How to be More Articulate - 8 Powerful Secrets

[@DrGraceLee]

What was your most embarrassing speaking experience? Public speaking? Work presentation? Large crowd? Let me know in the comments below, I'd love to hear from you!

[@patriciangotie6982]

Thank you Dr. Grace Lee for helping me out in being articulate. My experience happened when I was in front of a large crowd and I noticed the mic wasnt working so I had to raise my voice so that it could be heard by the large crowd of people. I forgot my words and couldn't listen to what I was speaking I ended up just repeating myself and the shame of walking back to my seat was just really embarrassing. My speech affected me because my mentors left to other groups.

[@nassermj7671]

STAGE FRIGHT! This has ideas :-)

[@ritanyarku132]

I really really need coaching Dr. Lee. This is affecting my work

[@DrGraceLee]

@@ritanyarku132 Hi Rita, what kind of coaching are you looking for? I'm trying to understand what's going on that's affecting your work?

[@leewahl2589]

All three...

[@MrCoontwo]

Read continuously, habitually, constantly, frequently. Diversify your reading material. Bottom line. Read, read, read.

[@vulturebitch]

That's a very good tip: I think ive become less fluent in my vocabulary since Ive been reading less.

[@Prellzp]

Or watch KZbin lectures, debate, etc

[@paulflaubert7355]

Drink 4 beers

[@dbnd2240]

💯

[@moniquebingham6047]

@@Prellzp I would highly recommend doing both.

[@adriang225]

0:41 Secret#1 - Expand your vocabulary 1:42 Secret#2 - Practice improvising 2:53 Secret#3 - Pause 3:32 Secret#4 - Tone Accentuation 6:03 Secret#5 - Listen to yourself 6:52 Secret#6 - Confidence & Self-Assurance 7:25 Secret#7 - Variation 8:20 Secret#8 - Understand Yourself

[@helenerzz]

Add “Descriptive” to #1

[@jumper555]

Thank you

[@aylex1974]

Got it thanks

[@donaamelia9126]

Thank you

[@marjn1030]

Thank you!👍🏽

[@renéTheDev]

I notice when I am explaing something, I lose myself in finding the perfect word and in doing so, I lose my concentration.

[@keirankainth]

I do this. Trying to overcome it

[@shashank4396]

Did you overcome this? If yes then plz post it here as well. Bcuz I'm having the same problem.

[@shashank4396]

@@keirankainth Did you overcome this? If yes then plz post it here as well. Bcuz I'm having the same problem.

[@DrGraceLee]

Hi Rene, you are losing your concentration because you are trying to find the perfect word. Don't seek for perfection. The purpose of speaking is to communicate. Say what you want to say and open some space for clarification

[@asadbekmakhamatov936]

@@DrGraceLee great

[@HR-lt1nv]

I’m a lot more articulate in written form than verbal - if you were to compare the two, you would think there were two different people 😩

[@JDG-hq8gy]

As are most people. Written gives you plenty of time to plan what you’re going to say, it also obviates the risk of mispronunciation and muddling your words. Think about what you’re going to say, how it’ll start and how it’ll end. Do this one or two planned sentences at a time with a direction in mind. Avoid filler words and tautology, consider whether or not what you’re about to say has already been said. My Dad taught me this and it’s always stuck, the guy speaks so clearly sometimes like he is reading from some essay.

[@SophiaLMitchell]

Same here lol!

[@preciousjones]

when you’re terrible at both 😭 i’m struggling but imma be okay 😩

[@ninjabreadgirl]

Exact same problem here

[@Music-cj8de]

@@ninjabreadgirl key is to read aloud

[@robertogerardi7040]

1. (0:40) Expand Your Vocabulary, 2. (1:42) Practice Improvising, 3. (2:53) Pause, 4. (3:32) Tone and Accentuation, 5. (6:02) Listen to Yourself, 6. (6:51) Portray Confidence & Self-Assurance, 7. (7:24) Use Variation, 8. (8:19) Understand Yourself.

[@theveefit]

Roberto Gerardi thanks friend 😍

[@_zxzaliah3918]

:P

[@_zxzaliah3918]

K thx

[@siriusra]

Thank you

[@ticketforlife2103]

How to expand your vocabulary ?

[@thomasjohansson5748]

I think the most important thing - in order to be able to speak well, convincingly and in an articulated way about something - is to actually know about the subject matter, having studied it well and having thought much about it.

[@ohyes966]

This goes with my idea of the more you know (about the subject) the less you fear (when speaking about it.) I always asked my paramedic instructor how he was so confident doing an assessment in front of 100 people and his answer was because he’s done more assessments than the whole room combined. Knew the material he was teaching so well to the point it was nearly impossible for him to get nervous or brain fart.

[@kimberlyalexander7905]

That's exactly how I feel about it. The more I know about a subject the more confident I am speaking on it.

[@sanaatouzani3085]

Absolutely, understanding the subject will make things much easier and the articulation will be much easier to express.

[@kevygranero]

Fully agree. The more you read about the subject matter, the more you know it and deep dive into it, the easier it is to articulate. All knowledge accumulated will be spell out naturally if you really understood when studying it.

[@tanu5683]

"People don`t see you through their eyes, they see you through your eyes."

[@prix205]

Yes for me too

[@greenlimabean]

I don't think so

[@ghafoorhussain98]

Trust, I had to pause and rewind to hear that again

[@ortiz9996]

@@ghafoorhussain98 it makes a lot of sense right. Had to put my drink down

[@Njae2000]

This isn't always true.

[@bagabones5580]

Honestly it’s my anxiety that messes everything up...I’d be so articulate if I was confident

[@jazminpineda1173]

Same

[@GossipGarbage]

When I drink I’m super articulate and confident 😅 Sober oh lord I can’t speak to save my life😂😂

[@mygodisawesome6121]

@@GossipGarbage I thought I was the only one

[@eminemarmy5656]

Is that you will? 😂

[@adrukova1407]

@@mygodisawesome6121 haha, same. 😁 I always feel like the only one who can't speak.

[@Samantha-bc2uu]

my problem is that i always second guess what comes out of my mouth, then i end up fumbling.

[@Carlygrrl]

I get that too! It helped me to start recording Facebook live sessions. Or maybe an improv class might help you?

[@worldofpersonalstorytelling]

It's easy to change that if you are willing to put the effort into it.

[@moname56]

Join Toastmasters. Unfortunately most of it is on Zoom now but it’s a GREAT and INEXPENSIVE way to become a better speaker.

[@maristella287]

That is what I did when I got anxious, as in the example I mentioned in my new post..

[@hiddengemz955]

Yes , overthinking makes my stutter 😭

[@CandaceLeAnne]

I learned about the value of using silence instead of filler words. Also voice tone changes to accentuate certain parts of a sentence, which I do instinctively. But to be able to use tone change strategically without coming off sarcastic or mocking is a game changer in being more articulate.

[@chellanmusic9791]

1. Expand your vocabulary 2. practice improvising 3. Pause 4. Tone and accentuation 5. Listen to yourself 6. confidence and self assurance 7. Use variation 8. Understand yourself

[@brownhairedgirl23]

Okay, this information, video and presenter are SO underrated. This needs to be shared with students and young adults all around the world.

[@DrGraceLee]

You are welcome to share with those you need to hear it. Sharing is caring, and I appreciate you!

[@swarnapuri11]

I agree, lot of useful tips and strategies! Dr. Grace got a new subscriber!

[@adrukova1407]

Not just students n young adults, but anyone who needs it.🤘

[@ashbash1700]

@@DrGraceLee you got a new subscriber over here 👋.

[@catherinechu511]

​@@DrGraceLee0:01 0:01 0:01

[@elleshock4571]

The idea that people see you through your eyes and not theirs is very insightful. Basically, you have yhe power and not them. Thank you.

[@worldofpersonalstorytelling]

Through the power of storytelling you can ensure people enter your world/life. After a conversation, I don't want people to walk away with an opinion of me but rather an understanding of who I am!

[@cosmicdownload2025]

I have to stop saying 'you know what I'm saying" lol

[@DrGraceLee]

The best way to do that is to have confidence that you have something important to say and that your listeners want to hear it.

[@cosmicdownload2025]

@Retta L I catch myself saying it now and stop myself now after reading what Dr. Grace told me about it. It's so true, I wasn't taking myself seriously when I spoke to others and now I am :)

[@virtuosa69]

Um is my painfully worn out pause word.. I was so surprised to listen to Annika Harris, who's so intelligent, use "um" constantly, like I do, as a pause word. I have dyslexia so I think my mind defaults to pause word mode to try and sort out my thoughts during those split seconds.

[@saritadiaz6634]

Me too

[@worldofpersonalstorytelling]

I'm guilty of that too and I do a lot of videos, podcasts, and speaking engagements. We are constant works in progress!!

[@carolweathersbee8627]

“People don’t see you thru their eyes, they see you thru your eyes.” Very powerful statement.

[@DrGraceLee]

Definitely! Powerful and empowering

[@rebecastevens8892]

When I am in high level meetings, I feel that I get flustered and super self conscious. So it’s not even about sounding more articulate but about speaking, period. It’s very frustrating because I’m very knowledgeable in my field, but cannot translate my knowledge into a conversation.

[@worldofpersonalstorytelling]

Why do you think that is? Are you self-conscious about what you have to say? Do you fear judgment or people being critical? Do you work in a supportive environment?

[@Rohitjaen]

I feel exactly the same. Self conscious gets the better of me, then i start to fumble, statter and what not 😢

[@Tamarahope77]

Turning your attention to the external is a skill everyone can get better at.

[@DrGraceLee]

Thank you for your vulnerable share. I recently wrote an article about articulating your knowledge into a conversation. It might help. You can read it here: www.masteryinsights.com/how-to-articulate-thoughts-into-words

[@blerinapsota2447]

Do mock runs of your talk in front of a mirror. It helps tremendously and boost self confidence. Before the meeting, go to a secluded place take deep breaths, place your arms up (sounds weird but there’s a biological connection there), and say affirmative statements like: I will do great, I’m a great communicator, it will be a wonderful speech.

[@hamedshah2363]

As a 17 year old bangladeshi, I find it very helpful. This is one of the best tutorials I have ever watched. Thank you very much for teaching us for free

[@DrGraceLee]

You're welcome and thank you for your honest feedback

[@twiglet2214]

I belonged to a spiritual community for quite a few years and found speaking to a small group of people could be daunting. However as i practised it more and more it became easier to the point where i looked forward to speaking confidenly and with ease to the group, and others.Listening is also a very important communication skill and my friend once said " end a statement by asking the person, so what do you think " ? In Finland there is a saying often used with children which says " listen - or your tongue will make you deaf " !

[@teamworkmakesthedreamwork_6211]

I can be articulate when talking to people I know but stutter when there are other people. :( . An introvert here.

[@gideonfillag1575]

Hehe.. I feel you.. Me either.. 😕

[@jennvares9098]

Me too, its like my brain goes blank:l

[@slavgugu1541]

Same problem here

[@shanshan6653]

Same

[@emkwame8974]

Tori Smith hahah mine is just the opposite 😂

[@kellycotterell]

Very good tips, thank you. I’m a Christian & what you said about people seeing you through your own eyes reminds me of a scripture in the Bible In proverbs 7 “as a man thinks in his heart so is he” What we project is definitely being seen & heard a lot more clearly than we may have thought. Thanks again

[@tamershanklin4462]

I learned all pauses isn't awkward. And I know that my social anxiety can be worked on.

[@THEKINGADVISOR1]

Jordan Peterson is the king of making those pauses work lol

[@thiswasmytumblr]

This suit is black pause not

[@Raccon_Detective.]

I know how to beat social anxiety.

[@mygodisawesome6121]

@@Raccon_Detective. How?

[@EndlessTravels]

I use pausing heavily in seduction and work meetings all the time

[@kimace7854]

I was once working as a Lyft driver and the woman in the back seat was asking me questions about my goals and I said “more better” and she corrected me and said I could use some speech help and that she was a speech teacher something like that, I felt so embarrassed but she told me to listen to podcast with people who spoke well as I did Lyft. It still bugs me to this day and has made me self conscious but I know it something that I needed to hear. Where I want to go in life is going to require that I articulate my self in a certain manner in order to be taken seriously. So here I am... this is one of my goals for 2021.

[@spyddar]

Same here! Speaking well is such a challenge for some of us. But I think you’re in good company! Ha!

[@sheddspeaks9328]

Videos I research during quarantine. As a college graduate, I find myself not knowing how to be articulate when going to interviews. I like these tips, I'll practice during quarantine lol

[@DrGraceLee]

Awesome and I am cheering you on!

[@youarebeautiful2780]

Me too😊

[@SUNNYLEO24]

Still practicing 6 months after QUARANTINE

[@rayparker59]

I came to realize I stutter so much for two reasons. 1) I hated being interrupted because it would make me forget what I was saying and feel embarrassed. 2) because of that hatred of being interrupted, I would think of my words so fast my mouth couldn't catch up so I stuttered even more.

[@oompalompai2]

You and I both!

[@glamourisbest]

This is my life in a nutshell!

[@npursuit]

I appreciate this video. I've learned that I speak in a monotone. For the longest I've felt that no one REALLY wanted to hear what I had to say. I don't remember when it happened, but somewhere along the line, I began speaking very tentatively and timidly, and it became a self fulfilling prophecy... people stopped listening. So, then I started trying to speak quickly and as concisely as possible to get my point across before they lost interest or cut me off. I don't know how to turn this around. I would love to have others lend me THEIR ears every now and then.

[@sophienelson1680]

So I don't know much, still learning on being articulate but I'll share what I've learned so far. So first you have to be interested in what YOU have to say. The speaker here says people see you as you see yourself. So you need to hold space for yourself to speak. Listen to yourself talk, like literally pay attention to yourself. I'm and empath and I'm usually centred around the other person's reaction to my words and this gives me more anxiety so Instead of focusing on the other person and their receptiveness, let's pay that attention to ourselves like with your ears listen to your voice, feel the words coming out of your mouth. Be with your self instead of the other person. Believe in your self, change this narrative you have right now. If you keep believing no one pays attention to you, no one will. Change your self limiting beliefs. Affirmations works wonders for this, you can affirm "I speak eloquenly", "I am being paid attention to". Personalize it

[@peacesamuel7698]

The word "articulate" is a word i have been looking for all my life.

[@Jackgritty28]

Did you marry articulate,I blame her parent for naming her that way⏳

[@Jackgritty28]

Your wife should have been called articulate,it shouldn't have taken all your life💥

[@salvadorayala3860]

Spanish was my first language . I do tend to stutter when I speak English . I did find reading out loud to help a lot !

[@nassermj7671]

Muy bien idea amigo.

[@DrGraceLee]

I hear you. Be persistent in pursuing your desired outcomes for speaking. Once something works for you, double down on that while trying to make tweaks to improve upon your process. It is absolutely possible to speak a non native language as fluently as your native language.

[@renéTheDev]

What helps me, is speaking a little slower to understand the next word I'm going to use.

[@oooladiesfirst]

I always enjoy listening to articulate people. I listen to talk radio to help me learn and incorporate descriptive words in my vocabulary.

[@hollandgem2]

Don’t worry about it because those of us who can only speak English and on some days we don’t even do that very well! Did you ever consider the fact that you’re doing better than most people on most days! Be gentle with yourself and patience will pay off! 😁

[@Graymanone]

One of the best investments I made was a book called "Verbal advantage" The problem is most people speak at a 7th grade level. I noticed I speak much better when I speak slow in fact think first then speck.

[@justinocastillo5808]

I slow it down a bit and express myself just fine..

[@keithpressley1642]

Kind of like how you did here?

[@amyleerue7131]

Know your audience. An average easy conversation in public may be 7th grade (the research I have seen was 8th) but if you are speaking to professionals that level is probably higher. Listen to your audience; how do they speak do they use a lot of tech lingo or do they speak plain English, your goal is to communicate to them. Even a group of academics will speak at a lower level than they write. Why? Because the goal is to ensure that they are understood.

[@mohaghighat]

#1: Expand your vocabulary (descriptive words) #2: Practice improvising (take an improv or acting class ) #3: Pause (before and after the points that you're trying to emphasize ) #4: Pay attention to your tone and accentuation #5: Listen to yourself #6: Portray confidence and self-assurance #7: Use variation (length of the sentences, speed, volume ) #8: Understand yourself

[@DrGraceLee]

Awesome summary, Mohammad!

[@nassermj7671]

Thanks Brother - you put it best.

[@kcchhan4558]

Thanks for the synopsis, Mohammad!

[@paulflaubert7355]

9. Buy a parrot from oxford, england

[@paulflaubert7355]

Smoke a joint and wear sunglasses

[@sharonbyars8910]

At 77 years of age I still struggle with talking too much. I’m confined to my own home now and find that I enjoy the silence. My soul is at peace when I’m alone...ALONE not lonely👵🏻

[@DrGraceLee]

I'm grateful that you can find enjoyment in silence. Great distinction between alone and lonely.

[@donnatate6327]

Amen Sharon!

[@evelynedwin2472]

❤️🙏

[@aeiou9423]

Introvert here and i really find it hard to speak in front of people. it's like everything i wanted to say will just dissapear because of anxiety😭

[@lisaharris8342]

I feel you on that one.

[@garybraches9936]

" people don't see you through their eyes, they see you through YOUR eyes"- very insightful and brilliant. Many of these tips are applicable to the written word as well. Nicely done. I just subscribed.

[@jimkline746]

You did a good job. Being articulate and making your points is extremely important. People in general find these qualities very likeable and will implement them in their own lives.

[@fabianmoreno3030]

You taught me that larger vocabulary doesn’t mean they will understand, rather choose descriptive words that express your emotions or paint a clearer picture of what you mean to convey. Great point thanks

[@DrGraceLee]

Awesome takeaway! Thanks for sharing, Fabian.

[@linaemam8111]

What an amazing video. Becoming more articulate in English is one of my goals for 2020 so I am very happy to stumble upon your channel. To memorize and summerize what you mentioned in the video here are the 8 tips: #1. Expand your vocabulary. #2. Practice improvising. #3. Pause instead of using filler words. #4. Pay attention to your tone & accentuation #5. Listen to yourself. Try to record yourself. #6. Portray confidence & self-assurance. #7. Use variation. Vary between long & short sentences or high and low volume. #8. Understand yourself. Find the true reason why you lack articulation.

[@DrGraceLee]

That's a great summary, Lina! Glad to have you here!

[@nosheenkhan5809]

Thank you for the summary. I am taking a screenshot to go over it again

[@tomatlanta2665]

Self Assurance and Confidence People don’t see you thru their eyes They see you through YOUR eyes Well said

[@amyalexandria444]

I love “people don’t see you through their eyes they see you through your eyes”

[@chelseadavid4098]

I learnt 1. Less is more, keep sentences short 2. Be confident while speaking, as if you're an expert in the subject you are speaking 3. While speaking consider your listener to be 10 feet away and project your voice in that same way Thank you👍

[@Hello-Stoiko]

For someone who gets anxious talking to people, this was really helpful!

[@Rinoaeris]

I'm not used to people listening to me so when they do, I ruin it by getting nervous, stuttering/fumbling over my words and skipping over parts of the story

[@rico.rebenga]

1. Expand Your Vocabulary 0:40 2. Practice Improvising 1:42 3. Pause 2:53 4. Tone and Accentuation 3:32 5. Listen to Yourself 6:02 6. Portray Confidence & Self-Assurance 6:51 7. Use Variation 7:24 8. Understand Yourself 8:19

[@debnelson8127]

Video recording yourself provides some BRUTAL insights on how others see you and then you can practice and improve.

[@chrismaxx8528]

Thank you so much! I feel I’ve had problems articulating my thoughts and I’ve told my friends how I’ve been feeling. I’m definitely going to try these. Thank you so much for taking the time to help me and others.

[@DrGraceLee]

Awesome, Chris, and thank you for your comments. I'm sending you positive vibes!

[@pragooutube]

"People don't see you through THEIR eyes... they see you through YOUR eyes..." This is profound, it's why people disregard, disrespect and otherwise pick on me! I do it to myself, so inadvertently I was giving them the signal to do the same! 😩

[@tamijxo]

I have such an issue articulating my speech daily! My son is 14 and he is so good at articulating how he’s feeling and what he’s thinking. These are good pointers. Thank you.

[@KLB1218]

I feel you! I have such a hard time articulating. I think it’s a perfection thing. Rather just saying exactly how you’re feeling

[@AdaKhinTHorn]

Thanks for the excellent tips, Grace. Please expand on these two questions. 1."Remembering to pause" is a struggle when I'm already anxious about communicating to a group of people, large or small, to feel all those people looking at me. 2.How do I practice reducing self consciousness?

[@DrGraceLee]

Thanks for watching. For your first, if you're already anxious, don't worry too much about whether or not you're pausing. Instead get to the root of why you're anxious. Anxiety is the feeling that comes from doubt. When we doubt, we are believing in the outcomes we don't desire. Hence doubt is a belief. For your second question, focus on THEM. When we are self conscious, we are making it about us. Make it about them instead, remembering that you gave something important to say that will change them in a positive way. Then deliver your message with an intent to bring about the outcomes they want.

[@juliek.2400]

No. 1: read!!! Reading builds vocabulary, but more importantly (and often overseen by many), reading helps our brains to learn the logic in thinking. If you can think clearly and logically (in a way that other people understand and/or follows), your vocal cord usually follows without any resistance or doubt.

[@andrewizumi3676]

Improvising! I love this secret to being more articulate. This is something that I had to work on just like you did with auditioning for that musical. It was tough for me, but over many years of sales presentations or just pitching my friends where to go on the weekend get-away helped me get comfortable with thinking 'on the spot' Thank you for sharing.

[@TIGABE3B]

I"m from Indonesia, everyday I always watching your video dr Grace Lee. I get much knowledge from you. Thank"s a lot dr. Lee.

[@nitanui7302]

I liked this so much that i watched it twice. Im a stutterer and ive always avoided speaking throughout my teenage life and im 20 now. I really tried reading a book out loud and realized how awful i sound. Everything was messed up and stumbled over my words and didn't know how to bring my words out. But im glad i found you.. thank you.

[@DrGraceLee]

I'm so grateful that you appreciated my content. I hope that my words here and in my other videos continue to speak volumes to you, inspire you, and help you to get to where you want to be.

[@latinalopez2385]

I have anxiety. I consider myself an Ambivert, because I am shy and quiet around new ppl, and jolly and non-akward around those I know won't judge me. I started a new job, as an HR Generalist, and boy oh boy I am being pushed out of my comfort zone. Whenever I speak in public my hands become so cold that I tend to wear pants with pockets to keep them inside. Some days I arrive to work and my boss goes "hey btw, you are taking over today's meeting." I spent like 1/2 an hour in the bathroom throwing cold water on my face and practicing breathing exercises and then I turned to KZbin for some pointers such as "Pause" and "confident" which I learned from this video.. My point? I am thankful for these videos; we have to push ourselves. We can all be better. Have a blessed day everyone!

[@mrmartinez4188]

I totally agree that articulation is so essential. In my past I was a wedding disc jockey so I learn how to speak in the public. I also dove into Toastmasters to hone my skills as speaking. Now as a musician it helps me to captivate my audience by being able to communicate effectively. It’s quite funny when I meet people and they tell me how I communicate so well. I feel even though somebody does not speak in public it is essential to be able to speak properly. Not only shows your intelligence but adds to ones confidence. Thanks

[@kimtran6143]

I’m learning to be more articulate with my words, slow down when I speak, pause when necessary, and be more expressive. Most of my life, I’ve spoken in monotone unless I am interested in a certain topic. I feel awkward looking into people’s eyes because one of my eyes had started to become weaker, a bit lazy.

[@ilikechopin8112]

Great example on tone usage, demonstrated and explained , thank you! 👏👏👏👏 Tone samples changing the meaning in "I didn't say the website is outdated" (for me to go back in practicing): 4:26 - I 4:35 - say 4:48 - website 4:59 - outdated

[@yolandapadilla7820]

So much value on every point. Perfectly presented. Perfect example of “practice what you preach.”

[@RachelOaktree]

I find that my need to use filler words stems from how it seems that if I allow a moment of not speaking, the people or person I’m talking to will instantly interject and then I lose focus!

[@voldy3565]

I am terrible at being articulate. I am never able to explain, that is put into words what I'm thinking. In fact, I am even struggling to write this comment.

[@DrGraceLee]

Be careful when you say "I am terrible at....". Word are very powerful. Instead, figure out who you want to be and take consistent action to get there. Learn what you need to learn, work with a coach or mentor, empower your expectations.

[@skyeseas]

you are your harshest critic. the word never is powerful- I don’t know you but surely at LEAST sometimes you succeed in expressing yourself. I highly recommend Michael Sealey’s youtube channel. Dr. Grace, you’re a blessing!! first time here; new subscriber.

[@tonia7467]

@Voldy356, I think you did a good job here. You are better than you think 👍😊

[@blissofsolitude9392]

Oh same here even i face this fear.

[@rrn3263]

I understand ! I tend to find myself stumble when feeling insecure knowing the other person is more worldly, educated & I pick up on their facial expressions /body language. I thought about all this energy I put into thinking how foolish I sounded and of course the insecurity is painful. So, I find myself becoming more silent and listen rather than respond. It has improved my listening skills & improved my responses specifically to the subject matter.

[@peggybaggenstoss3817]

I enjoyed this video. In 2019 I went to Guatemala on a Medical Mission. After I returned a ladies club I was a member of ask me to share my experiences. With organized notes I messed up so bad and a friend that had gone on the same trip finished the presentation. I vowed then I was overcoming this drama. Since I have moved to an area where I am “unknown “ I’ve found I’ve become more comfortable speaking in public. Thanks for sharing this information.

[@zahavasantos902]

I am a confident speaker! I have social anxiety and get red, sweaty palms, ligh headed, my thick accent comes out (nothing wrong w an accent but I just don’t like how I don’t have control) when I speak in large groups. I hope to be able to express myself clear and confident one day :)

[@1rocknroy]

I recommend finding every opportunity you can to give talks in public. Practice makes perfect. Dale Carnegie has immortal suggestions for public speakers such as "earn the right to speak on your topic" and "know 30 times as much as you plan to say."

[@skyfall307]

What i learn 1. Expand your vocab 2. Use Variation of tonality 3. Use good body language 4. Understand yourself 5. Practice outside of your comfort zone

[@bblaam27]

My whole life I've had problems articulating my thoughts and feelings I've tried many things I'm so glad I came across this video I believe this is what I've been missing thank you so much I will try these things! 🤗

[@curiosity19]

"Being articulate means expressing your perspectives clearly. So it's not about expanding your vocabulary to words that are harder, but more to focus on words that express your emotions. So focus on descriptive words, especially words that help express how you feel." .... Yes =) Thank you =)

[@amorenita4768]

I'm the type of person who will re record the voicemails that I leave... over and over. It's got to be just right. 😌🤭

[@amorenita4768]

@Galaxia X maybe I will. Thanks. ☺️

[@shynessbreakthroughcommuni826]

I like the tip on improvising - that the purpose is NOT the exact words but simply to express the meaning

[@DrGraceLee]

You got it! :)

[@Shouzeegestof]

My biggest problem is a physical one: When it's my turn to speak in a meeting in front of a good number of people, my throat starts to choke up to the point where I feel I have to push my voice through my throat; I feel my heart pumping hard in my chest and my head starts to turn red prior to even uttering a word. The most annoying part is that the words I do manage to say out loud do make sense, I just can't present them right.

[@sarangnagbhidkar4956]

I feel same everytime

[@karinberryman2009]

‘Becoming more articulate’ or ‘Acquiring an incredible Comprehensive capacity’. Because in expanding one’s vocabulary one gets a great facility for grasping a hefty proportion of anyone’s conversation (unless it diverges into technical paths).

[@charlii9956]

I've always struggled to express myself and how I feel verbally. Communication and language is important for someone like me who's an artist and entrepreneur. I want to seek support within my industry and support from others and I feel how I articulate my words would help people understand exactly how I feel especially when I would be speaking at their level. I get so discouraged when I feel something and I practice saying it in my mind, and the second I rely on this feeling and express it, it always come out wrong. Which leaves me in a position where I'm always wrong, or I'm speaking something that no one can understand so they walk away, and I'm left unsatisfied, or unheard. 😢 I'm not as educated as everyone else, but my prior knowledge on certain topics are superb. But I guess, at my age, I still have yet to find the right crew, to thoroughly and confidently speak my mind, and getting that understanding in return. I look forward to growing and lifting my voice, and becoming more confident.

[@cheleche]

I loved this video. I once thought to be more articulate I should look into buying a vocabulary book or a dictionary. After watching this I realize that’s not the case. I found that recording myself while I speak made me more aware of my tone and fluctuations, and honestly the lack of confidence. I will definitely be working on my projection, expression when it comes to my tone, emphasis in words, and pauses instead of “um” and “like”. Thank you for the great video!

[@esthellaejimchukwu6664]

This is so valuable. I struggle a lot with articulating my thoughts. It's funny and annoying because I write pretty well. When i write, the words just flow. But when it comes to speaking, I mumble. I usually wonder if that's a thing; that a person can write very well but not eloquent in speech. Going through this comment section, I just discovered it's actually a thing. Thank you, Dr. I'll build on this secrets.

[@KLB1218]

I am the exact same way! I can write so well but it also depends on who I am speaking with too

[@QUEZQUEZQUEZ]

What I learned is to take deep breathes and time when speaking

[@shaunasea6072]

What has helped me the most is reading more often. When I read, I come across words that I know, but don't often use, but once they are in front of me again, I find myself using them in my speech. Mostly they are words that others know, but if not, it's an opportunity for them to learn.

[@bellefairydust]

I cringe at my own speaking voice sometimes 😖

[@hlumelomajali9103]

I was about to say this.

[@anamariacusguen7081]

Me too!!

[@worldofpersonalstorytelling]

It sounds different to you than it does to others! And we are way more critical of ourselves.

[@lisse16]

Ugh same here!

[@aveywilliams7761]

Read out loud, when your alone.

[@soxpuff]

As an english speaker, you explanation on tone, just taught me the importance of tone and accentuation, but also the challenge of an ESL speaker,

[@joltorongo8699]

Articulate : Able to fluently express your thoughts and ideas in a distinct, pronounced with clarity, organized and presented effectively in a well constructed, meaningful and coherent way so that people can understand exactly what you are trying to say . Or, as she puts it, its 'nothing more than accurate communication'.

[@DrGraceLee]

Well said! I appreciate you!

[@joltorongo8699]

@@DrGraceLee Thank you. Those are excellent tips. I enjoyed it very much. Its funny to think how much more there is really to it than simply utter a sentence.

[@TTub32]

Trying to become more articulate just by understanding what articulate is about, is like expecting to paint a masterpiece just because you know what masterpieces looks like.

[@chai_lattes]

8:31 that clip is wild I appreciate the information laid out in this video, but I really appreciate the more holistic feel and presentation of it. Anyone can be articulate. It's a skill that's within our power to change and improve upon. I'm going to look for ways to practice these tips with self-compassion and self-acceptance of the fact that I'm always learning and growing.

[@denisegesilva3082]

There is no quick solution to becoming articulate. You would have to read more, write more, speak more, and talk more with other people over a period of years. If you had parents who read to you every night and bought you lots of books, that's already a huge headstart.

[@datle2863]

Self-assurance and being an authority on the subject matter are what I'm focusing on. I'll master them

[@brendameadowswallaceAEIU]

Excellent, Thank You! It is an ongoing process. We should view this regularly.

[@hassanchop3622]

It's impressive how well you've learnt the finer details of English, especially being your second language. I feel so uneducated but I'm grateful you uploaded this.

[@djbioxic4023]

For me, when I'm talking, I try to find the right word, then I can't figure out the word to use, which makes me self-conscious and therefore worse off than I was prior.

[@Enceladus...]

It might be nerdy, but reading a thesaurus and writing down the words that intrigue you could possibly help.

[@Driveright698]

Same here.

[@djbioxic4023]

@@Enceladus... Reading more in general will help too. I don't read that much. I'm getting better though, trying to find books that interest me and that aren't textbooks (I like reading books that teach me something). The issue with textbooks is it's not really "enjoyable" compared to reading a casual book.

[@buyimncube2588]

Me too I too suffer from that I forget the words I want to use

[@forceforgood4669]

Very helpful tips. I appreciate that you waste no time in getting straight to the subject matter. Thank you.

[@shardescott6406]

This was very insightful. Thank you for presenting this information in a practical manner. 😊

[@onerider808]

Perhaps more helpful than expressing emotions would be the ability to express coherent thoughts and ideas.

[@nickkirkpatrick8809]

People don't see you through their eyes, but yours... Powerful.

[@stevelane9869]

Definitely don't say "um" or fish around verbally for the right word. Don't start saying something and back track and start over.

[@CecePiwo]

Great tips! Especially love the quote - "people don't see you through their eyes, people see you through your eyes"

[@AnnShiArt]

I felt like I took a tour of her neighborhood.

[@nene.portier4034]

😂

[@DeGoya]

@@nene.portier4034 Looks like Vancouver

[@007lluvia]

😂

[@lifewitholga_]

😂

[@jennifermichener4273]

That sentence "I didn't say ur website was outdated" was really an eye opener. I showed my 11 yr old daughter that trick, so she could learn something about tlkng to ppl.

[@DrGraceLee]

Oh! What was her reaction?

[@joyanderson8646]

I used the Word Power/Smart books!!! Its simple to use works🤗🤗🤗

[@jannetteperson8534]

I noticed I feel more comfortable reading in front of an audience rather than speaking off the cuff. I'm a person of few words and can find it hard to explain myself. However, I find it easier for me to write Thank than speak it's like the words get stick in my head when I'm trying to articulate to some one, but I can write it... Go figure. Thank you for saying we don't have to learn hard words, just descriptive ones, this is going to help me a lot.

[@mosarkar2097]

You have just described me.

[@imjusthereok1722]

I feel like I sound more clearer and articulate when I think in my head. However whenever I record myself speaking-personally I believe I sound weird. I don’t know why the voice in my head verses the one I speak out loud with sound so different to me.

[@kebutoma1726]

Same with me

[@DrGraceLee]

That's normal; the way we hear our own voices is always going to be different from the way others hear it and the way it sounds when it's recorded. It's perspective; the voice is coming from the same head as the ears. If you study the way sound travels, it makes sense that your own voice sounds different to you. :)

[@coppersense999]

6:11 "Chances are if you feel a certain way about yourself then other people feel the same way too." I love the locus of control which is internal and self defined!

[@DrGraceLee]

Having a definite internal locus of control is where it's at for building confidence through certainty

[@Fulltang65]

I work in construction and there are some guys who use the F word about every fifth word as they’re talking, I don’t think they realize how bad they sound

[@nene.portier4034]

Very bad habit. 😂 This is a sign of no growth

[@MissKizzy75]

It is my goal to become the kind of person who isn't talked over, especially now that I am in management. These tips help.

[@andrewyang1993]

This was amazing. I always had trouble figuring out how to articulate properly where people feel engaged in what I say, and I think these tips may be the solutions to most of the problems I have. Subscribed to you Dr. Grace Lee, I am excited to see more of your content! Thank you and cheers!

[@strayclown1880]

key points (with time stamps) 1. expand your vocabulary 2. practice improvising 3. put pauses in between (normalize pauses and fillers rather than feeling awkward) 4. work on your tone and accentuation 5. Listen to yourself (record yourself, or allow people to provide you with an honest review) 6. Confidence and self-assurance (give an impression that you are confident, and you believe in what you are saying) 7. Use variation in the types of sentences 8. understand yourself (find out why you lack articulation) - being 'articulate' means being able to express yourself and talk fluently and coherently - Rather than going for complex vocabulary, that is probably not used in your everyday language, go for descriptive vocab. - Time stamps: 1. 0:37 2. 1:39 3. 2:51 4. 3:28 5. 5:59 6. 6:49 7. 7:22 8. 8:14

[@WallaceLivingFree]

I have always had trouble conveying an idea ot thought, l now realise l did not plan what l was trying to communicate.

[@DrGraceLee]

That's a great distinction!

[@supermichaelssecondchannel4342]

I have learned that being able to articulate oneself clearly and concisely is basically a power move. I could be wrong though.

[@peterharris6223]

tone is amazing