My dad was an awesome step father! He always had time to bond with us and kept good communication and treated us the same as his own kids. He's the best dad I ever known. Thank you for this video, I feel like it will help other families who are struggling in their blended families.
@pigjubby18 жыл бұрын
Your job, like mine has been, is to be the best person for her. The limit to your fatherhood is determined by the mom. If mom wants you to assume the father role, she will let you. If mom wants to keep you as Sam, you will be Sam to your daughter. Sadly, no matter how good a step-father your are to her, and no matter how screwed up dad is, you will never be 'dad' until mom says so. My step-daughter hugged me three times in ten years, because she was afraid of upsetting her dad, and since moon never set the rules down, it ended up in a very cold relationship. She told her abusive dad, how much she loved him and never told me that once. It went back to mom not telling her it was okay to say what she felt. She never admitted how dad really was. His drinking and abuse. The guilt that she was to always love dad, care for him and put him first, no matter what. My step-daughter is confused because she does not want to hurt feelings, so now she just keeps neutral between her dad and I. Guilt ruled mom's life. So, now I have a 20 years old step-daughter, who ended up being mom's roommate to me for the last ten years. I was just mom's husband. Talk about a kick in the gut.