How (some) Asexuals ...Have Sex 👍🏻

[@HeyThere005]

I have a "squish" on everyone in the Ace community b/c they are so nice and smart! Leave a comment with a couple of the ways you show your partner(s) affection, and if you're Ace be sure so say so! THIS VID IS FOR YOU!

[@olivers.5751]

Awwwwww thanks Ash♡

[@yeeclaw5976]

aaa henlo aro ace here !!! edit: aa heck meant to ask, do you think youd ever do a more In Depth(tm) video on alterous attraction?

[@elissa7948]

Ash Hardell thank you! This means so much to me that people appreciate ace people. It just means so much!

[@sydshome]

I lean into the demi side of things, and learning to set boundaries with partners and having ongoing conversations around them has been so empowering. It depends on the partner/ where we are in our relationship.

[@Scottland89]

Thank you for your continued support to Aces. As an Aro-Ace, I don't have or desire a parter so unfortunatly I can't say of ways I show affection to my (non-exsistant) partner ☹ but that is ok as I am happy that way 🙂 Also just me, or did anyone else think Ash meant monopoly when they were talking about games in bed? Like I knew what they meant but my mind still said "Like monopoly?" 😶🤣

[@doddleoddle]

not being able to tell if it’s trauma related or just me is RELATABLEEEEE this vid is amazing palz

[@notlikeothertrinas]

doddleoddle DODIE HI I LOVE YOU

[@augustf3231]

doddleoddle aww hi dodes

[@nvmindem]

doddleoddle hey dodie, love youuu

[@cactojuice]

Dodiee

[@hallwnby]

I had this now I realise I acctually am not ace and it’s jus trauma :/

[@vanessarodriguez6917]

"you don't like holding hands?" "it's okay." "we're learning things. " that was cute 😭💕

[@arlette7207]

yess Lol

[@baysidedaze]

I feel like all of these things are also so important for a non-ace relationship. Sometimes it's just nice to be intimate without being "intimate."

[@thatsdree1350]

Kimberly Boenig you’re absolutely right! The only difference is just that some asexuals don’t engage in sex

[@carrie637]

It is important, I’m bisexual and like being intimate, but not “intimate.”

[@ahriannamacias7921]

People: do you identify as male or female? Me: Actually I identify as nipple clamp earrings so....

[@Alexandra-wb2pf]

Hahaha

[@JK-vq5me]

Ahrianna Macias lol :)

[@chelseasmith2603]

Ahrianna Macias I literally want to be your friend 😂😂

[@sunburntsilverado7665]

Omg lol

[@AniNatchkebia]

Penis sized nipples ewWwe

[@LeonJones2303]

*sees my type of asexuality on the spectrum* Wait... Is this what validation feels like?

[@nonbinaryperson2312]

Nicole Jones Haha you are lucky you see yours

[@katiek2615]

Same

[@overmorrow3907]

I've been waiting for something like this for soooo long.

[@OMGmynameisLILI]

0:00 intro 3:35 What is asexuality? 5:29 Intimacy 9:50 Kinks 14:25 Having sex? 16:28 Cute couples

[@wannabeacademic4829]

Thank you!!!

[@eyesofender5151]

Thanks

[@MICHBSTTWINDTRYR]

Thank

[@wafflesandwafflesandmorewa4631]

OMGmynameisLILI - Lili Martínez Thank you

[@DefinitelyNotJay3705]

Thank you 🎶 :)

[@Obi98]

Im a straight male, and have no idea how i got here. But i cant stop watching your Videos. Youre awesome!

[@notcaaaramels]

ObiJuanKenobi I’m an 11 year old... WHY AM I HERE?!

[@buiscutdog9090]

@@notcaaaramels your probably here cause KZbin recommend the video, or maybe your just trying to learn about human interaction or something

[@Musictree16]

Omg your awesome thanks for learning and being accepting

[@katiepoldek16]

Christy Bacon so you can learn about something that's not talked about enough

[@Jd-ko9lo]

Bro same

[@MissKariPanda]

I have found the answer "if you could go back in time, what video would you show your 15 year old self?"

[@DavidDiMuzio]

This video is making me feel less weird...

[@arlette7207]

same

[@kale0811]

IVE SAID THIS BEFORE AND ILL SAY IT AGAIN. ASH HARDELL IS THE MOST ADORABLE HUMAN ON THIS PLANET. that's all.

[@free_melie]

Agreed!!! Ash is so great, so cute I love all Ash's videos!!

[@presleyfaith5020]

Bro I actually love ash,, when they said “gAy” i WHEEZED

[@liiveleaked]

Omg sameeeeee I died when they said that😂

[@MrGray-zu3hl]

SAMEEE haha

[@soulxblugamer]

I love that people are using the correct prounons😌😌😌

[@FandomBrat]

As an asexual aromantic (technically demi) I actually had no idea that sensual attraction was a thing. I've always liked holding hands with my gf, spooning while cuddling, and tickling, but I've never understood that this was a thing. So, yeah, thanks Ash for sharing that

[@yourfriendlyferal4668]

Eeee an agender person!

[@clarep228]

I really appreciated that sexual assault/trauma was mentioned as something that can complicate/effect how someone identifies. Really amazing to see so many perspectives! Great video

[@thewarriorcat121]

i'm ace and hearing so much ace positivity in this video and reading it in the comments has made me tear up. thank you ash and all of the people who submitted videos!! ^v^

[@hatched7899]

I wanted to say that I am extremely impressed by the lot of you. So young. So expressive and open. It's amazing to see. I'm an older Ace myself (40ish) and wish that resources and platforms such as KZbin and Ash's channel existed in my younger years. I would love to see a segment/ production/ vlog/video (or whatever 🤷‍♀️)on older asexuals as I feel the beyond-30 crowd is well beyond underrepresented within the asexual community. Not saying that as fact. Simply an observation from within life experience. Would still love to see you tackle the topic, Ash. All love and utmost respect 💜👩‍👦‍👦🖤

[@liliadelatova595]

You suck @ Dark Heart The OC has a great request !

[@arlette7207]

!! Hop your okay!

[@iederwatwil]

Ash Hardell; educating me about lgbtq+ things since 2014. Thanks for that

[@victoriacheyenne683]

As someone who is not ace and came into this video not knowing that I didn't even properly understand the definition of asexuality, I feel super educated! Thanks for putting this together in a fun, informative way, Ash!

[@Mad.E]

Victoria Cheyenne hey you, I'm ace and when I came out to my two best friends they seemed kinda hesitant to ask questions and I feel like they maybe still don't really know what asexuality means, so I'm planning to try and explain it to them again and I was wondering if you could maybe tell me what _you_ originally thought asexuality was, because maybe my friends have the same misconception and it might make that conversation easier :)

[@MargauxNeedler]

MadE The simplest way is to first ask them what they think asexuality is 🙂

[@Mad.E]

Just Me I suppose it is 😄

[@victoriacheyenne683]

MadE hey there! Of course. For me i didn’t realize there was a spectrum (which is so silly) and also i misunderstood that libido and sexual attraction are two different things that vary with someone who is ace. Hope that made sense!

[@Mad.E]

Hey! yes, what you said totally makes sense! One of the things my friends didn't understand was definitely how I could know that I didn't want to have sex without ever having tried it. My response was that they knew that they _did_ want to have sex even before they experienced it for the first time. So similarly to how they knew, I _knew_ .... I'm not sure if they were convinced by that. Does it make sense to you?

[@livinthetplife9795]

“Real live asexuals!” Me: *raises hand

[@kaylababcock1974]

Started watching definitely with a closed mind thinking wtf even?? And ended basically with a giant crush on the whole human race. Damnit I love people. Knowing people exist who don't make everything about a means to a sexy end is just such a sigh of relief

[@missjul8]

Humyns kill, hurt, and destroy the planet while doing illogical, selfish things. Don't forget that. No other animal does all that.

[@papanowo]

I’m an asexual myself and i never knew how to explain this to non ace/aros... thanks for making this video !!!!!!

[@LunarNagito]

I’m an ace. I am one who is completely unable to do anything sexual with a partner or alone. I actually am scared disgusted and confused by sexual things. I’m a virgin and i feel comfortable that way. Though i do adore hugs cuddles and closed mouth kisses. Being close and feeling safe is what i like.

[@chelseasmith2603]

Beylan Wimsatt *gasp* are we twins? 😂❤ i thought i was alone :(

[@bluebird8034]

I feel the same!

[@jessicawhite5143]

Jesus, reading this is like reading a bio of myself. Its nice to hear that my feelings are normal and that there are others like me. I don't know where I fit but I'm happy to know I'm not alone 😊

[@analogstic1972]

Wait what? This sort of thing is normal for aces? I'm like that and the only person I've dated thus far also feels this way. I assumed I just got really lucky to have meet someone like me in that respect, but I feel a bit better knowing I'm not as alone in this sentiment as I originally thought

[@KYRUOLIO]

WOAH YOUR NOT ALONE THERE

[@minemoony9314]

No one edits their videos like you do. They are so pleasing to watch (I’m not even talking about the awesome content) they’re just so aesthetically great! And you’re working a normal job, that’s crazy. You’re probably spending hours on your video editing. Thank you so much for putting in so much work for us! 🌻♥️

[@akacj7]

agreed!!

[@SpydersByte]

Ash does some amazing editing, so true.

[@CECItheMATOS]

In Ash video comments I can finally feel comfortable enough to say I am ace. I’M ASEXUAL! Super liberating.

[@morgan_c]

bug pudding *O O F*

[@Network126]

You're missing out. Sex is amazing.

[@Goblin4Coin]

@@Network126 You're missing out! Having relationship beyond sex and free of the worry you're gonna get pregnant or whether or not to have tacos for dinner is so heckin pure

[@multifandomxseriesx9560]

I'm super proud of you coming out!!

[@infinitemultiverse520]

Just an FYI, being asexual isn't a choice. Just like any other orientation. It's not rocket science. Some aces like sex, some don't. Sex isn't the end all be all. People are totally allowed to not be into it. How would you like it if people kept shoving something you didn't like in your face 24/7? Yeah, it's pretty gross. So please stop, thanks. Our lives litterally do not affect yours. So please mind your own business. Commenting on here just shows how ignorant you really are. I'm not ashamed to be who I am. This is my truth.

[@PieOfEpicness]

Me: Somewhere on the ace spectrum Also me: how are so many people so pretty (yes, I know it's called aesthetic attraction, lol)

[@CakedCrusader9]

Ohhhh aesthetic attraction, that's what that is! I get that too and I was getting confused haha. Thank you for accidentally teaching me a new term :)

[@Mad.E]

I actually learned the terms aesthetic and sensual attraction from Ash and god it helped me so much and made me so happy to finally have words to describe these strong feelings I get about people. Cause like... often enough those attractions of mine seem more intense than my zedsexual friends describe being sexually attracted to people

[@erilassila409]

I'm ace and my crush is pan. He has a mostly shaven head, and stroking it is one of the best feelings in the world. He actually likes it when people stroke his head and lets me do it. I love sensual/sensory stuff, like the textures of his skin and clothes, and the hugs he gives me.

[@erilassila409]

ABCDEFG T if you read my comment, I said he's my crush. As in person I'm in love with but who is not my partner. I'm not in a relationship with him, I'm just in love with him.

[@katiek2615]

Woah, for so long I've struggled with my sexuality, thinking I must be weird or repressed because I find virtually nothing attractive about genitals but love the idea of cuddling and kissing. All the things that were being said just fit, I'm Demi! I only ever had sexual (mostly sensual) feelings for one person, every other kind of attraction is mostly aesthetic. Holy shit this makes so much more sense!!!

[@EvieLupine]

Oh hey its me! Evie! :) Thank you so much for having me be a part of this project, its amazing to see the final project! Popping in in case people have BDSM/ace-spec related Q's!

[@alexwilliams3562]

Hi, I don't have any questions, just wanted to say I really love how you explained BDSM and it definitely shattered a few of my personal misconceptions around the area. I never really thought about it in any depth beyond "oh, kinky stuff" but I've also never spoken to a single person within the community about it, so I regret assuming that the stereotypes were completely accurate. Keep educating!

[@daniellejohnson333]

Was so happily surprised to see you in this video!! Made my day!

[@rayne333]

Do you have any suggestions for ace folks who may have also dealt with sexual trauma but are interested in bdsm? What should be discussed beforehand, how to avoid triggers, and how to slowly ease yourself into a scene or specific type of play? Sorry if that’s a lot, just a very curious little vanilla ace over here.

[@_mels_]

A curious kinky demi here. How would one approach the subject of BDSM/kink with the zedsexual person? How to explain that kink doesn't have to lead to sex and you's rather have some snacks and cuddles?

[@Lyrinou]

Thanks for the bdsm part! Even for zedsexuals, bdsm is not. necessarily about sex. It is SO MUCH MORE. 💜

[@AeHreality]

I'm going to be sharing the hell out of this video. And thank you Ash for all the attention you've given the Ace community over the years. You've helped me in ways I can never truly express, and for that I can't thank you enough.

[@myrianfoxy5947]

I think we all have a lot to learn with asexual couples. They're just perfect! It's like every couple should be like: "we're not together to satisfy our sexual desires, we're together because we love each other". And they don't just say stuff like that, they mean it, and I think that's just amazing. The couples at the end were so heart warming. I had a crappy week and that made me so happy. ♡♡ good day/night to all of the LGBT+ comunity.

[@hy3na.g1rl]

Uh well for a lot of people the sexual aspects of a relationship are just as important as the romantic and that should not be shamed in any way. If people want to have sex, good for them, that’s cool. If they don’t, that’s lit too. But we don’t need to shame people for what they want out of a relationship

[@aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa790]

Yeah so what's controversial here is that they are romanticizing romantic asexuals and implying that sexual attraction/desires tarnishes the relationship. This thought comes from a sex-shaming society and from the whole "romance is pure" thing. It's not an entirely bad thought, but it is a bit demeaning.

[@robertgaymer8147]

So many questions answered and I feel so reassured in my Asexual identity as well as my sexual wants/needs and that they don't necessarily negate each other. Another educational and fantastic video Ash!

[@neverlookback75]

18:20, those are actually devil horns related to heavy metal music. My mom was deaf and frequently gave me the "I love you" sign. With the "i love you" sign, the thumb is pointed out as well.

[@A.J.K87]

True, but they are not devil horns :) That's what critics outside of metal have made of it. It's more a sign of solidarity, friendship and approval among rock fans.

[@alicewolfess971]

@@A.J.K87 yes but they are called devil horns. Nobody says "hey, for this photo make a sign with your hand that symbolises solidarity, respect and friendship in the metal comunity"

[@chinzb6292]

Lyndon Walker-Conley I am glad he is not death. Lol. I think you meant deaf. I don’t mean to say that in a rude way. My sister and I learned sign language because we know many people who are deaf. My mom signs I love you when she is far away or whenever she wants.

[@xjesusxchristx]

@@alicewolfess971 sorta... Ronnie James Dio was the first to use it, and it was actually from his grandmother, and it's a sign to ward off the evil eye. We do usually refer to them as simply "horns" though.

[@kimlorton3002]

neverlookback75 I

[@thewritersscene2072]

Awe, I’m Demi AND THIS IS SO ME. CUDDLES AND HOLDING HANDS ALL DAY

[@siiiriously3226]

SO COOL, that you include poly relationships in your language ("partner or partners").. rare. nice. love your content.

[@Rita-kx3yr]

Ooo I didn't even notice that! Good catch! As an ace person in a poly relationship, these sort of little things makes life easier so thank you both!

[@VeganPirateNinja]

I noticed that too and it made me feel included :))

[@nottabear]

Thank you so much for separating this into chapters. I have ADHD so watching long videos is tough for me so having points that I can stop and continue at is very helpful

[@elliediy5045]

Briar Pineault-Massicotte yesss and i always watch on 1.5 speed cause i just cant focus for that long haha (i also check like 5 things during a video lol)

[@riverflow4888]

I was just thinking the same thing. ADHD! WOOO!

[@Shadoegamer]

Briar Pineault-Massicotte I wish I could say same but I don’t want to because I haven’t been diagnosed with ADHD nor ADD

[@charlie2.048]

The ASL sign for "I love you" should have the thumb out, not folded over the middle two fingers. Because the sign is the combination of fingerspelling "ILY."

[@Hollycloud1]

I've been dating my asexual girlfriend for 6 years. Even dating that long I don't know every itty bitty detail about her. But what I do know is that its important that you 👏 respect 👏 all 👏 their 👏 decisions! 👏

[@Penguinstudios123]

LizzieDlove are you asexual or?

[@Hollycloud1]

Penguinstudios123 Nah, I'm Bisexual. My gf is Asexual.

[@Penguinstudios123]

LizzieDlove how do you deal with that..? My boyfriend is straight but I’m ace and like.. he’s not dealing very well even tho he said beforehand that it didn’t matter :/

[@Hollycloud1]

Penguinstudios123 I've been with my gf for 5 years now. In the beginning it was a bit frustrating, but for me, the longer I was with her, the more I got used to it. I think it really just depends on what kind of person you are. It's easier for different people.

[@Penguinstudios123]

LizzieDlove ok. Thank you. How long would you count as ‘the beginning’?

[@peyton07]

Wow this is the most thoughtful sponsored video I've ever seen. I loved all of the different voices and experiences represented here. So glad I followed your channel! Guess I'm off to buy something :)

[@salutetherank2105]

Heterosexual guy on KZbin: KZbin to heterosexual guy: we recommend watching *How (some) Asexuals ... Have Sex* Me: hmmmm... interesting *click*

[@angharad.9743]

Omg the chapters I love this, because it’s late right now and I’m gonna fall asleep halfway through this 100 percent. Please continue to put chapters in longer videos

[@kaidenspry1449]

It's 4:00 AM here and tomorrow is a school day...I get up at 6:30 AM.... help....

[@zinja0830]

“Nipple clamps are my gender.” - Ash Hardell, 2018

[@entranSingie]

S. Moore what a mood

[@Rita-kx3yr]

Honestly I just wanted to have them to make Zoidberg crab noises (🦀 Whoopopopoop )

[@TheRubberDuck77]

That part made me LOL.... nipple clamps as earings.... Why did I see that coming?? Lol

[@carmenitastarxxx2858]

''great quotes from great people''

[@ritsukaaoyagi8239]

Em Dee you're wrong it is healthy depending on how far you go

[@jennifergough295]

Maybe it’s just bc I’m a 43 year old mom (with a bi daughter who I adore) but I’m so confused. It sounds to me like everything your describing is part of any relationship. Engaging in cuddling, sensual acts, etc don’t necessarily lead to sex in any type of relationship. Some of the most intimate moments have nothing to do with the actual act of sex.

[@kittykittykartgirl]

J Bl it is! These people have to complicate EVERYTHING so they can be special. Listening to all of this was obnoxious. They just go round and round trying to make everyday things more complicated so they seem more special then they really are. 🇺🇸💋

[@isabellaguerra2852]

Hey there! Everybody is different, and that’s okay! Terminology may get a bit specific, and for some, it may be a bit too much, but you don’t necessarily have to subscribe to it. Mutual respect and care are some of the building blocks of a fulfilling relationship. I appreciate you sharing, and you seem like a great person. I like the terminology, personally, but it’s okay if you don’t!

[@isabellaguerra2852]

Kitty Kitty Meow Meow I don’t think it’s necessary to talk down about anybody here. I think we can all get along if we just try be more open to understand each other. Nobody is attacking you. This isn’t a place of judgement, don’t worry.

[@j_8059]

It’s because they’re millennials

[@isabellaguerra2852]

Jessica L Astute observational skills. Do you want a cookie?

[@DelsonGirl]

I'm demi and had no idea about all of the other possible experiences on the ace spectrum. Thanks for the video! :)

[@JohnPierron]

AWH ASH I don't watch your videos very regularly but this made my heart so warm and fuzzy seeing this I actually shed a few tears. Asexuals very rarely get representation and when they do it's generally not educational on this level so I would like to thank you so so sO MUCH for this. We don't usually get the spotlight so I'm sure I'm not the only person who this helped. Thank you

[@allier.5987]

Before binge watching some of your videos, I identified as pansexual. This video in particular changed my perspective and I realized that I may be demisexual. Thank you so much for always being so positive. I love you and your content. Also, thanks for being a huge part in me realizing that I should look more into other possibilities:)

[@Elias-ik4kx]

I loved getting to be featured in this video and learning more about different ways that asexual people experience sex or what they do in their relationships! It made me feel less alone!

[@TheJoannaCruz]

Awn, that video is so cute, actually I loved because remembered me that even asexuality is not black in white, exist a infinite spectrum of everything include intimacy, when I have to explain why some acts doesn't mean I'm not ace it's just frustrating. Thanks for the video.

[@eyececream5359]

This video actually helped me figure out I’m on that ace spectrum. I just wanted to thank you thank you so much for this wonderful video and to also tell you you’re amazing!

[@mj1473]

20 minute video and still not enough!! All the cute beans in this video filled my heart!

[@TranscendingNobody]

ummm I was beyond educated with this!!! thank you Ash!!!

[@lindsaypaige4628]

🤦‍♀️

[@o.oo.o5637]

miseducated. don't believe anything on the internet

[@livvyp20]

I saw the title and I was like hmm.... I'm ace spec....*Click* this should be interesting. I was not disappointed. Also, "real live aces"

[@onyxhuddy2373]

I clicked on this video so fast. I'm so happy to see ace representation. I tickle my boyfriend's back to show him I care about him. We're both not very sexual so we find ways to show love

[@HeyThere005]

that is cute :)

[@kiralaine2313]

I was initially going to talk about my relationship with my partner, but I'm too overwhelmed at how nice this is to come up with proper sentences. So just, thank you from an ace who's quite sex repulsed and really happy you made this video.

[@maeduignan5489]

Thank you so much for this video, it actually made me cry with happiness and a sense of pride in myself and my sexuality. I am a Bi-Romantic Gray-Ace and sometimes I just feel out of place in this world, but this video really made my day and i feel so much better now. Shout out to all the Gray-Aces out there. We are awesome!! #amazing ❤❤❤💪

[@aliceaikom]

Watching this has made me realise I'm probably asexual and not just malfunctioning, so thank you for making this!

[@zekesebetka2537]

I'm Apothisexual and I'm often very uncomfortable even thinking, listening, or talking about sex. However I made myself uncomfortable by watching th is video because I want to learn more if I ever do decide I want a partner. This vid was really helpful!

[@chae-wolfbun]

MBforLife If you don't mind me asking, what is apothisexual?

[@zekesebetka2537]

Cece [시시] Conard I don't mind at all! Apothisexual is when someone is sex repulsed. This means that they most likely will never have sex. For me personally, I find touching and any sexual activity very displeasing to say the least. I hope this helps!

[@isjitaradalhard7472]

MBforLife: Kudos to you. I tried to do the same...but I was already very uncomfortable with the intro, so I didn't manage to get any further than that. (Sorry, Ash, that doesn't mean I don't appreciate your hard work, I really, really do) Maybe I'll try again later.

[@kaiyodei]

i keep thinking i can get over that myself by making others uncomfortable. like if I sent you to videos of people putting dildos as large as infants into their butts, and forced you to watch Boku no Pico. then I can be cured

[@zekesebetka2537]

ABCDEFG T well I'm not disturbed by masturbation I just don't partake it it. I just don't have any desire to do such things.

[@anniek4681]

Nerdy correction of a mistake in facts, not judging! The person with sign language "I love you" does it wrong. The person puts up the " hardrock devil horns" The tumb needs to be extended because its a sign wich combines the leters I (the pinky) The L ( Indexfinger and thumb in an angle) and the Y ( pinky and tumb). I am a nerd like that. If you give info (how little it may be, please do it correctley) Dont get me wrong, the intention why they did it is very sweet. More people should be attentive like that.

[@kaidenspry1449]

*thumb

[@Ryan-dq6bv]

True. Thank you. Sincerely, Your friendly neighbourhood mute kid

[@llamaruler34]

Tumb

[@marceloF1]

All the couples are so adorable. This video is highly educational, thank you.

[@martham50]

ThisIsAStickUp Same!

[@Coreythegreyhound]

This video really makes me feel very valid with my identification with the ace label ☺️ I am a happy bean

[@kyraclark4494]

18:20 in ASL I love you actually has the thumb pointing outward. Thumb across the fingers means rock on in metal head. Not trying to be rude or anything just informative

[@yeah.jaclynn6894]

this has been super informative, extremely fun to watch, and also made me feel way more secure in identifying as grey-ace. thank you ash! you’re a very good egg :)

[@bunnydream3750]

i'm asexual myself, and seeing any sort of positive video on the sexuality in general (but especially by you, ash!!) just makes my day a little brighter, and makes it a lot easier to be myself. sorry that this comment is super corny, but please keep doing what you do, ash! :)

[@s.3712]

I love the idea of being asexual and interested in kink. Thanks for making this video Ash, it helped me to understand a lot of things.

[@zZizify]

This video went by soo much faster than I thought it would

[@whiskers9074]

I am ace so this helped me a lot. I will certainly be sharing this channel to all my friends!! :-)

[@atlantysw751]

4:43 I never knew that!! This is actually so helpful!

[@leylacharlottesaffarian6116]

I mostly let YT videos play in the background, but I always set aside extra time of my evening to watch your videos, bc they are just so dense with information and so beautifully edited. Thank you so much, Ash!

[@Alaska_Grey]

Her sign language was wrong! The thumb should be out what she said was rock and roll. Sorry I know sign and it bugs me when people mess it up and say they know what they r saying.

[@sydneyfreeman-coker1179]

Jade Meadows thank you. I was annoyed by that also

[@tiffanyclaycomb6494]

It bothered me too.

[@batty3897]

Yup. I just finished my first class real asl class!

[@lala_l00psy]

came here to say the same thing! the intention is cute - but hopefully they see this and change! x

[@P31VirtuousMama]

Hope Meadows 🤟🏻

[@lolfunny546]

Thanks Ash for this incredible asexual video!! Im ace and i feel great after watching this 💕💕💕💕

[@ForthcommaAbby]

I'm ace and I've really been struggling with a ton of aphobia (both from others and internalized) recently. This video helped me a lot.

[@bronaroni289]

I DON'T KNOW HOW MANY TIMES I YELLED "YAS" AT THIS VIDEO OUT OF AGREEMENT YEs. I'm asexual, but my boyfriend is not, he's completely zedsexual. Most people would think our relationship wouldn't work very well, but it actually does. We've talked about it a lot, and he completely understands I would prefer a non sexual relationship. I'm okay with things like kissing and cuddling and holding hands and all that. (We're young, so sex wouldn't even really be in the picture for a couple years, but if it was in the future, he understands I wouldn't want to do it.) I'm not completely against having sex for the benefit of my partner, but I do have a medical condition that makes it difficult. But like I appreciate my boyfriend so much like I just love him.

[@klararosengren5314]

This video was so informative and well made. It shows the you care about this matter and that you put effort into it. I'm also grateful because you managed to make a question I've been dealing with for quite a while SO much easier. I sincerely hope you keep spreading your wonderful aura.

[@adrianacorbari146]

The chapters are so thoughtful, I'm still going to watch it the whole way through but it makes it less AHHH TOO MUCH INFORMATION to my brain I like it, very tidy, thank you

[@GaiaShirley]

Really great video! The one thing I was missing was more talk about how we don't HAVE to draw a binary line between sexual and non-sexual feelings (: As an asexual, I used to feel a lot of pressure to only engage in activities that were exclusively non-sexual, or can be seen in a non-sexual light. One of the groundbreaking experiences I had, dating someone who is also ace, is letting go of the social need to categorize whether a moment is sexual or not. This allowed me to enjoy the physical closeness and sensations we were creating without having to categorize the situation as sexual OR non-sexual - and also helped the both of us explore touch outside the sexual script.

[@JackHarvey_Production]

Ash: I have put together time signatures Music nerds: aight this video will be in 6/8 everyone pick up from bar 4

[@kiaraandlukio]

I so thought you were kidding when you said the ducky was where things got less vanilla...I should have listened

[@berniegertje5358]

I feel like allosexual little could learn so much about how to have good sex from asexual people. I think when the emphasis isn't on "the sec" and more on intimacy and great stuff like that, sex is far more natural, consensual, and rewarding.

[@AstonishingPryde]

I agree so much!!

[@c.annaobrien9339]

I've only watched the intro and I'm already a fan!! I'm ace but also panromantic, and a trans girl. :D

[@talynholloway7141]

Ash has taught me more this month than my teachers this year

[@chloe3101]

I just thought I would skim the video but I ended up watching to the end and then going back the beginning I missed. This was so educational and still super entertaining. Great work!

[@yasamansaadatmand8045]

thank you so much ash. ive been watching you for 5 years now. everytime i have a question about my identity you’re always here to help me see better. i miss you and wish you the best♥️

[@natkej5334]

I just want to take a minute to say that I lovee your content! I've been watching you for a few years and I have definitely learned so mucg from you about the LGBTQ+ community. So thank you for still making educational content and constantly opening my eyes !

[@rjmayo]

I’m ace and very much not into being involved in partnered sex or even most sensual experiences, but these sorts of discussions are super valuable and I’m glad that you worked with the other peeps in this video to make it! It was great to watch.

[@WinLindsay_CushingContent]

I couldn't tell you how many times I have watched this video. It makes me feel so happy! Stay safe, Win Xx

[@JuMixBoox]

I love these types of educational videos that are full of respect and create a comfort zone around topics that would usually be taboo. Thank you, Ash!

[@isopod549]

I have a bad attention span but I love listening to them talk so I just can’t bring myself to skip over anything 😂

[@eriktucker8630]

Love the video SO SO helpful as someone who is a hopeless romantic, bisexual man. So thank you, Ash. I’m also a Sign Language interpreter and I think it’s so cute that Jay uses that sign, HOWEVER that actually isn’t the sign for I LOVE YOU. This is the sign 🤟 and this 🤘can mean BULLSHIT or just ROCK-ON anyways thanks again!

[@mythicmai5813]

Thank you so much for this video. I've been struggling with my orientation for so long now. Like, I find people hella cute and attractive, and I like the idea of having a partner, but I've just never been interested in sex with anyone. This is the first video I've ever seen talking about how Ace people can still be in meaningful relationships that involve things like snuggling and kissing without being inherently sexual, and I can't thank you enough for that.

[@zoguy6988]

My bf is ace and I want to get more passionate with our relationship, but I wasn't sure how to please him, without making him uncomfortable. Now I know.... Now I just need to know how to give massages. :/

[@jesselambden2242]

Zoey Terbick if yoir PARTNER is asexual, they are not male or female. Dont call them a male or female. Say they, them, partner, or something simulaf

[@jessicasanderson5898]

Jesse Lambden Asexual isn’t a gender it’s a sexuality, like my boyfriend his straight, and Asexual meaning he doesn’t want any physical sexual activity

[@FHGryphonIRL]

Jesse Lambden I don’t think that’s how it works...

[@infinitemultiverse520]

I think you're thinking of agender, genderless, and/or genderqueer/nonbinary.

[@caitd8280]

@@jesselambden2242 what are you talking about???!

[@irislove8831]

I’m not a part of the lgbtq+ community I support it so much🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈 but I’m not apart of it and I love watching your videos to understand everything about it thank you so much😘😘 much love

[@Vendicia]

Same here. I'm a boring CIS straight woman but loooove watching these videos to learn more about the variety of people out there; to educate myself somewhat so I am not ignorant to the world around me.

[@softnsquish]

That's great!

[@Tessa-ot4fh]

Who else got really really surprised at the ducky

[@tarynriver]

Tessa 9002 yaaas I was like woah didn’t expect that 😂😂😂

[@LiviLaree]

The part where they said that maybe you just want to get off and someone is around is so damn true. Love seeing so many ace homies ♡♡♡

[@Angel.bomb000]

I'm crying because this gave me relief and ....Just,thank youuuuu

[@CassySida]

They saiidd it was a really long video but tbh I was like "oh wait what, it's over??" once it was done

[@Reginee1]

Before I knew your channel I knew very little about asexuallity and all of the spectrums in sexuallity. But it makes so much sense to me! I'm discovering my own sexuallity with all of your video's. I guess I always asumed sensual and sexual actraction were the same thing, but now I know that I can feel one or the other or both for a person, that its not black or white. That it does not mean I can't be bi because my actraction is different for a woman than for a man. Thank you for educating!

[@dmjhernandez]

I haven't given this enough time to sink in yet, but (and although I've identified as ace for about 15 years) I think seeing this may be a turning point for me. I hope it is! Thank you!

[@sophie-wf1kg]

When Amelia said "I'm an asexual biromantic" I actually cried. HELLO REPRESENTATION

[@racheldoodler3433]

sophie same

[@Alex-px5bz]

sophie I'm panromantic ace and it's hard to find representation.

[@starbit8756]

Same

[@macawesomebird3383]

OH MY GOD I'M AN ASEXUAL / BIROMANTIC TOO ree

[@faithec7101]

sophie what is biromantic? Teach me! I am fully willing!

[@izzymaheau]

I am asexual and this video literally means everything to me! It's really nice to delve into the different ways an asexual individual can experience intimacy without having it be inherently sexual and I love that this kind of information is out there for anyone who might be questioning their sexuality or is interested in learning about different aspects of intimacy. I adore your videos Ash and thank you so much for making asexual related content 💜💜

[@cw602]

I've been coming to terms with my own asexuality over a long period of time, and I agree that this video helped me so much as well.

[@Gladzet]

ahh... so this is what it's like to feel understood

[@natex.x1955]

As an asexual with no sex drive whatsoever this was so so educational!! Thank you so much Ash!

[@tarynriver]

PassionFire yesss agree