How to Be More Feminine | Character Traits & Growth

[@oceancitynutrition2125]

“Even for my non-believers, I love you” How beautiful you are what a testament to your character and faith

[@DianaKatyrina]

Sarah Klaverweiden Agreed, I love that she says this; it reflects very well on the Christian faith, which is about spreading love, not judgement! And it creates such a positive and embracing environment here on the Mrs Midwest channel :)

[@meganandrea7598]

I am drawn to Christianity to learn more, and was wondering if anybody has online reccomendations for Christian communities?

[@cassandra9724]

@@meganandrea7598 Tiffany Down and Milena Ciciotti have great channels about Christianity and more.

[@rachel691]

@@meganandrea7598 the Christkirk app by New Saint Andrew's is really awesome. They have a bible reading plan!

[@deangelolangston199]

i know I'm kind of off topic but does anyone know a good place to stream new series online ?

[@Goat.Cheese]

As a woman who naturally leans more masculine, i'm loving these videos! ❤ i'm curious to try and develop my femininity and see how my life changes

[@ViolettaVie]

I'm curious. How do you lean more masculine? I think I do too in some ways.

[@ashleyszymanek5989]

I'm a little like that. I dress very feminine but people tell me I think like a dude because I'm more cold and unemotional sometimes

[@Goat.Cheese]

@@ViolettaVie I look pretty feminine but I've always been told I have more "masculine personality traits" and I have since I was a kid. I've always been more assertive, initiate things, little patience, I wanted to run around and roundhouse with boys rather than play inside with dolls and stuff. I feel way more comfortable taking charge of situations than following someone else's lead

[@nachogirlbrey5878]

Yeah me too :)

[@anusha3598]

Taking the lead is hot though

[@metoonunyabidness1391]

I am a 39-year-old stay at home father to a five-year-old little girl I found this channel because I recognize how profoundly confused our culture is becoming. I am hoping to learn how to instill a proper culture of femininity for my daughter. I respect her autonomy, and I accept that she may become anyone she chooses, but I feel it is my duty to provide a framework for her to grow into. I am genuinely searching for the right way to raise a little girl And I am open to any suggestions

[@way2girly]

Metoo Nunyabidness this is the right channel :) I hope you can find a wife that is a good example for your daughter.

[@metoonunyabidness1391]

Thank you I have been married for 13 years this June But as a consequence of the decisions we’ve made over the years, she is on a career track And unless I want someone else to raise my child for me, I will have to be her primary care

[@way2girly]

Metoo Nunyabidness oh I see. Well I do hope you guys figure out the right plan for your family and it’s great that you are choosing to raise your child over giving them to a stranger for 10 hours a day. I’ve seen the consequences of that. You’ll do a great job! Have you shared these videos with your wife?

[@Sophie-xh7ml]

Hi, the fact that you are thinking about is a wonderful sign. For now, I would find a women in your life or community that loves her a lot and that your daughter naturally gravitates towards (don’t force her) and ask the women to invite her for tea or shopping or a bike ride. Keep this women in her life well into puberty. Expect that she is getting most of her pubescent questions answered by this women (and make this women promise she will keep everything your daughter says loyal and secret unless it is life threatening). Read the book Woman Code by Alisa Vitti now. When she is nine, get her a copy and put it on her bookshelf. Never push her into sports or STEM things she clearly doesn’t like. Encourage female friendships and sleepovers and convos with older women who can become aunties. Take her to dance theater and concerts and cultural things on the feminine side.

[@metoonunyabidness1391]

way2girly Thank you much, I’m doing the best that I can. I haven’t shared this yet I’ve only just found them recently I want to make sure that I have a cogent idea to share before I bombard her with suggestions

[@LivingfreewithSophie]

I used to be very controlling, dominating and impatient with other people. I wanted things to be my way. Know I've let go of controlling other people, and it feels much better for me and them - more loving, accepting and spacious. You can change your character

[@naturalbodyandskincare9965]

Living Free with Sophie Please understand that being dominant and controlling is not a masculine trait. As long as you do so femininely. To be a mother, you have to be assertive and controlling - but you do so in a firm but feminine way. Feminine assertiveness can actually be more effective than masculine assertiveness - as it is softer (rather than being blunt force like masculine assertiveness) and is also more hypnotic :))

[@LivingfreewithSophie]

@@naturalbodyandskincare9965 the way I was before was not femininine, but masculine (and not even the good kind of masculine)🙈 I know women can be both firm and assertive in a soft and feminine way 😉 It's very powerful. Soft and unwavering

[@hummingbird4335]

Please could you share the actual process of how you transformed your character. This is something I would love to do in my own life. What practical steps helped you to rid yourself of impatience, and being controlling

[@LivingfreewithSophie]

@@hummingbird4335 I will definitely make a video about it :) Hmm, what indid was, that I first became aware of it, and then I started to practice catching my self when I was doing it (when I realized how I had actually behaved, I also feel remorseful). I got better and better at catching my self before I didn something controlling, so I could stop the action. Because, I actually don't like to be controlling and it came a bit from insecurity and lack of trust in everything/the universe. I started to understand how my controlling behavior felt to other people, which motivated me even more to change. I would remind my self that x-small detail wasn't worth criticizing other people for (eg. Let's walk faster, cut the onion this way, I think we should play my party game, etc) - criticizing other people this way had more of a negative effect than the "positive effect" of my behavior. Being more sympathetic helped me to change. Practically, If I was you, I would maybe start to practice these behaviors more in different areas of my lift - focus on one areas forst and then expand to a new one. Think of how you would act if you already had the characteristics you want to have -how would that version of yourself react. 💗 I hope this is helpful

[@ligiamonteiro0]

This is also my path, I hope to improve more and more on that road.

[@denisen.893]

Thank you for you authenticity. I also struggle with laziness, being undiciplined and also chaotic. My mind is always all over the place.

[@way2girly]

You’re like a big sister. And God’s light is shining so bright through you. Thank you for uploading these videos!

[@Meggs93_]

This is an important message. God has been working on my character. It’s a long process but I’m slowly seeing progress. Nice video 💜

[@oldsoul2116]

I so wish to have an older friend like you! When I mean older, I literally mean older since I’m a senior in high school, but really girl, you‘re such a good role model!

[@thetaraparker]

I felt happy when she was honest that she didn’t do her best or had fear and felt lazy…but she practiced and learned new skills. That helps me have hope I can grow and change too.

[@SimplyBeautiful516]

I have ignored so many of my dysfunctional character traits from either laziness or blindness. You present your message in such a kind and joyful light that I’m drawn to changing my ways like never before. Please continue to speak the truth in love. There are many of us listening, and our hearts and lives are changing. I long for the day that my life is sooo changed, that my grown daughter asks me what is making this difference. I truly believe God has directed me here because I am finally ready to hear the truth.

[@caitlinhoffmann-herbert8569]

Also even though I am a believer to, Thankyou so much for making a special shout out to the non believers. It shows how open minded you are and that your warmth and positivity will shine through to everyone

[@americahernandez8240]

You’re literally a real life Barbie (I mean it as a compliment!) you’re so pretty and sweet. Pray for me, I would like to be more feminine :)

[@DianaDiana-in2be]

I can’t believe I watched all your videos, I was like “what ? I watched them all, there isn’t anymore to watch!? “ and then you uploaded 😊❣️

[@JalieceKeturah]

A while ago I asked God to make me the woman he wants me to be. Over the last two years God has exposed me to my flaws and how to fix them. He has also exposed me to femininity videos which I beinge watch everyday! I EXPECIALLY Love watching women like you so thank you!

[@tarawallace9352]

Please make a podcast! I just found your channel and it is exactly what I need as I started my own journey to discovering who I want to be and not what society wants me to be

[@viciousscorpio22]

You’re such a beautiful light💕

[@thymeandtenderness]

I just feel so uplifted after your videos. I w been binging them and have them on in the house like a podcast! Haha

[@ashleyjadeharrell3982]

I related to this video 100%. Every aspect. And to be honest, I found your videos after almost losing my relationship with the biggest blessing God as ever given me. My boyfriend helped me grow and learn from my weaknesses and mistakes and become the loving Godly woman I know I was created to be ❤️ so thank you. Please keep making these.

[@katherinewinkler8847]

I discovered you a few days ago .... watched all your videos and and told my sisters , my mom and my teenage niece about them ! I feel like such a better person in the past few days ! I’m actively trying to improve and be better .... No one has ever explained it like you have ... How it’s important to change and develop and recognize our flaws .... Not to beat our self up ... But to improve! And become who God intended you to be ! I respond to that so much more then “ I’m good enough “ causing me to be stagnant ! Just sense listening to you I’m more productive in my home ! I’m getting up early and working out and getting my stuff done ! I’ve started a book club and have been teaching myself to crochet ! I can’t get over my desire to do these things just from listening to you! Thankyou so much ! I look forward to each day now !

[@way2girly]

katherine Evans this is awesome!

[@nikkibeck4998]

Thank you for this video it's so refreshing to hear a put together woman admitting they had to work to get it together!

[@caroljane8378]

So happy I found this channel, I manifested this in my life because I truly want to build my soft skills

[@a.s.m.3246]

Manifested ?!

[@lexk5882]

Could you make a video about practical tips to help with being less lazy and improving self discipline

[@meredithellen620]

Oh yes Please

[@daniellawinse5773]

i've been stalking/watching this channel for... I want to say about 6 months now. I'm a femme lesbian, and this is really helpful in allowing me to connect to my femininity! So I just wanted to say thank you so much for being nothing but kind and helpful~!

[@ANA-of7wv]

Please make a make up tutorial video and about your style💕

[@sererainbow8143]

💙 A good character is EVERYTHING we are to be in this life and will give us ALL the blessings of life 💙

[@steelcuttersllc9086]

I recently subscribed to your channel because your delivery grabbed me. My problem is I have a strong feeling that I can not shake. I need to provide, protect, teach etc. So I am taking a brake from all relationships period I am not attracted to women that don't need men or care for them. God and my purpose come first. I am strongly drawn to feminine women like I feel a drive unlike any other and inside I respect masculine women but my inner being repell it. Thanks for your talks

[@justrenee2640]

I am a complete atheist and that will be hard to change( I grew up a christian until my teens) however I loooove your channel, as a libra cultivating my femininity is one of the major keys to my holism goals, thank you! this channel is like femininity charm school

[@2525Anu]

I pray you inspire more women towards reclaiming their femininity. Thank you

[@rosinalopez5829]

Omg!!!! I love you, you have save me I have been stuck in my own head trying to get out but just kept feeling ugly your femininity videos have saved me thank you soooo much for talking about things that help us feel amazing inside!!! I wish I had found your page sooner!!!!!

[@ResemeeC]

Hi, I just wanted to say that your video on modesty was so helpful! In the past I’ve watched one or two and shunned the idea because they were actually quite damaging but you really put the idea of modesty as something elegant and mysterious, rather than a rule that imprisons a girl, into my mind! I love the idea of modesty in context and the idea that made it special was that the only people who have ‘earned’ the right to see my body are myself and my future husband because he’ll have committed to me for the rest of our lives. I think the word ‘earned’ was really important because no one has the right to see my body but a husbands commitment would make me want to allow him to see it (if that makes sense). Anyway, thank you for your videos xx

[@ANNETTE.N]

Beautiful video! Can you talk about how to be the Proverbs 31 woman in 21st century? Thank you! ❤️

[@meredithellen620]

Oh yes please! I would watch that So Fast and probably multiple times 😂

[@sadieblack9972]

I just found your channel today and I have been binge watching, I think you are my new favorite youtuber!

[@pepagv8690]

I binge watched all of your videos this monday and was waiting on this one! You look absolutely lovely :)

[@bratybaby5337]

Can you do time management for college students ! And being more feminine even though we don’t have a lot of time on our hands

[@pepagv8690]

Yes please!!!

[@LadyPinkster]

I know that this is old but try to say positive affirmations yourself. Whenever and where ever you can. This is just one tip I can offer you.

[@lifewitholga_]

@Braty Baby I like your profile pic you're really pretty. Many blessings sis!

[@hummingbird4335]

You're probably done (or almost done) with college right now as your comment is from 2 years ago. My honest advice to college girls is to focus on school (grades) and work experience. It's such a short time in college to be worried about too many things. If your jeans and tshirt are neat and ironed and you strive to be kind and polite in your interactions, that's more than enough for now. It's so easy to get carried away with what to wear, the latest makeup and beauty products, the men interested in you (or not), college parties and gossips...and time just rushes by. So always have your studies and relevant work experience (like internships, volunteering, etc) be your priority.

[@reya_skye]

16k yayyyy👏🏻😍 so many people joining

[@FathimaMuhsina]

This is such an important message. Thank you for speaking and helping us grow!

[@victoriafoxx1665]

Your videos are such a delight!💛 I would love to see videos on homemaking and vlogs!

[@putusita9052]

I was suggested on my feed randomly and got hooked easily for I had been longing for contents as you have here. I am totally blessed and happy to find you. This is the third video I watched and I definitely will catch up with ones I miss. Please keep feeding us with your wonderful and beautiful mind. You are one of a kind. :)

[@katerider8217]

Thank you Katelyn! Your channel has been life-changing. I forgot that I could grow as a feminine Christian woman (my name is Katelyn too)

[@ayoaremu9355]

You are so beautiful, your feminine energy simply radiates! Thank you. I've been doing a lot of work in the past year and hope to embody the true feminine energy.

[@katiestevenson8920]

Lovely advice and spot on. I think you and your listeners would love the Daily Connoisseur channel by author Jennifer L. Scott. 💐

[@leahdegruchy2338]

I am so grateful you spoke about this topic today. I love your videos and I follow you on Instagram as well, but sometimes when I watch I think - "well gosh I'm never going to be able to be as clean and neat as that!" So to hear you say that you have the same weakness of laziness and not trying because of the fear of failure is so wonderful because, like you said, it means there's hope! You weren't always like this. You worked on yourself and developed good habits, which means I can do the same. Love it :)

[@preranab3627]

I was looking for a channel which could support the growth of my natural feminine qaulities. Happy to have found the right place. Thanks nd love to you ❤️

[@yelyc]

Yess to the live video! I probably look like such a stalker at this point, keeping up with everything 😂😅 much love and blessing girlie 💕

[@rebecaelizondo9880]

Wow! I really like your videos I’m so tired of make up, fashion and other superfluous topics. Thanks for share and for stand in the christian’s values!

[@caitlinhoffmann-herbert8569]

You are so wise so young. I don’t understand it. God has truly blessed you and blessed us for you sharing it with us 💓

[@kristinmorrison1591]

I found your channel just a few days ago and I’m so thankful I did! Thank you for being a positive role model and speaking life into this young 20 year old. You are such a light for Jesus so keep shining 🌟

[@christinat1402]

i’m 16 and just found your channel but it’s awesome!! i love learning about these kinds of things :)

[@emilymurphy1888]

Thank you 🙏🏻 this was really uplifting and helpful, when I was having a sad day.

[@nonickels9449]

You can always improve yourself. Character is valuable. You’ve done an outstanding job of seeking continuous growth. I ask you to explore the power of the heart more. I cringed a bit when you said the heart is fickle and you can’t control it. It cannot be controlled consciously, your heart emanates your BEING, your STATE, it is who you are based on the structure you have established. It has been scientifically proven to be 100 times more powerful than the brain and emits wavelengths which actually tell your brain to perform a function to prepare for external stimulus. That is why your heart pumps quicker when in danger or fear, it recognizes energies that threaten your existence. It is very interesting to study and only multiplies your endeavors to develop character. Peace and light! My wife subscribed to you on my account and now I watch while commuting!

[@anitaswider5587]

Hi Cait! I just want to say that I'm so happy that I found your channel and I resonate with your content and your beliefs so much! I'm 23 and you inspired me to start cultivating more feminine aspects into my life! You are a big inspiration and I can't wait to see more of your content! xoxo

[@kellimcgovern5154]

Yes a live video!!! Great idea

[@Eloquentlyjay]

I love this I just went on a super simple clothing spree to get some dresses because all I have are pants. I used to be a major tomboy but now I’m starting to paint my nails more & wear earrings. I just want to be a little more feminine as a young lady but do it modestly 😌♥️.

[@majdoulinemagdalena8319]

I love You! Im learning a lot and changing my perspective on being a traditional woman. Im originally from Morocco and moroccan women are usually traditional. But Ive always been on the contrary side. Now I can understand the traditional perspective better. So thank you beauty!!

[@AlexandraNMorgan]

I think it's very cool that you are out there giving a counter-culture perspective so others can know there are other traditional old fashioned women out there. I found you because Iwas looking for just this type of content and I'll be 40 in a few months so it's wonderful to see women of all generations with this mindset. You might like Dr. Steve Turley's KZbin channel. He covers news & current events from a Christian and positive perspective. He's a teacher & a believer in classical education.

[@MegJ326]

You have such a nice voice and I love your earrings! Of all the topics you've covered I tend to focus the most on character development. I think once our values and mental fortitude are set in place that it becomes the platform to base our life around. I love that you brought up laziness because that's a big one of mine as well. Being too complacent and accepting what I have. I get the sense it's a "when you know you know" kind of thing but I still have difficulty distinguishing when I should be more assertive and go after things, vs should I just be grateful for what I have already. I'm in a pretty good place in my life.... for a career kind of girl. Fortunately I've been focusing on character for the last few years and I'm now realizing my true priorities. At 25 I feel just a little behind but I also realize there are other women who haven't been able to reach any sort of stable point to start a family, or just start one because of other reasons which may not be the best for the child. 20/20 hindsight though. I'm really questioning this as I think about having kids sooner than later and how to set up my life to support a family which is now my main goal. Thank you so much for sharing! Love all of these videos and I vote yes to the live video.

[@maryngugi8155]

I say this with sincerity I would love to be your friend my name is Mary from Kenya. I love how calmly and clear you talk you have such a soothing spirited voice am a new believer and am struggling alot with the spirit of laziness procrastination I feel so useless and unworthy please include me in your prayers.I love you and I thank God for connecting me to good person like you thank you

[@laurenb7170]

I love your unique style and your discipline is so inspiring to me 💗

[@aliciasoto3540]

You couldn’t have come in such a better time :) your such a blessing 💕

[@Amada660]

Hello Mrs. Midwest! I was so lucky to find your channel. I wish I have done it earlier, but well I think its never late to learn about how to be more feminine and a better human being. Thank you! greetings from Quito, Ecuador.

[@elisianemendesdasilva3233]

I loved it. And it is the first time that I see same one talking about focus on our weakness , success expert always says that we need to focus on what we are good , work hard to because better because if work on your weekends won’t never be a number 10 , but if work on what you are good will be. But I got what you means you are are taking about because better person, personality and not skills. 😊 hope I understood .🥰

[@gaudiumrome]

I just wanna say you're so gorgeous and smart 🖤 This channel is underrated.

[@hariav1963]

Such an inspiration ! You look amazing by the way !

[@Lorena-rq9uc]

Hey! I'm brazilian and I love your channel!! ❤

[@jeannie101]

I don’t care what anyone says, I love your content ❤️❤️

[@EmeseVida]

You're a blessing! Your loving energy is so beautiful

[@giannabrunet]

Thank you SO MUCH for making these videos! They are such a help and inspiration! You are a beautiful person in every sense! This is by far the best KZbin series ever! Keep at it Caitlin!!!! God bless you for what you do!

[@MrsMidwest]

Gianna I am so happy you’re enjoying the series and that you’ve sent me this sweet inspiration!! 😍🥰 thank you so much!!

[@cherylblossom3072]

Just found your channel totally obsessed

[@Jusdepommerose]

Random question : do you pick your outfits beforehand? What does a day in your life look like?

[@letthecreativityout7521]

You are the best- simply the best!! I like every single video you make- and I've never said that about any KZbinr before!

[@haleymoon657]

Would you please consider linking outfits in the description!:) you’re style is gorgeous and completely my style of feminine but I struggle finding similar pieces as all the styles these days are cropped or more revealing:)

[@mahsam3744]

You change my whole life .I love u Mrs. Inspiring❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@ema3179]

Great video! Just the right thing I needed to hear. Thank you. Keep up with the good work :)

[@aminanouicer6953]

You look gorgeous in this color, it emphasises your eyes color very well. Wish all the best dear from Algeria

[@meganandrea7598]

You are so lovely Caitlin! Thank you for your videos :)

[@professionalwidow]

i've always been interested in starting a group for women like this, who reject modern society. maybe incorporating theology or other spiritual beliefs as well into it.

[@joannagriffiths9405]

yesss

[@EmilyGrobler]

Yes, live video!!

[@anastasiaasiedu2146]

Thank you so much, I can really relate and what you are saying gives hope. Blessings to you.

[@karlamdzs5013]

I love your videossss😍 You really inspire meeee

[@Noreen_Reynoso]

I Love your channel! ❤️. Just a suggestion : You can angle your camera so the line where the wall and the ceiling meet doesnt cross thru’ your head? Of course the video content is more important than the camera angle, but it would be more comfortable to watch if camera is tweaked a little bit. 🤗

[@camilla8908]

Can you do a tutorial on how you do your hair

[@claramascarenhasromeiro6794]

I love your videos so much! You are beautiful and very wise! I am very happy to have discovered your channel and am learning a lot from its content. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and being such an inspiring person! Warm hugs from Brazil!

[@boulderrrrrrrrer]

This is an awesome video! Really needed to hear this.❤

[@rchurch78]

Do you think you could make a video going into more detail about how you pracically worked on your laziness and lack of discipline. That would be really helpful to me! Love your videos!

[@AJ-ox8xy]

I am going to suggest your channel to my sisters. They are all in high school and college and many are having issues with this feminist agenda and females must be like men narrative. Good luck with your channel's future success and please never stop...unless you have kids. Because they now become a priority over this.

[@yvonne2796]

Thank you for posting these type of videos. God bless

[@WeShareTheSameAffliction]

Wonderful message! I admire the way you articulate your message and how you're able to convey your thoughts so simply and easy to understand. Is it weird that I get excited about the growth of your channel as if it were my own? 😂 I love seeing the subscriber count rise!

[@autumnwebber5716]

I think a live would be so fun, it’s a great idea!

[@pearl_heartsss]

Can you talk about cooking? How you feed your household and so forth? I think that would make a wonderful video & I’d really appreciate that.

[@hallemathues4840]

You and your message are such a blessing!

[@titaniatixie]

you remind me of Allie Hamilton from The Notebook

[@Smokey11lovelygirl]

Hi! I Just want to say thank you for making these videos I really enjoy watching them! I am not beliver and I admire that your videos are for all women not Just Christians. I definitely respect your religion and you, but it is super nice that you Don't seem to not like people with other point of view and are welcoming to everybody. There are a few religious Channels who seem almost mean. Anyways You are a beautiful person and a good content creator. Sending you much love from the Czech Republic! ❤️

[@chloe9chloe937]

Remember the only way to improve yourself is by giving your life to Jesus Christ and living for him!!!

[@way2girly]

Chloe9 Chloe9 yes! But even after giving yourself to Christ, He has to change you from the inside out. :D some people give their life to Christ but still need to self improve

[@way2girly]

Living for Christ also means how we treat others and treat ourselves

[@maddyG7414]

Perhaps a more open mind like Mrs. Midwest? It sort of excludes non religious people. Not everyone will live the same. Glad you have your own faith though.🥰

[@camillefaith2005]

even if you're not a Christian, embodying good traits and being a decent kind and loving person will shine through in the end.

[@margaritawarrens2510]

You are inspiring!. That nighty over your top was a bit confusing. Otherwise great info. Keep up the good work. :)

[@jaimezuniga4702]

Developing character makes me think of a river that continuously runs over rocks and over time and pressure, the ragged edges of the rock is worn smooth and beautiful.

[@ajohonly3721]

I could honestly listen to your voice forever so calming 👌

[@frokuz9722]

Love how passionate you are ❤ agree with everything! Thank you for the life giving advice ;)

[@submit56789]

YES!!!!! This should be required in schools. The school system is cranking out masculine women who will never find men acting like a man.

[@yanngew3278]

This is so encouraging ❤️🥰😍God Bless~ xoxo

[@avigerisc]

I love watching your videos, but they also make me depressed at the same time because it just feels impossible for me to be a more feminine person. I dress and tend to have a very submissive appearance, but in reality I have a very dominant, non submissive personality. I don’t mind if my partner is masculine, but I prefer a more sexually submissive male. I just don’t find any pleasure being a bottom or sexually submissive. I’m already 23 and have had relationships where the relationship was great mentally but felt like a chore sexually to force myself to be in the more submissive role just to please my partner. This started to bring pain to me mentally and made the relationship fall apart. I’m still good friends with the guys from my last relationships, but I want something long-term with a stable future. I don’t really know what to do.

[@ArtistProtagonist]

People come with a variety of personalities. I think femininity is an energy more than any specific act. Think of your sexual style as being more vivacious and expressive than dominant. There are plenty of men who would like prefer your style than lead. Consider the lap dance. Although culturally the woman is seen as submitting to a man if you think about it the man could be seen as submissive too by staying and receiving the woman's advances.