How To Be A Good Listener | Jamila Musayeva

[@JamilaMusayeva]

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[@zaraamelia9684]

Non-verbal 1. Smile 2. Eye contact 3. Open body posture (lean in, put body closer, no crossing hands) 4. Nodding 5. Mirroring Verbal 1. Non-reinforcement words (eg yes, I hear you) 2. Question (Don't intrude, but clarify. Ask a follow-up question) 3. Reflection (repeating or paraphrasing) 4. Clarify (summarize) 5. Listen to the tone of the voice

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thanks for the summary 😊

[@JuliaShalomJordan]

Appreciate this!💞

[@MarleneRowe-ie2qk]

Thankyou! At 67 how to reinvent one self?

[@TrainerLiz1]

Thank you for doing the summary

[@Emeldivos]

The etiquette of hosting guests at your home.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Noted 😊

[@stefpetrov4943]

Yes I'd love that too!

[@TsarOfRuss]

Tell them to go away

[@MakeupByRavenn]

Yes, this will be such a good topic!

[@deschainerideaux]

@@JamilaMusayeva Is there a difference when you’re hosting strangers vs friends/family?

[@riyachandavale2599]

Introverts be like: we already boss in this 😎

[@girlhappy6442]

Yes me 😂

[@BADBOY-ow4wc]

the one of most funniest comment 😂😂

[@riddhipasricha934]

Yes I am

[@kiranpatel6521]

Not really I'm sort of introvert when tired or hungover,still CBA to listen to people's woes and rubbish stoies. Bored me!

[@mayarivera6892]

This is such an important topic. In the West our culture really is listening to respond, instead of listening to actually hear what the other person is saying. When we leave space to listen actively, we allow the speaker's train of thought to continue and finish... and then we can respond! So important to learn this skill, especially right now....Never too late to start :) Gracias Jamila

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Absolutely!

[@katrinkjellgren9433]

I feel spotted O_o time too work💯

[@user-kp7gw4vs6f]

How to answer awkward questions elegantly... please! And also how to answer the compliment: you are beautiful It's always so embarrassing

[@arletbode4847]

To “you are beautiful” I would say thank you, that’s so kind.

[@thekingsdaughter4233]

Seconding Arlet Bode. Smile, say thank you (to underline, I would perhaps briefly switch into the more "feminine" postures from the posture and deportment videos on this channel - if appropriate, then switch back), and get on with the situation at hand. :-) Just tbought that in tis day and age, unfortunately, in certain situations, a comment like that would fling me in full panic mode (talking a walk in the park, not many other people nearby...) * sigh *

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Accept it with grace 😊

[@user-kp7gw4vs6f]

@@JamilaMusayeva I do not want to look proud or Arrogant .. Should I show enthusiasm for the compliment?

[@Su-mz5zh]

@@arletbode4847 I could never give such an answer if this would come from someone I don't have a romantic relationship with. But if someone would tell me, you are smart, I would exactly say this. Some comments don't need answers...

[@IevaKambarovaite]

To listen actively without trying to think what you're going to say next, is one of the most beautiful gifts you can give to someone ✨ I also think it's so important to remember this applies not just to conversations with strangers or work colleagues we may want to 'impress', but also those that we love the most. I think it's one of the secrets to being the most loving spouse, a sibling, a friend or a daughter/son to learn to listen in the most loving and caring way. A beautiful video💜

[@giorgiagatti2621]

Ieva I totally agree with you I'll try my best to improve this

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Absolutely!

[@dakotalee6990]

As someone with social anxiety, I find that knowing rules of social etiquette can really help mitigate stress. Part of the anxiety comes from uncertainty and not knowing how to respond to certain situations, but having a set of guidelines can really help set me at ease. Thank you for your videos!

[@Gettiiiiit99]

I love how you have no adds and also listen to our recommendations i love your videos so much so educative and helpful

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you 🙏🏻

[@kirakira5252]

oh no there's people who actually what to get paid for their work, what a bad thing

[@ipeace6145]

I love your voice. I would like some tips on how to soften the voice.

[@alessandrapc09]

I agreee! ❤️

[@uhpluplum]

I like this too!

[@humerakhan5945]

Yes!

[@thekingsdaughter4233]

On the phone, smile a little. In person, and since I know I have a "bitchy resting face", I make a point to think of happy things, or think of a cheerful song. Does wonders, judging by the feedback I get. :-) For starters, until Jamila uploads! ;-)

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Coming soon on speaking manner 😊 stay tuned!

[@yourfemininefuture6061]

Non verbal gestures are truly vital in the art of communication. Such great tips and advice! 💕

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you! 😌

[@cassandrachew]

quick summary! but pls still watch the whole video to have a better understanding ☺️ thank u for this great video, you’ve helped me so much! non-verbal 1. smile (when it’s appropriate) 2. maintain eye contact but look away sometimes (*tip: look in between their eyebrows) 3. body posture (physically bring urself closer, lean in, open body posture = no crossing ur arms) 4. position of ur head (slant head and bring ur head closer/ rest ur head on ur hand) 5. nod according to what they say 6. mirroring (reflection of the person’s body posture when u r listening) verbal 1. positive reinforcements (yes, right, i feel you/hear you/i know what you mean) 2. follow up questions (has to flow) 3. reflection (repeating what the speaker has said in your own words & what you think they must feel) 4. clarification (open ended qns) 5. summarisation (brief summary + open ended qns at the end) 6. listen to the tone of the voice (not just the words) **people love conversations when they talk the most - wanna be a good conversationalist? be a good listener.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thanks for the summary!

[@julia9557]

Please do a video on feminine fashion, styling, hairstyles and accessories :) I love your voice it's so calm and relaxing

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you!

[@delabruna4283]

I would definitely listen attentively to someone like you !! Very eloquent and classy

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you!

[@sylphmade]

It shows how powerful gentle manners are!! It draws people in.😉

[@lilly1579]

People will forget what you said , people will forget what you did ,but people will never ever forget how you made them feel ✨ Well said ..

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Good that you noted this quote ☺️

[@shekaina_wesley]

I love listening to you because of your soothe calming voice , It really calms me . Thanks a lot for teaching me how to be a good listener .

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you!

[@martinmasvisvi3365]

I can listen to you the all day long thank u ma'am

[@joon1728]

I clicked as soon as I got the notfication. I'm so glad I found this channel!! I feel so good about myself these days. Thank you so much!

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you 🙏🏻 happy to hear that!

[@merlina2354]

the quality of this video is absolutely incredible!

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you!

[@NEET-br1bl]

Thank you Jamila for actually providing good quality content for free.

[@juliethmsaki]

Her voice is soooo soothing I really wanna be soft and gentle like her!!

[@francescaicaza5148]

This channel is a hidden gem ❤️💎👌

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you 🙏🏻

[@disharixex]

I love how you address both the genders in each of your videos ❤️

[@TheDanster4]

As someone with social anxiety, doing this is really hard but I think this would be good practice for me to do with my family so I really appreciate these tips!

[@JamilaMusayeva]

You are welcome. It takes practice to become good at it ☺️

[@divanshi9465]

second yay love you so much . i have noticed such a good chnage in myself after following you

[@CelineRockIt]

I definitely see where you are coming from. Watching her makes you want to be a better person.

[@divanshi9465]

@@CelineRockIt thank you you’re saying the truth hope you are safe and happy 😃

[@annecastilho3923]

I'd love to watch a video on how to "control" your face when expressing emotions.. Sometimes I feel like people (myself included) end up making ugly faces when expressing emotions of confusion/surprise etc. How can we control our face's emotions without being too plain?

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Noted 😊

[@TsarOfRuss]

Pull a poker face! its the best for any situation

[@oliviadutta1354]

I wanna know the same

[@ishha14]

@@JamilaMusayeva Yes! I would love a video on this, you always look so serene on camera. It took me until I was in University in the US to hear that my "thinking/processing" face was interpreted as judgemental or critical. Still working on moderating my other expressions (I'll get wrinkles early hahahaha)

[@celinehosea]

I don't think expressing your emotions without control is bad, Anne, in fact, I think it feels more 'authentic' and can bring your closer to other people! If you feel anxious about not looking 'good', this may even be a good thing because people form friendships by vulnerability. =)

[@niketarb]

Hi Jamila, Can we get a video on Wardrobe essentials? Like the basic things, every woman must have in their wardrobe.

[@ranalia9025]

Even if i don't have time to watch, I'm saving your videos to come back again, you're so precious🙏😊 Greetings from Turkey🇹🇷

[@soulful_poetry]

Hello everyone here🤗🤗 Wish you all good luck for your life as we all are here for positive change in our lives😇

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Absolutely 😊

[@swatirajsharma]

Dating Etiquettes. Loved your explanation. Sharing to loved ones. Thank you.

[@ayanverma5746]

*Your voice is very soothing*

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you!

[@mina_hana103]

You're a wonderful role model. Thank you 😊

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you!

[@mina_hana103]

@@JamilaMusayeva thank you too. The education and the right manners are the base for a good society,and so many people should follow your advice, especially if a youg girl/woman would become a real lady like you. So thank you very much. 🙏🏻💜 I'm a big fan of yours and of your work.

[@hannahkiddie8245]

Public speaking and telephone manners will be a good topic.

[@glyderglyder]

Honestly you've inspired .. Thanks for the amazing advice

[@nabiharahman5651]

YOU ARE MY BEST TEACHER THANK YOU

[@JamilaMusayeva]

You are very welcome!

[@suryaprabhu.]

Oh my goodness! So elegant,classy,calm😍 worthy of my time, definitely u deserve more subscribers 👍

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you very much!

[@gokceoz1366]

when i listen you i hear both the sound of silence and your smooth voice at the same time which make me calm down. thanks for showing your experience on how to speak in all your videos.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you for your kind words ☺️

[@stefanolongo4359]

I love this woman

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you!

[@evaegis4135]

Wow, your voice so soft and even you also replying all of these comments ✨ Thank, it was helpful

[@RB-by3gi]

Love your content, Jamila. Thank you for uploading!

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thanks!

[@missamu7997]

When i feel that the other person is listening actively to what i am saying i feel so happy it boost your self esteem that what you re saying is worthy to be listened even if the topic is not special Thank youu for the video ❤❤

[@JamilaMusayeva]

You are welcome

[@ImranKhan-eg7by]

I think I can become " a good listener " by just watching your videos and listening your voice

[@l.-gz7ny]

Cómo ser un buen oyente - Comunicación no verbal (lenguaje corporal) + Sonreír al ver a la persona, puedes mantenerla durante toda la conversación + Contacto visual, mantener el contacto durante toda la conversación, puedes ver otras partes de la cara pero siempre regresar a los ojos (al principio puedes ver la nariz + Posturas abiertas, inclinarte con la persona, no cruzar piernas o brazos, abrir las manos, el pecho + Postura de la cara, ponerla un poco inclinada, acercarte un poco, puedes poner la mano en la cara + Asentir a lo que dicen + Ser un espejo, hacer lo que hace la otra persona - Comunicación verbal + Usar palabras de refuerzo, decir "si, no, en serio, woow" + Hacer preguntas acerca de lo que están diciendo + Repetir o hacer una reflexión de lo que te están diciendo + Aclarar algunas cosas, haz preguntas abiertas + Sumario, con tus palabras parafrasea lo que te dijeron + No solo revisa la información, sino también el tono con el que lo dicen

[@sehrishkhalid126]

I love the way you speak.. I am changing!🤍

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you 🙏🏻

[@anitamwangi2756]

I love your videos, please highlight the major point in the description that explain the video content You have taught me a lot,thankyou

[@asaliest9336]

I also like the background music, thank you dear Jamila, this video was very useful like always.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

You are welcome ☺️

[@Rob-dd3ck]

Best channel on youtube. Etiquette should be taught in school, particularly for women.

[@punhanakevin2167]

I really appreciated your speech

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you!

[@anujanandan2127]

This is such an important aspect and people generally ignore this. It is so noticeable nowadays that people have forgot to engage in a communication and more than that they are not even bothered to listen. Thank you Ms.for throwing light on the topic.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

You are very welcome ☺️

[@jamesnicholls5994]

Your videos are not only very informative but very relaxing. Great content, thank you.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you!

[@lijijohnson9932]

Instead of saying, we need more people who actually listens, I'm trying to be one of those people Thank you Jamila! ❤✨

[@JamilaMusayeva]

you are welcome, Liji! :)

[@leanaam.5385]

I always come back to this video because it’s such an important skill to have. Thank you Jamila for this gem!

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you 🙏🏻

[@oliveserena204]

I found your channel yesterday and I have watched your videos with great interest. They are very helpful.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you!

[@oliveserena204]

@@JamilaMusayeva No. Thank YOU!

[@michelleaniel5350]

Another superb and very informative video, thank you Jamila! You actually remind me of a celebrity and political figure from the Philippines . You look and talk like her.

[@wisdomliving99]

Woww i just love yor speaking style and the way you're moving hands, n the vocabs!

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you!

[@monicawilson896]

Thank you for sharing. This is so needed.

[@vignesh5924]

This youtube recommendation has made me a good listener..

[@JamilaMusayeva]

thank you! :)

[@ajohonly3721]

I’m so happy I found your channel.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thanks 🙏🏻

[@thedominationer3070]

Why are these videos so damn relaxing?!

[@Mmemetathinking]

Thank you for this video. and congratulations for the subscribers. You went from 27k last month to 200k subscribers!

[@Archer396]

Your videos are thoroughly informative. Thanks! This comment is probably after binge watching your uploads😊

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you for binge watching ☺️

[@killjoy1321]

Wow, you grew so much in just a few weeks! I've been here before 10k and now you're over 100k. Congratulations Jamila! These tips really help a lot of people be the polished and sophisticated person they aspire to be. 😊

[@JamilaMusayeva]

I know I am surprised too ☺️

[@marialovesmusicalot]

Omg I'm early!!! Tysm for uploading Mrs. Jamila.😊 I love your content and your personality. ♡ I aspire to know as much as you in etiquette. Please don't stop teaching us!

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you 🙏🏻

[@civilizeddiva]

I mirror the active listening skills of my favorite television detectives. Many of their techniques were sprinkled throughout this tutorial. Not stated, but also implied: this is the best way to get to know someone you would like to know better. It’s the small details they share (I.e., night time rituals, personal habits). Then you can take that data, and when the time comes, share gifts they will appreciate (I.e. favorite tea retailers, hand-cream ) or just share helpful tips. For example, one of my colleagues enjoys the same coffee-creamer that I use. The item is frequently out of stock, so we would let each other know when it was restocked. Occasionally, when I saw she was having a busy day, I would stop at the store during my lunch hour and pick up a container for us both. Small gestures mean the most.

[@MiriamVance.]

Can you share more on elegance and motherhood? I’d love to hear your thoughts on how you maintain composure and how it translates into motherhood and your dynamic with your children!

[@Anchorursoul]

Thank you for sharing Jamila. Much appreciated ☺️

[@JamilaMusayeva]

You are welcome 😊

[@pratyasha798]

I'm so glad that I found your channel, I'm liking your videos so much Thank you so so much❤️

[@hazydreamer7965]

Hello again. It is not often that we can find people, who actually listen or pay attention. It is irritating, but on the other hand we cannot force them. I´d like to give you one example. A week ago I told a former colleague I did not feel like coming to the cinema with her, because I was very sad and upset . That same day I had found out a very dear friend of ours had died (covid-19) and I just could not stop crying. What did that silly person answer ? " Well, things happen in life, how about a week later ?" It often helps in life to learn to keep a distance and to choose carefully, who your true, nice, understanding friends are. Life is too short to be spent in unpleasant company. - Your very soft spoken video is calming and offered me both good advice and a moment to relax. Thank you.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

I am so sorry for your loss, Hazy. May your friend rest in peace. I agree that life should be spent in a company of loving people. Those that listen and hear you.

[@faridhadi6518]

jamila you have explain your point of view very nicely. you did your work nicely.Farid Hadi

[@potospotos4078]

Hai, I am a new subscriber. Please do a video on how to speak calmly and at the same time be assertive. Thank you.❤️

[@IevaKambarovaite]

What a great idea for a video

[@uhpluplum]

Good!

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you! Coming soon ☺️

[@potospotos4078]

@@JamilaMusayeva ❤️

[@sreejitakarmakar8488]

I am so glad that I'm exactly how you taught us to be in this video. I've been told previously that I'm a good listener. And I'm unconsciously doing all the things which you are teaching here. And as you were teaching I was even trying to do as you were showing and realised I do those things a lot in general conversations with people. I think people who are naturally introverted have some qualities of being good listeners.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

I agree 😊

[@geetika2710]

I'm so lucky that I found ur channel ☺️. Your talking style is just impressive and I learnt many things. Love from India ❤️

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you!

[@alissaayeshamarian769]

i like the way you talk, most espicially the way you speech i will remember my teacher in high school and my college day

[@phuongnguyengia9518]

Thank you so much! Since I have known your youtube channel, my life was totally change

[@JamilaMusayeva]

So happy to hear that! You are welcome!

[@sohahm]

How can I speak like you? Slowly, with patience, and so much grace like a princess. It is mesmerizing and creates a magnetism that freezes the audience.

[@gulnarasgarova4227]

I liked it. 👍 Could you make a video about "job interview" ethics or office ethics?

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Good idea 😉

[@buku8627]

Office ethics, I think its very important nowadays. The relationship with our boss

[@Flourish_today]

@@buku8627 And now that we are working from home. Zoom call ethics.

[@merry_christmas]

@@JamilaMusayeva And if you come around to this particular subject, please include work at home/video meeting ethics. I have a lot of difficulty translating distinctive office ethics onto a video call.

[@fidanmammadzada495]

Wow,this is also what I want

[@cliyanage9187]

You are a good instructor. Very clear. Thanks dearie 🌸

[@AsmaaOAli]

I love this video. it helped me a lot. And for that reason I thank you. I would like you to make a video of using voice tones in different places. how to use it etc...i think it is really important, and how it effects it with talking to people. btw i love your video:)

[@hooria4732]

I want a heart from you PLEASE :)

[@JamilaMusayeva]

❤️

[@pdube]

I really admire your confidence and wish to have the same one-day

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you!

[@reenajohnson9827]

Could you maybe pls make a video about on how to speak softly and patiently

[@ayeshaahmad7908]

Just listening to you is comforting

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you 🙏🏻

[@giorgiagatti2621]

totally the best channel ever

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you!

[@IM-uh5tk]

Video summary: ⏩ Non-verbal etiquettes: 1- Smile 2- Make eye contact 3- Posture (bring your body closer, lean in, position your head upwards, open your hands and chest, etc.) 4- Nod 5- Mirroring (reflect what they do) ⏩ Verbal etiquettes: 1- Positive reinforcement messages 2- Question 3- Reflection/repeat what they said 4- Clarification 5- Summarisation 6- Don't just listen to the words; also listen to their tone

[@merry_christmas]

Thank you so much. I love her videos, but as a non-native speaker it's a little difficult to grasp the conclusive summary.

[@sharonwanjuki1633]

l am a new subscriber and l would love 2 start feminine life and l love how you teach us thank a lot God bless

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you!

[@tungochuy]

hey queen you dropped this 👑

[@FatimaAhmed-hd9nn]

I really appreciate the tips you shared and the topic, because I didn't know how to be a good listener and I'm learning. You're video has been really helpful :) thank you!

[@JamilaMusayeva]

You are welcome 😊

[@timothythecarbaby]

Very informative Enjoying the content of your channel. Thank you!

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you 🙏🏻

[@nyaradyszabolcs6336]

Wow, you are really amazing! The quality of your videos are so high. I really appreciate the work you do for us! In todays world where social connections get shallower it's very important to be a good listener!

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you 😊

[@sophiemendez98]

Why would someone dislike this??? Thank you for this video! It’s extremely useful!

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you! 😊

[@alizaaksheikh]

Basically a good listener feels like a therapist!

[@sakshi966]

Etiquettes for dates ...I swear we all need this. And dress etiquettes as well

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Noted 😊

[@rocksanaabbas9709]

Hello dear I really appreciate you and your all videos; I really love your talking and beautiful video

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you!

[@cashivamkumari]

I often get time to watch KZbin at night & past few months are quite rough for me, so I feel difficulty in sleeping these days.. One fine night, I came across your channel!! I don't know how much etiquettes I have learned yet but your voice definitely acts as a lullaby to me!! Listening to you really calms my mind 😇 Plz share a video on how to speak politely.. Hoping to see more from you ☺

[@claireh1089]

I love your channel . So useful for people nowadays . 🎉

[@julia9557]

Please do a video first date etiquette and tips and advice! :D

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Noted 😊

[@anitha9005]

mesmerizing voice with a beauty😍😍😍

[@mosesfennel]

Thank you for the reminder.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Sure 😊

[@margitte6782]

You're such an inspiration! Can you please do a video on how to act on a first date?

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you!

[@wisdomliving99]

I turn on the notification 💛 so i never miss your much needful vids..

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you ❤️