How Narcissistic Husbands Treat Their Wives

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[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@MrGizmoalchemist]

@@RebeccaZungEsqso check this out. The first time meet my husband after I have been diagnosed with brain tumour. He pushes me aside and completely blasts me. Did I fail him by letting him down? Or did I fail him by finding out in the nick of time? Completely different response to all my other loved ones. Another thing; medical neglect ± I begged him to get me checked out. I have ended up in a &e twice now; every person around me (Including ppl down the street) have noticed me on verge of dying. All except one person. I have every situation at an extreme to talk about. Even the time when he wanted me to sit down and watch the 1940s film Gaslighting. And then thought it comical to start moving my things. Is it like comedy or slapstick for him? Is he possessed coz I don’t think even he knows or remembers what he does. I genuinely think he doesn’t remember. Some kind of memory block? Sex is also a reward earned for the woman if she’s seen to work hard in the house. Certain things are a turn on. And if they don’t see you working in the house they assume ur doing nothing - even when you’re holding down a full time job. Also for them a wife is a pay as go commodity esp when she didn’t bring finances that he thought she had with her… so instead she’s starved of anything. Has to put her hand out for every penny and item, but yet she doesn’t serve it because she chooses it herself. Well.. she is rewarded time to time with an affection called sex and when she rakes in some cash for him she gets the highest reward. Anyways the wife is not a commodity , she is a concubine - be seen and not heard. She can’t challenge coz her challenge isn’t high level functioning enough. She isn’t articulate enough so it’s too boring. He can’t get the claws in unless she gives something of herself. Btw She isn’t even allowed to parent better than him… he will take her straight down down down …if she’s anything other than an emotional wreck. When she does become that emotional wreck… that’s another chapter. So much more to tell… I appreciate to helping me figure it all out. Before I started watching ur vids I had absolutely no idea. Was inexperienced and naive… and came from a family where my parents didn’t see eye to eye - but they were on the same team. They didn’t compete amongst themselves.loads more stories. So I never expected my husband to compete against me. Anyways, I’m completely worn, damaged and fatigued. I need some guidance in UK.

[@Guaicoboi]

So the Narcissistic wife treats their husbands better?

[@charles120001]

There are just as many female narcissists as there are male narcissists. Hence, there are girlfriends, fiances and wives who treat their boyfriends, fiances and husbands in the same way as you describe in your video. The female narcissist is no different from the male narcissist, and so the message you are conveying is completely false. If you do not understand the latter, you have no empathy for male victims nor understand what victims, male or female, go through throughout their whole lives. No accountability, empathy, shame, guilt, regret, remorse, being self-centred, and a sense of entitlement are 8 of the key traits of a narcissist; that's why they have the capability to lie with a straight face.

[@rustamanda]

I would needs this. Married before. But after Years again. Now I realise with shock, did I do it again wrong.

[@dproper912]

A person has to be financially able to get out... This includes being able to work... Most people are not able to get out...

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[@CatherineSTodd]

dproper: that's true. Since my "jailer" used all my money for all the expenses in the relationship, it tooks YEARS for me to save enough to get out by HIDING IT with a friend in another state and a PayPal account he knew nothing about... and FINALLY I could leave. I had to rent a single room for $400 a month and start from scratch with NOTHING when I was more than 50 years old. How could I have allowed this to happen to me, when I had made a very good salary at my own business, but he found ways to take it all? I had not ONE PENNY IN SAVINGS and it was even worse than that in the beginning, but I finally did leave and I was free to grow like a flower in the garden. Then I made the mistake of going back, and guess what? Repeat performance all over again. But this time I got out AGAIN and did not let him touch a penny since I no longer lived with him, but every time he offered "help" it would come back later as a demand to be repaid for a LOAN. So now I don't believe a word he says and I just stay away.Divorced and he can't do a darn thing to me that I don't let him. Now, it's all UP TO ME. "Jus say NO, NO MORE, and WALK AWAY AND STAY AWAY! No matter how long it takes!

[@jameezbikes5943]

100% That's my struggle right now 😢

[@paulettelamontagne6992]

​@@jameezbikes5943always acwayy

[@debbiecarleton2101]

It's taken me almost a year I am going to get out in June

[@th3azscorpio]

This is why I will always advocate for women holding down careers, and having their own money, and resources, to not depend on a man. Never allow another person to hold the keys to your life, and ability to fucntion. The person who feeds you, can starve you.

[@bethmichaels8410]

I have no problem with women working unless there are young children. Caregivers, even family, can’t always be trusted to care for vulnerable young kids and being in a group of people who aren’t siblings is stressful. We need to teach women how to better screen husbands so to not get in this mess. I wish someone had done that for me. The first thing is to not be even remotely sexual b4 marriage as science tells us that women bond emotionally to a physically intimate partner and are then easier to deceive/love bomb. The second is to take plenty of time to get to know him, his character under pressure, his family of origin as it greatly impacts his vision of marriage, what are his friends like, does he have even have any, what is his view of God, what does he think of children, is he financially responsible or in debt. I say this as someone who survived 36 yrs with a Narc and can look back on many red flags that I didn’t see in my youth.

[@th3azscorpio]

​@@bethmichaels8410 Yes, women need to better screen husbands, but if you truly think narcissist can be 100% weeded out, then you fail to understand narcissism. There's a reason why dv typically begins AFTER the woman is pregnant. Narcissist have the ability to mask their negative qualities, and bring them out later, once they're victims are where they want them to be. Narcissist will be perfect chameleons, for however long they need to be. And women absolutely should have jobs, careers, and money of their own, regardless of whether children are in the picture or not. That's non negotiable. Ive witnessed FAR too many women get done over by relying on their mans income, to take care of them. Having money and resources give women leverage to be able to get themselves out of a bad situation, should their husband switch up on them, or walk out. And holding out, being a virgin; while is admirable, isn't 100% bullet proof either. It can also set women up to be manipulated by men who are more experienced as well. Women just need to be educated about narcissism, and abuse red flags, so that way they can learn to spot the signs quicker, and stay away from these types men.

[@bls5160]

@@bethmichaels8410 And really look at the man that is their father. The apple never falls far from the tree.

[@RavenWolfDrum69]

😢

[@RavenWolfDrum69]

​@bls5160 and brothers

[@debbinevius3454]

Agree. Lived with a narcissistic husband for 25 years. I finally divorced him. It took a long time to get to that point but I was finally free!

[@susanservin1949]

Same here. 14 years of hell. Took a big hit financially, but I'm very happy now.

[@tracyross5831]

Being Free from THEIR MISERY, is Definitely worth the risk..... I'm doing GREAT..... AND, I FINALLY have Friends.... REAL Friends!!😊

[@tinydancer36]

They don't love you...they USE you!

[@rayc9899]

so true...not reliable to say the least, don't trust anything they say.

[@milliehummer4713]

Thirty years of agony. He constantly insulted me, beat me when drunk or angry, abused my pets and threatened to throw them outside to be run over. The sickest thing was observing how he delighted in seeing the pain and misery of anyone he felt unworthy. This included my blind, disabled sister who he called a “piece of s*#t!” I always thought he was just a A-hole but through therapy I realized what a monster he was. He now is a broken down alcoholic and his “dream woman” is in prison for felony drunk driving. He fought me in court for custody of our fifteen year old son and didn’t want to pay child support. I never completely quit my RN job like he wanted me too so I am doing very well. No contact is the way to heal.

[@jillfoley6834]

Good for you!!!💙🙏💙😇

[@jamesadams2334]

........and who else were you seeing while your life was just horrible?

[@user-em8on8py9z]

We must have been married to the same monster. Mine died after 30 yrs of abuse. I'm free.

[@truthjunkie63]

So happy for you.

[@Artsylady2030]

last night my guy threatened to break my fingers ???? uggggg can't even remember why he was mad.....

[@KatieMikres]

I didn’t realize I was married to a narcissist until I left him. Then, I had space to really evaluate what had happened through therapy and reflection. I was shocked. Everything made sense.

[@recoveringsoul755]

Right? And then I had to look at the entire relationship from day one, with fresh eyes and newfound knowledge. The NPD was the driving force behind all the confusing behavior. Every weird interaction, all the fights when there was nothing to fight about, all the ruined holidays, and parties, the road rage, car kidnappings , constantly changing rules I was expected to know and follow, getting blamed for everything. It all made sense now. It wasn't me.

[@CatherineSTodd]

​@@recoveringsoul755 : "... and getting blamed for everything." That's the icing on the cake, isn't it? And then the KILLER BULLET, when all we have to do is finally JUST SAY NO, WALK AWAY, and STICK TO IT! Now that I've been gone for three years my eyes are finally opening too. The scales have fallen from my eyes... what took me so long?

[@recoveringsoul755]

@@CatherineSTodd it takes so long to figure out, for me anyway. I think I was so confused while being actively abused, trying SO HARD to communicate, to the point I would be defining words to make sure we were on the same page about what a word meant. It's exhausting. But they ENJOY THAT!!! He loved to come in late and start yelling at me when I was asleep!!! One time I fell asleep on the couch and he did that. I got yelled at for the next 2 hours and was wide awake with adrenaline for hours more The next night I was ready. Fell asleep on the couch again, but kept my shoes on that time, and had my purse next to me I woke up. Didn't say a word back to him. Just got up and out the front door. Drove away . As I pulled away he had come to the front door and was probably stunned. His punching bag went away I came back in 20 minutes and he was asleep. I saved myself 2 hours of being yelled at.

[@shahnazbi8346]

I didn't I was married to a narcissist until he died of stage 4 metatastic cancer of the brain two and a half years ago. I put up with so much suffering for 31 years . I couldn't leave because of the children and financial considerations.

[@starlingswallow]

SAME HERE! The whole relationship I was confused. I even drew out diagrams and graphs of our fights to figure out where it was going wrong (I'm a problem solver:) and nothing worked. My brain constantly felt as if someone stuck a cake mixer in it and hit scramble! 2 weeks after I left him, I stumbled across a video on YT (20 symptoms of narcissistic abuse syndrome) and I had ALL 20!! I literally cried my eyes out because I had an answer! FINALLY!! I'm almost 6 yrs out and in trauma therapy. I'm remarried to the most amazing man who loves me, shows that love, holds me when I have a c-ptsd bout, holds me when I cry, he's never once yelled or raged at me, he appreciates me and helps around the house. He believes in me, accepts me, supports and encourages me.... The difference is astronomical! 🤯💕 I will say, going through that hell on earth has made me SO thankful for my now husband! Silver lining....

[@user-ii3vn8tn3q]

Loved bombed, positioned to take care of him, then ignored. Story of my life.

[@fancy3160]

same. 30+ years so far and at 70 am truly trapped. Love to all here

[@IAMME168]

Same here. 😭😭🙏🙏🌹🌹

[@sandrawoodall8340]

Exactly!

[@IAMME168]

@fancy3160 🙏🙏🙏🫶🫶🫶🫶 You deserve love, respect, dignity and so much more! 💖

[@lauriepolden6594]

My sister-in-law married, my brother who is a narcissist, was married for 12 years, divorced him after giving him half the house which his name was not on the deed, but he threatened not to give her the divorce upon divorcing her he bought a crappy piece of property with his half of the money found out he couldn’t build because of certain laws in town where he moved she bought a home was very happy and he talked her into coming to live where he was. She bought a manufactured home sold her home now they live together and guess what he owns half of the house. She can’t get rid of him and when she dies, he’s gonna get the whole thing what a manipulating bastard, but I can’t blame her. She stupid. She saw it and she still stays with him

[@1stBorn538]

🙋‍♀️I can tell you how they treat us, horrible!! With no remorse or apologies

[@janedoe5229]

My neighbor, the older daughter was dating a much older, RICH man. She moved in with him. Everything was great. They got married. They went on a honeymoon. They got back and she said, "The maid didn't show up today". The new husband said, "I let her go. Now that we are married, I don't need her". The new bride packed up and left the same day. Good for her.

[@kindlyignore]

So what kind of marriage was this supposed to be? Seems like she wanted a traditional man who provides, but not being a traditional woman in return?

[@unrulypeasantr3911]

​@kindlyignore Well silly, he obviously presented the benefit of housekeeping services in order to entice her into a long term relationship. Then he pulled the rug out from under her AFTER marriage. He should have been honest and up front with her BEFORE MARRIAGE about HIS expectation that she would become the full time housekeeper. He should have warned her that he intended to fire the housekeeper as soon as they were married. That's deceptive behavior on his part. Period. She obviously caught on early and interpreted his behavior as deceptive. That's why she left him IMMEDIATELY, before he could entrap her and destroy her life.

[@Artsylady2030]

@@unrulypeasantr3911 I wouldn't want the maid around anyway...maybe that is why he got rid of her....

[@joyace9674]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@joyace9674]

Who need a house keeping when that the wife job no one told her to get married men works out the women stay home and take care the family that’s the real world supposed to be and if wife wants to do a little something to help out is on her

[@yvonnegourlay2557]

Eph. 6. [12] For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.

[@angelwings3128]

💯 correct!

[@Iamthatchick]

No disrespect, but how does this scripture help those today, those they are in a physical body, that are in real time, on planet earth? Don’t be so heavenly minded that you are no earthly good. Just being real! You can not hide behjnd the veil of God, by putting your head in the sand or clouds using the Bible. That isn’t going to get you out of relationship with narcissist, unscathed. Practical along with spiritual advise is useful.

[@emmalove135]

@@Iamthatchick Your “ No disrespect.” Is disrespect ONLY because you don’t have a Spirit of Understanding or discernment in regards to FAITH and Believing that GOD is THE HIGHER POWER upon whom we in our times of tribulations can hide ourselves in for Strength, and rely upon for our help in an ever Present NEED. The Holy Bible is GODS WORD and there is ONLY one LIAR and that’s Lucifer, a.k.a. Satan,a.k.a. The Devil or Slewfoot. We look to HIS WORD for comfort, guidance, hope, and Love. We know that HE Loves us because HE said so and sent HIS ONLY son to die on a cross ✝️ to Pardon us from our sins against HIM. When we accept HIM in Faith believing that HE took our death in HIS own body for us and are Baptized in HIM , we receive HIS Life in us and HE teaches us HOW to live . My second ex- husband was in Folsom Prison doing “ time” for a crime that he committed. While it was my intent to help him with his problem, they soon became mine because he refused to turn himself in until I forced his hand and he had no where else to go at the time. Also, it was not my intent to marry him until I was certain of his intentions; however, I had to marry him in prison to make good on my promise. Some time after his release from prison, he began to fall back into his old ways. If he was not a Narcissist before, he surely was at that time and rather quickly became worse. He had suddenly struck me for no apparent reason and a few minutes later he grabbed my throat and squeezed until I heard a voice tell me to “ Let go and Let GOD.” As I began to pass out / die he dropped me. When I asked him why he didn’t just finish killing me, he said that he saw those prison bars in front of his face again and decided that he was not going back there because of me. ( ... because of me. ??? More likely due to his inability to think correctly.) If it was not for my FAITH in GOD, I believe that I would’ve died at the hand of a Narcissist. I could say more ; however, I will close here. Thank you 🙏 in Jesus Christ 🦁✨✝️ 11:32

[@emmalove135]

This is correct regarding those in our Government and other governments too. I heard recently that during COVID when people were “ Locked down “ as though we were inmates in a Prison , everyone was stuck at their “ Home( s ) -Cells “ and a lot of people became addicted to PORNOGRAPHY and DRUGS. A lot of this is blamed on men ; however, I have seen how it has affected women also. So, I believe that they should shoulder some of that same addiction Blame. You are 💯 % correct in mentioning this Bible scripture though. This proves How one thing is affected by another. 👍👍🙏🦁✨✝️ 11:32

[@maureenperry1169]

Totally agree with this.

[@gabbypage6929]

My poor mother,I still cry for her and the treatment she went through from my father and brother. All the joy was sucked out of her.

[@shapeeps]

My mom too. I like to imagine a life where they never married and she lived her dreams. My dad turned us against her, I have so much regret.

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[@sherrybradford9507]

My mother truly suffered, understand

[@valerierosproy1255]

​​@@shapeepsI'm so sorry 💔🙏 for all

[@valerierosproy1255]

@gabbypage so very sorry 💔🙏💞

[@bevvanderheyde933]

I'm turning 60 soon. I'm planning on getting out of this marriage. I can't anymore I'm tired

[@danielar3716]

I wish you good luck from all my heart. Do it without remorse before it's too late.👍

[@asmtoni83]

I’m in the same place as you!! I said I’m not going to live the rest of my life with him.

[@sharonnichols1998]

❤Praying for you! Praying others do the same! Especially the woman that’s with my ex currently. I pray that she has new eyes to see too! Red flags and lightbulbs going off! Amen ❤

[@wheatORweed]

I left a 35 year marriage to a narcissist in March. I’ll be 60 this summer. The stress would have killed me to stay any longer.

[@theresamarchiano1521]

I have no where to go . So I decided to just agree with him and not argue back as I can never win anyway. He’s very busy and not home much, which is good for Mr. I need self control bc I was raised by a narcissist father and a step mother. Maybe now that’s all I attract? I am no match for him. Just going to fake it and try and be happy when he’s not around

[@robertvaughn2150]

I had a different form of financial abuse. My husband wanted children but insisted i keep working. I was in charge of all finances, paying bills, doing taxes, reconciling accounts. I am an accountant by trade he took advantage. In the mean time he used his job to avoid being home to help. When traveling for work he had to have new cloths and accessories with almost every trip. He knew i was frugal and would not overspend but his spending was out of control. If not for work appearance then for hobbies. Meanwhile I'm trying to keep the bills current and buying my cloths from thrift stores. Sometimes they control the money with out the actual responsibility of controling the money.

[@annjohnson8437]

I'm experiencing the same thing.

[@tbacon2784]

I went through this with 1st husband, and now my daughter believes him and his sisters, who say, I paid the bills and it was me that spent all the money. Yes, I paid bills, but he would throw temper tantrums when he wanted something we couldn't afford, then got mad if I couldn't pay the bills afterwards and wouldn't let me work to make extra money either most of the time. If I went and got a job, he would make sure I didnt get enough sleep (2-3hrs a night at most), to be able to stay awake at work, even when it was only 4hr work days. I have no idea how he could stay awake at work during that time, but after I fell asleep while driving to work one day, I quit, and suddenly he needed his beauty sleep and would be in bed by 9:30pm!

[@2cats24GOD]

My ex did it both ways...he "allowed" me to control the household budget but he "handled" the taxes and savings...he would constantly berate and belittle me that I wasn't doing a good enough job...meanwhile he was squirreling away money and hiding it well. Really well. Twenty-five years into the marriage I finally started to see all the red flags of his cheating, lying, devious behavior. I began challenging him and that was the beginning of the end. He destroyed our family and life and tried to twist it all around with gaslighting behavior. I escaped but the damage was huge and it has taken years to heal, both emotionally and financially. He actually said he would destroy me and leave me destitute. He tried, I will give him that. But I did survive. I live a simple life now and am much more content.

[@julietrees6534]

This was me too. He destroyed me in every way, including financially 😔

[@camisnyder3460]

Same. I’m drowning in bills. I make 40k and he makes 150k yet I’m fucking paying for damn near everything, raising the kids, coooking cleaning etc EVERYTHING, I’m sick of being a doormat. I love taking care of my house and kids but I need a partner not a slave driver.

[@FlorenceBillett]

I left him 7 years ago and I do not regret it. I put up with him too many years and my children and I have suffered! We stay away from him!

[@teresahudson-lk7dw]

I lived this nightmare. It is so horrible. They do convince everyone that you are the most awful person and they are a saint for taking care of you. The worst part is people believe them. My husband died and All his ugliness is still coming to light. It seems to never end. The destruction and pain he has caused is a unbearable hell The truth is I am glad he is forever GONE.

[@margaretholton1579]

I was married to a covert narcissist for 49 years - I was in survival mode, protecting 3 daughters, didn't even consider narcissistic behavior. Although we stayed together - our relationship was over. Then he died. Only after a year or so, I got enough distance to recognise what was going on. I found out he'd maligned me to my sons-in-law & grandchildren. They hate me. My daughters feel the same, now. Wish he was still alive - I would handle him SO differently!

[@cheryldee95]

Narcissists only want you…when you are either not interested in them, or…have been through the love bombing phase, have fallen for their charm…and are now in the miserable ‘constant criticism’ stage…and decide that you want out of the relationship. THEN, they are interested again, but…unbeknownst to you…they are not interested in YOU, they are only interested in keeping you from leaving. So, they turn on the charming love bombing again. And if that is successful, and you stay…it will only be a matter of time before the constant criticism stage will reappear.This push/pull nightmare…never ends with these narcissists. Never. A intolerable living hell. Pay attention to the red flags. They are your saving grace. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

[@rw9182]

Wow. You just described my husband and my life EXACTLY. I’m going through a divorce. I discovered his second life and all the horror that goes along with it. Now., I’m alone. He’s gone, my son has sided with him, my daughter isn’t talking to me because I emotionally exhaust her. Nobody understands. Nobody except for you.

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[@shapeeps]

My dad was great at turning my brother and I against my mom, even though we were sometimes aware of his actions. He made us focus on her reactions, it’s so stupid and manipulative and cowardly. I believe you, I’m sorry you’re going through this. Your kids will come around eventually, I hope. Please stay strong. You matter, they love you so much.

[@emmahopson2253]

We're did you start

[@lynnienorris5776]

Daughters are hard on their mothers for Divorcing their Fathers..." I call it "Daughters of Divorce "

[@americafirst9144]

Glad you got away from that situation. At some point, we have to become the parent of the hurt child within us.

[@logothaironsides2942]

Mine is interested in physical 'affection' ONLY, he has no time for talk or feelings or future plans unless it is his own. He might say 'what do you think'? but he is humming in his head over the answers and ignores them completely because it is enough for him that he was heard to be asking.

[@kathybrem880]

Same here, and he became enraged when I would not submit to kinky stuff. For me-a deal breaker and he knew it--I asked him once why he married me--he said he believed he could change me

[@laurasmith4783]

Totally true about the social isolation… Always he would either belittle me in front of others and/or say something that absolutely would alienate me from each and every friend, potential friends, co workers and so on.

[@marianclooney7368]

This was my life until I left and could not stand it anymore. My self esteem was on the floor and I lost myself as a person and did not know myself. Best decision of my life to leave. Now, I am standing in my own power. I do not put up with any disrespect in any form from anybody. Tough lesson learned.

[@juliasullivan7519]

Talking about emotional unavailability...had to drive myself to the hospital in labor as hubby was at the bar and had also loaned his car to someone (female) he worked with, insuring he was completely unavailable to me at a time when he needed to be prepared to take me to hospital to have our baby!

[@CatherineSTodd]

Wow! He had you, coming and going. What a terrible experience. Hope he's gone permanently from your life now!

[@juliasullivan7519]

Not knowing I should/could get out, I was with him for 40+ years. Many, many instances of very cruel neglence, emotional abuse, in the end physical abuse. He died after protracted illness last year. ​@CatherineSTodd

[@CatherineSTodd]

​@@juliasullivan7519 : same here, Julia... more than 45 years of emotional abuse, neglect, rejection, gaslighting, lying, stealing, and financial torture from Day One - until I didn't know which way was up, and I just gave up. It never ended. How do you feel now that he's gone permanently? Do you feel FREE?

[@Nurturing2]

I am SO sorry!!! 💔

[@apriljames3096]

Mine drove me to the hospital but parked far from the door (on purpose). I had to walk across the parking lot while in labor to get to the front door. The check in nurse gave him an evil look when she saw what he did. She suggested I sit in a wheelchair upon arrival and he told her I could walk. I was 5 dilated!!

[@tinaalbritton3450]

I work 40 hours a week and still can't afford to leave! It's like being in a Mental prison, you cant escape! 😢

[@joyace9674]

You luck to be alive not too survive people wind up dead

[@anne-vl7qf]

Oh dear are you sure there is nowhere you can go??

[@DebraRasmussen-ji4vj]

I left 23 years ago. I had not been allowed to work so it was like I was getting a job for the first time in my life I was 40 years old granted this was 23 years ago but I bought a house working part time for about 750 an hour it’s been a horrible struggle and still is to this day. I am 63 now still struggling financially but I don’t regret it for one minute. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to retire because I don’t have enough money but again it was worth it. I’m so content and don’t have somebody treating me the way he did. I hope everything works out well for you. Are not alone alone.

[@kat71580]

After 50 years, the door is nearly open, it's so very hard. Waiting for the day I can go...I so hope you find your way out.. then start to live..❤❤❤

[@leanneschultz4752]

Agree, our marriage revolves around my husband. Once I finally did some research, everything made sense! Thank you for helping all of us in some small way!

[@chrishinson7081]

yeah, I started doing research as well. This behavior just wasn't normal. Then they want you to treat them with respect and honor!

[@laurasmith4783]

Totally. He did not even try to hide the fact he’s thinking of me like an obligation and sometimes even like an afterthought, or like an obstacle that better be grateful things aren’t way worse.

[@lisabishop7402]

I really resonated with this video. My husband made me give up my job 17 years ago and then the past 10 years he had emotionally neglected me. I ended up having an emotional affair because of the isolation, cameras on me and listening to my conversations. He is now divorcing me and trying to use money to control me. He literally told our marriage counselor that he is perfect.

[@Flieder9]

I feel you. No job since 10 yrs, but in the beginning I sat down, analyzing my strengths and weaknesses, updating my resume. He ridiculed me, saying I will never find a job again.Very discouraging and hurtful. I cried so much because without my well paid job, I felt I had lost my independence. He also must have devalued me, as I was no longer bringing in 50% of the money, I was less important in his life. Did you say neglect, like being ignored, given the silent treatment? He has so many secrets (credit cards, maybe bank accts, too). I was devastated when I accidentally found out. Aren’t you supposed to work as a team in a marriage, working on goals, sharing dreams for the future. No such thing. He hides things from me , but accuses me of having secrets, which is a projection. I saw him scrolling through my phone, when I left the room. Control issues. I have friends, but they do not want to come to our house. One told me bluntly, she does not like his arrogance and superior demeanor. Oh, but he has no friends because of me. And, he rarely ever hugs me. I feel so alone. During the pandemic, I was totally isolated. Honestly, if a leaf rake talked nicely to me, I would have fallen in love with him. Just last.weekend he ranted and raged about us not having cameras in every corner of the house and lot. Accused me of not being concerned with security.I have to cut down the trees for a clear line from the gate to the house…. Just thinking of being under surveillance at every move I make, makes me feel sick. Sorry for my rant, Lisa. I wish I could talk to you personally, on a phone. I

[@herbvoigt9002]

I am a man and I agree with that. It does not matter who is the narc. in the family .. Both sexes show the same trait. Like it or lump it

[@amberpatton7923]

I was married to a narcissistic for 13 miserable years. It was so bad that he drove me to have a mental breakdown and I ended up in the but house for two weeks.

[@EveningTV]

same here only 12 years and I ended up in jail. Thank goodness all that is in the past!

[@rayc9899]

He make sure that all his employees have a mental breakdown only to acted like a savior after, a devil control.

[@user-sw7cl4lh2x]

Ugh, yes the most horrible experience of my life, all the while he sat at the computer playing, "games" and having no job. I bought the house with cash, at he was looking for a new wife online because I had the nerve to ask him to get a job and help out with bills.

[@karenkennedy6331]

All you say is so true! I finally discovered my husband is a narcissistic after 40 years of marriage, narcissism made sense of his behavior, he was never supportive for me, and what he really thinks of me is shocking, he thinks I am so stupid, ( saw his therapy notes) , it’s been many dark nights where I realized my “ happy” marriage was not what I thought it was. I found out he cheated on me! Now he has Alzheimer’s ,cognitive decline, and dependent on my care, but physical care is all it is, I do not care or like him that much anymore. Greyrocking! Focusing on me,

[@Nurturing2]

I am SO sorry❣️ You deserve the very best life has to offer. ♥️❤️♥️

[@Sommer-ho7pk]

Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it.

[@user-er9hv4pl2u]

there is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things

[@Sommer-ho7pk]

its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.

[@user-er9hv4pl2u]

this is helpful, I will look her up. I hope this works for me too, I really miss her.

[@CatherineSTodd]

sommer: yes, but I finally had to realize that sometimes "there is always a solution," and that solution is to leave and get as far away as possible and never go back. That's when you are dealing with an intractable torturer and abuser who is never going to change. Sometimes you have to protect yourself and put yourself first. Glad it worked out for you, and hope it continues on well.

[@e.conboy4286]

@@user-er9hv4pl2u: Therapy is not Counseling. It requires an investment of time perhaps years and of course therapists are just like all professionals, they are in a business of assisting people resolve their problems. It has been compared to buying a house: you get what you pay for. Shop around, ask other people for recommendations, consult your minister and physician. All of us need help from time to time, it isn’t a sign of weakness. It is because your soul or spirit is in discomfort and pain. Does one do his or her own dentistry?

[@consciousequus]

A narcissist will NEVER have the " balls or ' courage ' to EVER say things like:" I just can't be there for you.... emotionally, spiritually, financially, " etc etc etc. " crazy making " tool is their ' go- to' tool , for They're cowards. .. unless, unworthy of themselves in their OWN eyes.

[@sd6737]

Oh my, I'd always tinkered with the idea my husband was a narcissist but this absolutely nails it. I've read so much about this but only hearing this has the penny dropped and I can see he actually gaslights me, 'I told you I was going out' when he never did. Brilliant watch! What do I do, I mirror. He's actually quite decent underneath and I feel a lot is him being raised my an absolute narcissistic witch of a mother who enjoys seeing pain in others and he could never develop who is truly is. So I no longer tolerate, I am very firm, I answer back and most importantly, I put myself first and take no *hit. Believe me, I'm ok, I live my life how I want to. He is completely aware now (he always threatened to leave me) that that door is wide open and I'm more than happy for him to go as the other side, for me, is rosy and full of opportunities. Does he go? Not now. Does he think I'm horrible/bossy - yes at times. I just take absolutely no truck from this man child or the narcissistic mother that pitifully lives within him.

[@CatherineSTodd]

sd: glad you are standing up for yourself. Question: is it worth it to stay, given what you now describe? If so, what makes it worth it for you?

[@Ladydi9367]

Thank you Rebecca! This is so true! Just got separated from my narc husband last year! He hid money, cheated on me, lied to me, was verbally abusive to me repeatedly. I am still going through the divorce process. He has not changed. Thank you for this information. It is very empowering!

[@carolelester8624]

Narcissism and strong chronic substance abuse is impossible, both feed on each other, and the high THC in the pot causes anxiety, psychosis, and paranoia and chronic mal content, all directed to at you as the cause, when in fact you have been their saving grace.

[@unrulypeasantr3911]

100%. I have been living this exact LITERAL HELLLLLL for 20+ years now. Add in the fact that my husband, like so many narcissists do, has been passive aggressively methodically trying to alienate our only child (19 yes old) against me, so I feel like Hell would be a vacation in comparison. It certainly feels like I'm living with an actual demon at times.

[@irme8930]

My husband comes from a narcissistic family. During our relationship he helped his brothers financially many times, but any time I remind him he gaslights me saying that it's not true, until last time that he recognized he gave 10.000 $ to his brother, but he became violent with me 😢.

[@daisydaffsforever723]

My husband tried to gaslight me the other day by saying arguments are my fault and I am the one in the wrong and made a mountain out of a molehill, about a simple matter that really didnt need discussing. I told him there was nothing wrong in what I did and he had to stop gaslighting and shifting focus away from him. I won!

[@SusanDupont]

Mine is a monster.Sweet,then a alcholholic, then an emotional abuser.Leaving him.

[@godzillamanstreb524]

You deserve happiness 🌷🌷🌷

[@Nurturing2]

RUN!!!

[@CynthiaAnn-ce1wq]

My the same and God is on my side 🙏🙏🙏

[@wendykruszynski159]

yes, all of this....I thought I was losing my mind. it erodes any self confidence you might have. or why did you do it like that....He constantly questions what I do as if I'm too dumb to make a decision. He made Jokes about me in public in front of my friends....but I watched a Narcissistic video and it opened my eyes....things are getting better. I must work hard everyday to counteract his behavior.

[@suelindsey2295]

I wish I never would of been talked out of being a nurse 😢 I’ve been isolated for so many years of marriage and I’m just use to it and have no desire to connect with anyone 😢

[@lorihoop3831]

You're not alone.❤

[@amysue1616]

Go to college- there are all kinds of scholarships available. . I did and it heals you. The young people are very inclusive now - but you gotta watch the young men - I was surprised how they like older women! I kept my distance for sure.

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@nursekat8988]

I went back to school. I'm 45 and in school for my RN. Go back!

[@lillie3289]

If you're isolated try running up the credit cards. Then when your partner gets upset tell them if only you could go to school you could stop shopping so much. When they act up make them put up

[@linguist1005]

It's amazing. Your description in this video is exactly how my wife treats me. She withdrew all funds from our joint and moved them into her private account after I refused to turn my income over to her, despite me paying all but one bill. Wow.

[@mshiker]

I think my ex gave always more attention to the others than me. I felt like I was the least important person. He made me feel like an outsider when my own relatives or friends came over. He wanted to have all the attention. If he didn't get it he acted in passive-aggressive way..making people leave our home - feeling so uninvited. In the end I lost the closest people in my life...they just began to avoid us.

[@beefstew4698]

Same here. It’s like we’re just a possession To cook and clean and raise kids 😢

[@kristenmarie9248]

​@@beefstew4698 Yep, and they even WEAPONIZED that against us! Never good enough.

[@user-dn3bn9qk4i]

Same here. Nobody comes to our house anymore. He says that is because of how I’m acting.. But I think some people have seen him for what he really is. Narcissistic alcoholic. I think that even he is tired of constant pretending. But sadly I can’t leave because I can’t afford it and I have children and dogs to take care of. And I’m working full time and still wouldn’t make it on my own. So I’m patiently waiting.. few more years so that children move away and then I’m out!

[@laurasmith4783]

Correct about the money control and the mockery !

[@ggtwice]

I tried all that shit. It backfired on me. Seemed no one could help me.

[@HelenVaughn-un6de]

I followed Rebecca’s guidelines for pre-leaving to leaving and onward…and it worked!

[@user-dc6wz4dv3l]

Narcissist aren't husbands and they have no wife, watch you'll see.

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[@bls5160]

Exactly but you do become like a mother to them.

[@Obihann]

Omg, this is my sociopathic ( with narc traits) husband (separated). It's hard to get the support for this because nobody appears to see how bad things were with these people. Although you've left the relationship, realisation of the ordeal brings trauma.

[@CatherineSTodd]

Obihann: "Although you've left the relationship, realisation of the ordeal brings trauma." Absolutely! I am going through that now, realizing I THREW MY LIFE AWAY for a monster who WAS NEVER going to do ANYTHING AND NEVER DID DO ANYTHING he said he would for me or the relationship but I stayed, waiting hoping and praying that "one day" things would be right and "normal," regardless of the EVIDENCE I was shown on a daily basis. I refused to open my eyes to the torture and cruelty I was being exposed to until I gave up on life and did not want to live anymore. But I kept working, kept paying the bills, kept taking care of everything and everyone EXCEPT good ole codependent me. It's only NOW AT AGE 74 I have been gone long enough to finally start to see WHAT I PUT MYSELF THROUGH by agreeing to "stay" and listening to all the "friends" who constantly exalted "Mr.Wonderful" and always found fault with ME. Our culture did this to us, too, always putting the responsibiity and blame on the woman to "keep the family together" and "make this marriage work." BUT NO MORE. Thank God young women today can now work and earn enough to pay their own way, don't have to get married, and I hope they never have to go through what we did. Gracias, Amen, that the times they are a' changin' !!!

[@randimckinney1940]

All so true. Luckily he left me for another woman, but it set me free after 25 years of misery. His life has continued to be full of drama, so glad it doesn't affect me.

[@nicholecornes1915]

They dont care

[@unbreakablefaith]

As soon as you have a problem they act like they are dying. You never get the attention when your suffering they turn the spot light on themself.

[@dougdefilippo8529]

My daughter, is losing her soul w her husband, he is very cruel

[@cristianamyers5893]

This is so spot on!! Thank you for sharing!! My life in a nut shell, happy to be out of it after 34 years of misery!!

[@sharonoverton9897]

You nailed it all I lived this nightmare life for 17 years..you also need to tell people that a narcissist never gets better. Only worse

[@adelebaker6227]

Absolutely correct. Married to one for over 40 years.

[@rosiejenks5802]

❤ I’ve been married to one for 42 yrs and feel stuck. A very sad life. I would love to chit chat about our experiences .

[@angelamarie79]

@@rosiejenks5802 I am in year 24. I feel like it would be impossible to leave because of what he has done to me financially😞

[@pursedelighted]

After 14 years I left.i couldn't take it

[@rebekahwampler5105]

This video felt like you watched my marriage and then reported out your observations. Thanks for all you share! ❤

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@rainwaterfallsapothecaryay8102]

Wow, right on target. Thank you. 🙌

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[@angelanicoletti3330]

Agree. All the above. Thank you Dear Rebecca. Stay strong Survivors.

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[@janedoe-mf1ik]

This truly is a wake up call for me, thank you.

[@PamHenry-gq1cr]

Agree! Thank you Rebecca and team for all that you do, life saving 😇😊

[@angelamarie79]

I need so badly to get out of this marriage. He is a control freak narcissist. Financially destroyed our family under the guise of a charity... he does nothing but smoke weed and drink wine. He gives people advice, but no one wants to be around him. He turns his own abusive rages into ME being the evil person. I want to get away from him so so so bad.

[@clairevandenberg8204]

Please know it’s possible to leave and get your authentic self back! I left a narcissistic husband after 22 years. Spent two years working on myself, then got into another long term relationship with a different king of narcissist! It took almost 11 years, but I got out. I didn’t even recognize the abuse at first. Now I understand what it was about me that attracted these people and am working hard to change those things that put a target on my back. Women’s support services in your community will help you get out, and provide you with free legal services to get orders of protection if necessary.

[@angelamarie79]

@@clairevandenberg8204 He treats me like I am evil because I wont apologize or forgive him for the fights we have... I am like "I am SO sorry I reacted badly to your bad behavior"... this cycle is 24/7 up and down up and down. Thank you for that hope - I am going back into therapy and hopefully can figure this out.

[@ging-a-roo2429]

You nailed it.

[@Auro77]

I was going to get married to one such crow. Not even engaged (you can say pre-engaged situation, families had met). During that period, He would declare his schedule right in the beginning of the week saying I’m multiple meetings, folks coming in from abroad so I’ll be super busy so I be aware and not disturb him but he would call me whenever he wants and I’m supposed to put ever aside and be available to talk to him.

[@tomazavalkova4032]

I need help! I am alone fighting many battles

[@flying_finn]

Almost everything mentioned is how my wife acts towards me. It has gone on for so many years that I started to think I was the narcissist. I have gotten into therapy and in the first session my therapists looks when I started to describe her actions spoke massively as to that I am not actually crazy and things are just not correct.

[@aliciaandersonhernandez5333]

Omg this is so so so 100% spot on it’s crazy!!!! And I know for sure because I’m currently living in this hell and have been for 13 years.

[@AnitaSharma-hc3ib]

Agreed❤thank you so much ❤

[@sandrachartier6963]

Agree! You just wrote my life! Thank you

[@lisafelton2057]

Agree!!! I'm living this now.

[@tommyeharvell8783]

Me too. Praying 🙏

[@yusomad41]

30 years....God freed me. God you take care of him.

[@ryanrichards8340]

Absolutely ACURATE!!! 🎯

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@TheJustineJones]

This defines my last relationship of 8 years ..thank you for validating how I perceived the situation

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[@thereallisa1]

1 year NC and still feel his energy like vampire teeth in my neck. Ugh. He was so absurdly selfish and mean ...no words, except I am considering abandoning my 6 figure career to become a certified conflict negotiator. I am inspired by you and want to partner with you. I am mega empowered from a lifetime of disarming narcissists.

[@MiaHarrell-hg2pw]

This is my husband to the fullest but I just left him and getting a divorce this was my life

[@MiaHarrell-hg2pw]

And found out about his secret life I didn’t know about 😢 I’m so shocked

[@millz8367]

Agreed. An older lawyer (I’m 31 and he’s 41) was showing me attention then I started to realize he’s an actual narcissist. Everything you listed is how he acted/acts.

[@arthursanders-km1ck]

In this video, you explained my wife's personality exactly. I am learning everything from your video. She controlled everthing

[@emj3677]

Spot on. I agree.

[@rogerthat6590]

Absolutely!!!! Everything you said !! Whew!!

[@annebeavers3002]

Agreed 100%. This was me to a "T". This validated me.

[@berrysweet2321]

These narcs are usually self sufficient and can take car of you and everybody else too 😳 unbelievable!

[@nicholecornes1915]

Real FUN ladies! Trust me you dont want it!

[@danareynolds8083]

You are 100% spot on! On EVERY thing! I wish you'd been my attorney! I lost everything and everyone. My own sister...

[@ggtwice]

I lost survivor benefits when I re-married a narcissist. I had to search the garage for gas cans to take my kids’ to school😢. WHAT WAS I THINKING?

[@CatherineSTodd]

@ggtwice: I married mine twice, too... what was I thinking? I must have been crazy! But now I "just say NO" and got that second divorce and won't let him trap me again. So glad we can support each other here to open our eyes and SEE REALITY. It's that simple, and then to WALK AWAY & JUST SAY NO. And STICK TO IT no matter how many people tell you that You are wrong for leaving "Mr. Wondeful." That's the worst part, but I got those people out of my life too. Hahahaha!

[@K.j.h.279]

They're good at making you think it's OK.. and if there's an argument, you're punished with a silent atmosphere. its easier to let it go, but eventually, all the chipping away leaves nothing in the end. I wish I'd left sooner, for my kids.

[@sandi5276]

@@CatherineSTodd NO, Catherine it is NOT 'that simple". You must have had resources, family, friends. Like ggtwice, I also tried before. I didn't want to die on the homeless trajectory .

[@cyndim8785]

@@CatherineSToddI gave him my life, he gave me breadcrumbs. I taught him love he taught me hate. He goes, I stay home we are polar opposites. I was young and thought that this was the way it was supposed to be. Red flags started early I chose to stay for the kids. Kids are grown now I have nobody but him. No job, no family and no friends that I can talk too. I have a Business degree that’s gone to waist. WHAT WAS I THINKING? I love people and having some fun with fun people. He don’t like doing anything other than fishing, hunting or riding his Harley motorcycle that I have never been on. He said that he didn’t want both of us to lose our lives at the same time in an accident, LOL. I want to go to the beach every year he says we will go soon, soon never comes. He blows up my phone everyday, he is the only one that calls me. How did I let this happen to me I’m a nice person and he tells everyone that I’m “Crazy”.

[@CatherineSTodd]

​@@sandi5276 : you are making a LOT of unfounded assumptions about me and my comment. It t WAS "just that simple" for me to FINALLY LEAVE and NOT COME BACK, after YEARS of hiding money with a friend so he couldn't get at it (money I earned, not from him), and eventually renting a room for $40.00 a month and starting a small business with the last $12.00 I had. I was afraid I would end up in the homeless shelter myself, but I didn't once I rented that room. I always ask myself "why didn't I leave sooner?" That I will never know, except I kept expecting that things would finally "change" as he would be so nice and helpful after he destroyed my money that I earned and shattered all my dreams. I had NO "resources, family, friends" to turn to because after all, who was I to complain when I was married to "Mr. Wonderful?" Please don't take your anger and frustration out on me. Why are you attacking me as if I "said something" about you?" Your comment is very hurtful to me. This is what finally WORKED FOR ME and I'm sorry if you don't like it. But I am forever grateful for finally finding the strength to leave AND NOT GO BACK. That was NOT EASY, but it was SIMPLE." I finally said "NO" and I stuck to to it. I described my OWN situation that took me more than 40 years to escape, and I hope one day you do too, if that is what you decide to do. I finally did not let ANYTHING stand in my way and refused to return to that two-sided devil who controlled and leeched off me for most of my entire adult life. It took me that long to leave and stay gone. I hope it's sooner for you if you decide to go. But don't attack my own experience which I am very grateful for. I wouldn't be alive today if I hadn't taken that SIMPLE STEP outside of the prison I was in, when I held the key the entire time. "JUST SAY NO, NO MORE" and MEAN IT, and send the devil on his way!

[@user-dj8vl2mq2y]

Absolutely agree!! Just had this happen with a loan officer, female of course, who he is dealing with to buy me out. This particular woman fell for the mask hook, line and sinker. Anyway the moment she said this my heart sank, became nauseous and was livid- "Your husband has your best interest, he really wants to make sure you are ok." He manipulated this woman into thinking he is the white knight and I am the evil unappreciated witch. At that point I was done talking to her, gave her some of my thoughts and will not deal with her again. I cannot handle that disrespect when someone makes up lies about me and makes them look like the most caring dumb ass.

[@gingerzelidon3573]

Thank you!

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[@Carm42ify]

Totally Agree....Bang On 👊

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[@kimlogan1278]

So VERY true!!

[@lynnebucher6537]

Thankfully I saw the light and broke up with him, but my ex BF engaged in all of these toxic behaviors. I refused to quit my job and become dependent on him, but he sure lobbied hard for that. He definitely was very aggressive about attempts to isolate me from others.

[@CatherineSTodd]

One of the best comments I read on another video short, by @dillonsullivan5063: "That's exactly right. Stop playing their game. Become indifferent. These people are emotional vampires." That's it in a nutshell! And because he didn't beat me with fists, everyone defended HIM, "Mr. Wonderful." Now that I'm gone and I have other friends, NO ONE TELLS ME IT'S MY FAULT. And if someone starts defending him, out the door they go right along with him! kzbin.infoNVH9MipADGo

[@katenlemadim4674]

I agree with you 100%.

[@ashnoel38]

Yes! He forced me to stop working because he was my boss initially. When I spoke about getting a new job, one that I had worked hard for my credentials for, he trapped me in the car and screamed at me for 3 hours on the way from leaving my dying Grandmother’s bedside. It was crazy! His true colors came out so fast after he got the ring on my finger. So many varying forms of abuse. I lasted 6 months in my marriage before I left.

[@joanb8489]

You are soooooooo right. Mine changed immediately after we were married. Unfortunately I saw the red flags , but I never dreamed a person could be so cruel and so completely absent. I should Never have married him. He forced me to divorce him And I truly never saw a happier man than him when I did it. I’m not one bit sorry.

[@lelasukalic4121]

Yes , you just described my life ‘thank you

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[@christineyoungberg5389]

Thank you!🙏

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[@roseenglish1127]

All sadly so true! 🙄

[@user-mm8rx9pn8w]

I agree with you 100 percent.

[@winterhomestead]

Our honeymoon i had to fight for.. When i talk about my concerns he smiles and says well boohoo..forgot my birthday..i want to take a vacation he refuses to go .so this june i will go by myself..asked me how im paying for it..i just smiled.. So tired that my wants are put in the back burner or not acknowledged at all

[@maryanne1537]

Please make sure that you don't leave any pets at home alone with him when you go, and you should hide your personal belongings while you are gone . Don't eat any food or drink anything that was left alone with him either. It is great that you are going away but I am sure that you will be "paying" for it in a bad way somehow. The narcissist always has to win.

[@FlorenceBillett]

I agree totally; you are talking about my X to a T

[@mioa.5429]

I went through all this! Wow just wow

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[@simhicmt7577]

Lots of this applies to my situation

[@TheTerrylwg]

AGREE!!! Totally, completely, 100% true!!!

[@joyace9674]

No women should depend on a man to get support she have to survive like if she’s on her own because you never know when you do stay on your own is called survival and be the strongest woman ever.. don’t let no man control you once he does that you won’t be the same anymore you will feel weak so put your foot down farm other wise you will lose