How to Take the Ultimate Revenge on a Narcissist/ Don't Fight or Argue and Do This Instead

[@christopherchristy6328]

Extremely good teacher!! Thx for keeping this vid here. It is still alive and fire. 🔥! You packed it all in 50 min. One of the greatest ever on this subject. Thank you!

[@lisaaromano1]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@robertcwalkeriii6267]

Clear Concise and well said !​@lisaaromano1

[@davidharrington956]

I'm not made at you, but all you guy's are saying just turn the other cheek . No 😂

[@williamcampbell8939]

They are also nicer to strangers than they are the ones that love them because they want to impress them

[@yvonce7309]

Exactly!!!🎯

[@williamcampbell8939]

@@yvonce7309 been burned?

[@hahap5411]

Very true. Nice to strangers and his family. But to me… I’m the crazy one!

[@katherinesmith8987]

That drives me so crazy and hurts me so bad! He would avoid me all the time. Come home take a 3 hour shower get in bed with his back to me but would bolt out of bed to go pick up someone who's car broke down at 3am and he's only known them for 2 weeks

[@rondelove3862]

So true

[@spikefivefivefive]

"If you're a giver, make sure you know your limits ... because the takers have none."

[@xolanimiel616]

So true 😭

[@kristalhumphreys4621]

Real Talk

[@ChannelleHinds]

Brilliant! Perfectly said!

[@MissPamelaWainio]

That's succinct; there is no "there" there; like Michael Myers of Halloween...empty eyes when raging... terrifying but nobody believes you so don't bother. Think ahead, because they definitely plan.

[@saliebeesi6593]

Perfectly said

[@kgreen4853]

THEY DESPISE GOOD PEOPLE. THEY GET ALONG WITH OTHER PEOPLE WHO ACT LIKE THEM

[@astrialindah2773]

That is true...... I live with a girl who is like this, she surrounds herself with people that are gullible and malleable because she can easily manipulate them.

[@emmabrown6807]

So true

[@candyxox]

TRUTH. Bad people like bad people.

[@stephencarlsbad]

They also usually date other narcissists which means that anyone who has a grudge against a narcissist is in fact another narcissist aka "vulnerable narcissists."

[@coraladdict5059]

YES. And I find they choose friends which idolise them and give them ego boosting supply. Good fill in for when they can’t find their other kind of supply

[@Rob42099]

This stuff should be taught in high school. It would probably save lives.

[@coreypin1697]

I agree with you 100 💯 percent.! Because this NPD is everywhere. 😳

[@aprilvaughn9781]

Totally agree with this

[@DeeDee_xoxo]

Yes, I just said this a few days ago. Being educated would save so many from this trauma.

[@deltaradiance9034]

The government won't benefit if this is taught in school

[@lisadawson6981]

Your so right a basic class on human psychological disorders would help young people so much .

[@anwarallie]

I don't want revenge. I don't even care if karma plays itself out on her. All I want is to get on with my life. Which I'm doing. These people are sick in the head and I'm just thankful that I got out in time.

[@Richard-vq7ud]

That IS the ONLY revenge. Don't care whether they win lotto or get run over by a train..

[@johnpaul2285]

Amen

[@donatello4716]

Same here. I'm glad it ended and it did not take all my youth. Freedom is the best

[@dannym6552]

i have a feeling they will be back for you.

[@dannym6552]

@@Richard-vq7ud well there is always Corona too

[@surfkat59]

Silence and ignoring them is KEY.

[@BethKeller-q3r]

@@GossipIsSlander “They” will always be better at the game. I have gone from the crazy mind f”ing to gray rocking to total ignoring. This is over 19yrs. When my son turned 18, his dad sent me some bullsh-th drama, lying text, as to his health. I asked my son about this he said ya dad had his truly physical, blood pressure is high and cut back on salt and sugar. I forwarded this txt to son and said BABY, he is all yours. That was 2017, I now refuse to acknowledge this person. His still lies, ALWAYS THE VICTIM, continues to spread non-truths about me but with a great deal of work, I say to people he is not my problem, I no longer allow anything about him in my safe place, my home and head

[@jenniferburton7044]

@@GossipIsSlanderMy narc brother used the silent treatment for 8 years. Then he tried to waltz back into my life as though nothing had even happened. Next, he tried gaslighting me and saying awful things about our grandpa. I blocked him. It may not be tomorrow but trust me, they come back. And when they do they’re still in the same headspace they were when they discarded you.

[@Ms.Ny-Gee82]

💯 fact

[@peengoo]

1.Just walk away and let the healing process begin. 2.Forgive yourself for trusting them. 3.Learn a lesson from this trauma. Life is way too precious to waste on toxic people. Make your life beautiful again 😊

[@nichelemateo5095]

I'm on my way, I blocked him on everything. He now lives 4 hour's away, so I won't see him in public very often. He's so pathetic, thank to God , it over.

[@jennifer9963]

I really agree with you.

[@jennifer9963]

100% agreed

[@mjo954]

#2 is a biggie! Im having the hardest time believing how bad and deep I let myself get played.

[@bronzinagordon9512]

Hi everyone 🙈 only found out and realised now that this is his problem 3yrs ago the mask came off, piece by piece...after 20 yrs of holding on hoping for change! Now I can't find myself to get a divorce! Thinking of so many things...the kids..my daughter especially! And ofcoz the drama that goes along with it! I cannot believe i was so naive! My tears stream out every so often since I've listened to this! I lost myself! Getting back decided to ignore but to stay and endure hoping that he will get tired and leave

[@grednamben]

I don't think I'd want revenge on a narcissist. I'd just want to be as far away from them as possible!

[@iramsavir5631]

That's the best choice, although not always possible. 😢

[@nancycrisman7496]

⁠@@iramsavir5631 Anything is possible if you want it bad enough. Materialistic objects are irrelevant to your personal health and well being.

[@bioliv1]

That should be on a mountain top in Antarctica in wintertime.

[@CleoWard]

... my niece is a narcissist! I LEFT! She tried to get her mother to have me call and 'make up' with her. My response: "I can just Love her from afar!" 🙃

[@Rfh78]

They already have a miserable existence

[@kimwill3420]

They only target angels with big hearts 😊

[@rebeccalansing5389]

So true! And so hurtful. Even harder still is to see yourself undwittingly begging them to not leave to stay and abuse you.

[@christyw9280]

That is the only way they are able to be a narcissist at all.

[@kaywthegang855]

That’s why Angels and demons can’t be around one another. The devil has no choice but to flee.

[@luckylass5444]

That’s a fact

[@devramcgee9097]

So true

[@aminyousuf586]

I found becoming succesful really is the ultimate revenge. That really pisses the narcissist off.

[@tahiraanderson4923]

So f@%king true!

[@som1]

Just wondering from your name your background

[@aminyousuf586]

@@som1 mixed race British. Not Muslim

[@MargaretAnne]

❤️!

[@XRPXTREMELYRICHPEOPLE]

😂😂😂 Definitely would do the job

[@daughterofelroi4369]

The ultimate revenge is living well and moving on.

[@carinapalmer21]

This is also more safe and sane!

[@broke3630]

What if your narc is a close neighbor? (I don't have money,time nor energy to move. I've lived here over 1 decade,she,only 18 Months,but she's succeeded in turning nearly all other neighbors against me .. --I have learned fighting,or writing sweet letters,or inviting her over for coffee and a chat is hopeless, won't happen! Furthermore, I keep busy with work, hobbies etc,..but it's incredibly painful seeing and hearing them gossip about me behind my back. Never had such (a) toxic neighbor(s) before. (She also recruited her dad and boyfriend). It's nightmarish, I walk on eggshells in my own apartment. Wouldn't wish this on anyone.

[@broke3630]

@@christineribone9351 Yep,sadly it's never that simple..

[@kimberlyhatcher7033]

Yep because they hate to see you survive without them….

[@emmaanderson3523]

Revenge is the Lord's.

[@veronicaannsmith3619]

A wise man once said...the best revenge is living well.

[@NarcissismExposed]

I believe what the bible says ...."Vengence is mine said the Lord, I will repay".....when we leave the revenge in God's hands that frees us up to walk on our true path and heal

[@garycordle5295]

Amen, the bible calls them Jezebel's spirit.

[@dannym6552]

I wish he would hurry up a bit

[@NarcissismExposed]

Danny M I hear you Danny I so long for Christ to come back together us together but remember it could even be today!!!

[@patriciawhite9509]

true

[@carrielegg5480]

I needed to hear this today. Thank you!

[@sjambler]

"Living well is the best revenge." (George Herbert)

[@lisaaromano1]

Amen!

[@girlboomer]

Agreed! Thanks for the reminder. 😊

[@carolnahigian9518]

Amen!sibling used me for joke, punching bag-you name it,.HE HURT ME SIXTY THREE YEARS-public & private, I don’t look back (he is loserKN)- he UGLY

[@Dtella55]

Exactly...💯💯but I am being stalked now for over 3.6 years in person when I drive out he breaks in my home and drives behind me and breaks into my car...on Monday I picked up a package unopened came home the package was torn wide open...to scare me but it's really scary.. I have a f*****m but I have to leave depending what I am wearing or which establishment I go into bcz some places do not allow so I leave in the car sometimes...😳😳😮😮

[@toothdoc215]

Yep that’s right

[@major1510]

The ultimate revenge is when they see you happy and that none of their strategies are working which pisses them off

[@donnavorbach215]

And if you welcomed them back into your life....they only want what they can take!

[@ליאורארז-ע4ו]

👏👏

[@christineribone9351]

@Major; Naaaw. . . you're just repeating some ridiculous slogan. They could care less.

[@decoy2636]

The only happiness that the narcissist ever has is when they're watching you suffer emotional pain. Your misery makes them feel alive in my opinion.

[@susanroberts1610]

I'm only 3 weeks out of a narcissistic relationship & blocked Him everywhere for the first time! He can't get to me & it's already driving him Crazy! He's drinking around the clock once more & getting into arguments with Everyone & getting Blocked by All of His friends for being such as ASS! Most people are seeing it & not believing him but rather avoiding him already making him even Crazier! I gotta say I LOVE IT!!!

[@dragon2195]

There's no revenge to take on a narcissist, these people are mentally damaged and can be dangerous just leave them alone and go away if possible. It's like taking revenge on someone who has schizophrenia or any other mentally ill person. Narcissist are handicapped and they have brain damage. Just let go of that part of your life and move on.

[@doaa2521]

Well said

[@kateisoomenogor6126]

Absolutely!!

[@dragon2195]

@@doaa2521 Thank you 😊

[@petershaw2566]

Good advice

[@bahatilicious]

Absolutely

[@peterwilson9165]

You can never win with a narcissist. Walk away, don't look back.

[@charlottemuller2233]

Full of deception!!

[@divaslm1]

What if it is a family member?

[@marleengoforth6254]

Karma is perfect its not in our control nor should we care. The universe always has the highest and greatest lessons for all.

[@christinedayton9645]

@@charlottemuller2233.

[@jenniferbringman9054]

Thank you!

[@richyrich4672]

38 years of trying to please the Narc. I walked away. Now no contact silence is all she’ll ever hear from me. I’m just learning of this sick twisted mind set and it just all makes sense now. But what a kick in the soul it leaves on you. I will over come this. My new life mission is to be free and be happy.

[@icepickmick107]

38 years...wow..I have had three years and just cannot take anymore....All the best for the future you damn well deserve it...look after yourself..!!!!!

[@skilodge4224]

@@icepickmick107 once you been around them you realize how beautiful life can be without them.

[@kaylabryson1932]

“Be free and be happy”. Wonderful advice !! I’m in 40 years .....I needed this mantra !

[@richyrich4672]

@@kaylabryson1932 Thank you.

[@june-mariehamilton5455]

Good for you. I wish you a happy and fulfilling later half of your life. You have earned it.

[@TopgunB]

This is what I have learned to do concerning dealing with narcissistic personality disorder. 1. Know that they will not accept any logical argument that they are wrong. 2. They are experts at twisting reality to fit their view and make you doubt yourself. Be aware it is like an illness that you cannot fix or cure. 3. Be yourself and never react or get upset--they love it, they thrive on it, they feed on control and conflict. 4. Remain calm no matter what. Concentrate on changing your emotion from anger to pity. Remind yourself that they are sick and deluded-- see them the same way as you would see someone with a major physical illness. 5. Set calm rock solid boundaries. Show them that you are supremely confident in your conviction. Do not enter into debate it will just upset you and you will get nowhere. Kill debate with "Lets agree to disagree" showing them you are unflappable, and cannot be manipulated. 6. Winning is retaining your peace of mind and sense of self. It is not changing the narcissist's behaviour beliefs or actions in any way, or getting revenge. You cannot fight darkness with darkness. You cannot make them suffer but know that they suffer continually, they seldom have peace of mind. It is exhausting and unfulfilling making so many external things essential to their happiness. It is un-sustainable. 7. If possible, cut them out of your life.

[@queenofhearts1138]

I copied these points down thank you so much!

[@denischernov7732]

Yes, it is true!

[@caseybohannon]

I really needed to read this Thank you

[@francineford-smith6264]

Thank you thank you thank you! Wow… You said a mouthful and what a wonderful lesson to learn… Peace and blessings😘

[@valentinabernero9247]

Excellent

[@megdye236]

I don’t want revenge. I just want out.

[@faithgreen9228]

Me too

[@romeoortegaiii2299]

Take the high road. Someone said if ya wrestle with a pig in the mud, you'll just get muddy and the pig likes it.

[@neilgibbons2532]

Not if you kick their f n ass really good 🧔

[@eeg122]

Good analogy.🙃

[@Positivevibes6238]

YES!THIS IS SO TRUE.DONT FIGHT WITH FILTHY EVIL PIGS.DONT REACT TO ANYTHING THEY DO.IGNORE,IGNORE AND SHOW THEM YOU ARE NOT AFFECTED.

[@charlottehanna790]

Truth!

[@anish4651]

I really enjoyed this comment ive never heard this saying but im glad you shared it

[@julesdwill]

Not gonna lie I've often fantasized about giving them an ass whooping they'd never forget lol

[@GreenEnvy.]

Me too! The objects I've thought to beat the narc over the head with is a long list.

[@StevieRay_0328]

💯

[@longislandny696]

Same, I’ve had lots of thoughts of seriously hurting my soon to be ex narcissist husband.Which isn’t very healthy so I choose to focus on something positive and let God deal with that dead weight.

[@charlottehanna790]

Hmmm. We have lots in common.

[@corinnem.239]

But the beating will not cause them to understand or change. They are not capable of it.

[@MyFungal]

Sweetest revenge is getting away and living a happy life afterwards

[@jonisoma5726]

..yes

[@MyFungal]

@Stella S. I moved across country cause he would come by at Night.

[@richsvideojournal6385]

Yes, my core happiness is able to live again.

[@maureenwoodard9588]

I agree ! I am planning carefully my exit , I’m married to a malignant narcissist for 12 yrs of hell ! He’s a dangerous ,stalker too yuck ! I have a handicap brother and several cats I must

[@MyFungal]

@@maureenwoodard9588 best of luck breaking free

[@jamesferrell336]

With a narcissist it's all about control. If we seek revenge they still control us.

[@tylerpelo2395]

Excellent point

[@user-fs9zl5wh6b]

Totally agree and practicing.

[@janiemiller825]

Well said 👏

[@DrChiMD]

That is why the only true revenge is: 1.) to seperate yourself from them, 2.) develop a blissful life without them, and 3.) spoonfeed periodic glimpses of your new life in an intangible way to show them what they lost and what you gained without them! That way there is no control they have over you but they constantly taste the loss! And that drive them crazy!

[@lyndao7356]

The best revenge for me was walking away and feeling nothing but relief.

[@sueziehmer1901]

Same

[@jillpeacock4540]

That's what I felt when my Mom died. At least she's happy with Dad in Heaven. Now she's at least in peace.

[@tinab3627]

Oh yes!! Best feeling in the world!!! Happy you survived too. I get my new place next week & I’m thrilled!

[@tinab3627]

It has taught me non-attachment. I’ve learned so much here. Thank you 🙏

[@tinab3627]

I heard a psychiatrist once say that in his practice, 30% of the people he sees are the healthy people in the relationship. Let that sink in. I was one of them. I’ve been through therapy myself but because of my ex Narc husband. He was my problem that I couldn’t fix. He was the root cause of my problems. The only way to fix my situation was by me leaving. Which I did. It is such an overwhelming feeling of relief! It took me a long time to get it but I got it. I am giddy with happiness!

[@ursulatroxler7428]

I don't want revenge I just want to enjoy the time I have left. I don't regret loving him. I regret begging him for his love the he never gave me.

[@lisaaromano1]

It is great to just look ahead and move on! Good luck to you .

[@ursulatroxler7428]

@@lisaaromano1 thank you and looking back I was a narcissist at times. Thank you for saving me from myself

[@dannym6552]

you tried! Thats what love is -- it always hopes ... dont worry his turn will come too.

[@royaldivadeja6341]

Amen to that!!!

[@ursulatroxler7428]

@Karon Sanchez you are a beautiful smart loving and giving person. Give it time your daughter and granddaughter will see him for the devil that he truly is. Remember beautiful that the light always shines through.

[@aleksik4028]

Best "revenge" is no contact if they try to reach you. No explaining, just zero zip nada none caput!

[@pkp6791]

Exactly!! Not engaging them on any level is the best ‘revenge’. It drives them nuts and leaves them on unstable footing . They have no evidence of what you are thinking and feeling. Ignoring them makes their insecurities flare and highlights them as being the loser that they are. All they can do is shrink away and find new supply.

[@sohooded]

Yes. SO TRUE!!

[@rebeccasimwa5460]

Not possible in my case 😭😭😭😭

[@dumblizzie]

@@pkp6791 Yes best solution. No contact takes away their power they can't do anything. My no contact had the flying monkeys in full character assassination. I was baited and gave zero reaction. Now the Narc is trying harder and looking totally stupid but won't give up lol. It's hard to stay strong and not descend to their negative level. When contacted I just smile sweetly and say 'no comment'. They want a fight and challenge to publicly humiliate the victim to make himself look superior. Go by gut instinct if it feels bad RUN.

[@emmanuelfiolakis9297]

Best revenge is to empty their pockets, slap them in the face and ask them where did they find that money!

[@deborahsuehilliard-sands5218]

No need for revenge. Getting them out of your life is the main goal. Freedom is best!!

[@crystalanamericaninsicily]

Revenge the Narcissist. Show no emotion when they try to humiliate you. There basically very insecure people who have actually very little self-esteem.

[@crystalanamericaninsicily]

@@charliec.5514 The secret? Stop making excuses for being MISERABLE! You deserve to be treated Special. 😉

[@sonyvalencia]

No, that sounds like a mistake you're not deaf.(they know you heard don't pretend that you don't have feelings. You keep pretending you will eventually become numb. Come at them with facts, not emotions deal with it. I noticed that narcs are intimated by people that are smart.

[@sonyvalencia]

@@crystalanamericaninsicily I think your advice is going to make you miserable. Am not trying to be rude this isn't the way to go. Do not numb your feeling you will be miserable.(I tried this for many years and guess what I felt miserable and depressed)

[@crystalanamericaninsicily]

@@sonyvalencia Darling. I've NEVER been with a Narcissist and never will be. I love myself too much to let anyone make me feel less that SPECIAL. BUT...when I do encounter a Narcissist and he tries to hurt me...I show NO emotion. 😉 That makes them Miserable. There goal is to make you more miserable than them.

[@crystalanamericaninsicily]

@@sonyvalencia Why would ANYONE waste more than 2 minutes with someone whose trying to HURT you?? First sign of Disrespect...move on. What are you waiting for?? If you accept bag treatment...don't be surprised when it continues.

[@larizima]

Run Forrest, run.

[@skilodge4224]

Thats the ex narcs favorite movie. Narc pointed out and related to some of the not so healthy moments in a laughing way.

[@Dtella55]

🤣🤣😂😂

[@deborahjohnson1065]

I love love love this😊😊

[@valentinopradhan7318]

😂😂😂

[@joshhook8513]

Had my heart broken but indeed. Run Forrest run. 🤷‍♂️😂

[@pamsunshine9233]

“Don't argue with the narcissist, Don't fight with the narcissist“ i have to remember this again and again from now on.Namaste !

[@D-me-dream-smp]

Yep it’s just a waste of precious energy. Love your best way and remember that inside they have no sense of self and constantly fighting the hollow emptiness inside hence why they need constant external validation and to put others down. Being ignored is their own hell.

[@jasminceno2080]

SAME

[@KJ-gx7bg]

I tried keeping my cool that didn’t work and I just can’t stop dealing with him because we have a kid…..I got fed up and met him with the same disrespect….yes I know it’s not good but damnit I felt good when he backed into a damn corner like a scared dog….every bit of what he gave me I gave him times 5…. Sad thing is I did that to my abusive ex husband and the look in his eyes was pure terror when he realized I had enough and I’m talking about this man was hard core put a gun to my head and threaten to take out everyone abusive….I wouldn’t recommend this to anyone else but I had enough of the bs and I couldn’t get help or support anywhere else so I became him and it scared the living hell outta him….I was able to safely move me and my kids out of state across country and he surprisingly stopped his abusive antics

[@wendyhannan2454]

Lisa is spot on here people, if we follow this advice we’ll come out winners. 😉 I’ve never heard better advice, she’s lived it, she’s speaking from experience, who better to listen too. Thank you 🙏

[@sll110]

just walk away

[@chookiechoong]

I don’t want revenge, I want myself back.

[@dahrunriver2924]

I rode in the car with a narcissists today for hours and said absolutely nothing. I am quite proud of myself. Silence (and meaningless small talk) is golden.

[@rfhrtsc2]

Musical to fall asleep

[@bethbursley5929]

Good for you

[@deborahpharaoh4505]

Power to ya!😊

[@annettemoolman6504]

❤️❤️❤️

[@jeanetteivy5229]

Good for you. That drives them crazy! 😂

[@EsotericOccultist]

Thank you for saying narcissistic families can be like a cult with the mom as the leader. That's exactly what I went through. People usually don't get it. Thank you again so much for exposing this truth.

[@euodiaclitterhouse4726]

YES. Why don't people talk about this more?

[@ig5264]

i get it

[@ramitch5583]

Similar situation but my father is the narcissist and my siblings are. I am finally aware and trying to get on with my life. Sending prayers to you and all of us who are dealing with or have dealt with narcissist. The best way to get over the narcissist is to be happy and live your best life as well as zero contact.

[@punkrockjenny579]

I get it. I’m going through this with my mother after I just got out of a 20 yr relationship with a sociopath. It never ends

[@deannahudson6873]

My mother was to up until the day she died...still haunting me from her grave...waking up at 56 finding out your entire life was a lie...

[@UnicornKelly]

Knowing when to leave is so important. The party. The job. The relationship.

[@patriciausa3588]

💯

[@Rhetor305]

Yup. Had to retire and will live the rest of my life in poverty. Took more than 10 years but I guess they got me, didn’t they? They don’t know that I would rather be poor than work with stupid people who follow the cult leader.

[@cmac9782]

Well said, YES! Even the friends.

[@thatswhatsup712]

the conversation

[@sharifotis7595]

Yeah it's been four months of HELL~ There's no stopping her. We've gone silent and she shows up at the door ~ We are leaving to a new happy journey ~ It'll be sanctuary this time~ I've been praying about it And I'm very hopeful~ Glad your better too~~~

[@whatiftherewerejust100peop8]

I told him: You can't win the game when you are the only one who plays. And I left for good.

[@msjones7307]

Best Revenge Is Doing Good & Looking Good Also Going NO CONTACT!!!!!

[@CarolDudeck-bl7kz]

Many cases you can’t go no contact because kids are involved and in many cases parental alienation and just try to fight that with NO money?😡

[@nannabaz1]

Definitely, I keep getting texts trying to get me to engage in conversation which will end in an argument. Also he says "you asked me to leave so I did and Im the bad guy". Stop playing the victim mate and stop asking stupid questions like "I think I left this at your house, let me k ow if you find it" no, I won't. It's been almost a week and he can't help himself, I said goodbye and unfriended him but haven't changed my number because he will turn up wanting to look for stuff. I've made it clear, no being friends still and no coming back. 6yrears of love bom ING, 4years of absolutely no physical contact, total waste of 10yrs. There were early signs which I blew off, I wish I knew then what I know now. I have become a non able bodied person and he was my Carer but did virtually nothing then left me with no money, no support, 3 days of food/soup and just walked out after he took everything he wanted. I don't need revenge because I know he won't survive without me, that is enough..totally ignoring him. I'm relieved, hurt, but I will be fine.

[@tracylabad3095]

Ms Jones that's not so easy for some folks. Sadly.

[@AprilPettiford81]

EXACTLY!!!!!!!

[@ruthanneray2376]

You don't get revenge ,you walk away. They have NO Empathy!

[@gabriellekoukis9460]

What about work? You can’t just leave

[@MJ-qb5ph]

@@gabriellekoukis9460 Focus on your own healing and engage only when you have to

[@LolaColombiana]

Oh we do. I can imagine the grin on his face of seeing me this fulfilled and happy. Who's the addict now ?

[@phalynwilliams4119]

Getting away and living a blessed life is the ultimate “revenge”on a narcissist.

[@NOW_AWAKENED]

Not only had a mother who bad mouthed me to the entire family, but now have a narcissistic mother in law doing the same thing. It's amazing how many of these crazies are out there. Only good thing is thanks to your videos I know how to enjoy life without them.

[@beverlythompson6181]

How did you handle your mother in law? My 24 yr old granddaughter just married & discovered upon getting engaged a year before marriage that she has a narcissistic mother in law. She was insulting, criticized, bad mouthed her to her relatives & friends & on & on the entire year before the wedding! What should she do?

[@AkiTheLionAli01]

I was raised by a narc dad. My wife of 20 years was one (he made sure she was) they teamed up on me with reactive abuse, mental, physical, financial and emotional abuse then I met a girl who was with me 6 years she discarded me on that day she proudly admitted she was a narc who says I am so useless not even worth hovering for her hahaha I am just glad I left them all !

[@Catherine26791]

She should detach first inwardly by not investing where she doesn't receive respect and then like an inch worm practice self compassion because she was chosen because she has a big heart ♥️ and she should acknowledge her big heart which will be so good for her self esteem and then she should move out and leave because I'm going through the same thing and they know you love them which is why they think people who love and are kind and stupid. Then she should leave in the safetest emotional and physical way and take her dignity back.

[@bettyclayton5503]

My mother is the same way

[@katherineyoung1401]

Best revenge on a narcissist? Do nothing, walk away and go no contact. I think Most people fantasize about revenge but do and say absolutely nothing. They feed off your reactions, , just walk away. They cannot stand to be ignored but who cares, look after yourself.

[@clairechloe5294]

Ess Essen - yes very true.

[@neilgibbons2532]

Also avoid there family and associates if you can

[@annado3885]

@@neilgibbons2532 their family is just as bad

[@neilgibbons2532]

@@annado3885 with you out the waythey will eventually turn on each other 👩‍🎓

[@riverdonoghue9992]

I agree. Theres no point in wanting revenge at the end of the day. They are incapable of remote etc. The only real revenge is complete cut off. Complete ignore and act as if they are dead and move on. Its normal to want revenge but at the end of the day it achieves nothing and it you stay in revenge mode they are still controlling you.

[@marisadaniela6]

I dont want revenge at all. I want to move on. I'm so tired

[@marisadaniela6]

I should clarify, because my original statement sounds a bit holier than thou. I should say, I no longer want revenge, after 11 years on this rollercoaster. Originally, when I started realizing something was wrong, I DID want revenge, but I had no understanding of what this dynamic I was caught up in entailed.

[@queenofhearts1138]

I feel this. I'm just... Tired. Tired of trying to figure it out trying to be this. Trying to be that. Working working working to prove myself. Being disappointed and let down. Discovering lies. Feeling that off feeling. I am literally tired and drained and I know I deserve better. Imagine crying over the same man for 15years that's damn rediculous and Ima snap out of it like Cher!

[@marisadaniela6]

@@queenofhearts1138 yes, girl. I hear you. And I know I'm a stranger, but dang I'm proud of you! It took me forever to get through denial. You are recognizing that you deserve better! Wishing you all the strength so you can get back to caring well for yourself!

[@melanieperry3787]

I totally agree with you. So I can Peace in my life

[@chrissyhammond9089]

I absolutely relate!! Zapped, drained!!!

[@jonisoma5726]

...no revenge, silent, neutral...no supply.

[@tootienottoofruitie1726]

Joni... so true

[@jonisoma5726]

@@tootienottoofruitie1726 ...sometimes I wonder if knowing a narcissist enriches our lives. Just the way we learn how not to be., the way we learn to pull back. Narcissists are some funky-ass people and we are not funky-ass people.

[@tootienottoofruitie1726]

Joni Soma... just saying it would be so nice if they did not exhist.... and we who have something to give didn't have to suffer and sometimes loose so much.. but that's for a different existence...my best to you... and I know you are right ‼️😊

[@jonisoma5726]

@@tootienottoofruitie1726 ...yes, it would be fabulous if they were not around, empathetic people can be so kind to them. With the awareness of the narcissists among us, there will be healing from narcissistic abuse and those abused will realize their value. Yep...would sure be nice !!

[@Rontlc3317]

True

[@jazziieyvette]

When a narcissist knows you are catching on to who they really are, and want to pull you back in , they study the behavior of healthy people and begin to mimic the behavior enough to manipulate you until they get what they want

[@autfiltv5331]

Really true and they are really good in these

[@PPMOCRG]

The best revenge is leaving them to stew in their own toxicity, and live our lives well. No contact was the best thing ever for me. Life is peaceful now.

[@superchuck3259]

When I try to brag about how well my life is going. To sing praises about some accomplishment. Well I ended up getting some past non-related thing brought up to try and bring me down. They don't want to see you happy! But funny thing, in social media, they will look like the happiest person, but they are indeed sad!

[@giasoutv951]

Never react negatively.Congratulate them with their new lives, give them your last good words , walk away in peace and never look back. It will hurt them a lot to see you going away in peace and blissful.

[@punkrockjenny579]

They don’t care if you’re happy trust me they don’t care. Period. Only for themselves

[@Hnotan]

@@punkrockjenny579 oh yes they do. because they don´t want you to be happy and move on at all. they want you to be miserable and go to some lengths to make you feel that way.

[@dvssayer5621]

@@Hnotan this is so very sad. Like an empty human soul full of satan minions instead. A hollow vessel, dry bones.

[@stevedouglas5443]

The best way to deal with a narcissist is to avoid them at all costs!

[@chanellover2143]

I beat my narcissistic mother black and blue and I enjoyed every moment, it’s my fondest memory of her.

[@davewelbylivinginhistinyti4796]

We are free when we don't have to hide, and we can be ourselves, and not worry about the thoughts of someone else.... just live with compassion to all that nature has to offer, for life's to short to stay in suffer. Love to all, and all to love💛

[@marywilsonvocalist2181]

you.

[@littlehtxgirly]

Beautiful!

[@elhadjdiallo633]

Yes yes sir .... I wanna go back to school and do something optimistic with my life ....biblically speaking.. Trauma has impacted me in many ways ......take care sir and be well ....

[@LisaMaryification]

What other people think of me is none of my business.

[@Butterflyyyy9]

@@elhadjdiallo633 You can do it. I went back

[@jeno6942]

He literally has made me crazy. I have never acted in such a negative way before. Thank you Jen...

[@kj2540]

Same! Let keep strong

[@cathlynpollom2545]

When we engage we get pulled into the craziness. Withdraw from the conflict and turn to God. Keep looking up! 🌹

[@samanthamakhafola3014]

I can relate

[@jmfs3497]

same. everything became about them. I put my life on hold for 5 years.

[@kattitude121]

I went through the same thing. I hope you get away, like I finally did.

[@eleonorabartoli2225]

"Their fuel is your fear". Thank you, Lisa

[@MrSamadolfo]

😒👍 High Octane

[@ngatheam8182]

They are toxic, give you negative energy, poisonous, dangerous , manipulative, lies, and more....

[@teddmented]

Your fuel is happiness.

[@karenmininni4962]

Lisa Romano is one of the best teachers when it comes to healing from Narcissistic Abuse. Remaining Codependent, in denial, people pleasing, seeking to be rescued and validated, we ALSO remain in denial remaining in emotional abuse by a self-centered, critical and demanding BULLY, that continues to emotionally abuse us. We must break free from our own addictive cycle of self harm with those toxic and unsupportive.

[@faithgreen9228]

I agree

[@booradley9063]

The best revenge I've learned with these people is moving on and being your genuine self. They have nothing of their own in terms of emotions or responsibility of self so having what they will never have is really above them and out of reach.

[@jordanangle9666]

This is a great comment

[@if-not-now]

💯

[@Moneymakinglinksmedia]

The best revenge is to be happy.

[@punkrockjenny579]

Easy to type

[@Moneymakinglinksmedia]

@@punkrockjenny579 true

[@activelifeg5237]

Thank you

[@thesurvivalist.]

Revenge in them or seeking to avenge is a waste of the energy that you have left within you, after they already took so much from you, it is far better just to walk away with your head held high, and build a far better life without them! They needed you far more then you ever needed them! You did not feed off of their life-force!

[@francineford-smith6264]

Thank you thank you thank you… I really needed to hear that in this moment! Usually after an argument, and he said something insensitive I won’t call him and then he will call me in a day or so apologizing for his harsh words. But this time he said somethings that was so horrible… I just lost it, and said I’m putting some space between us! And that was almost 2 weeks ago! This is the longest time we have gone without speaking to each other and to my surprise he has not called me as he usually does! But he has called a mutual friend of ours asking if she has heard from me. In all honesty I do miss him how ever… I know I have to love myself more than I love someone else! Looking forward to these weeks turn into months… No one needs a vampire in their life.

[@sisijames]

So true they are energy vampires.

[@thesurvivalist.]

@@sisijames Facts, Lifeforce Vampires too!

[@barbaraannhenderson9049]

You got to really know God not to hate and do them in.

[@ladylightvybe4138]

That is exactly how I felt. I was drained in so many ways, they try to break your spirit. I am mentally strong but he almost broke me & I started to dread seeing him. He felt me shutting down & pulling away & started to withhold to punish me. I then could see the pattern & realised it was time to get away but not before he inflicted the most painful emotional blow which lead to an argument & then he got physical to shut me up. Cuts heal, heart heals & my faith has helped me find myself again & stay strong. I can't even imagine having a relationship again except with my Creator.💗

[@katkisses71]

I thank god I found you on line ! I literally thought I was going crazy ! Thank you for making me understand that itself not my fault... I'm so much happier again without him ! I walked out of this toxic relationship because I love myself more ! Never let anyone destroy your self worth, NEVER !!

[@suegilmartin3709]

Once you figure out the patterns of narcicists, you can spot them a mile away!!! I can recognize them pretty soon after I spend time with them. I was married to one for 13 years, so I'm pretty up on this stuff. I also got deceived by a supposed female friend because I believes her stories. But nowhere, I don't buy into their crap. I try to help others recognize their garbage.

[@janiemiller825]

They gaslight you.. to make you feel crazy It’s called crazy making….

[@sohooded]

It may be hard and hurtful to believe, but they simply don't care about you or miss you. Stay away forever!!!NO CONTACT no matter what they do or say.

[@faithgreen9228]

I agree

[@ezdeezytube]

If you have an amazing life after they leave ir, they will miss you!

[@dianepinkyharman1346]

Agreed... You must stay away at all costs.

[@mistiquefire3462]

They hv my daily survival money and my will. Trap

[@ionlycompetewiththewomaniw5429]

Narcassist are essential to Empath's...they teach us a level of Self Love, and Self worth, that we otherwise would not have learned... Being Born with such a Selfless, loving, nature is a blessing, and can also be a Curse, until you reach that level of Post Narcassist Self Love and Healing....(my humble option).

[@thesofiacode6336]

Best answer ever!

[@NicoleXRxse]

In no way, shape, or form is a Narcissist essential to me. At all.

[@reflectivemuse1223]

In a way, I disagree. Those of us who are sensitive souls must learn to block the attacks of harsher personalities. As we grow a shell or learn to develop "a bubble" around ourselves, we can learn to detach from those souls that exhibit true psychoses traits beyond basic narcissism. Many adults hail from backgrounds where some sort of abuse or more than one form of abuse occurred. Some develop an uncanny ability to be present but detached or not emotionally involved with people around them.

[@okaycola2]

☝️

[@productreviews8922]

For real... i wanna be mad at my ex for everything but I’m not cause the pain he inflicted has changed me to the person i want to be lol I’m confused 🤣🤣

[@johnpaul2285]

Stay real to yourself to stay alive They will never really understand or care to recognize themselves or you Stay silent amongst fools that wil not listen or really hear you Thank you Lisa

[@beyondthematrix4443]

Now that’s gangsta 💯

[@addistacer8907]

Watching these videos is… life changing. I’m in disbelief how deeply Lisa’s words and examples resonate with me. More than any other KZbin clinician I’ve encountered. I hope to be this strong one day.

[@transcender9203]

Take her classes. I did and will be forever grateful! She’s the real deal! 🙏❤️🙏

[@RavenMadd9]

thank you I totally left her to her own crap six years of everything you said and she told her family I did everything she was doing to me ....cut her off cold....been a year of getting messages to come back to her. no one else is taking her garbage. . .my revenge is silence

[@godzillamanstreb524]

Block‼️💯💯

[@patriciawhite9509]

good!

[@richardweiss326]

You chose wisely 💯👍

[@amandabotterill1000]

only way xxxx well done xxx

[@wandayarbrough]

Walk away

[@kaymuldoon3575]

Deep down, narcissists don’t really love themselves.

[@neilgibbons2532]

Narcissist don't ever like other narc. I proved it myself

[@CBRRR-eh3ky]

@@neilgibbons2532 how

[@CBRRR-eh3ky]

I agree

[@Joe-to8og]

what's there to love?

[@Strimlarn87]

Yepp they are completely empty and dead inside.

[@shawnellis3730]

My best revenge.. is Silence...!! 💯💯

[@xavierarmstead911]

This

[@MiriamH-l6d]

Yes 🙌

[@human-qp1mf]

I don't seek revenge but when someone pushes me to the limit, I am freaking hell on wheels! I don't like this about my self but I am a protector. I always side with under dog, even if they don't deserve it.

[@TC-xp1cn]

Listening to her it just reminds me of the serenity prayer . God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.

[@MarysUTubeVideos]

Thank you, perfect timing.

[@CatherineScarborough]

AMEN 🙋‍♀️❤✝️🕊

[@donnarowe8962]

Maybe I should have walked away ....years ago, he doesn’t think he has a problem ??? He doesn’t know just how sick and twisted his mind is! And was constantly making me LOOK BAD. Through every aspect of Himself,, he was making me feel crazy, insecure, just plain mean mentally, physically & emotionally then calling me a cry baby because I didn’t know he was a narcissist had never even heard of one??? So,, he deliberately dragged me thru the mud , used and abused cheated and lied and paid for nothing to help me out!! He knew I was An Empath and played every string he could and got away with it because I literally thought he loved me!!??

[@AV-fx8kv]

Funny I just came across this comment as I have 1 of those wall stickers in my living room and says this

[@KitGuardian]

Amen

[@KO-eq7mq]

They ignore you when you want them. Ignore them and they’re right back until they feel they have you back. Be strong, stay away! And sing 🎤 free again, lucky, lucky me again! 😍🎉💫

[@ganymeade5151]

Remember, falling for their charm just sets you up for more abuse. When you can, be strong and break away for good.

[@Strimlarn87]

@@ganymeade5151 And the funny thing is, it's not even "charm". It's all just lies and manipulation. One day narcissism awareness will probably be a much bigger deal then it is today.

[@jillpeacock4540]

@@ganymeade5151 you are right. But, it really sucks when your daughter is the Narcissist. Breaks my heart. I'm old. Never know when I'll die, or have a stroke. You don't know. Breaks my heart. She totally changed after going to college.

[@priscillasmith9259]

😂 RIGHT!

[@punkrockjenny579]

@@jillpeacock4540 this is so narcissistic!! Keep telling your daughter you might die of a stroke tomorrow if she doesn’t talk to you. My “mother’ did that all the time now she’s not my mom anymore because she’s unhealthy and that’s what will happen with you if you keep it up. If you don’t want to lose her, get help. Get real therapy. I’m serious because I know how much it still hurts my heart knowing for my mother I wasn’t worth getting help.

[@BLIQUEMIST26]

He hates when I ignore him. Im a loaner I kno how to keep to my self.

[@kitlee7372]

Yess....THAT PART SIS!!!!

[@aminyousuf586]

Best way to be. You enjoy your own company. That means you are a strong person.🇬🇧

[@AquaMuse555]

@CactusHeart79 what a narcissistic comment. If you wish you were an English teacher instead of a troll, just say that. We came to this channel to heal not to be judged.

[@valerieriggins3184]

Ikr.... That's The Least of The Problem 😑 I've Hit Wrong Keys n Sometimes Made Man Keys Change or get Stuck. But...Yep Enjoying Yourself Is And Not Desperate....A BONUS!!!!💯🥰

[@martyca6]

I don't understand how a person can treat another person if the other person nice to them and trying to help them I understand how a person I appreciate that.

[@ZamiweMbewe]

When you wakeup from watching and experiencing the horror, walk away and choose silence.

[@tinabennett8033]

Best revenge is them seeing you living a happy successful life without them. I have done everything he said I couldn’t do it wouldn’t let me do. I have thrived since breaking away.

[@seanogreen7645]

Cutting off the narcissist and going on with life probably the best punishment of course ignoring them as well

[@makeebabarron6425]

I need help getting out of this 3y relationship

[@Jl-ou4jt]

@@makeebabarron6425 I need help too. He descard me 3 days ago. I'm really anxious and terrified , thinking about zero contact, it's really hard , hope you are OK

[@longislandny696]

Narcissist are crazy,why argue with a crazy person?Thank you for this video,it really opened my eyes.

[@MikeAldercreative]

She really did a number on me. But by the grace of God I was able to realize what it was and get out. Worst relationship I ever had.

[@r2023rr]

Hopefully u didn’t have a kid with one 🤦🏻‍♂️😅

[@marvinhatchett6875]

I totally understand this was the worst relationship I ever had she blamed me for everything it hurts so bad right now because I love her so much....

[@NetRook]

After beating myself up for being so blind, I finally realized what a good partner I am. I was the good person, heart if gold. I am stronger now, more balanced then ever.. And the covert narc is still buried deep in their pain and stuck in their own hell. I on the other hand, am free to love, really love, again.

[@trinabutler1506]

I just want him to leave me alone.

[@trinabutler1506]

How do I get him to just leave me alone? He thinks he's entitled to half of everything I own. I sold my home before we got married. I bought a truck & trailer with part of that money, & saved as much as I could. He will probably try to fight me for it. Even though we were only married for 8 months and he's got a good income; but gambles it all away. How do I protect myself?

[@KariIsSoVery]

❤❤❤🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@anna_ulrike]

❤❤❤

[@jeaninepetty4923]

How to get revenge on a narcissist: move on and live your life fully and joyfully. Send the narcissist into non existence.

[@villaineparnell5274]

Thanks for the insight

[@porschenash8843]

MUCH THANKS 😊

[@teachersusanute199]

Anger helped me to get out. Anger was the energy that pushed me forward. My therapist helped me to use that anger. Now I‘m no contact and done with the ex narc. I‘m going to live my best life.

[@theresawareness8358]

Walk away . Take care . Forgive and never go back .

[@themysticalexperiencer8141]

Yes. Get it out of your mind that they will change. They will NEVER change. They have an invisible stamp on their forehead that says "As Is."

[@chetpomeroy1399]

People displaying symptoms consistent with Cluster-B disorders listed in the DSM5 *do not* have desirable personality traits, although they can temporarily mask them, but the mask eventually falls off!

[@kynathomas4809]

Your so right! I've learned this after meeting a narcissist then met a borderline. Smh!

[@imperfectillustration6261]

Well said!!

[@raccuia1]

It must be such a tough gig for a narc to put on the mask of sainthood in public. They'd have to grit their teeth and really concentrate to not reach across a table and strangle one of their fake friends or flying monkeys.

[@Dtella55]

Right...💯💯

[@Dtella55]

@@kynathomas4809 Omg...here psycho narcissist...overt/covert....sociopath...psycho narcissist...now break the pattern from codependency not want to be alone/narcissistic mother...help me!Studied Psychology helped me to identify the last one was one step ahead of the 😈...

[@80ssweetthang41]

I didn't realize how much my co dependent personality played a role in me attracting narcissist. Thank you so much Lisa!💗

[@ajaalosi3246]

I’m married to a Narcissist and she is RIGHT ABOUT EVERYTHING! I’m in therapy because I’m trying to get outta this craziness. I’m devastated. People are fucked up

[@D-me-dream-smp]

Please leave. It’s the only way as a narcissist will NEVER change nor acknowledge their wrongdoings.

[@Donitbefore]

I can relate❤

[@TheDonn444]

You're describing my entire life story with my family. My anxiety has taken over my life and I stay in fight or flight and it's not healthy. It's killing me. I have overcome fentanyl and heroin addiction and that didn't kill me. Close. But stress.. stress kills! Thank you for these videos! I really respect the empathy that you have for others and how you're doing God's work! Amazing! God bless you my sister!...

[@TracyNewton-q3b]

I feel for you. My neighbour has plagued my peace for 20 years, the stress is so bad I agree. I creap around my home, I creap around my gardens. I close my door quietly because I feel she watches me and knows when she can shout at me in the street. She throws cat mess in my garden even though I reach out to help with bags etc, thrown in my face. Is this narcissism??? God help us both and all, I can't take anymore, im I'll from it. God bless you. ➕🙏🏻

[@autfiltv5331]

That's heartbreaking to hear. Hope you can have a happy life. I feel same in my Family too. And I thought it's okay to stay because Family. But I feel something wrong that every decisions I made they always disagree. Until I had a baby and my parents all old my Father died, that's the time I decided on my own to work abroad. And my Life changed

[@gypsytraveller3838]

I say walk away.. God will take care of everything letting go is very important

[@iamanempoweredone6064]

God can do a much better job than we can.

[@pleshettegrimsley2525]

Facts

[@ricardoogando3926]

Then the NARCISSISTAS said... hahaha how stupid He/She leaves it to God... then humiliate another victim

[@pleshettegrimsley2525]

@@iamanempoweredone6064 always🤗

[@jamesoppy900]

That's very niave

[@abaton1633]

Best revenge is having no need for revenge, far, far away 🙂

[@indiesindie1984]

Jai Guru Deva 🙏

[@teelewis2412]

🥰👌🏽💯🙏🏾

[@neilgibbons2532]

One time this narcissist was n the habbit of missing with me👨‍💻 i told him next time I will kick his ass. Next day the BS stopped 💁‍♂️

[@stephenkaylor4311]

Forgive him - don't stay around him - then establish your own life!

[@shaneeubanks6396]

True power Is taking no revenge, when u have the chance. Inflicting pain because of pain is the wrong motive. Stay above this friends!

[@messue428]

Thank you 🙏

[@tariqahmed7244]

Wrong

[@paulafreeman6971]

They don't have normal human love for family or others. In fact, they have alot of hatred and envy, but think they know everything and are perfectly ok and correct all the time.

[@josevelez7539]

The best revenge is just to walk. Leave them! That’s what I did. It has taken me four months to feel better, but it was the right decision.

[@XRPXTREMELYRICHPEOPLE]

God will take vengence on those that touch His annointed

[@priscillasmith9259]

Amen

[@brenjo77jones40]

Amen!! And HE has❤. Don't EVER mess with God's kids.

[@joicemolino]

Amen

[@kirstenvogel9620]

My name means 'the anointed one'. Imagine that . . .

[@XRPXTREMELYRICHPEOPLE]

@JohannJoestar Bizarre unfortunately they come from all walks of life and religions his name is satan he walks around like a raging lion looking for whom he can devour. Jesus is the only way to heaven He is the way the truth and the life turn from sin and receive Jesus bro

[@keithsmith8371]

26:20 is gold. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻. Close them out. Close the phone, don’t answer their messages. Let it go, and free yourself.

[@adopcionperrosespana9871]

That's exactly why I did. 4 yrs after I left him he was still trying to contact me by any means without any success. This carried on until he saw my profile picture with my new bf. That killed him.

[@Theantinarc]

After we moved in together I noticed he started throwing little tantrums and doing things wrong on purpose when we were doing things like hanging pictures or putting furniture together etc. but he was always happy to help strangers and his family and "friends". It made me feel very unimportant in our relationship.

[@christineewing3370]

Oh my God this guy left me and I was feeling suicidal.. Till NOW Lisa I think you just SAVED my life. LITTERALLY THANK YOU

[@evka24]

never be suicidal because of man...especially one who is not good..

[@MrTimmay10]

@@evka24 easy to say but how

[@evka24]

@@MrTimmay10 but accepting that we all have journeys , nothing is permanent, and realising your own worth. If u r the one who was dumped and feel in wrong work on yourself in all possible angles. Internet has vast opportunities for learning if u want to. If u feel u r a good person and they left… often it’s like as if trash took itself out. dont hold on to something just out of habit or hurt ego. . If it was good it will be ongoing.right?

[@D-me-dream-smp]

Trust me you are 100x better off. When I realised what kind of person my ex really was I discovered I hadn’t lost anything rather gained.

[@cherylrangel5613]

@@evka24 like the trash that took itself out. LOL

[@Thatgirl1965]

I had to walk away from my relationship with my ultra-narcissistic Mother. As the only girl, I'd had a lifetime filled with watching my three Brothers and me being made the "scape-goats" at various times. But, there was ALWAYS one at ALL times. I bought a new car, and my Mother couldn't stand it for some reason. She went on a phone campaign bad-mouthing me to people she hadn't talk to in years. I caught her at it, red-handed. She couldn't stand to see my happiness about anything. Jealous! I think what bothered me the most were the MANY times family and friends told me to "just ignore the bad-mouthing", but when her narcissistic lasers were pointed at them not ONE of them could ignore it. And I mean NOT ONE! I was glad they at least got to know what it felt like. Some people have to learn the hard way. People can be hypocritical. So, it's been almost two years without her drama-filled lies and near constant triangulation in my life, and life is the best it has ever been. I'm not angry; and I don't wish her ill. Her life has always been lousy, and at 83, there's no hoping for a miracle. I wish her peace with whatever life she has left. Here's hoping her next lifetime is much healthier and happier than this one has been. God Bless everyone who has SURVIVED a narcissist....especially a childhood being raised by one. Narcissists are devils of the human spirit.

[@queenaquarian8810]

Sending love and healing your way❤️ I'm in the EXACT situation

[@jackiestouch]

Excellent

[@pemjoy5586]

Hi am not old enough to buy a car yet.... But whenever I buy myself a new dress or makeup it seems like she doesn't like it..... 😢

[@pemjoy5586]

@Krishna Patel you are right...... Best thigh is to think that we never had parents and move on

[@Katrn30]

I get you, and experience similar with my mother...the past 6 years of no contact has been life changing! No contact is the best way to take care of yourself.

[@sohohausrules554]

Minute 12:45 Equality and reciprocity in a relationship offends them. You are there as a personal assistant, audience member, and #1 fan ONLY!

[@francineford-smith6264]

Wow… Wow… Wow! You have said a mouthful!!! Thank you thank you thank you😘

[@mandohoney]

Thank you for this comment...this is why my asshole narc tries to separate me from my kids...me and my kids love each other and it totally offends him and enrages him. Equality and reciprocity are not nice concepts to a narc.

[@kynathomas4809]

🔨💯

[@jennifertaylor1222]

My narcissistic mother turned my brother and two of my children against me with her lies and nonsense. Your videos helped me thru my first Mother’s Day without them. Thank you ❤

[@deborahjohnson1065]

My best revenge is keeping you in my KZbin Favs and getting better everyday!!

[@K_Love_777]

💝👑👏👍

[@christinehaigh9807]

They're an indecent lot...."Vengeance is mine" saith the Lord.

[@cathlynpollom2545]

Amen to that my friend! Let go and let God take care of it. I know I can’t !

[@naarah9242]

"The Gang Mentality"... That's exactly what I am going through now with my Narcissistic mom and the rest of my family.

[@K_Love_777]

Same here girl and now I am FREE!!!! I'm glad I stood my ground with my narc mother. I was her only child who stood up for myself against her bs.

[@markavalentin]

You literally have to set your boundaries like a brick wall and then remind them that they are toxic and that you deserve better. I learned to cut anyone off who disrupts my peace

[@KdDiggy]

You poor Dear, I'm so sorry to hear this. I think that's the most chaotic one of all especially with everyone being Flying Monkeys\Gargoyles is what I call them.

[@billybob61636]

Happened to me 3 years ago and nothing has changed since

[@zee1798]

Run girly run while you still can.

[@s-wes4107]

My narcissistic ex asked for a shirt (with a collage of her pictures) back, so I returned everything she's ever given me, souvenirs, letters, sticky notes, everything. That caused a bout of rage!

[@frequentj1]

Narcissist go through their life leaving nothing but hurt people in their wake. They don't love anyone but themselves, and the sad thing is, the heart of their mentality is a deep sense of self-loathing and insecurity. So they tear others down to try to make themselves feel and look better.

[@EmKruzmusic]

The best way to get revenge on a narcissist is go total no contact and live the best life you can that's the best revenge. Give them a nothing sandwich...yeah old bread with nothing in it...

[@MissJade777]

A nothing sandwich hahaha 😂🙌

[@theresalennon4048]

😂 perfect

[@rebeccasimwa5460]

Not possible in my case 😭😭😭😭

[@Jl-ou4jt]

This video changed my mood from going so depressed to a great self awareness, Lisa thank you so much , you have no idea how much I appreciate your words.

[@caniican]

Ditto😇

[@travelfox4820]

I’m getting there too

[@caniican]

@@travelfox4820 double ditto. When you make a little bit of progress it feels so good it fuels you to work towards more. When you have moments of discoveries great aha moments they happen more often they start to build upon themselves you're healing gains momentum life is so awesome for me right now. The brand new year for a brand-new you just decide and so it shall be reality. Thank God for people like Lisa Romano

[@79Flowa]

I’m getting ready to leave - the last 5 years of my life has been hell!

[@fatimasalie3911]

Thanx 4 da information Lisa..it's sad cos still love them..😊🙄