How Therapy Helps Scapegoat Survivors Think What Used To Be Unthinkable

[@sarahlongstaff5101]

So much of this was spot-on. In my case, I kept re-entering other situations that ended up treating me the same way. There is definitely a message drilled into me that I am not allowed to say no. I am not allowed to quit that toxic job. I am not allowed to leave that toxic marriage. It's paralyzing.

[@DeannaRodriguez-u8r]

How you put this makes so much sense to me now. I was born into an emotionally immature mother, a narcissist absent father and a chronically ill brother. There was nothing left for me.

[@sueg2658]

We cannot allow anyone to steal our joy. This video hit a lot of nerves. Thank you for the video, it helps me to wrap my head around what happened.

[@lindac6919]

Thank you Jay. You put things in a way that's easy to hear and understand.

[@mores5780]

Thank you, Jay, will you consider more videos on the SG's fear of happiness ( i know you did one) and even moreso, of healing at all? Still trying to make sense of something that can't be I guess. N mother, husband, enabler father. Your videos are so sensitive with so much thoughful info.

[@cygnusrays]

Thank you Jay! Always informative, and transformative.. p.s. That chair is fabulous, you and your pooch have great taste

[@diatribe5]

Notice how it always seems to be her naptime.

[@SuziQ.]

@@diatribe5, Brizo (sp?) is a good pup.

[@bchristian85]

I have to get out from under the thumb of the narcissist first. The current times we are living in make it hard to do that. The 2020s are the narcissists' decade.

[@rubberbiscuit99]

I doubt it will last a decade. There are many of us who have fought our way out from under them, and there is a lot of information available to educate people about narcissists and their behavior. Yes, they are dominant, but their hubris will always be their downfall.

[@lauramarshall2479]

Jay, thank you so much for articulating the negative beliefs many of us struggle with - naming them makes me feel less alone and more empowered to change them. Could you please consider a video exploring how suicide impacts shame and narcissism within families.

[@saramichael3837]

Would you please make a video on how we are prone to re traumatising ourselves when we are triggered and can project the same things we were rejected for when around unsafe people exposing ourselves to more trauma. It’s easier to accept our business card that was handed to us by our caregivers when we are triggered in vulnerable situations. Thank you for this 🙏🏼 great video as always 🙏🏼 My teacher told me last week, I am 47 went back to school, that I am the common factor in all the situations I was telling her. If it were not for your videos I would have let her remark get to me and bruise me.

[@SuziQ.]

What? We are all the common factor in our own lives. Your teacher needs to go back to school, and be careful about what kind of damage she can cause with a careless blanket statement like that. I’m sorry that happened to you. You went back to school at 40+! That’s awesome! That teacher isn’t, though. Edit (“borrowed” from the next comment): don’t let anyone steal your joy.

[@cebruthius]

Why the video reupload?