How Porn Is Killing Your Relationship! | Dr. Doug Weiss

[@MiaMeezy]

Dr Weisse, I'm in the CO Springs area. I called today, it's Sunday. I've looked everywhere and I can't find one story of a husband having an affair via text while using my body when I'm asleep. I'm so broken. Am I the only one? I know he sent her money and was on many dating/escort sites. I feel so worthless. 27 years. I was actually very sick with covid and an autoimmune disease he did this to me as if I meant nothing, my pain was nothing. How could he do this to me? I just can't get over it.

[@BStrick8185]

I’m sorry but you should have called the law and told them he rape you so he goes where he belongs in jail. That a predator, you definitely need to leave him. I’m a Sex addict but wow that’s on another level! He doesn’t have respect for you or anything if he can do that, and he never will.

[@joymaechiguina8486]

My husband has an addiction denies it but he’s always looking at other girls on line I try to catch him because I believe that he’s having online sex. I’ve been with him for 28 years and I honestly cannot handle this life or just the sight of him disgusts me . Because I cannot I cannot understand why he does what he does . I’ve done just about everything to keep this marriage I already told him that I don’t appreciate him doing that. He’s been always lying and for me it’s just wrong and it’s not fair I’m ready to move on. What makes my situation so much harder is that I have 2 adult kids ages 27 and 24 and then after that I have 4 underage kids ages 8,7, 4 and 3. So that’s what makes it so much harder to just up and leave . So I’m seeking any help to help me I’m jut feeling so sadly lost . Please all good advice is appreciated!

[@DrDougWeiss]

Thank you for sharing this. When a person is dealing with a partner's addiction, especially if they are in denial, it can feel overwhelming and quite isolating. The feelings of betrayal and the pain that you have because of his actions are real. This is a difficult situation to be in and I want to commend you for the strength that you have had in the midst of these challenges. Know that you are not alone in this. If you need support for the partner betrayal trauma that you have experienced, call us at 719-278-3708 to get booked with one of our therapists from our center. They will walk with you toward healing and provide guidance on your situation. You can also join our free Partners Facebook community support group. facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa If you’re looking to go through an accelerated counseling process in a few short days, either you or both of you could consider doing our 3 or 5-day marriage intensive program here in Colorado Springs. We have a few resources that may shed light on your situation, as well as provide validation and guidance on moving forward: The video “Unstuck” addresses the pain that a woman experiences because of their spouse’s addiction and provides insight into understanding why they are behaving the way they are. www.drdougweiss.com/product/unstuck-video-download/ The "Partners: Healing From His Addiction" book would validate what you have experienced and guide you in creating a plan of healing for yourself: www.drdougweiss.com/product/partners-healing-ebook/ “Why Do I Stay” might also be useful as it allows you to evaluate your situation and help you navigate your way forward. www.drdougweiss.com/product/why-do-i-stay-video-download/

[@melissahale7806]

My husband keeps his eyes closed during sex the entire time even before we actually start having sex. He claims he's self-conscious about himself and it makes him uncomfortable to have his eyes open. I suspect he doesn't find me attractive and is just fantasizing about other people. Which is true? =(

[@DrDougWeiss]

Only he would know the truth but he could do a polygraph to verify what he is doing. He would do well to work on having his eyes open to get more comfortable. You feeling alone during sex like this would be normal in this case. I would recommend the book "Upgrade Your Sex Life" to help. www.drdougweiss.com/product/upgrade-your-sex-life-3/

[@kathleenb6375]

Great info. There is just too much wrong with him to turn back.

[@masong1166]

Dr.Weiss is it possible to make a full recovery from PIED

[@DrDougWeiss]

That would depend on so many factors. However, I have seen men be restored who practice relational sex with their wives now instead of using pornography and object sex. The DVD Sex After Recovery could be very helpful on this matter: www.drdougweiss.com/product/sex-after-recovery/

[@kjerstynsk8s]

I feel like I’m missing something here. I watched this video much earlier and you mentioned how it this can affect your professional life as well. Not seeing it in this one. Did you edit this? Where can I find that perspective?

[@DrDougWeiss]

I haven't changed anything about this video. I did release a few other videos a little while back that had similar topics like "How Porn Can Ruin Your Social Life" and "How Much Is Porn Costing You?" It might have been one of these since they focus more on how it impacts your professional life. kzbin.info/www/bejne/l3PWmp5pjbWFbc0 kzbin.info/www/bejne/pGSTi5eDrbyVesU

[@kjerstynsk8s]

@@DrDougWeiss thank you!!

[@kins1332]

Can sex/porn addiction be mistaken for avoidant personality disorder? Some of what you mentioned made me think of apd.

[@DrDougWeiss]

No, these are different disorders, but a person can have both. Check out intimacyanorexia.com to see if this fits your situation. If you need support, we have a Partners phone group and Facebook group you can join. www.drdougweiss.com/partner-group/ facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa/

[@marcanthonybasha8447]

How do i figure out why i am withholding intimacy from my wife? I want to buy a book and start reading. What do you recommend. We have been married 4 years now and have a 4 year old daughter. I have withheld sex since she got pregnant and i have a porn addiction from when i was 14. I'm a 34 male

[@vintagegirl68]

My husband's been doing porn for 23 years and lying about it. I can't stay to be with him during sex. My mind goes away because he creeps me out.

[@MiaMeezy]

Same after I found out

[@noracharles9366]

⭐️

[@MarinaM-o6p]

🎤🫵🏻 TELL THIS TO THE ENTIRE NATION IN USA !!!! I AM AGAINST PORN AND EVER WILL BE .ITS DEFINITELY TURNS ME OFF FOREVER .

[@paulagillette3346]

What if it’s now dead

[@colleenkaiser6664]

No my husband's got Jezebel spirits and he aint about to give him up pray for me because Jesus told me autumly If I Stay with him he deal with him ..l need wisdom for God's throne And to be still and know that he is God 1st Samuel 1216

[@nomorewar4189]

Tired of women who withhold affection from their husbands complaining when they go astray either in an affair or develop a porn addiction. Get with the program and stop blaming men for it all. You have input and that doesn’t mean judgment and condemnation either.😢

[@NurseLisaD]

Some men these issues before marriage and it is no fault of the woman. A lot of people have dealt with these addictions since childhood and it effects intimacy with the spouse.

[@livelovely4681]

You cannot blame others for your addictions. With or without a partner porn is harmful.

[@nomorewar4189]

@@NurseLisaD -and how many fit the description above where wives use sex as a weapon? More of that nowadays.

[@nomorewar4189]

@@livelovely4681 - so if a woman marries a man who promises to support the family by working and earning a living - then after getting married refuses to do that and sits at home drinking beer - can you then blame him for not upholding his vows and marriage promises? Sure you’ll blame the guy all day long as you should - and if the wife refuses to provide intimacy to her husband I guess that’s his fault / issue as well. Lol hypocrites.

[@MiaMeezy]

A real man owns his thoughts, feelings.