Sign up to my Free Live Webinar: bit.ly/soulmate... Work with Bern: gettheloveyoucr... Today's episode is about how to massively up your sexiness factor as a woman without changing your body.
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@valvara1238 жыл бұрын
I was at Target, shopping, chipper as can be because that's lately the feeling that I have within me. I'm not saying my life is perfect, but as I begin to value myself and shift to a more positive mentality, I'm seeing these amazing things happen before my eyes. So I'm walking down the aisle and I make eye contact for a split second with a stranger and I smiled and kept walking. As I was walking further down, I could feel him following me. I stop at the children's book section to see if they had any new Goosebumps books for my nephew. And then this slender, clean cut, mid 20's, brown hair, brown eyes guy comes up to me and says "I'm sorry, but I saw you walk by and all I could notice was your long dark hair and beautiful radiant skin... I just have to ask, where are you from?!" I nervously chuckled and thanked him and told him about my background. We talked for a good 15 minutes. He didn't ask for my number or anything but I was just so taken aback at the energy I attracted that very moment. And it is often, I am having those moments too! People are just so incredibly generous to me! I've gotten free guac at Chipotle several times, free dessert at a restaurant one day and today a guy bought me coffee! And today this girl went out of her way to tell me how beautiful she thought my hair was. It's not luck, it's not because I've changed anything appearance wise... I truly believe it is because of my change in mentality and the will to continue working on myself. I'm surfing that frequency that's constantly attracting great things. It is so incredibly exciting and powerful. Thank you for this video as I'm constantly looking for ways to improve myself and realize my self-worth
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+Vivian123 Wow, very powerful shifts Vivian, I'm grateful you're getting a first person experience as to how powerful it feels to value and love yourself and then have the courage to be expressive about it with the world around you. I admire your passion and enthusiasm and feel grateful you're connecting with my videos. I'm here for you :) Big hug! -Bern
@FashionistaDesigner7 жыл бұрын
I love things like this, and I love you for bringing this story and living it for all of us. Thank you.;-)
@CJETER3517 жыл бұрын
It so so refreshing to hear a man not only educate women on how men thinks... But also how a woman can embrace her uniqueness, her true sexiness to be the best woman she can be.
@BernMendez7 жыл бұрын
Big hug Cheryl, glad it's being helpful. xo
@afshah.79725 жыл бұрын
4 tips on how to quadruple your sexiness: 1. Spend 10 minutes a day appreciating and loving one part of your body. 2. Have an unapologetic stance 3. Learn the art of tuning into a man’s heart 4. Do one thing each day that gives you a subtle feeling of edge
@gummibear17355 жыл бұрын
The beauty of being a woman is that everyday you feel something different 🤣🤣🤣 he understands women soooooo well. He's not scared of women and he truly adores women. That's amazing! Mmmm
@afox787 жыл бұрын
I've had many of my female friends/acquaintances say why do you wear makeup (even just lipstick) every day or just picking up your kids from school, same with maybe nice fancy boots and I'm like because I feel better, I walk taller and in turn I act more confident like I'm putting my best face forward if that makes sense. If I'm put together it affects how my day goes.
@BernMendez7 жыл бұрын
Do what makes YOU feel happy and radiant. Sending you a big hug
@sabreena1khalick6 жыл бұрын
When I'm feeling happy and smiling at strangers walking down the street, I feel sexy n alive! People keep telling me at work, strangers, friends etc that I'm beautiful. I never used to believe them but now I'm starting to shift my mentality. I just turned 50 years old n am starting a relationship with a man exactly 20 years younger than me!
@snoopysamurai8 жыл бұрын
Great one Bernardo. One day, like in ancient times, people like you will be teaching these things in the schools.
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+Ayumi Ingrosso Thank you Ayumi. I appreciate your generous words. big hug! -Bern
@westcoastsands7 жыл бұрын
Live life unapologetically. So yummy. Food to my ears. Thanks Bern!
@BernMendez7 жыл бұрын
You're welcome!
@elvispresley82177 жыл бұрын
You are awesome Bern. Yes the Way You Perceive Yourself Is The Way the World Perceives YOU. Carrying yourself in such a manner of sweet dignity and down to earth says A Whole Lot About Who YOU ARE. Stop apologizing too. That shows a sign of insecurity and vulnerability. Love your videos and they certainly have helped inspire me and have made ME INTO A BETTER WOMAN.
@MsWander22228 жыл бұрын
Every woman needs to watch this video!
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+Natty Nia
@fionajames99603 жыл бұрын
I love your videos, theyre so positive, helpful and unique. Thank you for making them!
@BernMendez3 жыл бұрын
Fiona, You are so welcome!
@preppyhippy8 жыл бұрын
Confidence is so key and someone like me needs to hear this because I am not always confident. But I swear to god walking in a room being confident does get the right mans attention. But also being yourself. I'm not always confident but I sure am working on it. Thanks for this! Lifted my spirits!
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+Adria Dobson You're most welcome xo
@Rafael227ful8 жыл бұрын
Bern, I just discovered you about a month ago and I just love what you are doing! Thank you for encouraging women to be authentic, heart centered women of value~ our culture so needs this message now. I have been following your advice and certainly experiencing nice interactions, more to follow I'm sure. You are amazing and I am grateful to have stumbled upon your channel, thank you for what you are doing! Xx.
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+Temple Of The Sun Thank you so much for your kind words xoxo -Bern
@Star-dz3ei3 жыл бұрын
This was the best advice I've ever read in my life. I already have 3 things in mind to become a little edgier!💣💥💫 you're amazing Bern. And above all. So kind. Thank you for sharing these gold nuggets. - single Mom who left a very verbally abusive narcissist ex. Was an extremely painful painful experience emotionally. He often told me. You'll be alone the rest of your life. Who says that? Never in all my anger to other ex boyfriends have I ever said such cruel words to a man. Never would I still. Sadly those painful words stuck with me and we share a child together so unfortunatelyI need to see this mentally sick cruel individual as we co parent. Your videos are helping me see and believe I can rise up from this past abusive recording that plays in my mind. I am going to look into taking your course. Great videos!
@nathaliecas57116 жыл бұрын
Out of the many love videos Ive watched, I can say your videos are the best. They'e so concise and precise and so correct! So on point! Thank you Bern! 😇 You are an angel
@BernMendez6 жыл бұрын
Glad you enjoy them Nathalie,
@ladyc.15257 жыл бұрын
I came across your videos about a week ago and I've been glued to them since. I am a 54 year old divorced woman without confidence desiring to love and to be loved again. it has been many years since I've divorced and I haven't dated since, until recently and now that I am ready, I've come to realize that things have drastically changed and that I am not ready!.....I just want to say thanks a bunch for preparing me, this is not easy at all!....and the choices are slim to none, but I am learning so much about myself by watching your videos!!!!!👍👍👊👋❤
@BernMendez7 жыл бұрын
Glad you're getting some benefit from the videos Charlotte. Sending you a big hug.
@konmari75117 жыл бұрын
you describe me 2 years ago and now: superficial and more depth in confidence. it really helps to love a part of my body a day. Tomorrow it will be eyes day.
@BernMendez7 жыл бұрын
Glad to hear this
@jabeenhirani65558 жыл бұрын
You're amazing and thank you so much for being so helpful. love you for your understanding and being so generous with your time and helping so many women. bless you.
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+Jabeen Hirani Many blessings to you too Jabeen!
@kimberlyolbrich5418 жыл бұрын
You are by far, the bedt "love" doctor on KZbin@ Intelligent snd thought provoking. Thank you for your time and advice!
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+asia east Thank you for your kind words, big hug! -Bern
@margaretanderson91088 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Bern. I love all your videos. I feel more different about myself, more positive and beautiful.
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+Margaret Anderson So glad to hear that Margaret, blessings to you. xo
@madgeclarke61287 жыл бұрын
iam talking to a man flor 6mts he live out of state he call me every dy snd tex me i dount here from him for 2 wks i think is red ,flag i dount call him what do u think i must do thank u
@samanthawest4208 жыл бұрын
Love your amazing video. Makes me feel beautiful just listening in.
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
Thank you Samantha.
@extracoffeemug8 жыл бұрын
Bern you are amazing, as always! I've been doing this (the lipstick and the others thing you've mentioned) by my ownself to improve the way I perceive myself and get my own self-love and happiness and IT DOES work! It DOES! You feel so much better when you do that! Thanks so much for keep on advising us with these amazing things WE ALL should know but forget. You're awesome! xoxo
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+Catarina Thank you beautiful human, it's always a pleasure seeing you here on the comments. Sending you love Catarina
@extracoffeemug8 жыл бұрын
+Bernardo Mendez (Yourgreatlifetv) thanks for replying always! I never miss a video of yours, you know that. Sending love back!
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
Catarina Te quiero Catarina :) Your Big heart is felt from miles away. Feel free to connect on Facebook if you're connected there.
@extracoffeemug8 жыл бұрын
+Bernardo Mendez (Yourgreatlifetv) Awww! Thank you so much for saying that, Bern! I can also feel your big heart from miles away too and in your videos! Te quiero tambien! xoxo
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+Catarina
@samarhamdy66787 жыл бұрын
Just recovered from an ED and your positivity is really helping me! Thank you
@altheadickerson47715 жыл бұрын
Thanks! Bern speaks from his heart and is honest. I just started reading his blogs.Very good.
@BernMendez5 жыл бұрын
Big hug!
@SinaLaJuanaLewis8 жыл бұрын
i appreciate my body at the gym when I look at my glutes from squats or my lats from doing pull ups. going to the gym is about respecting myself...
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+Sina Lewis Great to hear Sina. Big hug! -Bern
@ileanamendez57233 жыл бұрын
@@BernMendez I appreciate your advice very much. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and time.
@elvispresley82178 жыл бұрын
Bern you ARE AMAZING at all that you say we women should and should not do. As women get older it is truly hard and at times difficult to connect with a man especially THE MAN YOU WANT TO CONNECT WITH. I love How you Put It in Simple Yet Enduring and Terms and BLESS YOU FOR ALL YOU DO to help women Feel Beautiful and our Best Self. Love listening to you always.
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+elvis Presley Sending you love :) xo
@junemuch56507 жыл бұрын
oh god! this man is awesome. As a young black woman your videos have changed my views and confidence in life. I'm in a relationship and I'm not sweet nor sour. quite a lot of guys are asking out, but the reason why Im not dating is because I wanna take a break a rejuvenate after my toxic abusive relationship and most importantly focus on my a levels and me. thank you so much. keep up with the good work Ben.
@junemuch56507 жыл бұрын
*meant to say "not in a relationship"
@emilybeth71786 жыл бұрын
This is the type of teaching I'm going to absolutely drench my beautiful daughter in, ty for being perfectly counter-cultural 💓
@BernMendez6 жыл бұрын
Big hug Emily, just a quick warning many of my videos have F-Bombs so not sure how old your daughter is and if she can hear them or not : ) xoxo
@emilybeth71786 жыл бұрын
Bernardo Mendez , thanks! I'm teaching her myself ... She is 7 :)
@tatianakooks61598 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the positive energie!!! I'm learning everyday more about my self and connecting with love with the people around me. You encourage Woman to be at there best in life, this is priceless. Wish you a lot of love, succes and happines.
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+Tatiana Kooks So happy to hear this xoxo
@szatkown8 жыл бұрын
Bern, thank you so much for what you do! You have the best videos and advice. I grew up with very little guidance in this area and I just can't tell you the difference your advice has made for me in just the past 6 month! Thank you so very much.
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+Nancy Szatkowski You're so welcome Nancy, blessed to know I make a difference in your life. xo -Bern
@meredithjoy26 жыл бұрын
Just watched this again, it's such a great video! You should make a whole program on this, or more videos expounding on it! Thank you for all you do!
@BernMendez6 жыл бұрын
I do have a program : )
@anjanaadapa41237 жыл бұрын
small changes gives major confidence boost! thanks a ton bernard😇
@BernMendez7 жыл бұрын
You're welcome Anju!
@christineh22228 жыл бұрын
Another awesome video. Thanks so much Bern great advice and for energy you bring to all your videos! Please keep up the good work you do 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+Christine Hanson You're most welcome Christine keep smiling that beautiful smile of yours. xo
@BeBeautifullyYou8 жыл бұрын
I've watched a lot of videos on this topic and this one was different, in a good way! Simple, precise and to the point. Also, well explained for ladies like myself that need just a bit more clarity :-) ! Thank you so much. I will remember these tips.
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+sal3s3 Glad you found it useful :) xoxo
@niravsiddhena27878 жыл бұрын
you are my favourite coach ! awesome insights !
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
Thank you Nirav
@yolaiine998 жыл бұрын
Indeed!! I wish all the young women out there saw this... "That physical body, will go down some day" But a Healthy flaw less skin, and the way she walks...lol...You did said that one. lol... "RESPECT" The self so true...
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
:) xo
@IloveyouthankyouMultumesc3 жыл бұрын
I Adore this video Bern for your valuable insight and your generosity in sharing this knowledge. You are Amazing. Although I might feel akward at first if I am honest with myself these tehniques feel so good, useful and practical and efficient. I already feel more feminine and energetic. Thank You
@BernMendez3 жыл бұрын
You are so welcome. Roxana!
@akshdeepbhatti69437 жыл бұрын
Love watching your videos.. acceptance is important and I have learned to appreciate myself with time and I can totally relate to everything you just said thank you for sharing this us
@BernMendez7 жыл бұрын
You're so welcome Akashdeep. Big hug to you. -Bern
@hollymorton90488 жыл бұрын
Bern, you are the BEST!
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
Thank you Holly! xo
@user-iy6zj1nu5t8 жыл бұрын
Absolutely positive message...You totally made my day. Again!!:) Thanks a mil, Bernardo!
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+CHLOE KIM You're so woelcome Chloe
@ebonyreynolds2043 ай бұрын
4: Tune into his heart. Honestly, you have to get to know and be with a man long enough to do that and not on a couple of dates . Since we are not mind readers, The best way to do that is to put yourself in his shoe when he is going through something and try to understand his perspective. Hell definitely feel like you are if you start to do that. It takes practice and emotional intelligence all should learn . Not just woman but men. Relationship go so much smoothly when men and woman understand each other core needs and values.
@janeyjaney56577 жыл бұрын
I'm addicted to your videos! I wish I had connection to wifi as I've used 4GB of data listening. Your great, and spot on, this resonates with what I believe xx I've also read Sherry Argov why men love bitches and why men marry bitches xx
@beatriceerete3 жыл бұрын
You are super great. Thanks for educating us.
@masterartist10258 жыл бұрын
You ARE awesome, Bernardo Mendez!!!
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
Thank you Elgeta. Sending you a big hug!
@lyndamcmullen94104 жыл бұрын
I loved this video. Thanks Bern ♥️
@BernMendez4 жыл бұрын
I'm so happy it was helpful!
@sigmaethiopia63478 жыл бұрын
Dear Bernardo, Very powerful and intelligent advise. You make me happy lol
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much xoxo
@sigmaethiopia63478 жыл бұрын
xoxoxoxo smart
@genetoile7 жыл бұрын
I really love your channel! Thank you! xx
@BernMendez7 жыл бұрын
Genny, Thank you so much for your support. Sending you love!
@aracelisgomez34457 жыл бұрын
This video is amazing!! I need to listen to this everyday!! But I can't find anything I like about myself☹️
@BernMendez7 жыл бұрын
Practice more gratitude Aracelis. Visit a homeless shelter, the cancer guard of your local hospital, you might find an inner sense of awe at who you are and what you have. xo
@aracelisgomez34457 жыл бұрын
Bernardo Mendez I will!! because when am having those days I only focus on my physical parts I don't like not realizing how lucky I am because am healthy 🙏🏼🙏🏼 thanks😘
@thedarkquelovelyway60187 жыл бұрын
Thanks again Bernardo! U r truly awesome!
@BernMendez7 жыл бұрын
You're most welcome!
@victoriafilippova89278 жыл бұрын
Thank you Bern! Very inspiring and clever as always and what is more valuable - it does give the results! I always watch your videos and get new ideas for my relations with my boyfriend :))))
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+Victoria Filippova Happy to hear that Victoria. xo
@azyraizel8 жыл бұрын
I love your show its been helping me a lot in my new relationship ,unfortunately it couldn't help my last one when I was head over heals in love with this guy for 7 years and out of no where he dumped me a month before our 7 year anniversary I was in so many pieces for the majority of 2015
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+AZYRA IZEL Glad you're finding strength and value today for your relationship. Sending you love! -Bern
@lisafa82108 жыл бұрын
You will have someone better , he dumped you because you deserve better. Be strong , you are beautiful .
@laurarc967 жыл бұрын
I love your videos Bern! So helpful - love what you do!
@christologhenede7068 жыл бұрын
how do you tune into a man's heart?
@samanthaesra40358 жыл бұрын
Amazing.love the edge.
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
Big Hug Samantha
@avalonmist2543 жыл бұрын
I'm both!
@glorias11228 жыл бұрын
Bernardo Mendez you are awesome like always I love your video's.
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+Gloria S Thank you :)
@rihaalami38277 жыл бұрын
you are great ... Bernardo
@arlenehermogenes37734 жыл бұрын
Thank you.. Very helpful info.. Love it
@aiwangerjennifer73668 жыл бұрын
Excellent advice! I guess, I have these qualities you have mentioned but it all affairs to me as a natural way. In other words, women should embrace feminism. Thank you Bern! I like watching your videos! All the best and more power to you!
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+Aiwanger Jennifer Thank you for watching and for your kind words. Big hug to you Jennifer
@NDiaz-et6hc8 жыл бұрын
Bern! I will try this. I totally get what you mean and wish so much to meet a like- minded genuine guy---if nothing else I will get some use out of shoes and lipsticks I never wear for fear of too much exposure, if that makes any sense ! Xx
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+Nat Diaz Hugs Nat. :)
@susiewellbeing8 жыл бұрын
+Bernardo Mendez (Yourgreatlifetv) very good
@sootysmother88 жыл бұрын
you have a beautiful heart
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+Lyn Olcorn Thank you Lyn,
@biblelovingirl6 жыл бұрын
loved this!💕 I'm not big on cursing but aside form that your great😙
@thick-totally-cute47928 жыл бұрын
you are really a love doctor.
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+thick-totally-cute :)
@ranakhan2038 жыл бұрын
Love love the video ..💜 brilliant
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+rana khan Thank you
@tropicalgoddess38513 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@yolaiine998 жыл бұрын
Yeah I try that... The sens who I am. Just to have guys telling me 10.15 years later I was to sure of myself. I am an ITIMIDATING woman. Waaaaaawhat??? I am kind the intimidating by men, that come across my path. Why? They where all well to do Intellectuals. Do you know how intimidating that is? How the hell I was the one intimidating them?? I only have a two years college education. But I educated myself with all that I can learned. Plato, Socrates,Shakespear.
@ella82138 жыл бұрын
You are truly amazing!!! Thank you!
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+ella ornella You're welcome xo!
@bettina6848 жыл бұрын
Hi Bern, Thank you for our advice. I have a question. I was dating a guy for 4 weeks, he did everything you mentioned in your video " what a man does who loves a woman". All of a sudden, at the moment, when he was sure that I am interested in a long term relationship, he pulled away, his answers to my messages were coming in longer distances, only replying in a few words, where before he was writing long love letters twice a day. After 4 weeks of no contact, I received an SMS telling that he got a new professional challenge that he will take, it is just the wrong time for us, I am still the woman of his dreams and so on, but unfortunately he cannot live with all that time pressure. I didn't put him under pressure, nothing, he got panic and disappeared without even talking to me personally. After 3 days, where I didn't react, he wanted to meet me again. I totally furious was writing him that I'm not interested any more, because his behaviour showed me that he is not the right guy for me. This happened mid of Feb., do you think that after such a long time he might show up again after restructuring his life? Why did he make such big efforts to connect with me if it was just for a short love affair? At which moment a woman can show her interest in a man without taking risk to get dumped for it?
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+Bettina Eitler My best advice Bettina is to never contact this dude again. If he becomes interested in something serious, grows a pair of balls and contacts you with clearer intentions (and you're not with someone) then think about it for now I would consider him not ready for you and move on to a man with more decisiveness. xo
@bettina6848 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your reply! I was afraid that I was too "challenging" for him, but he was just not delivering what he told me.
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
Bettina Eitler You're now free to find deeper love. xoxo
@Mr_X4448 жыл бұрын
What about when you were with a man who saw you as radiant for being yourself. But you show him a shade of yourself that exudes fear . I was dating a man a bit younger than me with a daughter. After he got too jealous I decided to break up with him. He thinks I cheated on him but I haven't been with a man other than himself since we broke up. I realized that I want to spend my life by his side but he's pushing me away and he wants me to give him space and to move on . He's known to be insecure and cautious of love. What am I to do? We live in the same neighborhood. I love him but he says something is missing and doesn't want to see me. It's been two months I see him sometimes.
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+Sally Choi I say this with the deepest respect to you. If the man you're with walks away from you, let him go. Part of what you love is the man he is and another BIG part is your fantasy of who he is, your projection of who he is. This man who he is being right now, cautious, jealous, lack of balls, etc is who he is choosing to be. Unless he decides to change this (and he can but not sure that he will) you will suffer a lot if you pursue him, so I say let him miss you, move on with your live and when I say move on I'm not saying just go back to your old life without him - I'm saying Make it even better. Sending you Love Sally. You can do this. xo -Bern
@shellystone1163 жыл бұрын
You are vary good.
@ataveras51237 жыл бұрын
OMG Bernardo have you considered creating a podcast?
@BernMendez7 жыл бұрын
Hi Alli, not really I enjoy the video format a lot more but thank you for the suggestion. xoxo
@hl89528 жыл бұрын
love youuu sooo bernardo
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
Love YOU Hazar!
@AndreaStaskowska3 жыл бұрын
Profound.
@CaperucitarojaPR8 жыл бұрын
baby you always make me feel valuable , thank you for exsist
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+Patri Navarro Glad to be of service. :)
@agnesnjeriwanjiku5708 жыл бұрын
waaaoh I like it!
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+Agnes njeri wanjiku Thank you!
@am-jn5mm5 жыл бұрын
what do you recommend / or think about the No Contact Rule? don't see any videos on that, plz advise.
@svietakorniyenko57308 жыл бұрын
As usual, Bern, you are awesome! thank u for your valuable message! you really mean what u say! the only thing which was a bit harsh, and in some of your other videos, was f*ing and similar words. I usually ask men to avoid hard language in my presence. maybe, it is old-fashined, but this appreciates me as a lady.
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+Svieta Korniyenko I totally understand unfortunately the words will remain in the videos I'm certain you know the results are worth it. xoxo
@svietakorniyenko57308 жыл бұрын
+Bernardo Mendez (Yourgreatlifetv) :)
@svietakorniyenko57308 жыл бұрын
+Bernardo Mendez (Yourgreatlifetv) yes, Bern, I still like you! ;))))
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
Svieta Korniyenko haha Thank you, I still like you too ;)
@imaneaitmimi31408 жыл бұрын
You smile, I smile.
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
@JeniferSice8 жыл бұрын
wowww 'i really like this video
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+Jenifer S Thank you Jenifer :) xo -Bern
@kittybriones17037 жыл бұрын
I love your videos..and your so rt on !!!!!
@vixen77018 жыл бұрын
How exactly do you tune into a mans heart? Can you give examples? Do you mean empathizing and sympathizing? Thank you :)
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+vixen7701 What I mean is, you first tune into your own heart. This means you allow your heart, the feelings you get to be unobstructed by pushing them down. When you're able to be present with your own feelings you can then be much more perceptive and in tune with how he's feeling. You can offer him a non-judgmental presence where he is seen and understood not just intellectually but emotional. I guess you could say this is emotional presence at it's finest. :) xo
@marlenek34128 жыл бұрын
I'm having a hard time focusing on the content, lol your smile, 😃 but I'm trying. okay I feel better I got that off my chest. but it's hard to concentrate! Could you maybe face the other way? lol. I will just listen without looking that way I can comprehend what I'm hearing and actually use it, although I have been happy to be a single mom and not sure if I care if I attract a man or not at the moment, but sometime maybe.
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+Marlene S You're funny. big hug Marlene :)
@kittybriones17037 жыл бұрын
love love your videos!!! do you have a brother lol
@BernMendez7 жыл бұрын
Two married brothers hehe
@esterhp82982 жыл бұрын
Lovely 🥰 🙏🇸🇪🌏🌷
@MyBestSiteEver8 жыл бұрын
I get it...how to get burn from Bern? LOL Bern I have a question-there was a guy I met in person that I am very attracted to and we began an online relationship that was going well until he told me that he was casually dating 2 other women so I said goodbye but I miss him. I would like to get back in touch with him, but how would I do that without making a mistake? I've had no contact with him since March 4th. Thanks :)
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+MBSE-S5002 What is the mistake that you're afraid of making? Also what did you say to him when you said good bye?
@MyBestSiteEver8 жыл бұрын
+Bernardo Mendez (Yourgreatlifetv) I'm afraid of turning him off or not appearing to know what I want, and disrupting his life as a result. He said one of the women is an old friend from high school, and they had 40 years (he's 57) of catching up to do but didn't know if there was any chemistry yet. He seemed to be favoring her over me and regret asking me out so I mentioned that to him, then wished him farewell, said I would miss him and said for him to have a good time with her.
@Jensenia118 жыл бұрын
+MBSE-S5002 #FeeltheBern, lol
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+MBSE-S5002 The thing is, if you go back it's very likely that you will be in a worse position than before. If he wanted to connect with you he would have made an effort. The challenge is that you're more into him than he's into you. Situations like these rarely if ever work. My suggestion is to not contact him unless you have other great things going on in your life including contact with more men, that way no matter what happens with him you're not putting all your energy into him while he's still playing the field. Hope this makes sense. xo
@MyBestSiteEver8 жыл бұрын
+Bernardo Mendez (Yourgreatlifetv) Thanks Bern. It's sad to read that I'm more into him though. Hope things turn around. Have a nice day and thanks for your time.
@chapativsmcd8 жыл бұрын
You're so handsome!
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
Thank you, very kind of you :) xo
@laurenoverman44228 жыл бұрын
Don't forget to smiley!! I love my feminine swag..haw. Sway with kindness too. Watch with caution though. You reminded me to go ziplining and buy FAT hair spray. Thx! ; )
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
Big Hug Lauren.
@MaxItUpwithMarta8 жыл бұрын
Ay Bern, what can i say, I am not totally convinced on this one. :(
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+Marta Laura Zayas It's ok Marta I'm not trying to convince you of anything. Use what you find useful of my work and leave the rest behind. xo
@anne15688 жыл бұрын
very well said! what more can i say ;-)
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
Thank you Jane xo
@anne15688 жыл бұрын
+Bernardo Mendez (Yourgreatlifetv) Thank you Bern. im wondering if you could do a video on how to tell if the guy likes you or he is just being friendly..or you have one already? thanks a lot and more power to you! :)
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
Yes I do: kzbin.info/www/bejne/p2PYgqODnZeUnqs xo -Bern
@anne15688 жыл бұрын
+Bernardo Mendez (Yourgreatlifetv) thanks so much Bern! you are amazing! keep it up :)
@samahal-shahwan46878 жыл бұрын
🙏🏼
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+Samah AL-Shahwan :)
@yolaiine998 жыл бұрын
Well, what really get under my skin. I've been call a sex "Symbol" I hate it. If Iam so...Why I am alone?? I am sexsy. Noooooooooooh...Stop it!! I am a petite woman. I keep myself healthy, I drink my water. My skin is flawless. I survive "CANCER" stage 2. 15 years ago. I have these men. But they never stick around to long. No that I don't keep the "FLAME" On... They still, wanted to come back, but just for the fun. No commitments. Why?? Is it because I don't know anything about Base ball, Chest, ect... I grow up with Soccer. Should I apologize, for that?? :( I am not an insecure person. But I admit I have cold feet thinking approaching a guy in public. Crrrrrrrrrrr...
@FashionistaDesigner7 жыл бұрын
What happens here, if we are already certifiably knockout sexy??? Hahahha;-)))
@BernMendez7 жыл бұрын
You go for more, hehe
@FashionistaDesigner7 жыл бұрын
Hahaa..ok!!;-))
@corinavandewetering216 жыл бұрын
Even more😂
@BernMendez6 жыл бұрын
: )
@beigelover958 жыл бұрын
Whats his snapchat? I love his advice!
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
Iqra I'm not on snapchat but you can connect with me on FB if you want: facebook.com/bern.namaste
@SuperLuckao8 жыл бұрын
i disagree here..too many so called confident women about..they come across arrogant and unattractive. Even very confident men put me off. For me, humility is key. I get he most attention when i'm ill and crawling down the road to the doctor. People jsut see me dor who i am then and like it. ..it's not pity or anything.I think people are so sick of these proud and confident giraffes called women..i've seen lots of men complain about them..no one wants a princess..best way to get the edgy feeling is to stop thinking about urself all day long lol
@PH-VG8 жыл бұрын
+Daisy Train Hey as a men I agree with you that humility is very important - I do actually also agree with Bernardo (except the "selflove-loving"). Why not consciously know who you are, accepting yourself fully and at the same time approach your environment at the same eye level with the hope to learn something anew? My point is that self-confidence or self-acceptance and humility are not controversial to me.
@SuperLuckao8 жыл бұрын
Philipp H yes..good point ..i agree. Just accept ur self with the un arogant attitude that ther are mor einportant issues in the world than urself..
@PH-VG8 жыл бұрын
+Daisy Train yea seems to me right - there are other things that matter very much!
@rosalindgrimes24376 жыл бұрын
Daisy Train but you must be careful of what you attract while being at your worst self instead of your best self!
@MrsDivamel8 жыл бұрын
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
+mel celine
@prachim70058 жыл бұрын
Can you not swear. It is a turn off.
@BernMendez8 жыл бұрын
I can't not swear so I kindly invite you to stop watching my videos or understand it's not swearing just because I wan't to sound cool. there's power in words. xo -Bern
@MariaMaria-xs9zo8 жыл бұрын
99% of people I know who swear are the greatest and good-hearted ones. :)