Rescuing Your Marriage from Pornography (Part 1) - Rosie Makinney

Rosie Makinney discovered her husband’s pornography addiction during their honeymoon. This was a devastating revelation, yet she also knew the porn had to stop and boldly challenged her husband to choose to save their marriage. As a result, Rosie’s husband began a recovery process with a support group, accountability and fellowship. Rosie formed her own group for wives of porn addicts.
In this interview, Rosie will offer a Bible-based strategy for wives who want to rescue their marriages from their husband’s pornography addiction. Rosie also addresses how a growing number of women and girls are now becoming addicted to pornography.
Get Rosie's book, Fight for Love: bit.ly/3koKkGO
For more resources on this topic: bit.ly/3n4JTmJ
Help for Pornography Addiction: bit.ly/3BXZqcd
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[@pinkcarrera123]

Trying hard to trust my spouse again after discovering his addiction 😢

[@ricosands5887]

Amen! Men go through this struggle furthermore, your husband has to be accountable for his actions because it’s affecting you. It’s the battle of the soul.

[@namastexo8860]

What a fascinating conversation, so well-done. Balanced, informative, insightful, encouraging. A Christian conversation that relies on evidence-based scientific findings with a number of options. Not sanctimonious, broad-based, an easy listen for even those without strong religious convictions. Such an important and cutting edge contribution to what is a global epidemic. Thank you, Rosie Makinney and Focus on the Family for your inspiration.

[@cathyhunley4882]

Her life is mine. I lost my first marriage to it and now losing my 2nd to it. I’m absolutely devastated. He is not repentant and I have grit he is dead with a lot especially intimacy. He got violent when I caught him. It was right in front of my face and I had caught him several times before. I think I was so broken because he KNEW this was a dealbreaker. He promised me. He broke it over and over and is dead in it now. I don’t know if I have hope and I love this man so much. I just cannot do this again. 😢

[@jensbornagain]

In this day I don’t think their is any man that doesn’t watch it. I am very against it but husband still does it just better at hiding it. It has taken my self worth down to zero

[@marqueskates5873]

​@@jensbornagainmaybe you are just sexually boring. Instead of coming on KZbin bashing him. Fix your relationship.

[@norafrost7]

@@jensbornagain​​⁠It is all fine, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! Males are mostly sick extremely much nowadays, and women needs to learn to be emotionally independent, and when they reach that lvl they will be unstoppable beings especially because they’re mostly smarter and bigger empaths. Just let them ruin themselves, and live their lives like a drooling, walking penises

[@SPD87327]

@@jensbornagainget some marriage counseling please ❤

[@paulagillette3346]

Thank you for validating and bringing all this into the light

[@msbichongirl]

In her book she goes over the tools to recovery. She mentions different surveys that should be used. Where can I find the surveys? Full disclosure is something my husband refuses to do. Please pray for us. I am getting to where I cannot handle dealing with this anymore.

[@dianabakervevang2972]

So much suffering..so many lies there is no stopping if the person thinks nothing is wrong. This I know

[@liberty-at-last]

Best interview I've ever heard on FOTF!

[@paulagillette3346]

The saddest part as people are trafficked for this so men are not only hurting themselves their family but these victims

[@sarahalderman3126]

Men are the sole cause.

[@artlanderman2994]

now i see why my wife is so angry.

[@johnjaso385]

Stop it. Repent.

[@ORSkie]

That's a start. I encourage you to get help.

[@jessyjonas4988]

This content would have been more useful with her husband present. Let us hear from the man with the addiction Where is he now in his healing Other men need to hear from the man with the addiction

[@cks5631]

There are several other episodes on this show that has men with pornography addiction. If you search it then you will be able to find some of that content.

[@anthonylozano8035]

He’s probably watching it right now

[@jessyjonas4988]

@@cks5631 I want to hear from this woman’s husband. Let’s hear if he agrees with the statements she made regarding his mind and motives

[@anthonylozano8035]

I’m just kidding! Haha but yes it would be nice to hear from him. I suffered from it too.

[@mindymeade2749]

@@anthonylozano8035 check out episode 37, 40 and 41 on the Fight for Love podcast, where you can hear her husband Mark, and two other husbands talk about their experience.

[@robzee5038]

Yes, The truth will set you free. 😊

[@margaretyoshikawa1234]

I’m convinced that it causes demonic activity. He has admitted to me that he has voices that condemn him, but can’t get away from them. And he is a Christian.

[@karinteeples9715]

Truth. Deliverance ministry is needed usually, to help in their healing process. I and my husband have been delivered of several strongholds that we brought in due to unrepentant sin. We are in a spiritual war. 🔥🙌🏻

[@amberschaar2769]

@@karinteeples9715

[@melaniexoxo]

Who wants to force someone to do the right thing? If a man doesn’t take seriously his addiction and get help he will forever demonize her and resent her. Why is this being put on women yet again?

[@antoinelyons5323]

I agree the addictive have to take responsibility

[@rebeccaoprea9917]

No one I’d forcing . As a couple we are one and we help eachother . We don’t leave them to suffer in their addiction , alone .

[@mindymeade2749]

My husband didn't resent me. Remember when Rosie said their brains aren't functioning properly. Is it fair? No. But I can tell you, being on the other end, it's worth it.

[@queenesreina7424]

My take is that this isn't "being put on women", it's simply acknowledging that we, as women, are dealing with this in growing numbers (on both sides of the coin, either as partners of an addict, as addicts ourselves, or both). For someone dealing with this situation, this is literally a Godsend, a reminder that we're not going through any of this alone and that there's hope to be found, along with practical steps, like beginning by reaching out and to strengthen our own faith first so that the addicted spouse can recognize his (or her) own responsibility.

[@ccleavemebe4790]

@@rebeccaoprea9917girl stats show men leave women when they are sick , bored , etc.

[@nickmartinez7674]

Wonderful topic and so necessary. 👏

[@mikezeke7041]

Appreciate the conversation

[@paulagillette3346]

I’ve literally heard these lies and yes I became a shell of a woman

[@jessc6304]

Thank you for that last part. The word is giving me strength ❤️

[@johnjaso385]

Wow what an amazing introduction to everything she said !!

[@dominiquerivero6611]

To put it on the wife to sort it out is nothing short of blame shifting and gas lighting

[@kaywells7]

Ty for this. I’ve been through this and now my daughter in law. Praying my son gets help, He says he will. But this has been ongoing but she’s finally saying get help or else. It’s painful for all involved. My husband turned to underage girls as well. We divorced.

[@carolhale4331]

Oh my goodness! The trauma you have been through. Please find Celebrate Recovery in your area.

[@tabitharoberson3575]

She is right. It is demonic.

[@TheLifeofDreaxo]

I’m devastated I’m hurt I’m angry

[@antoinelyons5323]

Great convo

[@helloitsme98]

Our kids are in big trouble

[@heathernielsen]

I don't think that approach works for everyone. Just can't say it's my way or the highway. That might work for some people but I don't think it works for everyone. I think she later goes on to say that just to focus on yourself and making yourself better if I heard that right. And I did try that myself, it's me or the highway. And it didn't work in my case. Marriage counseling from license therapist worked the best in my situation.

[@paulagillette3346]

Yes this is exactly where I’m at

[@paulagillette3346]

😢 standing firm

[@dominiquerivero6611]

The spirit of fantasy also activated

[@felicitypaulse7965]

this is a great topic...where can one join a group for help for the spouse (the woman) in the marriage in Cape Town South Africa please

[@focusonthefamily]

Hello Felicity! You can find help through our office in South Africa. To contact our associate office in South Africa, you may email them at [e-mail], or contact them through their website at www.safamily.co.za.

[@Naan795]

You can also check Pure Desire, Samson Society, and Sarah Society

[@ajwhitt6052]

Thank you!!!!!

[@gracelove190]

Over 40 years 😢

[@debbiesweet]

I cannot afford the book I really need it! Long story short it’s been my first year of marriage and he’s his the addiction from dating till marriage and honey moon was devastating!!! Please help!!!! Would like the book and any materials !!! He’s on the husband material site and subscribed but is struggling to admit when he’s anting to look and he just looks and hides and keeps secrets till I find stuff he still lies and it’s a whole mess!!!!

[@smamucha]

Please share the data of the studies regarding this issue.

[@ORSkie]

I would like the links to the studies.

[@gobigandgohomeschool4882]

Focus on the Family, I hope that in the very near future, you will publicly and firmly disavow so many of the poisonous books you have recommended that perpetuate abuse in marriages: Love and Respect, The Power of a Praying Wife, Lies Women Believe, etc.

[@pipergunderson-swaney4539]

Wont admit it.

[@nikkiallie91]

So what does it mean when u find out and confront your husband, do u still sleep with him or not??

[@awinbisa]

I think you should. Its harsh to deny him. But you need to discuss the issue as well.

[@pondwaterfarm8598]

It's hard to sleep with him though. He stepped out. It made me feel disgusting letting him touch me after I caught him.

[@donnasimmons2241]

Absolutely not! Who would want a man that would choose that filth over their wife? Not me, and btw, I'm going through this issue now with my soon to be ex- husband.

[@norafrost7]

@@donnasimmons2241The same over here, he got bye bye, and I am a smart, beautiful woman! He was lying all he’s exes, he was swearing in souls of beloved ones, his lies were brutal! Also he develop tendencies to watch real terrible things on a dark web, many of them do due to consistent habit of watching it for so many years! If there is any normal guy cool, if not then NOT NEEDED, I will make all by myself rather than with a drooling walking human di*k.

[@isauraluna]

​@@pondwaterfarm8598 sister find your worth in Christ first and then you will be able to stand to fight for your marriage. Forgive your husband and get closer to the Lord and he will help you. Ask the Holy spirit to guide you as to what to do .

[@robertbruce1552]

Dopamine is what it's called.

[@vitohuangdev]

Is there a support group in Taiwan?

[@danielelee6323]

Solution is Bible!🙏

[@rachelmelendez9255]

My husband comes at when he is convicted. 🥺 I want hope.

[@ORSkie]

🙏💝

[@Naan795]

Check Pure Desire

[@danilaroche1156]

I'd try a trial separation. If nothing changes, nothing changes.

[@hollikrebs]

Jesus is Hope, keep seeking Him with all your heart.

[@helloitsme98]

how much is this brain grove stuff science and how much is not

[@syrwatdkhar6494]

Amen ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@billkendall667]

When are we going to start preaching to wives and women about romance novels and romance shows on Netflix?

[@deepthoughts8393]

Projection is great isn’t it

[@norafrost7]

Maybe one day it could be your daughter or future dear cousins on that screen, and then I hope you’re going to write the same. ;)

[@gobigandgohomeschool4882]

Did you listen to episode two?

[@rosiefranklin166]

😢

[@camille-bz2vp]

Turn the comments off immediately!!

[@janelleowen2686]

Why do you say this, Camille?

[@Lacuna1122]

When will women talk about how men are replacing them with a dead image on a cold screen? When will women realize it's their low value that drives men to a screen

[@laurenmorgan9946]

They'd go to the screen no matter fukn what.

[@Lacuna1122]

@@laurenmorgan9946 correct, does that give you pause? Or are you like most women? Completely incapable of critical thought.

[@ivory8581]

Are you for real? So you are saying it’s the woman’s fault her loser husband looks at a screen?

[@danilaroche1156]

@@laurenmorgan9946 Please don't curse on Christian broadcast. People get stuck in sin because they're under demonic attack. Ephesians 6.

[@Lacuna1122]

@@danilaroche1156 how is it in the 21st century, with all the science. And all the proof that the bible is a plagiarism of other older religions. Can you wacky Christians bury your head in the sand? When will you admit invisible men are a process of delusional thinking?

[@wolfgangwinifred3752]

ʟᴏᴠᴇʟʏ 😌❤😌❤