How to beat your flying phobia

Training in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy enabled me to beat my flying phobia. Understanding exactly how flying phobia works was they key to beating it. In this video I explain why you have such a fear of flying and what you can do to reduce and eliminate that fear so that you can prevent a panic attack when you fly.
#flyingphobia #aerophobia #fearofflying

[@margarethubbard1173]

Folks try to reassure the panic struck person that flying is safe. This does not work because the panic is not being fueled by probability but by possibility: in other words, is it probable that the door will fly off the plane as recently happened? No but it is possible proven by the fact that it DID happen. So acknowledging that the thinngs that scare folks about flying have indeed happened is an important step because if one just talks about probability being low, the panicked person will not be able to ingest that. I know because many have tried this on me and it makes me more upset that they can not understand why I am scared/panicked.

[@mateo10734]

Same here. I do not give a FUCK about statistics! You can tell me all day driving is more dangerous but I won’t fall 30k feet out of the air if I crash in my car! I am extremely afraid of dying but I’m even more scared of skydiving until I go splat, I hate heights and the feeling of my stomach dropping.

[@claudial8080]

My hesitation for flying is the thought of having a panic attack and being “stuck” on the plane. I used to travel quite a bit for work. But when I started having panic attacks the thought of having one on a plane has prevented me from going on trips. How can I desensitize in my case? Since in my situation, I am not worried about things like what you pointed out but rather just having a panic attack while in flight. And thank you for your wonderful videos!! I have watched several already…very informative, helpful and well made! Watching the drawings is satisfying 😊.

[@TheAnxietyAttic]

Hi Claudia. What you are describing sounds like panic disorder rather than a flying phobia so its is treated differently and takes a lot longer to overcome. My series on panic attacks will teach you how to overcome the fear of panic attacks. When you no longer fear the panic attack you will find that you can fly again but its not easy. Phobias can be overcome in just a few weeks but anxiety disorders like panic disorder take anywhere between a few months to many years depending on the severity and how long you have had it.

[@claudial8080]

@@TheAnxietyAttic Thank you for your response. I have actually, thank God, been able to overcome my fear of panic attacks but you are right, it was a lengthy, slow and intentional process. I just need to get on a plane, maybe a short trip somewhere lol. Your page has wonderful content! My daughter unfortunately is now dealing with the same issues I dealt with. I have told her to watch your videos. Especially the series on panic. They are very informative and helpful. I think you putting this content on KZbin will be very helpful to people dealing with these difficult issues. I wish you much success.

[@garrettstewart8958]

@@claudial8080 I have the exact same problem as you did. Just curious how did you overcome your fear of a panic attack?

[@sapthagiri6030]

Hi , I am also afraid of flying .. I have long journey.. I saw lot of videos but still I need to come out of that

[@kalpanpatel8288]

@claudial8080 i am going through same issue. How did you overcome it? Can you share your recent flight experience?

[@pvtrichardsonbr]

For me it’s physical. I cant get over the feeling of being able to feel myself floating in the air. Like i can sense the floor of the plane below my feet and that theres no ground underneath

[@benaubrey2410]

Same for me, i dont give a fuck how safe it is, the dropping/rising sensation sends me into a panic.

[@vegaskay9335]

@@benaubrey2410100% me as well!

[@jacobmontes5000]

same exact thing for me glad to see someone else that says this

[@jacobmontes5000]

it’s it’s so weird i don’t like that i’m not physically connected to anything like the plane is in the air and im inside the plane moving it’s just so odd and not a well feeling

[@MeerAbrar]

@@benaubrey2410so much relatable. i feel stomach drop feeling and floating sensation . It's like a boat for me not aeroplane

[@fizziwop]

I've only very suddenly had a fear of flying and I don't want it to get to the point to where air travel isn't an option. Ive done all of these for years and never realised. Loved the animation

[@danyloup1547]

Omg , i feel you. I used to travelled around the world and get excited abt it. Lately a bumpy short haul flight i was on traumatized me. I just came back on today on a short hall, already thinking this was a bad idea. Lucky for me, a kind passenger took notice and calmed me down. I dont think i can do this agaib.😢

[@gillynanaof4899]

I am nervous for all the reason you state but thankfully I manage to fight it and deal with it. However I have started to feel very anxious once the door gets shut. I feel so claustrophobic even on a big plane. I am booked on a long haul flight next June and dreading it already.

[@TheAnxietyAttic]

If you can reduce or eliminate your safety behaviours before the flight you will find the anxiety much less

[@steins3699]

how did it go

[@gillynanaof4899]

@@steins3699 much better than I thought it would. I focused on 5 mins at a time. Didn't look ahead at what I had to face. I just got through every minute, hour till we arrived.

[@jamesmaclean7346]

@@gillynanaof4899and you did arrive and make it back. As I text this and you read it 1000s of people are leaving and arriving as well safely. And it’s still scary haha congrats on not letting it stop you from going.

[@PH-hf2bo]

Thank you for sharing! I love flying in the past UNTILL… One day, on a plane from San Francisco to Japan. It was a long flight and I almost couldn’t make it. Luckily I flew with my 7 yrs old son who turned into a life saver for the flight. He told me that it will be ok mom, and tomorrow will be even better. I couldn’t believe how sweet words could help comfort me to our final destination. However, back to the San Francisco while we were at ours seat. I suddenly feel afraid to fly I couldn’t breathe well. I felt terrified that I may have to go back to the gate with my son. Then, I told the gentleman next to me that I’m not feeling well and could not breathe. He said “ OK “ then he went back to sleep. I told myself I have to make it because it’s about me not something else. It was hard but I made it. I finally found that I have claustrophobic. I afraid to be in a place that I feel trapped. Its happened in my bedroom, car, Car wash places, long tunnel, Trains, MRI. Yes, I still flying from time to time and I have prepared before flying. I will hop on board again this summer! I knew how people who have been through this fear and it wasn’t easy to get through. 💐💐💐

[@sueKay]

While I've caught myself doing some of the behaviours, I've taught myself not to. But my main problem when flying is the sensation. I hate when the plane is taking off, I hate when the thrust is cut in half after the first part of the descent, I hate when the plane turns and like most people I hate turbulence. All of these things make me feel dizzy, like I might pass out. I get this in buses and cars too but without feeling panicky). I've read how planes work and have friends who are avgeeks (two have degrees in aeronautical engineering) and despite understanding it all and rationalising it all (and feeling calm in my own head), my body still freaks out every time. I feel like I have no control over it. The plane bumps and I hear myself gasp or curse or like I'm about to have a wobbly. I'm flying in a few hours and I'm so stressed out.

[@subwaybe2008]

BIGG HEL P . IM AFRAID OF HEIGHTS ! NOT DYING . THX BRO . I'LL CONTINUE TO GAIN YOUR KNOWLEGE !

[@tomh3999]

Takeoff is the worst for me. I fear that the plane won't be able to lift properly. I usually close my eyes and feel like I'm going to die. I prefer the landings, because those mean that I'll soon be able to leave the plane. But even then I'm a bit frightened. I may look out through the window, see that the ground is really close and think that the plane will miss the runway. Before the flights I usually drink or take a pill to fight the panic. One time, I drank about 5-6 beers and felt quite relaxed, but another time the beer just made me panic more.

[@sussydogelikesplanes]

planes dont do that. planes on their first certified flight, have their tanks fully filled and payload set up to the maximum weight. the point of positive rate (lifting off the ground) is then put as the runway requirement. a plane is not legally allowed to fly a runway too short for it to take off from. most airports have extra area for planes in the VERY unlikely chance that they do overrun, and this is also shown in the recent tui overrun at leeds bradford airport. hope this helps ❤

[@cublife4202]

Take off is the worst for me, I’m flying to Malaysia in like 10 hours and I’m panicking

[@DAND3Li]

Takeoff is worst for me too. Especially when we’re still not super high up and they start turning the plane sideways 😖

[@darcevader3769]

Cruising isworst. Landing is good

[@sussydogelikesplanes]

@@cublife4202 did you die?

[@amankrx]

Last year, I was normal. I had no fear whatsoever. But after that, I watched a couple of Plane crash documentaries and a couple of videos on Reddit, and thanks to that, all I can think of are those scenes during the flight.

[@rubby_happyberry]

SAMEE

[@sussydogelikesplanes]

yeah but those were in the past, its safe now

[@juliery63]

The last time I flew was nearly 40 yrs ago. I had flown many times internationally as a child till older teenager with my mom and sister to visit my maternal relatives in Germany every summer. I hated flying as a kid and got my butt beat onto all 3 flights there and all 3 coming back. I would cry and carry on the entire summer dreading the fact that we had to fly back. My last flight was returning to Chicago from Phoenix. There was a problem shortly after take off with the plane and it was terrifying, we had to make an emergency landing in Denver and get on another plane. ABSOLUTELY no way in hell would I do it. I demanded a refund, rented a car and drove back to Chicago. I haven't flown since. The problem is that my relatives in Germany want to see me, in Germany, so badly. Some of them have visited here a few times and my cousin's son visited us twice this past year while he was in the US for work. He extended his trip just to see us. He and his mother especially, she's the cousin I was closest to growing up, want me to visit so badly. I've agreed to do it but honestly I wouldn't be surprised if at the last minute I just won't do it. Even though it would be a huge financial waste to me I'd figure the ticket cost the same whether I use it or not once it's bought. Or if I actually got on the plane I'd probably get kicked off before take off bc I just know I'll have a massive anxiety attack and act like a psycho. I hate even seeing planes in the sky. I worry about random flights, flights my adult kids are on and flight in general. Intellectually I know that it's safer than driving and all those things BUT in a lifetime of driving all over the country I've never been in an accident, never gotten a ticket, never had any issue, AND I'm at least somewhat in control. I think of random stuff like I wonder how many people on the 9/11 planes, or any planes that have ever crashed, were terrified fliers who finally got on a plane and then came to a catastrophic end. I think about those minutes when you'd know you're going to die in a terrible way and can do nothing to stop it and wished you'd never gotten on the plane. There's just no way I'm going to be able to do it. Mainly because there's not a single thought important enough to make me feel like it's worth it. I wish i could get over this overwhelming fear, but i just don't see how. My husband is very understanding and doesn't think I'm stupid. He says he won't try and talk me into it although he'd really love to go. He wants to see where i spent all my childhood summers and meet all my relatives that haven't visited. I want to do it for him, but i don't know if i can.

[@mateo10734]

I swear this was like reading my own autobiography, I am from Chicago and think the same exact way you do. I am open to taking cruises np, so have you ever considered that? You can cruise to Europe and then rent a car. I know it would be a lot of work but imo it’s worth the experience and I think it would be fun.

[@juliery63]

@mateo10734 if it wasn't crazy expensive and time consuming I'd consider doing that. But at the end of the day I've been to see my relatives many times and thanks to technology I'm in contact with them regularly. They can come here anytime, we have plenty of space to accommodate them. But sure if money and time aren't any issue you should totally do it! Thank you for commenting, at least I know there's someone else that gets it!!!

[@DAND3Li]

This is exactly word for word how I think. Although I’m honestly not ever concerned about terrorists, just freak accidents only. It should help that as time goes by we have less and less of them,, but my mind just can’t seem to get over all of the horrific things that could happen. Every bump sends me into a panic. Specifically when taking off 😢

[@Ellen-85]

My fear is being in an enclosed space that I can't escape from because it's in the air, never been on a plane and would love to but that's what stops me.

[@TheAnxietyAttic]

Yes sometimes its not aerophobia that stops people flying. Panic Disorder, agoraphobia and claustrophobia may also stop people flying. I have a playlist for panic disorder which includes some agoraphobia videos also.

[@Ellen-85]

@@TheAnxietyAttic thank you 😊

[@duanewillis3281]

​@Ellen-85 I'm sure any normal person walking onto a plane has had that fear of flying at some point. Let me tell you now, get that first flight out of the way and you will be hooked. Take off just blows your mind it's so cool the speed you get and watching through the window as it goes up. During a flight you may experience some slight drops or bumps but it is completely normal. Remember knowledge is power, do your research and see that it is the safest form of travel. The aircraft is designed to withstand many kinds of turbulence. As for fear of being in an enclosed space chat to someone on board, read a book, listen to podcasts, all tips you can use to focus your brain somewhere else. Just tell yourself it's a nit a journey that will last forever, even if you only experience this once make a short flight so you don't regret it.

[@lenocman2]

Do you feel the same claustrophobia when on a coach, underground train or bus? I am also scared of flying too even though I have flown a few dozen times before. I have been worried each time..Not because of flying but because if turbulence and the lack of surface to ride on, be it land or sea. Plus with train and ferries, at least there are evacuation measures if something was to go wrong (lifeboats, coastguards, and the firebregade and emergency services for trains and coaches on land. But which service can save you at 30,000 feet? That is what scares me

[@karenlafleur6592]

I experience every single thing you said in the video. It aggravates me so much. I’ve never had a full blown panic attack (yet), but I take medication. I still feel impending doom, but I guess I just don’t care as much.

[@PaliyRenovation]

What do you take? I need something prescribed

[@kemilywilliams6412]

​@@PaliyRenovation for my panic attacks that I suffer from I take amitriptyline and hydroxyzine

[@turboqueer666]

I think you did a good presentation but what about the fear of heights? Like the idea that I'm so high up gets me sometimes.

[@GustavoSantos-gz7uj]

The higher you are the safer you are actually.

[@lesleynelson7708]

Thank you. These are all me! I am flying in 36 hours time and already a wreck! But this has given me food for thought

[@johnny8416]

how was it

[@lesleynelson7708]

@@johnny8416 Thank you for asking. there were tears a couple of times when it was a bit bumpy, but overall my husband said it was the calmest he’s ever seen me on a flight. I had also downloaded some favourite shows onto my ipad and enjoyed watching 2 of those. My journey home is in 3 days time. I am hoping to be as calm then too.

[@user-gr5zq3un6x]

This helped me so much. Thank you.

[@TheAnxietyAttic]

Glad it helped!

[@downtown_rich212]

Thank you so much this helped a lot!! I’m Flying to Puerto Rico tomorrow morning..all ready feeling anxious lol

[@pianopp1]

Did it turn out well?

[@TroopsofDoom666]

I remember the funny moments when im travelling with my brother he is so brave and fearless kinda person...he is deep water diver/welder... i told him that im scared of flying... he is just laughing so hard inside the cabin.. he says hey look at my coward brother here everyone...and everyone just look at us and got no idea wtf is going on..and suddenly the head of cabin crew shows up and asked what is going on both of you? My brother told the cabin crew if this my brother crying aloud during this flight just throw him out from the window...come on brother just take it like a man.... everyone is laughing...i feel very ashamed because of him...in the same time its made me less nervous.... and short story we are safely landed.... and days by days years by years...i flown everywhere...i just remind myself..im not that coward anymore...take it like a man....😅

[@BiteSized_]

Thank you Martin

[@strang5635]

I had to fly 4 times a year since I was 7 years old because of my parents living in different countries (Canada & England). I NEVER got used to it. As soon as I was of age, I started just getting drunk but my panic would sober me up so I'd just be uncomfortable. I'm about to take the longest flight in the world (Vancouver to Spain to London to China to Australia) and I'm freaking out

[@BuddhaofBlackpool]

All that is so true!

[@estelleacocella9818]

I haven’t been on a plane since January 2001. I wasn’t always afraid to fly. But one day of a stressful travel day was all it took. I would get very nervous. And all I would o is look out the window and think wow look how high up we are and yes is the plane going to crash. I started looking at the flight attendants. But that didn’t help much. The only time I wasn’t afraid was if I was talking to someone on the plane.

[@ivanrezzy7926]

This might be the weirdest one you hear or read about in terms of how I developed my phobia. I used to be perfectly fine on planes considering I love roller coasters and I’m not scared of heights whatsoever. However one day on a flight I was looking out the window and a guy behind me was snoring super loud and at a fast pace and my brain completely tricked me into breathing at his rhythm and it was so freaky and unnatural I panicked right away and couldn’t control my breathing. I wasn’t breathing naturally but manually thinking I had to control it otherwise I’d run out of air. Ever since I’ve been super anxious on flights and I don’t go to the bathroom drink or eat on a plane cause I’m afraid I’ll choke. 😊

[@stp982]

I check off all the boxes and then some for fear of flying. I haven't flown in 30 yrs, the last time I flew i didn't enjoy the visit at all I was asking the woman next to me the time every 5 mins, to where she literally gave me her watch to use. I rented a car back. It doesn't help that a friend back in the day was a maintenance mechanic at O'hare, who told me that if i new the "mechanicals" that happened with planes I wouldn't want to fly. i got details. I can't do heights, plane noises, the feeling of falling as the plane descends. i'm ok if i'm connected to the ground. I just finished up a long career I purposely chose that didn't involve any travel. My sister works for an airline and it is of no help. I would never fly in the winter due to the deicing problems i see. My reference may be framed by crashes in my formative years in the 80s. Nevertheless, i did see a "counselor" who was of no help and i didn't even pay the bill. My excuse has been i live in florida, i don't need to go anywhere. Now that i have more time and married an asian, i wouldn't mind travelling, have been looking into amtrak, but i know this is limited and it ain't cheap. and amtrak doesn't go to asia. So we're looking at cruises. i'm get really insecure and depressed when i think about it, so i just block it out. I don't care what/who the pilot is. Mentally I can probably handle an hour tops, but there are few that are that short. I don't know what to do with this, and most of these videos don't help at all. Air travel does seem safer now, but still. I'm willing to try baby steps.

[@sussydogelikesplanes]

trust me bro, there hasnt been a plane crash in years

[@tsachie4822]

I just thinking about all the people with flight phobia who actually died in plane crash. What they must have felt when they found out on there last moments that there fear was true

[@caitlynmlodzik3164]

I didnt used to get anxious about it but all of a sudden i started to. No real bad experience or anything, i just started to get very nauseous and anxious in theboarding and sitting on the plane process. Then bc im nauseous i get anxious about throwing up - throwing up in small plane means others will see and smell it which is what makes me anxious. Ive got a flight tomorrow ive spent all week stressing about and im just hoping i can breathe and get through it. We got this yall! I hope so at least. Im better when I'm flying with someone, but ive been alone a lot recently.

[@funnymoments0010]

How was it for you? I really hope everything went good and you went through it 😀

[@caitlynmlodzik3164]

@@funnymoments0010 I did thanks!

[@believexxxooo]

can you make a video about a phobia of vomiting

[@mjcruiser4238]

Isn’t there long running TV show called Air Disasters?

[@Jupiter12.000]

I'm a Nervous Flyer too.

[@Tripmajor]

im having a 12 hrs flight next month to China. this is the last video I see. I will follow ur steps. No safety checks my end. will get back here once I return

[@evakhevo4060]

How was ur trip😊

[@Forest762]

Bro never returned...

[@Tripmajor]

I’m here , alive haha. After having these long hauls - flights are much easier for me. Stopped Overthinking before flight and that helped as well

[@kemilywilliams6412]

I have a flight to Louisiana that I'm worried about on July 8th 2024

[@ac-uh5lo]

Do you have any more content on fear of flying? I am THE person you described in every single way. I have a flight in a week and have been googling for months. I cry every time I fly and I dread going on holiday these days. My trips are getting ruined. Is there any other stuff you have on fear of flying?

[@TheAnxietyAttic]

I made this video 3 years ago and it got very few views so I didn't make any more but recently it has taken off so I may do another one. Maybe an hypnosis video because that is good for phobias. But the best advice I can give is be very aware of the safety behaviours that I mention in the video. Its difficult, but try not to give in to them because they put the mind into a high state of alert that can trigger a panic attack and a flood of catastrophic thoughts that are totally irrational but very believable when in the panic state. (I was so convinced we were being hijacked). If the panic comes, just accept it and remind yourself that the thoughts are just thoughts. They are not facts. So don't seek reassurance that the plane isn't going to crash. Just try to accept them and let the thoughts pass. Its hard but if you can let them pass the anxiety will come down much quicker. The weeks before the flight are crucial. Try to stay off google as it fuels the phobia. I know its really hard not to give in to these behaviours as I used to do it myself but if you can just reduce your safety behaviours by 25%, the next flight will be just a little bit easier. Then reduce them more and more with each flight. When the safety behaviours are gone the phobia will be gone also and you will be able to sleep on a flight just like me. The good news is that phobias are completely reversible but it takes a lot of will power at first.

[@ac-uh5lo]

​@@TheAnxietyAttic This was so motivating :') And actually not a lot of people make the link of staying away from the behaviors you seek for reassurance e.g. googling flying safety stats etc. Some people almost encourage it by suggesting you can research into why planes are safe etc. But actually, so far that's not worked for me. I do that more than ever and I am more scared then ever. So I will try your way. I won't Google anything. My flight is on the 18th. I will avert my eyes from looking at the wings and engine etc when I'm on the flight. I will try to ignore the flight attendants (because I hyper focus on them normally).

[@Recluse616]

Plane crashes, feeling trapped and not in control of anything is my fear.

[@pelinsisman2417]

i havent used plane 6 years now. 2 years ago i bought a ticket but i couldnt pass the gate so i cancelled it and money gone… Now i live in another country amd i need to go to my own country for my uni exams and i am thinking of pushing myself… My biggest fear is when i get into the plane and knowing that i cannot get out after the doors close. Most of people fear the departer and landing but i fear when we are at our highest point when the flight gets stable for a certain time. I think if i just can force myself get into the tunnel and eventually to mu seat i will feel less frightened but i am really scared if i fail again bcuz ticket will be cancelled again and i feel bad for loosing moms mony this way…. 😔

[@jefffarnham5040]

Mine is just the "stuck" on the plane and not able to get off. Its a control thing. Not afraid of crashing at all. And then freaking out in front of everyone demanding an emergency landing for myself. Ya right. Yes i know...

[@TheAnxietyAttic]

If the fear of being stuck on the plane is linked to a fear of panic attacks then you may find my latest video on panic disorder useful. kzbin.info/www/bejne/anqzfpWPYpqabNk

[@dylansawyer3446]

Im not afraid of planes nor have I ever been Im actually a pilot but I think its very interesting.

[@uppal123g]

Man imma just take some horse tranquilizer...need to be numb. I'm shit scared of flying... especially 15 hour flights man in the dark.😩

[@mook16v]

I laughed when 737 popped up😂 that’s the exact reason why I’m Terrified of flying. I’m a QC engineer and know the corners that people cut. It’ll be blind drunk for me before my flight tomorrow 😬

[@HarrProductionz]

These are all reasons except one reason that I have is what It just falls out of the air like a ball of something and I’m also worried about the take off feeling

[@primalwalker3206]

It's not possible for an aircraft to just "fall out of the air" the wings and engines help you stay afloat, if worst case scenario, let's say both engines fail the plane is just going to keep flying. The wings create lift. The takeoff feeling on the other hand, yeah me too I hate it. But it's actually just your mind playing tricks on you, it might feel like you're falling for a split second or two but in reality you're climbing up into the air as fast as you originally were before you felt that feeling.

[@jannatpari-bn2bz]

i have anxity from 5 years and i also very fear to fly how to i overcome it i fly with my 3 year old kid and i never care about her in plan i just going mad just in my fear to crash

[@siempre_reyna7176]

Im not scared of who may be a high jacker I have anxiety and im just scared of heights but I try not to think it

[@jksynth]

What are those suspicious behaviors?

[@welovekailey]

IM GONNA THROW UP

[@BKofficer23]

My panic attacks are caused by not being allowed to go to the bathroom, like at times on a plane. And of course panic attacks can cause diarrhea, and the diarrhea can cause panic attacks. Never had this problem when I was young.

[@sussydogelikesplanes]

sounds like a physical illness to me. mot a doctor though, and could still be a type of sea sickness

[@veda2393]

im just scared of heights and plane takeoff because of stomach drops

[@sameenakhan847]

I’m just worried of being uncomfortable with three kids on an 11hr flight.

[@rajbasu788]

Sir I am very scared about flight journey

[@PeacelandLoFi]

🌟 Let the music be your guiding star through the hardest flights. You are not alone. 🌌❤ Drop a 🌌 if you're finding your way!

[@user-sr4qe1by4o]

I don’t like taking off it gives me a weird feeling and idk it feels like I’m light headed but I love landing I like bouncing other than that I am not a fan of flying

[@digolbick7401]

I shat myself on my last flight and it was so embarrassing. Luckily I had an extra pair of pants in my carry on.😢

[@simplytine2939]

im scared of malfunction thats all

[@primalwalker3206]

Malfunction is so rare, and even if it did happen the pilots and flight attendants would stay calm and land at a nearby airport

[@HistoryShell1786]

It’s simple. Fly…. Fly a lot. Eventually you’ll realize there’s nothing to fear and you’ll get over it.

[@kobbsy7441]

I’ve gone on like 10 planes and I just get more and more scared each time

[@furb1977]

@@kobbsy7441 lol, yes. Finding something new to worry about each time

[@mandys9466]

Its not that simple..hence why we are here

[@HistoryShell1786]

@@mandys9466 yes it is lol

[@embracingchina1744]

@@kobbsy7441 Hahaha, same with me.

[@fahminguliyev]

I’m sorry but I didn’t find this video nor the tips mentioned so useful. I’ve flown over 50times through 12years and I don’t think it gets better each time. Besides, the points you mentioned about the brain, we are humans, we are definitely not able to control how we receive danger, and I don’t think asking such questions as “are you able to recognize plane defects better than engineer team?” will make you more comfortable. Yes, flying may be the safest mode of transport but there are more than hundreds of crashes throughout the history

[@TheAnxietyAttic]

The question "are you able to recognize plane defects better than engineer team" is not intended to make you feel more comfortable, it is intended to show the futility of safety behaviours. In most phobias and anxiety disorders people seek certainty. In the case of aerophobia people want certainty that the plane will not crash but as you said, planes do crash. But in an attempt to get certainty, aerophobes employ safety behaviours such as checking the plane, checking the passengers for hijackers or checking the air hostesses face for signs of something wrong. But not only do these behaviours fail to bring certainty (or make you safer) they send a signal to the fear processing part of the brain that there is a danger so it goes into fight or flight mode. It also reinforces the belief that flying is dangerous. Although statistically you are much more likely to die in a car crash than a plane crash aerophobes experience much higher anxiety in a plane than a car. The reason for that is that in a car they have no safety behaviours but in a plane they have many. It doesn't matter how many times you fly, if you use safety behaviours the fear will never go. Dropping safety behaviours is tough but I managed to eventually drop all of mine. That will not effect whether I die in a plane crash or not but it will mean that I can fly comfortably every time.

[@Kiwi_NZ610]

I have phobia of dogs

[@TheAnxietyAttic]

I have a 2 part series on cynophobia (fear of dogs). Here is a link kzbin.info/www/bejne/mqCYp5ier7mVbas

[@Kiwi_NZ610]

@@TheAnxietyAttic yeah that's what I got is Cynophobia

[@birdhovno]

Well he did not say how to change the thinking and brain messages. Thats pretty useless.

[@TheAnxietyAttic]

The video (at the 2 minute point) explains how your safety behaviours drive not just the physical symptoms of panic but the catastrophic thoughts. If you stop the safety behaviours the negative thoughts and physical symptoms of anxiety reduce. It doesn't happen instantly but over time your phobia will disappear if you manage to resist your safety behaviours. This relationship between thoughts behaviours physical symptoms and anxiety is taught in CBT using the anxiety cycle model. If you would like to understand more about the anxiety cycle I have 200+ videos on my channel. I have a playlist specifically for phobias. kzbin.info/aero/PLLLHgjmNNVTFri8DF7xbnwqxPOG3wLsR7

[@edgetvnet5440]

How can something be a phobia if countless people have been hurt and lost there lives doing it? Fear is there to protect us. If the track record for flying without incident was 100% that would be one thing, but it’s far from that. No one is talking about the factor of human error which is at the root of the majority of incidents.

[@mateo10734]

100% this is why I find it so hard to get over my fear. These statistics matter only in a perfect setting. I’ve worked on cars and know we can make mistakes very easily, so can airplane mechanics. Another example would be first responders and medical personnel; they make mistakes all the time! Shit happens and I don’t want to be not in control, and 30k feet in the air when shit happens lol. I’m trying so hard to get over my fear though that I’ve even been getting dreams of going on plane rides lol. I want to travel around with my family so bad but I can’t stop thinking the worst. When my loved ones go on planes I pray and pray, I get so scared something is going to happen to them.

[@sussydogelikesplanes]

@@mateo10734 if the plane is falling apart, it wont even start properly. if it can start its engine, its ready to go.