How to Become a More Gentle Person | Mother Natalia

Mthr. Natalia talks about her journey learning that humility and gentleness go hand in hand. She takes us through the phrase, "I was just being Human." , St. Paul's command to gentleness, and more.
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[@kellyt4447]

Boy did you come to me at the perfect time! Thank you. I needed to hear this! I pray every day for humility and kindness, yet still I fail sometimes. And for me it’s almost always to make MY point. I always want to “fix” people. I HAVE to “fix” me!! I pray for humility and kindness always!

[@Cristina_43]

Same with me! I was praying for answers to an ongoing issue in my life. This video popped up, seemingly unrelated, yet it contained the key that I needed! 🙏🏼

[@harmonicproportions6588]

It's God who heals is though, not we who heal ourselves

[@Em-st1xo]

Same I really struggle with this 😔 I wish it weren’t so

[@marthabarajas314]

Hello blessings! Me too! I TRY to work on it EVERY DAY!!! WITH GOD'S HELP!

[@moniquearseneault1458]

Blessings to you Sister 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@KatieCooksandCrafts]

I came to a similar conviction after growing up in a sarcastic household. I've hurt too many friends for no reason.

[@jackieo8693]

May God make us gentle and humble!

[@TheArnie25]

Amen.

[@lulumoon6942]

AMEN 🙏

[@charleslee5707]

Amen❤🙏🛐✝🕊

[@CherryDreamer96]

The Theotokos is a perfect example of humility and gentleness ❤

[@lynneivison5773]

Indeed. Someone who teased me about my messy house. It hurt because I have a problem with chronic fatique. I went back to the friend and gently said I did not like being teased about my house. She would not accept that I had been hurt. This made matters worse and I realised I could love her by prayer but not be friends with her. Teasing can so easily become bullying

[@Beatrice.Ndungu]

Well put

[@jenniferfirkins1390]

I too suffer from autoimmune chronic fatigue. I really tried my best cleaning, buying gifts and decorating before Christmas. Because I did too much my body crashed the day before Christmas Eve and I couldn't do anything. I told my family that I was too unwell and exhausted to go to my niece's for Christmas dinner. I felt that they didn't understand how difficult life us. When I ask for help they find an excuse not to do so and tell me that I will feel much better if I tidy and clean my home. This hurts me so deeply.

[@prodigalsonapparel]

Watched this last night, then again this morning. I was in tears this morning when watching because I've been dealing with my anger and lack of patience (gentleness) especially toward my 9 year old son. I can be loud, controlling, dominating , and intimidating in my "discipline". It does break my heart and I apologize all the time. I've been praying for years about this lack of control and recently have taken some steps in CR (celebrate recovery) toward these issues. But landed on this video last night (of course in a timely moment). Thank you for your faithfulness and blessing us/me with gentle correction. This is now saved and I will watch often. P.S. I am a protestant, who in my youth (ignorance) believed and said all the typical protestant things about Catholics. But a couple of years ago I landed on Pints and have watched many episodes as my heart has changed. I see the Love for Christ you have and that we share. I often wonder and pray if there is something in Catholicism for me. I ask if its true, if its of Him (Christ), and if it draws me closer to our Lord, then please show me. For now I am open, listening, and looking. Many thanks to Fred and the family at Pints w/Aquinas. Thank You!

[@user-kb7sl6cz6s]

I ignorantly believed a lot about Catholicism, then looked into it, considered adult conversion, and ultimately landed on Lutheranism. Nevertheless, while I do believe doctrine is absolutely key in terms of really knowing what we believe, I’m not sure it’s super helpful to just avoid things because “oh, so and so is coming at it from a Catholic perspective.” I can think critically and take in all these things and Pints with Aquinas has brought about fruits in my life I didn’t have before. Why? Because most of it is just what Christians need to believe. I am also struggling with patience, mostly toward my husband recently (we have a toddler and a newborn so it’s a rough stage). I know I love him and he loves me but I need to stop letting my irritability get the best of me.

[@desireboezio9911]

I implore you to start doing research. The Traditional Catholic Faith is the only Christian Faith. The jews would offer up Sacrifice in the Temple, the True Catholic Faith is a fulfillment of the jewish faith. On Traditional Catholic Altars The Sacrifice continues, but in an unbloody manner. When you attend a Traditional Catholic Mass you are standing at the foot of the cross of Calvary, at the very moment that Our dear Lord died for us. We too have the blood and water spraying all over us as the centurion pierced Our Blessed Lords Heart. Every time you attend The Holy Sacrifice you are right there, at the very moment it took place. Thereafter you go up to receive Our Lords body and blood. Jesus tells us "Unless you eat of my flesh and drink of my blood you will not have life in you." The Catholic Religion is the only religion where you get to physically touch Our Blessed Lord. Jesus only spoke about one church, one faith. In The Traditional Catholic Church, on any given day of the year, you can attend Holy Mass anywhere in the whole world, and the worship will be exactly the same, the readings from scripture will be exactly the same, and the message that the priest gives will carry the same message. The Traditional Catholic Church have one set of doctrines and/or dogmas that we must believe. As an individual you do not have the right to believe whatever you wish to believe. It is only the teachings of Jesus Christ that are worthy of belief. In 2024 we find that there are over 40 000 Christian Churches, each with their own beliefs. Only 1 church can be right! A good place to start researching is " The Society of Saint Pius X". God bless you.

[@hazysyd]

This is similar to how I was! I was protestant, but I prayed asking Jesus that, if this is really His Church and if He is really in it, that He would lead me there. This was a few months ago. Spoiler: Jesus is, in fact, here! Now I'm in RCIA and fully understand that this is it- this is the fullness of Christianity, this is Christ's Church. I'll pray for you! God bless!

[@brunettamathewable]

​@@desireboezio9911this is so beautifully said about the Holy Mass. Every word is so powerful. ❤ Thanks

[@paulom1315]

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[@themessenger4Jesus]

Mother Mary, Please pray for us that we may humble and gentle.

[@tonyhayes9827]

@@Some-random-Scythian That's where Protestants and Catholics can agree Well done

[@tonyhayes9827]

@@Some-random-Scythian Well done

[@TheArnie25]

Amen.

[@TheArnie25]

​@@Some-random-ScythianJohn 8:7

[@TotusTuus5]

@@Some-random-Scythianyou are right, Catholics worship God and God alone. The Catholics honor Mary because God and Jesus loved her first. Pope is never worshipped he is respected as the head of the church. So Catholics worship God, honor Mary and respect pope

[@joshh2953]

I completely relate to the person you’re speaking of in this video. I am more sensitive than most and don’t get teasing as much as I should. I appreciate your willingness to be more gentle, but we as sensitive types can also learn to have a more playful spirit and thicker skin. God bless.

[@ClosedDoor35]

Yes, exactly! I get that compromise isn't always the best way to go, but it's good to see how people on opposing sides of the spectrum can both improve in virtue to grow in understanding and love for each other!

[@lmlmlmlm7627]

Yes! Thank you for being so honest. One of my brothers is a sensitive person and I’m always walking on eggshells with him. He loves any message worded in the sandwich method which makes for tiring conversations.

[@albavellozo6035]

I really struggle with this. I don’t “need” people to be gentle with me so I forget that I must be careful with the way I am with people. I have a very hard shell so things don’t affect me much but I’ve started to realise that this isn’t necessarily a good thing, especially as a woman. May the Lord soften my heart ❤️

[@karenglenn2329]

I am going to appreciate your comment. I had to learn to be thick skinned. I am not young. I'm 79 years old. I think it requires prayer. Yes l shall beg grace to guard my mouth. Christ peace to you

[@mayday24916]

As a woman, I relate to this.

[@melmerk12]

Bingo!

[@Esmee861]

Thank you Mother Nathalia. I received this as a gentle rebuke to be more gentle with my children. Please pray for me.

[@anipigs]

"I'm unkind to others because I'm not kind to myself" I definitely tend to set _perfection_ as the standard for myself, which is why it feels like I'm always falling behind. I read once that the feeling of self-pity was just pride, because it meant we were striving for our own measurement of holiness, not the one Christ has in mind for us. Gentleness, how much I need to pray for it! Thank you Mother Nathalia!

[@ritaaraujo5697]

Will be at Mass at 2pm but will watch later. Thank you Matt for bringing Mother Natalia to your channel. I feel a deep peace watching her speak and a deeper desire to be holy.

[@EmilyTodicescu]

@@Some-random-ScythianI’m not Catholic, but even I know that Catholics do no such thing.

[@daviddabrowski01]

Update: boy did this hit home. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻. Thank you mother Natalia.

[@thepuffinpanda9139]

How can you be gentle and not take on other people's problems? I struggle with this a lot.

[@clelia8885]

@@thepuffinpanda9139 many mistake gentleness as a weakness, when in reality it takes a lot of strength and virtue to be gentle. You can be gentle and still have boundaries that you stand firm on.

[@alphacause]

What a wonderful message, Mother Natalia! Thank you. I can't count the number of times I attempted to make a humorous comment, in the hopes of fostering a spirit of camaraderie, only to have my statement construed as insulting. It goes to show you that we should not just "do unto others as we would have done unto us". Rather, we should not assume that the way we would like to be treated is the way others would like to be treated. Some of the most serious transgressions are done with the best of intentions, but we end up doing more harm, because we project our dispositions and our preferences onto others.

[@lisad7854]

Thank you for this. After watching a long time (30 years) close friend post anti-Christian hate, conservative hate, pro-life hate, etc on her FB page day after day after day I finally had enough and completely lost my mind on Friday night. Left a very unChristian, unkind comment on the most recent one. Used all the bad words. I just went back and deleted my comment and deactivated my FB page.

[@Aleksandrakowalcze]

Thank you Mother Natalia for your wise words. This hit directly to the heart!🙏

[@nortonvandepoele2359]

It takes real humility to be able to share a story you are not proud of. It really shows where she is in her journey

[@crystalmorgan9118]

Greetings from a pentecostal i didn't realise that Gentleness is the fruit of the spirit and that it's ok to be gentle

[@cthurbz5146]

This was God’s timing for me. At Bible study we picked out of a hat things to pray for this year - something that we needed to work on. I figured I would draw patience, but God had other plans and I drew gentleness. And when I thought about it - yeah, I need to work on gentleness. I’m a sarcastic, quick to wit person. Sometimes things just pop out of my mouth before I even realize I probably shouldn’t tease. That part about not being gentle with yourself? Wow. That was like a wake up call. So, this was incredibly appropriate for me to listen to right now. Thank you, Mother!

[@carolp5039]

Thank you, Mother Natalia, I needed to hear this today

[@crazyedswonderfulworldofso9370]

Mother Natalia, you’ve hit a nerve with me. I am a notorious teaser to the point where I don’t know when to stop. Oh, it’s all done in the interest of humour and love but it soon turns to a forwardness that I don’t like seeing in myself. I don’t have this problem with new strangers or new acquaintances, but rather, with those usually very close to me whom I love. I mean well, and usually, my teasing is humourous and for the most part, well-accepted, but I can’t help but feel that oftentimes, I may have crossed a line and offended the person I was teasing. It is something I have now formally begun to work on and hopefully can get under control in the future. I have been praying on this, and your video might be Our Lord’s answer to my prayer. Thank you for this video, it strengthens my resolve to accomplish the goals I am establishing in this area of my life. It couldn’t be more timely, what with the Lenten season upon us.

[@mapinoita279]

God bless you Mother Natalia!😊

[@user-yh3bl6bp3j]

Such an honest appraisal thank you so much Mother Natalia and how you recognised the difference in the other person who was obviously reared differently to yourself… this is so something we must all discern and your post has helped me so very much. God bless you always

[@shepherdessinthefray]

I struggle with gentleness... this is definitely a video that I needed. Good timing.

[@AA-gu4mw]

This. I’ve been working on this as well. St. Frances de Sales helped me tremendously in helping me be kinder to myself and now it’s just been a matter of remembering to spread that mercy to others. I’m also reading a book on kindness and it’s been helping me to practice it.

[@teamdream415]

Thank you Matt for platforming this beautiful powerful woman! I'm currently knee deep in my conversion (reversion) and she is such an amazing inspiration & example! (We're a lot alike in our personalities i feel)

[@tomdesouza3702]

I agree with you 100% that we should not intentionally do deliberately do something to hurt someone and should always do our best to treat others like Our Lady would. I also believe we should not think others are doing things intentionally to hurt us. And should rejoice like the saints did when made fun of or think some is being mean. The Little Flower went out of her way to spend time with sisters she found difficult to better herself and learn to love everyone as God does.

[@nyccatholic2765]

So REAL. I've burned so many bridges from my anger, pride, sharp tongue-thrashing, lack of charity, and loss of humility. Other than that, I'm a Saint :) In other "words", thank you for this hard to swallow spiritual-life lesson. I've got more work to do (and more Sins to Confess) than I realized before hearing this.

[@joyhulecki6717]

Such a valuable talk ! Thank you for sharing wise truths. Teasing is also one of my love languages and it often goes awry. Praying for gentleness now

[@talithajalandoni2927]

Thank you, Mother Natalia! I did not expect to hear this at all. I'm so happy to find another kindred spirit in you. Teasing is also one of my main love languages. And for a while I've been feeling like I'm also being called to be more gentle (bec. I tend to be sarcastic with my jokes, and I also got confirmations that some people took it the opposite as to what I intended which is to love them). I just can't believe how spot on this is with me and how we are alike. So thank you so much and God bless you more! ❤

[@Lukebarca]

Another very convicting message from Mother Natalia.

[@kulakfamiliy966]

Thank you for helping to make me a better light to the world.

[@marialauradiazpena5886]

Thank you Mother Natalia ❤️ God bless you

[@nicoellesage]

i'm not religious in the slightest but i am spiritual and i loved this including the prayer, thank you

[@robmcdonagh8367]

Thank you Mother Natalia your humble honest no nonsense approach always adds more fuel to my faith thank you sincerely and God bless you and keep you. Love from Ireland 🇮🇪

[@Hex_tarot]

Gentle with one self is so important. Thank you for this teaching.

[@chaplainhyena1523]

Thank you Mthr Natalia :-) . Teasing has its place. Personally I find persistent teasing a bit irritating as I would like to be taken seriously some of the time at least. Yes teasing can be fun and loving but its all about the context. God Bless you Mthr Natalia. (From a Deacon in South Africa)

[@user-jp7ms1zt7r]

Outstanding talk, especially the part about us being accountable to God for our words.

[@nelli6086]

With all love and respect we all need to hear this❤

[@BA-mf4gi]

Thank you, Mother Natalia❤

[@Biblejuice83]

I need mother to do like 100 more of these Mr. Fradd

[@Zuzanna.1975]

Mother Natalia, thank you for this. Your message was so important for me who constantly struggle to be gentle with my teenage children. Lord, make my heart soft and gentle 🙏❤️🙏

[@fashionkiller5052]

Me too. Struggling with my teenage sons. All the best.

[@therese_paula]

I love that she sought the intercession of St. John Paul 2 in her closing prayer

[@JacksonC-8000]

Thank you so much, Mother Natalia! This was an amazing video and definitely one I needed to hear. Imagining Jesus teasing me with love warms my heart. Thank you for taking time to make these videos. You're just getting started and they're already terrific. May Mary keep you forever!

[@EvelynAstegno]

Thank you sister!

[@healingfoundations101]

Ugh man.... I have such a huge struggle with this. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

[@DominicMazoch]

For a person who has been bullied, a tease could really hurt the bullied one.

[@SimoneFitpravida]

Perfect timing and I would love to hear more on this!

[@jcrlw]

This video was recommended to me after literally an hour ago when I was thinking about this. Thank you God 🙏🏻

[@Paulo_Sa_Pereira]

This is awesome and so needed. Thank you. I need to grow on gentleness. It's difficult to me when evangelizing and experiencing the closeness/coldness/lukewarmness of hearts to Christ, especially of Catholics. I'll keep with prayer and penance for Catholics and ask for your prayers for me 🙏❤️

[@arv1233]

Perfect timing for me to hear this. Thank you.

[@triciaklug8097]

This was so helpful. Your words are humbling, gentle, and easy to receive. Thank you.

[@stephenedwardleemusic8997]

Excellent view of this ! Its always been in my nature to tease in the same way. And its brought some tough times with certain people. Im learning to mind my ways as well and I really loved your story. Always inspired by your presence in our faith.

[@bonniel4325]

Mother Natalia, you are so courageous to share this experience. I have to tell you, I tend to tread carefully around new women friends who grew up with brothers. They tend to tease more, and be more brusque and blunt in their speech. You had to develop toughness growing up with all those yahoo brothers of yours. The upside is you have great self-confidence. Your friend could have been more honest in the moment to let you know the teasing was a bit much. I grew up with profoundly verbally cruel and insensitive parents, yet they were hot house flowers in receiving any joking or playful kidding from me. I love your wise insights.

[@MBarberfan4life]

I feel like I get angry too quickly; that I'm impatient and insecure. That's what the Holy Spirit is showing me. I need to have the fruits of the Spirit, not the "fruits" of demons

[@harmonicproportions6588]

You may find benefit from the book Unseen Warfare

[@gailsingle2624]

Beautiful message. Very needed for me.

[@ustuppy]

God bless you Mother.

[@Solangie151]

Thank you for sharing this dear Mother Natalia

[@lizbaker2960]

I so needed to hear this.

[@chloeachappell]

I needed to hear this so much. ❤️

[@_tdprater]

Love these videos with Mthr Natalia.

[@anniehendrix2623]

This has been something on my heart recently. Thank you!

[@euengelion]

Thank you for your words, Mother Natalia. They’re sorely needed for me and on my journey. Heavenly Father bless you always.

[@paulom1315]

Mother Natalia my dear Aunt name she is an inspirational holy women...also great needed video appreciate 🙏❤🙌 📿

[@TheOldWay192]

Excellent sermon

[@AmyManny]

Thank you. I needed this.

[@xelan8549]

When I read „beginning to pray“ I couldn’t imagine how it looks when we do all that is recommended by Archbishop Bloom, but that finishing prayer was precise in its words, concentrated, knocking at the gates of heaven in poverty and directed at the center of our being. Thank you Mother for all that you and Fr. Michael have done for my spiritual development and for all your prayers. May the Lord our God multiply all that is holy within you and make of your spiritual children a legion of saints. Amen.

[@1annewatkins]

Beautiful. Thank you so much.

[@cynthiahall9297]

This is beautiful and her sincerity makes it very meaningful. ❤

[@MarianaZelenjuk]

This was so lovely!

[@Artty-fl8ul]

Fantastic! Thank you so much for this. I so needed it.

[@ChesRokas]

Wisdom that is learned in the hidden part. Thank you God!

[@sketch9306]

Thank you for your honesty and resources!

[@mariawells8026]

This was an excellent sharing. Thank you!

[@bahbahnosh]

These videos are beautiful, thank you Mother Natalia.

[@watermelon38snow]

I needed this today. Thank you and God bless you.

[@josephc9963]

Thank you Mother Natalia, this was a great lesson to hear!

[@renita941]

I need to be more gentle too!!! I always like to be kind and gentle. I always had this desire to be gentle and kind from when I was small but unfortunately society makes fun of you when you want to be kind and calls you dumb 😢, I hate that!!! Thank you Mother Natalia❤ also I will be praying the litany of humility this lent 😊🙏

[@lillienwaligora6082]

For kids that were raised in a broken home this one is a hard pill to swallow, I’m the oldest sister and come from a broken home, in my teens I was so much in my masculine that it was the hardest thing for me to acknowledge that I am already a young woman, it’s still a battle for me

[@righteousrebellion90]

Perfect segway into lent! This is one of the things I'm aiming for this lent and so this was spot on. Thank you. ❤

[@ThePeacefulFrog]

I needed this video so much. Thank you Mother Natalia ❤️

[@ppazautomation]

Yes. Needed this.

[@evelynmom2902]

Thank you Mother Natalia! I related so much to this. Now I know what I’m going to work on this lent! ❤

[@Annie-lu5rt]

Beautiful teaching. God Bless You.

[@hayley1863]

I needed this ❤

[@markh6614]

Thank you. This was painful to hear but much needed.

[@blondie2775]

I so needed this today! I struggle with not being gentle and I am really trying to be more gentle. Thank you and God bless you!

[@CatholicBaseball8]

So funny, I told myself earlier today that I need to listen to something on gentleness, and then later I seen this on my watch later que, God is good! Good talk, ty sister! Gentleness is related to Blessed are the Meek which destroys the sin of envy.

[@archangelsaphalon8215]

thank you sister so much. God bless you and keep you!!!

[@AgapeJiuJitsu-nz4vj]

So beautiful mother Natalia your heart and your words of wisdom ❤️. Soli Deo Gloria !!!

[@Tash13286]

Such a timely lesson for me to be gentle . I am grateful God has seen my desire and desperation for change in order to be more gentle . I tease people I love too . My friends cop a lot of it but I pray they know it is in good fun . I will check in with them . Thank you Jesus , Mother Mary , my guardian Angel for always convicting my heart and Also to you Mother Natalia x

[@ProdigalSon70X7]

i needed this thank you Mother Natalia God Bless 🙏🏼

[@bethedoG...gohome]

Thank you for your honest witness.

[@DominicMazoch]

A true Catholic Man, is a GENTLEMAN. No matter what Rite, or Form of Rite

[@robynbeach3198]

So true! Sometimes we forget how rooted in Catholicism chivalry is!❤❤❤

[@hischild16]

thank you, Mother Natalia. You speak to me and provide me with online spiritual direction. thank you. thank you. thank you.

[@Be_Still206]

What a great video to remind me to be gentle

[@oliviarodriguez84]

Thank you, Mother! ❤ Such beautiful and vulnerable sharing. It brought up something that happened this week where I was curt and not gentle. I have reached out to my friend to emphasise how much I care for her. Thank you Holy Spirit for this prompting 🙏

[@AG-kr1my]

Needed this ❤

[@mikethemonsta15]

This is so excellent thank you this will really help my friends who aren't gentle with me

[@crowsnest2007]

Beautiful reflection and something to aspire to! -Kat