How They Will React...When You Know Who They Are /What Happens When You Reject a Narcissist

[@lisaaromano1]

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[@DeborahCharette-o3i]

OMG! I AM IN LOVE WITH A NARCISSISTIC AND HE IS AUTIST AND IS THE EXACT PERSON THAT YOU ARE DESCRIBING AND I MOVED OUT AND HE WAS THREATENING TO SEE OTHER WOMEN ON THE SEX DATING SITE AND FELL IN LOVE WITH HER AND SHE STOPPED SEEING HIM AND HE BLAMED ME FOR HER LEAVING AND SAYS THE MOST HURTFUL THINGS KNOWING THAT I AM MADLY IN LOVE WITH HIM I HAVE LEARNED SO MUCH FROM YOU YOU AND I HAVE BEEN WITH HIM FOR 8 YEARS AND I HAVE LOST MY DAUGHTER STEPHANIE IN 12.20.12.AND I HAVE NEVER KNOWN ANYTHING ABOUT NARCISSION AND YOU HAVE DESCRIBED MY LIFE. I HAVE BEEN THRU EVERYTHING YOU HAVE DESCRIBED.

[@sandrawicker994]

How do I get out of the relationship without them knowing I know. I’m fairly really on in his game. I don’t want retaliation.

[@almcelroy4818]

Only way I have found to hurt a narcissist and protect yourself is to go no contact suddenly. And that means "NO CONTACT" NO explanation is needed. They'd never give you closure. You don't owe them closure.

[@Makebahtafari]

They really are like Dracula take all your energy since i became aware of my mother she has got people to attack me she actually ran off snd leftover me for dead told me she was watching from afar with a grin on her face she still came around me like nothing happened I was furious now i

[@vdgitaliano]

Thank you for these videos! I was in a 7 year relationship from 1995 to 2002... 23 years have past and I was still feeling the pain and confusion. Your words have taken away so much stuff and self blame that I was convinced of by my oppressor.

[@janadanielletackett6337]

NEVER, EVER tell a narcissist a secret, a weakness, or anything private!!! YOU WILL REGRET IT!

[@fluffiedoom]

A lot of times we told them things before we knew they were going to abuse us. It's not an issue with normal healthy relationships. I'd say it's important to share who we are and how we feel. If that person turns around and exploits it? BYE.

[@lc-bb6bd]

Yes because they will definitely use it against you when they feel like they need to.

[@sweetcapricorn]

Don't close yourself off but use discernment remember flags and patterns but sharing is how we connect. The 1st time they say or do something offensive just walk away the right one will come in the right time whether its romantic or not

[@karenfoster2123]

I am in the worst smear campaign ever. My narc is my twin sister. Now I know why my banker, doctors, pharmacist, my friends, her friends, law enforcement, my ex husband, ex boyfriend all think Im crazy and all abandoned me until there is nobody left on the planet that will listen to me. She got them all. My neighbors, roommates there is no help to be had. This is heartbreaking

[@Karlien68]

@@karenfoster2123 I am so sorry for you...hang ik there 😞🙏💜

[@Wolf.moon23]

I'm not sad because I'm loosing her. I'm sad because I'm grieving the person I thought she was.

[@jacquelinevd977]

Same here, went no contact after 50 years of narcissistic abuse of my own malicious younger sister, being yealous of me assuming my life went over roses.

[@onlyhere4thecomments80]

Thiiiiiis 😢

[@denisecarpenter7596]

It's really hard to get past the illusion you fell so in love with ain't it?

[@aijazsiddique8713]

Well look at the bright side. Now you know. Better late than never!

[@almor2445]

I feel the same about mine. This comment is repeated all over videos like this. It's like we all knew the same fake person.

[@1948rambo]

When you finally SEE it- you can’t not see it!

[@Parke-htme]

Easy to beat once you see it.

[@GeminiTwinning]

It's like the Matrix. Like WTAF!!!

[@GeminiTwinning]

​@Parke-htme ah I wish it was for me. I'm happy you were able to do so I wish I was able and you are saving yourself so much extra stress ❤ I am so sucked in but it's baby steps. Just went NC a few weeks ago. It hurts but not as badly as when I found out and actually *accepted* it for what it was. My dad says it is like recovery. One must surrender first. And I did. But it was a hellish 18 mos.

[@MrSivilla]

So true.

[@PrettyToez07]

You mean you can't UN-SEE it.

[@terryhutchings7701]

For sure the first sign you are in a narcissistic relationship is when you ask yourself ‘what the heck is going on here’. Don’t ignore those feelings that something is off. It is NOT you.

[@FunUrth4All]

I know right? It's like, what the fuk just happened?

[@i_gotballz5356]

Wish I had a strong support group out any friends anymore I admit I’m arrogant and sometimes I feel like I’m the man

[@shantymitri7301]

Thankfully I eventually found the courage to get a divorce

[@jamescoburn6789]

I have found that the first sign was the random rug pull when they end it out of the blue.

[@sandrawilley7782]

Its amazing how they act like you're the one with a problem

[@GeminiTwinning]

The "identified patient"

[@JesusIsKingOfKings88]

When my wife started doing this to me, I thought I was losing my mind. That and her projecting my feelings back onto me was driving me up the wall!

[@lonewolfy1234]

Yes exactly what she did to me.. I'm always the weird, crazy one...

[@Eden-qh4el]

Well I'm definite not perfect. I think she has a lack of compassion and empathy for me and she stonewall me for days or weeks when I misbehave or call her out. But I think I am wrong sometimes and there have been times where I've deserved it but I don't deserve it sometimes.

[@susanzimmer1776]

my husband divorced me after 45 years,he has is ruining my reputations

[@raynesnowye275]

Anything you share with the narcistic person will be brought up with every disagreement. Be careful what you share.

[@tiffanywest5636]

They tell everyone I was unappreciative. Been stalked drugged poisoned property destroyed. Tortured psychological and physical. They really believe they own me. 3 years I left. Took my daughter. Had to run during covid. Wasn't safe anywhere. God I need help!

[@leapingjoseph8462]

YEs, so so true. They use your weaknesses against you too.

[@vtymes1982]

They will make up lies too

[@rachelvaron1378]

@@tiffanywest5636 use the safe houses whole new life after healing. Do it for your child. Start with google- Rachel's House's CA Underground freeway across usa

[@user-qt1le6ih6i]

@@tiffanywest5636 They're so predictable, that's for sure. They all use the same script (Unappreciative, ungrateful, bi-polar, jealous, envious, aggressive, challenging, mentally unstable, etc). It's all Projection yet those they tell, believe their lies because they're such convincing liars. I was targeted by a female NPD type a while back. She was extremely but subtly abusive. I think she was the grandiose type of Narcissist. What's sad is that she works in the NHS (National Health Service, UK) as an Art Psychotherapist and works in secluded, locked wards with those with Autism and Learning Difficulties. She refers to them as "Challenging and Manipulative" and she also works in a female prison. I feel so very sad that she is working with vulnerable adults. She was by far the most hostile, deviant, manipulative con-artist I've unfortunately crossed paths with, to date. I would even go so far as to say her malignant narcissism over-lapped with Sociopathy. I'm free of her now but feel deeply for those in her 'care'.

[@maryharris9823]

If you are a codependent you fear setting boundries because you feel it will end the relationship you crave. But then you wise up and realize you never had it.

[@chinhphan4787]

Had a narcissist claim to be an empath and codependent. 😂

[@jumbolumps666]

​@@chinhphan4787someone calling themselves "an empath" as an identity/badge/label is a huge red flag. It's "I'm special and gifted in a way that makes me better than you." Healthy people are more likely to say something along the lines of, "I try to be an empathetic person." Big difference in humility there

[@CandyOnAChopstick]

Truest summary I’ve ever read

[@mzny4314]

@maryharris9823 thank you for your insight, it’s a good reminder ❤

[@JagaJaga-eu4ic]

​@@Replenishyourheartsame here

[@JL-by6ce]

The beauty of a narcissistic person is they force you to become a better person. They don't realize it, but you don't see their faults and begin a process to better yourself to keep them. The problem is, as you become better, they will beat you back down. If you realize this, cherish the better person you are becoming and then do it for yourself. That's when you give up on them and notice all the wonderful things about yourself. They basically gave you new personal toys and tools to move on in life with 💞

[@CATALINAG1]

AH HA!!! Serious Lessons learned right! ? KNOW THYSELF🙏🏼

[@BaByCaKeZ106]

omg thiiiiiiis!!!! This is what I went thru to a T!!!!! Perfectly said! Now that I'm even better than I was he became obnoxious and scary and tried everything to bring me down and I was so unbothered lmaoooo it tears them up and I love it!!!!

[@paulagould5853]

I ended a 56 yr marriage with a narcissist. He took up with his high school love who would not marry him then because one man wasn't enough. I am in no contact now I the one thing he is not doing is harassing me. I have not nor will I talk to him, ask him for anything. He is a person who holds a grudge forever so why would he pick her? I think it to get back at me for leaving him. He wanted us to be friends. He isn't living with his new supply. I don't think he even really sees her that often. I am going to therapy & am doing well. It's getting easier every day. Pray for me, this is very hard but I'm living the rest of my life ,"MY WAY"!!!

[@augustinaluvuezo8632]

You will surely get healed hold on there

[@Djdatboiichozen]

❤ factz💯

[@triplekids3]

I left a narc husband of 33 year marriage I’m in freedom for 4 months now and I’m loving the freedom first Christmas by myself first time in 56 years no toxic people in my life

[@michelleraymond3255]

Triplekids3 I am sure your peace is more than well deserved. My 28 year marriage ended exactly a year ago. Never been more at peace as well. Blessings! And merry 🎄 Christmas

[@triplekids3]

@@michelleraymond3255 yes don’t have to take care of babies know more and merry Christmas to you

[@StrudelNoodle]

Merry Christmas. You just gave yourself the best present ever!

[@joyciejd9673]

Merry Christmas. You gave yourself a wonderful gift when you took back your life

[@kimgibbs6585]

There's Nothing Like Peace. God Bless You Merry Xmas and many Happy. NewYears to come.

[@djonatek9439]

Let us pray for all victims of narcissism.

[@leapingjoseph8462]

Thank you. I need prayers.

[@IamJontelNicol]

Absolutely.

[@michellemoffett9458]

Thank you DJ. I've suffered from an ex who was a covert narcissist and my father a malignant narcissist. It really messes with a person's mind but prayer and God gets me through!

[@itsme3236]

@@michellemoffett9458 God protected my very life from my ex so keep believing God gets you through. I'm living proof he does and will.

[@malibudolphin3109]

Thank you. Prayers are definitely needed.

[@longbone6416]

I'm so tired...they wear you out so you give up

[@PersonalGrowthNow]

Exacttly. They wear you the hell out!

[@vibehigh5280]

Yes yes!! Couldn't agree more. At first couldn't figure it out, and thought it was just me . But when I went no contact lo and behold I feel so free and peaceful, sure there's pain, grief , rage, wanting to revenge, anger, etc but it got better with clarity and knowledge about the personality.

[@vibehigh5280]

@@PersonalGrowthNow right!

[@PersonalGrowthNow]

Their greatest weapon against our light is mental mind games. We must not fall for it. It’s all a ploy to get us to question our reality.

[@anneroarty6473]

Spot on I hope you have went no contact . You deserve better. Merry Christmas.

[@aprilarmijo6967]

They love to say your so disrespectful and horrible when you set boundaries and fight back!

[@jazzowilliams1536]

Or immature or toxic!

[@Sand24]

They can go into a rage in a nano second. Watch their eyes, lips and facial expression. They manifest evil. I want a relationship that will grow and thrive.

[@christinelamb1167]

Yes, they are evil! I have watched my mother's face do that nano-second change many times over the years. Sometimes she will try to hide it, if t suits her purposes, but other times she just goes into a rage! I am no contact for 8 months now, at the age of 57! I finally gathered the strength and courage to say goodbye to that toxic relationship. I am sad to not have a mother, but in reality I never did anyway.

[@poppyt4996]

@@christinelamb1167 I had to do the same with my Mother in my 70's!! Every year on my Birthday she would call and let me know how horrible it was when I was born. Just wondering if you have any siblings and how they treat you. My Mother passed away last year just after I had foot surgery and I was not able to attend her funeral in another state. My Sisters, (her flying monkeys), were so nasty I had to get a lawyer to get my share of the estate - I felt I deserved it after all I had been through.

[@christinelamb1167]

@@poppyt4996 I have one sister, and she was the "golden child" in the family. I was more the "black sheep", the one that was blamed for all the problems, while my sister could do no wrong. I realized a few years ago how tired I was of putting up with my sister's nastiness, and decided to walk away from that relationship. Good for you, for standing up for yourself in getting your share of your mom's estate! Family's can get pretty vicious when it comes to an inheritance, especially a family of narcissists.

[@barbaramarshall5271]

@@christinelamb1167 my mum is 70 and I'm 49, I guess I'm the same too

[@turtlelake5560]

bingo! and it usually takes about three days for that spirit to go back down.

[@louisdangelo9375]

Narcissistic behavior to me is the root of evil.

[@MusaFinderi]

It has become the norm, because the system is narcistic, abusive, lying and deceitful. Protect yourself all times

[@abigailgbadebo4437]

You are right! It's spirt of Wickedness.

[@MoreFunInTheNewWorld]

@@MusaFinderisocietal narcissism

[@roberthoward6590]

@@MoreFunInTheNewWorld I think people who have a narcissistic tendency can be trained to leap into the abyss. It is a principal cause of war. Our country is suffering through a narcissistic epidemic.

[@adnevabrown1354]

Pure evil, I saw it with my spiritual eyes and my heart❤

[@djonatek9439]

Have you noticed they totally belittle you Infront of everyone and then you try to speak they just ignore you..

[@Xelets]

I feel you so much in this.

[@destineehill446]

So true!!

[@wokeupsassi6334]

Yup... Passive agressive disrespect... Attempt to humiliate.. Make you feel less than... Heartless... Shallow and void of real emotion... Dead inside

[@annbotley8453]

@@wokeupsassi6334.

[@wokeupsassi6334]

@@annbotley8453 Shine on my friend🤗

[@frankysuggs3450]

Beware of the narcissist that constantly tells you that they are an good person good people show you they don't need to tell you

[@serina_makeup_mama4094]

This is my bf lol

[@rockann23]

Amen

[@garretteshealey7947]

Yep had this happen with this guy I just met..Always expressing how he is such a great guy..over and over....normal people don't constantly tell others how good they are ...They show it through their actions...I can't stand a liar....people like this disgust me...I WILL NEVER BE SOMEONES SUPPLY EVER AGAIN.

[@Darnetta-z9c]

Exactly

[@steffenworldcitizensurf5926]

Very true. It’s the same with dumb people calling smart people dumb. A smart person is wise enough to never call a dumb person Dumb.

[@briannasnyder1309]

When dealing with a narcassist, they are NOT playing by the same rules as the rest of us.

[@ElsieDee001]

Narcissists are similar to sociopaths in that they have their own rules.

[@jjjackson5183]

They have a hidden agenda...it is to win.

[@Areutherehello]

@@ElsieDee001 True. I knew a female narc who was a student in grad school. She was truly a nasty woman. A top professor politely asked her to take her laptop and move to a different room because someone was going to hold a meeting in the very room where she was working. She didn't even look at him and said, "No." The professor then said visibly irritated, "I guess you just live by your own rules, yes?" Without missing a beat, and still not looking at him, she answered, "Yep. That's right." They had to hold the meeting around her. Self-absorption.

[@aehrmartinez7062]

They have different rules, they are constant liar.

[@jodyjones5932]

@@ElsieDee001 my narc have took my keys to my new flat he tried to make me lose then droght all decorating things paint everything h had cause he fell off setty the nabour knocked to c if I was ok he grabbed my Taha o I said fk off took his dad's drill and left I'm over him should I change my locks

[@thriveafternarc7454]

If you are suffering because of a narcissist, remember you are loved, beautiful and worthy. Never give up on yourself! 💗

[@cyrilsmth]

Ive wanted to alot,even sat and seriously thought about it.tried to get government help to get her away from me but that backfired soooo badly

[@deniser.826]

@@cyrilsmth same. I'm stuck too....it's awful. I just confronted him too n he flipped clear out on me....idk what I'm gonna do

[@nicknorthcutt7680]

Thank you 😥

[@staffordjones5657]

Wonderful Savior

[@sarahdennard2954]

Pp0ppp00

[@thesavagereservation]

"Every conversation is a mind game." Thank you!

[@EmmieTuesday]

describes my aprn/counselor completely.

[@bebebe1354]

Sooo true.. Where was this video 25 years ago...

[@sharoncorrell943]

My exnarc bf started saying "let's have some intelligent conversation"...It was always when we were in the car. I would just look at him like "wtf" cause I knew he was full of it at that point.

[@JoAnnValenzuela920]

This is probably true 99 % of the time but there is always an exception to everything under the sun. CIA FBI and other programs run Disinformation, and Misinformation and look alike's programs, MKultra and other things to Still kill and destroy your Finances, family, sanity, ect.ect.ect.

[@momfromnj911]

Just dumped mine last week after a year and a half Can't believe I waited that long 🤦‍♀️

[@toyabdool5127]

A narcissist is someone you need to stay very far from.

[@yanitepierre-louis9814]

The divorce lawyers and judges need to educate themselves about the narc.

[@meredithheath5272]

You ARE NOT Kidding!!!

[@mehranmossaddad1656]

I and my 10 year old have been through hell and we can't get help. Men can't get help. We have lived with a monster for 11 years. And can't break free, takes a sack of money we don't have

[@mehranmossaddad1656]

I know this is cruel but the needs of the many out weights the needs of a few. But the covert narc should be either steril or tattooed the cause so much pain so much agony to so many. My wife's mom had 5 kids all have severe issues. One created 5 and God knows how many suffered at her hands.

[@meredithheath5272]

@@mehranmossaddad1656 You are so correct! There MUST be legislation to facilitate this!!!!

[@mehranmossaddad1656]

@@meredithheath5272 honestly 6 years ago when I first brought her to the states she falsely accused me and put me through hell. They didn't even hear me, I was guilty before I went in. Not but two words out of me but 10 hrs of her .... Lost my business, my social statues, she would put the move on all my friends, then go around bad mouth me, got so traumatized couldn't even function, broom stick in one hand and the thumb on 911 in the other and if I tried to call she would hit or scratch herself. Our lives were hell on earth. it took the help of a very knowledgeable psychiatrist as life coach to help me to stand up and get out come what may otherwise me and my daughter would have ended up dead or in shelters. My coach doesn't know the laws here he is prominent psychiatrist but not here in the states, one of the very best. He thought I should sue the court for all my pain and suffering.

[@salonsavy6476]

7 months No Contact,, blocked on all devices,, Christmas was peaceful & quiet,, no oppression,, no anxiety,, no devaluing,,,, yeh 👍👍👍🕊🕊🕊

[@sswans9664]

So proud for you! They'll RUIN every. Single. Holiday. & special occasion. They. Are. Alive!!

[@raychelwasserman-nix1508]

🤩✊🏼🆒👍🏼

[@buttnakedsignatureseasonings]

I'm at 7 months too, Hallelujah here's too you 👌

[@valariecrebbs4751]

❤️

[@crystalclimenhage7159]

Did u have.anxiety when u first left?

[@lisamarie3734]

Those who clicked the down button are narcissistic people. This content was very helpful

[@lianad4910]

Agreed! Very helpful. Expose the enemy.

[@JavierGarcia-zq2pz]

@@lianad4910 1#

[@fpridgeway]

Exactly

[@barbaragrace4446]

EXACTLY

[@ginamenk3347]

I can spot a narcissist very quickly now! Don't need them in my life have no problem shutting them down!

[@Saiub]

If you catch a narcissist cheating they will never trust YOU again 😐

[@gracesunshine6716]

spot on

[@justjules6975]

Or lying!

[@gabrielehalley8533]

lying dis respect pornography is a big piece

[@ali.iswell]

@@gabrielehalley8533 this is exactly what just ruined my relationship. He betrays me with pornography, again , I calmly bring it up and then I get broken up with.

[@shantymitri7301]

Agreed 💯

[@vocals7693]

Narcissists want to play the blame game, projecting everything onto you for things they know they've done, or are doing wrong. What they hate most is having a guilty conscience. Hence their 'lashing out' in defensiveness. They don't want to he reminded of what they know they're guilty of because that would mean having to come clean and say they're sorry, and since narcissists are all about ego, saying sorry is not in their vocabulary.

[@franksimmons9242]

Yes, they don't realize they always tell on themselves. Always.

[@natalie99901]

Spot On. I've experienced similar things myself. 💜🕊🦉💞👊🙏

[@daneishalarts5405]

You nailed it 👏 👌

[@dianesamp9102]

OMG ABSOLUTELY TRUE!!!!!!

[@444LAAH]

So so so true

[@marthacarter6750]

I am writing this comment in tears. I have a beautiful daughter inside and out who is married to the classic Narcissist and it breaks my heart I saw through him years ago and how he used sickness to tear her apart Thank you for telling your story❤️ If you are a Christian reading this comment please pray for her.

[@melissaschaub1275]

Praying for your daughter, you and the rest of your family! Lord, either make a way for a safe escape, or if her husband will ever come to you, may it be soon and an obvious Damascus Road experience!

[@mikeyshappylife4424]

I'll pray for your daughter...

[@mikeyshappylife4424]

Please also pray for me. I have been seperated for 2 months now and still the awful texts keep coming ..blames me for everything. I believe he may be a narc, not sure, but certainly verbally abusive.

[@syg3540]

Please pray for us also, I need support to get away from this Sick NARC Nextdoor and the COPS do nothing 🙏

[@Hokes1919]

@@mikeyshappylife4424 you may have to change your number

[@sonyahutchins6609]

You have nailed it.. this is my husband. 28 yrs.and I called him on it! No more tears..I am so done. Filing for divorce tomorrow! Prayer are appreciated!

[@angela4mua512]

My prayers go out to you..I am so grateful now for these videos that will equip us with the right tools to know, persevere and come out victorious!

[@klarcykgang493]

Did u file?

[@cristiepellegrin8064]

How are you doing? Darkest hour is before dawn.

[@sonyahutchins6609]

@@cristiepellegrin8064 I'm doing ok ... thanks so much for asking! Things took much longer than had anticipated.. ice storm in Texas will definitely hold things up..lol I did get moved out and things are moving forward. I think what im most angry about is.. he has taught my sons how not to respect me! And that's what I'm mad about. I know he treated me badly but the damage I've allowed him to do to my children that's on me and I can't forgive myself for that! Maybe in time I can but .. thats another chapter I guess. Im focusing on fixing me right now. GOD THAT SOUNDS SO SELFISH!! 🙃 Again thank for checking up on me that is very kind of you! 😁

[@sonyahutchins6609]

@@sadiej5281 32 yrs oh dear! I know how you feel and if I was only rich I'd make sure anyone wanting to leave a toxic relationship woukd be able to so so. But my friend it wasn't courage it was more like self preservation. I was dying a slow slow lonely death and hating him at the same time. I am not a hater but I learned how to be. I will keep you in my prayers because I know everything fell in to place because of other people's prayers and my own. Hang in there.. your stronger than u think you are!

[@fokker34]

I was hooked in this cycle. I'm walking away finally, I stayed too long, got addicted to and patiently waited for those short lived, inevitable love bombs. After the last discard, I gathered my strength to walk away. Now I'm working on myself. I won't ever think I can help or fix anyone with a personality disorder, if I sense there is one, I'm out. Most people have issues, I like to think my baggage fits in the overhead compartment.

[@Roses-lilac]

I’ve always described these people as energy vampires. Before I even knew what a narcissist was!

[@loudpackshawty5849]

I called them toxic at first

[@cherylbarban1707]

My Son's Girlfriend is A Mentally and Physically ABUSIVE, I Don't know What to do anymore?

[@cherylbarban1707]

@@janchapman3746 Hello, Thank You for responding, My son has been living with this Demon for 10 years, I don't speak to her due to hear cursing at me,I have tried to help my Son Joshua, to leave her,but he doesn't listen, I never get to see him unless she lets him and then he still answers every call ever 10 minutes, I have been praying for this to stop,now he has a drinking problem,I believe she has something over him, I had to let go and forgive, AMEN 💜🙏 God Have Mercy

[@drumdad54sdl47]

@@cherylbarban1707 Unfortunately, there isn't much you can do until your son sees her for what she truly is, decides he deserves better & ditches her like a bad habit. Pray for him to see the light.

[@Katbog]

I swear I called my ex a energy vampire and I really wasn’t even aware of narcissism! I didn’t realize the person I was dealing with until I escaped.

[@tiyastokey5719]

100% get out NOW if you relate to this at all. My narcissist almost killed my soul. We got this survivors👊

[@theknifeman7097]

She actually almost killed me broken skull deaf in my right ear but the destruction of my heart is the worst pain however being free finally feels much much better.

[@bdaina]

My narcissistic husband is so cruel. I’m taking steps to leave but I am just about destroyed so that makes it so difficult.

[@ld3418]

I was dyng on trip with malignant NPD mother. As I lay in seizures on bed while husband went to hotel. desk for ambulance, she mockingly cajoled me about confessing apologies to her. my brain was fogged but survival instinct strong enough to just say I was sorry this was happening. she stormed back home next day. It took me over a year to recover. She never inquired or traveled to visit as if I had ruined her vacation. No contact. Good life!

[@_Anna_Nass_]

@@bdaina ‘Vengeance is mine, and recompense, for the time when their foot shall slip; for the day of their calamity is at hand, and their doom comes swiftly.’ That verse helps me a lot. Vengeance is not my job. In due time, God will handle it.

[@annamariamazzola7486]

Thank you

[@bluemosquedesign]

Narcissism feels like a bigger issue in our country than people are making of it.

[@SOSM209]

I agree it IS Really bad!

[@nicolagrant5450]

The spirit is everywhere. Instagram and stars embody this. Even within certain social movements you can see it. All about self, pride and covetousness. It will get worse in the last days

[@SOSM209]

@@nicolagrant5450 🤝✌🏼☦️

[@JEHOVAH485]

It's HUGE. It is the spirit of the anti-christ. Self worship and adulation albeit they are often unconscious to their self-delusion

[@aniac4459]

@@nicolagrant5450 those people seem possessed

[@MistresstheMediator]

My Narc used to always use that “You just wanna be single” line instead of focusing on the fact I was miserable in the relationship and owning up to how He contributed

[@DANNYTHEFROG123]

Yes. I'd rather be with me than with a toxic person. I would respond ok to that message.

[@Danzaxe69]

I was discarded just this morning. Knew it was coming and vowed this time I wouldn't lose my mind. I kept myself together and laid out the truth in the best way possible. This made her snap. Best snap ever. I was unaffected, wished her well and good luck (Lord knows she'll need it). Dont get me wrong, this rips my soul to shreds, but it's happened before and each time I level up. And with the help of these videos will come outta this better and stronger and with much more wisdom.

[@timharry5168]

Let's heal my friend

[@lovestolaugh]

I'm praying for the guy I married to leave me. I WANT to be discarded!

[@sigthom3711]

How are u doing one month later?

[@wildwoodsgirl1706]

Don't get back into the relationship, please.

[@desertrose4167]

Hang in there, Dan! You got this!

[@tonyda1509]

She’s good at explaining this in the simplest way. They have temper tantrums and you can also see the silent tantrum going on inside of them through their actions,etc

[@gracemcloughlin9305]

Yes, you'll catch them talking to themselves!

[@karenwilson7757]

@@gracemcloughlin9305 yes they do !!! All the times . Locked up in the shower. Evil cruel haunted ppl they are.

[@kellilee4287]

So tru

[@shirleymason2321]

@@kellilee4287 especially those with alcohol addictions

[@alexiaattard6038]

@@proudamerican2133 my same story

[@ziziroberts8041]

I've stopped questioning myself. Narcissism became a team sport in my family. I'm done playing. They're never going to change.

[@berifan390]

They're Never going to change .I have on experience

[@jacquessmith5347]

Keep thinking that way

[@artisanconcrete1212]

Sometimes you really have to run, run far away and never look back because blood really isn't thicker than water especially when it's diluted. Stay strong and independent.

[@professorx8549]

With all due respect. Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a diagnosis and a Mental Illness. It is listed in Manuel used by Mental Health Professionals.

[@paigemcparland5336]

I've been questioning myself since the day I was born. I'm now 59 and I can't seem to get away from my family.

[@laurahennessy2893]

When I saw behind the mask, 😢 it was a day I will never forget. 10/27/2020 my day of Freedom.

[@xxaguadaxx]

proud of you Laura!

[@isaachowardjr4717]

Been with one for twenty years, highly draining and full of negative energy. Stay close to God, and positive people and vibes. Don’t surround yourself with negative people or evil people. They’re demons.

[@JaneDoe-sm2lm]

pray for their deliverance God is able if they are willing.

[@cookingkelly1192]

Hi how are you doing ?

[@Me-ts1fs]

I agree

[@idilmoussa591]

Demons is the accurate word. That is their real nature!

[@tional5266]

I agree, you'll feel literally lighter once you're free

[@ellasladek3124]

A narcissist is in a relationship without actually relating , so well said ! And so true , we talk with them , but they never hear you or validate you , no wonder we were always so frustrated when trying to talk with them ! It’s better to save your breath to cool your soup

[@barbaraketter7627]

I was just saying to a friend narcs are like vampires!

[@barbaraketter7627]

Dracula...

[@Yesterwoman]

Thank you

[@ellajohnson438]

Girl facts❤

[@michaelthatcher732]

For the longest time I could not figure out why we could not have a normal conversation because the frustration level was always so high

[@rodotoledo2034]

If you think dealing with a narcissist is bad, just imagine dealing with a narcissistic addict. As we know, even good people can became extremely egocentric when they do drugs. But when a narcissist does drugs it is a freaking nightmare. I was in this relationship for only about 5 months and my life turned upside down. We are no longer together but I’m still dealing with the aftermath. When you spot a narcissist RUN AWAY!!!

[@Wanjamburu.23]

Absolutely

[@anneiconex1473]

Wow 5 months and you're out, you're so lucky. I went 30 years.

[@rodotoledo2034]

@@anneiconex1473 Wow Anne! Every time I watch these videos and try to educate myself on this subject, I always think of people like you, who spent most of their lives in a relationship with a narcissist. I can only imagine how sad and destructive this can be. I really do hope you are free, safe and ready to live a good life. Good luck in your journey!

[@smudgerbugg]

I just finished my narc ex today. Before I did she always said she was going to go back to smoking weed and stuff like that. That was a red flag alone then I finally had my eyes opened by videos like this and my father. After watching some of these since I dumped her, I feel so much better. It makes it easier to move on when you are educated on narcissism. Now I know exactly how to avoid getting intimate too quick and what red flags to look out for. I feel lucky that it was only a month into the relationship it was clear on who she truly was until it was too late.

[@lanao2377]

How do I convince my sister to leave her ex

[@sendfoods]

"narcissism is not a diagnosis it's a personality trait" ❤ never heard this before but it's a great way to look at dealing with a narcissist. 4:34

[@Vicky-qw3tk]

personality disorder

[@blugularis]

it's not a trait, it's who and what they are...

[@smalltownglobalproductions]

That is not a correct statement. Narcissism is a diagnosis if it is severe and pervasive in a person's life. But healthy individuals may exhibit narcissistic tendencies and not have the diagnosis.

[@deborahbergman3566]

Correct, personality disorders are derivatives of ptsd and child abuse (including narcissistic injury) . Narcissism is a personality trait. We all have it for survival and competition.... morbid narcissism is a whole other level.

[@drnope3289]

Lots of personality traits are treated as diagnoses these days..

[@pattiewoodall2488]

"Giant two year old" is the best description I've heard to date.

[@randideelancaster9904]

They really are 😂 the one I know throws full blown temper tantrums, stops his feet, yells, untill you give them what they want, once I realized it I couldn't stop laughing and he got even angrier 😂 haha so silly to watch, not scary at all, how can I take him seriously now 😂

[@grietdierick4986]

with a pacifier 🤣🤣🤣

[@vyoufinder]

Mine is 8 years old after narcissistic injury. Exactly 8. Her interests shift to 1981, her voic goes little girl, calls me mean "old" man, and starts literally punishing me for things her dad did or other guys. Full schizo when I remind her that I see right through her, always have, none of her gaslighting has ever worked one me, never gotten control, never spent money I didn't choose to willingly with her.. None of it. She hated me the whole time and said I was the worst guy she ever dated. YEt.. She's hoovering as I type.

[@steffenworldcitizensurf5926]

@@grietdierick4986. No. A giant two year old with a night stick.

[@synthiasimms4608]

I prefer calling them a pathetic immature kid

[@anitamalloy3459]

How about you cover the part where the narcissist makes the victim get so frustrated the narcissist makes themselves the victim

[@hugmc]

That’s them .

[@angela4mua512]

Absolutely right😨

[@Vivley93]

REACTIVE ABUSE this is called

[@paulao7022]

Narcisstic people, Love to play the victim!!!

[@dianaknight642]

Oh yeah, they are good at that.

[@Anamericanhomestead]

I got to a point where I just wanted to die. And then I made the choice. It's over. And just like you said, she started accusing me of just wanting to be single, etc. Now I'm knee deep in the smear campaign and I don't care. Losing my reputation and standing in the community and losing friends is ALL worth it as long as she's gone and I no longer have her in my life. Figuring out what she was gave me back my sanity.

[@juliecarter2048]

I get it

[@mr.j-rcs822]

Do you bro, I pray your all good now..if i ever see ya i got your beer!

[@deborahbergman3566]

......and if you did die on your own accord, that narcissist would ultimately feel they won and that you were never worthy. Hope you're doing well in life. Your experience will only make you stronger.

[@DeitrichWright]

I can surely relate my brother I went through the same thing for 15 and some years but now I know and Knowing is Half the battle

[@tristinjoy]

i felt this same way

[@HeiliRam-e3g]

I have LEARNED that … “ NARCISSISTS are like HORROR movies, “ With ENDLESS sequels.

[@Hope4BettaDayz]

I see it all so clearly now. I was too open, I expected ME out of them. I allowed all of my boundaries to be crossed, thinking that the things that I compromised were going to prove to them how much I loved them. I wish that I knew all of these things then. I denied all of the signs. They got me back for seeing their mask slip, and trying to communicate with them that the behaviors weren't how people who love one another, treat each other. They discarded me in the worst way, with zero care or thought to my shattered heart. I will NEVER love myself that little again. Lesson learned. Remember... You can not help them. You can only save yourself.

[@vickihuddle9013]

I also started reading everyone's post here and was floored that everyone had said pretty much the same things and it described my situation to the T! Thank you!

[@awakeknowledgeYawehseemyhell]

This husband want save me Is what i did for the second am i him now i Ve ptsd @edelweissdebergbaldrian7696 yes reptiles they feed your painhe find One did her my clone but32 and she50what a perfect slaves they not have soul @hannahhughes4801 yes i m the younger wife when exit jail i said i m going Tomarry the third time 32. I have my soulmate but at twenty widow both in street he was36 as now is48her daugther i said her your father ruined me wanted u and i keep u he pretended tò be like me cause same music he never did china with i was adict he becaame for two years of violenze love i Ve still no Friends but i m well i said him i m going To marry so he Is marry my clone but i was twenty She we four ex wife and child left warned her She don t know how time went jail and his son hate him my daugther had my personality She cry helpleds i said we going through street as i with my mom my dad was the same he dont care are Monster i was wonderful he not even handsome but forca year pretended so good stupid her he has my portrait name Lia Forever mine everywhere

[@JoeyBvr]

They like hurting others, it makes them feel like life is more fair since others have to suffer like they do it makes them feel like they're equal

[@eye-leenlove]

Amen!!!!

[@ORHANBAKI-kb9ju]

A great, useful description, comment and wisdom. Orhan Baki, Şenlikköy-Florya/Istanbul-Turkey.

[@zofienilsson9766]

1 year and 9 months no contact and i'm still exhausted but my soul is peaceful! Love from sweden 💕

[@ka8990]

I know right. One year and a month and I'm still exhausted

[@carynmartin6053]

Good for you!

[@paganrevolutionary1269]

Gratulerar med två år av fred

[@jennyinthewoods7887]

3 years no contact and I absolutely love the peace and quiet. I no longer have to question my own sanity.

[@Starfish3241]

Me, too. Just need to keep healing.

[@sabat8068]

Love bombing leaves you soo confused!!! I literally have asked my husband "what happened? Why are you so kind to me suddenly?" and he'd say "why wouldn't i, you are MY wife!" and i fall for it, till the next episode of abuse.

[@Cassiehope888]

So confusing... And it's a pattern

[@mikeyshappylife4424]

Been there done that.

[@teresa8984]

It's messed up ... Really messed up .. keeping pg

[@susanmoser8864]

sabat, my husband did the same. They are fully broken.

[@jessicamoon1983]

My husband is the same way it’s so hard to deal

[@msm3668]

Listening to your content made me realize that, if you merely resist reacting to a narcissist, they will STILL feel abandoned.

[@sheenanar7342]

Yes! I notice that they feel they are perfect and everyone else is less than them or below they level.

[@toosexy7955]

that is what mine thought, I taught him a lesson, He hit me & I literary knocked his brains out, With his own Beer Bottle, It was me or him to survive, he knew better to have attacked a woman that was battered for years, He thought he knew it all.

[@shiitakestick]

TOO SEXY~ sounds like two geniuses..

[@delg6104]

Some won't show it until later but yes they will let it slip. They'll say you think you're high and mighty/all this or tht.BUT this is really thm.

[@teenacurl4690]

What would a narcissist be when he puts out that he's extremely caring to others, even donates his time, Opposite almost as to when he Becomes self centric and mean/spiteful narcissistic?? THAT is how my Narc tricked me. He love bombed me by being a love bomber to everyone in the beginning... It felt inauthentic, even though it looked genuine...(He knew my personality type was attracted to person's who were service to others)... It quickly changed once we moved in with one another, to him controlling what time i got out of bed (because if i was up before him, even though i have an autoimmune diseases and HAD to get up, "HE couldn't sleep when I was out of bed and he had told me so before" so it was MY fault), he would argue with me that if I were to be up before him, that would be perceived that I deeply disrespected him by not coming back in the bedroom after an hour (no longer than two hours though) to tell him I'm NOT coming back to bed. It was"bad communication" on my part he said... Once we even argued (when I decided to move in together with him and it was right before my move out of state with him) about while I was camping with my family (saying good bye to them all) as I was about to move in with him 1,900 miles away... That it WAS NOT ACCEPTABLE that I hadn't contacted him at least every two hours! 😂 Where my phone didn't have a signal, so I'd have to literally drive from camp to town every two hours so that he got his "time" with me and felt like i respected him. I should've seen it then...😔 He was such a smooth operator though! Seriously😠😳. he could charm the pants off of you. When he did something so obviously abusive, his love bombing would poor on so thick, and he'd jump quickly into "help every one else out" mode, offering his charity, time, physical work and his kindness to everyone around him. It was SUPER creepy to see such wickedness that contraindicated his"kindness", which would manifest right in from of me in literally seconds. 🤔😮😯 I'm thinking maybe he's borderline personality disorder?

[@superdirty09]

Yes!! My ex gf thought she was super perfect then when I made small careless mistakes she made it seem the world was coming to an end...we literally just spoke about insecurities a few days ago and when she broke up with me she brought up my insecurities mind u when I asked her what was her insecurities she only said she had 1...she was very clever she was an ultra narcissist..there are levels of narcissism...

[@MaryAnneRosato]

"The way they get you to doubt your reality." Yep. Felt that. His gaslighting was masterful.

[@TheGurwaras]

I've learnt to get off their gaslighting by saying 'whatever and moving away from the place. And that gets him so pissed and I'm like Yesss 👊

[@Timblisi]

Your description of narcissism is the very definition of pure evil.

[@chrisgould101]

They are evil

[@johnayala2540]

The synonym of narcissism is evil

[@georgereed6735]

Yes they are worse than satan, they don't believe in God

[@jasonlunt4305]

@@georgereed6735 Geez. I don't believe in gawd either, but I'm not pure evil. And I'm misanthropic as well.

[@toniebegaytsosie8902]

So true... They tremble when they are figured them out... I feel narcissistic, myself, at times... Lol.

[@nicktheflash1]

Thank you for opening my eyes and making me realize it's not my fault. This explains what i have been dealing with from the beginning of a 3-1/2 year relationship. Narcissistic abuse. I've been through all the narcissist phases that she has explained. I've been controlled, used, look down upon, yelled at all the time, no apology, no empathy, no love, no care. The final incident was physical violence towards me hitting me and knocking me down to the ground. That was the last and final straw. I immediately left and it's now been 2 weeks and I'm never going back. Narcissistic individuals like this are evil they are never going to change. They will never have true friends or partners in life. They will die sad and alone.

[@ceebee1704]

You are never allowed to point out the narcissist's bad behaviour but they will hold a grudge against you for everything you do that doesn't follow their script. When you say no, for example. I was codependent and a people pleaser which enabled the narcissistic behaviour but didn't know this at the time. Thank you.

[@diannatomson3193]

Just realizing my husband of 17 yrs is a narcissist!! I was told it was chronic depression, anxiety and PTSD by the VA but never really added up. There was always something more. I’m 56 yrs old now and feel stuck!😢

[@mevishawan5166]

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[@dominiquepressley8799]

Same

[@TheGurwaras]

I'm married to a Narcissist who is a recovering Alcoholic too! Who feels he's through with 12 steps when I can clearly see him stuck on 1st step of acceptance of powerlessness. 🙄

[@robertfuchs5542]

I was starting to feel like I was going crazy. She was great the first 6 months, and then bam! I was literally in shock. This video might have saved me years of pain. Thank you

[@brandy7902]

Ppp

[@porterhouse5095]

Damn. Got me thinking I’m a narcissist

[@malibu90265]

@@porterhouse5095 Seriously?

[@malibu90265]

@@skoden204 Save yourself. Make a plan. Watch these videos. Be well. You can do it.

[@leojablonski2309]

Line of walking wounded forms to the right. .

[@hw2211]

I just broke off a relationship with a woman I was dating and she showed me all of these traits of draining me. Never tolerate verbal abuse from anybody.

[@JEHOVAH485]

Yes, it's SO important for women to know that good men experience this abuse too.

[@SA-gk2rt]

Blahhh. Lotz more work for you

[@Joshdifferent]

@@JEHOVAH485 facts

[@thenakedpropertywithoseye1946]

This described my 6 years of marriage compounded with domestic violence, isolation, and pathological lies from a man who was a "pastor and marriage counselor". My only response was to keep quiet because any complaint I could ever make was devalued and I was treated as though I was crazy, hormonal, or mentally sick. He kept me in a state of weakness by keeping me barefoot and pregnant. Living in fear of death for the my unborn babies, my children, and my own life was the most difficult existence living with a narcissist. Hell on earth. 😢

[@jenniferburton7044]

And no one will believe you because he’s a man of the cloth. 😢

[@leonasweny1525]

They come in all forms ,hope your healing ❤❤❤❤❤

[@maddyblackier8953]

This hits so close to home. Once I went no contact, moved to a new location and quit using Facebook altogether, suddenly all of the terrible things that were happening to me just stopped.

[@jamesmcginn8874]

Ditto--ive been out 5 years---im free to do what i want----she was too controlling---she cheated---was gambling---stole thousands--bankrupt---she lost us the house---2 cars . I could go on to write a Book .

[@jamesmcginn8874]

Same here--i haven't heard a word from my EX for years--glad i am OUT.

[@videorocketzmillar007milla5]

Yes indeed. I belive fb is like its owner Mark Z. He's created a forum of all narcs and touts it as to keep family together. I hate fb and use it just to keep track of games. My pic is my dog. Shes on point. Long story short stopped associating with bro drug addict (steals, left h in my home, telling me something didn't happen). Lived in San Francisco with my kids after divorce. Let the bro fix my car (I know better but said ok). Two cops show up at my door saying do I own a 74 Mustang license plate #). I said yes sir whats wrong? He says someone drove down a street racing almost ran over someone. I started crying and said my bro is supposed to be fixing my car! They said ok and left. I called my bro and told him cops at my door whats going on?!? He says "Sis the cops were not at the door you just imagined it." After I said ok he hang up. I can't curse him out as he would have smashed my car. After 3 months of not getting my car back I went to the garage to get it back. To my horror my car inside was destroyed! A plier was sticking out where the key goes in the ignition. Buckets seats burned with cigarette holes, tons of women's underwear and fifty clothes in the backseat and a rag in the gas instead of a cap. The owner came out saw my shocked face. He said he would buy it from me. I said ok gave me cash. I'm sobbing with my little kids. Bro screaming at me in public to PAY HIM FOR the "work" he did. I walked away he's cursing me down the street. Walked to the Department of Vehicle told them I sold my car. They ran the tickets. The computer took 20 minutes to print out 200 pages of violations. Glad I did. The guy who bought the car had to pay. I don't know how I got home. Told mom she said im a liar. Called dad who married someone else now said bro has problems just move on The rage I felt I can't describe. This was 1985. Move forward 2021 I finally told nutcase get out of my life. I haven't felt so good in all my life!!!! For some reason my life is so smooth and nice now. I'm like u the life is awesome. I'm so sorry we went thru this but we are warriors and survivors I'm still kind loving. But ppl like this I will not tolerate. Never again. Thanks for listening to my horrible story. This is just one of thousands. I'm 66 and finally FREE

[@westcoast747]

It’s the best way to deal with these toxic people. The anxiety recedes over time and you heal from this harrowing experience.

[@videorocketzmillar007milla5]

@@westcoast747 True that. My anxiety was insane. Trying to love the unlovable. O was over eating to cope. Now I'm at a good weight no more anxiety attacks eat clean no more mental fog feel greatest. So happy. Thanksvfor reading my horror story. The nightmare is over! I can finally live my life. Take care friend 💘

[@daniellesevolution]

It’s comforting to hear you say that we need to check these traits in ourselves. Because I read all these comments and everyone’s talking about a narcissist they know. Meanwhile I am realizing that I have a lot of narcissistic traits that I need to keep being aware of so they don’t run my life.

[@Rosie82333]

Girl! I was thinking the same thing! Becoming more self aware of how I AM acting too!

[@daniellesevolution]

@@Rosie82333 hell yeah, it’d be an amazing world if we all examined ourselves! I got a lot to get through in myself lol.

[@dezriellcrowe7790]

Same! It’s being constantly vigilant I would argue and remembering to take an inventory of where you’re at. Slowly but surely it will get better

[@sabrina993]

Everyone is a narcissist to some degree. Being self aware is key to change and change your own behaviour.

[@sistercirclenetwatch]

@@sabrina993 a lot may hv narcissistic traits but that does not make them a narcissist. It's almost impossible for a narcissist to change due to their nature. Look it up.

[@sheriweber6531]

If I would have seen this video sooner it would have saved me 2 years of counseling and thousands of $$. And 5 years of grief. Well done.

[@damienwelch9067]

amein

[@vasilminkov4046]

At least you saw it now and it costed you only 2 years. I don't want to minimize your pain, I am sure it was very painful for you but be happy that it was only 2 years and not 20 years lol

[@richardhodgson7693]

Yeah but personally I’m always grateful to get the validation and information that this stuff actually happens and so it wasn’t all in my head as I was made to believe for my own 2yrs experience. Had a year away from it as of this week and it’s taking me longer to get over this than it did a relaxed and loving 10yr relationship which was my first relationship and at the time I didn’t know how I’d move on yet it was still easier than an emotionally abusive controlling one where you think I’d be glad to escape… ahh, thank you ‘trauma bonding’. That’s how messed up this type of abuse is that it holds on tight. Also lost one of my friends I think because he’s making out there’s two sides (ok) but he never actually met my ex once due to it being over the 2yr epidemic. So these videos can still help long after something is “over”. Over for the abuser, not over for the person on the receiving end.

[@maryharris9823]

If you are a co dependent, probably not because you wouldn't have understood it unless you went through it first.

[@badgrand]

I’m in year four.

[@beckymadrid5894]

I can't believe how much energy the Narcissist uses up all day just trying to control everyone. It tires me. It doesn't tire them!!!! They go on and on and on. That's when it's time to leave.

[@a.okoronkwo311]

"You cannot fix a hole in the wall that you cannot see." Well said 😌

[@elizabethgeigerfeuerstein-9955]

Married 8 years to narcissistic who was so charming and witty! Never heard about narcissism.but only knew he was quite moody and needed constant praise and adoration/affirmation that he was the best dentist, tennis player and best lover, etc. Then he became verbally abuse and then physically abusive. He was like a child in a grown man’s body!! I was raising his 3 young children (1mine) and he refused to help with anything except to go to work at his dental practice.Finally could no longer take physical and mental abuse I finally knew I could not take anymore!! So I told him calmly one afternoon that I wanted an divorce for I had no respect for him anymore!! He had been saying for 2 Yrs that he wanted.a divorce! He immediately exclaimed .” I don’t want a divorce!!” The divorce was quite acrimonious and took 5 yrs. Never never date a person who shows no interest, concern nor compassion for other people including YOU!!

[@radiantsmiler3689]

Wow, thank you for sharing. It's only been 1 month in a relationship with a narc, but feels like 10 years. Feeling drained, I now reject his love bombing, charm filled with insults. Now, I'm done.

[@insha7556]

Glad you got out. That sounds exhausting! I know it takes courage to leave. Tbf, in my case he showed some interest, he would ask a question and would listen. But when I asked for advice or occasionally vented he would be nonchalant. I told him that, he just laughed it off. Meanwhile when he vented and such, I would take the time to listen and "cry with him" if you will. He said he was stoic - emotionally unavailable. He said he was confident - narcissist... bc of his _confidence_ he will not be changing his ways

[@Laura-nl8df]

Bravo Elizabeth!! Carry on!

[@The.Indian.Goddess]

True

[@kaw8473]

When my narcissistic mother realized she was losing control of me, with one phone call, she destroyed the healthy relationship I had with my oldest sister and with it, the relationship I'll never get to have with my little niece. Be brave, get out of there and prepare to have an emotional funeral for what they take from you as you're fleeing.

[@BrenMurphy1]

Well done K, it's been nine years since I cut access with my biological mother. Was advised to give her space and "let her wither". Wait for her to call me. Hasn't met her own grandchildren.. She's sick. 🌱🙏💯

[@dianadundidit5343]

I know the feeling! Mine turned all four of my sister's against me.. it didn't work with my brothers.

[@cynthiademos9804]

Perhaps your relationship with your older sister really wasn't healthy? How healthy could it be when she could dismiss you at the request of a mother who unfortunately suffers with narcissism.

[@pattytrump]

@@cynthiademos9804 I struggle with that same situation now. Narcs lie and manipulate people against you. Do you forgive those who got sucked into the narc's trap or kiss them all goodbye 4ever? Seems like the narc won and the other relationships are destroyed, no matter what. These compulsive liars are truly evil. Not a thread of decency in them.

[@patricebostick-lugo176]

@@BrenMurphy1 that is her loss. Sad 🙏🏽

[@LeighAnne-z3g]

I married 3 different narcissists. All 3 of them gave me a nickname and could not call me by my first name. Ever. I never understood this, I was a non person. I am happily awake now and have overcome some trauma in my life which led me to have 3 marriages. My father was a narcissist and childhood was awful. I finally saw what I was doing and I am happily single.

[@aijazsiddique8713]

Congratulations. You broke the cycle and now are free to choose how to live!

[@popcornstudios3497]

Either you are attracted to narcissts or you are one. You cant go wrong 3 times.😅

[@stephanieburgess8217]

I love when they say I love being alone. I have no problem living by myself or being out of a relationship but they cannot be alone and always have to be surrounded by people and always in a relationship.

[@theway9828]

What’s crazy is I can’t even take my first sip of coffee when I wake up and watch some KZbin without the narc in my life waking up to invade my space. I have to tip toe around and avoid doing things that make noise like opening foods that are wrapped in material that’s crinkly when you open it. My alone time is essential and important for my sanity. She calls me on the phone while we are in the same house. I often don’t answer because there is never a good reason she calls. It’s always to start a fight. I choose not to sleep on in her bed because she isn’t my wife. I serve Jesus and I have convictions about having sex outside of marriage and I also have convictions of just the feeling of lust stirring up in me just by lying next to her. I had sex with her a few times and usually in the past I would be the one that had issues performing in bed. Thank God she isn’t able to have sex due to hormonal imbalances. Works for me lol. I can’t stand sex because the sex people of our culture perceives is undignified and down right gross.

[@lorimollette3970]

@@theway9828 The Lord doesn't want us living in the enemies camp. Trust your God given decernment about all matters!" I failed to please God first, instead of my sinful husband. The price is too high to pay for idolatry.

[@Franziska.Meyer.]

Exactly…my ex (thank god) boyfriend is convinced he is SO good at being alone but: I came 4 months after his ex girlfriend and the new girlfriend came 6 months after me…it’s so eye opening though 🙏🏼

[@paulfredrickson2181]

They need to be surrounded by their flying monkeys. My business partners needs people to control and gaslight everyone else. He used these Flying Monkeys to spread their gas lighting threw them.

[@alixandria7346]

Exactly...

[@NarcissismExposed]

I rejected and discarded my ex narc over a year ago and never looked back I blocked him on all social media had my family friends block him and just immersed myself into self-love and studying God‘s word and living the best version of myself moving forward and I have literally had no thoughts about the darks consequences to my discarding him because they choose to be this way and they’re living consequences every single day of their life and as God‘s Word says they are living a fruitless life

[@triplekids3]

Good for you!

[@NarcissismExposed]

@@triplekids3 Thank you!!

[@khalidalzayani7072]

Well done!!... Now i can smell a Narc from a mile--- I am sure you do too

[@NarcissismExposed]

Khalid Alzayani Exactly!!

[@candywilkins386]

I have to say I kinda dont trust myself fully because of being married for 31 years to a covert- narrisst and both parents are narrisst and abusive! It's scary to trust anyone but God right now! I am disabled from ex- husband and now divorced and he abused me through the court system thanks to legalsheild!!! God is the only man in my life!!!🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@kirkturnage3426]

“Made me doubt my reality…”

[@lydianjuguna540]

How I wish I knew about narcissism early enough. I have been stuck in this for over 30 years. I am now out of the home I built and may be in the verge of loosing my retirement home and other valuables to a narcissist. He has tried to spoil my reputation in the neighbourhood and even in church and he promised to go to my employer. The description of a narcissist fits him 100%

[@leonasweny1525]

Oh my God how low they stoop.I hope things are better and that you are healing .❤❤❤ Love from Ireland.

[@rosajones77]

I was married to one for 7 years and the entire time I felt as though I WAS CRAZY! Nothing was ever his fault, I had never heard a grown man blame everyone for everything. It was actually sad , the universe finally intervened and opened my eyes .

[@krissysmiley4]

This is so weird that we’ve all pretty much dealt with the exact same things..no accountability and makes You feel like you’re the crazy one

[@estherbergin3262]

We have been married for 34 years. And now he is acting so hateful. When I cry he will mock me and mimics me. He now will only answer me with sarcasm in his tone.

[@Thaspicy1]

@@estherbergin3262 mine did that too! Emotionless, black hole

[@alanareynolds]

I get it. I was married to one for 25 years

[@Thaspicy1]

@MissAstuteness Not when it’s a pattern sorry. You must have not been in a relationship with a toxic narcissist person @ all.

[@MiladyMetalhead]

They just flip it back on you and make sure all their friends and family members think it's you and you treat them like dirt. They say you are the narcissist though you don't hurt them you might react but only to stand up for yourself. I get the silent treatment from my family. They give no emotional support during my divorce. I feel so alone.

[@MJ-qb5ph]

Been through the same. I went no contact. Although it is incredibly painful you have escaped a terminal illness. They become a cult and believe me get worse with age (which is frightening). Bless

[@justice5113]

Listen I understand the narc will blame you and go and spread rumors that it's you that's stalking them its you who is doing wrong to them all the while that Devil is being busy in that person life. Keep your head held high and seek God for your hurting heart

[@Kizzabell]

I had a boyfriend like this. I was so confused why he wanted everyone to hate me. When you love someone don't you want everyone else to like them too? Our relationship ended when his friends witnessed how horrible he was to me and called him out. We were staying out of town at this friends house and the three of us ended up locking ourselves in a room and he was out in the living room on his own. One of them said "what's happening to him right now is what he wanted for you". The next day he hated me so much. He was perfectly fine with his friends, the anger was all towards me. He would yell at me over the slightest thing, even in front of children. It was OTT. His friend ended up buying me a bus ticket home coz she worried he was going to kill me if I went with him. It was a 1.5 hour drive to our home town. I was actually worried about him after this happened and texted him. He was so hateful and wasn't sorry at all.

[@andrewmiller3098]

I am going thru exactly that right now! I didn't know what narcissistic was until now and my wife of 12 years is 150%. I didn't know, I didn't know about narcissism....now I haven't seen my 3 year old daughter in almost 3 weeks because of a restraining order with false accusations. Somebody please help me!!!!

[@lisareed5102]

Your not alone..I made it out after 24 years of loveless, abusive in every way financially, emotionally, physically and what finally did it was attacking my faith. That was the end..I now know who I am, what I'm worth and I love the kind loving empathetic person who I never had time to find out who I was, because of the narcissist abuse..lies, falsehoods selfishness, stealing from me, putting me down constantly treated me with disrespect even though my ex husband was completely lost without me, he is dead now..my God have mercy on his soul..don't tolerate any abuse from anyone..you are valuable and very loved

[@travelon2androamingtherock301]

I loved the part about someone not being able to admit mistakes or say they are sorry. That's step one. I dated someone who would never say they were sorry. They also accused me of cheating w/o any reason (i wasn't and never did). I later found out she was a cheater, financial and emotional abuser. So thankful to be free of that.

[@jumbolumps666]

​@@cara19783my mother also is known in our family as a person who's never apologized for anything. It's so frustrating. Like instead of an apology for hurtful behavior, she'll tell you, "I don't remember that ever happening." Of course she doesn't. For me it was soul-crushing abuse that changed the trajectory of my life, and for her it was just another Tuesday afternoon.

[@UrRLB]

Or someone who says sorry over and over again like it is no big deal

[@ConnieBeauchamp-z7b]

I have worst case in my life. Mom and sister are 100% narcissists married to one 25 years. Have not seen 2 of my 5 kids out of 5....or grandchildren. Went on 7 years after he left because he impregnated our book keeper. However he cheated the whole marriage. Still dealing with his wrath of this man. Been 15 years. Now boyfriend of 4 years did worst damage, almost killed me. He in jail now the 4th time. Him and his flying monkeys have shared he will kill me when he gets out. I'm in Canada and justice system is not good and getting worse. Today's he applying for parole or trying to get out of living out deserved jail time. Narcissistic personalities are all I know. I need to never go there again. Sometimes I feel death is my only escape. Out of 5 kids all of them appear to be more like him. Life is incredibly sad. You are the best professional I've listened to. Thank-you ❤

[@sherridawson2457]

It’s just good to know that someone is out here warning and supporting people who have suffered because of a narcissist.

[@amandacrss]

Yes, I am so grateful to this woman! Now that I know what happened and ppl are actually like this, I am teaching my kids about narcissism.

[@P.C-x5p]

True ❤ 10:14

[@lovesakitas]

“They don’t understand cause and effect” this is so very true!

[@ROCKTRESSARISING]

Very profound

[@tanyagamble3432]

I didn’t know the woman I became , I developed high blood pressure and I lost weight with no appetite and I looked like a raccoon . I’ve never experienced such abuse by any one person in my life . Thank you for your videos .

[@juanagallo7497]

Tanya-- I lost 70 lbs in a year of my Narc-- no appetite under that kind of insidious stress. When he withheld sex (for another year) he claimed my " appalling" appearance was the cause.

[@tanyagamble3432]

@@juanagallo7497 wowwww these Birds are unbelievable I pray your no longer around that thing , I understand your pain trust and believe and I wish my ex withheld sex as bad as it was .prayer works God gives us strength to get up and get out of that situation.I made a year on the 4 th since I fled for my life .

[@therenegadepianotechnician5170]

They are so toxic, they make people sick. Targets can die from their recklessness, violence and commit suicide like my nephew.

[@Katbog]

Same I went from a size 24 to an 18 in 2 months smh

[@tanyagamble3432]

@@Katbog I do understand and this bird use to laugh at my circles under my eyes and call me an ugly b…. It’s all good I’m back to being me and that thing is still miserable, and IT don’t have me I know I’m a good woman inside and out .I’m not conceited at all but I know who I am

[@jeffwakefield9394]

All I can say is this is my life. My narcissistic wife of 25 years walking out abandoning me. That was 7 months ago. Haven't seen her face since she left. Imagine my heart. I feel like I've wasted so much time. But I'm healing now and moving forward. This just totally resonates with me thank you❤

[@jeffwakefield9394]

Just curious on how long it's going to take for the hurt goes away and stop thinking about it

[@leonasweny1525]

Hey there I’m almost 70 and from watching these videos have finally realised I’m not the one with the problem . Now I’m taking charge of exposing him for what he is and he’s not a bit happy .I’ve told him the house is being sold and I’m walking away from this old man who is scraping the bottom of the barrel on chat rooms trying for the ego boost ,as supply is getting thin at his age. Poor delusional excuse of a man.

[@leonasweny1525]

@@jeffwakefield9394the hurt will take time they slowly erode the real you to make the problems seem like your fault. Take time and heal .Be kind to yourself and give yourself a big hug.❤❤❤.It is said emotional wounds heal more slowly the physical ones .

[@jeffwakefield9394]

@@leonasweny1525 thank you so much. I really appreciate you taking the time to say something to me. I hate the thought of having a start over at my age but here we are. Funny I know nothing about chat rooms. I don't even know what that is. I'm just going to wait for God to bring someone into my life that will love me for me. I will never be an option again unless I know what I'm looking for now and what I don't want.

[@tomeiksthompson8134]

I'm going through the discard phase of the narcissistic relationship, and I don't think I can survive, So evil! I just wanna end it all! Please someone/everyone PLEASE PRAY FOR ME!!!

[@kanishkasharma8321]

U'll be fine soon...😘love to uh..more power to uh...

[@shoniswinning4056]

This ‘discard phase’ is a blessing in disguise…in time, you will be even stronger because of this painful journey AND you will also be blessed because you no longer have to endure this abuse…with tear stains, make every effort to stand tall & know that your beautiful tomorrows are coming…and you’ll be the perfect person to gently guide another person through this painful journey…trust me…been there…

[@dawnsmith6377]

You are stronger than you think, don't let this evil win!

[@aurorafitnesswellness3753]

It will take time …. Hang in there sweetie - I’m slowly healing after kicking it to the kerb 14 months ago! You’ve got this ❤️🙏🏾

[@latonya1244]

🙏🏾💕💕

[@sandeegoff6363]

DO THEY BLAME EVERYONE ELSE FOR THEIR PROBLEMS, AND REJECT THE LOVE AND HELP YOU TRY TO GIVE THEM?????? AND COME ACROSS THEY ARE THE VICTIMS AND BLAME EVERYONE FOR HOW THEIR LIFE HAS TURNED OUT??????

[@paulao7022]

Sandee, you hit that nail on the head!

[@teresawaid6088]

That's my daughter your describing She has finally broke me😢💔don't know If i can recover this time 💔she told me i was dead to her💔💔

[@yvonnegrassi2701]

Did you see that interview with Oprah with Harry and Meghan Markle?? That’s EXACTLY what MM is doing to Harry.!!!! I wonder what will happen IF he ever realizes it????

[@yvonnegrassi2701]

Yes. That’s what they do.!!

[@susanncoffer8775]

Yes they do.

[@upnorthviking823]

Mine went silent...sold the house i lived in with my kids. Saying to everyone i never paid the rent in 12years... Its ok,the smart people realise how stupid he is for saying that...in 12 years if i never paid why didnt he kicked us out??because i allways kept it even!! Loved to see him get old!! They get weak and forget their lies!!!thats how i knew!! He damaged my reputation big time...But i dont care im surounded by people who love me!!! Good luck to anyone dealing with these demons!!

[@ATeaNTea]

Maybe he watched 12 years a slave and that number stuck

[@TheRadiantRebel1]

I don’t know your story, but I know how painful it is to deal with a nark. I’m sorry and I wish love:

[@mercwindow]

《Untouchable 》 congratulations and thank You for the good luck. I have just realised what I am up against

[@ottybb]

Good Blessings for you and your family.

[@sswans9664]

Demons! 100% correct!

[@lovefaith6285]

Wow!! My sister accused her boyfriend of 17 years of being gay to start an argument so she could say he hurt her feelings. When he wouldn't sell his property and give het half of the money she told him to get out of her house and that she didn't need him. He left and isn't responding to her phone calls and mean texts......partly because I've been sending him videos about narcissistic abuse/behavior and he's now recognizing what she really is. Thank you for all you are doing!✌💜

[@sunshinevalley0]

How’d all that workout ?

[@lovefaith6285]

@@sunshinevalley0 it's been over a year since the break up and he's doing SO much better. He's been focusing on his home and creating a side business, all the things she discouraged/distracted him from when they were together. When I ran into him he looked completely different, happy and like a huge weight had been lifted from him. It's so true that being in a narcissistic relationship really does change you in a bad way and getting out of one will drastically improve your well being as you heal.

[@sunshinevalley0]

@@lovefaith6285 thanks 🙏

[@EPrice-tu3of]

Ma’am you clearly have done a case study on my ex-husband.

[@jjjackson5183]

He was married to you, too???

[@EPrice-tu3of]

@@jjjackson5183 Baby 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Thank God for the “WAS”!!

[@brittanymcdonaldbarr1106]

This right here.

[@gillchambers9008]

mine too.

[@GEMINi999]

Well I guess we should all be sister-wives because that's my husband too

[@ronaldmorris496]

OMG! THE GASLIGHTING IS OFF THE CHAIN!

[@Ivory-ev6du]

I can not believe that I fell victim to this behavior for 14 years. I'm so happy I ended marriage and am healing. Thank God for Lisa on you tube for educating me. Knowledge is power.

[@daisyq3418]

💗💜💗

[@toniaelkhayyat1507]

Me it was 13 years finally ended it this year last month . I thought it was bipolar so many people friends of our told me this but I realized it was more O observed more.

[@lolalove4837]

Amen 🙏godbless you sis

[@lonestarvixen1274]

You literally lived the same life I did. After 14 (2 months shy of 15) years marriage and multiple cheating...I filed for divorce. I am with you.

[@user-yg6uo7nt8n]

Same, year 14. I just told him its over

[@mariannabauerlein9486]

Lisa- you nailed it!!! I finally told my 72 yo brother that I thought it inappropriate that he bring his latest 37 yo gf to our brothers funeral. (this narcissist slept with our dead brothers gf 35 years ago!) He's cheated on every woman he's ever been with. When I said I am done supporting his serial cheating he viciously attacked me !

[@thedancingswede1191]

I’ve been a relationship with a narcissist for 11 years. This hits the nail on the head. She made me think I was the crazy one.

[@NoPlayingDinero]

It's like dealing with a kid who can never grow up

[@siliconbong9386]

@@NoPlayingDinero Damn that's true. For six years I couldn't win against my narc, until I just gave up fighting on a battleground that was never mine.

[@averagemo8487]

I too got hooked for 11 years. Mine was so covert and suttle that some of the things she did could easily get passed off as normal little interactions in any relationship. Even our Pastor and our marriage counselor were fooled and confused until the very end.

[@christophermeyer3306]

I see! I was the one she called a "narcissist" only to say that she was the one making up all the things a narcissist does and/or says. I'm the crazy one! I work, I volunteer and live my life according to the way I want to live it. No one will ever change that!

[@christophermeyer3306]

Same here, my friend! Every argument we ever had (text), she states I made her stronger. Yeah, whatever!

[@carrieschauf4554]

Very well explained. I was married to a narcissist for 29 years, and he has turned all of my seven children against me . He destroyed me emotionally and mentally and it’s taking me 10 years to get out of the hell hole it I’m out and I am thankful for people like you who help me feel like I am normal. I am not crazy. I did everything I could to save the marriage but you can’t save it when you got a narcissist and you can’t pray them out of their situation because they’re stuck and they don’t see anything wrong with them. They only see everything wrong with you. I am helping others now who are in narcissistic relationships and are ready to get help. Thank you for your help this boosts me, and helps need to know that I wasn’t alone in this crazy world of a narcissist.

[@sandrawilley7782]

My ex husband has managed to turn our two children against me.That devil can burn in hell.

[@eileenteets1591]

You are valuable!!!❤

[@eileenteets1591]

You are amazing! Never forget u are worthy of real love!❤

[@elanafromsc1199]

Oh my goodness!! How did you survive 29 years??

[@awakeknowledgeYawehseemyhell]

@edelweissdebergbaldrian7696 yes reptiles they feed your painhe find One did her my clone but32 and she50what a perfect slaves they not have soul @hannahhughes4801 yes i m the younger wife when exit jail i said i m going Tomarry the third time 32. I have my soulmate but at twenty widow both in street he was36 as now is48her daugther i said her your father ruined me wanted u and i keep u he pretended tò be like me cause same music he never did china with i was adict he becaame for two years of violenze love i Ve still no Friends but i m well i said him i m going To marry so he Is marry my clone but i was twenty She we four ex wife and child left warned her She don t know how time went jail and his son hate him my daugther had my personality She cry helpleds i said we going through street as i with my mom my dad was the same he dont care are Monster i was wonderful he not even handsome but forca year pretended so good stupid her he has my portrait name Lia Forever mine everywhere

[@Dr.JudeAEMasonMD]

*Trauma without revelation, is insanity.*

[@autumnallaround11]

That’s a gooooood word.

[@alicek7420]

Thank you! I’m going to write that down!

[@djdoolittle1315]

Perfect 😉💚

[@DancingL704]

Thank you 🙏💕

[@kara9632]

.... Just going to borrow this and paint it on my door so I'll see it every day... Thank you for that..

[@tinamwingate5606]

Thx for this. I was with a narcissist for 15 yrs and was almost killed several times with no recognition of the emotional and physical damage he caused me. I literally escaped and tricked him at a hotel in the middle of the night while traveling back to the US. I'm home, I'm safe and will never return.

[@1RPJacob]

conclusion: _You will piss them off._

[@jessicascricco5978]

Exactly. They will be angry and pissed and hate you. And become even more horrible toward you.

[@gladyskeizer3857]

😄😄😃

[@tional5266]

no, 'they will be pissed off' period, not compassionate, not understanding, you don't make them pissed, they're already pissed

[@joannealfaro2931]

Gladys Keizer .

[@tyerellboughan5464]

I certainly hope so. I lived under

[@lovesakitas]

Don’t you just think to yourself, “why didn’t I give myself more credit?” We are worth more than the way we are/were treated.

[@ashleykane4951]

Amen!!!!!

[@christiansandiford3919]

Is only men or women can can be a narcissistic just asking.

[@godzillamanstreb524]

Yes💔

[@wendijones5942]

@@christiansandiford3919 either can be narcissist.

[@wildwoodsgirl1706]

@@christiansandiford3919 it is not gender specific. Women can be narcissists too. & There are videos on this channel about narcissistic mothers, and ones that say he or she. It's about traits, behaviors, & isn't limited to any other category, culture, ethnicity, economic situation, or whatever. It's bc part of the brain is not engaged (empathy for instance but other things and info is available on what) & other parts are too much, & low self esteem plus extremely self-centered arrogance plays a role too. Look up in May Clinic or the American Psychiatric Association or DSM 5 or a reliable medical source what the markers or symptoms or behaviors are & then watch more videos here bc she nails it - explains it more clearly than anyone else I've ever seen or read. It takes 5 minutes to look it up & helps when watching bc you'll get the picture, what else is up, if she's talking about a specific way narcissists act or affect people.

[@Janepint]

Well! You have that nailed. I am over it all now from a narcissist I was married to for 27 years, I nearly died from neglecting my own needs. However this was a great reminder and confirming how I felt about those years with new information. These people are so complicated and cause such chaos in the minds of others and waltz off seemingly without a care in the world, but alas, it's not true. They struggle with major rejection and keep doing what they do thinking they are protecting themselves...but of course that thinking brings their victim back to feeling guilt. Get off that merry-go-round with intermittent roller coaster rides. Let Holy Spirit take care of them.

[@melissasmith6540]

20 yrs almost killed me

[@realestforealestrubenortiz8743]

No excuse i .dont treat no one bad i f i did i like to know to change .i respect all don't judge no one

[@3-DtimeCosmology]

The narcissist is EVIL. Remove the evil from your life at all costs. No contact, EVER.

[@joycebruhn3672]

Letting god take over was my biggest problem

[@deloreswatson5451]

You are so right. My narc treated and hurt me so bad. I have a funny eye. When he goes into a rage he calls me a cockeyed B..ch. Now that hurt me really bad. Now I have low esteem. Even told me no one ever wanted me.

[@alexa5927]

This showed up in my feed for some reason, despite never searching for ‘narcissist’. I’m glad it did, though. Everything said here perfectly describes my mother.

[@sylviaamodeo7090]

Their strong sense of Entitlement to nothing they have earned honestly leads them to call you greedy. sad

[@mollybethmccain8284]

Oh wow!! Never thought of it this way, but that is TOTALLY spot on with my narc... mine takes items - vehicles, guns, big boy toys-4wheelers- boats- -etc...for “ fees” ..( he is a criminal defense attorney) then stem I want a new fridg ( cause ours is 25 yrs old) I’m a snooty greedy you know what !

[@blessedapril6071]

Ive been through that with a roommate. I was basically the one bringing in the dough...since it was her place, already.....she had a extract room because I was in need of it. She exploited the hell out of it. I had to give her money for rent( which she didn't have to pay rent) .... And I still had to pay the light bill all by myself. She always use to praise herself and belittle other people, especially me( I was the closest target. She could be good at times....but it was always to throw it back in your face. Getting to know narcissistic properties....I realize I've been around them my whole life. Better them than me though...I know myself to be a happy, joyful person..... unlike them who are really miserable inside. It's very sad, really!

[@freespirit5234]

OHHH.....He always said I was greedy, always expected people to lend him things. If they were to say no, OMG they would be the worst person on the planet. He wouLd say, why buy it, go ask so and so for theirs.....🥴 No that I look back, how pathetic!!! Always was so confused with him.......

[@dianaknight642]

True !

[@mariobryant8803]

It took me almost 40 years to exploit who my mom and my older brothers in terms of manipulative ways. I had to go no contact to protect my health and well-being. I noticed all the stuff Lisa’s mentioning is absolutely the truth.

[@Reel.Beauty.Outdoors]

Going through the same thing. My mom abandoned me at the age of 42. I have a brother 2 years older than me. When my mom told me to get out of her house and don’t come to her funeral, I have yet to hear from either of them in 9 months. I was homeless and without family. 9 months it took me 9 months to get stabled and in my own place after being homeless.

[@youlandasampson1101]

​@@Reel.Beauty.Outdoors OMG

[@kerryGunvaldsen]

I blocked both my mother and sister because she is her hype man and live together. I didn’t know about this until now, I just thought she was super negative and a blabber mouth but all the pictures is assembled and I’m just trying to wrap my head around the life changing event omg. My entire world just flipped over. Good luck to you

[@iamcolettestyles]

@@Reel.Beauty.Outdoors OMG I’m going through the same thing with my mom and brother im homeless and staying at a shelter till I get me a apartment

[@Carmen-D-Clinton]

I THOUGH I WAS THE ONLY PERSON LIVING THIS "DREAM". 😔 - NO CONTACT WITH MOM NOR BROTHER. 😈 😈 THEY ARE DANGEROUS. NOTHING THEY SAY WILL EVER BE TRUE. 😔

[@zakirahkw]

I cried. This has helped me and validated me so much

[@danialteeling8816]

You are amazing. “I’m not as good as I want to be, but I’m not as bad as I used to be”. - none of us are perfect, we’re all human “””

[@amykatEMS1]

They love to keep their exes handy

[@vivavidadela]

Mine kept one for 8 years, even told her that he wanted to marry her. Then discarded her pregnant like trash as soon as I was willing to take him back. Unfortunately I didn’t understand that I was codependent and that he is a narc. If I knew what I know I wouldn’t have taken him back. I was completely blind!

[@gracegwozdz8185]

My narc sister tells every of her boyfriend-of-the-day that she'll marry him! Then she uses him until the discard. Then she puts him on the shelf. And these poor guys are holding their breath waiting for her punishment. Getting married to a narcissist is a punishment.

[@jspaingreene6350]

That is so true!

[@leonasweny1525]

@@vivavidadelaI hope you’ve gotten away since you posted this . Remember they will do anything to remain in control. ❤❤❤❤❤❤stay strong

[@dan8046]

When you know who they are, they also turn everyone against you. Since they cannot control you, they try to control how people see you. I had to escape and move to another city to protect myself. I live my independent grandma life far away now, but it's so sad to know my son is voluntarily drowning himself out there without me being able to do anything, except getting closer again and be destroyed myself. Probably in his attempt to survive, he tried to drag me in his own destruction caused by the narc, especially money and emotionally. He is probably losing his house now. I tried to open his eyes during one year, visiting him each week in jail when he was there because of her, trying to "debrainwash" him, but with no success. So I finally moved far away in order not to be destroyed myself. I still have a relationship with one of the kid, but I perfectly know they will turn the kids against me eventually. I keep praying for my son and the kids.

[@intuitiveartist5109]

I’m sorry you are going through this. I’m also going through this but my sister is the narcissist, actually a covert narcissist. All I can do is remove myself away from her and try not react to her behavior.

[@deborahwilcox2234]

I am much like you. My husband is the Narc who has tried to poison my children. My daughter has become a narc in the meantime and because I left because of abuse she is trying to destroy me from every side of my life that was meaningful. It is so shocking the new lies and declaration she takes up when people don’t believe the last one. She doubles down. So does my husband. It is crushing and yet empowering because now I know where my insecurities were coming from and my stomach dropping, It was them both who hated peoples loving me and liking what I did to serve my daughter and husband. There is a difference between voluntarily serving their family to their family now treating them like a slave not a voluntary mother/wife serving them with food and keeping their time at home a better experience. Just fascinating how this devil has really taken over my family. It’s so sad, crushing to ones heart and it is shocking how it ruins so many peoples lives and families

[@dianedeclare8541]

6 yrs. ago i was invited to "a trip of a lifetime". In hindsight i realize that i had booked my return trip for far too long with no Plan B ($ in the bank). I didn't know her well enough cuz i thought her benevolent reputation within the community was genuine (mask). It took me a month to realize her masking, passive-agressive, controlling personality which expected praise & deference. In her mind, i suppose; i deserved to be punished for daring to disagree with her and every other day she made up a new rule. She manufactured a 1 & 1/2 page email of my so-called "wrongs" (her distortion of how events happened). I was so shocked that i did not respond and i did not want to be in a place of defending myself to someone who was determined to brow-beat me with her version of reality (re-written the story) cuz she was not to be argued with in her (entitled) Rightness. To add insult to injury she flew back to Vancouver, B.C. Canada to the Carnegie community centre to make sure that everyone got her version of what a horrible guest i was. Her character assasination of me. I was hurt/angry that i felt shunned/ostracized and no one asked me for my Story.

[@worldgirl5537]

I relate to the mom with the son narc i have gone through this with my son and he went to jail over her as well and i have tried to reason with him. But he sees the situations differently and all my fault to him. He goes into fits of rage then deztroys things then talks crap about me to all that will listen. Its heartbraking. I now feel it drains me and has for a long time. Ive decided to move far away from kids and grandkids because i just cant do it anymore im exhausted.

[@alicialevi2376]

@@dianedeclare8541 I so relate to you! Suffered the same thing from my ex-husband who took to our religious community with his version of reality(re written our history), action was taken against me, behind my back without anyone ever asking me for my position/ version of events, the leader's basis of moving against me was my husband must be right because "he is such a nice man". I am now trying to help my children navigate life and he sits on the sideline belittling all my efforts, but God is good and God is making it up to me!

[@vickie6662]

"Why?" That's the biggest reason I stayed too long! I needed to understand. I needed to know there was nothing I could do to fix it. I drove myself up a wall trying to answer why things went crazy. Your videos were a true Godsend. Blessings to you.

[@vickie6662]

@@christianpulisic7784 thank you so much for the compliment. I am Narc free now. Thank God!!! 👍👏👏👏👊

[@vickie6662]

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[@debraperkins4448]

Narc in the chats..."christian"......ALL BEWARE!!

[@Kizzabell]

I'd try to think of the different ways I should respond when he started saying certain things. But it never mattered what I did it always ended the same way. I'm the kind of person who hates conflict and he would start a fight over literally nothing. It didn't help that he was psychotic and thought he could read my mind. He would accuse me lying every day. Even things as mundane as 'have you seen this movie?" If I said no he'd say that I have. There is a saying "are they mad or just bad?" I wondered that a lot. I would forgive him because he has a mental illness but then I would wonder if he is faking it. Now I'm out of the situation I think he is both mad and bad.

[@vickie6662]

@@Kizzabell yeah they choose nonconfrontational ppl so they can feel they've won every disagreement. They are very intentional. And their accusations are actually them confessing their own actions. I'm glad you're out of it. Peace is so nice.😊👍