How to 4X Your Value In The Eyes of Men

[@kammad93]

1. kill the vanilla (be specific in what you want). 2. Build that most passionate life today. 3. Raise your dating & relationship standard. 4. Connect to your love craving but detach from any specific guy.

[@BernMendez]

+Hajer DAMMAK

[@SuperSilverJay]

Thank you!

[@GidarGaming]

1. Great, so you aren't a fake. But this should be the standard, not something exceptional. 2. Great, you are passionate about your life. What does that do for your man? Are you passionate about him and his dreams? 3. Great, you have standards. But again, this should be the standard, not something exceptional. 4. Great, you realize you have options. But how does this add value to the man you want? There's really not much good advice here to help women bring the things that men value. And I certainly don't think following this video's advice will QUADRUPLE your value to most men.

[@sammypete6828]

Someone either likes you or they don't. I say be yourself and never be fake

[@earthangel6858]

But be weary, ladies...if you give up the goods too soon, he won't feel compelled or motivated to pursue you with the same vigor...

[@ak-47intelligence75]

Do not give up the cookie if you dont already have his last name. Or not, you're nothing but a SEX TOY. Men have multiple sex toys.

[@myacucci6986]

When you watch this and realize you are already a high value woman

[@elaiolab4971]

Hahaha exactly🥰

[@vanessap2814]

The 4th one is the hardest part to fulfill..women are very heart loving and vulnerable. As much as possible we want to work for it, but we appear needy and desperate which is something misunderstood in dating. :(

[@littlelights1112]

1. Yep, already do that. 2. Yep, already do that. 3. Don't ever get asked out so I don't know how to achieve this. 4. Ah ha. Ok, I have shut down to not seem desperate. Need to work on this. Thanks!

[@BernMendez]

+little lights Thanks for sharing! Getting asked out is a combination of 1) Creating openings for men aka smiling, starting conversations with a sense of courage and detached from the outcome. 2) Putting yourself in environments that are conducive to meeting men 3) connecting to your intuition so that you can better determine a man's center of integrity 4) repeating the process many times despite setbacks. xo

[@littlelights1112]

Thank you!! I will see how I go :D

[@BernMendez]

little lights :)

[@kenyafromcali]

“Independently disconnected from emotions.” That’s deep my friend. That describes how I appear upon first meeting. I swear that I’m showing my happy, carefree, opinionated self. What I’m finding is the 2nd or 3 rd dates don’t aren’t happening because they don’t feel any connection. The guys I’m attracted to aren’t feeling compelled to pursue my time or attention. This was great!

[@luyandagirl]

Love how clear and detailed you are. Great video

[@BernMendez]

+Luyanda Ntlabati Thank You Luyanda. xoxo

[@Lostlove-qx6od]

Why doesn't this guy have his own show?!

[@BernMendez]

+Lostlove8548

[@annhubbard7190]

do you do any video on long term relationship s?

[@beigelover95]

Lostlove8548 yess

[@saamohod]

He also doesn't have his own hair.

[@Takyla314]

Yes

[@mayragaribo5953]

I agree with the point of becoming more passionate about our life, I've noticed that the moment I start to take time to focus on myself, shift my attention to loving myself my relationship changes. I begin to see more positive outcomes in my life, and to me that's a great outcome . Thank you for such a great video, I genuinely learn more and more about self worth. These by far are my favorite kind of videos, !

[@BernMendez]

+yazmin garibo Thank you for sharing your life experiences Yazmin. Glad to help you out. Big hug, -Bern

[@madjobayaras4142]

Bern thank you for helping me to see my worth again as a woman... You have no idea how much i appreciate you. Much love and respect for you :)

[@BernMendez]

+MADJO BAYARAS So glad you're re-connecting to your worth as a woman and incredibly grateful to be part of it. Huge hug! -Bern (just sent you a message through FB) xo

[@KatErina-ii6ru]

You are way better than Matthew Hussey, I have to say. Ive been watching him for awhile, but you are better. haha! Great video. Going to watch more!!! I'm subscribed. Thanks. :-)

[@BernMendez]

I appreciate your kind words and I would say that we just have different approaches. I respect Matthew a lot and feel that he has a powerful way of expressing things in practical and real ways. xo

[@lomri8138]

Matthew hussey is a fake, look who is dating now... a woman with no standards and high value.

[@vimmysaini]

So true, i agree too

[@ekaly23]

Only video about this topic that makes sense for a woman and put some power of action on us.

[@BernMendez]

+Em M-Rubio Glad you found it useful Em. Big hug! -Bern

[@reverendmary-catherineryan2552]

Great wisdom once again Bern. I've been taking your advice and it's given me the courage and the insight on a lot of things. I've got someone in my life that thanks to you I no longer let him upset me. I dropped out of contact with him especially after he said I was " was a true friend" because I didn't want to build my hopes up. I woke up today with a text saying that if I've been texting him he's been having issues with his text and needs a new phone. I hadn't been texting him. I called him and we talked for a little bit and I got the " I sent that text to a lot of people" I picked on him about having a ton of girlfriends which he said that he didn't because if he did he wouldn't be on the phone with me. I still picked on him on and he said the same thing. He even said that he still plans to come visit me ( we live in different states) and I told him that if he does he does, no pressure and he said that he still plans on it. I'm saying all that to say this... I refuse to drive myself crazy over him anymore and I won't ever be put in a " Friends With Benefits" category so if he's thinking that he can erase that thought. If I'm a friend, but yet he flirts and sends romantic songs to then he's got to make up his mind because I'm not sitting around waiting for him. I really never would've gotten my moxie back if it hadn't been for you. He did the old " I've got your number and I'll call you" and he also said when he gets a new phone he'll text me, but I'm not waiting around. I'm erasing his number from my phone until he can make up his mind. I just need to know the answer to a question which I know you'll have....Since it was his idea to come see me and he said that he plans on doing it around Halloween what do I do if he contacts me while I'm out of contact with him about this? I'm asking because I plan to go back to school in October and I don't like not knowing, but I don't want to seem pushy either. Yes.... I'm still getting on with my life Bern and if he joins in great! If not I'll miss him, but I'll survive.

[@BernMendez]

My challenge to you is figure out what it would take to not just "survive" but REALLY thrive no matter what happens. Put your energy on that and the rest will be much easier to deal with. xo

[@stilianifakidaraki3724]

Dear Bern, thank you from the bottom of my heart! I was triggered and scared of relationships for one and a half years, after I had had a bad experience with someone. Your videos helped me to find back to who I was before. Bless you!

[@georgeannekaufman4867]

My highest compliment it to say that the longer I listened to you, the more I appreciated what you had to say.

[@heidijenkins1796]

I am surprised with how much value YOU present. I didn't have high expectations when I started watching your videos but every video has good information. Best dating advice I have seen & I have watched several other popular channels. The way you word things really resonates with me!

[@sassyjj]

I have heard a lot of dating advice and knowing what you want in a strong way has really not been talked about the way you said it here. It's "build confidence" "have your own life" but you said about really leaning into preferences can change them game. Women work with eachother to even out the playing field but men seek distinction. Makes so munch sense!

[@extracoffeemug]

Like I said many times before, I love how easy and forward you let us know what we should be doing. I take all your advises to heart. Thank you so much for doing this.

[@BernMendez]

+Catarina You're most welcome Catarina. Sending you a big hug and so good to see your beautiful smile here today. xoxo -Bern

[@extracoffeemug]

Thank you so much. For everything really. You truly are helping me and many women here and I love your energy and wisdom! Xoxo

[@BernMendez]

Catarina And knowing that I help you and many women makes me really really happy. I feel very blessed to be able to do it. Please stay in touch and let me know if I can answer specific for you. Sending you much love

[@extracoffeemug]

I so will, yes. Take care! Xoxo

[@BernMendez]

Catarina

[@gottogofish]

Thank you Bern. I have watched a lot of stuff but you communicate in way that says you value the women you talk to and live in your own life what you teach. I am learning to value myself and your videos are really helping me do that and have the practical steps to make that a reality. Thanks again x

[@BernMendez]

+gottogofish You're most welcome. xoxo

[@jameelaparker9373]

Bern why is it that when you explain things I feel so positive??? I'm always playful and spontaneous but lately I'm feeling pain and listening to you makes me want to shake it off and be me again.

[@NDiaz-et6hc]

Absolutely helpful, insightful and useful...all of the above! Thank you Bern

[@BernMendez]

+Nat Diaz :) Glad you enjoyed it Nat. xo

[@Mushroom321-]

The enthusiasm, speed of talking is on point! You cured my anxiousness.. Regarding certain topics. THANK YOU

[@valvara123]

I love what you say, I love how you say it. So much intensity, so much authenticity. Thank you. Liked, subscribed and commented 😁💓

[@BernMendez]

+Vivian123 My dear Vivian thank you so much for your enthusiasm and warmth. Excited to start on this journey with you :) xo -Bern

[@pageremick5504]

Simple and powerful! Easy to put into action and improve our OWN lives!

[@BernMendez]

Glad you found it useful, Page : )

[@brendavernis7823]

wow! I've watched about 10 of your videos! and I feel so much at ease now. thank you so much for sharing . you are amazing and changed my perspective in how I thought and felt. completely worth finding your clips. thank you again.

[@BernMendez]

+Brenda Vernis You're most welcome Brenda. Happy to hear you're feeling much better

[@StevieB799]

Love your clear, concise, advice. Now I just have to put it into action. Great video!

[@BernMendez]

+Stephanie Bassett You're very welcome.

[@andreaj5067]

I love building yourself up to being happy, having passion and loving within. 💛

[@veep5712]

True, I like your distinction about being from your heart or soul, not about being dramatic or picky just for the sake of it. Having preferences. Also having standards and values.

[@melindab5585]

Bern thank you so much for sharing your insughts. The last point about putting the love and passion out there without attaching it to a specific guy really made an impression on me.

[@ellt9081]

I love that his videos are short, sweet & straight to the point. 👍🏽

[@judahyeshua74]

Thank you for detail. Although I have not found the correct person for my life yet, I appreciate the direction and help. God bless your channel and all the women out there, that are trying to do the right thing to get the right ONE!

[@BernMendez]

Happy to help you Jacqueline

[@adingdinga9780]

you're amazing Bern you also help people to be whole in their own self

[@BernMendez]

+Dabiora Michael Juach Glad you found this helpful. xo

[@PoutnPlay]

all ur videos are amazing and it enhances self confidence n brings positivity 😄

[@BernMendez]

Thank you Varsha xo

[@jasmine2218]

this is better than most advice I usually hear ,which are manipulative ways, great work!

[@tijana_veljic]

by far the best, simpliest and the most concrete coaching on youtube to find... I like very much the way you speak out the word "three".... :)

[@trina2thfari]

love the way you speak directly to the audience.

[@BernMendez]

+Godzgrl Thank you

[@abirnaimi9579]

thank you so much burn .. You're absolutely amazing .. I watched your videos and i found them helpful... I share with you every idea you say because you're a man who uses the logic to explain things .. And to be a Person with a logical mind is something hard for some people .. But for you Burn it's so easy ..So thank you again ..And keep giving us your advices and ideas .No one like you ..Thank you -Abir

[@BernMendez]

+Abir Naimi I'm very grateful that you're finding value in my work. Sending you a big hug! -Bern

[@janeyjaney5657]

This is the best concise advice ever!!!!

[@starburst3874]

this was very useful Bernardo. Thank you for uploading this video!

[@BernMendez]

+Star Burst You're so welcome! xoxo

[@zamudioslady]

I love this man. I just found his videos and I'm hooked. good advise. thank you ❤

[@BernMendez]

Thank you Clarissa, love YOU back

[@mssummerrose1]

looove your background music, so uplifting :))

[@BernMendez]

Thank you :)

[@nancypretty7576]

+Bernardo Mendez (Yourgreatlifetv) I have a problem I got this guy online we have never meet but we have been friends for 1year now and we chat alot but something is not working of late the guy sounds low he doesn't chat alot or he takes time to reply my text please help understand do I walk out or what do I do help me am confused

[@christinamason3297]

Bernard! I think it’s very beautiful the way you want to help women in their love lives… I can tell you know how to cherish, value and respect women! ☺️

[@thick-totally-cute4792]

Hey bern,i just started watching you and you have no idea how much sense you make.I am thinking hard enough about the relationship i am in.

[@BernMendez]

+thick-totally-cute I'm happy to hear that, sending you a big hug!

[@thick-totally-cute4792]

I literally felt the hug when I read this...lol..thanks.I am glued to your chanel for more exciting advice.

[@BernMendez]

thick-totally-cute

[@tebogomonnyewabo6125]

All ur videos are amazing Bern..u ar the best coach ever.,thanks a lot for changing my life😘

[@BernMendez]

You are so welcome love!! : )

[@nothingbutgodsgrace7928]

Great job man!!! Incredibly useful!!!

[@yogavidasaludable]

Great videos Bernardo! Everything you explain in such a clear and pasionate way resonates in me! Thank you for the valuable contribution !

[@BernMendez]

Sending you love

[@ebbyc1817]

Omg the last one is, eye, opening. Thank you!

[@isalucie7522]

Soooooo sooooo agree with you, Bernardo !!!!! 200% true

[@BernMendez]

+Isabelle Ortiz So glad you're finding this useful. xoxo -Bern

[@disajardine1440]

Omigosh, Bern! You're the best! So helpful, especially the part about connecting to my craving w/o seeming needy. Cheers for this!

[@kittybriones1703]

your videos are so incredibly helpful..love them I have learned so much!! do you have brothers you are so charismatic and intelligent.

[@BernMendez]

Thank you for your kind words Kitty. I do have two brothers (both married) hehe Much love to you.

[@analiapereyra8470]

thank you Bern!!!! It's very useful to have the man's point of view.

[@BernMendez]

+analia pereyra You're welcome Analia xo

[@princessnosa2438]

You need your own show!!!

[@BernMendez]

Thank you Esohe!

[@strawberryshin8987]

wow this is great. you teally help me understand a lot of this I don't even notice before. thank you so much, you're wonderful

[@BernMendez]

Thank you ReenNash

[@bsims4993]

Excellent video, clearly stated and very informative. Keep up the Good work!

[@BernMendez]

Thank you Beverley : )

[@lbrown8040]

You are such an amazing spirit. I am thankful for your education. Be well~

[@BernMendez]

Thank you

[@BernMendez]

Thank you

[@nantwin9385]

I really appreciates for this message.🙂

[@BernMendez]

[@keinleah3058]

Hi Ben! Another amazing video! :)

[@BernMendez]

+Leah B Beautiful Leah, Thank you for stopping by. Sending you a HUGE hug!!!

[@imurnanny]

Thanks, Bern!! Keep up the great work!

[@BernMendez]

+imurnanny You're so welcome xo

[@hudhud06]

Hi i have watched a lot of your video's last night you are great, i love your smile and the way u explain things... thanx

[@BernMendez]

+Hudhud Hudhud You're welcome! xo

[@christinesmith3809]

What your saying is true .my long distance relationship is in big trouble.

[@BernMendez]

+Christine Smith Time to step up and make it better or let it go then . xo -Bern

[@guesswho5790]

Your words and energy are so motivating! 💚

[@jasminparsian2336]

Amazing, and very valuable feedback!! This makes so much sense.

[@BernMendez]

Thank you Jasmin :)

[@elloumidouaa6394]

thank you so much !! such a wise man

[@BernMendez]

+Elloumi Douaa Thank you Elloumi

[@Ayebkkbabe]

Yes, every day I listen to you and I am grateful for your positive energy, thank you.. ❤I am sure we also want to return the goodness back to you. 😊xox

[@BernMendez]

+Kanlaya Chaiyasan Thank you so much for your words Kanlaya, the best way to return the goodness to me is to make your life an inpiration for others. This way what we're co-creating here is bigger than both of us. Sending you love xo -Bern

[@Ayebkkbabe]

+Bernardo Mendez (Yourgreatlifetv) wow! I will 😊 that's amazing!..💖

[@janembwana3628]

Amaizing 👌tips here, where have I been all this time?? Thank you, loving the way you elaborate more. It's very clear and easy to understand your point.

[@nenap2295]

Thank you for sharing your kind and open ideas.

[@cristinacomstock3345]

This is wonderful advice. Thanks!

[@BernMendez]

+Harlow Jean Glad you enjoyed it! xo

[@yahoo8863]

Thank you soooo much you have thought me a lot about men I'm so glade watching your valuable video

[@BernMendez]

Glad to be of service.

[@UnicaIhla]

I love this video ❤ very inspiring. thanks a lot 😁👍

[@gamerchristina1079]

I LOVED IT! GREAT VIDEO! THANK YOU SO MUCH!

[@BernMendez]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@janellelynch9200]

love your videos

[@007mayela]

I love you already.. thanks for those helpful and reassuring tips...

[@BernMendez]

You're most welcome!

[@ranakhan203]

another great video 😊 the one and only Bern

[@BernMendez]

+rana khan You're funny! xo

[@abdulelahdahoud1210]

Thank you sir, I love your Shirt, and your expressions!! I am a female, accessing from my brother's account, Thanks from heart, Great job, keep going...

[@marycynthiaokundaye5849]

i am so glad i watched this... lovely video

[@accessme1238]

Hi Bern, your the best!

[@Ivadivadiva]

love your posivity and great advice x

[@BernMendez]

+Ivadivadiva Thank you and grateful it means something to you and adds value to your life. xo -Bern

[@ylightning1]

OMG, I just listened to the Webinar....Sooooo Amazing! How do I contact you? I know you can help me.

[@BernMendez]

+yup400 Glad you found it helpful. You can click on the link you received on your email and apply to work with me. xo

[@coachmahanazer5330]

u made me pause the video many times and ask my self deeply ..u helped me to dig into my thouths about my femininity and i was enough .. why do we depend on mens opinion "husband" as a sorce of our self steam ? is it from accepting our self as females ? and how is this related to husband cheating ? and how to get anattatch to my man ? thank u id lov to hear u talking about this am so greatfull i lov the way u explain things it gets right to my heart lov u bern😙

[@alexabrianne853]

you are amazing ...

[@BernMendez]

Thank you Alexa

[@ylightning1]

Another excellent Video. You are awesome!

[@BernMendez]

+yup400

[@Kppoja09]

Hi..I have a problem that I can not mention in this comment box... so far I have watched plenty of ur videos and they are making sense to me.....I would like to share part of my life with you and would look forward for your suggestion on it.

[@purdygirlxo]

You're the best!..u got me just in time...thank u...☺

[@BernMendez]

You're welcome. Much love to you Samantha!

[@shevynova7340]

Hi Bern Love your vids! but omg, a fella I've been spending a bit of time with for a few months has always been hot and cold. I took to waiting for him to contact me. Which he did about 2 weeks ago and said he wanted to catch up. Yay for holding out! We agreed on this Sat, and I told him I think it's his turn to organise what we're doing. Today is Thurs evening and nothing from him. I'm wondering at what point if/when he contacts me I tell him b/c I didn't hear from him I assumed he changed his mind, so I made other plans....ugh! this is a prime example, right?!?Or should I take us choosing a day in as it being locked in and not expect contact in between? I'm interested to see what he plans to see where his head is at. I really don't know. thanks :)

[@peacefulleagle]

Bernardo you speak my mind!

[@BernMendez]

+peacefull eagle Glad to hear that :) xo

[@Tube69Baby]

This is perfect ! Thanks Bernardo ! :)

[@BernMendez]

+W*Star Glad you liked it. xo

[@kadercicek2176]

dude you are amazing !

[@BernMendez]

Thank you

[@Leemhussein]

I Love u .. soooo helpful and sure am gonna do all the steps .. thaaaaaaaanx

[@BernMendez]

+Leem Ali Thank you Leem. Sending you love! xo

[@cielzuniga7074]

I so love you bern! You're so helpful! xo

[@BernMendez]

Sending YOU love!

[@tarotwithrj2486]

Great share

[@JoyceSmithMusic]

Thank you..love your wisdom...

[@BernMendez]

+Joyce Smith Thank you Joyce. :) xo

[@NicoleNailyl]

Amazing and helpful tips keep up the good work

[@BernMendez]

+Nicole Nailyl Thank you so much, glad you found it useful. Hugs! -Bern

[@privateaccount9209]

You’re awesome man!!! Love ya! More videos please.. Can you give some guidance on how to date the right man ... as a divorced girl

[@zujones3857]

Tank u so very much sir. I would like to not ask you about any thing between a man and a woman. But I would like to ask you about you concept of death of a very dear person. you are the type of individual whim is very easy to understand when talking about different life concepts

[@BernMendez]

+Zu Jones Thank you Zu for your trust, what can I help answer for you? xo

[@zujones3857]

+Bernardo Mendez (Yourgreatlifetv) you are so great with your videos. they help you to have adorable powerful relationship. thank u very much Bernardo

[@Meriemferhatl121]

I don't know why I'm watching this ; I already gave up on this topic !...I won't ever care abt this kind of things again !...I don't like guys anymore ,I tried once to fall in love and I was dumped without any logical reason !..now I prefer animals ..I have my cats and dogs and I'm so happy with them better then the perfect guy u can ever imagine !... I'll just care abt myself and my future and my pets ...no guy will ever ruin my mood or break my heart again !.. Peace

[@spunkinsight6612]

Hi Bern, I started to understand many things. As you maybe know, women that had been raped during their childhood are lost and scared to start any relationship. It's hard to have a sexual relation, or to love someone. I can't even have a physical contact with doctors without being ashamed. We are really agressives and emotives. I think it would be interesting if you make a video about women that had been into hard stuffs as rape or torture. We don't value ourselves anymore, and for the younger ones like me, we are not educated about sex or love anymore... We don't understand many stuffs, and your videos help me a lot to start over. Pls think about it

[@anikatodd6018]

absolutely eye opening

[@BernMendez]

Glad this helped you Anika!

[@niloofardamvar5877]

ur videos are great ! thanks again

[@BernMendez]

+Niloofar Damvar You're so welcome. Big hug! xo -Bern

[@Ame-n2p]

absolutely👌 helpful thank you😊

[@BernMendez]

+shaxshaxley Ahmed mumin (hayati) You're welcome. xo