how to be a better conversationalist | learn how to talk to anyone & attractive conversation hacks

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[@blue55633]

1. Mindset shifts Validate yourself: approach the situation as yourself It is my birthright to be in new environments and grow Visualize the best case scenario before turning up to an event It's the story you tell yourself, change the narrative New environments cause anxiety because the brain goes in survival mode when faced with the unknown, instead of automatically thinking negative thoughts, visualize of the best possible outcomes People have different skillsets and experiences 2. Conversation hacks The familiarity concept: offer detail and vulnerability to the question how are you? Make it about them: ask deeper and genuine questions, listen to understand not to respond Build a point on their answer to your question before you ask another question Focus on offering value Offer a familiar smile Keep it personal, ask questions about details, build up on past knowledge about the person Record and listen to your own affirmations to change your subconscious mind

[@Karinq.4]

Thank youu

[@miharu9794]

Another two major mindset shifts i would say are: 1- Don't take it personal: It goes bad? You'll do better next time. You said something weird? Doesn't matter, nobody cares. Someone didn't want to talk to you? Who cares, so many other people to try with 2- Don't let mistakes or struggles define you, don't attach your value to them because it's gonna make the entire process of learning so much painful and difficult. This time you didn't manage to have a nice conversation? Good, you're learning from the experience and you're gonna be prepared for the next opportunity Thanks Tam for the nice video, socially awkward nerdy here really appreciates it 🤓🤓 ❤

[@ryujiae]

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[@LilBlushBunny]

I always thought I was socially awkward until I realized that it's other people. People aren't used to deeper open ended questions and most don't have real interests or an exciting life worth talking about 🙁

[@amarjotsingh8455]

Most ppl wont return your energy, but they do exist. Keep trying ❤

[@TheFallonDynasty]

Absolutely agree. It's the people you are around. You'll find your tribe.

[@gulsevk119]

I totally agree, as an emotionally mature person I don't find people interesting or can have deep conversations because they are so stagnant in their life and they feel intimited by my energy. I hope to find my kind of people who seek growth mindset

[@TheFallonDynasty]

@dmvmeu7140 No, not judging them at all. What I'm saying is that those people who can't hold a conversation with you, just aren't for you. You have to find like minded people who love to converse about the same things you do. Just continue to do what you're doing and you'll eventually find your tribe. You'll click with one person who knows someone who fits right in with the 2 of you and your tribe builds from there.

[@dmvmeu7140]

Ohhh! That’s very true, sorry to misconstrue your message! I agree ❤️ you sort of wade your way through life to find people that “suit”/vibe with you better

[@belugawhale5982]

There’s a really good book that’s also about this topic it’s called How to win friends and influence people and there’s a part that says “ You can make more friends in 2 months by becoming interested in people than you can in 2 years by trying to get other people interested in you”

[@clovrr291]

Thank you for sharing!

[@riddhimachauhan308]

i just shifted schools and had trouble making friends but oh my lord, did this give me the confidence to socialise w new people????THANK YOU SO MUCH

[@srishtisinha-to4be]

omg samee its so awkward did u made new friends by now??

[@Inmyselfloveera]

Hi Miss Tam Kaur. Im a girl from Lesotho, a country landlocked in South Africa. Im mentioning this because I wanted you to know that your dream of reaching people all around the globe came true. I genuinely don't know where I'd be in my life right now if I didn't watch your videos. The mindset shifts I have had are crazy. My self development journey started with me just wanting a flat stomach and that was January but now the dreams I have and I am most definitely going to accomplish are endless. Who knew loving myself could be so fun tho😹

[@hitishasharma6014]

Kudos to you sister!! Keep growing and putting in the hard work, your community needs more examples like you ❤

[@Shiella8511]

6:33 this is so true, like last year I didn't want to go to this school event we have and then I just decided no I am going, and thats where I found my best friend. Like literally her and I, we said the exact things that we prayed to God, and we found each other ❤

[@iffatfarooqui1349]

U can be literally confident while owning all ur authenticity...dayum this

[@hkapre07]

OMG YOUR TIMING NEVER FAILS TO BE PERFECT BUT ANYWAYS CONGRATS FOR 1 MILLION SUBS QUEEN!!!!

[@Cadesbaee]

IKR

[@keinohrtini]

What a heartfelt and beautiful comment!! It’s so amazing when we support each other and are able to celebrate all of our victories! You rule girl! ❤

[@Itsshik]

It's really helpful and needed. I was struggling with social anxiety disorder and couldn't hold a single conversation with anyone. Whenever I try to have a conversation, I feel like they are not interested, and now I know why because of my social awkwardness, I was just answering their questions and that conversation started to become all about me I was not making that conversation about them, which means I was not engaging them or not even trying to make that conversation deeper. (I apologize if I made some mistakes in English, as it is not my first language)

[@noshinadila]

Video request: HOW TO LOVE YOUR BODY AND AVOIDING HATERS ( I'm a teenager and I'm slim plus everyone makes fun of me . Even my friends say that I'm so flat and so on ) I cried and decided to request a video on it coz I love to listen Tam's words & implement those strategys she says...🌷✨♥️ Btw Thank you so much Tam for your precious video 💌😭😘 Sending love~♥️♥️

[@dariwoo430]

season 2 self obsessed podcast has info about how to build your body confidence!

[@shockedpikachuface7376]

You're a teen, and I'm an early adult. I'll tell you right now: whatever they say will not matter in 5 years, you're placing your priorities in the wrong place and asking the wrong questions. The question isn't "how do I gain confidence", it should be "why am I feeling and validating their opinions of me when everything outside of me is completely out of my control". Chin up, believe in yourself and appreciate who you are as you are and confidence will follow. It's all about mindset shifts.

[@subhamitasil8054]

Bro literally she saves me everytime in the right time fr😭😭 currently I have been feeling like this the whole time and here she is ❤️

[@mcfrog5473]

Couldn’t be timed more perfectly, I’m literally leaving to go to a painting workshop/socializing event all by myself in less than an hour. Can’t wait to use all these tips

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She looks so pretty, my goshhhhhhhh🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻

[@yolkgolden]

I second that! 🌷

[@itainttheend98]

she read the book "how to talk to anyone" during her solo trip. summarized that. and is helping us now. in a video format with the ultimate goddess voice. she is a real one. she is so genuine. you can see that even if youre blind. i love this woman so much. Tamanna Kaur. thank you.❤‍🩹

[@elenajunior877]

Hi Tam, I just wanted to let you know that you have helped me so much these past couple months! I listen to your videos whenever I need a pick-me-up and my life has leveled up so much since I started implementing your advice. I exited from a toxic relationship, let go of people who didn’t align with my energy, and worked on my self love. Now I am blossoming and I have more abundance than I ever thought I could! Thank you so much for being you and helping tons of girls like me. :)

[@emmakarlsson08]

She’s always right on time with all of her videos!! Right!? 😍

[@Zoro10893]

Video's time lapse 0:00 intro 1:19 squarespace ad 3:29 chapter 1 : mindset shifts 8:56 chapter 2: conversation hacks 18:59 chapter 3: homework

[@IsabellaRivera-p9w]

You have changed my whole life ilysm never met u but the tips have changed me in the beat way ever

[@myfanverse4558]

You deserve all of your success, because you actually help so many people

[@DearYoungerSelf111]

Thank you for the Pro Tips shared!! YES - I would watch content about tips/tricks about communication/public speaking (fellow INFJ here😊) - Can I share a proud moment with the TAM fam? So I got a call from my boss this morning an hr before a meeting - asking me to lead it - because she got a stomach bug - I said ok - This meeting had senior leadership on it and others above me on the salary chain - I said - you know what I will do the best I can - Im nervous - and I might stumble - but I knew one thing - I could say after the call - I said yes to facing my fears of speaking in front of people (and it was last minute to day the least) - But I did it - I stuttered - my voice was shaky - but I did it 🎉

[@vikasgaurishankar631]

Love you for that!! Good job, keep growing!

[@lazaejenkins]

🎉🎉🎉 💕

[@daniellakwizera1300]

One of the best things is to think of a conversation as an opportunity to learn about someone or something new not a chore.

[@reiika_]

Been watching her since she had like 50-60k subscribers and now she hit 1 MILLION!!! damn girl you made it and have a long way to go! CONGRATULATIONS 🎉👏🏻

[@CraizaYacac]

Tam, please make a video about how to learn your value, and how to have solid self-worth. I'm really struggling about it rn. I need your advice... ❤❤❤❤

[@MegurineLuka-l5d]

Tam really knows how to make a person feels normal. Thank you , for your kind words😊

[@StellaVenus-ov5go]

Family of MILLION 🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@lemonzz333]

Omggg thank you so much Tam!! I’m now 22 and I’ve had social anxiety since I was a teenager I’m so glad I found your channel ❤️❤️

[@rakiv1715]

Thank you so much for this! You have no idea how much I need this, especially since I'm introverted and I think I have social anxiety because I sometimes don't know what to say, especially to strangers I meet

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She's like a treasure that keeps giving ❤

[@justsomeone4155]

This helped me so much. I was looking for a fault from their side to justify my need to distance but now I realise I have just outgrown a person and it is okay to let them go❤

[@lydialight9684]

Have been watching Tam for a year and a half and now she has 1 million subscribers!! Congrats! So proud ❤ feel like it’s our journey

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Hi beautiful luv your long hair babe ❤❤❤

[@iyu222]

You know what you're my mentor even you are younger than me in a year. I have to tell that. You're an amazing confident girl that. Listening to you makes me really confident in my self. ❤Thank you so much. And hopefully I'll meet you oneday for sure ❤

[@JustGoForIt-s9w]

I would love if you made a part two! Maybe about figuring out if the people you meet fit into your life for he better or the worse even though that would be more about friendship

[@freyaallen6324]

girl I follow you on like everything and can I just say you're glowing differently lately, you can tell you're upgrading your life and it's so beautiful and inspiring to see. you've been the absolute guiding star on my self growth journey love you so so much 💗also the lip combo ate

[@Studytube3]

Omg!! Tam-- You can actually read my minddd!! I always watch your videos when I have very low self esteem, I couldn’t be more grateful for you! Also I’ve been waiting for you to reach 1Mil. Congratulations! Love youuu❤ Tam, here’s a video suggestion - can you please address how to overcome anxiety and have a clear mind and how to be always self motivated.

[@WithoutTheLaw]

Great video! I feel like at 8:08 a better thing to say is you can “feel”and “behave” like any type of person you want to be. I feel like “being” a person with specific characteristic sometimes requires a little more than a mindset shift. Maybe I missed the point. I still loved the video! You’re awesome!

[@yolkgolden]

You're so pretty and thanks a million for all of your efforts! 🌷

[@tan5376]

PART 2, THANK YOUUUU SO MUCH FOR THIS TAM💗

[@pal4k_]

17:33 has to be my fave part We exhaust all our energy into our internal rather than the external, "are they gonna like me" "what would they think of me" Not giving enough energy to the other possibility, the possibility of the function going well. No wonder our social battery runs out quick when we behave in such a manner. I actually noted this down on my notes app Thankyou sm Tam, I hope u read this coz ur my fav self help youtuber

[@shalininarayan1910]

We are officially a family of a million. Queen T congrats for being our biggest inspiration as a big sister 💗. Lots of love tam 😘✨ More millions to goooooo!!!!!

[@shhhh123]

Man this women damn near saved my life😭💕

[@idontevenknowhelp1_989]

CONGRATS ON 1 MIL TAM!! I LOVE YOU FOREVER

[@craftingwithriya.]

Cant tell how helpful this video is, coz im campaigning for student council. And im new to the school. I really felt insecure but now i know what to do. No mattter what the result is, i know that im gonna come outta this, stronger and with a different skill set that could be helpful, further. Thank you Tam, you made my day❤

[@debbiss]

Hi Tam, just want to let you know that I love videos, especially because they are helping a lot to become finally the person I want to be❤

[@pakhi3053]

She studied and read so many books to learn this,, literally faced that overwhelming conversations to provide best content to her girlies ❤ I love uh girlie ❤ We're friends 👭❤

[@sammmmmss]

i swear, i needed this soo bad, tam saves the day yet again! congrats on 1M, queen~

[@illyrianvines5410]

YOUR TIMING COULD NOT BE MORE IMPECCABLE!😭😭 I WAS JUST GOING THROUGH MY UNI'S INTRODUCTORY INSTA PAGE AND FREAKING OUT OVER SOME OF THOSE SOCIAL SKILLS IN THE COMMENTS AND WORRYING ABOUT NEVER ACHIEVING THE SAME LEVEL OF CONFIDENCE - THANK YOU!💗💗 ALSO, CONGRATS ON HITTING 1 MILLION SUBSCRIBERS, LY!🎉🎉

[@elizaasdiary]

This was definitely what i needed now Tam! I just started clinicals today and I was very shy , and didn’t know how to talk or make room easily for new conversations,so this video is going to be very helpful 😭💕💕✨

[@W0ND3RL4ND28]

GIRL I WAS LITERALLY SEARCHING FOR SMTH LIKE THIS A FEW DAYS AGO AND UOU POSTED THIS I LOVE YOU

[@123positive_vibes]

I started watching your videos recently and I applied your valuable advice in my life and it already changed a lot. Thank you so much for your advices and for always being your genuine fabluous self 😍❤ I Love you so much Tam and I am very grateful that universe guided me to your videos ❤❤❤ keep up the great work Tam!❤

[@wendysousa7826]

I really like how you suggest other related to the subject videos throughout the video. It really gives as a direction for our questions. 😘 As an introvert myself, thanks for your words !

[@daily_words24]

These kind of videos are just awesome and could you please more videos on what to talk in a conversation and how to maintain that

[@lavanyasingh4210]

I was thinking about how I would cope up once I start college in a completely new city and environment. This video came at the perfect time. Thank you ❤

[@AnayahZameerShaikh]

Thank you so much Tam for this video❤❤Before I used to be very anxious of myself and was too shy to talk to new people but this video changed my life and made me feel way too confident!!! Once again thank you very very much Tam🥰❤❤

[@radhikakhandelwal1029]

I am blessed literallyyyyy that I have her in my life 😭😭😩

[@Obvslykiki]

Your videos are so inspirational Tam, Thankyou for posting this :)

[@absolutelyanisa]

Tam, can you make a video about what to do if after starting a conversation and getting to know someone, you realise they don’t align with your goals and values and they’ll drain you down (eg. You like to get up and work on yourself whereas they don’t give an f about self-development and instead throwing their life away by being unhealthy and having low vibrational habits). Thanks for making these videos. You don’t know how much you’ve changed me ❤.

[@Sarah-wu2oz]

She alway comes when I need her help. I'm going to my cousin s wedding and I needed this video So thank you Tam

[@XZ858XZ]

Tam, just noticed the 1M+ subscribers!! Woo congrats!! you deserve it 🎉

[@LifewithMarj]

YAYYYY! already a million subscribers. so proud of you girl. sending you hugs and love from the Philippines

[@Madhu-jb1zn]

Can we also appreciate her beauty too?! Like oh my God how could be she is so prettyyyy!!!😭💞🌷

[@rosanah.9089]

Turns out I may be kind of a good conversationalist?? I already do most of this things😭 thx Tam💗

[@zddxeg]

u look so pretty with straight hair!

[@rimjimborah3631]

The way you changed my life and mindset...you deserve so muchh more tam ! You did the work that my therapist cannot like omfg really i love you sooo much...Thank you, thank you, thank you !! 🌷💗

[@taashiwanda4265]

You have no idea how u help us Tam ❤ we want more self confidence content. Tips and hacks to put into practice xxxx

[@Ashlin_dutt]

Our girl got 1 million of us. Big family 🎉❤ love you

[@shalininarayan1910]

This video is so so helpful tam much needed 💗. And also we need a video on how to speak in front of a crowd confidently and some tips as well. Love you tam 🤌🏻✨

[@galacticbreath]

This video has soooo much value!!! Thanks a lot ❤❤ It came at a perfect time, as I am going to have a dinner with a new friend tonight who I feel intimidated by due to her being so successful. Now I have a different way to approach the situation.

[@pramilapandey6036]

Congratulations!!!! On 1 million subscribers. You really improved my life so much I can't tell you how grateful I am to have come across your content. You made my boring life worth living and interesting. I wish you all the best for the future. Just keep glowing as you do. Love from India 💕

[@rizzzz-ol1lk]

I'm shifting my school and this is something I really needed, thankyou tam!!!!!😭😭

[@mk.chellie]

i don't want but NEED a part 2!! im trying to make new friends, ik the school year is ending... but i don't want to get to summer and regret not talking to ANYONE new or doing things differently

[@IkramIbrahim-el5ik]

1 MIL isn't enough you deserve 10 MIL ❤..

[@Lazy_soul450]

Hey I always loved your makeup , confidence and aura but I have to say that this makeup you did in this video is the most beautiful one ❤❤

[@xianwanzeng2001]

This is super helpful in everyday life. Thanks for sharing xx

[@Jessica-md4hb]

You truly have the gift of Gab😢😊

[@Mousiee765]

Girl u r awesome and the outfit and the makeup SLAPS!!!

[@angelwoods5918]

Thanks, Tam, for the advice and tips because I'm literally going to a social gathering event alone so I was a bit insecure about how I will be during the gathering. I really needed this..😊🙂🥰 Hope it all works out. Fingers crossed.🤞🤞

[@lilianwairimu8483]

I need part two Tam. Would you recommend where someone can learn how to be a good public speaker and also be articulated in their conversations

[@badrulalamchy2404]

you know?that yesterday was my birthday and this video is a gift..I'm soo happy!!!! love you Tam Kaur❤❤❤

[@V.L.O.G78]

I don’t know if you gonna read this comment or not but every as I start my work I always say the bunch of affirmations that you said before and now it's like part of my everyday routine, of course, it helped me a lot. Keep going Tam we love you and support you❤

[@Hayatsdairy]

How do you know i was searching for this? Girl every time i need something i make a video about it. It feels like u know me. Love ya congrats for ur all achievements. U always inspire me.

[@fakichu]

thank you so much tam

[@shubhi2565]

Congratulations for 1 million tam❤🎉.. Love your content ❤️ u are the best

[@zye_zigh]

I love this look on you, oh my gosh!! It feels so light and elegant and neat in its own very vibrant way :O

[@SomeoneInTheWorld126]

HEYYY TAMM....I HAVE BEEN WATCHING YOU SINCE LIKE FOREVER.....I LOVE YOUR VIDEOSS....THEY LEGIT GAVE ME SO MUCH CONFIDENCE....CAN YOU POST A VIDEO ON HOW TO CONQURE NEW SCHOOL PLZ....LIKE HOW TO BE CONFIDENT AND YOURSELF AS THE NEW KID..>>>>💗✨🎀 BTW CONGRATS FOR 1 MILLION SUBSS.....YOU DESERVEE IT MAN!!

[@sarakibe5988]

Hey...I really appreciate your content it has really changed my life...can you please do a video on reparenting yourself ❤

[@RidimaNagwanshi-dk6vq]

How do you exactly know what I need at the very exact moment 🤭 . Love you so much ❤ I just really needed this in this moment 😆

[@serenestoree]

Wait she looks perfect gorgeous💞🌟

[@dancingbird1330]

Happy that you posted something.. Please post more on how to be secure within urself and not have fomo And be happy with others happiness

[@NehaC-xz1sb]

I'm just soo happy that she posts soo many useful videos Woman!! Lots of loveee Thank you soo muchh tammm!!!

[@MeliSsa-yh5sl]

I mean it will help us alot to know if we're doing right or not.And it will make ur brand more powerful

[@rubosoi]

THIS WAS VERY MUCH NEEDED QUEEN!! ALSO, CONGRATS FOR 1MILLION YOU DESRVED A BILLION!

[@nazanin1696]

Thank you for these amazing videos❤ 💫I would really appreciate a video about anxiety and how to cope with it.

[@Taytayslove]

the best tips are always with mother

[@itszepyur]

I'm so sad that i can't access to your book from Iran😔 Your videos is like an actual therapy session ❤❤❤

[@princetokas8579]

1m followers!!! 😭🤍 So proud of you tam! Been following since when u were 200k, when u used to flim in your last bedroom! ❤️ Seeing you grow, has made so happy! Loved the video❤

[@_bbgriri]

TAM YOURE GLOWING 🥹🥹 APPRECIATE U ALWAYS

[@imsad8697]

when i saw the notification i instantly clicked as soon as i saw it.. turns out i NEEDED this tutorial thank you tam kaur 🛐🛐