how the pandemic changed my birth plan

[@angd6578]

Sierra I don't know about everyone, but I'm loving the vlogs. I think during the pandemic I'm just living for my fav youtubers vlogging. ♥️

[@essentiallylau]

Same!

[@vin8040]

Yes me too!

[@laurel2037]

Same!

[@sarahlinville5174]

Yesssss!!! ❤😇

[@Kriszee4]

Yes, they're lifesavers lol

[@dreambig0101]

girl you are fully allowed to grieve the things you are losing from your pregnancy because it is in a pandemic, fertility is tricky and for most people, including you, you don't exactly get to choose when things happen nothing but love and support from me

[@ameliemasters]

Me: aged 16 and literally never thought about pregnancy, Also me: tunes into every single sierra pregnancy update :)

[@abbykane2569]

ME OMG

[@haileeheslop1819]

I felt that on a personal level😂😂

[@maireglor]

hahah seventeen but same here 😂

[@MrRANDOMBLADER]

Haha same

[@Sarah-ft3in]

same the fbi agent in my phone probably thinks i’m expecting

[@alexlikesapplesXD]

I am due and June and I've actually had a weight lifted from me when I was told the hospital would only allow my husband in the room with me. My mother is a bit possessive and I was dreading her being curt with my mother in law, who I would feel like I had to also invite in the delivery room since she doesn't have a daughter of her own. Knowing that the list went from both of my parents, my MIL, and my husband down to just the two of us relieved so much pressure from me.

[@Sara-qq7dn]

I feel the same. I only want my husband there and I was worried others wouldn’t understand that. I am sad that they won’t be able to visit at the hospital but since our parents live close it won’t be too long anyway. It may be nice to have that time as a little family, just the three of us. My husband also gets to come to my ultrasounds which is a major game changer as well! I feel like I’m finding the positives within the negatives.

[@AEALadyofthePsi]

My due date is in 4 days and it kills me that my parents can't be there. And if my husband leaves the hospital for any reason he's not allowed back in. Definitely not the way I pictured having my first child ☹ the only positive of being pregnant during this time was that I got to work from home which has saved me a ton on gas money lol

[@Nordap1986]

Congrats, yeah it sucks that your parents cant be there. I am about 7 weeks right now, so I am jealous right now becauase I have so far to go, but also happy that by October I would hope things would be back to normal.

[@jenniferzhou8635]

Wishing you all the luck & love!

[@AEALadyofthePsi]

@@Nordap1986 thank you! Yeah I remember when I got pregnant in June and I was like this should be calmed down by March. I feel like it has calmed down but it's still not chill enough for things to go back to somewhat normal. And even though 7 weeks is still early in pregnancy just try and enjoy each moment because each phase of pregnancy (at least for me) has had pros and cons

[@AEALadyofthePsi]

@@jenniferzhou8635 thank you so much! Believe me with 4 days left till my due date I'm ready to go!

[@jenniferzhou8635]

@@AEALadyofthePsi You got this! Your body knows what to do. If you remember, please update us on how you are in a week!

[@bridgetlynch2043]

I’m really glad I watched this today. My husband and I have decided to start trying to get pregnant, and I have been feeling guilty about it. Obviously now isn’t an ideal time with the pandemic, my parents will miss out on some things with their first grandkid, etc. etc. But the future is unknown, I have no idea when the pandemic will be over, and we want to start a family. So this vlog has made me feel less guilty about all that.

[@Claire-lu8hf]

This is everyone’s reminder to make sure your sunscreen isn’t expired. First day of beautiful weather in Indiana and I am now bright pink

[@kateamarlow]

Turns out my sunscreen was expired! Thank you for the reminder!!

[@fumi9385]

Wait how do you know that your sunscreen’s expired?? *very nervous*

[@thebookgoddess7380]

thank you so much!!!

[@sambushner]

I’m a labor and delivery nurse, and honestly we have loved having just one support person for each patient (with some exceptions, it can be hard). But it gives you and your partner time to be selfish, to soak up all of the time with your little one before you have to share them with the world. It gives you time (especially as a first time parent) to learn newborn cares with the nurses and really get all the feeding tips and tricks without interruption of everyone visiting you. I know it’s so hard and never what you imagined, but definitely soak up the time as a little family of 3 while you can ❤️ you’re going to be amazing!

[@RevolutionaryYak]

I honestly agree. I'm due April 13th and will enjoy my time with just baby and husband. In sure everyone will be at my house the day we come home to see baby, but for a few days the babe will be exclusively mine.

[@emmaphillips459]

I agree, I have always just had my hubby with me, and I think it's awesome!

[@lyss222]

I am legitimately so glad it will only be my husband. I did not want other people there with my first daughter and I hated having visitors after a rough delivery while trying to breastfeed!

[@kt-rm8go]

Yes!!! Had my baby last May. If I ever have a second I might enforce this rule myself haha. Plus with breastfeeding I feel like it gave us a good start! No interruptions

[@alexandralawson1728]

@@emmaphillips459 same I had my son in 2017 and it was just him and I ppl did not visit til about two wks after and I loved it.

[@heathercarlisle2423]

I’m about to have my 20 week scan, with my first baby, without my husband. Watching your videos of ultrasounds have helped a lot. The pandemic really has changed how pregnancy looks. We haven’t even made a birth plan.

[@TheBibliophagist]

Have you looked into getting an elective U/S? Private practices allow significant others! 💕 That's what we did, so my husband could see our baby this pregnancy.

[@crystalg4943]

I'm not sure where your located but sometimes they will let you FaceTime or record something for your partner? When you go into the room ask the technician! Also agree that most private places or 3D places allow more than just the mom!

[@rm-iu4gs]

why not face time him?

[@mcknight3023]

@@rm-iu4gs depending on where she is they may not let her. We did elective ultrasounds in order to have someone with me, my doctors office is strictly no electronic devices . I’m due May 3rd and while I’m sure things won’t change much I’m still hoping to at least be able to have both my mom and husband with me.

[@rm-iu4gs]

@@mcknight3023 why? what's wrong with facetiming?

[@shelbychocolate]

It was so so tough for me. We got pregnant in February of 2020 and my whole pregnancy I had to go to appointments alone...I hoped by the time my babies were born everything would be “normal” because that is what everyone told me, but LOL. My entire pregnancy was so hard. I would cry before every appointment at the loss of what I thought my pregnancy would be. I hated finding out we were going to have twins by myself. You are so allowed to grieve.

[@jennrocchi6385]

that must have been extra hard finding out such big news alone. hoping life with twins is double the love and double the fun!!

[@Victoria_Mata]

I’ve decided to try and watch all of your vlogs before your baby girl is born, right now you and Stephen just moved into a two bedroom apartment and you’re planning your wedding!

[@ilovemyOKI]

I started doing this a few weeks ago! I’m on the part where they’re starting to have preconception talks

[@Ana-sj5xx]

It makes me so upset that people can party and go to malls during a pandemic but a pregnant woman can't bring with her the people she needs to feel comfortable during appointments and labour. The risk is so small compared to every other risk that is already being allowed.

[@alys4570]

I couldn’t agree with you more! It absolutely enrages me. My doctor believes I have ovarian cancer and I have to go in for some more scanning on Friday. I have to go alone. I feel so bad for pregnant women and those who are in my situation who don’t have a support person. It’s just so wrong!

[@christinamcallister3791]

@@alys4570 I was diagnosed with cervical cancer in May of last year. At first, it was hard going to treatments and appointments alone, but it gets easier. I have one more scan at the end of this month to see if I'm clear. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers! Hopefully, it's NOT cancer, but if it is, just try to stay positive and take one day at time. You'll do great!

[@elwynbrooks]

The thing is, if you asked the same experts that decide on the one-support-person-only policy whether folks should be partying and hanging out at malls, they would still say no. But it's not the same people deciding and getting a say :(

[@msmooneyraccooney]

@@alys4570 Sending you all my love! That would be terrifying to go through alone. I hope you find strength and peace, I hope the doctors and nurses give you comfort.

[@Ana-sj5xx]

I agree that the other stuff shouldn't be happening either! Don't get me wrong, I don't believe two wrongs make a right, and I haven't left the house in almost a year. I take the pandemic very seriously. But I honestly believe the risk of having someone with you in serious medical appointments, or a doula during labour, is very small compared to the harm in not allowing it. Since everyone will be wearing masks and medical environments are sanitized to death, the risk is too small to justify the toll it takes on the patients. And when you remember that people are partying with no consequences at all while other people are being denied such small and fair things - even if those things are only indirectly related -, it's infuriating. To everyone struggling with this situation, I'm sending you my love and wishing you strength! You'll get through this!

[@angelcross8887]

I feel like a weirdo because I’m actually excited that I won’t have to cater to a bunch of people while I’m in labor. It’s not that I don’t love my in laws. But I really just wanted to labor alone. I don’t want to hear about cousin A and Bs drama 😅. I just want myself and my husband there. The only thing I’m truly disappointed about is that my husband can’t go to the dr appointments and my other children won’t be able to be at the hospital with us

[@biancacolmenares620]

Just an fyi, it may bring the spf of your sunscreen down to mix your sunscreen into your moisturizer. Unless this is something that someone told you to do, then ignore me. But from what I understand, doing moisturizer then a layer of spf will make sure you get the true spf that's listed on the bottle.

[@PotionsMaster007]

Yep, should layer not mix :)

[@babyp3achh]

This is correct! It HALFS the strength of your SPF!

[@kells2290]

I agree! And also wear SPF every day 😊 not just when planning going into the sun

[@Sssssssssssssssssssssssssssz]

Right, and if I understand correctly it should always be the last step in your skincare routine.

[@cassb4678]

💯 valid feelings, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

[@Charis6540]

When I was pregnant I was devastated, she wasn’t planned and my youngest at that time was 5 1/2 and just started school and my husband and I were planning on traveling etc, I hated feeling sad and like I was mourning my loss of freedom, of course now my baby is almost 2 and I’m in love, she’s the best and can’t imagine life without her but in the moment of shock I had to let myself be sad

[@Hunter2757able]

Hey 👋 I'll be praying for your birth to go smoothly. I got married last year and were currently trying for our first child. I've been in my head alot about waiting till the pandemics over but I don't think there's a 'perfect' time to conceive. So excited for you both, and hope you enjoy every minute of this journey!

[@karingp1]

the most unrelatable thing about this vlog is that they don't eat in their car lol

[@amybadger]

I completely understand where you are coming from. I gave birth last year and my birthing experience will forever be characterized by aspects of the pandemic. 8 months on I am still grieving the things that baby and I missed out on and are still having to do without. You're in good company, you're not alone in these feelings.

[@BeautifulInsideHere]

As a soon to be divorced, single, first time parent (just turned 11 weeks today), I am nervous (not only because of my situation) but because of the pandemic. I’m nervous to give birth in a hospital setting with everything going on. But watching/ listening to other moms being pregnant during this time does bring me some comfort. And watching your vlogs always manages to lift my mood.

[@simonebothe6663]

Honestly i find it so powerful how you speak about your grief with the hospital situation! How you flipped that sadness into the feeling of happyness that stevenncan be there at birth, that’s amazing in my opinion. I’m a midwife in the netherlands and here its also that you can take only one birthing partner. I’ve heard that some doulas still do videoconsults so maybe that’s something you can try? Lots of luck for the rest of your pregnancy!

[@Kriszee4]

You guys are so darn cute together 🤗 Steven is so patient and helpful and you so very much deserve a man like him because you are such a sunshine of a person!! I'm so overjoyed for you both 🥰

[@rachaelpino6914]

I have to tell myself that all the time. As a mom, I have had a lot of struggles, and I used to feel very hesitant to share my frustrations because sometimes I feel like I should just be grateful for the fact that I have wonderful children, but now that I am older, I feel like it is okay for me to be frustrated about certain points in my life, and at the same time, still be loving and grateful for my children.

[@melissannelsen]

Just found out Im preggers with my first! For sure living through the joys and fears all at once. Love that I get to REWATCH your videos now as I go through this experience.

[@2williamsmk]

I was pregnant last year and had a baby in July. I got pregnant before the pandemic started and I was just truly devestated about the things I lost. I wanted my older daughter to visit us in the hospital to meet her new sibling and I was truly truly heartbroken about it. It's ok to be grateful for you baaby and mourn what you're missing

[@jennieeckilson]

I’m pregnant (about 18 weeks). Watching your videos before I got pregnant really affirmed that I was NOT crazy with wanting to go forward growing our family, even though the world was in an insane place at the height of the pandemic. I do morn the things I imagined myself having - like a baby shower, or like telling my family important milestones in person - but there are also things I’m really grateful for - like getting to be pregnant at home instead of trying to hide it in public, and the amount of quality time I spent with my husband pre-baby due to the pandemic. Thank you for being so open with your feeelings, because my feelings are also grateful and sad and thrilled and and lonely and complicated.

[@destinyreidel]

Your feelings are valid! Pushing those feelings away and not allowing yourself to experience them usually only makes things worse. Big difference between acknowledgement and wallowing in self pity ❤️

[@nicconway647]

Yalls car lunch is on point. Those trays are everything

[@ericaarrington4588]

Honestly it’s amazing

[@briannaheinricher3747]

I seriously just love and appreciate your realness with your pregnancy and your feelings about pandemic life. I’m a postpartum doula and understand the struggles that birthing people dealing with right now.

[@nicoleweddington9224]

You're putting your body through a lot right now, and it's not anyone else's place to tell you how you should feel about the situation or how you should have handled it differently. You are doing what is best for you and your growing family. I think you are handling the situation and everything amazingly!! I am absolutely amazed everyday about how strong you have been able to stay throughout this whole process. And I hope that I one day when I have kids that I will be able to be as strong as you have been through pregnancy and I'm sure motherhood!!

[@jo-anndendekker1318]

Sierra there are so many ways that you can adapt to taking a baby to the beach. Even for short periods of time. Nursing a baby was something I never had wanted to do. I’m so glad I gave it a try. 4 children later I was able to nurse them all. I found it so freeing. Milk was always with you. Now there is so many pillows and items to help make you more comfy. My daughter swears by the nursing pillow that buckles around you. My granddaughter just payed across it with less strain on mommy’s back and shoulders. You got this!

[@37chrystals]

I completely understand the struggle to find that balance of being positive and grateful to be pregnant but also wanting to be realistic about the hardships of being pregnant/ having a baby during the pandemic. I am currently 22 weeks pregnant and it is hard to not have my husband go to ANY of the appointments with me. There are also a multitude of other non-ideal pieces, such as having to change pregnancy plans like you mentioned in this vlog. Something I saw that really helped me deal with the stigma of complaining about certain things is “you don’t have to love your pregnancy to love your baby.” My pregnancy has been very hard for me so far, it looks like you can say the same. But I can also tell you that I already love my baby boy more than anything else. I am going to love my baby so much even though I have not necessarily enjoyed being pregnant. Hopefully this helps. Love you Sierra! ❤️

[@Kriszee4]

It's ok to be sad about that. It doesn't make you any less grateful. What is happening right now sucks and being grateful doesn't make it suck any less lol. Been planning my daughter's sweet 16 for, well, 16 years, AT LEAST, and we can only have a small party instead of one of those super overly expensive parties I was about to save every penny for before this. I know it's a first world issue and I'm so super grateful we're all healthy right now but ignoring the disappointed part of me that didn't meet my own expectations doesn't help. I find it's better to tend to the sad part of me than to ignore it. Just know that if it was possible right now, Steven would have been at every single possible doctor appointment he could be at, if his schedule allowed for it, and you have an amazing family that will continue to be amazing no matter what!!!

[@meganwestberry4851]

I delivered our miracle baby girl last April ( during height of the pandemic where I live)... after 13 years of infertility... I was so beyond happy to get pregnant... but it wasn’t what I had expected or thought it would be.. and you’re right, it’s ok. Feel those feelings! You’re allowed to be a little sad and still be grateful! I promise, it seems like you’ll miss out on “so much” bc of the pandemic... but the time you’ll get with your girl and your little family... it’s worth all of the things “you’re missing”. I promise! All the love!!!

[@elisabethryan1906]

First of all, as a PCOS mom I am LIVING for your vlogs. You and Stephen are literally a joy to watch. Second, you bring up an important point about the birthing teams. I am a registered nurse and I also planned to have a large team with me at delivery. I ended up having an emergency C-section with only my husband present. So I totally understand the feeling of loss at the idea of a birthing team. Having seen this situation from the other side, the health care provide side, large teams like that sound scary to me now. Our first priority is your’s and your baby’s safety. Any nurse will tell you part of taking care of the patient is taking care of their family too. Having so many people present for such a delicate situation which could turn dangerous at any second creates unnecessary work and stress for the people trying to keep you and your baby safe. If you choose a hospital birth (which in my opinion, are the absolute safest) it is important to prioritize. I think that having large birthing teams (your friends/family from home) is a liability. I definitely wish they would make a concession for your doula. I know doula’s can be so comforting and helpful. Now that I am on the other end of the situation(all though due to different circumstances) I wouldn’t change a thing. If I ever get the chance to deliver vaginally, I would have only my husband and a doula if possible. Above everything I believe in your right to decide for yourself what is right for you, as long as it doesn’t harm anyone. So just take this with a grain of salt. My intention is to try and ease your mind about this birthing situation that is beyond your control. Sending you positive thought and prayers!

[@jacqulinejohnson8666]

Dealing with all the same pregnancy emotions during pandemic. My husband is also military and we are stationed across the country from out families. Not being able to travel to see family has been terrible and pregnancy during the pandemic has felt pretty isolating, but I'm still so happy and grateful. Thanks for the reminder it's okay to feel bummed about missing out on certain aspects of pregnancy due to the pandemic.

[@bre9878]

Sierra! That purito sunscreen actually doesn’t protect your skin! There was a study that came out that said it only has an spf rating of about a 9!

[@moniquebeautyxo]

Sierra, I have to say I sincerely appreciate you sharing your perspective on toxic positivity because I am 5 months pregnant and couldn't understand how I SHOULD FEEL. Not that I didn't allow myself to feel what I did but its just such a confusing time.. you're grateful, thankful, blessed but its still such a huge milestone and event in life and it can be stressful and discouraging, etc. Im with you girl... its not about shoving down emotions and dismissing them but I guessing keeping perspective on blessings to keep positivity. I have been LOVING your vlogs. You and Stephen seem like to have such a beautiful relationship!! :)

[@viv9563]

I call productive procrastination “falling down the rabbit hole of responsibilities”... it’s usually a good thing!

[@wondergirl2642]

I wish I did this

[@elizabethcuellar6373]

FTM here too! Baby girl is due July 13 and my husband and I couldn’t be happier!! I think you expressed yourself so perfect about pregnancy during a pandemic. It’s also especially hard when you are trying to explain to your family why you don’t want a baby shower drive by, and their like “you can just wave” having to defend myself each time is just so exhausting. Obviously their intentions are amazing and they want to help shower me , but it’s just not what my husband and I want. Anywho, we’re super excited for this new beginning

[@Binkeeandtatertot]

Okay so I want to lead this off by saying that I absolutely love you and watch almost every video, I think you’re an inspiration and a warm place for so many of us. The only thing that’s kind of got me is that you did choose to get pregnant in a pandemic... I was also pregnant in the pandemic but I got pregnant the August before so I was 7 months along when everything started and it was peeking in May when I had my boy. Everything got changed for me at the last minute and it was heartbreaking. He was my first and probably last pregnancy and I didn’t get to experience a lot of the normal things with him. Newborn photoshoot, baby shower, delivery without worry, etc... it was a really hard thing to wrap my head around with only 2 months to do it especially with all of the talk that it was going to “go away”. You have every right to grieve the things that Covid has taken from you, but just remember you choose it and a lot of us didn’t 😓

[@kaylateeuwen]

I was pregnant through 2020, had our rainbow baby in October. I 100% grieved missing a lot of the normal pregnancy and baby experiences however I was able to find the bright side in some of those things. For example, I was also disappointed I couldn’t have any family or friends at the hospital after our baby girl was born but I think it was actually a blessing in disguise. It gave my husband and I a couple days to really bond with our baby and revel in our new family. So I recommend really cherishing that time, it’s so precious ❤️

[@calliejay8246]

Honey, you will do great. I had my baby May last year and definitely mourned the birth experience I wanted to have but couldn't. I had SPD and couldn't get in with a Chiropractor, get prenatal massage or anything that would have helped alleviate pain. But I'm grateful looking back now at how strong women's bodies are. Thankfully my husband was able to be there. If you need to, grieve.

[@meganlacy9903]

We had our baby girl at the end of last march when all of the lock downs just started happening. I was devastated that my mom could not be there for the birth. Your feelings are completely validated and heard. We have dreamt of this time since we were little girls to have our moms there to help us and now it is taken away, so you have every right to be upset. I will say that while we were in the hospital the staff made us feel so welcome and safe and they took the roll of helping in any way that our family would have and that helped tremendously. I'll also say it was some kind of weird blessing. The situation brought my husband and I to another level of closeness that I never knew existed and I hope the same will happen for the two of you. The peace and quiet you will experience after having baby girl will also be something else you will forever cherish from it.

[@sh2nn0nr2wks]

Honestly, maybe it's just been one of those months, but I literally burst into tears when Stephen started talking about all these weird little traditions we have all picked up during the pandemic that we will get to look back on one day (and maybe miss!).

[@kt-rm8go]

We had the same due date, just one year apart. My son is almost 10 months! I definitely thought things would be better by now. Your feelings are so valid!!! It’s so hard. It was such an anxious/disappointing time having to cancel baby showers, no visitors, my mom not in the hospital. It’s hard. It felt really hard after birth too, maybe it was the hormones. But all that really matters is when your hold your safe, healthy baby in your arms. I will add too: i reallly actually liked having no one in the hospital visiting. Just the 3 of you, such a good time to bond, practice breastfeeding with no one else there to interrupt, ton of skin to skin time, very peaceful, not stressful at all really. So excited for you!💘💘

[@leahbauer3154]

I was pregnant a little over a month ago, and I unfortunately miscarried. However, during that time I have to admit I was full of fear regarding giving birth during the pandemic. I definitely understand your disappointments and think they are totally valid. Despite those feelings, there is nothing more I want in the world than to hold my rainbow baby in my arms. So I TOTALLY agree with what you’re saying. Congrats, I’m so excited for you!

[@kaylamazooo]

I’m pregnant and due in 4 weeks! Having similar feelings as you. I’m trying to see the positives, like I think it’ll be nice for me and my husband to have time that’s just us with the baby without family and friends there. I think one of the strangest things is just that this is my first baby (second pregnancy after a miscarriage last year), and like... hardly anyone has even seen me pregnant. That isn’t a huge deal of course, it’s just never what I envisioned. So excited for you and Stephen to become parents. Thank you for sharing your experience with us!

[@cherrydesu]

I got pregnant unexpectedly and my whole idea of pregnancy and giving birth have done a complete 180 since we're in a pandemic. I feel pretty similarly to you in that I had pictured my mom and husband in the room with me and close family and friends waiting outside or in the waiting room. It sucks that I can't have that but I'm grateful for the opportunity to bring this baby into the world. But yes, it's okay to feel sad (or in my case, annoyed) that you can't do things the way you'd envisioned. You're not alone!

[@nowyounoelle]

True. I’m about 2 weeks ahead of you with my second, and the social part of this pregnancy has been very different than my first, particularly because of Covid. It makes it somewhat hard to celebrate, not only because we can’t see others, but also the challenge of celebrating those milestones when others in my life are really struggling (and this with me also contracting COVID at 25 weeks). In this last trimester, I’m really trying to focus on maintaining that balance, but you’re right, it is tough when you are mourning in a sense the experience you wish you had, especially because I know what it could be like. Hang in there 🧡

[@krystalt2496]

Hi Sierra! I totally understand your disappointment about not having a doula as well as the rest of your support team with you at your birth. That’s why I decided to take the Bradley Method birth course with my husband. It focuses on training your partner to be your support person, how to advocate for you, how to coach you through labor, etc. it’s a loooong course (12 weeks-2 hours/week), but totally worth it. I know you are do sometime in May, but my instructor actually offers a condensed version of the course (4 weeks). You can find her course/information on her Instagram (@yournaturalbirth). She supports whatever kind of birth you’re envisioning - medicated or unmedicated. But it’s so empowering to know and understand what we are walking into with labor and delivery in taking this course. (And of course the class is all virtual ☺️)

[@toriarose912]

I delivered my sweet girl 7 months ago in July 2020 and I totally get the being pregnant during a pandemic stress/anxiety/sadness. I’m also a ER nurse and I remember feeling so guilty that I had to work (my husband was laid off in April 2020). I was so sad because my husband and I had waited a few years to get pregnant while building our careers and I felt like we couldn’t celebrate like we imagined we would. It’s been a roller coaster but we are closer as a family and just two months ago I was vaccinated so I’m hopeful about the future going forward. Maybe when we decide to have our next child the world will be in a different place than at this present time. Thanks for your uplifting videos Sierra! I’ve watched you for years and just realized I’ve never left a comment. I guess that makes me a “lurker.” 😆 Keep the videos coming and don’t feel bad about taking the time off you need when baby girl arrives!

[@francescanemeth3976]

Get the doula! They might not be in the room, but their advice is so beneficial not only for you, but Stephen too. I couldn’t imagine my first pregnancy without having someone to help walk me through all the medical choices and especially coming up with my birthing plan. The pain techniques and knowledge preparation helps so much! Virtual might not be idea, but having someone who can help advocate for you and support you in different ways is so beneficial! 🥰

[@TheBiancaKay]

pregnancy during the pandemic was weird! It started out during the summer, so my husband was able to join me, but then he was not allowed into the anatomy scan when I hit 20 weeks, but thankfully he was able to be with me when I went into labor too early at 21.5 weeks. I'm really glad you touched upon toxic positivity and you are valid for all happy and sad feelings throughout pregnancy no matter what!

[@Jayceeangelloslawson]

You had me in tears talking about not being able to have your mom and Kenzie there with you. I get induced in two weeks and I’ve of course felt the same way about not having my mom and best friend there as well, but watching someone else speak about it really got me. It’s something you plan your whole life and then you have to give up that idea and it just really really sucks. You’re so strong to be going through this ❤️

[@solevazquezmaria]

I have been subscribed for a couple of years and this is the first time that I needed to google where San Diego was (I'm from another country). You really do have great weather, hiking and beach! It made me want to travel so much!

[@mckinleygallyer458]

I’m pregnant right now due just two days before you and at first I was upset about the no visitors after policy. But after talking to my OB she says she’s noticed that moms now are doing so much better mental health wise without the visitors. It gives them time to recover and not feel like they need to entertain anyone and figure out breastfeeding and having a new baby. So now I’m honestly super excited for that time with just my husband, son and I. ❤️

[@kaitlynfritts5101]

I gave birth to my first child in April of 2020, right as we went into full lockdown and everything was bad. Let yourself feel these feelings! Yes it’s amazing that we carried/are carrying healthy babies, but that doesn’t make up for the sadness of not being able to enjoy all of the things that people take for granted in pregnancy. My son is now 10 months old and not to be a Debbie downer, but it doesn’t get much easier. They won’t remember, but we will remember every first that wasn’t able to be shared with friends and family. First holidays, first birthdays, first steps. It’s hard, but you’re allowed to feel it. And you’re also allowed to be grateful and in love. Emotions are so fluid. Keep your head up beautiful! You’re not alone!

[@ashleymiller5722]

Hey, Sierra! Being pregnant and giving birth during a pandemic is so rough. I only had to deal with it for the last 2 and a half months of my pregnancy because I gave birth to my son at the end of April last year. He was our first child and I called the hospital every week to Menke sure my husband was able to come to the hospital with me when I gave birth. I cried many times over the fact that things were out of my control, but at the end of the day, there was something special and personal just having my hubby with me. It wasn’t what we planned, but it worked out. I’m sending you tons of love and just know that you are allowed to be upset and that doesn’t mean you are ungrateful. ❤️❤️

[@saramcgrew]

Sierra, you’re a first time mom during a pandemic. Give yourself some grace and it’s okay to ramble and vent and grieve and be excited and scared and every feeling you have is valid. It’s okay to not be okay right now. My little sister is one of my best friends in the entire world. She was pregnant and gave birth during the pandemic and it was so hard for me, my mom, and our older sister to not be there for her in the hospital when she went into labor. But her husband was, the entire maternity staff from the doctors to nurses to techs took incredible care of her, and she brought my nephew Oliver into the world safe and I got to meet him two days later. I know how intensely my sister felt all the emotions, going to appointments alone without my brother in law, not having a traditional baby shower (we hosted a zoom one for her), and not having us there for his birth at the hospital. But now he’s 8 months old, healthy happy and full of joy and life and none of that truly matters because at the end of the day, we all still have each other and we have baby Oliver. Keep your chin up, Mama. You got this. And one day, you’ll have a heck of a story to tell baby girl about the year she was born. ❤️

[@sapphirerauscher7553]

This is the 3rd video I’ve been early to today, it’s a sign it’s gonna be a good day 🙏🏻

[@Ebby_MoonBunny]

I'm glad you're allowing yourself to feel all the things you are feeling. It's important especially because you don't want those emotions to explode later on. You keep on doing what is best for YOU♡

[@stephaniehuff5916]

Swimming 9 months pregnant was the best feeling because it released all of the pressure off of my belly! My little one was born last September. So excited for you guys!

[@alixschneider]

SAME! 9/9/2020 :)

[@sarbearr4]

I got injured at work last week, so I’m loving the frequent vlogs it gives me some time so spend with my cool friend Sierra❤️

[@outoftheklosset]

Thank you for being so kind to us disabled and chronically ill people during the pandemic. I appreciate your and Stephen's choices to social distance so much! Thank youuuuuuuu!!!! P.S it's OK to feel however you feel. I'd be sad too if people couldn't visit the hospital after having a baby. I don't bring my SO to my big doctor appointments anymore but it would feel so much better if they could join. I definitely understand how that feels at least.😔 *hugs and support*

[@AndeAlde]

I’ve enjoyed being pregnant during this time. I’m a teacher, so my entire first trimester I spent home when my nausea got really bad i was luckily at home and not school. I went back to in person & while scary my kids have been amazing at following all the protocols to take care of me and baby. I went through a birthing center so my husband has been able to go to every appointment & because they know at his work that partners aren’t allowed to appointments but our provider does they’ve allowed him to leave and go with me. So far it’s been good for me which I am so thankful for. I know my experience is a lot different from others so I definitely don’t take this for granted. 2 weeks to go!

[@cassandrapereira4848]

Honestly I love how candid you are in all of your videos and how honest you are about your experiences. I am not pregnant nor anywhere near that phase of my life but I love all of your pregnancy related content. Also a few videos ago when you ordered/reviewed maternity jeans with the paneling on the side, you made me realize that my absolutely favourite jeans (that was gifted to me and got worn out from constant use) were maternity jeans. Anyways love you, love your vlogs (and your second channel videos but vlogs a bit more) and thank you for being the amazing influencer that you are

[@shelbypeck0317]

I gave birth in November and my whole pregnancy and delivery was in the pandemic. There were parts of my pregnancy that sucked, but I kept reminding myself it’s okay to be miserable about things and still be grateful to be experiencing it. Same with all of this. It’s okay to be disappointed and grateful all at once.

[@sherreeraz3319]

You are absolutely valid in any disappointments being pregnant during this time! Its a rough time for a lot of things but especially this. i know the idea of waiting to show her off is sad but honestly after labor is so tiring and can be emotional so i say focus on the positive that you will have a few days to rest and heal and that you and steven can spend some time together getting to know baby before sharing her with family and friends. Im currently pregnant with my second baby so I understand what ur going through.

[@smileySaM135679]

It’s still a little early on for me, but I’m a few days past four weeks pregnant and I’m so grateful that you’re documenting your journey! My husband and I are being as careful as possible with everything and having conversations about what we want for this pregnancy through the birth. We’re staying positive and excited but also preparing for whatever happens 🥰

[@RJA703]

We are due exactly 1 week apart from each other (a little girl for me too!) I'm hoping by the time we are due, my husband can leave if he needs to (we already have a year old son.) I never had a birth plan when I had him. I never took a class. I thought that the less I knew, the less I would feel let down when things didn't go the "right" way. I wish you a safe and speedy delivery and I can't wait to watch you guys become parents! ❤

[@snoopy_90s]

I am pregnant and I am following that same birth plan. I will just let things happen as they happen so I won't be upset if things don't go to plan.

[@RJA703]

@@snoopy_90s I hope everything goes smoothly for you ❤

[@maisey1666]

I got pregnant August 2019 and was due may 2020. Was so happy to be able to have my mum and fiancée there with me in the hospital, and then in March just 2 months before that has been taken away.. had only my fiancée with me which I was grateful for as in Poland they didn’t allow any birthing partner but I really hope my mum can be there for baby no2 in the future xx

[@lindsaygraybillderby522]

Also pregnant - 36.5 weeks right now and I completely relate to your feelings on pandemic pregnancies. It’s ok to struggle with the isolation, be disappointed about missed milestones, have frustration and turmoil over making difficult decisions (like when it’s ok to see family), and yet still be completely thrilled and excited to be having a baby. You’re not alone in feeling the conflict. What has helped me a little bit is to try and focus on the small silver linings about being pregnant right now. For me it has been working from home and getting to be in comfy clothes and not having to worry about being presentable for work when I don’t feel good, lots of one on one time with my spouse to plan and prepare, and not having to cancel or miss out on plans when I just want to rest because most everyone is staying in. I also had a virtual baby shower and I was worried I would be disappointed with it, but it was actually so much fun and I got to have family from across the country there who probably wouldn’t have gotten to celebrate with me if I did a traditional in person pre-pandemic shower. My hospital plan is also having to change. Like you, I always wanted my mom there as well. But I will use FaceTime when I need her and try to think about how the more intimate hospital experience may be more relaxing and less overwhelming once I’m there. Find the little things that bring joy. ❤️

[@jenniferreynante4934]

So I'm only 24 weeks and I'll be induced at 37 weeks, and I originally planned on having my mom and dad in the room with myself and my husband but since we are allowed one person, I've found myself realizing I truly don't need anyone but my wonderful husband and I think it will make the birthing and labor experience even better and more intimate and bring us closer since we will be the only ones going through it together ♥️

[@feleciapaige623]

Excited and heart broken all at the same time! My hubby and I have been talking about it and I’m more sad for him than me I feel like he is missing out on this journey with me.

[@madisonclark1]

Love your videos! These vlogs seriously make my day!

[@Laurennikole22]

As I was telling my OB that we were trying to conceive, she disgustingly looked at me and said, “right now? With the way the world is?” I felt so much judgment even though she had no idea what my story was (it was my first and last visit with her). But we switched to a midwife and the environment is so much more positive and uplifting and my husband gets to come to each appointment so we are very blessed!

[@mhwits5976]

Sierra, you’re so valid for being sad about how the pandemic is affecting your pregnancy! While I don’t really understand people constantly complaining about like missing their sophomore year because people are DYING, in your situation, people are BIRTHING! Birth is literally such a huge event and it’s so valid to be particular about the details💗also the clip of Stephen putting your shoes on was too cute🥺

[@user-kd5cg3hn5j]

I am pregnant right now - Also due in May! This pregnancy vs my first (2019) is so different. So many things are not open, we don't go do things that made everything so nice (Hot springs, pool, visiting people, going to sit down and eat.) I am thankful most of my big-ticket stuff was already purchased for my first that I get to reuse, and that I am not missing out on going to SEE everything! (Traveling to bigger cities, getting those stores, etc.) You are missing out on things - And its okay to dislike, be sad, or totally hate it. Its also totally reasonable to so happy you ARE pregnant! My first took years to get, so we tried right away for #2. Pandemic or not, it would eventually be "normal" again. If you use reddit - There is a may2021babybump subbreddit. Filled with people due in may, or their partners! Great support group, and great place to vent cause everyone else gets it!

[@ticopean]

We're getting vlogs almost everyday and i LOVE it!

[@nerissaelliott969]

I’m 31 weeks pregnant with my 1st baby! You are not alone! I also have had myself a good cry about my mom not being able to be in the delivery room with me! Also feeling so so lucky to have my husband there with me! We had our gender reveal over zoom and are doing a virtual baby shower! It’s not the norm but I’m still happy I get to feel celebrated! Happy pregnancy! Love from one new mom to another!

[@smartbeautifulla]

Sierra you are doing great. I had twins during this pandemic. I had my first child 2019. The two pregnancies were very different. Strangely enough the hospital only allowing one support person made it feel very intimate. And peaceful. It's ok to be disappointed. This last year has been strange for sure. I have 3 kids under 2. Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. Loving your honesty

[@arielle9645]

Yes Sierra! Make room for AND. You are so grateful to be pregnant AND it’s hard sometimes. One doesn’t cancel out the other!!! Feel all the feelings

[@ashleygordon1659]

I'm 26 weeks pregnant and DEFINITELY relate to the bittersweet-ness of it all. This COVID chapter has given me lovely private moments with my partner and growing baby. But I also dearly miss celebrating with our communities. I've been holding on to the fact that baby girl will have soooo many reasons to party it up, so even if it's a first bday party instead of a baby shower, it'll be great. For now, trying to cherish the stillness.

[@heathermurphy2860]

I totally agree with how you’ve been feeling and the balance of being grateful but being ok with feeling sad about missing out on some things. I wasn’t going to let the pandemic alter my life (more than it already had lol!) when it came to growing my family.

[@corinacross8881]

I’m 17 weeks with our second baby girl. And your feelings are completely valid. There are definitely aspects that suck but for us it has some perks. We don’t have to have a lot of people at our house like we did with our first daughter. It’s really hard taking care of a baby, entertaining everyone, cooking for them, and cleaning up after them. All while trying to bond with your new baby. But our family relationships may be different💖

[@chloechua8186]

You are so allowed to feel all those things! I got pregnant with my baby girl in Feb 2020 so I experienced those feelings throughout my pregnancy. It was really hard to know I would be going through birth without my mom, but I did it and you can too! Sending so much love to you!

[@mikaelaiwaskiw9651]

I can relate so much to your experience with pregnancy during covid! I'm due May 23, so it's been so fun to follow along with you cause all of our milestones line up ☺️ Honestly I've found it so important to give myself grace and allow myself to feel sad that I'm missing things but also remind myself of the things I have to be grateful for. Love watching your vlogs, thanks for sharing little bits of your life with us ❤️

[@jaybee6270]

so glad to hear that you have it in your head you are 100% allowed to complain and be upset about pregnancy things especially with this pandemic! absolutely doesn't mean you're ungrateful ever! ♥️

[@xtinep.2721]

I understand your view on wanting your birth team there for delivery. My husband and I have been going through fertility treatments and I had to go to every appointment alone. I also found out about our missed miscarriage alone since the hospital isn’t allowing visitors or someone to accompany us. It’s def a strange experience and I hope one day it’ll go back to “normal” too.

[@kellyhubbard3745]

I had my daughter in the beginning of April, right as COVID was really starting. Hospital policies were changing daily, so I had no idea what my “birth plan” would look like. My biggest piece of advice for moms to be is grieve now and let yourself be sad that pregnancy and birth won’t be how you imagined it. Those feelings didn’t hit until I was on my way to the hospital and after I had given birth, so they mixed with pp feelings and I was a wreck. Let yourself process through them now, so that when baby comes those feelings won’t be the focus.

[@zoe33322]

these vlogs are my absoulte favourite thing to watch everyday!

[@cozeecoffee]

Haven’t watched all the way through yet but I love Stephen mentioning that Red Robin has a warm spot in his heart! I have the same feelings for my favorite burger spot, Freddy’s, (not sure if they have any in California) that was always the spot where my friend group went after every event, or any hangout. Such a weird thing but I totally relate 😅 okay back to watching

[@sage3260]

im pregnant right now too! and nothing has bothered me too much but as i get closer to the birth I do get sad that i'm not going to be able to have my mom in the room with me or at the hospital with me. It's an experience I always imaged being much different, but im still super grateful!

[@brandyhumphrey793]

I feel you! I had 3 kids outside of the pandemic and I’m due in July. It’s one of those things that’s so odd, but yet I was actually more alone with the other 3. This is just my first time having a supportive family and I’m sure they would want to be involved more.

[@stephanybasney1244]

There is positives and negatives to being pregnant and having a newborn in a pandemic. I just had my first in January and it sucked not having my mom in the hospital with me but its been great having my husband working from home with me during pregnancy and now while she's home its a great help to have me not get too overwhelmed.

[@ashleymillan8616]

i’m pregnant currently and due in july and it’s been hard not having my husband at the appointments. i live two hours away from you and in my county, at least the hospital i am going to give birth at they are allowing two people to be with me during labor and delivery. which i am grateful for because i get to have my husband and my mom there which has been a big weight on my shoulder because i wasn’t sure if my mom would be able to be there. however, stay strong and i’m praying for the best for you.

[@MelchipCupcake]

You do not sound ungrateful at all. I had my first daughter on April 2nd, 2020. She was due at the end of March but I had to be induced because she did not want to come out (she was probably too cozy lol). And let me tell you, when I found out that my hospital was implementing a “One support person only” policy, I bawled my eyes out. I had never pictured myself giving birth without having my mother by my side. It was an incredibly difficult thing that I had to come to terms with pretty quickly. Luckily, my partner was incredibly supportive during labor. Steven will just have to be sure to continuously keep your family updated, because for me, I was in too much pain to do it myself hahaha.

[@daniellelampo5693]

The same thing happened to us but what I will tell you is, as much of a bummer as it is, as long as everything goes well they have you out of the hospital really fast!! My mom was waiting for us as soon as we got home and I literally handed her my baby and sobbed. It’s still such a special moment so try and enjoy it all 🥰 so happy for you guys !!

[@vidcation7865]

Being pregnant during a pandemic definitely has its struggles. We are expecting our 2nd, due in April, and it has been a whirlwind of emotions for me the past couple weeks. I finally had to tell my mom that she won't be able to support me, which was hard because for our first we decided to not have anyone else in the room so my mom will not be able to experience that moment with me. It is heartbreaking, but also understand the rules to keep everyone safe. Also having discussion about when the baby is born and what types of precautions we will be taking as parents to keep her safe (we are also having a girl Sierra)! Watching your vlogs as we go on this journey makes me feel less alone, so thank you for your vlogs - I love a good Sierra pregnancy update!! Hang in there, we are in this together! ❤

[@aubrieseager6294]

I got pregnant before the pandemic so I had a really hard time with the stark change to my birth plan. I now have a 6mo baby girl who I love more than life and if I could change things I wouldn’t but nothing seemed exciting or fun about having a baby when the pandemic hit. I had a very small covid safe baby shower and I had my best friend as my birth partner. I still look back on everything and it sucks and I hope someday if I get blessed with another baby it will be a better happier pregnancy experience. Edited to add I’m so happy now as momma and I’m so happy for you and Steven!!! I can’t wait to see more of you’re parenting journey