How To Approach Strangers, Connect And Start A Conversation Without Fear Or Anxiety

[@KevsGuide]

Thank you 1/ Let go of your agenda. (talk to people with no ulterior motives). A/ Go for the obvious. (talk about the location, event, weather etc). B/ Be interested. (if you are interested, then you will be interesting). C/ Be authentic ( be yourself, dont pretend to be someone else). D/ Be playful (relax, smile with you eyes, have fun).

[@renegodefroy]

Very nice recap! Thank you!

[@renegodefroy]

You got it! Thank you for the wonderful recap.

[@DAClub-uf3br]

If i am going up to talk to a stranger I am going to have an agenda.

[@nassermj7671]

Thanks superstar timesaver

[@marshkid1]

Give value, that could be an agenda. @@DAClub-uf3br

[@Theancestorgirl]

That story is so inspiring the fact you had no idea who she was

[@leahcimmmm]

My father was once a doorman too! He managed to shake hands with Nelson Mandela!

[@renegodefroy]

That is so awesome leahcim!

[@lms9278]

So who opened the door for who? Your father is the greatest doorman in the history of the world. I hope he will hold the door open for me one day...

[@welding_guy7524]

The silliest thing in my life is I used to interact and feed off the public.. I worked in a family owned traveling fair.. I started in the games as a kid.. It was a fascinating job calling people in to play..it’s where I learned to be open and entertain people.. I took that and later in life became a cab driver.. talking to people was always easy, but as I’ve gotten older I’ve become shy and reclusive because I stepped away from those opportunities to interact with strangers.. I really needed this video to find my courage that has went missing

[@crystalnelson3428]

I do this all the time at work.It doesn't matter what position or status they have people are people respect a kink jester and a Smile can take you along way!

[@dameianjohnson5954]

I really found value in your presentation. I'm currently learning how to prospect and I fortunately watched your video and all you said connected with me. Thank you

[@jamiukazeem9474]

Thanks very much sir

[@renegodefroy]

You are very welcome!

[@HeiressEurheinessHighley]

Such a beautiful soul ❤️ Thanks for sharing!

[@renegodefroy]

Many thanks! 🙏🏼

[@Travelmom305]

Thank you for this video I just start a business and was looking how to greet my prospect without being nervous.

[@ernestlevi7898]

this video has really help me, as a new offline marketer, i just got this marketing job which have not done before, as a shy type i wanted to leave the job, but because i needed the job i have to make some research on how to talk to people, i think this video has really open my eyes, GOD BLESS YOU SIR, MORE GRACE.

[@renegodefroy]

Awesome! Glad you found the video useful!

[@BurningBushPedagogy]

BEST VIDEO EVER ON THIS TOPIC. OH MY GOD. THANKS A LOT

[@renegodefroy]

Many thanks Alpha for letting me know. I appreciate it.

[@zapatastyle]

I'm going to watch this video everyday this week and use your tips. Conversation with strangers is really an exciting thing, when done with an open heart. Thank you for taking the time to make this video!!

[@renegodefroy]

Wow! Thanks for sharing that with me. You are amazing! Keep pressing on!

[@JayJay-lr5wm]

Point one is an ice-breaker, thanks Rene

[@shubhamdivyanshu988]

I haven't seen a better video on networking. 😇 This one is a life changer.

[@shubhamdivyanshu988]

@Rene Godefroy Also, I really appreciate the way you're replying to each and every comment. Humbleness : Habit worth learning for many content creators out there.

[@renegodefroy]

You are welcome, my friend. Keep pressing on!

[@camaroones9538]

Finding this video was really a gem! My favorite tip is the first one- pointing out the obvious. Its so easy to complicate thinking of things to start talking about , but the point really brought it to light for me. Thank you Rene!

[@renegodefroy]

It's my pleasure Camangelo. Thanks for sharing your feedback with me. Keep pressing on!

[@geraldbarbacena9043]

@@renegodefroy wc sir

[@sexicolleen]

Thanks for good information I want to prospect strangers but sometimes feeling timid ...

[@renegodefroy]

You are awesome! Thanks for your authentic comment. Vulnerability is power. .Do you know the root cause of why you feel timid?

[@KJBTruth1611]

Thank you sir! Sometimes I hesitate because of trying to think of something to say and I'm too inside my head. This is great advice!

[@renegodefroy]

Awesome! Let me know if you have any specific questions around this topic I can answer for you.

[@pearldavis5176]

This is so me omg

[@aspiremore3669]

@@renegodefroy pls can I comment on their outfit or perfume? Also ,at what point do I introduce my product? Thank you sir,God bless you richly.

[@renegodefroy]

@@aspiremore3669 Yes! You can comment on their outfit or perfume. Don't have an agenda to introduce your product. Go for the relationship first. Be interested! Listen for the keywords they are using. If someone says, "My son plays loves video games," Get the person to talk more about the son. At some point, you might ask, "what do you do for a living?" They might ask you the same question. Then you can introduce your product. In the end, they will buy you first. Without you, the product does not move. For example, I help people package their stories, struggles, challenges, experiences, or backgrounds to create services or products to serve millions so they can make money and a difference in the world. When I'm talking to strangers, I know most of them are not living their dreams. I know they are unfulfilled. I know they want their own business but they don't know how to go about it. I would say, "by the way, besides working here, what is your passion? Or what do you really want out of this life?" The conversation might end up with them expressing their dissatisfaction. At that point, I can tell them that is exactly what I do. I would offer them to get on a free call with me so I can help them create a strategy. The goal is to genuinely help them before they pay you money. That said, I don't know what you are selling. Your approach may be different.

[@aspiremore3669]

@@renegodefroy wow! I'm so grateful for your timely,lovely, intelligent response! God bless you richly in Jesus name!

[@theenlightenmentera]

I have a problem to speak with the people.Thanks for your video.This will help me to outcome from my problem.

[@paulclegguk]

Thank you Rene for an excellent presentation. I’ve been doing everything that you have outlined for all of my life and I’ve put it down to intuition. You’ve broken the steps down perfectly. Your video will certainly help me encourage others to overcome their reluctance to engage. Thank you.

[@renegodefroy]

Excellent Paul. Let me know If I can help with your team. I have some more fantastic ways to fully engage that are not in this video.

[@somersetdrones]

@@renegodefroy Thank you, Rene. I no longer have a team but I teach marketing strategy and relationships and often draw on my stories from my time selling to hairdressers as a young man. Rapport is so much easier if you are interested and you can leave your agenda at the door.

[@franklehane8843]

"Being who you (really) are is all you need (to be)." ~ Biggest takeaway

[@jaimatibhoola4052]

Loved the video. Awesome!

[@ajiboyefemi4808]

So adorable thanks so much sir ☺️🥰

[@olowojustine3340]

Thanks for the video it's so motivating , watching from Uganda

[@JeffreyYoung-jx2yb]

Thank you, I got value

[@samuelbain7260]

Very good to share !! I did it already sir !!

[@ntawukinanayoj.baptiste5665]

Very nice teaching chenged my life

[@villagechillershorror228]

Wow! Seriously, thank you so much for this. You just won yourself a sub.

[@samuelbain7260]

Hello, Mister Godefroy, this my first time that here you, you are a very Motivational speaker, congratulations sir, keep doing it sir, and by the way my name is Samuel Bain, I'm Haïtian. " May God bless you and your all family, everything you have Sir, thank you !!🙏

[@samuelbain7260]

Excuse me, I mean " that I hear you..."

[@renegodefroy]

Hi Samuel, great meeting you here. Thanks for your comment!

[@GoldeneSpits]

Super good and useful content, all makes sence! Thank u man

[@renegodefroy]

Happy to help! You are welcome!

[@cesartonoli19]

Thank you very much for the content!

[@and3311]

Super helpful!! Thanks 🙏

[@MRahim-do1gx]

Thanks for the valuable info!

[@renegodefroy]

You are welcome! Thanks for letting me know.

[@jarailrakestraw6304]

You have the knowledge. Can you say jackpot... I love your content. If it's possible, I would love your advice on how to text someone on mobile for the first time about an offer. Thanks for all you do Rene.

[@gabriellajean798]

Aww, I am Haitian too😍😍so happy I found you

[@renegodefroy]

Excellent! So glad you found this video!

[@cvwassociates6857]

Excellent!!!!!!!

[@SoapboxRhaq]

Thank you so very much Mr. Godefroy! Your information is gold! I will definitely put these principals into practice immediately! Thanks again, I truly appreciate it.!

[@renegodefroy]

You are welcome my friend! Thank you for your feedback! Much appreciated! Let me know if you any question about this topic.

[@alisabr4039]

I used to do it as tour guide for tourists.

[@krybbabanton]

Thanks

[@abdallahhariri6798]

super beneficial! subscribed to you :)

[@leahcimmmm]

Sir you deserve more views and subscribers!

[@renegodefroy]

Thank you!

[@renegodefroy]

+Leahcim Oyatse Many thanks for mentioning it. You are right.

[@lesliewilson_twin2047]

+Rene Godefroboy by

[@irtaf3]

I agree

[@crazyplayer14komes86]

Thank you Sir. The presentation was straight to the point. I subscribed ..what a valuable contend. I could learn a lot. It will help me a lot in my beauty Business.

[@renegodefroy]

You are welcome.

[@ernestlevi7898]

hey crazyplayer, what a nice presentation from mr rene Godfroy, i believe you enjoyed it and also i know you learnt a lot from him?

[@lyonelsilas465]

I really enjoyed your video and learned a lot. Thank you very for this valuable information.

[@renegodefroy]

Many thanks Lyonel. Glad you enjoyed the video. Remember to subscribe for future videos.

[@mariefortune]

THANK YOU I ENJOY YOUR VIDEO.

[@renegodefroy]

You are very welcome Marie. Nice meeting you virtually.

[@mariefortune]

ONE OF MY BOSS CALL ME ,SOCIAL BUTTERFLY 🦋 I TALK TO EVERYONE. ALSO I LIFT PEOPLE SPIRITS. THANKS A MILLION.

[@LatriceR]

This was great information

[@tamorijackson8488]

Steve Harvey thank u

[@renegodefroy]

It's my pleasure. Glad you found the video helpful.

[@LotusWorld]

Hi Rene, very well presented so simple and meaningful insight. Thank You.

[@renegodefroy]

☝🙏 You are welcome! Thanks for your feedback.

[@geraldbarbacena9043]

I learned a lot . Thank you so much sir I really appreciate it.

[@renegodefroy]

I'm glad you learned a lot Gerald. Thanks for your feedback.

[@geraldbarbacena9043]

Welcome sir.

[@isaacekubu2954]

Great information.

[@theenlightenmentera]

I am very fresh in network marketing industry and I have

[@shivakumargk3992]

Nice thank you !!!

[@renegodefroy]

My pleasure!

[@mdattoma]

Excellent insight, very helpful. Thanks Rene

[@renegodefroy]

Thanks!

[@renegodefroy]

+Michael It's my pleasure Michael. Glad you enjoyed the video.

[@captainhaiti]

Sak pase! Bèl travay blodè. Mwen aprann anpil. Kenbe la!!!

[@renegodefroy]

Meci. Kimbe la blode.

[@fbisono66]

Thank you sir!

[@musabimanasylvestre6835]

I TS very good

[@OttawaRealEstateAgent]

Ok sounds good but thats starting on superficial level: weather, sports, evebts etc ..how do you turn this into a client (sell something, service) How do you finish the conversation?

[@lynnhamilton582]

I love your accent. Very charming.

[@renegodefroy]

Thank you, Lynn!

[@nicholasotieno9046]

great piece! thank you

[@renegodefroy]

You are welcome @nicholas otieno! Remember to subscribe.

[@boballen6024]

Very helpful, Thank You

[@renegodefroy]

It's my pleasure Bob.

[@rosa629]

THANK YOU

[@renegodefroy]

You are welcome!

[@renegodefroy]

You are welcome Rose Andrea

[@hazeneze]

Hey you know I have same problem, am new immigrant had social anesity and no friends I nothing how I can solve my problem

[@renegodefroy]

Just the fact you found this video and typed this comment tells me you are half way to solving your problem. The entire conversation about your issue is happening in your head every single day. If you can manage to monitor your self-talk and change it to exactly what you want, your problem will go away. Don't worry about how it's going to happen. Your unconscious knows. Your only job is to consistently tell your mind, "I am very sociable. People love to be around me. I make friends easily everywhere I show up. When I meet others, I am genuinely interested in learning about their world. I approach people with confidence and strike meaningful conversations." Yes. That may sound woo-woo. But, trust me, it works. Do this for anything you want in life. The only thing to keep in mind is to never state what you want in a negative way. For example: Never say to yourself, "I am not shy." Instead, say, "I'm highly confident and sociable." Also, it's not enough to say the words. You have to imagine it with feeling. That's the secret sauce. The reason this works is because you are already everything you want. However, your mind or ego has forgotten that. And that's because of our social conditioning or programming. As the saying goes, we are engineered for success but programmed for failure.

[@oskdva1]

thank you!

[@amosyoder8730]

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[@teflonhav]

great video

[@renegodefroy]

Thank you my friend!

[@hani9501]

Nice

[@shawngrayofficial2621]

Any pointers on reaching out through social media

[@renegodefroy]

The best way to reach out through social media is to understand you are communicating with human beings instead of objects. I think that is what's lacking. So, be extremely courteous, uplifting, compassionate and caring. Find something good to praise and uplift the people you are contacting. Treating people as objects is when we put our products or services first. That means you are having a transactional interaction. As the saying goes, no one cares how much you know until they know how much you care. Asking for advice like you just did is also an excellent approach. It's very human.

[@mufaddal7732]

Hi sir. A great video indeed. This is the first video of yours that i have seen and its was really good. I totally agree about the 'scare quality' that we posses as humans. You suggested that we should not have agenda so that the other person is not scared. However, sometimes i meet strangers and they smile at me and they strike an 'obvious conversation' with me and then the alarm in me goes on...my head starts telling me - why would this person talk to you...he must be having an agenda..and then because of which i start to show disinterest in that person and dont talk to them. can you please suggest me what i shall do ??

[@renegodefroy]

+Mufaddal, it may be because you are dealing with a trust issue. Like it's difficult for you to trust people. Am I right? It looks like you lose interest before you are certain the person has an agenda. In order to offer any suggestion, I would like to know if the person approaches you because you are attractive or because he wants to sell you a product or service. You should be able to read people by observing their body language and the words they use. If the person is tight and uneasy, that's a sign. The reality is, your subconscious will tell you instantly if the person is up to no good. Listen to your intuition. As an example, if the person starts complimenting you on your physical attributes, that might be an indication. There's a difference between "your legs are gorgeous and those shoes are really nice." We should never compliment someone on their physical attributes during the first approach. That said, it's often difficult to coach someone or give advice without specific details. The word agenda may mean something totally different to different people.

[@allan2149]

Great

[@carthaliegedeon6545]

I'm from Haiti

[@renegodefroy]

😄I'm glad to know you are from Haiti. So am I. Welcome to our inner circle. And thanks for your comment.

[@ErfanKaramigplus]

you're awesome :)

[@renegodefroy]

+Erfan Karami Thanks!

[@chukakaelo2275]

Hello, I don’t think we’ve met but how’s your typical day when you wake up?

[@kcr7928]

Hi i will goint to learn inglish whaching your's videos (no se si lo escribí bien xd)

[@sing.staylor]

Thank you for sharing

[@renegodefroy]

It's my pleasure @shawn!

[@trevongraham2856]

How would you approach someone if you were selling life insurance?

[@renegodefroy]

I would approach the person just the same. Put your agenda on hold. Find out what is the person's desires and wishes. People buy from people they like and trust. Get the person to like and trust you first before you tell them about your product. Be genuinely interested in learning about the person.

[@chrisjordan7938]

Hi, Rene . This video , this training was ABSOLUTELY beyond helpful my friend . I genuinely want to thank you for putting it out in the universe. Here’s my question: are there a certain amount of questions that need to be asked per level to make a deep connection? For instance: state the obvious- 2 questions/ be interested: 5 questions, etc. I may be overthinking this 😀 But thanks again Chris

[@renegodefroy]

Hi Chris! Excellent questions! Don't be concerned about how many questions. If you are too self-conscious about that, your conversation will now flow organically. You ask questions to listen so you can follow up with another question based on the answer. As an example, you say, "Wow! This is a huge store! Isn't it?" The person says, "Yes. It's the biggest in Georgia." You say, "Really? I live 10 miles away. I think I'm going to make it my main grocery store. You live in the area?" "Yes." You say, "You are lucky. By the way, I heard it's a law in this town the law says everybody must own a gun. Is that true?" As you can tell, there's no limit where you can take the conversation. The person might be a gun lover or opponent. You might find out the two of you have a lot in common. That said, listen for their main words to fire your next question. The smartest people in this world are those with questions instead of answers. Don't cut people off. Let them talk about themselves and what they care about. The more can talk about themselves the faster you will be able to establish trust. But, keep in mind that the reptilian brain will NOT go for what I just shared unless you pacify it first so it knows you are not a threat. Say things that it is familiar with. For example, the reptilian brain knows, the store is big; there are so many isles; the shopping carts are huge; the bakery is one of a kind; the floor is so shiny, you can even see your reflection. Hopefully, you get my point. Let me know if you have more questions.

[@charlowalliset1484]

haiti oui

[@tadabizmarketing2849]

Oui. Oui. Haiti Thomas!

[@shawngoesonn]

Before seeing his face, I probably thought "Morgan Freeman is giving advice on talking to strangers on youtube

[@lowbudget32182]

my problem is not that I'm shy, my problem is I don't know how to talk due to speech motor issues

[@lms9278]

What kind of "BREN" do you have?

[@carlosrosario9920]

Bruh

[@lms9278]

Insane in the main BREN

[@BigCheeZeMan]

You commented 4 times Shut up

[@lms9278]

@@BigCheeZeMan why did I hurt your feelings? Your parents must be both gay men because you are so sensitive

[@BigCheeZeMan]

Oh I get it. You're 11

[@funkyYoutubehandel]

16:00

[@ruslanisaev5724]

👍👍👍

[@Erik-Pineda]

I wanna sher a shtery

[@DAClub-uf3br]

So if i don't have an agenda why am I trying to speak with this person? Your example of going to business event and trying to network, you have an agenda in that case don't you?

[@lms9278]

Not everyone wants to talk to strangers

[@renegodefroy]

Thanks for your feedback, Victor. You are right! Most people are afraid of strangers. However, what do you mean exactly by saying not everyone? Are you referring to yourself or someone you know?

[@JoseSanchez-ub3cc]

I wonder do you ever made a video of the employer that things he knows everything better than you

[@lms9278]

Bren?

[@Zk8et]

🙄

[@retribution999]

Nothing very much here. We all have an agenda

[@renegodefroy]

Thanks for your feedback. We welcome them all negative or positive.

[@blaireofhylia1572]

could you start with "god created everything" next time so i know not to take your claims seriously?

[@rakesha9923]

I thaught kim Kardashian

[@renegodefroy]

Hi Rakesh. What do you mean by Kim Kardashian?

[@madankumar-yl2mx]

can u be straight to the point, rather a lengthy rubbery stories

[@dapolice9632]

They help, so shhh

[@terryfunderburk6805]

Well then I guess they will be great to bounce off people I meet 😁

[@yahyadanso553]

Thanks

[@mamerto1100]

Thanks very helpful 👍🏻

[@renegodefroy]

It's my pleasure. Keep coming back for more.

[@sanaryoteje4750]

Thanks

[@renegodefroy]

You are welcome! 👍🏼

[@mitchelljakobi6860]

Thank you!