how to stop caring what other people think about you | matcha talks with tam ep.3

[@tamkaur]

My self-help fortnightly newsletter is now here! tamkaur.com/pages/self-obsessed

[@prince-diana]

Hi, tam. My name is Princess and i need your advice how i can improve my self academically and also help to get over my past mistakes.

[@KpowerStars]

@@prince-diana I'm not so sure what you meant but academically I like to listen to Amy Wang, that's my personal recommandation, have a good/night

[@michellenwadibia6165]

I think her and the Wizardliz would be great friends❤

[@aestheticart.2407]

Ikrr...want a colllab

[@whoisveda]

IKR. I've been waiting to see them together my whole life😭

[@angelafonso]

Yyyyy

[@Ishpreet_Kaur.]

Ikr

[@soulhoon]

exaccttlyyy exactlyyy😭😭😭

[@mcbling_icon]

"people are not judging you, your judging yourself' CLOCKED

[@NicoleReign]

I love Tam for all she does for us, I feel like she is truly saving a generation of women from repeating old toxic cycles. The sisterhood is healing ya’ll 🥲

[@starrrrrr095]

the fact that i needed this today is absolutely insane.

[@mahaa992]

fr

[@arijitahazarika541]

Omg same

[@emlahellara4541]

same but there is your everything happens 4 a reason etc. it can be hard but you can do it, just the fact that you watched this video is good 🙌

[@Soumyachandel27]

Matcha talks has become my favourite type of series in this channel 😭🌸

[@KavyaCeleste]

Video starts at 4:40

[@nitishasabu5495]

Thankyou ❤

[@zoro_parv]

Thank you so much!!💟

[@DaniellaZabel]

Thank you so much ❤

[@RealItInWithReidCox]

It took me a while to let go of caring what people thought about me... but once I fully released my grip, I COMPLETELY TRANSFORMED as a person. I am much happier now and take a lot more risks in life!

[@vicsolimo]

I always cared what other people thought about me, and I would almost always ask my friends or family for opinions on my outfits and life decisions, because I had no confidence in myself and decisions. I always second-guessed myself, but now I am gradually learning to not put others' opinions on such a pedistal, and to do what is best for me no matter how others percieve it.

[@sharonyoon888]

Love it babes, im on the same journey!

[@vicsolimo]

@sharonyoon888 💖

[@waterlily3522]

I was here some years ago! You're doing great, keep it up!

[@vicsolimo]

@@waterlily3522 thank you, you too!

[@brenda.ngn25]

"people aren't judging you. you're judging yourself"

[@mypwretties]

Not only is she helping us stop caring about judgement but also providing w so many reasons why not to judge others❤

[@AntoninaJytte]

Thank you so much for the message from this video - it reminds me of a chapter I’ve read in feminine ancient blessings

[@coconutmilkhoney]

This is probably a scam

[@atyourbesturluv.7106]

who’s the author of the book and where’d you get it?

[@merisskenderovic3600]

I bought the book and it was a solid 8/10 read

[@AskThesky]

the quality of Tam's Videos lately ??!!! I loveeee

[@s0fire_]

Yess

[@kelly.nicole]

She needs a mic

[@Ishpreet_Kaur.]

The way I get excited whenever tam posts..

[@alinasxdiary]

17:28 at this point I teared up. Such a great but bittersweet reality check to always aim for authenticity. Because right now I experience exactly that: judgment while trying to fit in and making myself smaller and smaller. And I always wondered what I still do wrong.. needed to hear that. Thank you 🥹🤍

[@MaryamYaasir]

21:46 , ty, it really does help. I never realized how much i loved being mysterious, i always thought i had to speak up so many times or yap cuz being talkative was what made be likeable. Yeah hell nuh, i am falling in love with my black cat energy. With that being said i prefer friends who r loud. So just be yourself guys, its called individuality

[@SaaishaJain]

Your thoughts are literally so spiritually aligned, feels connective, meaningful and good. No senseless shit. Great!!

[@tokrmy]

tam, i seriously cry every time i watch a video of yours, you are a god's sent. i am so thankful that you decided to open this youtube channel and help us. you never fail to amaze me ❤

[@Sahalielove]

I used to never care what people thought of me, now I take a more balanced approach that benefits me better in relationships and friendships.

[@rutuharke]

Hey tam, Recently the results were announced and I didn't get into any med school I felt so bad and people adviced me too change the path and just bitching about how I failed, Still not going to give up and will try next year The fact I needed this video the most today is insane ❤🥺

[@whoisveda]

Are u talking abt NEET?

[@rutuharke]

@WinterWhispersss yes bro

[@whoisveda]

@@rutuharke im gonna give my first attempt in 2025. I rly hope u become a great doctor

[@rutuharke]

@@whoisveda aw thanks it's my 3rd attempt in 2025 sometimes it's just so scary that ur classmates are going to next year and achieving their goal and u are just their in that same spot since 3 years now But I hope u get ur dream med college All the best ❤️

[@whoisveda]

@@rutuharke everybody's timeline is different. Ur path isn't the same as theirs so there's no point in comparing. Y'all are all gonna end up becoming doctors at the end of the day so it doesn't matter who does it first and who does it last. Trust the process💗

[@goldenmakhnae9268]

Finally finally finally someone said this that be who you are and do what you love no need to chase whole personality ,you can change habit, it was so bad to know that every freaking influencer is influencing to be a particular person like silent, mysterious and what not I know some people ARE like this but this isn’t necessary to ALL of us to be like this , like for me M a loud person jolly and I love to talk but no one ever said be as you are, it just talk less ,express less,Share less,talk in this particular way keep your voice low U R girl I mean I was tired of hearing all of this thank U Tom for encouraging me and pointing out this topic That’s why I love her ❤

[@hollynguyen8988]

As a girl with adhd i often have found myself talking for longer than needed or oversharing info that people don't need to know, so it was nice to hear that it's somethinf i should be proud of instead of something im embarssed about like usual cause legit im aware its all in my head and most times my friends love me being me but the insecurity is a b sometimes ya know. Anyways thx for this video and continue making more content that just encourages people to be their true selves ❤

[@hope43626]

really needed this, people have been giving opinions on MY relationship, saying we're moving too fast.

[@earthlinglarissa]

Omg how did I just find this series? Love the addition of matcha

[@danielekim4347]

People literally (esp woman) hate me for no reason, they wanna compete wid me all the time, i cared sm about it i was even crying, thank god you made this video

[@realwithjain]

I started my KZbin channel a year back. It was the best decision. I escaped the what are others going to think about me phase :)

[@niteshkanphade514]

THE TIMING! GURL I LITERALLY NEEDED THIS RN Ig that is why the i was seeing so many angel numbers❤❤

[@Sketchbook999]

When anyone makes a move/ choice in their life to improve it then yes you will see Angel numbers. 111 222 333 444 555 666 777 888 999 I made a video about Angel numbers.

[@RamanKumar-mu4nd]

I tam I belong to a brown family too and your content helps alot thank you so much a lot of love from this 15 years old girl❤

[@roiseareroses]

LITERALLY I WAS NEEDED OF SOMETHING LIKE THIS THANK YOU 🙏✨

[@IamNurseDes]

This message holds great significance! Self-love is all about rising above the opinions of others and embracing who you truly are. Huge thanks for sharing this, Tam! Your insights are inspiring!

[@mansoor3159]

Tam you are so so so kind hearted and you never ever disappoint me with your Videos and I will always always be your biggest supportive💗🥹

[@sabitalinda1243]

I'm accepting this video as my birthday gift because I needed this and it popped up❤

[@vanessaprincesssa]

I am also so very passionate about this subject! Thank you, Tam! ❤ The Matcha talks are my favourite of your videos and THIS one was the BEST video of yours YET!!! 😊🥳💚💚💚

[@Sharanx01]

girl im gonna cry. everything u are saying is so so true. esp how other people judge u has nothing to do with us. cause I think you've mentioned this before and I've started actively keeping this in my mind cause I'm judged by my family in everyday life and I've realised that they are so unhealed and this actually helps me not to break down and continue to believe in myself w/o a nagging feeling in the back of my mind that what they're saying is true. tysm for all the lessons tam- you're such a gem 💗💗

[@SaaishaJain]

First time heard something good about extroverts. Being an extrovert I always faces problem by sharing my opinions, thoughts and life too.

[@smrutaayyy]

i needed this video so much! i just cannot for the life of me, stop caring about what others think about me, especially my co-workers!

[@angelinabriceno34]

Watched this when I got mad because I noticed I was trying to people please someone when I could’ve just stayed away from their perception of me THANK YOUU❤️

[@wyd.samira]

I'm so glad you dived in deep with this topic because honestly you could've left the video very short from the mere facts you were spitting, however you always go the extra mile for us and the quality of your work never goes unnoticed. I am currently reading your book and as a young woman I am so grateful for your content and platform. Thank you Tam. You're amazing ❤

[@just_Ingrid]

need this so much especially because im an introvert Thanks Tam you have good timing ❤

[@Hansi-j6t]

Hi Tam found you last October on my KZbin feed and I cannot explain how much I've changed since then. I used to be so obsessed with the idea of getting validation from literally everyone around me even my so called friends which made me so insecure about my own self. I always thought about what people are gonna think of me in seriously every single thing I DID FOR MYSELF! But now it's like I am the Main Character of my story and I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR MY PRESENT SITUATION and MY FUTURE IS MY HANDS and NOT THE PEOPLE AROUND ME!! Also this is again one of the most important topics that one needs to know for there self development journey so, kudos to you for bringing it up for us. May you achieve whatever you desire.✨✨ Love ❤️❤️

[@amazingdashing2275]

just started watching this video......and i think she is looking like an angel

[@charlottemlld]

This makeup, this hair, this outfit. The prettiest you've ever been !! 🤎

[@calliehouse461]

i always stay engaged i’m never bored when watching your videos. i love them tam ❤

[@mariampapian]

After watching this video I feel that something has changed inside of my brain, thank u 💖

[@stephanie0183]

Tam you actually inspire me so much. Like your confidence is literally radiating through! You have definetly grown with solid wisdom and can see your growth. Hope you see this. You're so right, nobody has any means of judging us when they don't experience our journey, nobody has a say in what's right and wrong way of living life because we're not handed tool books in life.

[@DavidKnicks]

You are a boss. You and Fernanda need your own TV show. You guys are awesome!

[@asawanichilde6376]

never been so early watching our queen finally posting more content!!!

[@Dania-o1q]

from now i am never gonna feel embaressed or care about other peoples opinion. THANKYOU SO MUCH!!!!!!!!❤

[@Aesthetic_collections773]

Every tym I loose track, this girl brings me back. Lots of ❤

[@emy6822]

lovely video. wish i had matcha now 😩

[@Stream_108]

Love you so much tam!!❤️ You're like my big sister, you have no idea how much you've changed my life,my mindset, my perspective, my all. I wish I'll meet you one day 🥹. ❤️

[@hrishitachavan8493]

I truly needed this... Thank you so much for inspiring all of us!!!🥺💜✨

[@yordidesalgn3551]

This is just what I needed to hear rn!!! Thank u for being so much help. So much from Ethiopia 🇪🇹 ❤

[@Alien-r8s]

23:12 thank you so much I needed that. I myself love being an introvert sometimes but I also talks a lot and enjoys socialising with my friends :) but I felt like I was changing myself after learning those trends. Thank you for guiding me to myself, tam ❤

[@penelope_xoxo7619]

The fact that this was something on my mind recently. You’re a star Tam❤I definitely needed to hear this.

[@karenvargas8479]

Im going to post more and own up to that fear that is keeping me trapped

[@meli-ye9jq]

Honey the time eee is insane I need it yo Hear this today ngl❤❤❤

[@mahaa992]

the timing is damn accurate 💜

[@teodoramisic9120]

your energy in this video is radiating so much, i can feel it through screen how passionate you are. You can really tell when someone is talking sincerely about a topic, it just feels warm and it kinda boost your energy in a way! Like its addictive. Lovin these matcha talks. Also, have you changed something about your make up? I love itttt

[@maysplaylist2346]

You always know exactly what I am needing rn. Just pop up at the right time. Love you Tam

[@mariampapian]

OMG! This topic is soooo important, I personally strugle with that A LOT 😶

[@waterlily3522]

Ahh yeah Tam I totally get you on how social media shouldnt tell you what the right way to be is. I must say though, as a shy introverted person who has been told multiple times that im the mysterious type, this trend healed me a little. Like you said, it was often seen as uncool and boring to be quieter, and it was a little bit of an insecurity for me. Seeing this on social media just made me feel a little more seen and helped me appreciate the parts of myself which i previously didnt look at that positively.

[@carmen_marmolejo]

Tam, thank you very much for the book you made. I am currently reading it and I love every valuable message it gives. I admire you deeply and I hope you know how much you are helping other people to overcome their own inner saboteur. Greetings from Spain ♥️

[@MaiaWolf]

Such great advice! It's way too easy to let your mind run and worry about things that actually don't matter to you and your life.

[@nezasiter498]

tam i love you so much

[@lethalallele285]

Tam is getting more and more beautiful day by day 💗

[@hkapre07]

i never knew the concept of self-love before i stumbled upon one of your vids and it's crazy how much love i have cultivated for myself since then. thank you for what you do. (I LOVE THE TOPIC OF TODAY'S EP TOO!! IF YOU DECIDE TO WRITE A BOOK ON IT, I SUPPORT YOU GIRLLLL)

[@keerthik653]

Tam would do great in Pagent’s for sure, she has got it all

[@ashley_marie_gg]

All your videos around hate, how to be that bad B, not caring about what others think are SO amazing. I´m 30 and look up to you!

[@SolRuiz-tg6gl]

THIS IS WHAT I NEEDEDDD THANK YOU SM QUEEN 🎉❤

[@Nicole24689]

Tysm Tam for sharing this video it has really helped me. Your videos are amazing and I am so proud of you! Your literally my fave youtuber and make such a positive impact. Your knowlegde and wisdom has truely made a difference for me.

[@aichasaidi8018]

Hey Tam! I absolutely love your content-this video is yet another masterpiece! Just one small thing caught my attention: the background music. I don’t know if others feel the same, but it’s a bit distracting, making it a little challenging to focus on what you’re saying. Maybe you could consider adding the music only at specific moments, like when you’re emphasizing a point or adding dramatic effect, instead of having it play continuously. Thanks so much for reading, and keep up the amazing work! Your content truly inspires people worldwide🥰.

[@turtleracer12345]

tam is really slaying with the editing and quality of her videos lately!!

[@IrmaRidjali]

Thank you tam I needed this , your timing is accurate. You inspire me sooo much and thank you for giving me this reminder ❤

[@jorjawhite3091]

Thank you, really enjoyed this video ❤️❤️ Feel like it helps me on both sides and makes me realised how judgy I can be myself because of my own insecurities.

[@suhanashetty-qi4tg]

BEST WAYS TO SPEND A SATURDAY! QUEEN CAN READ OUR MIND❤ MUCH MUCH LOVE AND POWER TO THE QUEEN!

[@ariee101]

I just love her blanket ❤

[@user-br8tr2lc6m]

I liked your change in background, I've been following you for how long I don't remember but whatever time it's been I'm so grateful that I found your video and started following you not only in here on KZbin but also on Instagram cause I luv being around you even if it means being with you is to watching your video, hearing your school time story it seems like that's none other than my story a bit, Feeling a bit cringe writing it but I'm a courageous girl so I'm gonna do it,😂❤ Luv u tam you're just so great, so awesome, amazing, proud of being your fan...

[@pallavibhor2732]

Tam,You are my inspiration ❤❤❤❤

[@anyasour]

Tam girl you should make another book because WOW your new book is so informative and definitely helped me on my self improvement and mindset, love you❤❤

[@aesthetic_taekook]

You made me cry. Thank you so much for this video Tam ❤

[@meli-ye9jq]

Thanks for the video you make my Day Tam as always ❤❤❤❤ never dissappoints ❤❤❤

[@bitesbyash]

Love this sunny setup! Good vibes all around ✨💛

[@Wony4life458]

Hey can you please do one on how to not be short tempered and to be more patient and calmer and how to take teasing the right way thank youuuuuu❤❤❤❤

[@SumaidaAafreen]

OMG stoppp this is what I exactly needed right now. Tam I seriously love you so much❤❤❤

[@thestig2845]

This has to be my most fav episode ❤❤

[@Relaxwthcami]

This video was so good , thank you Tam as always 💅✨🫶

[@kateau]

agh tam I love you, you dont know how bad i needed this one!! ♥

[@Kiki2005newme]

Each time you give us Such good and amazing content, thanks tam✨️🍋‍🟩

[@anshuuu.comx1]

Finally someone talking about being talkative ❤😮‍💨

[@la_petite_carotte]

I love it! Thanks Tam! I can always count on you❤

[@dishy9973]

Oh my god I am so excited for the matcha series although it's not a time for a coffee but I am gonna get my girly drink and have some me time with one and only my fav ❤

[@BTSARMY-ek3oy]

She always know what we need 🫂, thanks queen 👸🙌 LOVE U💌

[@roshhxi]

She's my comfort person fr

[@blossom321]

Thank you so much for this masterpiece of a video❤

[@AnamIqbal]

THANK YOU FOR THIS TAM!!! Exactly what I needed as I continue my social media journey ❤

[@dwaynecordova4657]

Thank you I know this already! But definitely needed the reminder at this time in my life!!! Thank you Thank you Thank you!!! I love love love watching your videos in both channels!! (Wife and husband shared account this is the wife!)

[@petra_28]

seasonal depression has been hitting me hard, and it feels like I’m losing my habits that make me feel good about myself, but nonetheless I’m trying to be good especially at school, but today i had a bad interaction with the guy that i used to like and now my energy is all off and i feel bad within cause of me overthinking his idea of me and I hate how I’m letting him control me and my feelings

[@Gratsiiii]

I love you so much you literally changed my life

[@prakritipahadi5068]

This was so much needed. Thank you big sissy ❤