How my perception of Asexuality has changed

Hi there, if you're still watching my videos even though I've been absent for over a year, I appreciate you.
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[@robpalwrites]

Cheers for the update. I'm glad to hear you're doing well. ✔️ I'm in my tenth year of knowing I'm asexual too, although I didn't realise it was a thing until I was 33 years old. Although I'm aromatic too, it's still sometimes tough to be on my own, so I really hope that eventually the right person will turn up for you before you get to my age.

[@chrysatr]

Hey Alex! I am very glad to see that you feel much more comfortable in your own skin! ❤

[@CookeeMonsterr]

Hey Chrysa, great to see you still follow the channel! Thank you for the kind words, hope you’re doing well

[@jessekos1859]

Whoopyoop, very happy to hear about self-acceptace and self-love. You're living your life beautifully ❤

[@CookeeMonsterr]

Nice to see you here Jesse 😊

[@dawntripp1974]

Welcome back!!! It’s important to see the growth and acceptance of our aceness.

[@Beam3178]

Great video, thanks for sharing! I just came out as ace last night and it was such a euphoric moment to finally be understood in a way that's so personal and integral to who I am

[@CookeeMonsterr]

Thank you for the kind words. So coincidental that you come out at the same time that I happen to make my first video on asexuality in over a year! Congratulations for doing so, I'm glad it made you feel better!

[@emilyrichard4884]

I’ve gone through similar growth. I am an American in my mid 20s and just got out of a long-term long distance relationship with another ace that didn’t work out. I had another short term local relationship with another ace in my teens. Both of them were online, and I actually met them both on the same asexual dating site which is no longer very active and that I have deleted my account on. I don’t intend on pursuing romance again until I complete my time at a university I’m about to attend. I’m lucky enough to be sex indifferent, so if I happen to meet an allosexual guy that I click with in real life during that time that accepts me for who I am that’s great. But right now, I am learning to be content in my singleness, and to be OK with the fact that I may never get married or have children even though I would like to have that in my future as a heteromantic asexual woman.

[@intheneighbourhood]

It's nice to see your progression over the years. It's hard for me to say I'm comfortable being this way. I relate so much to your experience. The impact it has on my ability to date to find a life partner is hard and often discouraging, paired with experiences where they viewed me as a fixer upper, to put it lightly, significantly impacted my willingness to find anyone. I've sort of given up on the idea of finding anyone. In my day to day, my focus is on uni, volunteering, etc. My hopeless romantic side of things will forever be unsatisfied but I try to squash it and ignore it as much as possible.

[@CookeeMonsterr]

Hey, really great to see you’re still following the channel. It sounds like our experiences over the last few years have been incredibly similar! It’s nice that you’re shifting your focus to important things like your studies 😊

[@Paula_Limberg]

Yay, another great video! Loved hearing your reflections. I totally agree - regardless of whether or not a long term relationship is of interest, there are wonderful things we can focus on in the near term to contribute to our community, enjoy life, and be fulfilled! I’ve been enjoying my local classical music community, playing with lots of ensembles, meeting new people, deepening relationships with my existing friends, and giving back to the community. I recently moved, so I get to do it all over again in my new spot! Plus, exploring a new area through the lens of travel is a fun adventure :) Wishing fulfillment and community to those looking for it!

[@CookeeMonsterr]

Nice to still see you here Paula! I appreciate the kind words and glad you liked the insights. It's pleasing to hear that you seem to be enjoying a sense of fulfilment from some of life's simple pleasures. I wish you a happy future in your new home

[@Paula_Limberg]

@@CookeeMonsterr thank you :) Well summarized, here’s to simple pleasures!

[@JekaterinaZyryanova]

I'm 30 now, and I realized that asexuality is a thing only about 5 years ago. Since childhood I was just thinking that all people around me are strange, focusing on sex and talking about it, but no, there is something wrong with me, actually. That have opened my eyes. I just live, like sex doesn't exist. I feel that I'll always be alone and my future really terrifies me, cuz I'm so introvert as well and I don't have any friends either, or a good job. Maybe if I had a good job I'd never worried, it's good to live alone :D But I do worry, I still can't eсcept myself, I'm glad you do! UPD I also lived in Poland for 6 years, nice coincidence :) I miss Warsaw.

[@butsoftwhatblight]

This is such an important message for any young person struggling with any kind of identity. I've had the exact same journey, my blog has about a hundred posts of angst from when I was working myself out and so full of worry, and now I'm 26 and I'm still trans and queer and things are really good actually! I think social groups that form around specific identities tend to attract people that are still struggling with it, you never hear from the people 10 years down the road who are out there living full happy lives who still have that identity, it's still important, but it's no longer a crushing weight and instead it's a source of joy and community. Thanks so much for contributing this!

[@CookeeMonsterr]

Hi there, thanks a lot for the kind words and appreciation. You're spot on there, it's kinda why I'm so surprised that so many old faces have resurfaced by commenting on this video of mine because, like you say, you don't tend to hear from people that have known for a while about their sexuality but rather those that have recently discovered this and it feels like a revelation to them.

[@div-swatchit.319]

As an ace, i can relate..but it's still highly challenging for me because in my country people are not much aware of asexuality but now i focus much more on traveling, music and things i like, not worrying much about what others think compared to how i was years ago!!💜💜💜💜

[@CookeeMonsterr]

That's the right attitude to have, good for you. Although I wish for more awareness about asexuality in your country soon.

[@dot7006]

Good to see a video from you again! I've also had a lot of growth in terms of my sexuality and where exactly i fit on the spectrum. Its still good to see people out there who relate though. And its interesting to see how that relationship with oneself develops over the years.

[@CookeeMonsterr]

Nice to still see you here 😊 pleasing to hear that you’ve grown a lot in terms of understanding your sexuality too!

[@jandenhartogh5003]

Well spoken, do what you like and accepting yourself is important. And yes I like traveling too 😊

[@CookeeMonsterr]

I appreciate the kind words, thank you Jan!

[@hayleycrose]

I know I’m a bit late, but I am so glad I came across this video! To hear this being spoken about in a way I was never able to articulate really helped me. Thank you for sharing some of your most personal self. 🖤🩶🤍💜

[@creationstation2431]

One year later haha! Glad to see you're doing well! Honestly, some of the most relatable content I've seen on this subject as a 24yo woman. Keep on keeping on☺

[@CookeeMonsterr]

I’m glad you enjoyed the video. It’s nice to still see you here 😊

[@zonairrohan9075]

Hey Alex! It's nice to see your travel posts on Insta and it's finally nice to see you back on here! I learned about Asexuality from you so it's really nice to see you going back to the roots, to the same topic that helped me get a bit closer to myself. Thank you again for posting these and keep it up!

[@CookeeMonsterr]

You’re a legend Zonair. Thank you for the continuous kind words and support on both my Instagram and my KZbin channel 😊 I hope to provide more videos similar to this going forward. I definitely don’t want to leave another one year gap between videos!

[@matoli_n]

It is difficult to find a partner who is asexual or who will understand your sexual especially if you're a lady..put fingers crossed the right one will come, i totally resonate with you.

[@HannUrgh4]

Hi! Lovely to see a new video! How are you doing? Long time no speak!

[@CookeeMonsterr]

Hi Hannah, long time no seek. Sorry for the delay, I've only just seen your comment. Hope you're doing well yourself and a whole bunch of memories have just come flooding back when I read your comment and realised it's you!