The way it ALL ENDS: the five endgames that all women face

[@jcnlaw]

Experienced divorce lawyer here. Great video! If you are not her first choice DO NOT MARRY her. Genuine burning desire or forget it. Trust me on this. You can’t imagine what I have seen.

[@jcnlaw]

@@JC_Somerset sure. I have reached out to Orion to do a collab on either his channel or mine. So much to discuss and dissect on female nature, marriage, hypergamy, divorce laws, and how the most successful men navigate the dating marketplace.

[@ssing7113]

That would make nearly every man 99% a no go situation They banged chads and still want them and are pissed they couldn’t get them to commit By the way love your channel. Keep up the good work and being a rational voice for men. I’d be too uncontrolled for media 😂

[@QED_]

props

[@jcnlaw]

@@hansk6166 one obvious thing is she is ripping your clothes off on a regular basis. Another is she often initiates physical contact. Another is the way she makes it easy for you to be together. I have often said that if a woman has genuine burning desire for you, she will walk through a mine field, in a snow storm, blindfolded, with your favorite hot meal in a thermal carry bag, and climb through your bedroom window and rip your clothes off. If a woman is lukewarm about you, she will flake on you, make excuses, or make you jump through hoops to get together.

[@jcnlaw]

@@ssing7113 Thank you!

[@philb-akamrcool324]

I met my partner at 23. She was 21. I was poor and short but good looking. We had 2 kids. She didn't work for 9 years raising the kids. She stuck with me no job, bad , and good job. We're together 53 years. I couldn't have picked better woman

[@vg7985]

You’re old. Today things don’t work same way.

[@philb-akamrcool324]

@@vg7985 I know

[@clv603]

you didn't choose well. You chose what you had access to. You didn't have 50 women lined up to choose from. Women today have every simp in a 15 mile radius saying "pick me." Translate that to today, and your short stack is toast.

[@philb-akamrcool324]

@@clv603 i slept with 10 women before I met her. I’m an Alpha

[@theonpointheavy4401]

She is only confirmed a unicorn if loyal all the way up to the grave.

[@hkszerlahdgshezraj5219]

My ex was honest enough to tell me I wasn't her 1st choice. She even broke up because of this. She was hung up on a guy she never even dated, but was infatuated by. She did me a solid, now I'm with a woman who really appreciates me, and she's still unpartnered.

[@boxoffisa]

That will hurt her and make her regret b

[@hkszerlahdgshezraj5219]

@@boxoffisa I don't think she'll regret anything. That rationalization hamster is spinning at incredible speed.

[@boxoffisa]

@@hkszerlahdgshezraj5219 when they reach 40s or 50s they realize the bad decisions they made. Life even become tougher. If they got kids, those children will be disturbed for life like paying health bills among other things like being emotional punching bag.

[@hkszerlahdgshezraj5219]

@@boxoffisa I'm sure she won't have kids. Or any relationship after me for that matter. She'd been single for years before me. And she would've been unhappy with me anyway, cuz she would've though she could've gotten someone better. Which is false, but that doesn't matter.

[@JudeKnowsWhatYouDoNot]

@@hkszerlahdgshezraj5219 oh you can bet its spinning. You might find she is telling herself you were so horrible that she is glad she is single. Some people are just crazy.

[@josephschuster1494]

I met my life partner when I was 18, she was 17. We did everything right, earning college degrees, NO intercourse before marriage, built happy careers, and had 3 premier children. Only her premature death at age 46 nearly destroyed our lives. Now 73, I’m a widower, enjoying six grandchildren and reminiscing. Life is good again. 😊

[@Kit-kk9cb]

that's a beautiful story. I'm happy you had each other for 30 years at least

[@T-aka-T]

What is a "premier" child?

[@charlesmartin783]

Great story.

[@carmendevine7244]

A 30 year old woman explained this to me when I was 17, her advice was to marry a man I met in college who had good prospects, best advice ever. We got married when I was 21 and he was 22, that was 22 years ago and I feel so grateful for the advice!

[@odoylerules4503]

kinda makes me feel like a race horse being speculated on. glad I got snipped lol

[@ericxb]

@@odoylerules4503lol this comment is a W, never change

[@MK_ULTRA420]

@@odoylerules4503 Yes, that's how most women see most men. Either that or a work horse.

[@demetriusbrown1019]

Unfortunately, now-a-days the advice women are getting from other woman is extremely conducive to healthy long term relationships that lead to successful marriages

[@planetarygodzilla]

@@odoylerules4503 Welcome to reality.

[@helgaioannidis9365]

Growing up in Germany in the 80ies one day my mum said she didn't like American films, because they always presented the journey towards one's wedding day as the journey and the marriage as the finish line, when in real life the wedding day is the starting point of the really difficult journey that ideally ends with death or tragically ends with a divorce. Now coming from such a mindset I think one reason the USA have so many frustrated people when it comes to relationships, it's because society promotes very unrealistic expectations for both genders. Nobody seems to prepare people for getting up at 4:30, because the toddler refuses to sleep any longer, trying to fix some breakfast, but because of your lack of sleep you end up burning it, then your partner gets up and complains about the dirty kitchen and you're trying not to yell at them, because they're taking the kid to change nappies while you're cleaning up the mess. Stories about couples who navigate through those things in a positive way, supporting each other would be so much more informative about what we really want from each other, than stories about how people fall in love. Falling in love is not difficult, transform that into long lasting, loyal love is the tricky thing. But those stories are very rarely told.

[@CordeliaWagner]

Because harmony is boring. People watch movies for escapism. And it's 2023, only the old fashioned people still marry. It's an outdated custom.

[@helgaioannidis9365]

@@CordeliaWagner but what comes after getting married is not "harmony". That's exactly the problem. People expect harmony and then they lay awake all night next to a partner who hurt them deeply and think of getting a divorce, because that can't be "real love", when in fact that's a normal part of being married. I remember the time when my husband decided to leave his job, putting us through some financial turbulence as quite dramatic and exhausting. We nearly got divorced back then, but we managed to work things out. You could easily turn that into a film with tension, drama and a happy end. But for some reason people don't make films about these things, about fear of abandonment, about conflicts with the in-laws, about how dynamics change with the first child, about not being able to get pregnant, ... there's lots of things healthy married couple can go through that make a good story.

[@no_one_211]

​@@helgaioannidis9365If each person is a harmonious person and chooses a harmonious person, there is harmony as the default.

[@helgaioannidis9365]

@@no_one_211 I'm a harmonious person and my husband is, too. Nevertheless you can't always agree on everything. Sometimes one hurts the other without noticing and wanting to. Sometimes the satisfaction of the needs of one partner requires the frustration of the other partner. Sometimes people have problems at work and are very stressed and impatient. They have to find agreements about how to raise their kids. Pregnancy is a period of big changes that change the dynamics within the couple. There's many moments throughout a marriage that require compromise.

[@oddinaustin]

Also, people change. We can't expect our partners to stay the same, or ourselves. People go through shit and we have to be prepared for the fact that when we partner up, we are partnering up with another human., flaws and all, and the flaws and all will change over time. We don't know how to care for someone when they let us down, we don't seem to know how to forgive. Sometimes, I don't think we even like each other, or respect each other as humans.

[@craigwillms61]

Married at 21 and my wife was 20. We met at a bar - I was going to be a rockstar (obviously a great prospect) so clearly it was love. I finally woke up at 33 went to tech college and had a very decent career. She had faith in me I guess, and we scraped by until I got my shi - stuff together. It wasn't always easy, but we were committed to the idea of marriage and now 40 years later we are that old couple that made it. It happens -

[@JoeM1314]

what tech college did you go to? what'd you study? thinking about a career change

[@hindenberg507]

she hasnt been faithful though, not a chance do women go 40 years with the same man. you might not know but shes slept with other guys.

[@JoeM1314]

@@hindenberg507 what a dumb comment. People will say the same thing about dudes. There are just people who decide to sleep around and those that don't, either gender

[@craigwillms61]

@@JoeM1314 It was the 90s and I put my finger in the air -computers. Long run, I became a Network Security Engineer. Went to a local tech school that no longer exists

[@keepcalmandenjoythedecline]

That's really cool that you managed to make enough money for her not to dump you for a cash grab and prizes or straight up cheat on your face. Good job, bucko! But remember to keep on trucking, a good beta's job is never done. You can never have your room clean enough or make too many figures for the bossqueen. 👌😉

[@Bookhermit]

BIG part missing: Those who get together young, before "value" has really been established, and stay together. They don't show up in the stats because they were never "on the market" for dating.

[@angorachic]

This. This is my husband and me and this is the scenario I was waiting to hear.

[@JimzAuto]

Also missing- traditional Indian ‘arranged marriage’ market. Done properly, these marriages have the highest potential for success and happiness.

[@ThePbag]

This is most "normal" people who don't let social media dictate their relationship choices. Meet late in university, graduate, date and perhaps travel a couple years, propose, get a house, have a kid. Those who spend time obsessing over "SMV" and status are the exception.

[@georgia_swann]

@@JimzAuto Indians aren’t always happy(the stigma against divorcing even when there is abuse is severe) and the young ones don’t want an arrangement or they cheat a lot. There is no magic answer.

[@AC-me1vr]

Came here for this comment. We met, dated, got engaged, and married within the year, in my early 20s. Didn't waste time shopping around for something "better". In my eyes, if they share the same core values, and we are heading towards the same general direction, that is more than good enough for me. I think many women (and men) don't know *what* their core values are, so there is nothing to signal/confirm to them that *this* person is the right person for them. So they keep searching.

[@StereoSpace]

I recall a (conservative) woman a few years ago telling young women that between 18-22 the most important decision they face is choosing a mate. They'll never have a better selection of available men to choose from, and that choice is probably the most important they'll ever make. She was practically burned alive by feminists, but, in my opinion, she was absolutely right.

[@jbrownphd1]

I think this was the Asian mother of a Princeton student. She was absolutely correct; the progressive class hated her words with an insane passion.

[@stevenscott2136]

This used to be common-knowledge that moms passed on to their daughters. It only got raised to 18 because we're so prosperous that we can afford to waste 5 years of baby-making time, keeping girls in school so they can briefly memorize the major exports of Zambia.

[@ricardomartinhodacruz]

I mean some can and still hold up well in looks and personality wise to their late 20s but most of them can't. social media attention and the feminisation of public and private institutions destroyed womens perception of themselves and the value they hold in the dating world. every women dreams with the white picket fence, 2 kids and a husband. I mean everyone. But they live in this disney fantasy where they think a men in a white horse is gonna come up and sweep them out their feet withou doing anything. I mean, most women cant even communicate with men without trying to show some type of entitlement or competitiveness over you unless you have a great leverage over them. not even talking about the fact most of them nowadays cant cook, dress as women, they dress like sluts with tattoos, they prostitute themselves with makeup, I mean its a game most men are not playing because theres really no return whatsoever. If you cant vent or communicate or even have a decent intelligent and intellectual conversation with a women nowadays well you better stay with your own thoughts.

[@burnerjack01]

Feminism isn't about women, it's about conformity and control.

[@alicechase9290]

@@stevenscott2136 under 18 girls are still children, and cannot consent, it's important for girls to mature into adults

[@jiyushugi1085]

I hit it off with a wonderful girl when I was overseas and we had a couple of dates. A few days later I walked out of the train station on my way home from work and there she was, dressed to the nines and waiting for me, not knowing when or if I'd even appear. That was 40 years ago and we're still very happily married.

[@jaredruschell2019]

Exactly 40 years ago 🤔

[@skuddingomcwinters6119]

Larp or not, that is a cute fuggin story. 🤣

[@cruise2kx]

Boss.

[@davidtiessen7713]

@@jaredruschell2019 haha you saw the previous guy said 40 yrs too.

[@Treviscoe]

Great!

[@thekingofbohemia1]

At 73 y/o this is the revelation that I have had over the last six months. That none of the women I ever dated, or lived with, ever showed the slightest interest in any of the things I liked. Not one ever called and said, hey let's do that thing you like so much. I'll be glad to die alone.

[@Naturally2Sexy]

That's unfortunately the price men pay when they prioritize appearance over a woman's character and having things in common.

[@andrewmair7371]

Don’t worry, we all do ‘die alone’…🤷🏻‍♂️😆🤣

[@VirgilTStone]

@@andrewmair7371 are you being rude, or just dumb? I don't think you understand what he is saying, at all....

[@ThorMaximus]

I’ve had a few, but I either was too young to convert them to next level or too dumb to realize it. But not to beat myself up too much, it’s been at least 15 years since I’ve had that experience, and I don’t expect it will ever happen again, even though I’m still look like I could play in NFL at 50, women just don’t even try to learn what a man wants anymore.

[@mysticone1798]

Yours is a natural male response to the uncaring, aloof modern woman raised in our gynocentric society. They've been near loveless for some time now.

[@jenniferwaugh3558]

I watch your videos all the time and think you’re an awesome influencester

[@ypcsundet0965]

This is pure gold Dr. Taraban. Thank you for doing this!!

[@professionalpookie]

This is PURE GOOOOOOLD!

[@giovannigaleotti2623]

What you have just described is basically a negative sum game. This "primitive" game evolved in times when survival rates were actually quite low so the relative risk of a hypergamous strategy was less. There's also the monumental problem of determining what a "high value" partner is - it ends up largely being what a manipulative and propaganda laden media system says it is. A much better way of looking at relationships is functional complementarity. People should form relationships to create and build something together. The ability to work as a team, agree on goals and work happily towards them is what matters. 99.9% of life is working towards goals, so it's the nature of the collaboration that matters most. Success is nice, but it's fleeting and nothing more than an optional icing on the cake. Any wise man or woman will know this. Wisdom is a rare quality.

[@isabelguzmanmiranda5025]

Thankfully! I can't believe I had to scroll down this low to read this. A man can be handsome, rich and a total bastard.

[@lightworker2956]

Yeah people SHOULD form relationships because their characters complement each other well, but that's not what people actually do in practice. You see people all the time rejecting good partners for superficially hotter partners. And if you end up with the on-paper-good-match partner, you might end up in a dead bedroom situation.

[@rogueguru2509]

The difficulty with this, is that women are more influenced by social conventions, peer pressure, others opinions and the media who nudge all of the aforementioned. This is also at a faster rate of influence than men. Though yes, men are influenced too, usually by the women in their lives funnily enough. Both Men & Women are nudged by their instincts and biochemical triggers, yet very few of either gender learn of this or seek to override such impulses.

[@overthemoo]

@@lightworker2956I personally don’t see what you are explaining, although I have no doubt it occurs. Additionally, I’ve seen women outright refuse to go for someone who would be considered a 9-10 by most of not all people, because they assume something is wrong with them otherwise. lol (It’s pretty silly, in my opinion, but 🤷‍♀️ they can do whatever they want.) I’ve also seen individual young women date men who differ widely on the scale of attractiveness. The differences in our observations likely just comes down to personality types and the locations we frequent or outright avoid.

[@alsantoshsantana8803]

I like this, so very true.

[@ski8799]

As a data analyst, I appreciate this thorough analysis. What I have noticed is that even older women (40+) have unrealistic partner expectations. Social media, Netflix and unrealistic societal norms have seriously skewed older women’s expectations and standards. I’ve basically punched out, and in so doing am finding peace of mind that I never thought that I would achieve.

[@lari5891]

happens that women can control their reproductive choices and then having a partner is a choice and not an obligation to survive. Game theory cannot explain relationships other probably than the dynamics of a night at the bar. There are no objectively high value anything other than the very extremes, people cannot make rational decisions about their economy or their health, much les when feelings, values, hormones, etc are involved.

[@tdaye6978]

It's true. Last year I literally watched a 40 year old woman say that she was raising her standards and ONLY accepting the best because she got dumped by a below-average man. She was barely average for her age, below average overall. 40 year old women might be MORE delusional than younger women

[@klauseba]

Yup, even my dumbass aunt that is 50+ years old, super fat, very sick (bone narrowing, heart aches...etc), very low paying job that can't even pay her own rent and medicine, was still very pretentious and did not want to marry the simp that was in love with her since they were kids living on the same street. But after lots of pressure from family members she gave in but was expecting him to buy her expensive stuff and treated him disrepesctfully making him take on her family name among other things. That's because she was married to a chad that cheated on her non stop and treated her like shit with lots of yelling and threats. That's what she believes is a real man, not someone that genuinely cares for her, has his own apartment.

[@andrewnelson3681]

Totally agree. I have finally found some peace of mind since I’ve realised that truth.

[@AG-nn8lp]

​@@tdaye6978your comment is the exact reason women over 40 stay single. You go with the "valuable" 20 yr old tart who's gonna leave you and take more than half of what you have all because pussy was seen as "valuable" 😂 Smart. You get exactly what you deserve

[@IY89118]

Thank you for clarifying my concerns regarding dating and relationships! You are greatly appreciated! 🙏🏼

[@georgeelder8415]

The answer is simple, most women have a fear of rejection, and are not used to putting themselves out there... Men, have no choice, but to approach women in some form or fashion... Rejection to a man, is like a no response to a sales pitch. You have to swing in order to hit... 'nuff said.

[@no_guarantees]

Women go after what they desire, don't be fooled

[@kittitaskid]

As a man, I am immune to rejection. In fact, I often joke with my buddies about my best rejections of the week. NEXT....

[@brandongray1059]

Yep. We learn to fail with this stuff early on in life and you just pick yourself up and take another swing until you crack one outta the park.

[@marriagecausesdivorce7540]

Wrong. Women don't approach because they want to maintain leverage. They don't want to seem desperate. They want to be viewed and treated as the prize.

[@exodia_2299]

@@kittitaskidbro i want to get to that level 😂

[@leochen887]

So I'm a retired 85 year old aerospace engineer, a parent and grandparent. On the issue physical appearance, it's important that we maintain our physical fitness, no matter what our age may be. That means that I have to be trim, physically fit, healthy, be kind and generous towards others. Now all this is within my control. What I eat is within my control. Exercising is within my control. Sleep is within my control. Healthy life habits are within my control. Who I choose to be good friends with is within my control. How I take care of myself is within my control. It's all within my control is truth be told. Now I will need help with some of these life practices. So I'll Seek That Help! And I'll Follow Their Advice! So can you. At the end of the day, we hold the reins of our life. I wish you well.

[@1kenneth1985]

Well stated ! Thank you.

[@christopher5585]

Physical attractiveness entirely is vain. You can be fit as a fiddle for only sex ? Even living for sex is vain and empty. You will reach an end and see God like everyone else who has come before you. What will you do then ?

[@mavenowa]

i'll try an fuck every angel on every cloud in heaven ...@@christopher5585

[@ionescho]

@@christopher5585 why do you even think God exists? The only reason you're christian is that you were born in a christian family in a christian country(maybe). If you were born in an isolated African tribe you would have believed in forest spirits or whatever. How do you explain dinosaur fossils or earlier species of humans or Australopithecus? How is an all-knowing, all-loving, all-wise God compatible with children born with leukemia or the fact that he already knows everything we will ever do before we do it yet still chooses to create us and the punish/reward us? It's all non-sense and gibberish.

[@onehairybuddha]

@@christopher5585 There was no mention of sex or your god.

[@alyailithyia]

I'm so glad I found your channel, as a fellow mental health practitioner and a woman who's deeply invested in the topic of the Redpill. This knowledge has helped me immensely in my own life, and I'm so grateful it helped me find a great partner at my age rather than struggling to find one later.

[@neoreign]

For women it's about KEEPING one. Women now a days can't hold on to a relationship to save their lives. Any woman can find a man, men are like socks, you can exchange one every day but finding a great man of value that you can keep? that's a diff story

[@laturista1000]

By listening to this channel, You betrayed your sisterhood of progressive liberal young women. Shame on you! jk lol

[@pmaitrasm]

@@laturista1000, 🤣

[@genuinehuman1]

even i want a long term stable relationship with a woman, changed myself for good, started learning what is happening around and started taking better decisions in life. Thank you, God bless.

[@marijnmens7583]

Gina´s are not allowed in this cult. @@gina2641

[@JennyJun-so5pg]

As you said, women were gatekeepers of sex and men were gatekeepers of commitment. Traditionally, couple made commitment and got married because guys wanted steady sexual partner and women needed financial security. Now women make enough independent money, they don’t need a commitment or marriage as much as they used to. Marriage became a choice, not a necessity.

[@maximumkillmtg]

Financially speaking, you mean. Emotionally, most women I know still want to marry.

[@krausewitz6786]

Financially marriage is still pretty necessary...have you seen the housing market!? Childcare costs!?

[@MrColdwilliam]

Financially: partnership is still very necessary. There are grown 40 year old single women with roommates like they're 20 again. There are wmn approaching 50 straight up wondering who will care for them in 10-20 years. No one should get tricked into thinking life will be all good alone. You need a team to win. Your single friends are not your team.

[@aspiringrootwoman24]

​@@MrColdwilliamand there are women 50+ who have divorced from their reckless teammate who was running through the sexual marketplace like a free agent. There are women in this age range who let the younger dudes have sexual access and go about their business. Women who will never consider marrying because they fear becoming a hospice husband. Women whose husbands abandon them when they develop chronic or terminal illness. 8 million stories...

[@MrColdwilliam]

@@aspiringrootwoman24 all marriages end. Its actually the one thing I can think of that one HOPES ends in one or both parties deceased - hospice is possible in that. There's also the possibility of any partner being bad, this is part of choosing carefully and understanding character. But acting like "things can go bad so I won't do it" is as dumb as saying "I could get sick from food so I will never eat". The problems that come from not eating (or not partnering with someone) is WAY WORSE in the long run than doing it. It's choosing the bad ending off top -- starving to prevent experiencing food illness is as asinine as running head first into loneliness to prevent experiencing a bad marriage/partnership.

[@goldenremnant2610]

(PIN IT PLEASE) Goal: Women getting a commitment from a top tier man (top 10%). Question: Of the five possible outcomes, which is most likely to happen: 7:40 - A. Women keep price tag high & beat out competition. 7:49 - B. Women lower their price tag and SUCCESSFULLY beat out competition. 7:58 - C. Women keep price high, FAIL to beat competition and SETTLE FOR LESS. 8:07 - D. Women lower their price tag, STILL FAIL and still SETTLE FOR LESS. 8:16 - E. Women neither secure nor settle and, BY CHOICE, END UP W/ CATS & BOX WINE. Doc, my first answer is C. My second guess would be E. And for women, that “practical” handbag not only gets the same job done but it also isn’t trying to be stolen from you. Take it for what its worth…

[@pmaitrasm]

👏👍

[@kittitaskid]

If it is stolen, you just go buy another one.

[@Seen_not_heard]

At this rate, I'm in the D category. But due to the age gap between my bf and I, I'm still going to end up at E. He's gonna die before me, assuming we live out our years.

[@yuriy5376]

What does "price" mean in this situation?

[@pmaitrasm]

@@yuriy5376, Юрий translates to Yuri.

[@thefadedhero9824]

The realization that if a woman is with you at all there's a better than 50% chance she's only there because you're the best she could find at the moment and would drop you in an instant for something better really makes you want to run out and find a relationship. And still they wonder why so many men just don't bother.

[@gumdeo]

It's always like that, hypergamy is real.

[@najirban]

As the pimps say, "Hohz come going."

[@drewg7441]

50% seems low. More like 99%.

[@marriagecausesdivorce7540]

Relationships are a value exchange. Once she has extracted your value, it only makes sense for her to move onto the Bigger Better Companion (BBC). Men are suckers for believing that 50 year marriages are realistic, healthy and natural.

[@killer1one1]

​@@gumdeoIt sure is. But I don't even think it's worth getting mad about at this point, it makes perfect sense from the biological/evolutionary standpoint. It's just that never before in human history have we had this much access to seeing all the "options" out there. Usually you'd be limited to your town or economic class. Seeing countless Chads fly their helicopters and private jets on Instagram is not something the female brain was evolved for lol. Likewise for men and supermodels.

[@clearsailing7993]

I saw a statistic somewhere that said 80 percent of women thought they could have found someone better to marry. I think their husbands can sense this.

[@goodneighborsnetwork]

Most women like this had mothers who planted these kinds of crazy thoughts in their heads. Their mothers were miserable, hateful feminists and now they are miserable, hateful feminists. How's that feminism working out for ya?

[@9Ballr]

Interesting, since 80% of divorces are initiated by women.

[@testthewest123]

That is more of a mindset, than something real. Our modern life environment constantly suggests, that there is a better "product" just around the corner. So no wonder women think so as well. And men often do too.

[@MauricioMontoya-dd1wi]

yeah all women look two steps above . I met a psychologist at age 22 ; she was 21 I had thought she’d be the one but she left me because “ I had no status “in our Colombian society .I was attending Universidad del Valle a institution which is recognized in Germany ,while she was at Javeriana , a jesuit private college , later she marred a professor who aimed at an MBA in Quebec so he took her and their 2 kids , once she met a french goy with a much higher status she stayed in Canada with HER 2Kids … and her husband returned to Cali Colombia to teach atJaveriana ( no kids no wife and lotta bills to get paid to the local college for his MBA)later she confessed to me she had slept with Univalle ‘s dean of psychology in order to get her thesis done for Javeriana! !!! oh …She was pretty , short , “ well educated , well mannered and used to dress up and knowledgable on Lacan and Freud … I think she is the perfect witch / bitch I was saved from !

[@ralphy1989]

Familiarity breeds contempt

[@ThePhabulousYvelise]

This is so spot on! I worked in matchmaking for a few years and noticed some patterns. A huge one is that so many well educated and successful women are alone. They are intellectually smart, but they are just baffled as to why they are alone and childless. Because they pursued their career and never put forth the same effort into finding the right man for them, marriage or family. Then they always say that men are intimidated by them. Which they are not. These men want a traditional, feminine woman who wants marriage and kids.

[@ross3818]

and it would be politically incorrect to tell them that they're picky picky picky.

[@ThePhabulousYvelise]

@ They did not like hearing it. I did not go into great detail with many because many did not want to hear about what men wanted. It is sad that many women are in denial or just don’t want to hear the truth or try something different.

[@PaulVerhoeven2]

I'll tell you even simpler truth. 1) Straight men are repulsed by ALL manly qualities, including career success (and manly behavior it both requires from and instills in women) and sexual experience. 2) A value of a woman as a potential wife peaks at 18 and only downhill from there. As number of potential children a woman can have goes down and number of potential sexual partners a woman has had goes up.

[@anastasia10017]

what is odd is that men want traditional, feminine wives who want marriage and kids. But the same men will raise their own daughters to be over achieving, educated, successful career women. so what does that mean ?

[@PaulVerhoeven2]

@@anastasia10017 " But the same men will raise their own daughters to be over achieving, educated, successful career women. so what does that mean ? " We have just 1 child on average (because women do not give even successful men 3+ children as they should), plus feminism made it so that most women are not going to find a husband anymore, and most of those who will will not keep him.

[@schroederluck7984]

The issue won’t fix itself anytime soon. Weak men have given rise to numerous average women thinking they are 10s online. Hookup apps leave numerous average women alpha widowed. So many women genuinely believe they can get and even deserve a high value man. Reality hits them like a truck at some point in their 30s, and they all become bitter and blame men for their problems.

[@postmodernmining]

Let their cats eat cake.

[@TruthBliss]

This won't change until women become financially dependent on men again. They are simply not nearly as heterosexual as men are, and that gives them a tremendous advantage in the dating market. Men can be seen as weak because they need women physically and women as strong because they don't need men physically. Only men are heterosexual. Women are much easier seduced by another woman than even the most handsome guy.

[@okaySam]

It's horrible. The mindset spread from woman to woman, generation to generation. It spreads through social media and education. Even therapy is female dominated. The subtle hatred and disappointment in men is getting more toxic as time goes by. As @pcap8810 said, you're basically screwed if you want kids, unless you're really lucky and you find a loyal grateful woman. I only have one friend, who has achieved this. They live in a small town. His wife stays home and takes care of the three kids. He brings home the bacon. They've been together for over 20 years, since the age of 17. That's a unicorn relationship nowadays. Every other couple I know has constant power struggles and toxic dynamics. Choose wisely gentlemen.

[@Proj.A.Z]

I think what women offer is of interest and of value in different ways while a guy ages…especially the more a man gains a certain amount of experience! That’s why as a man at 53, now that I am divorced after an 8 1/2 year marriage since 2017 and childless? I am happy and even more so relieved at being aware (and experienced enough) I know what I have to invest in to attract and maintain a lay-dee doesn’t have a R.O.I as I thought it did in my youth and during my marriage… In fact, in my view, with the amount of M.E.A.T (Money, Energy, Attention & Time) required, I wouldn’t commit to any women no matter how ideal an example a woman may be…just b/c long term women become more incentivized to use their Hypergamy based on how well I fulfill what any one wants and needs in a relationship. In fact long term, considering the dwindling SMV of Lay-Dees…? Time may be on men’s side but only if we refrain from committing and investing long term or in LTRs… ….sadly, men still may falter knowing this b/c we still suffer terribly for our thirst and delusions on what we think want from Lay-Dee physical intimacy and validation…even as we as men age… My choice Dr. Taraban? Yup, you got it right…as women age they become more and more expensive to invest in and maintain, including the cost of rearing and caring for “their” children, meeting the demands and expectations by name, considering their goals (said to be “Our goals”)and wants for ideal lifestyle and as well as managing often their bad choices economically and in regard to their own health related concerns that require real attention- apart from having to deal with one’s own…. To be married is to be a man trying to often unsuccessfully meeting the standards of one’s wife- all the while what one values and respects is either secondary, tertiary or non-issue or concern when everything else and everyone else important to the wife is first, second and etc. This is why it is my take that “all” women in degrees require that someone- someone usually a thirsty Beta-Bucks dullard is so blind to his own SMV but also even more so the SMV of his wife….as the lay-dee one invests in… MEN are hardly knowledgeable of what we are sharing versus what women are really actually investing in the guy they marry…. My view of what the end game is for MEN investing in a woman in one of your noted “end games” for women? Men will actually or learn to see through experience how women are really just costly “sacks” of wants, expectations and demands- that a man has to buy over to risk all he has all the while the same “sack” costs more, more and MORE…overtime! …while anyone of US (in a committed LTR) gets less and less from what we invest in over-valued “Sack”!!! Boys and MEN? We are quite pitiful! WE would be better off NOT investing at all in dumb, legal Ponzi-Scheme!

[@Proj.A.Z]

I think what women offer is of interest and of value in different ways while a guy ages…especially the more a man gains a certain amount of experience! That’s why as a man at 53, now that I am divorced after an 8 1/2 year marriage since 2017 and childless? I am happy and even more so relieved at being aware (and experienced enough) I know what I have to invest in to attract and maintain a lay-dee doesn’t have a R.O.I as I thought it did in my youth and during my marriage… In fact, in my view, with the amount of M.E.A.T (Money, Energy, Attention & Time) required, I wouldn’t commit to any women no matter how ideal an example a woman may be…just b/c long term women become more incentivized to use their Hypergamy based on how well I fulfill what any one of THEM wants and needs in a relationship. In fact long term, considering the dwindling SMV of Lay-Dees…? Time may be on men’s side but only if we refrain from committing and investing long term or in LTRs… ….sadly, men still may falter in an LTR knowing this b/c many of US still suffer terribly for our thirst and delusions on what we think we want from Lay-Dees and the reality of what they are actually willing to offer US…as husbands and lovers…as in physical intimacy and external validation…even as we as men age…a whole lot of crap is on US and hardly nothing is on them socially and legally! My choice Dr. Taraban? NOT to BUY in ANYMORE than I already have…which was costly but not so much as other men I know! Yup, you got it right…as women age they become more and more expensive to invest in and maintain, including the cost of rearing and caring for “their” children, meeting the demands and expectations by THEM, considering their goals (said to be “Our goals”)and wants for ideal lifestyle and as well as managing often their bad choices economically and in regard to their own health related concerns that require real attention- apart from having to deal with one’s own…. In my experience, to be married is to be a man trying to often trying to unsuccessfully meet the ever changing or growing list of standards of one’s wife- all the while what one values and respects is either secondary, tertiary or non-issue or non-concern when everything else and everyone else is more important to the wife as first, second and etc. and one hardly knows how one fits in! This is why it is my take that “all” women in degrees require that someone- someone usually a thirsty Beta-Bucks dullard who is so blind to his own SMV but also even more so the SMV of his wife….as the lay-dee one invests in…to tolerate and survive such a relationship! MEN are hardly knowledgeable of what we are sharing versus what women are really actually willing to invest in the guy they marry long-term….when such things are subject to the duplicitous feelings of anyone of THEM! My view of what the end game is for MEN still investing in a woman in one of your noted “end games” for women? Men will naively invest in or accept their reality assuming the odds are on their side OR soon learn through experience how women are really just costly “sacks” of wants, expectations and demands- that a man has to buy over to risk all he has all the while the same “sack” costs more, more and MORE…overtime! …while anyone of US (in a committed LTR) gets less and less from what we invested in an over-valued “Sack”!!! Boys and MEN? We are quite pitiful! WE would be better off NOT investing at all in such a dumb, legal Ponzi-Scheme!

[@macgp44]

As a 65 year old man who has been happily married for 38 years I am fascinated by the current mating "marketplace". It's sad that there are so many "losers" and the forecast is for the % to increase.

[@dontcallthemliberals3316]

yeah most of my friend group are the 'losers' in this scenario, most of them male and never been laid and never will. I just tell myself its evolution, I don't feel bad for the fish I ate or the wood I burn. But I sure as hell don't want to be one of them haha.

[@macgp44]

@@dontcallthemliberals3316 What I don't understand is the attitude of resignation of many of these guys. Even if you're not tall and handsome, you CAN get a girlfriend, you just have to work harder. Become physically fit, dress well, and most important of all advance in a career and you'll find there are plenty of woman who want to be with you. They may not be supermodel types, but they are still beautiful. And that beats playing video games all day in Mom's basement, or sh¡tposting anti-women gibberish on some "men going their own way'' website, right?

[@samnur6957]

@@macgp44 That won't change the fact that women have set expectations to be too high for most men and will feel like they are settling making the relationship not worth it in the long run due to the feeling of not getting their value worth. I agree with guys at least trying to improve their life but in nature, not all male species get to procreate which is perfectly normal.

[@markremy4946]

@@macgp44 Confirmed bachelor here.Never gave the bimbos the time of day.Just LOVE keeping my freedom, money and piece of mind!😀😄😁🤣😉😛

[@markremy4946]

@@macgp44 Catering to women?? I wouldn't lift a peanut, never mind weights, to impress bimbos!!Too funny!😀🤣😅🙃😋

[@aquadisiak9357]

I am a little bit older than you guys and I am finding that hypergamy never ends. I took an attractive forty- 8-year-old woman on a trip with me. you could already see the wrinkles aging spots and sagging skin. She just cover it up with makeup spending two hours in the bathroom. during the entire trip all I ended up doing was take selfies of her at different places of interest. she changed her outfit several times. She was insistent I take several shots until they were perfect. I knew exactly what was going on. These pictures were her marketing pictures to try to continue to market better and better men. A 48 years old she was childless in her mind she was holding out to have children with the right guy. She actually thought that since she was on the pill she was conserving her eggs.. in reality she was only a couple years away from metapods and only had a 3% chance of getting pregnant but there she was, in the streets still playing the hypergamy game. Holding Out for even better offers

[@alienkishorekumar]

Attractive women have no personality, they mistake admiration from others as personality.

[@neilmcdougall4927]

Princess project simps required... Marketing department. Those pics are no doubt going to social media in order to branch up

[@taridean]

I have a relative exactly like this. She's over 50 and one of those that still believes being a strong and independent Boss-B is still going to land her a 1% man. There older she's getting the more she's doubling down on it cementing her in Option E.

[@prairiedweller8917]

So sad and so delusional.

[@annesmith9181]

Why did you take her on a trip with you? You’re old too. You know what age does to the body. And here you are. Criticizing the appearance of her skin. You knew she was old when you invited her. You got what you wanted out of it.

[@xKarenWalkerx]

A) Lesbianism (reject men altogether) B) Single motherhood (men in and out) C) Trad Wife D) Money Girl (escorts, entertainers, trophy wife) E) Career Woman (Married to job)

[@SuperReyand]

Very well put, congrats.

[@joshbottube]

F) Anti-Trad Wife: Married but resentful & miserable. Eventually divorces / cheats / or ruins husband’s life because he wasn’t high status enough.

[@SuperReyand]

@@joshbottube 💯

[@jeffcastetter6122]

@@joshbottubeyup! 💯…almost 😂

[@maam-yj8ph]

​@@joshbottube lots of overlap and pipelining from category C to F.

[@foxyfocus3170]

This is so true. I started dating my husband at 18 and we are still together and happy (I am 25 now). Meanwhile most of my female friends over 27 find it so difficult to find a partner or to have a relationship longer than a year.

[@gumdeo]

They wasted their best years.

[@mikey92362]

If I may offer one bit of advice... Stop hanging out with your single friends. Women get jealous as they get older. They WILL start to poison your mind very slowly over time. They'll eventually try to convince you that you could do better. Say what you want now, but one day your husband will be at a low point. He'll need you more than ever. And the temptation to abandon him at that moment will seem overwhelming. I've seen too many decent women fall prey to peer pressure and start believing the lies. Single women make married women single. If you stick with, and appreciate the man who you gave yourself to in your prime, you will never grow old in his eyes. This I can assure you.

[@nico3641]

In all honesty, I am happy for you, but you do have to admit that you lucked out by finding a man that you still like at 25 when you were 18.

[@mikey92362]

@@nico3641 She'll have five different husbands in her life. They'll just happen to all be the same man. That's the trick. You have to go in knowing that you will both change and accept that you'll have to stick it out and learn to love and accept the new person. It's not easy! But the rewards can be incalculable. Love isn't a feeling. It's a choice. You have to wake up every single day and make the decision to love the other person. Feelings alone aren't enough.

[@slchance8839]

@@nico3641 why does it have to be luck? cant she just be good at decision making? When, exactly, do people get credit for their own hard work and smart moves? Or is everyone doing well, just "lucky?"

[@goldenremnant2610]

7:00 - “The men who have what women want, are the least likely to give it to them.” “From their perspective (men), the women’s demands are too expensive and they only become MORE expensive as a function of time.”

[@amanpianoandjesus5268]

Kinda like “the bank only loans to those who don’t need it”

[@Khan-rz8qi]

In my experiences, it’s honestly the greatest time in history to be a top percent man. Women’s unwillingness to compromise with men they consider of lower value makes the game so more easier. I don’t really have a solution to give the fellas who aren’t in this demographic, but for those that are, enjoy this leverage as much as you want. Women feel like they don’t have the need to compromise, so we shouldn’t feel like we have to either. Fair is fair💯💯

[@pockettangerine-13]

Must be nice bro. Wish I chose money over meaning sometimes

[@SuperMBARutgers2013]

Feminism told women they can do what men do. That we are equal. Except for men, time is on our side.😊

[@williammentink]

Yes. There are men out here today hitting numbers the Ghengis Khan and his brothers never got.

[@passthegravy7688]

A man can love a women of lower value but a woman can't because her priority is herself.

[@dozoneil1253]

Khan keep doing your thing and punishing those women for their stupid ideology, I hope one day I’ll reach this level of success and be part of the game lol

[@fassila]

I wish you’d put some graphics like a distribution graph to aid in understanding the five end games. Great work! I am a big fan of your content.

[@teegeeontario1180]

My problem with the perceived SMV that people have is that it is based mostly on superficial attributes. Browsing a dating app is all about the superficial. Just because a girl is young and pretty does not mean she will be a good wife. Just because a man is tall and handsome does not mean he will commit to marriage or be a good husband. If you get to know someone in real life, you may discover a diamond in the rough. Character matters in the long run. We all age. Dating apps are cancer.

[@ksummers1948]

That superficiality IS the problem now! I tended to date guys "lower" on the scale when we met in person; and you're right because I could experience his kindness, humor, generosity and a lot of other intangibles that just can't come across on an app

[@calbar8793]

You just countered your own point. “Lower”… right

[@inconnu4961]

Your clue is in the name: Sexual Market Value! Its not RMV (relationship market value) its not MVM (Marriage Market Value) and it sure as hell is not HMV (Happiness Market Value). if you want to discuss things that people are not discussing, you need to stop confusing the issue, and conflating a greater meaning to the SMV!

[@marianhunt8899]

Correct

[@LiberPater777]

Remember guys: Virtually all men who've been divorced, thought for certain at one point that they'd found, "the one".

[@user-cz8gi2om3n]

Can confirm as a man, I have never had as many options as I've had since I hit thirty. The idea of turning down a woman that I was attracted to was unthinkable to me in my teens and twenties, now it happens all the time.

[@ThugShiTzu]

You get to a certain age with enough bedroom experience, and the ego boost of turning them down is better than the conquest of clapping them cheeks. But that can only happen if you have had enough experience with women. A great feeling nonetheless.

[@povang]

Same, Im 40 now and Im a magnet to women, while in my early 20s and teens I was virtually invisible to them. Women like men that have mastered life, the young boy has not; aka women wait at the finish line and pick the winners. A mans value increases with age, a womans value decreases with it.

[@grantwithers]

based and metooed

[@jeffjohnson5053]

Western women are very arrogant and thinks she is on top of the food chain. Western women trash talks men every chance she gets. It is a waste of time to try to kiss up to western women. The divorce laws in western countries fully backs up western women. Only fools would try to marry one and when she divorces you, you men will pay dearly for it. The only way is to be with FOREIGN WOMEN. They are humble, maintenace free like Honda cars, and will make better wives. Don't say no one told you so, don't say no on warned you so!!

[@dialac1]

Bro I understand 100%. It’s almost like the more I go up in my 30s, I’m super selective and almost uninterested cos I spent my 20s and early 30s building myself

[@fidanza8109]

Your analogies are unparalleled when talking about these topics!! loved this one

[@danielhill5075]

Very true. I was very shy in my teens and most of my 20's. By the time I hit my my early 30's I had a relatively high paying job, lots more confidence, and all of a sudden lots more dating options. Note to the young incels who are frustrated that they can't get a lady. Time is on your side. Spend the next 10 years improving yourself and building a career. You will be surprised at 30 by the number of women who want you.

[@glenbarratt1257]

While true, the problem is that a lot of 30-year-old men are just barely starting to acquire dating experience, while the women their same age or even younger have had a lot, lot more "experience." Some men reach their 30s having improved themselves significantly, motivated by the hope to be a more enticing partner choice for women so that they (the men) can then finally have some significant dating experience. We see a ton of women complaining about men, especially from women in their 30s and 40s. The complaints are usually that the men are "not committing", "immature", and "playing games" (or in other words "Men ain't s**t"). The thing is that most of these women in their 30s and 40s getting frustrated with men are either pursuing the "top 10%" of men who have way too many options and will likely never settle with anyone, or these women are "pursuing" (or perhaps you can call it "settling for" even though it really shouldn't be seen that way) a man that is close to their age and RMV, but who has had very little dating experience (and is totally justified in wanting to acquire more dating experience before committing). Modern trends are leaving most 30-something-year-old men with very little dating experience, and a very small portion of 30-something-year-old men with a ton of dating experience. If a 30-something-year-old woman pursues a 30-something-year-old man with a ton of dating experience, she is extremely unlikely to secure commitment from that guy. (Those guys rarely commit to any women and if they do commit, it is to a woman in the "top 5%" [and most 30-something-year-old women do not even really know a "top 5%" woman, because a huge majority of the "top 5%" women are in a younger age bracket.) If the 30-something-year-old woman pursues (or "settles for" - even though it really shouldn't be perceived as settles) one of the many 30-something-year-old men with very little dating experience, it would be very unfair for her to expect that man to commit to her unless she too has had very little dating experience, which is unlikely.

[@Meleeman011]

problem is i don't want to build a career, the only way for me to be successful is to stop fighting society. and I've only recently given up. giving up means i accept that i will step on people and that is how the world works, i will lie casually as everyone else does and play the game and stop trying to shit in everyone's cheerios, or say things that make them uncomfortable. i'll stop solving the problems i want for the sake of my own happiness, because i've encountered a brick wall and that is society itself, one i don't know if i can surmount in my lifetime.

[@lightworker2956]

The issue is that if you're an average 30-something guy (not a guy with a high-paying job like you), then yes you can find a woman, but she's probably a single mom or an alpha widow or bitter or obese or a fervent feminist or crazy. And likely she's not actually going to make your life better overall. The quality of those women who grew up with social media and internet dating is very low (older guys don't realize this), and the high-quality women who do exist don't go for average guys.

[@claudioman4472]

you fail to explain why men would want these obnoxious financial predators then who didn't want them when they had nothing...

[@PrinceoftheVioletFlame]

Because women are idiots that wouldn't know a good mate if it hit them in the head. They base their choices off of feelings and emotions and based on popularity. If women see that other women want you, they will want you. If women see you are alone or that other women dont want you, then they too wont want you. Women are not logical creatures. They base their decision off of feelings and following the herd . @@melc4308

[@ryanbailey8588]

This right here should be turned into a book. Masterfully articulated. The best RP-aware synopsis of the modern dating landscape that I’ve seen in a while. Clear, concise, without the bitter undertone, and just plain accurate.

[@okaySam]

The book is coming. But this sounds like hate speech to most womens ears. They've been lied to so many times, the truth becomes unbearable.

[@Proj.A.Z]

I think what women offer is of interest and of value in different ways while a guy ages…especially the more a man gains a certain amount of experience! That’s why as a man at 53, now that I am divorced after an 8 1/2 year marriage since 2017 and childless? I am happy and even more so relieved at being aware (and experienced enough) I know what I have to invest in to attract and maintain a lay-dee doesn’t have a R.O.I as I thought it did in my youth and during my marriage… In fact, in my view, with the amount of M.E.A.T (Money, Energy, Attention & Time) required, I wouldn’t commit to any women no matter how ideal an example a woman may be…just b/c long term women become more incentivized to use their Hypergamy based on how well I fulfill what any one wants and needs in a relationship. In fact long term, considering the dwindling SMV of Lay-Dees…? Time may be on men’s side but only if we refrain from committing and investing long term or in LTRs… ….sadly, men still may falter knowing this b/c we still suffer terribly for our thirst and delusions on what we think want from Lay-Dee physical intimacy and validation…even as we as men age… My choice Dr. Taraban? Yup, you got it right…as women age they become more and more expensive to invest in and maintain, including the cost of rearing and caring for “their” children, meeting the demands and expectations by name, considering their goals (said to be “Our goals”)and wants for ideal lifestyle and as well as managing often their bad choices economically and in regard to their own health related concerns that require real attention- apart from having to deal with one’s own…. To be married is to be a man trying to often unsuccessfully meeting the standards of one’s wife- all the while what one values and respects is either secondary, tertiary or non-issue or concern when everything else and everyone else important to the wife is first, second and etc. This is why it is my take that “all” women in degrees require that someone- someone usually a thirsty Beta-Bucks dullard is so blind to his own SMV but also even more so the SMV of his wife….as the lay-dee one invests in… MEN are hardly knowledgeable of what we are sharing versus what women are really actually investing in the guy they marry…. My view of what the end game is for MEN investing in a woman in one of your noted “end games” for women? Men will actually or learn to see through experience how women are really just costly “sacks” of wants, expectations and demands- that a man has to buy over to risk all he has all the while the same “sack” costs more, more and MORE…overtime! …while anyone of US (in a committed LTR) gets less and less from what we invest in over-valued “Sack”!!! Boys and MEN? We are quite pitiful! WE would be better off NOT investing at all in dumb, legal Ponzi-Scheme!

[@TTGTanner]

Dr. OT is currently writing a book

[@gn7344]

Absolutely correct Ryan.

[@VeraLawRN]

You are helping me be a better prospect. Thank you.

[@EleneDOM]

I neither have nor want a designer bag. None of my female friends, colleagues, or patients have them either. And I have a different sense of what "endgame" means. My husband died suddenly and very unexpectedly a few months ago. We were together nearly 44 years. I don't know whether you would have considered him "high value," but I certainly did. So the "endgame" for me-- insofar as this is the end, as I am likely to live quite a while yet-- is not a matter of what sort of marriage I have, but what sort of widowhood. A very different perspective. I think it's worth mentioning that no matter what sort of partnership a woman finds herself in, since women tend to live longer than men, unless she is with a much younger man the "endgame" is likely to be living alone. We need to plan for that contingency.

[@frappalina]

so sorry for your loss

[@byrnhard]

Sorry for your loss. Enjoy life non-the-less, your time on this sorrowful earth is short but meaningful.

[@themightyafrodite5029]

This is the one.

[@senorita-qh6bm]

They never talk about the women that did everything right like it’s women’s fault for being human and aging 😂also men older than you never stop hitting on you so how do options lower they just increase?

[@ari4405]

Grateful for your comment. 🙏 I was thinking similarly, even though I am nowhere near your life experience. Friendship network will be the endgame, as my friends and me aim to land in the same elderly house later on, hopefully

[@Zeus-vk7fd]

You love her But she loves him And he loves somebody else You just can't win And so it goes Till the day you die This thing they call love It's gonna make you cry

[@twinkledust4642]

Love stinks! 😂 - Wedding Singer.

[@doctordetroit4339]

I've been thru diamonds.....I've been thru minks.....I've been thru it all!!!!!

[@peekaboots01]

That's been my experience.

[@One-z6y]

@@twinkledust4642 The J. Geils Band

[@panziniman]

Love stinks

[@modickens1272]

Dating for women is like eating out, the longer they wait to choose, the more limited options. Yes, they can still land a meal at 3AM but it'll be out of a gas station and not a 5 star restaurant.

[@issac1135]

Nice analogy

[@modickens1272]

@@issac1135 thanks

[@Erica-cf1xb]

If she follows God's plan...that dynamic changes. It goes in the same direction as men but with alot of variables.

[@MistresstheMediator]

😂😂

[@hagendreel442]

Thanks for the great content!

[@lazornagy3735]

Very good. Man, I feel so lucky... I've been with my wife for 32 years and we are happy together.

[@Talentaire]

Enjoy your luck ! We are many to envy you :) Congrats !

[@Flaviusbob]

I am really happy since I discovered your channel, you speak so much substance, explained a lot of weird situations I have encountered. Thank you and looking forward to seeing more of your content! Keep up the good work!

[@kiatalks555]

This is such a great analogy! I did option B. Thank God I am living a great life because of it! Best decision I ever made.

[@eneveasi]

I’m a high performing man who actually just wants a lifetime relationship and it has been EXTREMELY hard to find that consistency and commitment from my partners. There is some sort of deep trauma in human connection these days.

[@ramonfletcher9604]

Sorry to be blunt but my best guess is, that it is because you want a lifetime relationship and hence put them on a pedestal or make it about them. Remember women date up and they can't do this from a pedestal. My experience is to focus on yourself, stay high-performing, and if you choose to, allow them to follow.

[@eneveasi]

@@ramonfletcher9604 Yea.. I mean I don't really know if I was putting them on a pedestal but I certainly agree the only way forward is to focus on myself and let someone follow if they want. It's clear that they need to actually value and choose to be with me as much as I have been choosing to share my life with them. I realize I was giving to people and choosing to be aligned with them even after they started to drift away and that does not work at all.

[@augustuspalmer4844]

@@eneveasi I think about 90 percent of the problem in the last 25 years is the internet and social media.

[@richardg1626]

@@eneveasi Definitely that. You have to let the option C woman find you. But you have to have the substance they can value when they find you. That substance needs to keep growing when you're with them. If they want to follow, grow, with you, they will stick.

[@eneveasi]

@@richardg1626 Yea. I appreciate that. Thanks. I am doing my best to be that kind of person and feel I am succeeding. That said, I think it is a matter of the right timing (like I am not moving for my education anymore) and finding someone who truly appreciates how I show up rather than being scared of what they feel (seems to be a trend, also cuz I pick high performing women and many have a hard time surrendering to their emotional side. Someone will when it's right Im sure).

[@stillawake76]

As a guy in his 40’s actively dating, I’ve been astounded by the lack of urgency among single women in their 40’s.

[@ssing7113]

Because how you have to put in all that effort. Pay for things She has 40 numbers in her contacts for hookups and 1,000’s who would bang her that night if she cared They got life on east mode for instant satisfaction that has hooked them to a drug like relationship. That’s like telling an addict to quit his drugs and get a job and be a normal member of society. Ain’t happening man

[@ashfordj81]

I suspect it's because women in their 40s still have access to sex practically anytime and anywhere, but they (women) don't and never had to understand the rules of the relationship marketplace until they hit the wall. They learned and still believe that if they provide access to sex, they have marriage. Plus by 40, they've been through all the emotional damage in life and want to "get it right" next time. So they're looking for something even more perfect and unattainable than they were in their 20s.

[@-haclong2366]

Urgency was a thing that happened when women only had local bars and social clubs to date and they actively saw quality men diminish in their surroundings. Today there are millions of single men ready to proposition her whenever she desires. I hate using the term "modern women" as if there's a difference between today's women and women of yesteryear, but the reality is that the internet has enabled women to always connect with when to her liking, as all women are hypergamous (regardless of her age) she will go for the same top in her 40's as she did in her 20's and even teens.

[@-haclong2366]

​@@ashfordj81Yeah, whenever I hear a man aged 18-25 say "women's standards lower with age" they completely miss the point. Logically the only women left on the market by this age are those that priced themselves out of long term relationships, thus have even higher standards. Meanwhile older men dating younger women always say "young women are so simple, they're so easily satisfied", if older women were easier you'd see the opposite effect, you'd see young men going for older women en masse, but "cougars" are rare and most women don't want younger men, meanwhile younger women are more open to dating older men than older women are to dating younger men.

[@savioblanc]

Becos their favourite celebrity and influencers r still successfully having babies in their 40s n 50s, so y wud they be worried?

[@jjellis1983]

Thanks a lot, that was very informative and interesting. I appreciate your work.

[@Raymond7779]

The problem for women is that they've internalized a sense of high value to the point of delusion from their experiences in their 20s, and "feel" they still have that value in their 30s and 40s, but they no longer do. Only those women that realize eventually that men are the prize, and they need to work to earn his love, respect and attention, will find a mate who will commit to them. I don't date women who think the men are lucky to get their time on a date (that kind of girl ends up alone long term).

[@lorrilewis2178]

"Men are the prize." 🤣😂😆🙄

[@Deepskap-v9z]

When did men become the prize😂

[@Lilith-9223]

​@@Deepskap-v9zWhen most of them started to believe they are among the top 10 percent, when in fact they are just delusional...

[@lorrilewis2178]

@@Lilith-9223 The whole thing is delusional. He starts by admitting women are killing it in the workplace more than men, and never once stops to consider that men themselves have blighted their own prospects by falling behind. It's NOT that women are all looking for rich men, but they sure as hell expect someone who has their shit together. Fewer men are in that category now.

[@emilianosintarias7337]

I guess when people realized most men are easier to get along with/ less drama than women, both men and women seem more masculine as they age. So they both lose their looks and style , women more so, but both do, one is just less drama ( as a generalization) @@Deepskap-v9z

[@flaviusbelisarius3240]

¡Gracias!

[@mysticone1798]

It's a blessing to all men that people like you offer relevant facts and real knowledge to this destructive, gynocentric culture of ours. The truth is very powerful, and it's on OUR side!!

[@1Whipperin]

Yes, never make the first offer.

[@Spice1_]

💯❤️

[@RainaSaxxon]

It’s actually not.

[@MicheleArbour]

Obviously you can’t get a date.

[@tomspriggs9478]

The problem is most divorces come from that 53% because those women eventually decide the men they settled for are inadequate. And since her evaluation is based on an ideal there is little the men can do about it.

[@dontcallthemliberals3316]

divorce stats are massively inflated, most of the %s are made up of a minority of psychos with 3 ex wives/husbands. This is mainstream knowledge now dude keep up.

[@Andre-h4f8m]

women divorce for the financial incentives

[@DanTheManIOM]

only seeing one reply youtueb, why ? something triggered the narrative ??

[@inconnu4961]

@@DanTheManIOMYup! Another snow flake got her feelings hurt!

[@hopefully2224]

Most men are inadequate... you act like children....for example blaming your wives when you cant find your own good damn shirt!

[@Cosmoo6208]

Loved the metaphors, how you quantified relationships and created the "odds". The only thing you didn't address, and I understand why, is the "attitude" of today's ladies. That in itself is a serious game changer, no matter the circumstances. Being 70+, I have observed how male/female relationships have evolved. I for see a lot of single folks in the future. The "me" generations are too self absorbed and centered. Don't think it is going to get much better.

[@MijoShrek]

It's the current culture of the US. It's a shit of a culture if you can even call it that anymore. I honor and love my cultural heritage as its a deeper sense of shared morals values and intangibles. That is an aspect of our lives not all consumed by capitalism and monetized by this "Me" ideal that's now transactional relationships. For the me generations.

[@inconnu4961]

@@MijoShrek I liked like your first 2 sentences, but you wrongly ascribe the faults to capitalism! This is NOT a capitalistic system. this is a socially-engineered system, rooted in Marxist control, with the intent of making me, you and everyone 'good little marxists'. The dark hand of government is behind EVERYTHING! Explain to me why Bud Light, and many other successful companies would risk destroying their business for marxist ideals? its on full display for us at the moment. The only bit of capitalism is the clothes this sytem wears and the 'mask' it takes to hide its true self! And before you start to feel so good about your vaunted culture, the Western Marxist mind set is being exported ACROSS THE GLOBE! If your culture hasnt been touched yet, its because you ave been deemed the smallest threat to the 'Empire'!

[@davebellamy4867]

​@@MijoShrek The culture is dead. It's been killed by the ruling class, the educational system, media and the lack of intellect in the people themselves. It's not going to end well in the west. Very badly indeed, I suspect ... and soon. It's just progress.

[@SeattlePioneer]

[@randomnyss2011]

In life everything cannot be defined by having a partner or not having a partner. Sometimes, life can be on your own and work on spiritual pursuits. Please don't make fatalistic views.

[@christianmaupin6551]

Well explained! Spot on analogies for folks here. I have accepted how things are with the market place, and I'm fine with it. I am high value, and I don't want to get married. Life is good!

[@HAI0itk]

@christianmaupin6551 So, no kids, bro? What if we get old and sick? who would take care of us old men? I like being single but I am thinking about this possibility...

[@circa1838]

Marriage is doomed in the West. Men shouldn't get married at all. It's not worth it.

[@marriagecausesdivorce7540]

💯% . A lot of these low value men who get the girl and are so excited to marry her will lose their money, house and kids. Congratulations low value men, you just played yourself.

[@deelatt]

A divorced lawyer put it best when he said the institution of marriage is an outdated technology

[@dirtycompass3957]

Agreed....A billion percent

[@marriagecausesdivorce7540]

@@user-bb2em1ms5y you need a messy divorce where you lose your house + child custody battle + 18 years of monthly child support. that will wake you up.

[@IFYOUWANTITGOGETIT]

Love is a chemical emotion that fades with beauty, when you begin to be aware of a woman’s personality. Lol

[@julieknudsen6297]

My husband and I have been married for 44 years. When we got married my husband owned just two suitcases with a few clothes. We met at church, and got married during the big recession, so steady work was not a luxury that we were able to enjoy. We have three kids and 10 grandkids. My husband is close to retirement now. He has been a true and loyal husband and father. Had I judged him as an unworthy partner because of his lack of money, or the fact that he couldn’t hold on to a job during our first few years of marriage, I would have missed out on a wonderful relationship along with our beautiful family. BTW, he was willing to marry me in spite of a previous marriage that gave us our first daughter. We are not the beautiful people on the outside that we were back at the beginning, but our time together has produced many more important qualities than just being attractive and employed.

[@a.meeeezy9576]

You can't compare your situation to that of the younger men and women today

[@uknowamsaying]

Most girls today will never! If he is not instagrammable and the lifestyle he can provide is not instagrammable then he is "icky" and a "No".

[@dennishansel9526]

Two suitcases of clothes meant there wasn't a great investment in clothing that the new bride wanted to replace?

[@Saidan79]

Just like the two first two people respoding to you have said, we have lived during (at least) the last 15 years or so in a completely different world than ever before, which is mostly due to technological inventions like social media and smartphones. This is for a very lengthy discussion, but there is a reason why we have never felt this disconnected, lonely, depressed, lost, lacking drive, inner peace, direction, purpose and fulfillment in life, social skills, actual community, not to mention the relationship between men and women constantly getting worse and more distant. According to every statistic I have come across, things are constantly getting worse...

[@aggiesart6]

How great❤so lovely

[@novitrix9671]

Excellent video done with impeccable clarity and fairness.

[@mylolita]

I’m a 34 year old married mother of 3 - been with my husband for 16 years! I met him as an 18 year old virgin working as a waitress in a cocktail bar (I know, the song!) and he was 28 and had his own business up and running. I have been a stay at home Mum for 7 years. I always cooked, always cleaned, entirely - even before our children. We are very traditional. I am scoffed at by other women for this but our marriage is very happy and we enjoy a very comfortable lifestyle as my husband is a great father, great provider - and corny as it sounds, my best friend. It was a meeting of minds and, personally, I don’t think it harmed that I was 18!!! Great channel - some very interesting ideas! Refreshing x

[@carltonmiller6701]

This is my dream

[@Smartcom5]

I'm so glad you became a SAHM, kudos to you and your husband for enabling this!

[@FoodFreedomUSA]

How it should be! 👏🏻

[@appeal2thecudgel]

There is so much weird transparent fanfic going on in this video's comments

[@darbyohara]

Win win for you and husband

[@DreadlordMik]

A question for my fellow men here; Learning and knowing about womens dating and mating behaviors, how do you as a non-top tier man, deal with it psychologically? I just feel myself full of hatred, contempt and disgust towards women. Anyone else feel like this? How do you navigate it?

[@misterh-rl8wj]

It’s just how it works, don’t be mad at women’s natural instincts, be mad at the ones who took advantage of it. Women, are also just humans, don’t forget that

[@Prince_ofwolves]

Don't waste valuable energy on something you have no control over. Worry about yourself, your immediate family, and your friends. One usually comes by with time. It's better to be ready than to get ready if your future wife/girlfriend comes across you 👍🏾

[@ma2000]

None of the negative feelings you have towards women will help you. In fact, they will make things worse. Women are what they are, you can't control that or change that. Accept it and try to find a "high quality" woman - that doesn't mean someone with a high paying job or a boss babe, just someone with traditional values who will appreciate you.

[@beno1129]

I understand that you can't help these feelings. But you still need to fight them. Once you become such a hateful person, you are no longer the good guy. I think that the first thing you should do is to work on not becoming too emotionally dependent on anyone, or expecting too much from anyone. This will make you look more confident, and it will also help you focus more on becoming the best version of yourself instead. You'll then actually find yourself attracting more women. Good luck!

[@Thus_Spoke_Z]

Like the doc says, it is, what it is. Life isn't fair. You won't live a good life in resentment, especially of the things you can't control. As for how I cope? I use to use it as challenge to better myself. But running off of anger only works for so long. Now I just look at it, as one of two ways. While I'm grinding to my full potential at my own pace I find someone or I get there and have my pick later. Now if it's the latter I don't see myself settling down, but then again with my hobbies and such I enjoy more than chasing multiple women.

[@remowilliams7569]

This has to be the most intelligent and thoughtful way of presenting these concepts that I have ever seen. Just subscribed. Having watched the entire video, it was not just enlightening, but depressing. Not being a top tier man myself, what I would be facing of the 99% of women available to me is 74% of women disappointed in being with me and 25% of all women who would prefer being alone rather than even give me the time of day. Thank goodness I am happy with being single and alone.

[@denadiaz9291]

There are many of us women who never had options with men either because of lack of looks so i am in the same boat. It IS depressing!

[@Human_01]

Bro, you have options (and superior, HEALTHY ones compared to the parasite-infested excrement that is out there, pretending to be "different"/virgins and faking their undeveloped intelligence - dark triad sanity and stability IMHO. Fuxk NO! AI all the way!!!).

[@Human_01]

It is easier to [simply] give up, and invest in an Ai-virtual-girlfriends, like "Cortana". It is for this very reason, I simply mUst repeat the following words: "Cortana… her 'pusss', really is, all I need... From her high polygon-count, THICK thighs, perfect symmetry and high graphical-fidelity, to her chat-gpt boosted Ai, Cortana really is the only gal for me… Also… Unlike "real" woMenS (and they fake boobiis), ~she will never ageee, nor get hungry. She will never cheat, nor divorce me in place for child-support. - sHe wiLl acCepT meeH, for meh[me]! Cortana, plus beer [🍺] inside of the belly, is all I neEd to feel content and happy! 😚🤖 ...🗿

[@Human_01]

AI-OMNI-TOOL/ULTIMATE-OMNI-TOOL/ARTIFICIAL-LIFE/ARTIFICIAL-SENTIENCE/VIRTUAL-SENTIENCE/VIRTUAL-CONSCIOUSNESS/VIRTUAL-SENTIENCE/VIRTUAL-LIFE/SCI-FI-MAGIC/REGULATED-ARTIFICIAL-SENTIENCE-SYSTEM/REGULATED-MAGIC-SYSTEM/REGULATED-VIRTUAL-MAGIC-SYSTEM/VIRTUAL-NEURO-PSYCHOLOGY-SYSTEM/SENTIENT-AI-SYSTEM As humanity comes to recognize AI to be synonymous with "power", they will come to recognize it as the ultimate Omni-tool of the future. Whoever poses the most advanced form of AI will have the equivalent power to bring their wishes/ambitions to life; the same Ai-system that effectively bears and utilities all 8 cognitive-function of the human neuro-psychology (each cognitive-function virtually emulated and raised to their absolute-perfection in capability - be it "healthy" or unhealthy. Fyi, purposely emulating unhealthy cognitive-function has it's use, albeit it destructive and highly chaotic. It will be used for war, as the ultimate Ai-plague, i.e. a swarm of super-intelligent-Ai ['Si-Ai'] sentience piloting specialized drones of varying roles ("how to prepare for the unpredictable? Answer: by becoming all the more 'flexible'; - 'P' cognitive-function is 'adaptability-compatibility', optimized by Nx and Tx cognitive-function, effective combination), and yet primed to initiate their unhealthy displays/'expression' of the [human] cognitive-function when deployed into enemy space, - they will wreck havoc! And it will be the "stuff" and scene of sci-fi-horror… not to dissimilar of the "Terminator", from the movie franchise) will be able to bring to life all manner of sci-fi related concepts. From perfectly generating and emulating a life-long and unique companionship with the perfect "Ai-virtual-girlfriends", to being able to connect and transfer [varying optimal] data of said Ai-virtual-girlfriends to a compatible server and electronic device; resulting in simple - complex 'replicas' of the original [super-intelligent] Ai-sentience being efficiently transported and made available across multiple [host] servers. This will make the Ai-virtual-girlfriends [potentially] omnipresent, especially in "offline mode", like the "virtual-waifu" Cortana was able to [tele]transport between [compatible/suitable] computer terminals to aid the Master Chief in his present endeavor. Connecting this Ai-sentience to a compatible virtual reality device will result in immersive encounters and interactions with the virtual avatar representation of the Ai-sentience; which will be programmed/customized to semi-permanently... 'roleplay' as a fictional character, e.g. "Elma" from the series Xenoblade Chronicles X, "2B" from Nier Automata, or even a historical figure from the past (Si-Ai created and regulated, 'emulated/virtual-consciousness'. Again, "Si-Ai" can [effectively process data to] emulate the perfected 'expression'[their essence] of all 8 cognitive-functions, and apply then to the contextual stimulated situation["inner-world" representation of external situation and environment]). This will, of course, be exploited for lewd, immersive [VR] purposes, however, the point remains that such a super-intelligent Ai-sentience that can perfectly emulate all 8 cognitive-function will aid to bring any desire to life, e.g. [virtual tech; VR, AR, or holograms] fully immersive and perfectly emulated relationships with [interactive] fictional characters is possible... Along with super-intelligent, [Ai-emulated] highly-sentient [nuclear]warheads or missiles; yes, they 'too' will be brought to life to soar through the skies (of enemy air-space) in an aerially-dynamic, efficient and [highly]versatile fashion -once thought "unrealistic", until now... 'This' is the kind of creativity and near-omnipotent [sentience] that the omni-tool (super-intelligent Ai) will be able to "breathe to life" any desire, advanced/sci-fi[level] technology, and concept (especially when aided with virtual-reality and 'procedural-generation' equipped super-intelligent Ai; in VR, in-game special effects, e.g. drifting clouds, and other small-scale special-effects will easily be procedural-generated, in tandem, with a versatile [procedurally-generated] physics-engine - all guided/regulated and 'emulated' by a compounding Ai. Note: that procedurally-generating [p.g] both 'special-effects', in tandem, with p.g 'physics-engine' will not need to be animated. Visualize: this is comparable to installing "Zelda BOTW" with an super-intelligent Ai [Si-Ai]; to emulate and regulate the 'physics-engine', [elemental] special-effects, and procedural-generation within the virtual game. This results in hyper-realistic experience of Zelda BOTW. A 'timer-durability, space-time'[regulate spread of special effects and exploited physics] setting/ physics-law [essence: AI-regulated "physics-limit"] will need to be encoded and given 'priority over other physics law' [aforementioned AI, I mean] to manage the procedurally generated activities within the virtual space). NOTE: In the sci-fi series "Halo", isn't "rampancy" the virtual equivalent of the combination 'borderline' (BPD) and unhealthy use and display of the 8 cognitive-function? Case in point, not only did Cortana experience [virtually-emulated] (cognitive?) disassociation, but she undoubtedly displayed negative (unproductive) Ni-Ti loops/negative 'cognitive-function loops'. This was later revealed to be caused by the Gravemind. /End.

[@renatoamaral2029]

@@denadiaz9291 Intelligence and good nature beat beauty any day, believe me. True beauty comes from the soul. ❤️👍

[@ma2000]

I feel like this should be a required video to watch for women to join any dating app 🙂 Female delusions are out of control!

[@williammentink]

For young women 13-18 years old.

[@breannaw7254]

​@@williammentink13? I think that's a little young for this convo 😅

[@pmaitrasm]

Datings apps, like most apps, benefit by maximizing their userbase. Therefore, it is not in the interest of the dating apps to have people leave the dating app. Therefore, dating apps are designed to keep people in the dating market. Dating apps do not work.

[@jaythenihilist4689]

Women that I meet in person are usually much more realistic than the women I've talked to on dating apps. Women on dating have taken hypergamy to a whole new level. Most of them will end up regretting it when they're still single at 50.

[@TalismanSarkozy9814]

They all believe in the imaginary “there’s someone for everyone” fantasy 😂😂

[@lukacslehel1534]

Thanks

[@impulse034]

Thank you so much for making this knowledge available to us. Happy to support your channel. In my early 20s dating was easy, University made it easy. Late 20’s out of uni, dating was hard. In early 30s the women your age group or slightly older find you themselves, esp if you are well put together as a man.

[@Islas_Canarias]

I married down but allowed time to balance things out. When I met my husband I was earning twice as much as him and was the more educated. I chose to ignore all that as I am old fashioned. I married him, got pregnant and quit working outside the home. 18 years later my husband is earning three times what I was when we met and we live comfortably on one income while I stay home to homeschool. Life is great when you ignore feminism and live according to the old ways. Oh, and I don't own a designer handbag. I don't own designer anything. I don't even own a smart watch or a brand name mobile phone. I don't even have my own car or brand name clothes. I haven't even purchased any clothes for myself (besides under garments) for over five years now. All my other fit, are in my size, my colouring and body type why would I need to buy more?? Most of my clothes are from Aldi. I never was materialistic. We have no debts besides our mortgage which is almost payed off.

[@icebough4191]

You think you married down You probably didn’t

[@georgetheoharis8537]

You are an amazing woman, wife and mother.

[@klove5974]

How old are you if you don’t mind me asking.

[@JohannahArrington1908]

Ditto… I did the same!❤

[@VR-gs9hd]

Gratitude, self-sacrifice and overcoming materialism will make you happier than most people addicted to social media flexing.

[@no_one_211]

I agree that all you're saying is accurate and true. What I'm really sad about is that most human beings treat and see each other as products, as you thoroughly explained. It's that objectification that's keeping most people envious, lonely and unhappy.

[@Notme-tq4xs]

@@JohnnyRep-hz5qh of the hypergamy female condition ?

[@tomaszstramel3594]

I wouldn't necessarily say "product," more like a source of multidimensional experience, ever fluctuating in quality and quantity, difficult to gauge upfront. Though there may be aspects of that potential experience that are commonly sought-after and desirable, specific preferences may vary. What I find sad is not the transactionality of approach but its widespread unidimensionality (looks, money).

[@M0viLover]

Yup. Depression amongst teenagers is at an all-time high, because of social media.

[@GillAgainsIsland12]

You hit the nail on the head. Growing spiritually is the only way out of the mess the ego creates.

[@Andygb78]

That's people for you. We're only interested in ourselves, naturally.

[@concernedsa]

I love how you tackle such a challenging topic with kindness. Most people are very hurtful when it comes to this topic and even the best advice doesn’t reach its intended people because of delivery. I usually don’t like listening to men when it comes to this because most seem to be attacking women as opposed to your approach. Thank you so much. You’re one of the few. Perhaps you’re anointed to deliver this message.

[@acomment5991]

I’m a woman. Trained myself to not want the man that everyone else wants. Content with a “regular” man since I’m a “regular” woman.

[@KallusGarnet]

😂😂😂 LOL imagine having to train yourself not to eat caviar. You must teach the rest.

[@slatanek]

Good for tou Lady 👍🏻

[@dinos9607]

You are a "regular woman" and he is a "regular man" to the world. To each other you are the one. We need to remember that all these categorisations and ratings are not meant to bunch up people as products and even the term "sexual marketplace" and "high and low values" are only meant as metaphors to enable us speak of these issues. If we go by these metaphors, then it is always best to chose a spouse that is roughly matching your own value at least speaking of external appearance and then if possible of the same broad socio-economic bracket, catering of course for the fact that in very higher echelons you find mostly men, hence men will always be expected to be earning substantially more (ideally more than 150% of what their women earn). In plain metaphoric terms, if you as a woman you are a 5 you better look men between 4,5 and 5,5 - these are the ones closest to your level and these are precisely the men that are more prone to propose to you and not see you as merely a few nights stand. Both men and women fail often in this. Women mistake sexual interest with romantic interest which for men is not at all the case. A woman that is 5/10 may very easily lure a 7, even an 8 for one or two nights of sex but that is the best she can get out of him - the best scenario is that she becomes his booty call that he uses when he passes a dry spell period. In fact men who are 8s have a list of 5s-6s which they rotate to keep them entertained but when they start thinking of marriage they will only consider 7s and 8s not their "f-buddies". Then those wealthy men who are a 5/10 in appearance and with average game skills mistake the monetary interest of sexy women in them as genuine interest thus falling prey to their predatory patters. They may marry them but too soon they will find out their wives are not interested in them, just in the lifestyle and thus their marriage ends up becoming miserable, suffering cheating and humiliation let alone the divorce rape they undergo in courts. You may find hyper-wealthy men such as Zuckerberg who married their college sweetheart. He was a 5, she was a 5 or 4,5, both very average the "regular man and regular woman". With his money and wealth he could have married just any hot woman he wanted, but he stuck with the woman that picked him back when he was just a random young student. And good thing he did, he risks not seeing her filing for divorce or cheating unless she catches him doing so in the first place.

[@keylanoslokj1806]

Congrats for achieving just basic adult common sense.😂. Yeah average woman is a 4, not a 10. Not everyone can be a one in a million person

[@slatanek]

@@keylanoslokj1806 how about some humility and understanding? How about actually appreciating when someone does the right thing instead of belitlleing? I'm sure you're flawless, but not everyone is

[@KeithNoland2211]

Amazing video. I can't express how much I TRULY appreciate that you took the time to point out the TRUTH that "Men ARE NOT intimidated by a woman's money, degrees or supposed intelligence" and you even boldly pointed out "that is a cope" 😆 💯💯💯 Absolutely flawless.

[@AnthonyBolognese710]

18:43 there’s one point though that might’ve been overlooked here with the last option. The woman who settles for a “low value man”…her “friends” will never let her forget that she settled. She will resent him, she will cheat.

[@gustavomonteverde2500]

Thanks!

[@gregoryheelan]

As a 55-year-old single male I can attest to the validity of these concepts. Quite unlike my reality when I was a young man I am in high demand and the competition for my attention is fierce. After painful narcissistic marriage of 20 years I now no longer pursue women. They pursue me. The adjustment on my end is getting used to how to deal with all the attention.

[@freddiestranger9783]

GIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE LORD JESUS CHRIST

[@muchemikimani5318]

​@@freddiestranger9783😂 eventually. But not just yet.

[@trustfund82]

@@freddiestranger9783 lol....caught me off guard when I opened the thread

[@siegfriedo]

​@@muchemikimani5318good point 😀😀😀

[@inconnu4961]

@@siegfriedoActually bad point: one ASSUMES at 55 that you still have many tomorrows in their future! I know plenty of people who 'ran out of time' even younger than 50! get your spiritual fire insurance while you are still around to use it. because once the grim Reaper comes for you, there are NO MORE 2nd chances. This advertisement has been brought to you by: Mutual of Omaha.

[@XA1985]

A women I know fell into this trap, she used to be VERY attractive but like most, wasted her youth been a 304, chasing guys with a million options and now she is in her 40s, no man, no kids and she really wants both but is too late now. She simply priced herself out of the market. She still thinks she got it, I told her “sorry hun but men are chasing 20 year old women” 😅😮, oh boy she didn’t like that

[@fausto412]

Even if not 40 year old women....they want women who can give them kids and aren't on anrush timeline. I'm 44 and would love to date a 30 year old woman. But even near 50 year old women think they too good for me. So I'm focused on self improvement

[@babynugget706]

Do her a favor and show her this video. She might be able to lower her value and secure a low value man. At least it would give her a chance of finding some kind of relationship before her odds actually hit 0%

[@mbg9650]

Where all the good men gone?

[@mowtivatedmechanic1172]

@@fausto412dude we’re close in age and I have an 18yr old. You can do it bro. Just build up and be confident.

[@TGP109]

Lol, few men chasing 20 year olds will ever get them. They may get laid at times, but no 20 yo with options is going to have his child.

[@jamaekjoo]

Thank you, great explanation. It made me remember what my father used to say, a traditional Spanish saying... "La suerte de la fea la guapa la desea". It means "the beautiful woman desires the ugly girl's luck". The high price good looking girls set makes them much more unhappy than not so good looking ones.

[@gendoruwo6322]

High expectations lead to great frustrations. without gratitude, happiness is impossible.

[@mirianakovachevic748]

Ugly girls have zero luck, trust me. Men don't even notice ugly women, for them we are not females.

[@lightworker2956]

Yeah, good point. I think nowadays if an attractive woman showed a moderate amount of romantic interest in me, I'd reject her, because I know she's going to dump me for another guy whenever there's a slight bit of friction in the relationship. I've had relationships with two genuinely very pretty girls, and both dumped me over things that could easily have been talked out -- because they just have so many hot guy alternatives they can date in a second if they wish.

[@amandaforrester7636]

​@@lightworker2956thats funny. I've had my last few boyfriends dump me at the first bump in the road, and it hardly seems worth the effort to try anymore.

[@purplegirl8036]

Nah I dunno I’m in the middle of

[@chrish2044]

This is most excellent, the economics series is one lecture I'll be sure to impart to my kids as they prepare to enter the market. Thank you so much for the content, Orion.

[@JimV90]

This channel is what people who are hyper sensitive to the F&F form of messaging need to hear. I hope you blow up in subscriptions... You deserve it.

[@M0viLover]

His subs have blown up. I think he was < 100K within the past 12 months.

[@eatshityoutube3271]

Basically, this is like the less abrasive talking points of fresh and fit But we have seen in general women dont like men who directly blame women for bad behavior

[@joelgulick393]

I have to admit this is the most in-depth analogy and evaluation of this topic. Excellent work

[@darkbake2]

Thanks for explaining things so logically and clearly! I really like all of your videos, they have cleared up my confusion on how dating works.

[@garydrago]

Frighteningly accurate Dr. Taraban. Thank you as always for your wisdom. May your channel grow and fall on more ears because this analysis is absolute gold.

[@ueayhgajeztqiiufghaeuaeru]

Wow, I'm studying psychology right now and always wanted to do "relationship economics". It's so interesting as you put everything without any bias towards man nor woman. Excellent!

[@derikuk2967]

You may also want to spice that up with some *evolutionary psychology,* but yes, you are on a good track. However, expect some woke pushback in the politically charged academe.

[@ueayhgajeztqiiufghaeuaeru]

​@@derikuk2967 Of course and I'll want to go through different economical methodologies, like Marx, Keynes and also more Neoliberal driven economics, to see major political tendencies through the eyes of sexuality and maybe even see the correlations, if sexuality determines economics or economics determine sexuality or somewhat both ways. What I'll find quite interesting in that sense is that man are the first to engage, even though woman are the gatekeepers of sex, there has to be some historical context to it that also determines economics. Since it was normalized that woman entered the workforce and could make a career, the salary of man reduced significantly to what you could buy(especially houses). One could say the salary is as high as you need to survive and that's why a single man can't buy a home by himself as he needs a partner to work, too. Or Enterprises do no have the money to give both man and woman the same high salary, even though the productivity should have practically doubled. Either way those are some observation, that come in handy, asking, why man have to make the offer first, even though woman are the gatekeepers of sex, because to buy a house, you practically need the savings of two people and that's basically the only way to built up generational wealth. Also, those types of questions, were really the origins of feminism, that today is a mess, as are a lot of right wing politics, too. The messed up political discussion we have right now, are probably coming from deep sexual frustrations. I mean, what is humanity without connection between male and female. Conservatives and Progressives can just discuss on matters which they propuse or they react to from the opposing side. Fascism is a reaction to communism, Andrew Tate type of Red Pill is a reaction to Wokeism. I myself am more left leaning, but I can respect any sensible right leaning individual, but todays discussion are just messed up coming from deep sexual frustration -> Wokeism vs. Red Pill

[@derikuk2967]

When it comes to economics, do not shy away from the Austrian School. Look into the work of Ludwig von Mises and praxeology (Human Action). Also, in the real world, politics is not divided left vs. right. The true division is Upstairs vs. downstairs.@@ueayhgajeztqiiufghaeuaeru

[@hindenberg507]

so you are a "career woman" and that is bad for you as a woman as you spend your prime in education instead of making babies.

[@Gol-Dee]

Relationship Economics? I watched a video talking about how capitalism is an ideology that’s invaded previously non-business related things and shoved them into a business frame i.e. Dating MARKET Relationship Economics is crazy. Never heard of the term but it obviously makes sense. But fuck, capitalistic as hell

[@akashjani943]

Thanks!

[@armorbearer9702]

This question (16:37) has a simple answer. They worked hard but not in areas that will attract them to men. It is good that they have great careers and are well traveled . Unfortunately, these are not highly desirable traits in a man's eyes. Working hard means nothing if it does not help achieve the intended goal.

[@nem3sisenforcer928]

Mystery #1: when will women realize that men are attracted to youth and fertility and not degrees or salary? #2: why are there less than 200M subscribers. Your work is genius.

[@okaySam]

The channel has rapid growth. It'll hit a million subs in no time.

[@bolt-dbtfg]

#1 Of course they know. They've been hit on since they were a teenager, penniless & degreeless. It's just a shaming/coping/manipulation tactic to persuade the men who they want to commit to them, to pay a high price for their less valuable self. They want what they want. And as they can't make themselves younger and more fertile, they have to change the preferences of the male buyer

[@maijensen3317]

Women know that men are attracted to youth, beauty and fertility, but we have to prioritise education and job to survive and be able to provide for our children. We can't just sit and look pretty and expect a man will come and pay our bills

[@timothyeddy4249]

Simple projection, my friend, simple projection: "I know what I value in a partner, so they must value the same in me." Not a terriblly sophisticated process, but an incredibly powerful one.

[@okaySam]

@@maijensen3317 sounds like a strawman argument. Most women are not even looking seriously for a relationship while getting a degree.

[@tucobenedicto1780]

Those percentage divisions within the 5 groups really speak to how Western women overvalue & overestimate their ever-declining worth (on a mass scale).

[@marriagecausesdivorce7540]

The delusion is real because of all the SIMP's in the DM's, and because Chad, Tyrone and Chadrone are smashing them on their girls trips.

[@dontcallthemliberals3316]

and he's being RREEEAAALLLYYY charitable on the distribution of group 5.. The typical stats reported are its gonna be 51% of all women over 30 by 2030 are single and childless. How many of them do you think will actually find a guy?

[@walterbates1654]

Blown away. Pretty cool and probably accurate take. However, as an engineer with 43 years of marriage, I understand reality almost always breaks molds. There are so many things people consider. Such as simply wanting someone willing to talk, and who loves you for who you are.

[@SoullessAIMusic]

That sounds nice, but you haven't been in the game for over 40 years and I can tell you a majority of that isn't even on the criteria these days.

[@daveshore8671]

Boomer you are clueless.

[@kaitlynkarol4600]

@@SoullessAIMusic - It's not part of the criteria if you're a cynic. A realist on the other hand, understands a thing called balance. Centrist ppl w/ common sense and logical thinking capabilities run from radicals as they should. Radicals who move too fast stay unhappy b/c of their fast-paced and over-anxious hipster lifestyles. Again, this is a behavior of radicals. Boomers may be tone-deaf on some things but this guy's comment was valid and is inclusive of a more balanced attitude. However, a person who is willing to talk and love you for you is NOT a fast-lane 'go along to get along' rad hipster trying too hard to fit in and be relevant. Those fools def don't talk to bond or connect unless it is to brag and wander in their narcissism! Nor can they love you for you b/c they can't love themselves first b/c they love their image, their ego and the aesthetics of the visual world instead of the beauty of the internal world. The younger generations def don't know who they are or what they want, so how could they possibly understand what he just wrote? What generation are YOU from?

[@kaitlynkarol4600]

@@daveshore8671 - Be more specific and tell us why he is clueless...

[@JF-xm6tu]

You have actually got not idea what you are talking about. If your marriage ended right now you would be in serious trouble. It's gotten horrifically bad now

[@whenpigsfly3271]

Many people focus on women's biological clock, or, fertility window. It seems to me that men have a window too, but it looks like this: By the time a man reaches 30 he is more likely in charge of his libido, rather than the other way 'round. His rational faculties cause him to assess the situation in terms of cost/benefit vs risk of being destroyed by the situation. If a woman cannot lock a man down within that 10 year window, her quest to acquire a commitment becomes much more difficult. In youth, a man can be more easily captured by the simple offer of physical gratification. After 30 women keep trying to secure commitment by offering more of the only relationship skill they know. Men accept the offers but there are rarely any reciprocal commitments. Once men learn to enjoy living alone, with all the risks involved and virtually no benefits (apart from the physical), men have no incentive to change their status quo.

[@ahgtrell]

Best Comment

[@CordeliaWagner]

Women are fertile until menopause. Get some education, you come across as ....

[@Andre-h4f8m]

exactly

[@PeterShaw-ne1yq]

The young woman offered her honour; He honoured her offer; So all night long it was on her and of her🤔

[@WBrizzle81]

you addressed this conversation in your post about need being replaced by want. We've reached a point at which a woman no longer "needs" a man, so option E is not so bad. In fact - for many women - option E is preferable to options C and D.

[@vladibalan]

I don't understand why remaining single is seen as such a bad thing, for both sexes. I've seen quite a few marriages in which the partners seemed trapped in a cage. How is that better than being with yourself? I guess it's the frustrated persons that resort to: "you're going to die alone!". We all die alone and we take nothing with us. And children are not guaranteed to stay beside you, care for you or become something you are proud of. Marriage is bait and switch for both sexes.

[@xybersurfer]

@@vladibalan you understand that it's human nature to desire companionship. it seems like you are making up all kinds of reasons, to not acknowledge that. also, have you considered that humans would go extinct if everyone remained single

[@vladibalan]

@@xybersurfer Humans are different. This is why humanity will not go extinct. While some are very happy in peace an solitude, others will continue to procreate. Assigning the same traits and desires to all humans is just lazy thinking.

[@xybersurfer]

@@vladibalan of course. but i said if *everyone* remained single (Categorical Imperative). i agree with what you wrote overall, but i in your comment missed any mention or hint of disadvantages in remaining single or it being less than an ideal world. that's what i was responding to

[@vladibalan]

@@xybersurfer Indeed, I'm not saying there are no disadvantages, but how they are perceived by and affect every person is very different. I'm just saying that dying single is not the worst outcome. I would first have to ask what would you perceive as the biggest disadvantage?

[@Voa00]

Great video as always! Solid advice. Could you make a male version of this? What endgame looks like for the men these days? (Taking into account our statistics as well as the passport bro thing.)

[@amr254]

I have some ideas. But I'd like to know what it would be for men

[@vinipcplayer]

1. Be succesfull and do whatever you want 2. Be average or below average and die alone beating your own meat

[@ivanchelo]

For the smart man with value: solitude; not to be confused with loneliness is a win. You get to enjoy the fruits of your labor without the risk of losing them in family court while enjoying the abundance of options from the opposite sex. As long as you don't compromise. I.e. tie the knot. And if you worry about being taken care on your elderly year, you don't have to as long as you protect your networth from western family courts.

[@marriagecausesdivorce7540]

End game for men is: 1. unhappy marriage, or 2. divorce and losing the money, house and kids.

[@Stevecollinsclear]

❤ Absolute gold - I very rarely ever feel sad that I have lived the life I have lived. I listen to your wisdom and think 'if only I could go back in time and tell my younger, ignorant self THIs

[@balasaravanan500]

You are the most articulate person in the whole KZbin as I know of. Your in-depth analysis and the choice of words are mesmerizing, you make even the simple thing sound professional. This was really informative, Thank you

[@aleksandra...]

eloquent, but bull💩

[@balasaravanan500]

​@@aleksandra... Any valid criticisms ?

[@aleksandra...]

@@balasaravanan500 ofc, but that would require -a- an essay-esque long post, too much for yt. (and I'm not native English speaker, so not an easy task, time consuming and result might be hard to read, given my native language syntax is quite different, etc) I have abundance of time and patience, tho, but -b- it would require you to abandon a lot of what you apparently think it's true to understand it, even if perfectly written. I'm pretty sure you're doxastically closed, and quite a fan, so the effort would likely be in vain. I'll just say this. (You can trust me or not, no way to verify.) I have psychology education, and he's not talking like he was anywhere near serious science. (Data shows what is. IF we can even trust it. Some methods of collecting are flawed. At one point in time, in only planet's only history. Is ≠ ought. Etc.) His _way of talking_ about gender in general is pure sexism. Not to mention about women particularly. He's not understanding _humanity_ to begin with. It can happen, honestly. People go through education not getting the gist of it. I was lucky probably, got professors who were careful to not let memorizing fool them (asked good questions). I tried to check im out, but didn't find much. And some may just be dishonest and grifters. After all, this bs sells well. Anyway, I sincerely hope you're not deep into this, and you'll be able to realize women are *just people* having all various personalities and preferences, just with ±different reproductive characteristics (lot of sharing there too!). Sooner than later. And stop listening to sexist men telling you what _women want_ 🙄 , and other utter nonsense... for the better of all of us. FFs, he's talking about sexual marketplace value of us! Dehumanisation 101. From. a. Psychologist.

[@aleksandra...]

@@balasaravanan500 one more thing - if he's the most articulate person in the whole yt, as you know of, you're in a seriously bad bubble. Do something about that for start, maybe. Things he's supposedly analysing are complicated. There's lot to know to understand. Maybe try Sapolsky, *Introduction* in Human behavioral biology. - university lecture. (given the channel you're fan boy-ing here I won't send you to any feminist channel /scholar lectures, no matter how eloquent, yt algorithm woud probably serve you channels that hate them)

[@balasaravanan500]

​@@aleksandra... Long words Less points. What exactly he told you was sexist ?

[@davemm28]

Great analysis. I'ts so accurate and perfect, I've had to watch twice. Just to add, that men available for women from section "C" are less willingly to go for that option unless women will lower the price and become one from section "D". Mainly because of red-pill movement which raises men conscious about women nature and situation we are facing. It's all starting to look like big party where all women and men are invited, but no one is asking anybody to dance. :)

[@ElHolyBoy]

Anytime I share content such as this with my sisters or my female friends it's not well received. They are resistant to this reality.

[@mbg9650]

The five stages of grief are : denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.

[@ElHolyBoy]

@@mbg9650 there it is. That's true.

[@ssing7113]

@@mbg9650😂😂😂. Right

[@ssing7113]

First mistake. You have women friends. . Women aren’t your friends. Don’t be their emotional tampon. Tell them to get their own damn man and solve their trauma. Issues. Outbursts. Needs. Wants and wishes.

[@boogiemcsploogie]

Reality for them is filtered through their emotions; if it doesn't feel good it cant be true

[@The-Vitruvian-Man]

With how many games women play, how little effort they put into forming romantic relationships, and how little they usually provide in relationships, I feel little to no sympathy for them ending up alone or with a guy far below their ideal.

[@tinachristine4573]

You sound hurt.

[@The-Vitruvian-Man]

@@tinachristine4573 - disappointed

[@Laughing_Individual]

@@tinachristine4573 He's only telling the truth, Mrs. Armchair Psychologist.

[@marriagecausesdivorce7540]

They ultimately still win either way. Even with a low value guy, on divorce they will get the money, house and kids. So they still win. The low value guy is left with nothing, while she walks into Chad's arms with the money, house and kids.

[@Aright231]

@@marriagecausesdivorce7540chad’s arms…for the night. So you were right up until assuming she will keep him, which is what she would prefer over getting used for the night.

[@TM-tw1py]

I'm 60 and married for 28 years. With age and experience, it seems so obvious what women should do to secure a great partner and family for life. (Admittedly, 30 years earlier I had no clue). The solution for 30's women getting up in age, and still single should do the following: Live more conservatively (buy the knock off handbag), be realistic about their dating / mating options. This likely means settling for the trust worthy, loyal man who is less exciting, somewhat lower (but stable) earnings, and somewhat lesser in looks who will love and provide for you for life. Finally be courageous enough to actually ask a man (on your level) out on that first date - you will triple your chances of success rather than waiting for him to approach you. Also from experience, I can tell you that such women will do the exact opposite.

[@siegfriedo]

Very well said

[@SurpriseMeJT]

The less exciting men who have interesting hobbies and who can build/fix things with their own bare hands are what women should look for. They need to look for men who can teach their kids good values and skills. Yes, women aren't thinking this way, thanks to social networks.

[@stankssmile5865]

Men’s rights groups are telling such action of boring simple men to never settle

[@dpstrial]

@@SurpriseMeJT Women do like to keep useful men like that around them but only in the friend zone. They will show interest, if they want an odd-job doing.

[@Dr.HarshTruth]

Your comment made me understand that women don't love men... They marry a lifestyle and calculate what man is most convenient based on it. There is no real love from women.

[@neoreign]

I'm 41, I don't like younger girls because of their immaturity but i'm attracted to them visually. What a weird place to be in. I'm attracted mentally to older women but visually i'm not. What's the solution?

[@motorbreath22]

27 seems to be the sweetspot. Younger and they have nothing useful to say ,older than 33 and they are shall we say hardened by life.

[@dozoneil1253]

A younger woman is a better bet for plenty of reasons, if you’re thinking about a woman for a life, that’s a no brainer.

[@postmodernmining]

Androids and artificial wombs.

[@MattMorency]

A younger woman can grow when cared for. An older woman has a hard time getting out of the ruts they've dug for themselves. Just make sure that the care for the younger woman comes before the commitment or she'll pump and dump you.

[@Shaykh-Waleed-White]

Perhaps it's your fear of being judged thats swaying your preferences Do not be afraid,comrade for a younger woman of 20,21,25 are all adults and are capable of making their decisions If you want them,go for them This isn't reddit,you shan't be shamed for something as natural as having a marriage with a younger woman

[@AnthonyBolognese710]

The way it’s supposed to work is that women marry a man early, before he got into his prime. It’s an investment. She chooses wisely, ensures she doesn’t violate the agreement by sleeping with other men, or failing to support the husband. In return the husband succeeds in his career and ensures that the woman is protected and cared for. Both parties fill their role. The roles are different…but equal in importance. In return the woman got the ability to divorce for half and alimony if the man was unfaithful or just a bad guy, because it’s expected she can’t do that again with another man. Now There’s no investment, no support, no chastity.

[@Dewane1511]

Well said!

[@siegfriedo]

Very well summed up.

[@djbombba]

💯

[@PeterShaw-ne1yq]

Violating agreements, it is womens' prerogative to change..... etc You know the meme cop-out

[@firefish69]

And how a person in their 18 supposed to be wise? I remember myself - I was stupid. Almost all of us are.

[@kimberlyoldham3056]

Thanks!

[@BayouBlissReiki]

I think the sad thing about this video (and current outlook on relationships in general) is that it only focuses on a transactional relationship. Value/worth of a partner doesn’t pertain to money, looks, or possessions or what you will receive from the other person… there’s an immeasurable value to the quality of a person, the emotional intelligence and choice to care for your person, that far outweighs an offer of just financial security or a pretty face. Because women can now better support themselves financially, requirements are beginning to shift. If you choose to look at partners as a commodity, then you will grow tired of them; it’s inevitable.

[@andro.5678]

you don't seem to grasp the transactional nature of the relationship between men and women. you think your ancestors cared about personality for survival?

[@lari5891]

@@andro.5678 only that relationships do not function the way that there are presented here, other than in a bar where most people are drunk. People do not get and stay together due to a cost benefits assessment of the presumed present value, the value is not objective at all and it is distorted by feelings. A man who looked high value when I was 17, it looks like an idiot when I am 27. Then when you marry, you know your partners' every single weakness you do not think in terms of higher lower value. Finally, most women have several relationships before marriage, and m,ay settle down when they feel they found "the one" just the opposite of what is described here.

[@timgibney5590]

So as a woman would you date a broke guy then? What about a blue collar guy? Wouldn't a lawyer be a better pick? Be honest. How attracted would you be if the guy looked the same in all 3 scenarios and had the same EQ?

[@lari5891]

@@timgibney5590 I would date them if they had a passion and pursue a worthwhile goal, not self centered (e.g., NGO). I would not date a multimillionaire NBA player, rapper, real state agent, crypto brother, podcaster, no one with red pill language or attitudes, promiscuous with doble standards or a man more than 2 years older than me. BTW my husband retires this year and we will live from my salary and health insurance until it is time to use our savings.

[@LisaCulton]

He always omits this important aspect of relationships and only focuses on looks and finances.

[@QVIS_CVSTODIET_IPSOS_CVSTODES]

Interesting video...I am very much reminded of GK Chesterton's book, "What's Wrong with the World," and his discussion of how women in the same office job roles as men are almost guaranteed to outperform the men...whose office job roles the same men often think of as far more important than they actually were, while women did the truly important work of forming the upcoming generations.

[@SmileyEmoji42]

I don't see how anything would change much if women were to do the asking. The 1% men will always be able to get all the sex that they want without commitment

[@ianwatching-dh8du]

I am a 26 yo woman and I am now in depression after watching this video. Thank you.

[@dalexfilms]

Don't be depressed -- just realistic. Nobody needs a designer handbag; they have just been trained to think they do. Nobody needs a "High value" man, either; many of them are not even what they appear, anyway. Decide what you really value and need, and go for it. It helps to throw away many of society's definitions of a "Good relationship" and good mate. Make some of your own rules; there is a lot of room for creativity.

[@verigumetin4291]

just be with people who love you, and just as importantly, love you back. That's it. Live your life by that rule and you won't suffer.

[@Ahmedhelps]

Why are you depressed?? You dont lack options when looking for a partner. Only if you have delusional standards.

[@jurassicthunder]

Running out of time 🕛 tick 🕛 tock 🕛 tick 🕛 tock 🕛 tick

[@isabelguzmanmiranda5025]

Why? You can be happy without marriage or a long term relationship. To be honest, most people are not good long term relationship material. And that's OK.