How the Narcissist Gives the Game Away

[@Tomara632]

A deceitful person always gives the game away. Even when they think people around them are too stupid to see it..

[@laurengalan2760]

True. There’s a massive amount of evidence that people are not stupid so they have to interpret what comes from either knowing kindness or generosity as stupidity.

[@ohemgee4359]

Once you discover the truth, make up nicknames for narcs, whether you have contact with them or not. Disconnect emotionally with those false selves. Relinquish referring to them as “my narc”.

[@tishmfey]

Ooh I do this with my ex narc's ex girlfriend and ex wife. We're all a support group for each other. His name is Anthony but we call him Ant. Or use the symbol 🐜.

[@spokeraq]

I call him IT.

[@judithhorvath887]

Good advice. I am a decade away from that relationship but I still would say my narc. So, true best to drop the 'my'.

[@crazy-maxedout]

The narc 😂

[@captainotto]

I just refer to her as The Liar.

[@sophialewis5474]

Every single word you say here HG....my God true. When I look back, but I knew something was wrong. Still took me 10 years to get out.

[@deleanecox2886]

I told him I wanted to redecorate our bedroom more contemporary, he said, “like the hotel we stayed in?”, I just stared at him, wondering what he was talking about, then I said, “no the last place we stayed was a lodge.” All I had to do was listen, he would tell me what he was doing.

[@cmsbeth]

Mine did the same thing. It worsened as he got older. Now, it's clear that he was telling me everything.

[@sharicandi2624]

Mine did the same and sometimes "mistook" what we did with what she did with the other woman who is now her new supply.

[@amandaastbury2189]

Are you staying over babe?? I always stayed over....

[@Killroy1016]

When you look back they always tell on themselves. I asked my ex about her education that she listed on her dating profile, all she said was, "I never told you about that?" and then glossed it over. Point being, she never actually had that education, she just put that on her profile to make herself feel important.

[@scarletoharabia3801]

Oh yeah when I look back he was telling me he was gay!

[@monam2116]

I always questioned whether these "glitches" were actually on purpose. Either to tell what's going on without actually telling, enjoying telling thinking you are unaware of what's going on, to provoke because of the love of chaos/ confusion, etc...Staying aware was key until I walked away.

[@Keys7]

You got it. My ex husband purposefully left two movie ticket stubs on the night stand and he didn't take me....it was done deliberately. NEVER mentioned it....just left his ass...13 years ago. Don't tolerate foolishness from people, especially, when that is not how you are treating THEM...

[@JH-td4mn]

Oh yes, I think some of the slips are definitely strategic. They get a kick out of your reaction.

[@melodysanquist]

Early in the 'getting to know you' phase of dating, you catch them rifling through your personal belongings. Ex. Tax paper's, check stubs, snooping through your online activity from your OWN phone or tablet. This lack of boundary stepping puts me running because this is the earliest red flag I've noticed in dating men who turned out to be darkest of narcissist's

[@meggallucci5300]

My narcissist was much cleverer than this. Much. The first thing he ever did, which I would recognize now for what it was, was so mystifying. He insisted we watch a documentary movie of his choice. This came out of the blue and was not something I would have chosen to watch. During the film, he started to cry. I was embarrassed and ignored it, but he called attention to his tears. I remember thinking that he was faking, but I did not know why. I let go of my misgivings because we were in the love bombing phase. But he was faking empathy. I get it now. He is fully aware but entirely transparent now that I too am aware. Fake empathy, fake tears, fake affection, fake love, fake person. Pathetic.

[@slaughterkvng3886]

Definitely not aware the fact that he's crying. That's not the behavior of an aware narcissist.

[@Thundertoast123]

I just realized that this guy I liked was textbook narcissist. I was 2nd supply (dirty secret) so he didn’t love bomb quite as hard as he probably usually would. That’s why it took me a little bit to figure out he was a narc and it wasn’t me. I finally got enough information after talking with him about this new girl he liked. I literally heard him plan his love bombing even though she’s not single. I asked what happens if she changes everything and he decides he isn’t interested. He shrugged and said “whatever” I can’t even explain how relieved I was that girl wasn’t me. This lady is about to wreck her life for someone who doesn’t even exist. I noticed he mirrored me, didn’t have a sense of humor, seemed to say these little things that were somewhat hurtful but too small to say anything about, showed contempt, bragged, was really immature and competitive in relationships, would get really upset if teased, wouldn’t say my name, had a couple numbers, I’m pretty sure has a ton of girls he rotates, super snobby, can be really sweet and charming in person, never complements ever (at least not me) He had the narc stare, triangulation, complained about ex girlfriend’s all fighting over him. I was close to his age and most of his girlfriends were a lot younger. I think that’s why I knew something was up and it wasn’t me. Had I been 10-15 years younger he would’ve devastated me and completely wrecked my self esteem. I was able to sit back and notice all the manipulative behaviors instead of taking things personally. Once I figured it out I just blocked his numbers and unfollowed him on Instagram. Im guessing since he has new supply and was in the beginning stages of discard that he won’t Hoover for a while if at all. I suspect by the time he does I’ll have moved on.

[@aharry31]

Thank God, your radar is sharp. You beat the narc bullet of confusion.

[@ljduk7595]

👌 I’m happy that you had insight into his behaviour and that you never took it personally 👍🏻

[@wallymarcel1]

I was a big fan of the entertainer, Anthony Newley, a notorious womanizer (and narcissist), and have read his biography, Joan Collins’s autobiography, and, most recently, a memoir written by one of his longterm mistresses (who thought she was special). He called them all ‘Flower.” Hearing this video of yours, HG, ( and chuckling to myself ) I now know WHY.

[@hgtudor-theultra]

Bingo!

[@ad6417]

Ex husband gave me a cookbook with "To Tina, you are the love of my life" written in his hand. She was his ex girlfriend. He was a dedicated regifter.

[@sabrinajcreations2584]

Hearing all of this is over time you realize they are extremely mentally draining and even annoying

[@shantellcobb7067]

OMG draining 💪

[@startinglifeat30]

I'm just annoyed tbh but I need to learn.

[@Jackmcars12]

Most end up in jail

[@paigebrown4037]

The ex narc suffered from what I called “selective memory syndrome”. He would randomly say things like he felt like a fraud and he would tell me all the time that I deserved better. I would always respond with “I know...you need to work on that...be better”. What a piece of shit.

[@DanTheAnalyst]

Or disassociative amnesia and it was convincing and I tended to believe it

[@JacK-qn4zh]

The black eyes said it all. Done!!!

[@laurarominger2073]

A couple months before I told my ex I wanted a divorce he sent me flowers for our anniversary. Only it was he and his ex wife’s anniversary. We’d been married 14 years. I don’t think it was intentional but I do believe it was a sign of how we’re all interchangeable.

[@TheNheg66]

At the dinner table: Narc: "So how good will the new year be? Better than the last one?" Me:"as good as you make it for yourself." Narc:"as good as YOU make it for me." Me:*quiet laughter* Narc:*blank stare* At that point i was already pretty damn sure what's wrong with her, but the obviousness of the "Freudean slip" - the unintended honesty still surprised me a lot.

[@bluntweirdo]

My favorite aspect of your material is that you sort of personify (not quite the right word maybe) the narcissism. The Narcissism selects, The Narcissism glitches, The Narcissism. Very fine differentiation and super important.

[@tammy5926]

My ex N once broke up with me (not uncommon) just before the Christmas holiday. It was out of the blue and for no particular reason. I had purchased many gifts for him and he had said he purchased gifts for me, however this was told to me before he broke up with me. A few days later he wants to get back together, he comes to my house, doesn't bring any gifts. I give him all the gifts that I had purchased for him. He doesn't say anything about I'm sorry I didn't bring the gifts, we were broken up etc. About a week later he comes over and is staying the night, he asks me why I haven't put the new sheets on my bed that he gave me. I told him he didn't give me any sheets. He said yes I did for Christmas. I said no, you didn't give me any Christmas gifts. He then says oh that's right, sorry we were broke up, I gave all your gifts to my daughter. Yeah right! His teenage daughter does not have the same taste as me and would not want the gifts if they were indeed purchased for me. And if that's not bad enough, in the same conversation he tells me about a female coworker that he had given a Christmas gift to and that she didn't give him one in return. I said, you gave her a Christmas gift and he said Yes I give them to all the female coworkers. But he was upset that this particular girl hadn''t given one in return. He's telling me this, after we just had a conversation that he didn't give me any Christmas gifts. A co-worker he claimed to dislike. This video helps explain so much.

[@bellarose6501]

Just feel blessed that he didn't take you to see Michael Bolton.

[@eart5657]

😂🤣

[@TheSwordandPearl]

🤣🤣🤣

[@sarahsmile6783]

OMG! No MB concerts ever past or future... lol😅😂🤣

[@doyoulovehimloretta1607]

Omg true, hilarious! mine was Kenny g.

[@susanschaar14]

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!! I like Michael Bolton, but that line is GOLD!

[@myfriendjosie]

"Oh ho ho! You shouldn't be so nice to me. I could take advantage of this. Not that I would. Just saying." Boy was he telling on himself. Though these words stuck with me, I did not fully comprehend that he was telling me at the time exactly what he had every intention of doing.

[@shannondiaz3900]

This is truly valuable information.

[@TinyRedFlags]

“SNOOKUMS (Not that that’s a name I would use)” - HAHAHA Amen to that! 😂

[@snowfall7557]

I have a sweet elderly pug who gets concerned easily when the energy is off / when people argue / when unspoken contempt fills the room. He usually looks at me and makes his pug noises, asking me to resolve the issue, to soothe him that everything is okay, to restore the harmony of the group. ExNarc "translated" his pug noises to something completely off. It was so bizarre to me at that time. "He´s clearly saying: Feed me already!! I haven´t eaten in hours, who do you think you are!?" or "Ah, this clearly means: Why don´t you give me a massage already!! I am waiting!!" or "He´s clearly saying: You are all stupid! Nobody notices me!! Play with MEEE, instead of talking so much to others!!" He never got it right. Not once.

[@emmajones5034]

I laughed at these because 4 of the 5 my ex did. One of the most telling however, was we were on a day trip. He called his mother and she asked him a question and he said my name - " Emma" . I knew from this that the question was "who are you with" - so she knew what he was doing! I knew immediately that because he had needed to explain who he was with what was going on. I hated her for that. She was enabling him. Within a week we had broken up. I also got called 'love' a lot and I worked out that this was easier than remembering who he was with.

[@christyjoyce4287]

I caught the "oops!" when he tried to get me back after I broke up with him. He asked me to meet with him because he wanted to apologize. I accepted the apalogy, (in which there was a lot of vocabulary being used, but didn't really apologize.) As we walked out the door of the coffee shop, I didn't comport myself as if I was his girlfriend and walk on his left and take his arm. He took my arm and wrapped it around the crook of his and said under his breath "I'm going to have to retrain her."the next time he called me I told him I don't want him to call me I don't want him to email me I don't want him to DM or IM me on social platforms; I even went as far as to say don't send smoke signals. I told him he is a Narc and do not contact me. It's been over 6 months, and I am free.

[@DanTheAnalyst]

I caught the hiccup hand to mouth quick laugh and I froze I caught something but I dismissed it

[@mickeysammy5169]

After the discard I couldn't sleep for over 2 months and I would ruminate over our 45 years together. I remembered him saying two different times : He nonchalantly said whilst I was busy: "I would never give you STD's." I took it at the time with a grain of salt. I thought we were in a committed relationship. WHAT HE WAS SAYING- I have an std, we're not having sex, so I DIDN'T GIVE IT TO YOU! ...wasn't he so thoughtful???

[@staciehulm4595]

Balls deep, snookums and Michael Bolton. Got it.

[@ThirdPlanetAstrology]

Ex narc called me another woman’s name by accident EVERY TIME he was upset. I could tell it shocked him when it came out of his mouth. 🤣🤣🤣🤣😎

[@danadilworth7284]

Yes, thank you at the being he was roaming and reading my paperwork and so on. I remember, he got an attitude about a prison letter from my son father 10 years ago and was so jealous. Damn I need to go back and remember the odd things I heard and saw during lovebombing period

[@SydMountaineer]

My ex called me “Kid”, and as a woman, I thought it was endearing, plus he was 18 yrs older. But my Grandpa often called my Grandma “Kid” too- he was a narcissist, but luckily, I understood him before he passed, and I understood what caused his narcissism, so I didn’t take his behavior personally, and I love him dearly.

[@moonbeamawake4012]

Mr Tudor is the only youtuber is this genre that iv heard who makes me laugh and he's the only narc youtuber in this genre that admits being a narc

[@kimosabe818]

When 9/11 happened my narc laughed. He felt it was good to put the US in its place for once...while people were jumping out of the twin towers. It didn't match with the person i knew and loved so i justified his behaviour but my body went cold

[@AlwaysYouC]

Thank you HG, sending you love ❤❤❤

[@gb2556]

Another “jewel” from HG! At the beginning of my relationship - on the first day he called me a different name and I let it go due to ET. My ex - so many “do you remember?” .....wow! Thank you so so so much for all that you do! 🖤

[@angel772921]

In my experience from my mid range brother he always refered to me as love in person or by text then...at the devalue stage he actually used my real first name..in a passive agressive tone...this alerted me straight away to the squirrily behaviour.. I must add that this was not incestuous. ..thank god. ..but he was the elder brother and the elder Co dependant slave narc to my BPD/ NPD mother...I soon left the whole dysfunction family and went GOSO from another continent!.. Thank you H.G...💛

[@tarawood7624]

He was trying... One of my Exs I found out was having sex with his sister...

[@cyndigooch1162]

I burst out laughing when you came out with snookums and sexpot!!! 🤣

[@sharonwille722]

“Snookums”, the word, now makes me sick.

[@fatetwisted8825]

I've seen this and when it happens I find it humorous.

[@tishmfey]

I later found out he called every girlfriend "pumpkin britches" He also forgot my last name once. He also once told me he thought of himself as a bug zapper and all the women he dates are the bugs.

[@ABD-po9xf]

I am a damn toaster. I did however, just put in place the no contact rule. YAY ME! What now Tudor? You should start a channel "How to Heal During the After Math of Loving a Narc" or hey! Maybe start a group for survivors of Narc love. BEAUTIFUL!!!

[@Luziemagick]

My mother accused me of telling people she is dead..she yelled and screamed and repeated herself. I stayed calm..then she said..“oh, yeah..your sister said that“..sigh My sister(clearly mothers offspring) ask me if i am sorry for what i did to her..well, i ask her what i did and she repeated over and over that i know what she is talking about. Till today i don't know and i am sure no..i know she made it up..sigh again. No contact is a blessing still the memories stay.

[@chaitanya66]

Clearly your mother must have triangulated with your sister saying that you said to your mother " No mom it's not me, my sister said you are dead " . She also triangulated your sister with you saying oh yeah your sister said that. Clearly neither you or sister said that, but she's using a false statement to drive you into being enemies and enjoying the control she has on both and the fuel from the fireworks.

[@tictactoedias1908]

“ balls deep in the neighbor “ 😂😂😂😂😂 HG it’s not what you say .... it’s how you say it , you absolutely crack me up 🤣 every time wtf is wrong with me ? 😂😂 thanks HG you’re a star 🌟 👍😘🇦🇺

[@AH-gi6mo]

Excellent, HG. This is right on target. Thank you. Well done and well said.

[@ANNNEWALLET1234]

Oh HG. Thank you for saying my name so elegantly. My name is Denise. I often wondered how it would sound with your voice .. thank you. Fantastic video.

[@tamarathejudeochristianmedium]

My Narc step Dad was watching Beverly Hills 90210 and Brenda and Kelly were having an argument and he told the TV “Kelly, you’re just upset that Brenda is prettier” 🤣 They weren’t having that type of argument. He said teenage girl stuff like that sometimes 🤣

[@chaitanya66]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I love your last sentence and your ability to laugh on this despite experiencing crap from a narc personally. Kudos to you Sister.

[@1979jon]

My sisters husband is one, keep telling her but know see can't see it.

[@edgreen8140]

Excellent i have seen this in grandiose narcissists. Don't even backpedal or try to give a decent response of their bizzare verbalizations.

[@Noname-cm9hn]

During our relationship, my ex-partner met regularly for coffee with a "good friend" a married woman. He told me that he and this woman had a relationship before my time. I ask if that is still the case. His answer: No, what do you think? I would never do that because I now know her husband. A really nice guy. I would never do that to him. Great answer, he wouldn't do that to the fine guy. He didn't even think about whether he would do that to me. Doing this to me wasn't that bad, but he respected her husband, how nice.

[@susanschaar14]

YES!

[@ohemgee4359]

Mouth Says: “Those texts & photos with my good friend are just flirting. “Our Song” is just something that we have together for the dance floor. I wouldn’t do anything with her. I respect her father too much.” Glitch Is Telling: “I don’t respect YOU. I don’t respect the sanctity of her marriage either. I do value my professional connection to her Dad. His prestige has the potential to aid my career. Therefore getting caught in actual sexual acts with her is too big of a risk for me. I don’t value wholeness in the family that you and I have built together. I did have sex with other people than her because it really doesn’t matter to me what happens to our marriage or to your emotional well being. I don’t mind repeatedly humiliating you but I would not cause embarrassment to her father.”

[@abdulc5726]

That's insane!

[@spokeraq]

He respects neither but likes to shoot a dart at you.

[@rosemaryrogers1478]

Ain’t that nothing? Wave of the hand....

[@abdulc5726]

This is why they give u a nick name, e.g., snoggable. So they don't have problems remembering everyone's specific names. Also, my friend once told me that whilst seeing a guy, they were sat in the car talking, as she got up to leave he said 'oh, u left your coat last time; its on the back seat'. My friend: 'its not my coat'.

[@l.c838]

When my narc sister used to text me she purposely misspelt my name so that it was always something silly or insulting.

[@riaramcharan8185]

Always suspected this, now confirmed.

[@No-Name-f8p]

My neighbor that had seven (7) baby mamas and eight (8) children said that he used “pet nicknames for all his women.” He was my daughter’s friends’ dad. That’s how I knew him.

[@whynot4]

Clown porn...now I know the dead giveaway. Lol thank you for that insightful tidbit of information.

[@MavSpic]

@@jogriffiths5766 Google it

[@rosemaryrogers1478]

Clown porn😆😆😆😆😆😆

[@joannemcevoy4232]

Always useful to be aware of.

[@KelliBar]

Katie! It became a ‘joke’ it occurred so frequently. His friends would greet me as ‘Katie’. Who the heck was Katie? I cannot remember names but am aware and admit to it freely. Never forget energy or eyes ❤️

[@alicebeaver1383]

And a bonus #6...”I will let you....”

[@NastassiaEvans]

None of these things have ever happened to me. They just asked if I wanted to play a game or sent me a chess game quote or send a bunch of drunken messages going into detail about the games they play with people.

[@sueauger8715]

I was literally Surrounded. 2 above me 1 across the street my landlord/ stalker and a weird guy who tried to verbally convince me he was God's gift. These people weren't right. I HAD to figure out wtf. I found out alright. Oooof wild bunch

[@WATERLULU5818691]

Thank you and may God bless you ❣️☦️💜👱‍♀️🌴

[@debbiemay8536]

Yes mine called every one baby avoiding using names with all his victims!

[@user-ou3sd2vp3u]

Or “mate”

[@theDADA-agency]

Every time we were apart I would receive: "all good, babe?" text...I remember my first impression of this being: this is lame, this is not an effort to communicate, this is not personal, this is an attempt to trigger for me to build up the communication by then replying and explaining what I am up to, etc...then he rarely responded to my response or he did closing the loop asap which I justified because I thought well, he is with friends and it is cool he is not texting all the time, I do the same I always give priority to people and not to texting - will probably never trust again - one short conclusion: always hated being called babe

[@carolbell8008]

Thank you for your informative vids.

[@msstephaniediazcortez9701]

They don't even ask if I'm cold tiered or sick

[@HiMatts]

My ex narc was spitting some bullshit about her girlfriends when all of a sudden she started talking about a guy who she was supposed to meet up with instead of me and that hes the shittiest person ever playing video games all day long, even bought her shitty flowers. Then all of a sudden she says that he found himself a girlfriend and that she thinks she might become jealous and said to me "but hes just a friend". When i asked why is she telling me this she answered " just like that i dont know" lmao 5 days later silent treatment began

[@estefaniacastillo133]

She just sounds immature i would not say she is a narc from what you have just said. Infact i know many women myself included in my early 20s who acted in such a way.

[@HiMatts]

@@estefaniacastillo133 i used to say to myself that statement also, until i realised that most of the things HG says match with her behaviour and there is no such thing as immaturity to that level and most importantly how i went from a confident guy who could come up to any girl and ask her out to a kido who was scared of talking to people( also realise that im personal trainer so its fucking ridculous for me to experience such thing since i never had problem with it)

[@samfoxx6358]

Bro..... LEAVE HER.... SHE CAN GIVE U HERPES... Im goona say it... nothing the same with that INSECURE Girl... not even the sex... so why stay with her!! I learned about this over Quarantine...BROKE MY HEART.. to even know the men..I Loved him... dearly to Act like he did.. and how sick minded they r...my Ex Narrsistics had women everywhere... LOSER...I'm independent have EVERYTHING I WORK 4...DONT NEED A MAN... these people are miserable... DO IT LEAVE HER... BE STRONG SEE HER BRAKE... SHE HER CRY... ITS ALL AN ACT... 2 WEEKS GOOD.. THEN THE SAME SHIT... Love... it's hard.. I feel your pain... Get strong you can do it.... start to date... make sure you find pick same Girls .. u can leave her FIND someone who doesn't use u be little u.....I needed to look at my self...I WASNT LOVING MYSELF... LOVE UR SELF... AND u can leave her wash up A**.... Sick minded infos....

[@HiMatts]

@@samfoxx6358 the funny fact is i had herpies from her but on my mouth 😂

[@LaPinturaBella]

@@siggmundfloyd1858 Do some research, dude. The majority of narcs are overwhelmingly men.

[@craigJPhoto]

she told me outright in a text " and i guess i like control"

[@joywebster2678]

The narc also denies taking me to a dumpy Dairy Queen after accidently recently driving me by a local upscale DQ. Held my ground so he wheeled the car around to drive to the location I said he had taken me to 2vyrs ago.....he was surprised to find there was a grungy old one there when we drove there to prove me wrong. Then he flipped to I must have gone there alone...so I repeated his bizarre order, so on to his next excuse. He brought me to this city based on false promises. He showed me around the city only at night. So he is angry that 3yrs later im still careful exploring on my own....after he showed me. Created dependence but despises it, never delivered on fake promises.

[@Zazezoo]

And what are you doing with him?

[@sospita_]

Mine said 'i like to hunt' when we were talking about past relationships. He wouldn't use my name at all only pet names.

[@asgharakram]

Yes baby, babes rarely my name

[@jklxn]

"Do you remember when"...Im like...that wasnt me. (shrugs)

[@millar6070]

The first partner, I had no idea,I was a simple child the, I've grown up since then. I've had 3 narcissists partners, I'm not so nieve anymore.🤓🤓🤓🤓

[@kimwill3420]

Mood swings. Silence or rage. Like ya. Love ya. Get gone. Don't leave me.A proper brain drain init HG

[@user-ou3sd2vp3u]

“I’m not jealous” when I got my degree. Wtf!

[@georginaporter946]

Rarely calls me my name except when he’s angry or we get into a heated argument. Otherwise am known as GBH or Jungle . I keep telling him to call me by my name and he says he’s no joking and I should stop being so sensitive. Crazy man

[@ntombifuthiyika5975]

Balls deep in my next door neighbour 😆😆. During a hoover the mid range said I think about you everyday, like yesterday somebody said men only care about themselves once they are satisfied they sleep and I thought this is what you said to me all the time. I never said that. We dated for a year and never played hide the sausage. I don't know whether he was triangulating me, rewriting history or he really thought I'm the one who said that.

[@sophialewis5474]

Yes yes and yes. Never using my name. Never. I was lol Boop....from Betty Boop. Ah dear

[@amam-qq5jc]

My cheating husband who abandoned me and started a new relationship a few days after I had a traumatic miscarriage said to me a few weeks before “no one gets married to divorce” 🤦🏻‍♀️ I should of noticed

[@leakyweeks]

Thank you so much, I wish I could arrange a consultation with you or buying your books, but since Im from Iran and we are in sanctions and completely disconnected from free world outside, I cant for now, but I hope for the future :) 🙏

[@jasont2105]

My former girlfriend who was a female Narcissist stated to me “ if we broke up it would be very hard for me”! Implying she has no emotional empathy and does not love me. she’s also saying I’m Trauma bonded to her and she’s admitting to putting me through intermittent reinforcement. Sick and Evil

[@cherylbuttram8330]

I was walking to his car to get in , he was a few feet away and said under his breath ...Laura darling. My name is Cheryl. Either he was playing with my mind or wanting me to know. Its the past

[@queenie1949]

Hi from Sal great video thx hun 😊⭐️🇬🇧

[@Hummingbird64]

"Sweetheart" is what mine would say ....generic and not connected to me

[@dianelogan8822]

I actually did come home and find him balls deep with the also married neighbor . 😞

[@candirayne470]

@Dianne Logan whoa! lucky you. I know you didn't feel like it at first, but he couldnt lie his way out of it so that seems like it would have been a liberating departure with no doubt of yourself making mistake. I used to wish I could walk in on him in the act because he said I could never prove he cheated. he said you never seen my d go a p. Wowww!!

[@tarawood7624]

My Ex, a DUDE... Had the neighbor (a guy) balls deep in him !

[@Sophie-uc8vp]

My ex narc suddenly started showing a really nasty bigoted attitude towards Jewish which I found alarming. My friend wouldn't believe it when I told her and she laughed at me thinking he was a Nazi supporter but he was glitching and showing his narcissism; he actually was an anti semitic Nazi supporter and a very dark man.

[@meeko8718]

Bang on!!

[@flavadoza]

I'm just going to ask HG Tudor on a date> my treat🤗 Such a well deserved love he is providing I'd say. Question.! How well does the narcissist deal with sarcasm? Is it fuel? @HG Tudor - Knowing The Narcissist : Ultra

[@dishonest-corset4942]

My experiences of the narcissists giving the game way: .telling me to let go of her hand whilst seeing someone she knew in public (likely she and this woman were having sex) .making a “joke” that as he’s my first boyfriend he can mould me into what he wants me to be .my mother’s narc boyfriend telling my mother that he thinks I fancy him (projection!) .telling me not to get fat like that woman over there, along side telling me in front of the waiter that even the waiter thinks I’m an idiot

[@dishonest-corset4942]

Another one gave it away by continuously referring to their cat as an “it” instead of she/her He also laughed about how another cat jumped into the clothes dryer with the clothes and the dryer was turned on “accidentally” and the cat died. It was probably he that was responsible and killed the cat

[@laurarominger2073]

I remember how much fun my ex and his family loved calling me Pooh because I made a point of how cringy that was for me. Some things can just be funny. But it evolved into passive aggressive.

[@cjk7063]

Best video ever. Wow.

[@sandywood7246]

My narrisist had video sex. I picked up on his guiltyness of his phone. With 3 women. But he didn't have much of a sex drive after awhile. I found out and confronted him. He lied and was making all excuses..tryed to say it was old stuff in the beginning. I said it was on my sofa in my living room. I see my walls and rug and all. Still deneyed it and said I needed to get over his phone. Never left it unattended. Then he became full of rage all the time..took all my confidence away. Then I picked up the phone guiltyness I knew his every move. So was cheating again. I saw the sick videos. So I finally called it off. Now I'm a bitch and sneak. All I did was catch him. He kept getting up at night and leaving and I didn't know till I got up and looked for him. I messaged him And he said he didn't want want to fight cause he didn't want sex. I never said that or was mad. Just putting his stuff on me. He went and was online with his women again. I kicked him out.

[@terrinbakker7901]

Yes, I've had several comments.. the first saying that this lovely life coach, who was previously entagled with a narc.. would have been on on his target if it wasn't for me ...

[@terrinbakker7901]

So... do I punish him

[@annofcleavers5791]

The narcissist would ask me to pass him something accompanied by TODAY PLEASE!

[@jeanpast7508]

Hey Babe!!!

[@nancychandler768]

My ex NEVER called me by my name. He always referred to me by a nickname… ughhhh

[@nancychandler768]

Want to know about sudden unprovoked narcissistic rages in public; nice restaurants!!!

[@Kim-vs4vb]

My name journey went like this Kim, honey, baby, baby doll, sweetheart, my sweetheart, my love, Jim, jimmy, jimbo, dolly, dollita, my child, my doll, my tiny baby girl 🙈🤣 woodpecker, nagger, nagging women, devil, mrs cunning!

[@paperchaser83_41]

He always speak facts and truth ❤️💯

[@annekerotterdam7499]

And they promise you: 1000%

[@angelanicholson951]

My stomach absolutely flipped when you said, Angela. But you'll like this comment if you are a narc. Grieving your status as only having been an appliance and not a real human that was cared for takes time. The narc i married (and took years to divorce, and had everything stolen from me) saw house-owner/helper/slave. That's what i had, a house. As did every other wife, after. 1 (me) and 2 were robbed blind, but 3 and 4 got rid of him within weeks of the fast wedding, and he gained very little. We have a son that is also just an object that is rarely contacted...thankfully. He told me that he thinks his dad is a narc.

[@ketikatz]

Omg I have a perfect example So my son's bio has been completely absent, ghosted me hard till I filed custody when he wouldn't make an effort after establishing paternity At mediation he said "oh I still have to tell my family about him cuz they don't know" when holidays were brought up The mediator did a double take and was like "wait ehat why??" And he gave a very dumb "oh I just don't see them much" response Right there she very clearly saw through the BS She qlso praised me for how well I've been raising my son because he has no anxiety, he's very aware qnd Responsive to his surroundings. It became very obvious very fast after that. He still avoids me 🤷🏻‍♀️ like won't go qnywhere with the case. He's fucked if we go to court

[@thebeyer8321]

Hmm…. I was thinking an Empath witnessing “the Smirk” might be one of them, I guess not? I mean, I am sure some smirks are totally purposeful, but all of them? Strange.

[@irenebuford8930]

Hg, The narcissist I was with even recalled that him and I were having sex during a time when I began not sleeping with him any longer, I was in his presence at the time, however I was not having intercourse with him any longer, some course he was recalling having sex with someone else... I also told him that I did not have sex with you... He also would hesitate before saying my name to catch himself from saying the wrong name and one time I told him, you were getting ready to call me someone else name, we were on a telephone call when this happened... The narcissist that I ended up marrying used to call me Snookums when I was a teenager when I first began dating him.. lol... Great video...

[@vicarofrevelwood]

How about the narcissist bringing up a subject in a company of campers that was already discussed privately and settled just so she could extract fuel from an individual and everybody in the camp saw her do this. to which I said congratulations Kate You've just exposed yourself to everyone.

[@rosemaryrogers1478]

You remember that time we went......he says....you just stare

[@taylordane3335]

Odd he always called me by my first name and to this day my name is his password on his phone or so he said.

[@DanTheAnalyst]

They will drop the truth on because of ego I had BPD ex just put what she in back to her "not projection" just replace You to I or Me and you could understand her