How Narcissists Manage Those They Cannot Manipulate

[@elcee7800]

If you are not an enabler, you’re out.

[@selfesteem3447]

Yes. Example. I'm employed at a work environment that gives people a second chance who have criminal background records. One person in particular, who previously has spent eight or maybe nine years in prison, so you know this is someone who would never want to go back to prison, so understanding they need their job. It was hard enough for them to find a job. When first hired, this person was offered rides by the covert pathological narcissist main boss, when the subordinate employees are not even supposed to ride w management in their cars or stuff like that. Narcissist boss, showing all of her cards about how she hates this person & that person is p@thetic... et cetera et cetera. It was more than this person w criminal record could take, so this person started backing away from this narcissist manager. Narc manager then started finding fault w her work. Whereas before she was able to get away with doing what was less than what is required of all of us. She was put on a different schedule & her hours were cut. Until she started being an enabler, & this is ALSO a work environment that hires people who are challenged. So you have this older lady who is challenged being bullied by the main narcissistic boss & another malignant overt pathological narcissistic boss under the main boss, now, having the person w criminal background record being indoctrinated into all 3 of them bullying this older challenged lady. Older challenged lady has hung out/friends w the person with the criminal background record & person with the criminal background record at some point tried to smooth it over, going to the older challenged lady privately telling her she was sorry for joining in on bullying & apologizing. But she still is bullying her right along w the other two narcissistic bosses, I heard it myself. Including undermining her behind her back/ hating on her & her job performance behind her back. Vile critters. Some of us are working on reporting for discrimination. And have been retaliated against, wrongful termination Or had to quit due to anxiety, & I've had my hours cut, sent home multiple x for trumped up reasons, to build a file meant to eventually fire me. Legally in this state, located in the united states, It's o k, perfectly legal to record when only one party is aware, so I have been recording from day 1, As from day one I saw what was coming, it started on day one. We have a good case. We have not been able to find a lawyer to help us & we are working towards reporting first making charges for discrimination against the Corporation at the e e o c.

[@sandycane9884]

@selfesteem you need to rally and outnumber them, then never let an inch of their narcissism take stage, debunk, ignore, and squeeze them out at every chance they display that behavior. And form alliance with non narcissistic person until they have no choice but to deal with themselves. Remember there is more regular people than narcissistic ones, they are the odd man out

[@elcee7800]

@@selfesteem3447: Narcissistic employees is one thing, but your story goes way beyond that! Some video talks say you need to document these happenings for proof. That is workplace abuse.

[@AdamoLUIS]

Well not anymore we isolated them to where they will get screwed over not even worth making friends lol

[@nova9galacticme421]

Very true

[@wisemanadvices9541]

The Moment you kick the Narcissist out of your life, Your Healing Begins. ❤

[@beverleyreid7572]

Amen and Amen!!

[@FuneralFather]

It sure don’t feel like that when I realize I am done

[@farkhanaafzal5665]

Some close relations one cannot kick out of life as much as they want to.

[@boondocks8002]

Or they call those you care about and turn them against you. That's going on in my life now. The person being manipulated dont see it. It does hurt the heart.

[@mrityunjayagahlot6085]

@@farkhanaafzal5665 then become a rock and dont give them any reactions!

[@OfftheChainz]

Dangerous dangerous people. Your biggest weapon is silence. Don't respond or react to their shenanigans because you can never overestimate how low they will go to destory you

[@adolfolugo618]

Im having them drive by the house im staying at my uncles on his couch they have made me jobless n homeless n wont stop putting cámaras in the apt n driving by 24 7 all aggressivley...its crazy

[@beverleyreid7572]

Truly sad.

[@dianaalyssa8726]

They have no honor. Can't win because they play dirty, you end up wrestling with a pig and they love it.

[@ov7960]

100% right

[@ItsSoarTime]

WOW!!!!

[@cribrebo7375]

Best way to deal with a narcissist is to not deal with a narcissist...

[@ronpflugrath2712]

They are usually republicans.

[@nsvshhw]

Sometimes it's not a choice. You learn the truth when you already have children together. You learn the truth when you come across such a "colleague". Or you end up in a family where your parents are narcissists. So you have to "deal" with this fact for a certain time. This time, unfortunately, in some cases takes years or even a lifetime. That's why there is a need for more such videos.

[@nawazishalishah]

100 per cent u r right sir

[@stephenlambert9826]

@@nawazishalishahhe is 100% wrong,a narcissist will find a way to bother you unless you actually leave the area.the best way to deal with a narcissist let them think you are going to do what they want you to do and then just don’t do it.if they are physical and stronger than you that way the yeah you might have to get away but otherwise you need to show them you are not their food anymore.

[@warrenchu5752]

Yet the internet will make you label anyone who isnt chasing you back as a narcissist...

[@peterknyk1942]

They get meaner! 🤬Then they gravitate to other people to bully and control to convince them to do the narcissists dirty work….

[@pyarkaaloo]

Correct is right 💯💯💯

[@LastBattle3690]

Yep

[@tcampbell1676]

Those who have to operate to attack one person in a pack are weak individuals.

[@Thomas-El856]

@@tcampbell1676 agreed

[@jewely9757]

It gets ugly!

[@angellight9500]

I opened an online store and made the mistake of sharing my really good sales numbers with my narc "friend." As soon as I did I got several bad reviews which really shocked me. I put two and two together. Closed that shop and opened a new one under a different name without telling that person and have done incredibly well. 100% good reviews. She made a point to tell me she was looking for my store in order to buy something to support me but could no longer find it. I told her I closed my shop because i suddenly got some bad reviews and decided to do something completely different. She pretended to feel sorry for me but I could tell she was happy and felt victorious.

[@Egyptrose11]

I’m glad you were able to evade her and keep prospering

[@NickM_FirstofHisName]

Glad you were able to sniff her out!

[@ariot2398]

I hope you never see or talk to her again. Letting her feel victorious should give you an easy out of the relationship.

[@angellight9500]

It's the worst feeling when people believe the narcissists lies about you and there is nothing you can do about it.@@philippebergeron5821

[@goldbrick2563]

That is so messed up!!

[@TellTruthWV]

Narcissism is pure evil💔

[@mphomolotlegi127]

It's absolutely diabolical! Narcissists are the embodiment of evil!!

[@7777777fresh]

more like pure spoild stupid.

[@indyj5680]

I am furious. I grew up in a narcissistic family. I was young and I had no idea what I was dealing with, but these people damaged and tried to destroy me. Then I had a 15 year reprieve where I lived basically in isolation with my animal family. These were great years. Now I have moved into 'independent' senior living, and I'm here to tell you that these places are a haven for old narcissistic women just waiting for someone to get their claws into and destroy. While I have the knowledge now to deal with this I am angry that I have no other choice but to live with this for the rest of my life.

[@4Mikes4Mindset4]

🙏❤️

[@louhortonsculpture]

Omg. That is truly a nightmare. I’m so sorry.

[@selfesteem3447]

I am so sorry. Sending love and Prayers. I am going to work very hard for the rest of my life to make sure from what you wrote here that this does not end up being my future. I am so very sorry. It is heartbreaking for me as someone too, who has been held back in life by narcissists to hear stories of people who have been Stuck in narcissistit's situations Most of their Lives. Clarice is one of these Souls. Please try to figure something out, there has to be a better place, there has to be a better assisted living environment you can get into or at least try. I know, Trust me. I know there are going to be more mean old ladies, narcissist at the next place and old narcissist men too. The best you can do is probably trying to Just ignore them, one of the best things you can do to ignore them TOTALLY & COMPLETELY that drives them to not be able to bolster their false self is simply just to read a book. Will be a good escape for your mind and Soul. Check out astral projection. This life existence can be all too much, take a reprieve. Surrounding yourself in The Pure White Light. Let your Soul gently slip out of your body, top of your head, start at your toes, wiggle out, Go back to being a little girl, Run run run run with the butterflies, Give your soul a break, Start out with breathing and go. Go anywhere you want, be any part of you, Go hang out with those you've lost that loved you. Hang out with Jesus, crawling into His lap. Him holding you and falling asleep in His arms with the other little children and animals at His feet.

[@kandy-p6k]

@@selfesteem3447 thank you for the helpful advice...I plan to look into these things too.

[@calgreg2569]

@@selfesteem3447 when you have been brought up with a narcissistic mother and father, you dont understand how well groomed you are to be subservient to the narcissist. You act and behave perfectly for their abuse because it’s all you know, that is your comfort zone.. and you destroy yourself subconsciously to. The only way to fight it is to know about it.. i have just learned 2 years ago, and it floored me when i realized how true it is..THEY NEVER CHANGE..at age 60.. it is all so clear now..my life, why what when and how.. i did..

[@casperinsight3524]

They will try to grind you in every way everyday Every word, every interaction is a set up to verbally attack you with a smile

[@4Mikes4Mindset4]

Thick Skin

[@NarendraGoswami293]

Ignore them , and focus on your goal or work. Don't fight with them. A narcissist is evil soul.

[@casperinsight3524]

@@NarendraGoswami293 Great advice ~ Ignore them and focus on your goals, work and self 😎😘

[@casperinsight3524]

@@4Mikes4Mindset4 Keeping ones guard up to shield against constant negativity is exhausting Avoiding negativity as best we can is Peaceful ☮

[@JT-lt5gr]

My mother-in-law. I'm married to her only son/only child (her husband).

[@larryharris1370]

Agree stay away from people that really dislike you for no reason. JUST MOVE ON.

[@beverleyreid7572]

Absolutely! Get the hell out of their way.

[@TessBoze]

@@beverleyreid7572 Boo! Hiss!

[@TessBoze]

These types usually choose to stalk you for years. Obviously you are well off enough to keep these wolves at bay. They think it is a game they can win, and the Justice system does not get what a narcissist is. Lucky you.

[@TessBoze]

@@beverleyreid7572 They continue to hunt down their victims for years and thousands of miles after you have slipped their noose. They will pay a lot of money to so do. If you have never heard of such cases, read the local news. You are ridiculous in your short sightedness. Did you ever get yourself assessed for narcissistic traits? You should.

[@thinkingallowed1st]

That person who claimed to be my friend was the person tripping me up to fail

[@beverleyreid7572]

Not surprised.

[@ranirathi3379]

tell me about it. my younger sibling is a narc (as is my father), she's using our youngest as her victim ever since she cudn't get me. she keeps up the PRETENCE of helping her but indirectly she's being the biggest roadblock coz she cannot see anyone bcming more successful than her. she doesn't respect her in the least and that's what my youngest sibling doesn't get, that someone who doesn't hold basic respect for you won't TRULY help you out.

[@Countcho]

my mom did the same

[@TheGypsyGirl77]

I am 46 and have always chased the narcissist in my family. I wanted their acceptance and love. From childhood I wanted their love. I’m was always isolated and given silent treatment shamed etc. I have to this day believed I was a bad child. As an adult I kept trying and then finally realized what I have been dealing with. It as shocking to realize I will never ever get a mutual love from this person. So I have studied up on the cycle. I have been pulling away and all of the signs are there. Right now I am in the midst of the smear campaign. I am silent though. I won’t give in and I am not confiding in anyone. This is such a lonely journey but I am done with being the scapegoat. Time to claim my life.

[@willg.5168]

Awesome take on getting yourself up and run'n, young lady ❤️🙏🏽

[@laurienordin2076]

psalm 46:10 Exodus 14:14 Trust in God! turn to Him and believe in his son, Jesus, who died for our sins, as the Scriptures said, was buried and on the third day, rose from the dead, as the Scriptures said! He will protect you!

[@lisabowden402]

I can totally relate. I pulled away in 2007 or 2008 and had very little contact , only by phone on holidays, and boy the smear campaign started . If my mom didn’t know the truth about my life she’d make it up to fit her narrative. Friends , families anyone that would listen . It is very hard, but the smear campaign is the worst. It truly built up hatred in me for my mom. I hated her .

[@beverleyreid7572]

It is indeed a lonely journey my dear. Don’t change who you are. Keep moving and get stronger.

[@yerejun]

Wow Gypsy, thanks for sharing. For a long time I felt so alone and lonely in this journey as a child growing up, I had no decent adult to confide in (cos the narc makes sure you don’t have any other family adult that is on your side) except my friends/peers. But that’s about all they can do is give emotional support but better than nothing so I do hope at the least you have good friends to confide in. It’s good to know I’m not alone and I was not insane then. Hugs ❤

[@racebannon96]

The 5 Love languages: Word of Affirmation (compliments) Quality Time Acts of Service Physical Touch (Intimacy) Gift Giving The 5 Love/ Hate languages of Narcissists: Profanity and Derogatory Name calling, Arguing, Criticizing, Mocking, Frequent Yelling, Constantly getting Mad, No Support or Encouragement Breadcrumbing and Future Faking Acts of Abandonment, includes Neglect and Abusive Behavior, Refuses to help with Responsibilities Refuses Affection and Intimacy Lying, Deception, Gaslighting, Projection, Silent Treatment and Unable to apologize, Refuses to Listen Great Video, Clarice. I will watch it again. Thank You

[@beverleyreid7572]

Well said.

[@sul6an92]

👍🏻

[@slidingdoor9055]

Spot on

[@SaintMKSII]

Right in

[@endlessdaze6054]

Absolutely true. You sound like an Empath too... Narcissists absolutely cannot stand empaths and their giving and often naivety about these nasty pieces of work make them prime targets for narcissists.

[@writer1986]

I used to work with a narcissistic peer. We were teachers, and I had just returned from abroad. She was upset that I had a better resume than her, and I was living on my own, whereas she still lived with her parents. She gave me the silent treatment, so I ignored her. Our second year working together, she turned two teammates into her flying monkeys, and tried to paint herself as the woeful victim in all situations. They made life hell for me, and I finally cried to a supervisor by the end of that year. The narc fled the school and tried to get other teachers to follow her, but no one did.

[@calgreg2569]

Narcism is very rampant in the teaching profession. Most of the administrators are ..

[@heatherwagar5868]

Me ex narc was a teacher. Truly scary

[@priyanesan3299]

Oh yeah. Same happened for me. One Narc teared down the entire school. The school finally closed. Because of that one Narc, the Director let go of many good staff and was finally left with all the Narc’s followers and they closed the school eventually. It was a good private Christian school with no discernment whatsoever. I went through severe health issues due to trauma drama and I just quit. Director was not in a place to understand anything going on. She was blinded by the Charisma of this Narc. Narc was putting up a show that she was rich and throwing parties left and right with many of the staff involved and the staff were merry and did not see the wolf under sheep’s skin. Finally all came trembling down in three years. I did well after I left.

[@comnandmentsdeadlysins]

Interesting I sense out narcs and collect my peers to leave with me. Also have quit. Got asked to come back then removed the narc and got 1st pick at a new position. I do not like dealing with them but nearly 1/2 of century living with them and confused by their behavior I have figured their game out and make them run away before I have to take extreme measures to remove them. Take the best care of yourself mentally and emotionally because if you become weak you are prime prey for them. Evil animalistic behavior to attack an injured weak being.

[@quitequiet5281]

YuuUP! That’s what they do... Narcissistic sociopathic social engineering networks are real. They stalk you endlessly and use their connections in anyway possible to distort reality into a gaslighting environment and the gaslit flying monkeys never want to recognize that they are dupes dancing like marionettes on the puppet strings of puppeteering narcissists. Especially if a factual survey of the situation shows both the manipulations and the machinations with both statistics and evidence that it’s all just a pack of lies, misrepresentation, misinformation, false narratives, misdirection, false accusations and obfuscation of reality with nothing but hearsay and corruption influence.

[@ΧρήστοςΔενέχεισημασία]

In my experience when narcissists find out that you have strong boundaries and they cannot manipulate you, they tend to disappear from your life and keep their distance. Sometimes they try to shame you and discredit you, or even get you out of their social circle or work environment. I get the feeling that narcissists covertly and subconsciously admire you and even love you in some strange psycho way, but their ego cannot allow them to admit that and they have to destroy you.

[@davinasquirrel7672]

Really interesting theory.

[@kellybarton929]

Not sure about disappearing... Narcissists have difficulty letting go to their once supply - we're always lurking as a background app in their minds, until such time when we come into their radar. My experience, after nearly two years silence, now emailed me telling me I owe them money, attacking my character, guilt tripping and word salad. Silly sod doesn't realise I'm no longer buying their lies and I've moved on with the truth. Clearly wants to provoke a reaction from me. Truly evil messed up individuals.

[@nikkimacg7290]

@user-bs1wx1tb7e I agree. Love this perspective. I honestly kinda think the same. If I can't absorb you, then I have to tear you down mentality. They can't touch your light.

[@golds1310]

I am dealing with this right now. I don't like narcs, this one narc on my job tells everyone about me. She manipulates others and get them to turn against me. She gets other managers to follow me around like I just stole something. Horrible. She is a female narc who is full of crap. I really don't want to ever see her. I pray for her that God will save her and deliver her from the enemy. Narcissists is another word for the devil's child. That's how I look at these miserable creatures. I have dealt with them in church and even in the workplace. They are sad sad creatures. Thanks Clarece! You are always on target.

[@beverleyreid7572]

You spoke very clearly here about your experience. I have gone through the same. Very miserable individuals. smh

[@nji7772]

My ex narc boss (female). Three mos later I had a much better and peaceful, no stress job. I won!

[@Heal..Restore..Moveforward]

So sorry you have been through all you have. I get it...I have experienced an evil narcissist who was a so called Christian. I have also dealt with a narcissist in the work place who smear campaigned me. It is not easy to deal with.

[@CarlaPizao]

Wow you’re spot on! They are the devil’s creatures. And i know what the Creator can fix anything and anyone but narcissists are born with a defective brain so for a person like that to change, a lot of fervent prayers are needed, incessantly.

[@sawdustadikt979]

The hardest thing I had to learn was how little it takes to provoke envy in these stunted people. I never thought I had anything to be envious of. But when I dove into this subject learning all I could. When I really tried to look at the world like they do, I learned it doesn’t take much at all. They are looking for things to be envious of so they can crush them as fast and completely as possible. Utter devastation and nothing less.

[@beverleyreid7572]

Wow. You’re so right. Very well said.

[@jamesyoung187]

If you are confident and secure in yourself, it drives them bats......

[@gitarani9269]

They seem to be envious of a target's good qualities, even if they are economically much better off than the target.

[@FerdnandFreeholi]

RUN!!!! I dealt with this in a couple major relationships and the sooner you can recognize who/what they are, the less they can damage you through narcissistic abuse. Eventually it takes it's toll and it can take years to recover- if you ever do fully recover.

[@selfesteem3447]

TOTALLY ! ABSOLUTELY !

[@muskokaoma7470]

I don't think it's possible for a person to ever fully recover from that sort of abuse. Especially after decades of it being tossed at you

[@konsyansnou8623]

I recently came to the conclusion that a special friendship which I thought would turn into a relationship was in fact a toxic dynamic with a narcissistic person. One day I discover a pattern and couldn't understand why we couldn't get it right, often fight and why I would feel some sort of guilt or shame after being showed with "love", affection and attention. Certain things I would confront the person with, she'd say "it's in your mind" or "nobody else but you think of me like you do" questioning my sanity at times. I would litterally feel exhausted of that dynamic and eventually I stopped reaching out to her. At first I felt sad cause it's seems we had something good and couldn't work out but after doing some research and putting pieces together, I realize that this was all a lie, a manufactured false idea and hope for God knows why. At least knowing the truth now, it put me on the road to recovery. It's been just a year I've been cutting contact and still going. It just sucks sometimes when looking back and had those hope that something more could come out of it when it was never that person's intention. Oh well, you learn and move on to other things.

[@beverleyreid7572]

Run. I agree. So much energy to being mean. smh

[@konsyansnou8623]

@beverleyreid7572 Totally. It's like a power trip to them. Somehow, they feed off of that.

[@glydin1]

They manipulate the rest of the family and lie to them to make themselves look like the victim.

[@LittleLulubee]

Or to make themselves look like the hero

[@LastBattle3690]

Or both .. victim and hero

[@JustcallmeDebbieB]

Years later he texts my family. F'in weirdo

[@nova9galacticme421]

I have a sister that does that

[@Jessica-zf2df]

@@nova9galacticme421 me too

[@ChosenOne1967]

Mark 13:13 [NKJV] And you will be hated by everyone for my name’s sake, but he who endures to the end will be saved.

[@tigerlee9613]

Yep, older brother was a narcissist. Always controlling and jealous. Made sure I failed at school and life. Said lies about me growing up. 20 years later, I became a multi-millionaire while he is in debt buying all the most expensive brand names and trying to act rich. I even graduated university first than he did. I stayed quiet and built myself into a beast. Took 20 years, but I'm finally free and living my life 😊

[@Mugen37]

Spread some green here man. xD

[@santannalucas]

On a holistic view he made you multi-millionaire. Can I swap my loving sisters with you?

[@jirafey_]

how did you become a multi-millionaire?

[@tigerlee9613]

@jirafey_ 3 things: Real estate, investments, and working 100 hours a week with 3 jobs.

[@blaqobsydian44]

Workplace bullying in a nutshell.

[@tcampbell1676]

💯 facts dealt with this at the postal office but one thing about me is I do not back down and stoop down to no bullying in the work place.

[@flowersofthefield340]

Their everywhere today .........worse than the corna virus ever was 🍺🍕

[@69NOMAN69]

yes sir, i might lose the battle but i will win the war!@@tcampbell1676

[@LaneBelle]

I reported a workplace bully for harassment this week. fingers crossed. @@tcampbell1676

[@VisibleTimes]

This topic doesn't get enough attention. How dangerous it is to work in certain toxic environments.

[@seanmartinez8415]

Narcissist/narcissism is such a strange label. Narcissus fell in love with his own reflection, but I've never met a narcissist (and I've dealt with a few) who seemed to love themselves. They've all seemed like they felt inferior to others, jealous, overly competitive and lonely. The opposite of loving onesself.

[@ambylam]

I think it's a perfect metaphor: they are in love with their temporary image/reputation, not their true selves.

[@SusanaXpeace2u]

My mother gave me the silent treatment and smeared me to family and relatives. Ive been completely scapegoated out.

[@notsoseriousmoonlight]

Same here.

[@vickimann3262]

Match the energy by never giving as much time as when I did I felt love and peace in my heart.

[@SVWarik48]

For me, it's my father... silent treatment, smear campaign, gaslighting attempts, vile toxicity... I've also been scapegoated out of the family... I miss my mom and aunt... but nothing can be done 🤷🏻‍♂️😢

[@nottthereyet4872]

@SVWarik48 I'm so sorry. 🙏 My heart breaks when I hear these stories because I can relate to the breakdown of family relationships. It's so difficult to understand why people become so toxic and cold.

[@rauxieswisdom3102]

It’s so true. Adult toddlers who lack self control and have tantrums about nothing. They do go to everyone around you, whining about your behavior, friend or foe does not matter. They can do some damage to those who don’t really know you. When it com s from your own family, that is on a way different level.

[@leocampa6230]

Was thinking of opening some family contacts in the future. Now I'm not.

[@SweepDailyWin]

Stay no contact and keep your sanity, and peace-filled life 🙏

[@laurajane4806]

DON'T - I went back and everything happened all over again. It sucks but Vampires can't be family. They will hurt you.

[@tims9434]

Don't ever break no contact. You made the right choice, don't undermine yourself. Stay strong 💪

[@nycstarport8542]

They DO NOT change; Remember the way they were???? They are the same!!

[@Puppylove82-gv3gm]

I've broken no contact too many times. It just keeps getting worse everytime you do.

[@lynnbass708]

Yes my abusive narcissist has tried everything they could think of to punish me through third parties and because their behaviour had pushed me to the edge I turned off to all family and friends of theirs as well. Safest to stay alone and happy with myself.

[@moscowcowboy_13]

My mom used to leave photos lying around in plain view of my exes whenever I brought a new girl around to meet her, then feign ignorance, "I didn't know those photos were there, that is not true I intentionally did that, you are crazy!"

[@stroNg2thaBoNe2thaMax]

Gaslighting

[@rally_chronicles]

Wow was a horrible person

[@laurajane4806]

Great work on this video!! I'd like to add that my study on this topic has lead me to the understanding that the reason they do what they do is to trade places with you in the eyes of others. They want your reputation, so they steal it.

[@beverleyreid7572]

But they can’t be you. A waste of time.

[@laurajane4806]

@@beverleyreid7572 Absolutely True!! That's their weakness that shines after they force out the target. They can steal your reputation, but they can never live up to it.

[@OfftheChainz]

This is so true, but it is hilarious to watch how much of an empty shell they are when you withdraw and stop being their supply. I have had this in the workplace and I am just waiting out until everyone finally discovers who they truly are. I suspect demonic activity tbh.

[@Wherethereisnodarkness]

Are you hearing yourselves? You sound like narcissists

[@laurajane4806]

@@Wherethereisnodarkness The definition of "ridiculous" is 'apt to bring forth laughter with contempt.' The definition of "ludicrous" is 'apt to bring forth laughter without contempt.' There is a major difference between speaking the truth and playing head games at the intentional expense of a targeted person. If you don't know the difference it's likely you've never been a victim of narcissism. We discuss the dynamic because it helps us heal.💜

[@slidingdoor9055]

When you walk into a room and everyone goes quiet and look at you, that's when you know.

[@markwillhite9200]

They fool some people. Others see right through them. Democrats count on people they can fool.

[@craigstacey6536]

Know what ?

[@philippagrimoire5968]

@@craigstacey6536 that the narcissist has spread lies about you

[@ren_lightfoot]

@@craigstacey6536 It's when you know that a narc has been lying to people behind your back for their own purposes.

[@maragwyn9220]

Yes this the one!

[@darthauthorone6329]

Devalue You. Compete with You. Ignore or distance themselves from You. Control is EVERYTHING to a naracissist. They must destroy and/or dismiss those who they don't control.

[@StamperWendy]

Not only do they slander you, for hours, to relatives who live a distance away, they'll tell you all about it (so that you'll know exactly WHY that relationship ended). They're proud of it! They're so proud of themselves that they had any impact on your life (their spouse is into it, too. Gross). After all, if they did it to you and you didn't know about it, how could they gloat? Plus, then they apologize to you (forgetting that the related saying is: Public error, public apology. Sick.)

[@6thface]

My mother died this last week. My narcissistic sisters hid the fact she was in hospice, and she died without me getting to she her again. I hope this universe is karmatic after all.

[@wadesnyder6871]

Karma knows there address

[@6thface]

@@wadesnyder6871 thanks, stranger.

[@wadesnyder6871]

been there ! i wish peace for you @@6thface

[@rosiemcking72]

That is absolutely heart breaking... So sorry to hear you have been treated like this. Justice is mine, sayeth our Creator Father. THEY WILL PAY... The evil is diabolical.. It is a demonic spirit within these vessels that we once called family.. Please seek support and counselling dear one and go to Yeshua/Jesus with your pain to ask for healing of your broken heart. Be blessed..

[@charming-witsassy-sarcasm5621]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[@ramonepedgio5964]

I lived with a narcissistic brother off and on for a couple of decades. The time that didn't live with him was incredibly eye-opening. I noticed that life was still challenging, but was much more challenging when I lived with this brother. I also realized that I always felt like I was losing because I was playing his game. When I stopped playing his game and played my own, I started seeing more success in my life - to the point where he started trying to play my game. It was easy to part ways with him when I categorized people in my life as either assets or liabilities. He was definitely not an asset.

[@ft7504]

Malignant narcissists is what the video is all about and it is very true, very well designed, thank you for the upload! We have to understand and accept that these types of people are very narrow-minded and their only goal is to have power over whatever they decide to have power over. They cannot even think to live their lives differently. It is a dead end street with a malignant narcissist. Lucky if you can escape. Harder when you have to tolerate it. There are some techniques to deal with them, but the situation drains your energy, sucks the life out of you and will transform you into a different person which are all very demanding and there are a lot of sacrifices to make when being in a situation like this one.

[@GrantOakes]

I had a very unfortunate dealing with 2 narcissists, 1 was the covert variety, the other was malignant. They would work in tandem and they were supported by a couple of aggressive flying monkeys. I've been no contact for over a year now and if ANY of them attempt to even approach me it will become EXTREMELY volatile! ANYONE present will know how treacherous and deceitful they are!

[@Beckstravels24]

Your experience sounds identical to mine. Heal, live well and have no contact is how I dealt with them. All narcissists do is try to destroy you and everything good around you. It’s also been a year & I regained my confidence & happiness again. The moment I saw through them ,their sickness and lies, the moment I started to heal and realise they were not well, I was a target for them to play with. Goodluck to you

[@Modeltnick]

I am isolated from my family because of this. Everything in this video is true.

[@EricMacdonald-py6py]

Same here narcissistic suck

[@pambennett8967]

I had a narcissist target me. She never stopped . Pure evil

[@eyesopenedify]

My husband and I are going through it with our narcissist landlord. Because of the Most High, and His Holy Spirit in the name of Yahawasha , we know exactly how to deal with him. We ignore him. hahahah! 0 reaction. These are very confused human beings. The more dirt they do, the more confused in their minds and their actions they become. You may not be there to see it, but it's true, they become out of control and desperate.. Especially when you have no emotional attachment to them. Always remember, never defend yourself when the narcissist tries to smear your name. Just remember that is a losing tactic when they have no other way out. Thank you so much for your content, Clarice. You do an amazing job of breaking down the narcissist and their next move.

[@ExposingtheNarcissist]

Thank you. APTTMH!

[@69NOMAN69]

YES!!! give them no fuel!!!!

[@Oiuytkjhgfmnbvc]

Yahawasha?

[@Mugen37]

Who is yahawasha? Only Jesus can save!

[@eyesopenedify]

​@@Mugen37 The Messiah of the Holy Bible is Hebrew and his name is Hebrew. There is no such thing as the letter "J" in the Hebrew or Aramaic language. The name Jesus is not a Hebrew name. It is another name for the Roman god Zeus. Hence, your Roman religion called Christianity. Yahawasha was not a Christian. Jesus is the god of the Christians, not the Hebrews. I'm glad you asked. I hope this helps.

[@Bizkitlove]

spot on content.narcs will always have bad karma chasing them.

[@PaulHodges-l7m]

Mess with me , the narcissist messes with the big G-O-D ...they know this . They can't beat a chosen one so they join them ❤

[@jodevonshirenz]

Our biggest weapon against a narcissist is our own boundaries. And being really able to not care about their threats or lies. You cannot change their behaviour, you cannot change the fact that others are still loyal to them. Ultimately you need to stay away from them. Eventually others in their sphere will realise who they are. Until then, trust yourself, stay as strong as you can and do not let them back in.

[@Majickcharm]

This video was made for me after getting sacked by The Narcists. Thank you!!!!!!

[@vacationeyes6430]

To all the strong people who want to fight it out - Destroying a narcissist will take a lot of time and effort on your part. If you go down this rabbit hole, you will be spending decades of your precious years on a useless piece of crap with nothing positive to show in the end. Decades later, you will realize all those precious years could have been better spent in chasing your dreams instead. You don't have to forgive them. Just save your time and energy.

[@jcristi321]

The narcissist in my life was married to my brother. He died 2 years ago and her attempts to control me and my mom (her mother-in-law) have accelerated since then. I have known she was like this for the 50 years I have known her, which is why I didn’t want my brother to marry her. But now my mom has memory problems and sometimes delirium and she does not need anyone telling lies or manipulating family members. So I have stepped up to the challenge. I immediately respond when she’s trying to pull something on us. I don’t try to change her, but I don’t accept her lies anymore. She’ll never back off a lie, but i flatly tell her I know that’s not true. Twice it’s been about things where I was there and she wasn’t and she’s telling me the story that I know is wrong. In the past I would say Whatever, and drop it, but mom doesn’t need that confusion so I call her out. She’ll insist she’s right as she’s walking out the door because she can’t stand not having the last word. Then I talk to mom and makes sure she’s following what happened. She’s also known her for 50 years so she gets it. Jan

[@BognaZone]

Oh, what is that song..."Don't you love her as she' s walking out the door, like she did one hundred times before.." I never quite understood that song before. I do now..

[@a.williams9]

This is absolutely spot on! So true, narcissists are full of hate who would do anything to hurt and humiliate others. Learning to spot their obnoxious behaviour while not engaging with them is essential and the best we can do. Never give them any information or reaction from you since they use everything against their victims. Enablers and flying monkeys are just fools who are used, played and discarded by narcissists as well. Thank you, Clarice 🙏🏻💜

[@michaeltotman1411]

Narcissist wort nightmare "That sounds like a personal problem...keep it to yourself. "

[@uncensoredtruth1]

Saying no completely destroys them.

[@GOOF-AID]

Well, they were doing this just about the whole time I was in contact with them. Maybe right after the love bombing stage. I'll give it to them tho, they had about 1/4 control of me while I had 3/4 control of myself, they knew I wasn't a weak person and used to say it in an annoyed way like they couldnt believe it. Tried their hardest to break me down but they knew they wouldnt win in the end bc it took almost a full 4 years just to gain the 1/4 control of me... and I got it back. They were always afraid of me, mentally, which I think is so sad. They always said and with so much rage and anger, that it was like I was reading their mind or that we were practically the same person. That meant if they felt that they were smart, then that'd mean I was too or better. I stopped laughing while in contact with them for so long but now its all I do. Not bc it bothers and hurts them which is so pathetic, but bc I'm happy again. I found myself and love myself. Thank you, God.

[@mariannekoroleva6495]

Every time my narc "friend" closes her big eyes, the moment I do not exist any further, I feel it almost for sure!... Thank You, Clarice!!👍🌞💟

[@88freighttrain]

I grew up with (2) siblings who spent at least two lifetimes performing the topics here. I was able to live out the abuse despite the loss of 3 daughters, parents, some siblings, cousins & aunts. It did not matter, best academic grades. Repair of household appliances, lights, and plumbing. Majored in HS Business Machine Repair, then retired. Background in computers, math, and basketball. Life is like driving; keep your eyes & attention on the road.

[@SuperFunJess]

There's a reason why hell exists. So their evil spirits can go live there.

[@carlamichelle3303]

Oh, that is where they are from.

[@gotredeemed]

I still pray for the Narc in my life. God can change a person and miracles can happen. That said, I'll be happy the day I can distance myself.

[@shenwishes]

@@gotredeemed You are a kind soul. It's been three months. I hope you are ok

[@gotredeemed]

@@shenwishes Greyrock rocks. Ok for now and I hope you are well.

[@MrBrothasky]

This tracks. I've experienced all of these phases of interaction. I had to guide my wife through a very difficult situation as the narcissist tried to separate her from her own son. Give em' enough time and they'll self destruct.

[@ChristineSpringerElaine]

Eh, when you authentically reach a frequency where you are no longer in resonance with them, they will run away from you. My whole family is either Cluster B or an enabler. I run into them all the time and they avoid me. No issues. Not scared of them, don't care. I keep telling the truth about them and that's really upsetting to them because they can't control the narrative when they can't rattle you. It took me some time to get to this point but they don't bother me anymore.

[@beverleyreid7572]

Good for you.

[@goldbrick2563]

How'd you get to this point? I'm a little stuck at fearing their need to destroy and embarrass me.

[@mday3821]

They will also steal and/or break your things. Anything to cause you pain. Thanks Claries, You nailed this. Your videos are so informative & helped me so much.❤

[@ExposingtheNarcissist]

You are so welcome. And thank you for your generosity and encouragement.

[@mday3821]

@@ExposingtheNarcissist You are welcome. I believe in you and your channel.

[@cathymcdonald9175]

Oh how I remember how the narc use to break my things in my home.

[@mday3821]

@slimmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm Coverts do steal. My mother was a Covert and she stolen my school grade homework, textbooks, books, half of my shoe collection, 250.00 to 300 dollars of CDs, my personal pictures, money, credit card, stuff animals, real animals, jewelry, clothes, and the list goes on and on. After she died, I found tons of other things that she had stolen from other people and thousands of dollars from my brother and dad. My mother was Dx with NPD in 2018. You think Narcissists do everything wrong, but yet, they don't steal...if that is what you think, then you don't understand Narcissism. And don't tell me you're one of them because Narcissists don't know they are Narcissists. It's less than 1% that are Self-Aware! Narcissists don't have Integrity! They steal anything & everything from someone! Sorry, but I and others would disagree with you!

[@carolmiles7474]

My one stole expensive new clothes I bought to give to his daughter ,so he could stay with her when going home,They never help with rent in later times only use steal and discard .

[@LuLu-xo2ho]

The people that would be persuaded or believe gossip about you are not your people so it doesn’t matter what they think !!!! Your people will know you, or fact check the information !!!!

[@ariadneschild8460]

Well said!

[@karma4872]

Bingo

[@mothernature88888]

My power is meditation, slow down breath and self awareness. Meditation change my life and dynamics in my relationships with narcissistic mother and husband. Peace and Love for all of you ♥️

[@calgreg2569]

I’ve never heard of a narcissist initiating no contact..

[@LittleLulubee]

They do it as a way to hurt or punish someone who loves them (and who wants to be on good terms with them). It’s a power move- their way of saying they have full control.

[@Kat3111]

Covert narcs do it all the time. Like someone else correctly said here - it is a way of control, in their mind they think they are fully in control of the situation. That is regarding full no contact. As regarding to frequent silent treatment - they do it as a way of punishment for you not complying with what they want and need from you. They think if they do it to you then later you will be more agreeable towards them, but they probably don't realise that it only works with people with zero to little self-esteem. If your levels of self-respect and self-love are adequate - you not gonna put up with this kind of mistreatment. Overt narcs are the ones that neve initiate no contact and are all over you no matter how much you tell them upfront that you don't want them in your life. But coverts actually almost always leave you alone and will never speak to you again once they realise that they cannot manipulate and lie to you. It hurts their ego and they "cannot handle it".

[@calgreg2569]

@@Kat3111 I’ve never met one..once in, you are theirs for life..if they leave and never comeback and truly leave you alone..are they narcissistic?

[@Rockstar_london]

It’s abandoning

[@Rockstar_london]

Or silent treatment

[@PyrrhicPax]

I once had a narcissistic employer who frequently had me work 16+hr shifts 6 days a week. When i tried to leave, they lied to my new employer, who was their competitor, falsely claiming i was involved in a lawsuit to prevent me from getting the new job. They then offered me more work under them, but i refused to work for someone who defamed me to prevent me from having a better opportunity with another employer. So they proceeded to use their business reputation to then blacklist me from the entire industry. If they couldnt have me, nobody would.

[@007kingifrit]

howd they find out about the new job

[@Richard-n2w1g]

If they can't control you, they control how others view you

[@KC-sb2sm]

Spot on. You helped me connect the dots, especially on the faking success. I never put that together but now it’s clear. Always bragging on how good they are doing when you know they can’t be.

[@nji7772]

The day I stopped "caring" was the day he said, "I like it when you get upset. It let's me know you still care". That was the moment I started to silently remove, bit by bit, all I had been doing for him. In the end, I had to become a "super nova empath" to get him to stay away and leave me alone. I despised that I had to do that but at least now I think he will leave me be. He is out of my country until March so at least I know I have peace until then.

[@try8042]

I literally just ignore the narc at my job. She would yell at me try and undermine me now I literally act as if she is not there. Now that I'm ignoring her she reported to my boss that I'm threatening her and she feels afraid. Thankfully my boss knows my work ethic and told her she's making it up. She attempts to compete with me, we work in a classroom, and I simply ignore her more. The gray rock method is working. She feels threatened by the lack of response which is not my issue.

[@ambermarie911]

I am proud of you ❤️

[@jumpinjohnnyruss]

Please start recording your entire work day. She's going to escalate. Don't wait until it's too late. If you don't want to spend much time on it, I'd recommend at least noting the times of your interactions with her and preferably a few words about their nature so that if anything comes up you can go back and find it. You shouldn't have any trouble recording 12 hours on one triple-A battery with most audio recorders.

[@melissagreen_]

So happy to hear this! The world is slowly waking up to these types of people and soon they won't have anymore victims to play with because too many people get it now. Silence and the grey rock can completely unravel and expose them.

[@melissagreen_]

@@jumpinjohnnyruss 100% agree with you, it is not extreme to use recording devices and/or cameras to catch them in the act if necessary because they are very good at hiding and covering up their two faced behaviour.

[@tammycoleman1080]

Oh wow, I’m still dealing with this at work and she reported me for speaking up on her behavior towards me like starting and rolling eyes and in passing intimidation tactics. Tried to say I wasn’t doing my work of devaluing me so every piece of workflow that I complete I send email to document. It’s been dangerous and I grey rock. Couldn’t articulate a lot to management of her behavior without sounding childish. There for awhile I was in fear of being terminated and try to get along with everyone and the flying monkeys created. It’s unbelievable lies!

[@stuarttrewern]

They will attempt to gaslight you into social isolation, as I have been by my sister. She even went so far as to end her relationship with her own life-long best friend, because the person refused my sister's demands for her to end contact with me. Stay strong people, there is a light at the end of the tunnel if you are in this yourself.

[@ebishrimpy9366]

I found that the narcissists became a lot nicer and tolerable after I limited on facebook what they are able to see of my updates and set their DMs to go directly to archive. Diminishing our relationship to a cordial acquaintance made everything "just right" between us. It also keeps me from having negative feelings towards them. It's the kind thing to do when they cant seem to help but be jealous and and want to either drag you down or try to leech off you when they think you're doing well

[@markaugustus4064]

Amazingly accurate. This analysis brings clarity. So important to be at peace with oneself

[@Wasp239]

I don't know. People play with words so much today, that anyone can portray anyone as a narcissist if they want. If you don't do anything, you can be portrayed as a narcissist who use ignoring and silence

[@rohithreddy75]

If you dont know what it is.

[@jmj5388]

My narc has just about run out of ideas. He had been trying to build a case for my incompetence by pointing out real and imagined mistakes I had made…that went nowhere. Now he gets his jollies by sneaking up on me…tiptoeing up to a door I was about to open, being right behind me when I turn around…really juvenile tactics, which are all the more ridiculous considering it’s a 70-year-old man using them.

[@_Renee2]

Everything is competition; I gave birth I was told she lost weight and looked as if she never gave birth. I breastfeed and my baby spits up, I'm told “my babies never spit up” and when she saw that my relationship was getting serious with my partner I was informed that she was once pursued and declined a marriage proposal.

[@rabbitcreative]

Competition is inherently destructive. See Alfie Kohn's "No Contest".

[@thomasschon]

Does a narcissist get scared if their own life is threatened? If they destroy you, then you have nothing more to lose, and there's nothing more dangerous than someone who doesn't care about what happens to themselves that's out to even the score.

[@ExposingtheNarcissist]

Yes. They are cowards at the end of the day.

[@danielmartin531]

This is almost exactly how I feel. Like one bad situation from having nothing to lose and nothing to live for.

[@LittleKitty22]

Yup, they are so scared that they live recklessly, engage in drug and alcohol abuse, drive recklessly, commit crimes that normal people would be scared to go to prison for... yup, they are so scared, look how they are all cowering terrified of their victims!

[@maralfniqle5092]

Yes they do get scared. Especially if they financially rip people off.

[@seekingknowledge4698]

This video points out literally everything I encountered with a narcissist. I've seen posts where people describe narcissists as being broke. They are not always physically broke. A narcissist is spiritually bankrupt. They look to feed off of spiritual light. This is what love bombing is all about. A narcissist has no problem giving you flashy expensive things to suck you in. Once they have you hooked, this is when the gifts stop and the spiritual drain begins.

[@maryzimmerman2699]

My family always buys things. Be aware of this. They will try to gift you into staying under them. They will even try gifting your children into being on their side.

[@earllewis4607]

Two words....Sigma Empath = narcs kryptonite

[@CharlieWhiskey549]

There’s a song I heard recently with the lyrics “She looks like an angel, for sure But that’s not her” That is so absolutely true! But if you only see the public performance, it’s easy to see how everyone else gets sucked in. It’s how we got sucked in in the first place, right!!

[@angelwings3093]

That is so true everyone thought my mother was this wonderful sweet person. My daughter is just the opposite she'll tell you she'll kick your ass! My daughter is beautiful but people don't know what's inside that beauty!

[@peterbalac1915]

She looks like an angel, walks like an angel, talks like an angel but I got wise,,, your the devil in disguise,,, the late great Elvis Presley ❤

[@angelwings3093]

@@peterbalac1915 ohhhhhhh that's right I can hear him singing that now!

[@peterbalac1915]

@@angelwings3093 ♥️

[@M-qj7md]

Very helpful. This is exactly what is happening.

[@nickel7065]

My narc is afraid of my dark side. I've shown it to her once, when I had enough, and that's the moment she realized she couldn't push me farther. She also knows I have evidence of her illegal substance handling and use and that keeps her calm. I'm also verbal, versed in self defence and have better economy than her nowadays so she has so far chosen to remain calm. I have no illusion of her not wanting revenge for seeing through her though.

[@4Mikes4Mindset4]

Still with her?

[@nickel7065]

@@4Mikes4Mindset4 Heck no. Things got more quiet at home but that's it. I, by chance and pure luck, found out she was trying to set up a date with a coworker and kicked her out a few months later. That's also when I found out that she was using substances.

[@Forexroadrunner]

Excellent. This is the same thing that's happening to me. I've exposed him already he was afraid and livid. He called me and confrronted me and I wouldn't back down. He dissapeared for a month! He was kicking his wounds all while securing another supply that didn't work out. He was stalking online, so I dissapeared. Now he can't locate me and I am pursing him legally for several offenses. I have the means and time to do so. He's destitute mooching off of family! He will not recover and that's the point. He messed with the wrong empath. I've had enough

[@granmabern5283]

@@Forexroadrunner you guys all sound like the pot calling the kettle black...

[@peterbalac1915]

You sound like a Narc, some people just don't roll over and lie down they want to hold the narc or bpd accountable by any means necessary.

[@annhaney8014]

Thank you for sharing. I'm a new subscriber and appreciate your content. I have a twin sister who is narcissistic and I see right through her. I choose not to be around her very much at all and know that she gossips and lies a great deal. My entire family is this way as well. I'm grateful that I see her for who she really is - competitive, always wanting to dominate and control and false compliments and gossip. Better to have no family of origin at all. None of them are safe to be around.

[@ExposingtheNarcissist]

Welcome!

[@SpiritCompass88]

My nephew is a narcissist, and has gone to great lengths to try and turn others against me. Karma exists in every culture and organized religion. You reap what you sow. I’ve given this battle to GOD...I’m not interested in lowering my vibration. GOD Bless Everyone, and May You Find Victory On Your Own Path 🙏💖☀️

[@jumpinjohnnyruss]

"You reap what you sow." Religions exist to prevent people from realizing how false this is.

[@SpiritCompass88]

@@jumpinjohnnyruss have you ever planted seeds? You cannot plant daisies and grow roses. You will find the AbsoluteTruth Pouring Out Into Your Existence, despite contrary beliefs. The end of days approaches, and the Gospel Has Been Spread Into ALL 4 Corners Of The Earth, For such a time as this. 🙏💖☀️ May You Find Pure Truth WithIn The LiGHT Of The LORD

[@jumpinjohnnyruss]

@@SpiritCompass88 Yeah, but it only works with literal seeds. Your Lord of Light or whoever isn't going to change that.

[@SpiritCompass88]

@@jumpinjohnnyruss look up Iceland...it is known as the land of witches. The flag colors of Palestine 🇵🇸 Afghanistan 🇦🇫 and Iran 🇮🇷 are red, black, white, and pale green...the 4 colors of the 4 horsemen of the Apocalypse. As of April 8, 2024, there will have been 3 eclipses over the United States that create the 1st and last letters of the Hebrew alphabet. America shall face destruction within the first year of the tribulation. I know our beliefs are different, but I Hope You Choose Wisely, when it comes to the Destination Of Your Eternity 🙏💖☀️ May your mind rise from the shadows, to Find Christ, Whom Is The ONLY Reason For ALL Good In This World 🙏💖☀️👁🦋💗 Also...Salem means Peace In Hebrew...Everyone learns about the burning of the witches in order to serve as a warning of the Destruction that the wicked must face. The Euphrates River is the Only One spoken of in the Book Of Genesis, and the Book Of Revelation...the Beginning and the end of the Bible. It is already drying up, as prophesied over 2000 years ago. Part of the Euphrates River also makes up the last letter of the Hebrew alphabet 👁 Goodbye

[@fuston077]

Well spoken! You hit the nail right on the head. Your description immediately put me in mind of several people. Thanks for your wisdom.

[@SevilayVegan]

Alles so wahr was du sagst ! 🌳💚👍😇🙏

[@BearTechNation]

Yes! You are on point! I don't even bother to engage with narcissists. It is a waste of time!

[@MisterIDGAF]

This describes my sister & my cousin. It’s quite sad because all I show is Love. Now I keep God as my bestie & keep it pushing. Literally block everyone.

[@MisterIDGAF]

Narcissists = Energy Vampires.

[@nlennon24]

Thank you. I'm just starting to learn 4-5 years after 11 years and 3 kids the level of manipulation that took place. I have my 3 kids and she's no where to be found once she couldn't control me. Thank you for the healty cry tonight. Time to remind the few good ppl we have how much and why i appreciates them.

[@amberinthemist7912]

Thank god you got your kids out. 🙏

[@kristahunter1588]

You know what creeps me out the most. I had a child. A friend that I grew up with was made for many years and I finally got tired of her covered narcissistic ways. Ok, but I recently was shown a picture of her and I cannot but it's creepy. Why is she colored her hair like mine and wearing glasses like me? That's not like her, she's a red head. She's not a blonde, she doesn't need glasses. Why is she wearing glasses I'm blind as a bat. I need glasses and my hair is naturally blonde, I haven't spoken to this woman in 9 months now. It's been 9 months she's been bugging me but I've been ignoring her insulting me and then I still ignore and then turning around, saying I'm saying blah blah I'm still your friend. Yeah, but I'm still ignoring her. But what was very bizarre is why is she starting to? Trying to look like me. I mean, if she's not fine. I don't care but she's doing it again. She does this weird stuff like tries to be like you. It's very strange, it's creepy. She's been talking to my daughter often on. But my daughter knows about her and tries to keep her distance. But my daughter showed me a picture of her recently. Lee cause she started some art Powell website to cell art something. I've been bugging her to do forever, and she's finally decided to do it possibly because we don't talk anymore, and she has nothing better to do but gossip and put people down but anyway, I digress, that's creepy that they try to look like you and act like you. My daughter brought this to my attention yesterday. And when I saw the photo she posted for her page, I couldn't believe it. Why is she trying to look like me now? That is creepy.

[@Flora-vm2zr]

Cluster b, do this sometimes. I think it's because they don't have their own personality, their own likes and dislikes, so have to make up one using you/previous people. My ex, a sociopath female, dressed as a man (short manly hairstyle/suit and tie), because I told her I liked guys (and at the time she thought that was what I wanted and now I see it was to try and impress me). Then later after we broke up she started dressing like me. (Wearing flowery dresses and grew out long long hair, makeup, flower jewelry) It was bizarre. Just know that cluster b do this from time to time. Sometimes they get in their 50's/60's and this behavior eventually stops/slows down. Why? Because they have picked various traits/personalities over the years. They then have a custom made personality to show to everyone and stick to that one "personality". Thing is, most children do this too, but after about age 12, a child will grow out of this behavior and have a solid personality. So basically cluster b are children.

[@LilyfromUruguay]

It seems that she wants to be you...

[@jeanwestland2293]

It's envy. They are consumed by envy. You are everything they are not. Or so they think. The latest one in my life had to have a rug "just like" mine. Had to have pictures on her living room wall "just like" mine. Etc. It was kind of creepy. She also, it turned out, had a totally fake persona which I found out on her last day of work when she quit. She went crazy cruel. Narcissists are interesting to say the least.

[@emmsue1053]

Hahaa, I have one of those. It tried to go blonde but looked dreadful so now MY hair is is in bad condition because its bleached ( untrue) It has fillers even though its younger than me then posts the worst raw snaps of myself & of course the most flattering newly injected, highly filtered of Itself & tells everyone I have aged dreadfully. (Doctor almost gave a flu jab for the wrong age group recently)... Its pure simple blind jealousy! I feel so sorry for people who can never be happy & it must be exhausting?

[@kristahunter1588]

@@LilyfromUruguay God help us there's only one of me and that's enough l o l

[@db8799]

"TREAT OTHERS AS YOU WOULD BE TREATED"

[@tims9434]

I've identified a narcissist in my social group. I'm going to do my own thing next time as they're clearly on to me from their behaviour and they'd rather I didn't attend. They've pushed other people similar to myself out of the group. If I carry on attending they'll lose and they won't be able to bad mouth me in my absence if I'm still attending. Everyone watching, stay strong and use your knowledge and wisdom to gain the upperhand. Those unaware will be totally unware of what you're doing if you stay true to yourself and the narcissist will suffer from their own action's ❤

[@Ame.D.L.]

Unfortunately I have experienced the same, where I noticed the pattern of behaviour of one person in a social group before I was one of the targets. The moment they realise you really see them (because you question one of their lies about someone), you become the target, and they go to work behind the scenes to poison everyone else’s image of you. I had to come to the realisation that if a group of lifelong friends are willing believe one Narcissist’s lies about you without questioning those lies or coming to you in concern to discuss what they were told, you sadly have to be ready to let go of all those friendships … they obviously didn’t know you well enough or care deeply enough about you in the first place, if they are willing to believe anything they hear about you.

[@michaelgpartridge2384]

Thank you for this EXCELLENT distillation of this behavior. This is what we need - concise, authoritative references just like this, so victims of this abuse do not have to attempt to explain or beg to be believed - they can simply share this video and say, “this says it all - this is what happened to me.” We can all thank you for your channel name as well - too many people do not realize this is going on everywhere, behind closed doors. Thank you!

[@ExposingtheNarcissist]

You are very welcome. Thanks for watching :)

[@Canadian-Carnivore]

The best option to “escape” narcissistic toxic dysfunctional people is to go absolutely ZERO CONTACT!! I “escaped” a year ago from my biological mother and her victims!! Best decision I have ever made. It has been a lifetime of negativity and dysfunction, I only wish that I did it decades ago. My lineage will not continue the cyclical dysfunction! Cut anyone and everyone out of your life who does not wish you well! They are damaged and cannot live in harmony. They live in fear and manipulation. Break free. ☮️🍀

[@HeatherBanghart-fw3ii]

Went through all of this. His mask fell, I called him on it, he devalued, discarded, smear campaigned, stalked, flying monkeys and then when that didn't work and has avoided for now. Thank God. Lesson learned.

[@momo_csay]

My stoic approach to life as of recently is what helped me gain natural trust and reliability and so although the smear campaign has already commenced and still continues it only seems to dim his own reputation 😅

[@KarenSullivan321]

Same here!

[@morlockmeat]

These are the exact things that have happened to me with my oldest sister. When I walked out on her, she managed to break all my connections with my family. And through my family, some of my friends.

[@mikedee8876]

it helps to be non-social....with only a handful of good friends....and off social media.....approaching 2 years of freedom in total silence....and peace.

[@tialinda6293]

right on point. thank you for this information.

[@alexgaras1573]

I must say this is the best and most informative document I have seen on nacasism. I am deeply empathetic and have been surrounded by nacasists my whole life. Only recently have I been working on distaning myself from them. I have experienced all of this from them. The worst thing for me has been when they start teaming up against their victim. Maybe you could say something about the group psychology of abusive narcissists? I think its relivant to global society and the current human condition. Many thanks. Peace out.

[@beverleyreid7572]

I agree that this was one of the best and informative versions I’ve heard. I also learned a lot from the comments. I’m definitely not alone. So sad though.

[@AthenaStellaLuna]

If you call them out they’ll go away but will stalk Dating sites are full of them.

[@7n1sun21]

This Is How It Goes. Exactly 💯.

[@markh4926]

In my AA group I announced that my hobby was wood turning, making bowls, vases, goblets, etc. The guys all immediately told me they were going to buy a wood lathe. This one rich guy who knows how to pretend to like you, (he owned a very successful Pizza Shop.). He knows how to fake it. Anyway, he went and bought a wood lathe and announced to the group that "If Mark can do it, so can I." Nice friend. There is one other guy who is copying me, my brother. He's expressed a desire to buy a lathe and copy me. I can always tell when he is lying or faking me out, he gets a very strange look on his face which is always consistent with his lies. I suspect he might have already bought a lathe as he is sneaky about how he talks about his desire. He's done this to me in the past, stolen things from me, and I don't understand.

[@granmabern5283]

Imitation is the highest form of flattery. In fact, it’s a form of LOVE. Where would the human race be today if people never tried to imitate the GOOD things other people do??? Sharing interests is friendly. Competition is not always friendly, but it can still be constructive. The Pizza Hut guy sounds competitive. Maybe you should sell wood lathes? Or start giving woodworking classes at a community college? Or organize a group workshop, where people pool their tools? Pizza Hut guy could show off by bringing more tools, and you could use the tools! Win-Win! One of the wonderful things my Mom taught me, is that no two humans are exactly the same. Even if everyone has a wood lathe, you will still be selecting your wood and working with it, using your own character, tastes, goals and timeline.

[@jumpinjohnnyruss]

AA is a network that's very useful to narcissists. (The people within it are likely to be vulnerable to manipulation. Most networks are vulnerable to the influence of the mafi-... er, I mean, "institutionalized narcissism". But AA is especially so.) Some of those guys might not be acting out of cruelty, though. Hearing about your hobby, I feel like I want to buy a wood lathe because it sounds like an awesome hobby, not because I'm competing with you. I won't. And I believe I'd suck at it if I tried. But when you hear about it there's something appealing about it. That rich bastard, though. He sounds like a grade-A-A-hole (no pun intended). Don't forget, some people might be jealous of your progress or of the fact that you have something to keep you grounded. If they try it as a way to compete with you, then they're not really grounded by it. They're lost in the sea of competition. Don't get dragged in.

[@markh4926]

@@granmabern5283 Thanks for that. I just wanted something to do in retirement and not have people looking at me and saying "I want what you have!" I was not a good business man, I made a business deal with this creep who had intentions of stealing my cabinet shop. He almost got it but I maneuvered around his lying ass and he lost everything.

[@markh4926]

@@jumpinjohnnyruss I could write a book about all the trouble some narc girls gave me in AA. The gossip and slander got so bad at a meeting the group publicly accused me of being a predator. They would not apologize so I left those a holes behind. Civil Courts frown on Public Slander and I was close to suing if I could find a witness to what they did. The group was mad as hell at me because this new girl sat next to me and thought I was funny, we laughed and had fun which pissed off the guys and girls there, about thirty people.

[@markh4926]

@@jumpinjohnnyruss If you are really interested just go to youtube and start watching and learning from the wood turning pros, they like to teach you. I put in more than 400 hours learning from them before I bought a good wood lathe. That pizza guy hasn't turned anything since he bought his lathe. He's been spending a lot of time in the hospital for a wrecked back, rotator cuff, and other complaints he's always talking about.

[@michaelofarrell9637]

You can't argue with silence...its more than golden....its essential...you liberate your self worth ...don't let narc lovers destroy it ...

[@Drakengard82]

Worst is when the narc is your boss You can refuse the manipulation, but the others WILL turn on you in the blink of an eye, and not even question anything

[@sarahtaboo6732]

Exposed my covert narcissist mother, went no contact for years, she worked in the shadows to get my children removed, after years of trying and manipulating those around me to turn their backs on me and my kids, she became a foster parent to get paid for temporarily fostering my 5 kids, otherwise she told the state she would not stay with them and here a year later, still lies about me to family and even the state and she has now targeted my children, devaluing them. Until now, I got her recorded and will be creating a story time exposing her deadbolting my kids out the house in 12 degree weather for over an hour and a half then called the cops on them saying they were burglars trying break in and when the cops arrived they realized they were just kids (13 & 14) trying to get in their house and that they lived there and my mother was watching the whole thing on camera. She wouldn’t answer when the cops tried to call her to explain why she would deadbolt the front door from the inside and then call the cops on her own grandkids. She finally answered them and told the cops she doesnt want them anymore and to take them. Cops had to explain to her she cannot call in a fake B&E and also as a foster parent she cannot kick them out, she has to go thru DCYF. 15mins later she finally arrives (remember she was watching the kids freeze outside for over an hour thru the camera) and immediately yells at my oldest daughter saying that she tried to run away, my kid stood up and said no way, she gave them permission to go to the mall with her friends from 4pm-8:30pm, i was on the phone w my daughter the entire 2hrs since they arrived home and i spoke up to my narc mom saying that what she did was unethical and a danger to the kids and that i saw and heard everything, she immediately yells at me to shut up, shut up, shut up and starts almost whining explaining that she had to fix the door cause it was broken suddenly. I politely reminded her that she called the cops saying the kids were burglars, then did not answer her phone while kids freezing outside and also that the police officer advised us of what she said about not wanting them. She denied it all, called everyone a liar and stormed off. God please empower me to regain my children and finally put an end to this generational abuse under her control. And it’s a joke because DCYF tells me all I have to do is move to get them back but they sabotaged me from getting into a family shelter & a dv shelter, twice this year. Got into a shelter and my worker said that I lied to get in the shelter, worker told them that I did not have to move in order to get my kids back, completely lying and so when the shelter staff took back their offer to take in all my kids after their conversation w my worker, I left. And even now at case management meetings my DCYF worker tells me to go into a shelter to get my kids back. It’s all twisted and btwn my narcissistic mom and her new flying monkey of my worker, I am exhausted and defeated but I will never surrender my children willingly to such an evil system or person; they will have to rip my motherhood out of my arms and even so I will forever fight for them because if I failed to escape the vengeance of my narcissist mother, I will make sure to survive and thrive so I can stand up for my children when the time comes.

[@nathalieduverna6963]

It was #3 for me. Just gave him the cold shoulder and I continue to do so .....