Lol..true But in my country it's really hard to find someone that's genuinely asexual...cuz Some hetrosexual men even fake it to get a partner..so as a woman I feel like i also have to be extra careful...it seems impossible to find the genuine ones!!💜

Love this vid, love you Alex, we need more content from you please!!

This may be too personal but have you heard of CFNM porn? It sounds like it’d be up your alley 👍

Thanks for sharing your story. ❤

I hope I ask this in the right way so forgive if my wording somewhat clumsy. As an asexual person who wishes to date, do you see gender as an issue? For example, would you date a women or man if there isn’t sexual attraction? Again sorry if that not the right way to ask this and accept my apologies if this question offends. I’m just curious and learning. Much love Alex

Sexuality is normal and natural. I don't understand why would you want to get rid of this from your life; there is absolutely no proven benefit, on the contrary. This is simply plain stupid and certainly not something to be proud of over the internets. You will regret deeply later on when you will eventually grow up and your narcissism will fade away.

Yoooo it’s so cool to hear your 10-year perspective, Alex! Love hearing how things have changed over time for you. Your points reminded me of 2 relevant stories from my last few months! Thought I’d share. I had a conversation with a younger friend who is closer to that super sex-focused stage in life than I am. Overall, they learned a lot as we were talking about compulsory sexuality, and thought that people of other sexualities have a lot to learn from ace people. It was cool to share all the knowledge and language I have with them as they navigate relationships and their personal needs in their own way! The ace community showed up for me during a big event this year, so I totally feel you on how great our online community is! It was cool to be able to reach out for help and get support from people who get it! Specifically, I asked on AVEN about surviving difficult medical procedures/exams that get complicated under layers of asexuality, sex repulsion, and gender dysphoria, and people helped me reframe and gain perspective that really helped me cope! It was amazing to find help for such a niche question among understanding and kind forum members ⭐️

I realized I was ace when I was 15, and just passed the 10 year mark myself a few years ago. I relate a lot! It was such a huge deal to me then, especially around 18-19. I've learned a lot about myself and my asexuality since, and finally figuring out that I'm aromantic (around 19yo) helped a lot. I hardly think about either now, and I feel a lot more positively about my future while being aroace, even if the struggles of being 'different' are still there

Have you watched Heartstopper? The character of Issac has been on a journey with his own asexuality. Ps always good to hear from you.

Wow! How great to see you again! And with such a nice and positive update! 😃

You confused me when you said about posting every 2 years, because I remember commenting on a more recent video. It turns out that I got the wrong end of the stick 😆 By the end of this week I'll be 12 years into knowing that I'm ACE, but as an older guy I'm still not happy with it, and have only told a select few people because it doesn't define me, so it's none of anyone else's business. Even though I've dabbled with the "community", it's not really a place for me, as the majority of other users are much younger, so we don't have much in common, so I rarely take part these days. Although it did help me feel more understood at the outset of my discovery.

It's been 10 Years :D

I understand you completely, the same thing happens to me, in my case I am asexual and gay (homoromantic) and it happens to me I like guys, I feel attracted to them, but nudity bores me or causes me repulsion, and it is super weird, because sometimes I can get my libido up, but if I try to unload it by watching sexually explicit content, it doesn't go well. I didn't understand it until now, I see that it happens the same to others, thanks for sharing your experience, now I know I'm not alone in this.

im 19 years old religious muslim never masturbated i am virgin and i will not masturbate or sex until marriage

Thank god i found someone to whom i can relate. I am also 18y/o and never masturbated and i don't want to but i've one question not mastubating will affect my sexual health in future? Hoping for an answer❤

Bros balls are big now

1:25 if they don't like the Greece jokes they have no comedic taste 😆

You don't have genitals .

That means you're anti body positivity you're a bully

Why are you nudity repulsed I'm anti six i really hate it but being naked is normal nothing wrong with the human body only wrong actions are gross

Love my own space. I don’t like having roommates lol but it would be nice to have a relationship but maybe not live with the person.

Did you get any likes on Hinge? I’ve put I’m ace on so many dating apps and if I am on there enough and for enough time I get a lot of likes. I am only on hinge and ace space now and am way more picky about who I match with but have still gotten a good amount likes. I think you just were on it for a short about of time.

Thank you for this video man! I was wondering if I was asexual because I am not really attracted to anyone lately but I do like porn... So... Probably not. I can understand your reaction though... If not for the sexual excitation, if you think about it, sex is kinda disgusting. Well thanks for sharing your experience, take care man!

Thank you for your experience. I'm ace too. Please stay away from porn though; it is violent and is used to encourage violence done to women and children. I survived human trafficking and they made porn of the whole thing starting when I was a baby and continuing through my childhood and adolescence and even into my adulthood. The porn you watched probably supported slavery. Even if it didn't, I read that the biggest site for porn has primarily violence as its subject matter according to the research. The women get beaten, choked, strangled and raped. So please don't give your money to the people who use porn as an excuse to torture, exploit and enslave people.

I remember watching your videos back in the day and couldn't find your channel again for years. Happy to see you're good. There's so little male ace representation, I'm happy you put out the video. Male and female ace experiences are quite different

Same, im not 22 tho

I also never masturbated opps i lied🤭

I find the act of wanting to physically jump sum 1 or sum things bones creepy and rapish in general if you're sooooo horny just go in the corner and toss you're self off cause you're not touching me I've already been sexually fiddled with a couple years back it was gross and I hated every moment of it I'm a man by the way 😢😂😮😅😊

Im 20 i just lost my v card, last easter actually 😊

I know I’m a bit late, but I am so glad I came across this video! To hear this being spoken about in a way I was never able to articulate really helped me. Thank you for sharing some of your most personal self. 🖤🩶🤍💜

I think you are perhaps a bit confused. If you feel attraction towards the opposite sex, you are heterosexual. Sexual attraction is not just the desire for sexual intercourse, but encompasses attitudes like love and affection. One of the errors of modern society is the decoupling of the sexual act from romance and love. So we now believe you can routinely have sex and experience no love and romance, or only experience love and romance, whilst having no sex. Although both may be true, it is extremely rare and not a normal and healthy expression of sexuality. Some heterosexual people don’t have a high desire for sexual intercourse, or only have a desire for sexual intercourse if it’s combined or resulting from romance and love. This is very normal and describes almost all heterosexual people at some point in time. If you have no desire for sexual intercourse and only desire romance and love from another human being then there could be two reasons - you may have an underlying psychological condition (e.g. autism, OCD, anxiety) or physical condition (e.g. impotence) that can be corrected, or you may instead be called to celibacy and might find a better home in religious life or secular life where there is no commitment to any relationship (singlehood). Celibacy is an entirely normal expression of the human condition (albeit rare). Asexuality is a term that’s often erroneously used to describe people. If persons are seeking romantic relationships with no intention for sexual intercourse, then they are misusing their sexual expression. If persons are masturbating, then they have natural sexual desire that isn’t being fulfilled properly (i.e. with another person). Asexual is often used as a term to paper over issues with sexual expression that people feel nervous or anxious about, including celibacy. Some women use the term asexual in particular to cover over severe anxiety about sexual expression, say anxiety about being bullied or pressured into sex by men. Don’t hide from your sexual expression using terms like asexual. Be more bold to explore whether or not relationships are for you, and if so, how you can learn to more healthily expression love and sexual intercourse together.

Growing up, I thought I was gay and it always felt like a shirt that was not the right fit for my frame. It was late in my adult life when I started wondering ... some of my own self-reflections are very opposite of the gay experience, maybe I'm not gay - but if not, what? Your videos helped me settle into a shirt that felt like the *perfect* fit, and learn all the ways people wear it! I'm sorry I haven't said it before: THANK YOU!

Hi! I’m on the aroace spectrum (I think I’m aego? Still working on it lol), and I love this video so much. It’s amazing how the choices we make can change our lives so much. I’ve never seen your content before but it’s very sweet and heartfelt 💜 maybe sometime you could do a video about when people say you’re lucky to be ace? I’ve gotten it from a few of my friends lately and it’s hard to respond because they’re usually saying it because they’re coming from a bad breakup or struggle with short term relationships and such, so I never really want to correct them that no, being ace isn’t the answer to all their prayers, but also I feel bad lmao. Just subscribed, I hope to see more! 💜

I've been around since the early days, having similar growth myself. I'd love to meet up if you come to the states man.

Wow, I can’t believe it’s been 9 years since 2015. I feel like I just watched that video yesterday

Great to hear from you, Alex, and cool to hear the condensed version of the whole timeline (so far!). It’s awesome that your willingness to share about your asexual experience has been the catalyst for such community, healing, and friendship! It’s incredible what camaraderie can do for a person’s motivation, self esteem, etc etc! Reminds me of one of the messages from a book series I just finished :) everyone matters and can make an impact, so just think how many people flourish as a butterfly effect of you just being you and holding space for us to be ourselves too! Hope the year improves from here :)

You look like you are in a happier place

Iam literally in the exact same position right now! I have 8 days left and I also don’t want to use my degree as I too realised I don’t have passion for it and have also been experiencing anxiety regarding my next steps which has been making me lack motivation… thank you for this video made me realise iam not alone in this boat (although commenting this 8 years later lol)

I remember when you uploaded that video- made me realize I wasn't alone- made me feel like I belonged :) Edit: I was there when you uploaded it. Can't believe it's been 10 Years!

I envy you, I wish were you I friend fool me to do masterburate I regret that

i understand so much... i don't quite understand myself. i fear i will forever be alone, but i think im ace and i don't feel attracted to guys.. but i DO want to have someone to come home to, you know?

I was off the next day on the dating apps

1:05 ❤.❤ he is the perfect man in my eyes..

I’ve gone through similar growth. I am an American in my mid 20s and just got out of a long-term long distance relationship with another ace that didn’t work out. I had another short term local relationship with another ace in my teens. Both of them were online, and I actually met them both on the same asexual dating site which is no longer very active and that I have deleted my account on. I don’t intend on pursuing romance again until I complete my time at a university I’m about to attend. I’m lucky enough to be sex indifferent, so if I happen to meet an allosexual guy that I click with in real life during that time that accepts me for who I am that’s great. But right now, I am learning to be content in my singleness, and to be OK with the fact that I may never get married or have children even though I would like to have that in my future as a heteromantic asexual woman.

Well done. This is the most powerful addiction for most men even more so than drugs. Dont masturbate..EVER.

Thank you sharing your insight. As a demisexual/asexual woman, what I basically look for is the closeness of a relationship (company, reciprocity, trust), minus the more sexual component of it. I was in a relationship with an allosexual man, and it was quite challenging for both of us, because of our opposite needs. I wish there was more visibility and acceptance. I also prefer sleeping by myself, but that doesn't mean I don't crave emotional connection. It's a difficult situation to be in.

I masturbated since I was 12 - In my teens did so 3 to 5 times a day including bedtime. Now that I am older I do it once a night at most. But I was one horny geek in my teens and 20's. Have a very weak bladder and go alot so that gives me the urge as well.

Your body doesn’t store semen after seventy or so days it’s gone back into the body’s process to release it .

I started to masturbate after I graduated college. I had a roommate in college that was doing it and was wondering what was happening. I thought he was only tapping his feet but turned out he was masterbating. It felt good, but I only did it every other week or month.

Asexuality is not aromanticism. Both are spectrums. Attitudes towards the acts are also a spectrum. Feeling differently in what sounds like a one off situation does not come anywhere near invalidating anything. You just found the mythical one they keep telling us about. So... congrats i guess? Hope it goes well. Your aceness is still valid!