How to avoid the friendzone

[@gatorcellman]

Have to agree with main point that it is the guy that allows himself to get in the friend zone. If you don't show the woman through flirting, slight touching, eye contact, etc. that you are attracted to her, you'll be put into the friend zone. Learn to read her body language and signs of attraction and if she responds, great. If not, then be nice, but don't invest anymore time or effort and continue to look for those who do respond. In a weird twist of fate, some of the ones who don't respond at first, will do so once they see you engaging with other women!....go figure!

[@LayanBubbly]

Very well explained. I agree.

[@88brigate]

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[@grimweird]

Correct information. Just do it. Don't think about it too much. Confidence, humour and a little flirting. Most of all be genuine. Be clear about what you want and who you are.

[@AlekNovy]

One problem. Women DO call you a creep/sleeazebag if you show clear intentions. Here's a common situation. You show interest in a girl (and we're not talking tons of interest here), just 5-10 seconds of flirting. And she goes and fucking shames the fuck out of you and tells 50 common friends that you're a creep who's obsessed with her - all based on FUCKING 5 seconds of flirtation. This is quite common. Plenty of girls do this shit.

[@evenmorenonsense]

Forget that. Here's what worked for me: Meet someone new at a party or whatever. Start a conversation with her on anything, see if you can both get excited about it and connect. If it's happening, close with "You seem like an interesting person. You and I should meet up somewhere..." If she gives her your number, she's not stupid, SHE KNOWS IT"S A FUCKING DATE. She expects you to pitch compliments, she expects you to hold hands, she expects you to buy her a drink, she expects you turn up the flirt factor, she expects you to make out with her - but monitor her mood VERY CLOSELY throughout the date. If she looks bored or anxious, change something up, the location, whatever. Oh and never show interest in a girl AND THEN NOT DO ANYTHING, it looks like you're spying on her, it's gross.

[@driveman4588]

if you ugly that's what happens good looking men don't fall in friend zone and looks are 80% if you look good and can talk she on her knee's if you ugly you're put in friend zone right off the bat LOOKS MATTER

[@LakenTak]

+Corey Forman Says the man that never got laid.

[@driveman4588]

Say what you want looks matter to woman as well if you not attractive they will put you in the friend zone

[@bubbleoftrouble2329]

+Corey Forman looks matter more for women, be glad you're not one of them.

[@whoreallycares2368]

All it takes to avoid the friend zone is to walk away from it.

[@PhilipPetev]

More accurate would be to say you refuse to stay in it and state it loud and clear.

[@ElEternoPoetaLuis]

"If you wanna kiss her, tell her you wanna kiss her" WTF? That shit doesn't work. She is gonna think you are a fucking creep if you tell her that.

[@TheMetea11]

+ElEternoPoetaLuis Damn right. Read the signs and go for it at the right time.

[@mav1877]

+ElEternoPoetaLuis Agreed, most women will think you are weird and/or inexperienced if you say that. If unsure, it's better to tell her to kiss you like Coach Wayne suggests OR read her body language and go for it.

[@redvelvetsprinkles]

Very true. Very accurate.

[@Alcheer]

I confess she is right, we worry about ruining the friendship and being rejected by that friend. Friendship is important doubt. It's simple courage really.

[@mav1877]

Ask yourself if you still want this girl after she went after the other guy even if she breaks up with him. Don't be plan B or C. I say move on. Most women have a sixth sense if a guy is into them or not. However, don't do group dates and make it clear you are into her. Some girls will still not like you even if you are direct, but better to know earlier than later. Don't waste your time on wishy washy answers. I think Hayley is only partially correct here. I only think you have a shot if you actually went out with her and then she friendzoned you rather than not even going out at all. In the latter, she most likely does NOT like you. She IS not worth it. Women who like you make it easier for you.

[@thatperformer3879]

You deserve a lot more subscribers your KZbin channel is great and you're highly underrated

[@zackbrown5201]

Banks and women act same , the more you act like you need them the bigger chances are you won't get it !!!

[@noway2434]

Clever

[@MetalCooking666]

See, I don't think this is a "miscommunication". The girl in your hypothetical scenario has made a black and white distinction between being friends and being lovers that is unwarranted. What if the guy wants to get to know her a bit first? What's wrong with that? That's how she experiences attraction, right?

[@Mag1c4lyfe]

happens to me ALL THE TIME.

[@wanderer5200]

Fairly good advice, Hailey. But I would say that getting men to follow it is going to be a challenge for you. Men have been shamed now for decades, in the western world, for their masculine nature and sexual appetite for women. If you'd like to help men succeed in the dating world, I'd suggest a video about overcoming this issue. Until it is handled, the rest is academic.

[@noway2434]

Again, it plays games, need to decyper signals and expects me to read its mind. Then judges me, humiliates me, rejects me, and tells not just her friends, but also the whole digital world.

[@redvelvetsprinkles]

Can you do a video on girls being friend zoned?

[@welshhibby]

redvelvetsprinkles how's the friend zone there ?💩

[@politicsequalsgarbag]

Hayley, sorry for all these unaccomplished trolls who don't want to really hear out your advice or better themselves. You keep it up, I'm learning a lot from you. edit: jk about the whole "sorry" business... of course I'm not sorry at all for them. got enough problems.

[@Shortcutguitlssns]

Be upfront and masculine about what you want...then be accused of ‘men are all the same and are only after one thing’.

[@mrgarynann]

please explain how to do this without being creepy some girls will feel shy which make you feel creepy it be great to know what woman think and want that will make you feel confident just like Mel Gibson movie what women want

[@edviges1]

I'm nice. I always end in the friendzone.

[@JXLvegeta]

This video is simply lovely, Hayley. Do you think is too upfront saying "I like you and I want to know you"? When is correct to say it, first, second date? If the moment is right, go for a kiss is proper or wait for a sign? and how to create the right moment for a kiss? Too many questions but thanks for your advise and your videos. You rock. Greetings from Mexico.

[@travissmith9205]

Ok, ok, I'll agree for 99.9% of the time you're completely correct. As usual I don't fit into the dynamic of what is normal behavior or a normal situation. I've never had an issue or really seen an issue like mine before. Furthermore, I've never really had a problem with being in the friend zone before, I agree with the comment you made that she didn't put you in the friend zone you put yourself in the friend zone and I understand completely and agree with all of what you just said. However, you opened with the line that you believe in true love and though it is cheesy but I believe you're right I believe that there is one for everyone and I believe that this girl is in fact my one, let me explain. I have literally known this girl her entire life, and she is younger than me by eight years and we have always been close. Just recently, We have both talked with in the last six months much more romantically then ever before this is largely to do with the fact that because of that age gap it took many years for things to not be odd, awkward, or weirdly miss matched. It was important to me that we be both old enough so that obviously you were viewed as a normal couple and it would look weird or be weird and people wouldn't stare at her or make judgments on her for that reason, let's face it have a guy gets a younger girl it's kind a cool want to girl gets an older guy people look at it funny and I did not want it for her. We grew up in church together and our families were friends and because of that they knew me relatively decent which also leads to the next issue. In February, I will have been clean as a recovered addict for three years, by the way she played a significant role in helping me through that, and in helping me realize my self-worth and regaining my desires and dreams as I came out of that dark hole in my life. Though I've been changed and clean and have no reason for anyone to think otherwise, her family aren't very forgiving and though I've never done anything to them they definitely do not approve of their daughter in a relationship where the recovered addict. That having been said we had talked and began a relationship over the past six months or so and due to the situation being what it is we sought counsel from several other people including friends that know us friends from church older couples and our pastor to do things as correctly as possible for him to try to keep above reproach, and though everything that people told us was good advice that we did in fact heed it had very very little to do with gaining her parents respect. The issues with her parents, the occasional joking remarks made about our age difference on top of The anxiety coming from her college classes and working her way through college and literally having the Eighth highest GPA in the school and trying to maintain that she has a lot on her plate, and she also struggles with several issues that stem from Family expectations, her father's abuse, and working through years of crap brought on by other people in other relationships, For the record though, none of that matters to me at all because there's no doubt in my mind she is more than worth any of it. Because of our hectic schedules and in our attempts to keep as much peace in the family as is possible we really haven't been able to actually go out and date and do things like we want, and recently she told me she needed some space because she wasn't sure if she was 100% sure that she was still in love with me, though she loved me. Honestly, I find that to be a basically untrue statement across the board, if you truly do love somebody just because you don't feel butterflies for them at that point in time doesn't mean that you don't love them and if you do really love somebody and you made it decision to care for their needs over your own and be there for them no matter what without any conditions then that's what love is all about and she's there as am I, though I do think we are being tested and purified by fire so to speak but I know that's where she and her heart are is. It's almost like she I know where we are and I know where will end up but how we get there is the mystery. By no means what I want to push her into a relationship she doesn't want it, nor am I having trouble excepting reality, but I have literally known this girl to the point where I held her as a baby and not only was her first crush but over the years we have gotten close and though I never thought that the opportunity would arise for her relationship with this girl it has and to be honest I know her better than she knows herself in the same way she knows me better than I know myself and analyze their's but once in a lifetime maybe when you find a relationship and people just click and everything flows in the entire world is right when we are together and she and I have been through so much they should have told us apart but didn't and I've never been like this with another person ever in my entire life but I have no doubt that she's the one and truth be told I believe she knows that as well and there's nothing that I wouldn't do for my hurts me more than anything is seeing her upset like this she tends to try to keep the peace and i'm afraid in this position that God has put us in whatever way she turns someone's going to get upset and as sweet as she is I know that that bothers her a lot and I can't fix it and I don't like that. Please excuse my rabbit trail, this is a subject that I can get carried away with, and to be honest it does bother me because the entirety of this issue I think would have been avoided where her parents more understanding. I digress. Having said all that here is my point, I know her Goodnuf to know she is struggling and I talk to her daily for hours and no her hearts desire's and I know that our futures are going in the same direction we both want the same thing actually we both want to go into the mission field together, but with the events are listed along with a few others anybody would be discouraged at best and through that discouragement it would lend credence for doubt to arise in ones mind. Is much is I am not an overly emotional person nor do I give much stock in listening to your heart and emotions because they're not fax per se, I know she's the one. Though right now or in a bit of a situation, i'm pretty sure that my intentions were understood and I know I was direct honestly if anything I feel like with everything she has going on and the connection that we had a long what's the anticipation of us finally being together only to have her family give her disappointment and rejection because of this subject I think it just overwhelmed her. There obviously I wouldn't be writing this so watching this movie and if I had everything but together. We have tried taking breaks and being a part and we always and back up together and right now I truly don't know the best way to deal with the situation without bringing any more pressure grief or discomfort to her and I don't know what needs to happen to Best bees family members and ensure our relationship. I feel like I haven't really done the best job explaining the situation because I'm typing this and summarizing this is fast as possible, but maybe it's enough. Call of thing I really need to do to continue loving her and being supportive but it's hard to give space and reassurance at the same time I don't personally think space is what she needs but I'll give her whatever she wants to make her happy and I do get she's overwhelmed. And like I said

[@travissmith9205]

She's overwhelmed bye anybody with me, I don't have trouble getting girls but I don't want girls I want this girl for a bunch of reasons. I am not sure what to do but when I try to figure it out, love her through it, be there for her, and hope that things work out for the best. After saying all that, sometimes being assertive there's enough sometimes life there is a curveball and there's not much you can do. My main thing is we were friends for so long and I don't want to lose ground having came out of the friend zone into The best relationship I've ever had to find the love of my life, I don't wanna lose that ground and wind up back in the friend zone. All over things that are basically out of my control… So for anyone in the friend zone that might be reading this if there's anything that you can do to change your situation for the love of God change your situation. And if you can't do it for you do it for those of us that would love to change things but truthfully can't at this point in time do it for the ones that I have to suck it up and suffer and worst in that watch people we care about hurt overtime all in the name of societal bias. If there is anything I can do I would do it in a heartbeat for her, in the meantime I suppose I can do is remain accessible and be supportive and try really hard not to end up back in the friend zone... but if you can fix it life is way too short to watch someone go back,, I've been waiting on this girl for a while though and I do believe with all my heart that she is more send worth it, and I will continue to wait, but that doesn't mean that it's fun because it is not but one day it will be. If you do what you Gotta do when you got to do it eventually you'll be able to do what you want to do when you want to do it. Also I'm open to any suggestions if anyone has any actual credible ideas, just saying... [e-mail]

[@xnirvanaXnevermindx]

didn't read shit but u sound like a victim pal. work on it

[@moonandstars3141]

and by the way I love your videos soooooo much

[@driveman4588]

yes don't get in friend zone by it if it comes down to it bands will make her dance bands mean how thay wrap money

[@nico3641]

Ms Quinn, you're a master communicator.

[@mattymobbs5125]

Thank you

[@DavidStavis]

Hi Hayley- I went to the URL you mentioned at the end of this video, but it seems to be down. Is that page still accessible? It sounds great.

[@ivanhoe4mag]

ooo tnx ... :) ..nice video ... good work ..and love ... like a friend ;)

[@KiritKanaga1]

she already did this video with Rebecca Dakin ?

[@poncegsx]

Thank you 🌹

[@cec6607]

Wow everybody should watch this video. I want to be a better person just by watching this video!

[@mattymobbs5125]

Them women who alway message you but are starting to see some one

[@VoiAhoyTV]

Matty Mobbs attention seekers

[@KurtisStryker2015]

nice

[@pauldeveraux7897]

your the guru Hayley...😘

[@andrewlerdard-dickson5201]

Ask her for her personal body count ?, The more attractive the higher the body count......also ask her if you prefure masculine men, then you are interested in being a hijacked punching bag over the opportunity of a kind sensitive fella.....then !

[@MageBlackstone]

I stopped watching at "you have been around, helping out...". Those who know what I am talking, will understand.

[@Gbaby204]

BS...

[@PhilipPetev]

So, basically you're telling that the women's impression about the men is based mostly on a self-deception and she would put him in the "friend zone", based on this self-deception.... Not reasonable, not reasonable at all and pretty much arbitrary.

[@xnirvanaXnevermindx]

lol

[@Mag1c4lyfe]

I'm just "too nice" to girls.

[@jimmyburton5276]

stop being a chump...

[@The_torero]

This could have been summarised in 2.5 seconds. How do guys avoid the friendzone? Be good looking. The end.

[@xpallodoc]

This is some BS dating advice MGTOW

[@4149TOBI]

+xpallodoc how is this BS what Hayley is saying is legit, not everything I agree with but at the core she is right too many guys fall into this situation, I wish I had someone to kick me up back in the day when I was "Just in the friendzone with many girls back in university some I liked but didn't have the guts to take the risk or the jump and be confident that I liked them" Now if I do like someone I ask them out, and tell them straight, I'm more authentic and that doesn't leave any confusion in the girls mind about what my intentions are if I get rejected there then it saves me time and energy, "fortune favours the brave" you have to risk rejection in order to gain what you want!

[@xpallodoc]

4149TOBI believing in real love is BS and sounds just like the typical Oprah advice. She builds a retarded hypothetical where you've been friends with a girl for ages expecting it to magically escalate. Then she puts the motivation of this man as not wanting to be creepy and says that's a good quality to worry about being "creepy." You don't need to be upfront about what you want you have to do exactly what Hailey says not to and not worry about being a creep forget communication and showing your intentions just always be escalating and don't get oneitus bam that's it. BTW being 6'4 and having a sports car is not just media stuff so more putting pussy on the pedestal to act like women don't care for that stuff. I agree that you shouldn't give up if you're short and poor but let's not fuck around here and start saying crazy things like girls don't like tall successful guys. She has some good advice peppered in here but ultimately it's crap conclusions. "if you want to kiss her tell her you want to kiss her" WTF really I mean better than just trying to be her friend but still pretty weak.

[@4149TOBI]

+xpallodoc I can see what you mean, you've made so valid points! She knows who she is gearing this advice too for sure, she been in the business enough to know the demographics of the people that get it and one's that dont. For one a single man and a single women cant be friends anyway its either one or the other has put themselves in that box hoping the magic happens a few people still believe in this which is quite shocking nowdays. Yeah the "if you want to kiss her tell her you want to kiss her" misguided advice for sure, but hey better to do that and at leasts take a risk rather than some "Lets go out for a coffee sometime as friends" As you put it the sexual marketplace doesn't care if you friends with a girl or not, all it cares about is how your pitching yourself to those who are looking to buy, and you better be pitching yourself good.

[@xpallodoc]

At the end it's hilarious when she says sensitive, in tune with emotions, and morals are just the kind of man women want to meet... haha this coupled with women don't care about being tall what Oprah BS. Like she even sells herself as teaching you how to empower women and she wants the "good" guys. WTF. This is all so sad an the complete wrong mindset and approach to women. First step to getting women is to stop denying reality this is a bunch of the same old hog wash you hear every where. Honestly her market is men who want to be sold the same old good guy nice guy crap and that women just need communicators and to get to know you and hmmm they just didn't know you liked them total shit. It's almost a scam to teach this crap, actually it is a scam to teach this utter empower women nonsense. Women are beyond empowered lol.

[@thatperformer3879]

Then you my friend will die alone because she is a legit dating expert but you deny it

[@moonandstars3141]

yay first comment 😝

[@LiloRolland]

Hi Hayley, anymore social experiments soon?