How to Be More DISCIPLINED and Master Self-Control

Achieving your goals takes more than just motivation. Ever wake up feeling like you just can't push forward? That's where discipline and self-control steps in. In this video, I discuss the most effective way to build discipline and master self-control
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Timestamps
00:00 Intro
00:55 Top areas people struggle with self-control
01:43 Why you struggle with self-control
06:30 What is self-control?
08:11 Galatians 5:17-25
11:51 How do I build self-control?
16:56 James 2:17
17:11 Recap

[@kyliajackson]

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[@fabiolacontreras5064]

I heard a pastor say once “Some of you are asking for deliverance, but what you need is discipline” I felt that 🔥

[@kyliajackson]

Of course! If you are still dealing with discouragement then meditation would be very helpful for you. Meditating on God's word strengthens your mind so that when the enemy brings those thoughts of discouragement, your mind is strong enough to fight them. You confront the enemy's lies with God's truth.

[@ThisAndThat4All]

Just wanna let you know that God is using you to speak to me! Thank you so much for letting God use you!! May He bless you in every area of your life and make your channel blow up!! ❤❤

[@kyliajackson]

So grateful to hear that! Thank you so much for your kind words!

[@agapejones-n1713]

Man you were all in my business. This was so powerful. Thanks for this video😊

[@nyesigaprecious-np8gc]

​@@kyliajackson thank you so much . God is really using you to speak to me too in this season. Blessings 🙏🙏

[@BreshawnGolding]

He is speaking to me through you and I thank you. God bless you!

[@kyliajackson]

So grateful to hear that! God bless!

[@preciouslee5181]

I believe heavily in coincidences…I prayed that more influential women to enter my life to help encourage me to stay aligned with purpose and continue strengthening my relationship with God and your video came across my screen this morning!

[@kyliajackson]

Im so glad!

[@DaughterOfTheKingdom16]

Yes my flesh and spirit have been fighting a lot recently. Heavy in my word and meditating on it because I don’t want to return to my carnal ways

[@Matthew-307]

Yesterday I searched “how to develop self control” and added about 10 videos to my watch later, when I saw this one I almost didn’t add it, but I’m so thankful that I did. You gave a lot of wisdom on this subject, sister, thank you and thank the Lord Jesus for guiding my way to your video. God bless. ✝️

[@kyliajackson]

Of course!

[@melaninandaura9713]

I have to share this testimony from when I was like 7/8 years old. I used to suck my thumb. My mom and grandma hated it and would tell my teacher to make me stop if she caught it. No matter what they did they couldn’t get me to stop. And I wanted to stop! I remember my mom told me I should pray for help to stop sucking my thumb. So one night I did. Then right after my prayer I put my thumb in my mouth and curled up to go to sleep. My mom said “you just asked God to help you stop sucking you thumb but you’re gonna have to put in the work to help Yourself stop. You didn’t ask God to MAKE you stop.” Well my childlike mind took that to mean that I should change my prayer to “Jehovah please MAKE me stop sucking my thumb”. From that moment to this one I haven’t had so much as the desire to suck any finger. I will always remember that. God was so kind to little old silly me and He took that desire with me having done very little work for it. lol. Now as an adult I know He CAN MAKE us do these things toe stop doing things but these large life altering areas does NEED our work to improve but I just will never forget what He did for baby me. ❤

[@kyliajackson]

Amen!

[@user-tq3ux8pe5z]

I keep failing over & over 😢 again I keep trying though.

[@_.pixiesworld._0o]

if you keep trying then you are not failing congratulations to you🎉… some people never get back up

[@Toknowmeistoloveme]

Wowww I have been getting signs to fast for 3 days and literally videos were popping up on my KZbin feed and here it is 7 days into the month and I still haven’t because I made all of these excuses in my mind as to why. I have been extremely depressed, stressed and worrying bc I am a single mother of 4 and don’t have any help. I know that when I become obedient and listen to God I will get out of this depression. This video was just confirmation for me to just begin.

[@kyliajackson]

Im so glad it was helpful!

[@karimahsmallwood8413]

Hi dear. From a single mom to another, I wanted to send a prayer your way. I pray for your discipline. I pray that you are able to fight through and understand that God will take you in your depression. It is his strength that helps you. I also pray that you are blessed with support and a village. It is not easy. But God is a father to the fatherless and puts the lonely in families. Stay close to God. Keep watching Kylia. She’s very blessed with great messages to help you. Keep praying. Even if you say God please help me! I don’t feel I can do this. I was in deep depression raising an autistic toddler on my own, a thousand miles from my family. God turned that all around. But it took me calling out to him right in that weakness. I couldn’t possibly dig myself out. I was tired. Feeling like giving up. Trust God. Nothing is too hard for him. He loves you and sees you. He cares for his kids, your kids. Just trust that he cares and knows best for you ❤

[@Toknowmeistoloveme]

@@karimahsmallwood8413 my 4 year old is the baby of all 4 of my children and he was just diagnosed with autism in August 2023. I thank you for your kind words.

[@karimahsmallwood8413]

@@Toknowmeistoloveme Please be gracious with yourself. It’s a road of self-discovery and learning. Don’t do it alone. There are so many services. If you have any questions, please don’t hesitate to ask. I joined some groups on FB and Reddit that are very helpful for not feeling alone and getting answers. I hope the best for you and your kids.

[@michaelespinoza7526]

Miss kylia jackson, looks amazing in this video , her lips 👄 are glistening & beautiful

[@asmahiba9874]

I'm a muslim but since We believe in Jesus this video was so helpfull (I need to do researches about what Islam says of the holy spirit and I guess that video is a sign to do so😅 warever I'm reading coran and Jesus is mentioned along with the holy spirit I'm like note to myself Search aboutthe holy spirit) also you saying that we ask God to Stop being lazy but we work from bed in literaly me😢Ipray god day and night to give me more energy and stop laziness than go work in mybed😅I'll be working on that this week. thankyou.

[@MatiesHoneycutt]

I think us as Muslims and Christian’s need to be able to get along more like this and learn from each other. I love this comment

[@annabambamjerky]

Well she reeeead me 😂 God bless you. I had the worst binge last night and cried to God cause I didn’t listen to Him. He sent me like 20 videos about the spirit of gluttony and I kept ignoring each one. Today I made a meal plan and sticking to it to avoid under or overeating

[@noellesartmynd]

Praying for patience usually ends up with situations that require patience. That's where the frustration comes from.

[@kyliajackson]

True but we’re going to experience those moments regardless of whether we pray for them or not but when we pray we become sensitive and better equipped to respond well.

[@isntlifebetter]

Galatians 5:24 spoke to me so much that I had to stop the video. I realized that Jesus literally showed us how to kill our flesh daily. He showed us the violence we have to inflict on the flesh in order to ascend and walk by the spirit. He showed us it wont be easy but it will be worth it. This really blessed me. Thank u 🙏🏽

[@kyliajackson]

I’m so glad it was helpful!

[@akintoyewunmi3983]

Thank you for sharing. You are totally right. At times we are not ready for the change despite asking God to help us. I have experienced it firsthand. Change is never an easy process. This came at the right time. God bless you sister.

[@kyliajackson]

Im so glad!

[@Lex.madeit]

When I tell you God moves 🙏🏽 I got on here to find a video to stop procrastinating and as I'm wiping my screen off I clicked on this video. The fact you posted today and me and God just had that talk just let's me know I need to put that fire under my feet. I truly enjoy how you not only broke things down but had the scriptures for us too. God is definitely using you as a light 💐

[@kyliajackson]

Amen! I love when God brings confirmation like this!

[@khayahyisrael9294]

The transparency is EVERYTHING!!! IM GLUTNESS wanting to do everything 😩 at once

[@kyliajackson]

Im so glad it was helpful!

[@eboneewebster1483]

I definitely needed to see this I’ve been flirting with and kissing someone who is Muslim & I know I have to stray away from going further in that relationship since our beliefs don’t align however I end up giving in at times especially with our conversations this is confirmation that I should not continue to entertain it

[@Zelmesha]

I needed this! Today is day getting back into disciplining myself! I lack self control in the things I truly want to achieve. Im praying on this and just going to do it no matter how I feel!!

[@kyliajackson]

Amen! I love this!

[@odunayoAdewusi697]

Yes sister GOD is helping me with self control over food too...my own is to be REALLY flexible with the Holy Spirit and I pray I receive the grace and enablement in the mighty name of JESUS!

[@kyliajackson]

Amen!

[@alwayskrazy]

This is so timely!! I was just thinking how I need to grow in the fruits of the Spirit and how I have an issue with gluttony. I will eat something and immediately want to eat something else. Crazy. But since I work out daily I think it’s not a big deal but it’s a problem. What a confirmation!

[@kyliajackson]

Amen! Glad it was on time for you.That's such a good point!

[@BurningDesire_letsgo]

Amen sista, we go through spiritual warfare daily between good and evil, what you feed the most will be your reality.

[@kyliajackson]

Amen!

[@dezzy8575]

Whew! God is speaking to me through you! I have struggled with a sugar addiction, just finished a fast and I’m so eager to be delivered from this addiction. I have not indulged in any sweets since my fast but I am scared of the temptation and falling back into this addiction. I have also prayed for self control and discipline in my life and your video gave me the answer to why I don’t have e these fruits yet and it’s b/c I do override the voice of the Holy Spirit and I need to spend way more time with God and meditate on his word. Thank you for this video.

[@kyliajackson]

Im so glad it was helpful!

[@paigemoore5693]

Thank you so much. God has used you to bless my spirit! I’ve been wanting to change so much and God is just confirming that I must submit to Him and know I can’t do it out of my own power, but I need His Holy Spirit! This message is wonderful! Keep being an amazing light! ❤

[@kyliajackson]

You are so welcome! I totally understand that desire to change and may God grace you to be gentle with yourself in the process. One day at a time 🤍

[@NigerianGoddess21]

The Lord brought me to you. I looked up Self-Discipline and you was the second one that came up. I ended up listening not know what to expect and then you started talking about The Trinity! So thank you! You have a new subscriber! ❤😊

[@kyliajackson]

I’m so glad this was helpful!💙

I thank the Lord for leading me here. your a blessing from above , im so blessed to know this channel, its helping me to grow with my walk with God, Amen.

[@MsLOBunnie]

I was literally going to add this to my endless save to watch later list but I couldn’t scroll and I heard exactly what I’ve been hearing from spirit. I’ve been living out my prayers with attitude and unnecessary attachments bc I didn’t prepare for them with mindfulness. Thank you for this reminder that cultivation requires uprooting stagnation

[@kyliajackson]

Of course!

[@florakhoza7447]

You are good my sister.....and simply these principle ❤❤❤❤❤

[@kyliajackson]

Thanks so much!

[@marie-mysakiaissi2711]

I can see that God has placed you here to give me wisdom❤

[@kyliajackson]

So glad it was helpful! All glory to God!

[@beyo.e]

What a message in season!!!!!!! Thank you so much for this video ❤ Prioritize intimacy with God Talk to God Listen for his voice Be obedient to his promotings Set boundaries Preventative measures for your temptations.

[@kyliajackson]

Amen!

[@Godsf4vorite]

This video came right on time. I’ve been struggling with just getting things done. I was waiting for it to be convenient. I know now sometimes it will never be convenient but it must be done. Thank you!

[@kyliajackson]

Amen! My pleasure!

[@claudialuis9173]

Thank you I have been getting signs about getting closer with God and discipline has been heavy lately thanks to this video I now know it's the relationship that will help me in all other areas

[@rashaunking2674]

I was struggling with this very thing for such a long time. I’m so glad I watched this video. 🙏🏾❤️

[@jociahsonranch]

My dear, may God continue to Bless your voice, very refreshing for such a generation we live in.

[@kyliajackson]

Thank you so much 🤍

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[@kyliajackson]

My pleasure! Thank you so much for watching!

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I really needed this!!! Thank you so much for sharing ❤️

[@kyliajackson]

Of course!

[@judithneal]

Amen. Thank you ❤

[@kyliajackson]

Of course!

[@LifewithJae_]

This blessed me sooo much!!!!! Thank you!!!

[@kyliajackson]

Im so glad!

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I needed this!

[@sharoneniola9304]

Thank you so much for making this video, I needed this word🙌🏽💕

[@kyliajackson]

My pleasure!

[@Whatyassaid]

There’s no coincidence that I saw this. Definitely needed this reminder!! Thank you for sharing.💗💗💗

[@kyliajackson]

Of course!

[@MadisonPettway_]

Whew. Needed this.

[@FavorsVoice]

You are so necessary in this season. Thank you

[@kyliajackson]

My pleasure! So glad it was helpful!

[@toriw6634]

So timely for sure!! I’m thankful the discernment you have learned

[@kyliajackson]

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[@kyliajackson]

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She got me all the way together. This was an on time word! Thank you.

[@kyliajackson]

Of course!

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Thank you❤

[@kyliajackson]

My pleasure!

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Hey sis, I'm from Brazil! I've been blessed a lot in all areas besides practising my listening skill with you❤. Thanks a lot, girl

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Thank you sis! This message was so timely! God bless you for your obedience. 🎉🎉🎉

[@kyliajackson]

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[@kyliajackson]

You're so welcome!

[@salishamkassie2513]

What a very timely message. Thanks for this!

[@kyliajackson]

Of course!

[@FaithfullNess]

Self-control is difficult because you don’t have to do it. You have to get up and go to work, but don’t have to stop stuffing your face of something yummy that gives you that quick rush of dopamine. But it is a fruit of the Spirit. I want self-control until I’m given the opportunity to practice it, then that desire flies out the window. I recognize we fight not again flesh and blood tho. Training my flesh is necessary.

[@kyliajackson]

So true! Thankfully the Lord is so patient with us in this process

[@Abbas_Daughters]

This is such a beautiful video and Thank you soo much Kylia for your wisdom 💕

[@kyliajackson]

Im so glad it was helpful!

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[@kyliajackson]

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Ok pastor ❤ thanks I needed this.

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Whew, God is using you to speak to me! I’m currently on a 30 days challenge on something. So this was great to hear, also may God bless you and make your channel grow more. I just want to say even when you get 10k or 5k views just touching 5k people with your motivation through the spirit of God is more than a million!

[@kyliajackson]

So glad it was helpful! Thank you for your kind words and support!

[@Dom0070]

Thank you for sharing this! It blessed me. May God continue to bless you!

[@kyliajackson]

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Thank you.

[@kyliajackson]

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[@kyliajackson]

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God bless you girl❤

[@BrittanyInforms]

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[@kyliajackson]

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Simply thank you.

[@kyliajackson]

Of course!

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I would say this would be a coincidence but it’s the Lord. man does this video really relate to what I’m struggling with rn and that’s obedience! I thank you so much for your videos! You change my whole mindset around and give me that “ohhhh” moment .. bless your heart ♥️

[@kyliajackson]

Im so glad!

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This came right on time. Thank you so much ❤ God Bless.

[@kyliajackson]

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[@kyliajackson]

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[@kyliajackson]

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[@kyliajackson]

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