How to Be More Accepting, Forgiving and Compassionate

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Today, I want to speak to you about three qualities that we would all like to cultivate more. I want to speak to you about acceptance, I want to speak to you about forgiveness, and I want to speak to you about compassion -- the three sisters of living an extraordinary life. So, these qualities are something that inherently we all know that we should have, that we should be cultivating, that we should be showing up in life expressing ourselves in this way. When somebody wrongs you, you should be forgiving. When somebody upsets you, you should be compassionate. But, we don't exactly always do that, do we? There's something funny about human beings, and I've seen this now that I've had the opportunity to speak to thousands of people, where there's something subconscious that goes on where we say, "Yeah, okay, I get I should be compassionate. I get I should be forgiving. I get I should be accepting. But, what's in it for me?"
Well, as if feeling good is not enough, I will tell you what's in it for you so that you can start to become convinced that this is something you should be doing more and, of course, I'll give you the "how" of doing it. But, what we're learning is that every time we are feeling guilty, every time we're resentful, every time we're judgmental, the brain is active. So, there are actually aspects of our neurosynaptic connections that become active every time we experience those things -- guilt, resentment, judgment. And, so, essentially what's happening when we're doing that is we're dissipating our creative energy. There's this old saying of something like resentment or judgment is like putting poison in someone else's food and then eating it yourself, or something like that. I can't remember what the old adage is. But, the idea is that you're self-sabotaging. You are literally dissipating your creative energy. So, if you think about your creative energy as the key or the bloodline to creating whatever it is that you want in your life, what you're doing is you're pulling away from your own creation. So, every time you're feeling resentful, every time you're feeling judgmental, what you're actually doing is you're preventing yourself from creating what it is that you want to create because, remember, creation is a matter of putting your consistent, focused attention on your desired outcome. So, anything that's pulling you away from that is preventing you from creating. So, when we start becoming resentful over what somebody has done to us, or we become judgmental about the way that somebody is, or we refuse to have forgiveness for somebody or for ourselves and so maybe we feel guilty, what we're doing is we're dissipating our creative energy. We're dissipating our mental energy because we can actually see how certain parts of the brain light up when we're in these states.
So, we're also seeing that by moving over to the other side of the fence, by forgiving, by accepting, by having compassion, we actually see a change in the brain where we move into an alpha brainwave state. So, there are these various states of brain activity and alpha is what gives us access to creativity, intuition, and inspiration. It's not so much that by having compassion and by having acceptance and by having forgiveness that we move into these states, it's that that's the default state that exists when we're not dissipating our creative energy, our mental energy, on resentment, judgment, and feeling guilty.
So, how do we do that? In this video, I explain how to be more accepting, forgiving and compassionate.

[@stormbrewer1169]

My favorite quote from this video "You and the situation have been brought together to reveal something about yourself." Very profound. Thank you David Bayer!

[@DavidBayer33]

Thanks brother!!

[@elizabethgarcia4190]

I felt the most about being wronged. I do go by certain “rules” and automatically say “this is why I do things alone this is why I’m like this” etc. oh my goodness. Thank you!!! Have subscribed,I loved this video. Not too many places are open for therapy so this helps so so much as a start.

[@rominaniksirat5123]

this was really helpful gave me a sense of peace thank you so much

[@perhance2227]

I will be recommending you to my friends, you are really very underrated.

[@perhance2227]

Thank you! You have really helped me in my everyday life and I hope that you keep spreading good. You are helping alot of people and I just wanted you to know that

[@johnnieho5999]

Thank you. This is exactly what i needed. Thank you

[@ryanjohnson7354]

This guy is giving a really good clear insight into some great truths! There's a lot more on this kind of thread in a lot of Buddhist teachings if any of you feel like learning more :) Thich Nhat Hanh, Pema Chodron and Jack Kornfield are other great talkers on this kind of level.

[@DavidBayer33]

Thanks Ryan great suggestions and appreciate your thoughtful feedback!

[@naomisteiner8353]

Great advice for life. Look forward to seeing more of you. Thanks

[@Cedevakal]

Thank you, this is very good and succint

[@Mell88067]

Your videos are great! Thanks for the helpful insight you always offer.

[@5innocencia]

amazing video thanks

[@connermcelveen]

Awesome video

[@chandasparklesastrology]

Wonderful & thank you David!

[@lindakaiser9042]

Thanku

[@Buttergirla]

What how do you let go? How do you let go especially if you have strong hate towards a person?? Yes I have realization, and I feel guilty, but the hate is still there and I don't know how to get rid of it? How do you deal with that?

[@lolar6085]

I did The Work of Byron Katie. It is very similar to David's work. Once I noticed anger or stressful feelings I wrote the negative thought or belief that created the feelings and questioned one by one with the help of a worksheet downloaded in Byron's Katie webpage. Also you can watch many videos of people doing this work and shifting their pain and mood. Best wishes

[@Captivatingndc]

Pray

[@sarahcrane6940]

Brilliant 💕💞👌

[@JonathanAndersonMusicMayor]

Love this! Great video!! Every experience is of your own making. Universal creative laws! Your brain has the past, present and future inside. The most powerful muscle. #FranchiseAnalyst (plug)

[@juliagoldstern]

great stuff! thank you!