How to be unhappy | Dr. Matthew Whoolery | TEDxLSRCollege

This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. When you are drowned in unhappiness most of the time, it can be a little tough to wake up to the shiny concept of joy. He is here to tell you how to be great at, what you’re already good at. Watch him talk about “How to be Unhappy”.
Dr. Matthew Whoolery is a Professor of Psychology at Brigham Young University. He simplifies psychological concepts to apply them to real life constructs, garnishing them with a little humor before bringing them to his audience.
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[@Kumbaiah]

Great presentation! Evidence Based. In addition, I will add three other most important skills to learn to be unhappy: 1. Always try to please other people no matter what. 2. Always compare yourself to other people. 3. Alaways seek permission from other peaople to do the things you need to do.

[@wzlemma]

Kumbaiah Murthy that's exactly what im doing in the ward!

[@nellyeck1972]

Kumbaiah Murthy. Staying in a relationship, you are not happy case you´re scary to hurt them

[@karenfoster2394]

Excellent addition.😄😄

[@hward264]

Great talk. Here's a quote by Albert Einstein I thought went well with what your message: “A person starts to live when he can live outside of himself.”

[@Primer595]

The fourth dimension is "other people" .Just like Star Trek" to Boldly go! and make real discoveries!

[@LoveResidentEvil4]

how to be happy: 1. LEARN TO LIVE IN THE PRESENT MOMENT 2. stand up and move 3. serve your community 4. spend less time on Facebook 5. think about others and not yourself

[@LoveResidentEvil4]

s 😊

[@irishprice5152]

Wish I could sincerely believe your comment to be true.

[@Kate-qg6yi]

think about others and yourself too

[@Pride666]

The reverse psychology is just perfect!

[@Earth098]

If you want to be really UNHAPPY, worry about what others might think of you.

[@ThomasJDavis]

Right, which is ultimately thinking about yourself. You're not concerned with what they care about, you're concerned with what you care about, your own social approval.

[@sleepsmartsmashstress740]

Or just keep thinking how UNHAPPY & MISERABLE you are and lose sleep over it

[@LMKTinyForest]

"You did not come to this Planet for yourself" What a great message! Love it. Thank you so much.

[@161BMW]

He said Live in the present Exercise Spend less time on FB Think about others not yourself What wrong with thinking primarily about yourself as if you don’t no one else will do it as no one else cares ?

[@joannmahrouzadeh5607]

Made me laugh and I whole- heartedly agree with what you are saying. What a great way to get your message across Dr. Matthew Whoolery. Thank you!

[@gravettian]

When do English people stop eating? >When the're full When do French people stop eating? >When the're saturated When do Americans stop eating? >When the tv- show ends

[@robbie41090]

Such a refreshing perspective! I've had the opportunity to take 2 classes from this man and he's so great!

[@161BMW]

Genius.

[@Barjozz]

This is copy/paste of Paul Watzlawick's book the pursuit of unhappiness.... no credit given ?

[@spectaterahul]

Dissolution of the self/identity

[@telekidd8559]

Very good speech. One of thé best

[@Beterrabas]

Great advice, and refreshing perspective! Dr. Whoolery, you are the best!

[@cesarllantoiii5417]

This is the best TED Talk for me. Really unique way of delivery. And maybe because this matches my current situation.

[@ABC-vk5yh]

So grateful that this gift of a human being shared his knowledge with us...such a beautiful human is he!

[@AdemirAlijagic]

Brilliant talk! Thank you 😊

[@haman7227]

For some vulnerable kids or adults with self esteem or self confidence issues due to abuse or trauma needs to hear ‘Learning to love yourself is the greatest gift of all’ Of course, if you are a selfish person, you will take it the wrong way If you never been loved, it’s difficult to love yourself and if you don’t love yourself it’s more difficult to love others because you don’t know what true love is

[@DreamHeroGuitar]

Louder pleaseeeee!!!

[@vincass9392]

not loud enough!

[@berendwesterhof7794]

[@VarunPrasadoneplusone]

+vin cass no captions too :/

[@MR-bq6xu]

!!!!!!!!!

[@greggunnard4630]

Honestly guys, I've tried his method and it really works ! I was very unhappy, thank you Doc.

[@cahbagus1132]

He sound like Seth Meyer. ...though..

[@willman9567]

Guilty!! This made me laugh.

[@craftydafty1100]

I enjoyed this, it made me smile and laugh. Usually when I watch things to improve myself, there is a brief flare of inspiration then poof it's gone and I feel down. What's great about this talk is it doesn't make me feel a failure, so instead of feeling guilty about thoughts and actions. It's more a light-hearted haha that's weird let's do something different.

[@ranjanagupta555]

Great talk... indirectly he is asking us to be happy but telling that little upside down kind of.....

[@1001zaki]

great speech..i love all his speeches. amazing and very different but everything he says is true...

[@tylercastle9262]

Great perspective. really enjoyed this one.

[@benjameme]

Impressive talk Dr. Whoolery. Interesting take on an important current challenge many people face today.

[@umarchowdhury7752]

"...If something strikes/afflicts you, don't say 'If (only I had done) such and such', but rather say 'It is the decree of Allah, and He does whatever he feels like..." The Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam).

[@tomdewilde1]

that's probably the worst advice i ever read/heard

[@ACIDICcitric]

Amazing talk

[@michalgadka4290]

great speech !

[@joisea9509]

Excellent Talk!!!

[@blablablaj]

that's why i love working in a nursery home

[@shiyaskarim4683]

Amazing 🤩

[@desilazarova3964]

I love it!! Thank you!

[@jamesgrey13]

I do all of this on a daily basis, but I'm still not unhappy... Maybe, it's just my lack of expectations!

[@nicolaasleach]

Does he have books?

[@oliverpanek7]

Genius

[@RachelLovelace]

So good!

[@elenaeisenhardt3280]

Brilliant! I really enjoyed this talk.

[@daultonbaird6314]

This reminds me of the guy who explained why most of us would fail to have great careers . I nailed totally it . and I'm making great headway on this one to .

[@NeluMbingu]

Daulton Baird Oh yeah! That was an awesome talk too lol :)

[@1BenDoverWilson]

+Nelu Mbingu do you know what talk that is?

[@NeluMbingu]

Ben Wilson Search for "Why you will fail to have a great career" by Larry Smith. I think that's the one the OP was referring to.

[@zoegregson3738]

Hmmm... got me thinking

[@phamvuminh8435]

This talk deserve much more

[@outseeker]

lol he totally had issues keeping it in the right negative perspective :) thanks ted and matt

[@Funandconsciousness]

Looks like there's no hope for me: I actually found myself laughing and smiling at how you brought home your points ... and I really enjoyed your little jabs at psychology and Christianity! Carry on, Matt! And be sure not to let anyone sit on your lap ever again!!!

[@wgs8175]

Funandconsciousness But so interesting that he omits to mention anything about Judaism

[@elsagrace3893]

Wend Stern ever heard of Judeo-Christian?

[@lolaapelt8616]

SO GOOD!!!!!

[@manjeetsinghnagi7650]

Great job

[@999elyas999]

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[@danielfurr7356]

Phenomenal professor.

[@magsmchugh8152]

Love this

[@ombra306]

Misleading title! Very unhappy

[@KhmerH20]

why is this such a good talk??? what's the science behind this? brain malfunction.....

[@arcticredrose]

Reverse psychology and humor

[@amirnabilenough7802]

Motivation is too vast a subject area, isn’t it?

[@spornineteenninetynine4718]

This poor guy is sweating so hard throughout his talk, turn your heat lamps down ted, that shit is distracting for the viewer.

[@divyanshichugh4741]

Not every place gets enough funding so as to afford air-conditioner in the heat.

[@gravettian]

Yes also from my own experience: do a PhD!!!

[@hmbach]

What a great speaker! Such an important topic made so enjoyable and interesting. I now have plenty of food for thought to get me through the day. Thanks Matt.

[@daultonbaird6314]

8:42 no porn ?

[@isak098]

"internet stuff"

[@RachelIdahogirl]

Nice job Brother Whoolery you did great!! :-)

[@LunaLu-00]

> all of the suffering in the world comes from a desire for one's own happiness