my father, on the other hand, has some big trouble with it, for example. I'd say love language is a concept that exists mostly outside of genders...and people shouldn't make the mistake to start relationships with people that don't have matching love languages (that is exactly the one thing that led my parents to divorce some 20 years and 2 kids in -- they're still good friends outside of that). Anyhow, there's one question I have about touch-avoidant women...are they like that because they get all the hugs and kisses in the world from their female friends and no man could compete with that, or is it exactly the ones that actually lack those touchy friend groups and thus believe they also don't want it in a relationship? The long-term investment provider thing is honestly archaic at this point and it's time people realize this. Women are well-established, well-educated and well-earning parts of the workforce and men no longer earn enough to support a whole family alone. It's gotta be 50-50 or something remotely within reach. That also happens to be the safest option for both partners, because you know, with how flimsy and unpredictable relationships are these days, it has to be possible that both partners can be allowed a graceful exit when they aren't actually a match, given what divorce and separation laws do in cases of clear asymmetry. Broken men and women aren't pleasant to be around for whoever they're gonna see next, so please let's just stop breaking each other to begin with. Meme answer for last question: "Chances are he's serious if he never gets girls to begin with and you find him ugly."
@randyduncan7953 ай бұрын
So much here that's good. You got female dating priority somewhat wrong. A super majority want to date Chad. They give it up the first night for him. They fail to understand that as a 6, Chad who is a 9 will smash them and that's it. If she's a 9 she won't be with a 6 at all but Chad will entertain a 6 for fun only. So she hits 28 having failed this way numerous times with Chad, Tyrone, & Julio but now she meets Brad, who is a 6 like her but she likes him for other reasons yet she expects him to wait for what she gave Chad right away. Is he a sucker to do this? Does she respect him the same way she respected Chad if he does? Finally, you must offer more than physical if you expect him to want you for more than physical. There are so many who think they need bring nothing to the table because in their minds they are the table. I'm so glad I found a fine woman who doesn't behave this way. I had seen so much that even though all the signs were there she gave me all of her twenties before I married her. I've never been happier but I cringe at what our little boy will be up against.
@joanofarcxxi22 күн бұрын
How do you know this? Are you a "Chad" yourself? Are you judging based on your own assumptions, experience, or your academic credentials? And why do you rate people by numbers, as if they were items at an auction? Women gain experience over time in discerning who is a suitable partner. Young women may enjoy the company of less suitable men, but as they mature, they realize these men are not suitable for the long term. I would never date a man now whom I might have dated at 21. If your wife waited years to marry you, she is a good woman, and you should appreciate her and avoid seeking trouble. You should exemplify healthy masculinity for your son, so he will understand how to conduct himself as a man and choose good partners. It's absurd to think all women are the same, only wanting "Chad," and never learning through experience or maturity. If you are happy with your wife, that alone demonstrates that there are women with whom men can be happy. Value this and exemplify being a good man who respects women and consistently makes wise choices for your son to observe.
@ronin77239 күн бұрын
I don't know what you're talking about, but not love, because it's been a long time since women have inspired poetry in men. What's left is social conditioning and strategies as you say.
@leebishop75912 ай бұрын
Man, here. We do see females like cars. We get pissd wen theres a nick or scratch on it. We're territorial and care where we leave/park it. We care how used and how much mileage is on it. We care abt the paint job and rims. And if we test drive it and it doesn't feel right, we'll test drive another one. Bc we want a car that'll last and feels good wen we're in it.
@tonydeluna80953 ай бұрын
This is going to be great! Thank you kait for uploading this!
@Kaitdoespsych3 ай бұрын
Hope you enjoy it!
@tonydeluna80953 ай бұрын
@@Kaitdoespsych I am as a matter of fact!
@Baseraver3 ай бұрын
As a response to 13:22 - 14:02 and why I consider this bad advice: Especially in todays times, it is not considered wise to marry any woman for multiple reasons. What many women dont understand, though, is that marriage is not a necessity for a "successful life". It literally DOES NOT MATTER if there is a ring on that finger or not - both parties can still decide to cheat, both can still decide to break up. The only thing that really matters for a successful relationship is that both parties actively decide that they WANT to live and stay with the other every single day, consistently. This is the simple reason why marriage is not considered to be of any practical use for men who act in a pragmatic way. And women who live in a fairy tail should stop idealizing marriage. There is no safety in it for him to stay at all. It is not a necessity for a successful family.
@Kaitdoespsych3 ай бұрын
I talked about marriage and divorce in my last video. I think marriage has meaning but I also can see where men can be at risk but I also think that’s context dependent. Is marriage for everyone, no. But I think it comes down to values more than the ring itself.
@Baseraver3 ай бұрын
@@Kaitdoespsych Agreed - I basically tried to describe the same: its values that matter.
@wingnut713 ай бұрын
I dont think women do idealise marriage that much. Surr the love the ceremoney, the dress the ring and all that but they see it as a right of passage for a woman and also marker of success. They are not invested long term and they do not intend to honor the vows they say. I'm pretty sure every single woman now approaches marriage with the belief that it is just a temporary arrangement that this necessary for her to get male support while she is in her "mother/childbearing phase". They no longer see it as a life long commitment and there is no intent that they will see it through "until death do us part" Men need to be aware of this as we are still under the illusion that marriage is for life. This is why the laws need to change. Once the husband has performed his role of egg fertiliser and the resourse provider he quickly finds that he is just above the family dog in the his wifes hierarchy of importance. She still needs his attendance for a while longer though, as she would be really lonely and scared with small children on her own. However, once the kids are old enough to keep her occupied with conversation the husband is no longer necessary, he is just useful. This he is further demoted to a live in handyman/taxi driver/security guard pickle jar opener. Once this happens he better not become any sort of a problem or he will be divorced and his wealth, his family and his very purpose in life will be all be taken away from him by the state. This is the pattern that repeats over and over and men need to wake the fuck up and refuse to get married until the laws are changed.
@BizzKek-hc3bdАй бұрын
cheer up - those days are going away. The 3 hole monte game is becoming no longer worth it - not the expense, not the games, not the lies, not the cheating, not the gossip, not the bullshiate. Women need to compete with a warm washcloth and a fast download ... most don't / can't. and add in the recent #M3T00 marathon and y'all choosing bears. meh. Go be strong & independent - more & more of us no longer care anymore. Let our Apathy be your guiding light to our Indifference. Celebrating the 4B Movement: No Marriage, No living together, No Dating, No Sexin (no kids)
@BizzKek-hc3bdАй бұрын
@ghostbearr127 күн бұрын
I have a question for Kait, Are you ever going to address the unrealistic expectations that a majority of women have?
@Kaitdoespsych27 күн бұрын
Yes. In my next video 🫡
@ronmexico59082 ай бұрын
Comparison is the thief of joy
@Kaitdoespsych2 ай бұрын
Facts
@mdhazeldine2 ай бұрын
Woman makes a video attempting to explain men to women (and does a pretty good job of it to be fair) and the comments are all men. Not surprised. Shame really. I don't know if it's that women just don't watch KZbin or if they prefer to be in denial about why they're struggling? Anyway, good luck to you Kait. I hope some women find your channel.
@DarkMatterCurator22 күн бұрын
A large portion or possibly most younger women do not want to acknowledge mens struggles or problems because it might mean they lose some power or validation from their struggles. Socially or economically.
@jpb95243 ай бұрын
You don’t “Deserve” anything you didn’t earn ladies. Marriage is dead.
@Kaitdoespsych3 ай бұрын
I disagree with this statement for lots of reasons but you’re entitled to your opinion. I don’t think the idea that someone has to ‘earn’ love, commitment, marriage, loyalty etc is a healthy lens whatsoever. I also think the meaning behind marriage is what makes it important. People deserve to be treated respectfully- that doesn’t mean everyone is meant for everyone. Compatibility matter massively. Maybe you meant this through the lens of accolades, which I’d agree handouts are not useful but I’m speaking strictly from a lens of humanity.
@jpb95243 ай бұрын
@@Kaitdoespsych Only children and animals are loved unconditionally…. That’s reality … even if we think or feel that it shouldn’t be that way. Accept what is and live from there.
@jamesOneil-mg3bq2 ай бұрын
@@KaitdoespsychIf a man has to earn everything in his life through effort/hard work and "earning it", then why is it not the same for women. Is this another topic in the encyclopedia of double standards you all have? Of course it is. Why the hell in this modern age of "equality" would men not require a women to earn her keep. There are no free rides anymore.
@Tomasz-r2t3 ай бұрын
When man discovers that woman has big baggage of previous relations. This is the end of
@FireMarbles3 ай бұрын
Great video. Regarding physial touch, yeah, at the end of the day, I just want a hug or to hold hands.
@Kaitdoespsych3 ай бұрын
we all need a hug sometimes
@blikskaters3 ай бұрын
two cold hands ?
@Growwithgrace101Ай бұрын
My ex left me really confused because he didn’t fit either hook up or committment....it was like half one half the other.
@RichardSmith-sg3fj2 ай бұрын
All I got from this video was “fuck off, bye.” Haha. That message was meant for me!
@Kaitdoespsych2 ай бұрын
LMAO the sign off
@RichardSmith-sg3fj2 ай бұрын
Sorry for assuming that about you, btw, (in the other vid).
@RichardSmith-sg3fj2 ай бұрын
The one time I gambled and missed.
@RichardSmith-sg3fj2 ай бұрын
I’m just really fed up with the Church cus I believe it was the main reason for the issues you addressed in your vid. It’s gotten to the point where I couldn’t even pay attention.
@RichardSmith-sg3fj2 ай бұрын
I tried deleting it cus I felt a little embarrassed, but KZbin wouldn’t let me, LOL. They’re like “nah, you gotta own up to this shit.” Oh well, better luck next time.
@FlamepwnzАй бұрын
I love when women obsess about men’s attraction triggers, always talking about how men “objectify” them from a physical stand point. But all of women’s complaints about men’s attraction can be made from the men’s perspective as well. I mean 6ft is one hell of an objectification, as well as men being a wallet for a woman’s wants. I don’t hear the complaints from men about being objectified in that way, most of the complaints about objectification is from women.
@KaitdoespsychАй бұрын
oh I don't disagree, its just more acceptable for women to objectify men and I'm not saying thats right but to your point it exists.
@thatiafilatia24 күн бұрын
Hmm so I have sort of this problem with younger women. They usually just put me into the smash category. I am 51 and divorced with 2 younger kids which is why I assumed this keeps happening as they don't see any kind of future with me because of my priorities. But even when I do try to make longer term plans or talk about emotions or ask how their day is going whenever I hang out with them they seem bored or tired and like they are just waiting for me to make a move and inevitable happens and then they have to get up early the next morning so I leave. I mean I know its not a common situation but this is like the 3rd time in a row now and when I try to go out with older women they are either too busy or just not interested. Starting to feel like I am in the twigh light zone with the new dating culture.
@ericbrown113211 күн бұрын
16:58 This is where most women screw up permanently. You can not ever in your life have a 1 night stand, and expect another guy with serious intentions to wait for you. It will ALWAYS be seen as you don’t actually like him and just using him. Sorry ladies the bar is set by the worst man you ever had.
@jasonredic94573 ай бұрын
Men who want a long-term relationship with a woman are not going to date. It's a very recent occurrence, but it's the case for young men at least. If they just want sex, they will ask you out, and it's not going to be hard for them.
@LaboriousCretin3 ай бұрын
Good video on some basics people should know. I may have a couple of differences, but I am far from normal for the relationships I have had. But you hit some important things people should know. Also the all men or women from statistics and there is a range for things. Now as far as compatibility. Thats probably the most important thing to look for at first. A few things that can be argued in ways. But you did a good job on the video to help people.
@Kaitdoespsych3 ай бұрын
appreciate you
@MZ-iq9nzАй бұрын
So basically, you can’t say anything that doesn’t sound cool for them always have to play perfect and happy even if he’s lazy forgot something or in someway disrespect you. Well then, guys, stay single all of you !
@Vincent673373 ай бұрын
Everybody would rather be single than have to deal with another abusive relationship.
@Kaitdoespsych3 ай бұрын
Amen
@aruraru66442 ай бұрын
12:28 "There is a point in a man's life, where they all go through this phase of being a little bit more narcissistic, a little bit more manipulative and totally driven by the ego." Do you mean a phase of being young and worried about that a man shoud be chivalrous for a woman, instead of being just himself?
@Kaitdoespsych2 ай бұрын
Mostly when we are young (women can go through this too btw) we are more self focused and fixated on getting what we want without regard for how that impacts other people
@Janiacster2 ай бұрын
Great video!
@Kaitdoespsych2 ай бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it
@James-y7j7m2 ай бұрын
8:18 "A little bit of crazy keeps them engaged"...No!...no crazy!....at all!...Crazy, in any amount, will be a contributing factor to you being dumped. Also, women using foul language or calling us "bro"...We don't want our women to sound like our male friends..Just stop it
@macca79412 ай бұрын
Here’s some words of wisdom for you. “All women are crazy and all men are dumb” If you can’t accept that then prob don’t be in a hetero relationship
@james-ob9rz5 күн бұрын
Women are addicted to drama and emotions if he’s still and chilled he will be boring
@kojakch2733Ай бұрын
A lot is true. However there are a few things to say. 1)It never helped me to give time and not stormwall a woman. When I did that, I saw her later going with the FBoy. Women fall like flies for liars. 2) When a man falls in love - cute - well, a cute 'nice' man is not what a woman wants - sad. 3) Men want to provide for THAT woman, yes. That's usually when women start to use that and get out the most of it (new car, lux vacations, new designer handbags, and so on). The men who use that with 'charisma and charme' are the burned men who become Bad Boys. So, the current generation of women creates more and more Bad Boys. Gratulation.
@dankurina91912 ай бұрын
I appreciate Kait's attempt to spell out the needs of men. However most, especially modern western woman, can't or won't figure out your list. Schooling, family, media and social media has created deluded females incapable of marriage or long term relationships. These new "boss babes" "alpha females" have essentially become the men they aspired to have. Many women now panic late in their 30's and are "looking for good men" wondering where they are? Well they either found love or gave up. Sure there maybe beta providers still out there but how long will that be attractive last minute after the alpha black widow thing or "settling?" 80 percent of divorces are initiated by women. Most will cash out their chips during menopause. Women get 50 percent, sole custody and even the house quite often. So what's the point? The juice ain't worth the squeeze. Too much risk and little to no reward and little brought to the table. Until the delusion, egos wear off or expectations etc moderate, marriage and the birthrate will continue to decline...
@andersnelson68883 ай бұрын
Production value is good
@haroldgonzalez45212 ай бұрын
Women need a full scientific breakdown to understand basic human emotions that if they respected themselves they would feel as well.
@Kaitdoespsych2 ай бұрын
That is actually a wonderful video idea 💡 stay tuned
@firstgensps2 ай бұрын
Please, Don't forget to mention Hypergamy!!
@Jaredonian3 ай бұрын
This video is actually just making me question my masculinity smh.
@bassw17582 ай бұрын
Women don't fall in love, it's more of a business relationship.
@sergejstankovic23882 ай бұрын
Chad always win !
@Kaitdoespsych2 ай бұрын
UGHHH we hate a Chad lol
@dipndalip3 ай бұрын
You did good here.
@Zombiebambi9912 күн бұрын
Hold up Huffing, breathing heavily and stomping around are not how you get attention, thats how you get left alone. the last person that did those exact same things just tossed a spanner across the work shop, those are steer clear signs not come close 😂😂😂
@remuspierre75732 ай бұрын
good advice
@Kaitdoespsych2 ай бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@manosvenianakis93232 ай бұрын
New here. Refreshing to watch that content from a woman! Recommendation for next video, advise men about women's needs! Subscribe and share!!
@Kaitdoespsych2 ай бұрын
absolutely have a video coming on this topic :)
@freeideasАй бұрын
The title should be, "How the 5% of men who can get a date, actually date". The vast majority of men can't get a date in the modern western world, so it is difficult to talk about how they date. Don't believe me? Make a tinder profile of a guy with normal looks and normal stats, and see if he can get a date. Don't be deceived when he gets a few matches; tinder makes sure that much will happen, but getting a date will be insanely difficult for him. Don't believe me? Try it. I dare you.
@KaitdoespsychАй бұрын
I actually would love to do an experiment using a male profile on a dating app to see the difference in outcomes personally. that is not a bad idea.
@freeideasАй бұрын
@@Kaitdoespsych You probably already know that the difference in number of responses on the dating apps between a normal woman and a normal man is enormous. But I doubt you realize just how heartbreaking and hopeless the situation is for a normal man. If I am wrong, then you will be able to print money. I have pondered asking someone to manage my dating app for me and I would pay that person $100 per first date with a reasonably attractive woman (not a stunner; like 6-level). Of course, the profile and photos would have to be not lies.
@freeideasАй бұрын
@@Kaitdoespsych You probably already knew that the difference in number of responses between an average man and an average women on a dating app is enormous (something like 50-to-1 diff), but the situation for normal men is even more bleak than this statistic makes it appear. If I am wrong about this... that is, if you can get most normal men a 1st date with a barely-average woman, you will be able to print money. I have seriously thought about asking someone to take photos of me and write my profile and then I pay that person $100 per first date. All I would require is that the woman be at least average-looking, and that my photos and profile are not lies. Only reason I have not done this is, I fear that the consultant would do a lot of heartbreaking work with no results, and also because I seem to do OK meeting women in person. There are agencies where men can pay thousands for a first date, but those agencies are very very good at persuading women to go on dates with men that they will never choose for a relationship.
@ronbor1353 ай бұрын
It more seems to me she is speaking about a certain type of man instead of men in general. Either that or im an alien. Intresting take though.
@Kaitdoespsych3 ай бұрын
Definitely specific types. As I mentioned the more achievement driven ambitious ones typically but there can be variation as with anything
@ronbor1352 ай бұрын
@@Kaitdoespsych Ah you are telking about the so called 10 precentile men or however they call them. It does makes sense looking at it from that perspective.
@remuspierre75732 ай бұрын
Good Advice
@Kaitdoespsych2 ай бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@remuspierre75732 ай бұрын
Thank you Kait
@remuspierre75732 ай бұрын
Kait Ann channel
@unclevasya33216 күн бұрын
Good guy patience has limits. No guy with any self-esteem is going to wait around and keep waiting because she banged some other guy that she should not have who turned out to be a jerk. None of us like being tortured because of something some other man did to you.
@jamesadamteytunechi64483 ай бұрын
There's a reason for the saying " When you lie women buy". Rest my case 💥
@Kaitdoespsych3 ай бұрын
yikes...
@james-ob9rz5 күн бұрын
True
@kebman2 ай бұрын
What bs! I can both provide (a lot) and protect. Also women even tell me I'm handsome. Yet I get crickets. So I'm obviously not _that_ handsome, or they have some other reason to lie to me. I tried to make some casual smalltalk to some girls at the dance, but they just got upset. Then they just got up and left. Wtf. I was just trying to be friendly. So whatever I guess I'll just dance with them. There was this one girl who wanted to speak with me some more tho, but when I couldn't train with her that day and told her to contact me another day she ghosted me. And don't even get me started on the married chicks that will flirt with me like they want to bang right then and there... Like, why?
@MX-CO2 ай бұрын
Sex is all we want, and we will put up with a lot to get it consistently, but there is a breaking point, and taking away access to sex is definitely grounds for dismissal.
@chrism67643 ай бұрын
I started watching ready to disagree, now I feel guilty. My Neanderthal brain is a little confused...😜
@Kaitdoespsych3 ай бұрын
lol well I’m happy you took the time to listen. Most people just get reactive and stay close minded. That says a lot about you
@chrism67643 ай бұрын
@@Kaitdoespsych I try and keep my pride out of it and see things how they are.
@dwightnix8932 ай бұрын
Women misunderstand men by not believing them. We are too simple to outguess. You will be wrong the majority of the time.
@Kaitdoespsych2 ай бұрын
Men are, in my experience, incredibly simple
@kojakch2733Ай бұрын
Very important addendum to my previous post. Ist was not mentioned at all: Body Count. If a woman wants a man to commit for a long term, she must have a low count. Why? Men are the investors, providers - even today. So, as a man I am aksing myself: How risky is that investment into her? If she is in her early 30's, wants to settle down, but had a 100 guys in the last decade...huge Red Flag. Is is like investing in some kind of trash cryptocurrency. There might be some exceptions for women who worked in the industry (where feelings really do not play any role and it is done as profession). But also then, Red Flag. A really deep and huge mind change must have happened in her, and a few years without doing it, of course. I am not suprised that this was not mentioned in the video. Because from the view of a woman, Body Count does not matter at all. But it does for men - when looking for the long term.