How to actually build a romantic connection with anybody

[@Fitriasamawa]

1. Communication 2. Curiosity 3. Vulnerability 4. Authenticity

[@WYAKNOX]

Preesh

[@ursosexmachina]

Goodluck finding that

[@uncle0eric]

Found it!

[@chrislong8525]

@@ursosexmachinafr. Always appears only one of the two will have these qualities

[@aryamaansinha7402]

@@ursosexmachinalmao tried that and somehow got shifted from romantic interest to friendzone

[@sportyeight7769]

"there is no butterfly in your stomach, it's actually in your chest and it's called Anxiety" i've just spit my drink from that hahaha

[@AdidTurreno]

I never liked having "butterflies" and this is why. To me they're not a sign of interest, they're a sign that I don't know someone or trust them

[@AskAviii]

@@sportyeight7769 💀💀💀

[@natefnbr8494]

Exactly, i get "butterflys" around people i dislike. ​@@AdidTurreno

[@PimpythePurple]

Nah. Anxiety is not knowing if it's going to work or not. If you've truly been in love you'll feel a whole jungle in your stomach, not just a butterfly. Source? I've been in love.

[@natefnbr8494]

@PimpythePurple nah, it's different for everyone, I have a wife of 3 years, trust, id know.

[@noideaa]

"Being nonchalant is corny, you need to open up a little more" I needed that lol 😅

[@thesaddestdude3575]

if your sub 5 nothing matters.

[@Aaron-zs5on]

@@thesaddestdude3575you don’t even know how many dudes i know that are not considered conventionally attractive at all, but are just crazy outgoing and constantly pull 10s. it’s all about your mindset dog.

[@KingQuin-h6w]

Fr me too 😭

[@the_J-777]

same i had to think about it for a minute

[@lucwijngaard8413]

These smaller youtube channels are sometimes hidden gems

[@CosmicQJ]

@@lucwijngaard8413 Faxs

[@kunknown2340]

You're a hidden gem 💎 😘

[@Onepieceistheworstanime]

You stole this from me

[@CosmicQJ]

@@Onepieceistheworstanime ??

[@ethanchristopher6709]

I love watching random video essays full of wisdom that I otherwise wouldn't have found

[@rohanwalker756]

I think the saddest thing about all of this is that it’s possible. To be vulnerable, interested and invested in someone genuinely. But people let their trauma make them unavailable.

[@jaughnekow]

It’s sad but true

[@-441-]

💯💯💯💯

[@aurelia1108]

This. My ex broke up with me cz "you're too nice and wholesome....I've never dated someone that treated me well" And apparently that made him feel weird😒 Like our relationship was so smooth Anyways...his loss

[@-441-]

@@aurelia1108 HIS LOSS 💯💯💯💯

[@vanella27]

As someone who's living this truth, I wouldn't ever describe it as "letting" the trauma make us unavailable. The trauma is something we fight to overcome everyday, we're not letting anything. I personally grew up with a very skewed perception of what love is -the people who were supposed to love me(eg family and teachers) hurt me over and over again and now I don't know what love is supposed to feel like. I can't say that I've ever truly felt it but these days I've been getting a clearer picture and I want so badly to be able to feel these things. Trauma causing avoidant tendencies, emotional unavailability etc is one of the worse things that I have to live with

[@assiafalihp9850]

This also applies to playonic relationships, put in effort to create something genuine & real. Be the friend you want to have.

[@AskAviii]

exactly !!

[@katandallthat]

ik these were just part of the intro but i think they’re real important for ppl new to relationships 1) you will put yourself out there and it won’t always workout 2) it’s nothing instantaneous like the movies, let it develop slowly 3) JUST BECAUSE YOU THINK SOMEONE IS ATTRACTIVE / YOU SEE THEM ALL THE TIME, IT DOESNT MEAN THE POSSIBILITY OF BUILDING A RELATIONSHIP EXISTS 3.5) some people are in your life and just in your life as friends and that’s okay

[@vaeros1083]

As someone who is trying his hardest to build a romantic connection with someone, this is the absolute best advice I’ve ever seen. Most other people simply say vague things like “just be confident.” Like okay, but that’s not how confidence works, I can’t be confident 24/7 in every situation. Nobody can. But being authentic, honest, curious, and vulnerable I think are more important than vague “confidence.” These are all of the things that I want so badly to do, but have struggles with. Thank you so much for putting this video out into the world.

[@bulldogsnewleaf-m7g]

right? finally a how to be confident. Confidence is just doing the thing your scared of, like okay great - this tells you what to focus on thinking when you wanna do the thing!

[@katietruong7566]

“people want to get deep and if you can’t swim, just say that. but this is HOW you float “💎

[@AskAviii]

🛟⛵️ down the river of love 🖤

[@Zaftrabuda]

bars

[@Infernokami]

gonna need it broken down cuz idu what it means 😅

[@archidearest]

@@Infernokami sure, let me help! people want to get deep and if you can't swim, you are allowed to express it to the other person, say it out loud to them. by doing that, you are still not swimming, but you are learning how to float, which means you are slowly getting into the water, the water being the deepness you want to form with people and that people want to form with you. it is an analogy that basically says you don't need to have it all figured out or be perfect to connect with others, you can just try and that's enough. was that more understandable this way?

[@Zaronn01]

Don Demarco!

[@jeromenelson4093]

THIS! This is the ONLY VIDEO you need - it's not ten steps to get any men/women you want etc... just .. this ..beautiful.

[@itsDjjayyArt]

Indeed but finding love like this is getting rarer each day

[@AskAviii]

🖤Thank you ! this means a lot, I've seen so much generic material on here, its time to change that.

[@lexizimmerman8837]

Agree you ate down on these perceptions, very well spoken

[@spyrex_de]

But why doesn't it work for me then? I am doing all these things for years now, but no one reciprocates. I initiate, I'm curious, I don't put on any facade, make sure I'm always open for others to approach me as well and I improved my social/communication skills by a lot. People are nice to me, but they never get back to me. They seem happy to have interacted with me, but don't want more. What should I do?

[@betweenthehammerandanvil]

You’re not alone, I’m experiencing the same unfortunately

[@MyChemicalBromance]

I think combining this: 3:28 "Just because you think someone is attractive, just because you see them all the time, does not mean the possibility to build a romantic connection exists" with 13:12 "the less we [try to connect with people you haven't shown the real you] the less we dwell and the less we actually feel is lost" is the way out of limerence, one way or the other. You get stuck there because it always seems like there's something else you can try, but the only thing you really should try is to convey who you are. There's still room for improvement; you can improve how you convey your feelings, which come from your needs (and you should always phrase your feelings in terms of your needs, because they're the root of your feelings, not the actions of other people. Take responsibility for your feelings.), and you can be more vulnerable if you haven't yet. But if the person you're trying to connect with still doesn't go for an earnest projection of yourself, then you can rest easy knowing you did all you should do. You didn't fail, you explored. Go look for gold over the next hill.

[@pamfan221]

"Go look for gold over the next hill" ❤ You have a poetic and compassionate way with words.

[@glyveozone7303]

Non-violent Communication for the win! :D

[@Rottenabbey]

I just started a new relationship. And this is such a good reminder to not let my anxiety drive me away. Lol it helps being reminded that I when I want to be with someone I need to accept that vulnerability is part of it.

[@AskAviii]

It's definitely and journey! hoping yall do it together:)

[@montee3766]

As a man I'm kinda split on this. On one side women say they want a vulnerable man but then they say those men are pussies.

[@AskAviii]

@ this is true ! What kind of person do you wanna be tho??

[@arpitanweshsahoo8718]

All the best buddy 🙂👍

[@jaughnekow]

Yeah, the anxiety just wants to make you quit and give up…and be alone

[@jeanlucdecoster]

The is one of those videos. The kind I almost didn’t click because it seemed click baity. But I’m glad I did because I can already tell I’m gonna think a lot about it, and often.

[@AskAviii]

so much bullshit out there, I wonder how many gems i've passed up sometimes. Thanks for being here

[@risingpuella]

Wow i thought the same

[@xxczerxx]

The main thing I found recently is that a relationship hurts emotionally, you feel massively exposed if you're a guarded individual like a lot of men. Perhaps I'm a very cut off person but as a guy who has very sheltered emotions it is paralysing to have someone close to you for the first time in years. And I'm not talking empty one night stands which leave you cold, but the beginning of an actual relationship.

[@oakuvalentine7734]

could u tell me more about that? Im in the same boat minus the actual close connection part and it scares me like crazy to imagine being “wanted”

[@Charm999]

The atmosphere of this video is so lovely :) I love your insights, editing and sincerity♡ girl i even shed a tear plss

[@AskAviii]

🥺 thankyou!

[@caylaleonard580]

Me tooooo 😭🤣 I was like “why am I emotional rn”

[@1lovebaking]

​@@caylaleonard580 frr 😭

[@Brandonhung95]

"People wanna get deep, and if you can't swim, just say that, but this is how you learn to float" You freaking cooked with this line, damn!

[@jaylyng4]

i met her for the first time and we watched entergalactic, it was beautiful. it was authentic. it was real. i’m very grateful for her and i hope this video sticks with me so i can grow more as a person.

[@chertz-e6r]

bro the first dude i ever talked to we watched entergalactic and its now one of my fav movies. nothing happened between us but regardless of what he wanted or didn't want out of it im also grateful for that very short period it taught me a lot about myself :)

[@tekgeekster]

can't have a relationship if nobody's interested.

[@itsDjjayyArt]

That's the tough part 😞

[@Littlestraincloud]

Dude, ask 10 people out this week. Be kind, be chill, just ask them out. You might get 9 nos, but you might get 1 yes. You gotta put yourself out there. No ones gonna drop into your lap

[@AskAviii]

truee and that's a whole separate issue 😣BUT that can change at almost any point

[@anggorogedewaseso169]

Tell me about it

[@montee3766]

@@Littlestraincloud as if it's that easy. I mean I definitely agree you should put yourself out there. But asking random people out just seems shallow. I don't know them.

[@securityvau1t]

saw the title, expected the same rehashed ideas about the subject delivered in a vague and broken-record kind of way didn't think I would stumble upon such an insightful and down-to-earth video (with amazing editing and impeccable humor as the cherry on top!) really useful stuff; thanks for this

[@AskAviii]

😭I'll work on my thumbnails lmao!! Appreciate you being here though:)

[@Radioman23]

bro this is crazy, this video made me tear up and smile over how warped and dumb my vision of love tends to be. I've had amazing relationships before, and i've accepted a lot of people, but i couldn't accept myself in romance, I keep my fears bottled up and can't grasp that sometimes people can be really beautiful in this ugly world. Call it self loathing or low self esteem or just trauma ig, took me a while to even try to take a shot and open up in my first relationship, but this makes me genuinely understand why I'd be doomed to fail from the start. This vid felt like a slap in my face on what love actually is, on how beautiful vulnerability is, and how important it is to be able to resist and push through in spite of your insecurities, our mind and fears can be our chains, and clear words can set us free. Clear communication really is the key, and you just showed me how to open doors. Got yourself a new sub, that was some wise cookin!

[@AskAviii]

That was beautiful. 🔥 I’m so happy you felt the essence of the vid. 😭✨ like you nailed it and I wish you so well

[@youtuber0201]

4:44 Communication only works if the other person is reciprocating. Both examples don’t work bc the communicator is met with apathy and dismissal.

[@Noahvolex]

if they refuse to communicate with you i dont think it will work out in the long run

[@gabi3742]

YOUR REFERENCES ARE GOLD OMG seriously, your video helped me realize a lot about myself and what I should probably work on. Relationships are so scary but I forget that's what makes them exciting! Thank you for this

[@AskAviii]

You're welcome! 😭 It's terrifying but worth it 🙌 even just for yourself

[@wilmavoss9654]

Can’t believe this is from a channel with less than 100 subscribers

[@cumtopus8348]

That changed very quickly damn

[@AskAviii]

LIKE what happened 😭 i was at like 18 three days ago. Thanks for being one of the first!

[@infamrule1]

From the first few moments I understood how authentic this video was, the pauses, the references, the jokes - thank you for that. I’m happy I saw this but I’m even happier that this type of genuine advice is being shared with everyone.

[@AskAviii]

Thank you for noticing! Especially the pauses ! I leave em in on purpose thank you 🤍

[@OGSharquan]

Damn this is actually fucking good i hope this blows up more because i feel like a lot of people need this, i definitely needed this

[@ROD7ify]

This was one of the best videos I’ve seen not just in dating, but on KZbin in general. Thank you for this incredible piece of content

[@AskAviii]

means a lot thank you so much 🥺

[@takeiteasy1133]

@@AskAviii Yea bro, for real

[@veryspecsheet7791]

Alright, I'm gonna be real with everyone here. Tomorrow I am going on a speed dating thing while I have never been with anyone or have any experience in the 23 years of my life, and I don't have a lick of an idea on what to do. I watched many vids talking about how to flirt, how to get the girl to chase you and all that. I hated it. It felt so... machine to me, no care or love was found in those vids, and I hated it, it's all mind games. But as time grew on and my deep scare I had became worse. I figured it out. Just. Be. You. And this vid explains all that truth on what you should do. Take it to heart, and let it lead you. When I somewhat understood that, that fear somewhat faded. I'm still scared as hell, but at least I don't feel like hurling my guts out now. Thank for the video, it just proves that the heart is your true connection to anyone.

[@AskAviii]

Let that shit flowwwww 🌊!! Show up, focus on them, pay attention, GOOD LUCK. 🍀 🫡 let us know how it went !

[@veryspecsheet7791]

@AskAviii You know what? I will. I'll try to remember tomorrow night. if not, send me another text on monday as a reminder!

[@lightyagami6456]

Hope the speed dating goes well! And yes the best advice is just be yourself and be kind of straightforward to what you want do or be in life( (feeling wise) sorry my English is not the best

[@bamb2873]

How was it gang

[@AskAviii]

We await in suspense 👀

[@phoebeknyx]

"duh but like no, cause some of y'all don't get it" pretty much sums it up . . this is so brilliantly done, start to finish 🎯

[@MuttonChopsMan]

This is probably one of the best videos to help someone start on self discovery and healthy relationships. The true 101 of dating. Bravo

[@Lauren-dz6fh]

"If you can't swim, just say that." Brilliant. Everything about this video 💫

[@AskAviii]

Thank yuuu🥹🤍✨

[@aero.9638]

This video made me realise maybe love ain't for me

[@silentbree]

Why?

[@Fanrose2475]

Good that's not a terrible thing lmao

[@DLGanimator]

It's completely on you if you want to have a relationship, but if we are talking about love in general then nah. Everybody deserves love and nobody should feel bad for wanting to be loved. It doesn't matter how undeserving of love you *think* you are, you still deserve as much love as the one that deserves it the most. After all, the ones who have it the least, need it the most.

[@AskAviii]

i have thoughts like that sometimes, but i really I hope somebody changes your mind,i appreciate you watching🖤

[@BlueBean_4]

I understand where you are coming from. My toxic trait is not really saying what I really want in the fear of either ‘burdening’ someone or I wont receive it. Because it happened more times than I could count. We DO deserve love though. I pray that you find it. Much love and best wishes to you 🫶🏾

[@kyunni]

watching this was so satisfying to watch your voice is so soothing , and a good perspective shared too

[@AskAviii]

🫡thank you ! It’s nice to hear my words are resonating ! More to comeeeee

[@ItzMayhem]

Nowadays whenever i watch videos with this type of title i almost automatically think it’s the same generic bs that is a waste of time. But this… this is probably one of the enlightening videos i’ve ever watched. I’m leaving this video with a new view on things i once struggled with. That and the amazing production with the little little clips and hidden jokes😂 this video was truly a blessing!

[@lfe_time_humor8045]

You taught me a very valuable lesson only 40 seconds in the video that’s where I stoped the video and said you gave me all I need and I thank you. You said, “you don’t need to know all the answers” and to figure it out as it goes. That was great advice. I will do that as scary as it sounds. Thank you

[@AskAviii]

I’m glad you were able to get what you needed. Dope ✨

[@rubywednesdays]

8:44 killllled me LOL love the editing and flow of this. Such a great video and reality check. I’m learning throughout the years that the only hope for a relationship is communication, which is one of my greatest weaknesses. Realizing the problem though is already helping immensely.

[@AskAviii]

Letssss GO !!! I hope you become a yapper and can say everything you want tooo soon

[@montee3766]

How do you do that tho?

[@orrhousecreative]

This is what actually valuable content on KZbin looks like. Bravo. I came into this expecting to know everything you would say, but I found new ways to think about things and insights into things I've never fully touched on. Thank you for reaching into the unknown and sharing your wisdom, you're touching on some of the most important values for as humans-to share our wealth of experience so that others may progress and together, we can create evolution. Let this inspire further, or sink to the bottomless depths of the digital eternal existence.

[@AskAviii]

TO the bottomless depths of digital eternal existence we go ! but first thank you my friend So glad you found it helpful 🥺

[@bebopobama4686]

Really disagree with the point you brought up early on that romance needs to "serve the plot" to exist in a film. It's a genuine human experience, the point of a film isn't just the plot alone, but to showcase human experiences. Romance is naturally going to be apart of that as much as eating, sleeping, looking out at a vast landscape, noticing the way light falls through the trees, or going to work, it doesn't need to serve the plot. That plot focused perspective is too narrow and why modern films are so stiff. There's no room for atmosphere, they just feed you a conveyor belt of plot points instead of letting you be immersed in an experience. This mindset also relates to how a lot of people treat romance now as well.

[@MaintainYourClown00]

I think you’re actually on the same page, at least for the most part. Romance doesn’t need to serve the plot, but it should make sense. I agree the we need more atmospheric films that are not plot-driven. But I think they were just explaining that romance isn’t always well-written in movies that are plot-driven and it gives us a false perspective of romance. I really love romance and romance movies, but I want to see more realistic portrayals that don’t make it seem like such a fairytale.

[@justinwebb2773]

The desire for romance is, but not romance itself. Not everyone experiences romance as part of their life because there is no one else that wants to be part of that romance with you. This goes for both men and women. It takes two to tango and some people have no partner.

[@valiant_valor]

Romance isn't needed in most films and TV because it quite literally serves no purpose other than to create unnecessary sex scenes in media. It gets very irritating when you're watching something full of suspense and some stupid bitch decides to fall in love for absolutely no reason other than they just want to fuck.

[@respectablestudent]

I think he was just saying that romance was just randomly thrown in certain movies

[@nessmarie6044]

i get what u mean but fiction functions much differently from reality, there r a lot of deeper underlying mechanics that go into writing good relationships, great ones make said mechanics unnoticeable yet make the audience endlessly root for the relationship to blossom. while serving the plot isn’t necessary for writing good relationships, a relationship that embodies certain themes within your story only strengthens it, it makes us feel like there’s a reason they’re on screen

[@mrrespect4874]

Bless you, genuinely made my day. In a online world so full of hate, lies and confusion it's easy to get cought up in all the emotions. videos like this are hard anchors to bring people back down to a peaceful state

[@AskAviii]

Happy to be here for ya ⚓️

[@ela5117]

curiosity!! such a good point to make, i forget about this all the time

[@Ethan-fb3yb]

Thank you for this dude, this is exactly what I needed. I just met possibly the best girl that has ever walked into my life, and it shocks me everyday to know she’s so interested in me. It’s really early on, but I want to take it slow and do everything the right way. I’ve always rushed and jumped into things before without building the right connections you’re talking about. And man, bringing up the hard questions and being vulnerable is damn difficult, but that really is the only way to build a mature relationship. I feel more clarity now, thank you again 🙏

[@AskAviii]

I am so happy to hear that! Remember these are the first steps, I’m proud of you for recognizing these things ! And that tells me you on the right track ✨🖤

[@jabby17]

I clicked on this video on a whim, my finger nearly just brushing over and continuing on with my day, thinking it’d be one of those generic superficial videos that offers knowledge that is obvious and already mainstream. But now i walk away with advice thta i will carry with me for the rest of my life. I can feel that this is the truth. This is the way. i felt it all along I just needed someone to articulate everything. i wrote everything down and i will carry your wisdom with me for my life and hopefully create genuine connections and have them thrive. thank you so much

[@sssystem1]

One of the important videos out there this year. I loved everything that's been said in this. I mean I'd like myself some friendly reminder that I've done all these before in the past, and most likely can still do it today and in the future upon being reminded.

[@sofiaxincecchetti6481]

truly something i was "searching" for in a long time, really gave me more clarity

[@annikalee3351]

thank you for this. i love the way you articulate things. it feels easy to understand yet so, so nuanced at the same time. you are a fantastic communicator. i will take your words to heart

[@AskAviii]

to heart!? 🥺 More for yall soon!

[@Chee.Y4ng]

This video pretty much cleared up ALOT of things that I’m goin thru with a girl that I’m in love with.

[@ssaintdolli]

wishing you guys luck!!

[@elisegray6962]

I agree with all points. Especially being vulnerable and authentic.... This is how I love my friendships and I can't wait to meet my person ❤

[@MrDanielsss]

i wasn't looking for this, but damn it came at such a right time thank you for it

[@dababysbaby951]

as someone who has such big emotions but doesn't know how to understand it and process it, your vids help me and i LEARNNN so much from this channel. I'm looking forward for ur upcoming videos!

[@Swytched]

Such a simple video but helped a lot. Made me realize somewhere along the way I was open and myself and was hurt in such a way that I convinced myself i still was being me even behind a wall. Thanks. This will help me greatly. Gotta use the tips with myself before anyone else to loosen the gears up.

[@AskAviii]

You get it. Come back to the world, starting with yourself is a really good way to polish these skill us ! Good luck

[@birthdaypro007]

This video is so so so amazing and goes well in depth about the realities of relationships in general and the groundwork and work needed from then on and I love it so much I hope you guys find success because y’all deserve it

[@AskAviii]

you're so sweet !

[@TheMaurice7131]

I don't know how this found me, but it's a truly insightful perspective. I couldn't agree more. Thank you for sharing. 🙏🏾

[@AskAviii]

Glad to be of service, my friend. 🖤

[@Emma_Sooo]

THANK YOU for creating this video! you spoke eloquently, maintained my attention, the clips from different films/tv shows and other media amplified your ideas and opinions, and I heartily laughed too! I'm going to show this to my brother too because he thinks having a partner will solve all of his problems instantaneously.

[@AskAviii]

🖤🖤🖤 glad you enjoyed it! Sometimes we really need different angles when we talk about these things! I hope bro recieves it well !

[@unwrittenbylj]

That last line was very profound! Hoping to hold onto it so I can chew on it a bit longer 🌱 Thank you!!

[@MairaPlastira]

thank you for this, takes a lot of the confusion off concerning this whole topic

[@part-thymer9995]

This video is earnest and put together in a very charming way, from editing and source selection to voiceover and subs. Thank you, it touched me and I’ll be coming back to it. Wishing you time, will and opportunity to keep on honing your skill👑

[@AskAviii]

Thank you for this! had no idea it would touch so many 🖤

[@traevon.m.]

This is the best video on relationship advice I have ever seen. Super realistic and relatable!!!

[@ZeroToMidnight]

I’m at the early stages of dating a friend I’ve known for a long time and this video was quite useful for putting things in perspective.

[@katandallthat]

this is what i needed to see. i just went on my first date in years. i never understood why it never worked out, and i’d blame myself for it, but this gave a lot of clarity. thank you kind stranger.

[@JemTheBookworm]

Good straight forward video, really like how you talked about love and as an aromantic person really appreciated how you mentioned that “romantic” love as we perceive it has been heavily Created by the media we consume + just very chill about it, wonderful video!!

[@MetroVOfficiall]

The best video i have seen in months here on youtube, the real truth and not some other generational bullshit, great job

[@AskAviii]

MetroV approved 😎 ✅ thank you!!

[@janioordonz5687]

this is truly a great underground find, great channel

[@iztae2206]

I like that all these things can be applied to like, any bond, like in a friendship I think you should also do these things, and you can find some precious bond.

[@AskAviii]

You get it 😎

[@Trix3nn]

the thumbnail being from Entergalactic just proves this is going to be an amazing video ✨

[@connorholmes8786]

Yo straight up thank you SO MUCH I love your delivery and personality thank you for being real and showing us how to be real and vulnerable. Golly bruh I’ve been tryna be authentic and stuff and I’m dying out here with a weird situationship. Also love the part about letting yourself be perceived

[@AskAviii]

Bruhhh good luck !! Be clear and speak up for what you want tooo

[@ssissigui8846]

I wish I learnt about this earlier . I'm in my late 30's and still learning. But these are also thing that you need to experience and feel in your guts. I doubt I would have had this level of understanding of this video of I hadn't gone through all the pain and heartbreak before Thank you

[@miz3670]

This video was so well put together it deserves some views. Sharing when everyone, in a relationship or not. Thx this should help me with my situationship

[@AskAviii]

Good luck out there and thank you 🤍

[@Torre-n2m]

I actually learnt a lot of these things by myself almost everything before I found this video for my SELF and you definitely described all of the things it took to be comfortable and ACTUALLY happy in a relationship this video definitely is good

[@altagracia.2239]

this is my first time coming across your channel and truly this was beautiful & soothing to hear, thank you sm

[@AskAviii]

You're so welcome!🤍

[@Hrissle]

I will be coming back to this video. Many, many times. In the past few months, I have been very lost. Like really lost. Questions like who am I and what do I want, what do I need chased me like nightmares down the hall. I still don't have the answer to many of them, I am learning. But your video brought me forward. And you know what. I will open myself right now, right here. Because I almost never do. Since I have been small, life has found many ways to teach me how to be NOT vulnerable. Don't cry because that's what weak people do. Don't show too much love because people might run away. Stay there in your place and don't move. There are so many ways that I can not even paraphrase them. The thing about it is that I always feel hurt when I miss out on those little moments. When I feel the urge to kiss or hug somebody, I get scared. What if they don't like it, what if they don't want me near them. Currently, I am working on it, and believe it or not, your girl opened herself last week. I told people how I viewed the world. I broke a wall down and told two of my dearest people ever how much pain I carried inside of my heart. Do you want to know what happened? They accepted it and gave me new perspectives. They filled the cracks in the wall with love. Deep love. So, what does that mean for you? Well, if I managed to do it.. then you can do it, too. I really thank you for making this video. You brought a lot of light in my dark room, and I will spread that light into other people's rooms.❤🦋⚘️

[@821Drifter128]

This video was magical. Thank you so sooo much! Such valuable re-centring

[@AskAviii]

You're so welcome!🖤✨

[@mrsbluekiwi111]

i stopped this video at 3:55 cuz you said everything i needed to hear right there and i gotta let that marinate

[@AskAviii]

Let it soak 🌊

[@mozzi0493]

This is an authentic eye opening video, and it has humour too which brings fun to a serious topic. Great work 👏

[@sumaiyazaman8126]

best video which is actually mature! no dark manipulation tiktok lingo, love it

[@tereal6075]

This video has a special place in my heart can’t wait to see you continue

[@AskAviii]

🥺thank youuuuu

[@feliciahitch8235]

“It’s about making that inner child happy again.” Thank you. What a great video ❤

[@eliiiiiiiii0]

What a great video, thank you! I was having some doubts about someone but everything is a little bit clear

[@AskAviii]

Good luck 🍀

[@Grip-Dis]

Watched a lot of videos about connecting with others and out of all of them this had genuine advice. You called me out so much damnn 😅

[@AskAviii]

I’m sorry 💀but I’m glad it helped

[@Supercozy_9]

I have to be honest this video ,although saying things that seem obvious ,is amazing and helps me see connections with others (romantic or not) in a different light

[@AskAviii]

sometimes we just gotta hear it a certain way🖤

[@squeakydacat6837]

I’ve always had a really hard time forming close relationships with people, especially in relationships. I want to get married and have kids someday, and I’ve liked a guy physically before, but I’ve never felt like “yeah, we get along super well, I’m actually comfortable with you.” It wasn’t until I sat down and told my therapist that I got a little bit of clarity. She just looked at me and said “You’ve met men you want to be friends with, But have you ever met anyone you wanted to marry?” And for a phrase so simple, it completely blew my mind. I hadn’t. Maybe i’m broken, but I can’t say I’ve had a crush that I thought “wow I want to grow old and share my life with this person”. I’m already a hopeless romantic, so I hope someday God will place someone in my life I can have that connection with. :)

[@AskAviii]

🖤Thank you for sharing that!! I hoping you find the connections you seek and peace along the way.

[@Holly.amorouss]

omg not the Waves clip at the start :') thanks for this one I'm going through a rough one atm and this was a gift in my algorithm

[@AskAviii]

I love that movie, but I hope it gets better/easier! 🖤

[@Robshrp]

I feel that this channel is gold.

[@MrBUTTMAN17]

Starting to build a genuine connection and this video hits the spot!

[@AskAviii]

Let’s goooo! Wishing the best 🖤

[@caylaleonard580]

Thank you so much for this entire presentation. So refreshing, so artistic, so calming and reassuring. This is just what I needed 🥹❤️

[@user-mt4jx1lx3g]

6:10 is a brutal scene to put in this 😭😭😭 no ways poor Hughie

[@AskAviii]

Shhhhhh don’t tell them 😂

[@garntfab1687]

this is honestly my new fav video essay

[@AskAviii]

ahhhh🥺 thank you

[@RikisVlogs]

Needed this man. Really building things with this guy who also is afraid of intimacy. We both slightly influenced with black pill. We both know there’s a much more wholesome and true reality and love beyond that but we both just guard hard.

[@AskAviii]

Building those walls takes time and sometimes chipping away at them takes longer. Yall got this 🖤✨

[@lokeywaldo410]

this is fire and made me change my perspective completely

[@AskAviii]

Damn ✨🥹 I’m glad it resonated thanks fircwatching

[@bluepeach5010]

Somebody wanting to know you, for me feels scary. But I loved this video and it's definitely showed me how little we actually tell people in our lives how much we appreciate them and what they do. I love this video, not just romantic connections, but human connections

[@AskAviii]

It's so refreshing to see that people are taking these lessons to heart and applying them to all aspects of life!🤍 thank you it is scary but that fear turns into something else after a while

[@5GentleGiants]

Being vulnerable is for yourself not then❤ i never thought of that

[@danieldmeza3121]

Best video I’ve seen on this topic for a while… great job!!

[@cookiesyruplover]

Solid advice and phenomenal edit haha these clips are so good! Hope I can follow this, it's hard not hiding myself. It's hard to not fake it when it's what I believe keeps me safe. But it makes me lonely and it's not right to hide myself like I'm something to be ashamed of. No one should be made to "perform" to be liked. The scary part is that it will only get easier the more you actually go out to connect and talk to people. I just want to skip to the part where I'm just better at it already. Being a fumbling, anxious mess ain't fun! But I want to believe it's worth it, it's worth knowing that I can be myself.

[@AskAviii]

You can take all the time you need, break thing up as small as you like. It's truly scary at times but I love that you're making it about you and not everybody else you got a solid foundation 🖤

[@montee3766]

If you're a girl you don't really need much to find a genuine partner.

[@AskAviii]

@@montee3766 what makes you say that my friend ? 👀

[@Shiv-w3x7v]

Love this video!!! Love the humour too 😂, this deserves way more views 💗

[@indicainnadaze]

Yes, I love this and I feel like that’s exactly what our society struggles with a lot, especially vulnerability because we feel like we can’t trust anyone around us cause too many people who are hurt and hurt people, hurt people and so people stop being so vulnerable because they’re scared to be hurt. They’re scared to open up and just be. Personally, I found that opening myself up, elevates me so much that Im at a this point I don’t even give a fuck. I’m like an open book but not too much.

[@AskAviii]

I love that for you!! It's a lost art, and i'm sad we aren't really taught to value it until it's too late. Keep elevating yo! ⬆☁

[@justmoosethings]

This video really does feel like a safe space. Thank you for this.

[@AfroX-StayLegendary]

That sent straight to voicemail bit, I FELT THAT.

[@kejsik6374]

there is so much content on youtube these days that a lot of videos feel either like a very theoretical checklist or useless yapping, not to mention that these videos often repeat the same ideas. this one however was very enjoyable and i will probably revisit it, because there is some wisdom here!

[@AskAviii]

I'm glad you got something out of it! It feels good to be able to contribute in some way, I too tire of the crap on this app 🤍✨

[@musicmeister1313]

Hi author, this might be a top 10 youtube video for me. I dont know where to start, but your words have reached me

[@AskAviii]

Thank you! I appreciate that, let's start together 💪

[@uzzzoma]

you’re a breath of fresh air on youtube…thank you for this video, please keep creating 🙏🏾

[@AskAviii]

Thank you so much!!😭 I got things to say

[@joltsy4935]

had to watch this 3 time, hopefully I can get things work to out. I'm always so bad at communicating, grew up in family that's not so open and welcoming with expression, it just made me very proficient at bottling my emotions and strategically thinking what to say things just to not get yelled at.

[@Ethan-fb3yb]

You’re not alone🫂 we got this

[@AskAviii]

You being aware of this already has you in the right track ! You got this ✨

[@evangelineisolde]

I like this. A smile plastered on my face and it felt nice. Thank you

[@AskAviii]

Happy to help ✨

[@AskAviii]

Glad you enjoyed it ✨🥹

[@evangelineisolde]

@@AskAviii🙂