Comparison is the Thief of Joy!

Comparison is the Thief of Joy! | Mthr. Natalia

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@jorklind 9 ай бұрын

Being single at Mass - and not even part of a Catholic family, so I sit alone. This hits home. I can’t tell you how many times I have sat alone, surrounded by people my age with spouses and children - and allowing myself to be taken out of the moment wishing I could have their gifts. Or even seeing people move on from the ministry I am involved in to start families. Ignoring the gift that my singleness allows me to pour out for the service of others. Even if that new season in life never comes, I still have a worth and a purpose and still have hope to work towards. Thanks for something to think about and a little healthy tear, mother.

@elalaube8480 6 ай бұрын

I love you Mother Natalia. English is my second language, but the way you speak I can understand. I feel I learn a lot from You. God bless you.

@thethreefriends3002 7 ай бұрын

These episodes with Mother Natalia are so healing! Thank you!❤️

@christusenciaga 9 ай бұрын

We love Mother Natalia!

@carissimaamicitiaest5535 9 ай бұрын

We do! ❤🙏🇻🇦

@twopintsofmilk 9 ай бұрын

My name is twopintsofmilk and I endorse this announcement.

@anajuliasilveira7953 9 ай бұрын

We absolutely do!! ❤

@williamrussell6941 9 ай бұрын

I'm so glad Mother was added to the Pints with Aquinas line-up. She is a Blessing to us!!

@Ca8tisawesome 9 ай бұрын

I used to be really envious of the Blessed Virgin. I was hurt by the fact that God would give her the grace of being Immaculately conceived, and not me. A few realizations helped heal me from these envious feelings and thoughts: 1. Mary’s Immaculate conception does not just bless her, but it blesses the entirety of the Body of Christ! 2. The Lord desires to love me just as deeply as He loves our Blessed Mother. 3. Mary loves me and wants to share her graces with me! 4. This envy really stems from a great shame of my own sin. Rather than despairing and hating myself for my own sin, I should repent and hope in the Lord’s mercy! That same mercy saved the Blessed Virgin from original sin and saves me as well! Now, I truly love my Mother and consecrate myself to her Immaculate Heart daily!

@anajuliasilveira7953 9 ай бұрын

Saint Phillip Neri (if I’m not mistaken) once said that when God wants to grow a specific virtue in us He usually tests us with the opposite. I’ve seen on people that are victorious over this temptation of envying the Blessed Virgin end up loving her way much more and are very specially devoted to her ❤

@isaiahjohnson7427 9 ай бұрын

We also got to remember the crosses Mary had to bear She fled her home Was at constant threat of Jesus being seen as being born out of wedlock And she watched her son die and held his lifeless body Mary was amazing and I never would have been able to do that and honestly I’m a little (a lot) happy that I wasn’t the one chosen to have to do that

@WilhelminoJulianoWaipatiBean 8 ай бұрын

This one is interesting, could u give any specific resources and references that maybe I could reach and learn?? @@anajuliasilveira7953

@marigolddeleon4564 4 ай бұрын

WOw! I thought I was the only person who is foolish to feel what you felt. Thanks for sharing.

@diamonddust9889 4 ай бұрын

Weird thing to be jealous of

@nataliediscovers 9 ай бұрын

Having mother on the show is one of the biggest blessings of 2024. I already see how much it helps me spirually to listen to her wisdom.

@mariamaria2751 2 ай бұрын

Why is she morher and bot sister. I dont understand

@FlexCathedrafromIG 9 ай бұрын

The timing of this video couldn't have been any more perfect. I'm currently a nursing student in my second semester. I'm repeating my second semester. I've had setback after setback and frustration after frustration in nursing school. The past couple of months I've been seeing people that I started the nursing program with already in their fourth and final semester just weeks away from graduating. I'm very happy for them but at the same time I am filled with such bitterness because I keep thinking about how I could have been in that position with them. People that are no doubt smarter than I and others who literally had mental breakdowns in the start of the semester with me and look at them now! I cannot fail another semester because if I do I am out of the program and I surely will not put myself through this torture again even after waiting 5 years for readmittance. It's been rough and I don't have a plan B at the moment. So it's very difficult to not compare myself and to appreciate the gifts which the good Lord has put upon me. This video put things in a little positive light for me and I'm looking at it in a different perspective. Little by little, day by day, step by step I will continue to appreciate the many blessings that the Lord has given to me a wretched sinner.

@mrsandmom5947 8 ай бұрын

I’m in my 60’s and I can tell you younger people. Do not look upon others for happiness or for you thinking you need to become someone other than yourself

@TeaHeart22 9 ай бұрын

This Catholic Faith is so beautiful. Thank you Mother Natalia for being a sister in Christ to us all. How amazing to have such a beautiful sibling to look up to. God has made a blessed family that's for sure.

@candace7310 9 ай бұрын

I am aways amazed by how easy and true these explanations are and yet so many of us wouldn't even get to know it on our own

@littlechildinbigworld 7 ай бұрын

that's how God lets His whole Body work together edifying one another, having an opportunity to bear fruit others can eat which will benefit both:)

@Steve-130 8 ай бұрын

This is beautiful - I hope I can quote you on this: "Jesus and the devil often times both want us to see our sin. The difference is this, Jesus wants us to see our sin and to do son in light, in the glory of the resurrection, in hope. He wants us to have a self-awareness that leads to contrition that leads to repentance. The devil wants us to see our sin and be self-focused, which leads to self-hatred, which leads to despair. Jesus reveals our sin to us to lead us into relationship, and the devil wants us to be led into isolation." - Mother Natalia

@josemue154 7 ай бұрын

She made me cry with that closing prayer. Thank you Mother Natalia.

@IONov990 9 ай бұрын

Thank you Mother Natalia!!! I compare myself with everyone and I become annoyed with my shortcomings. God has given each of us a unique role. I often question my self worth. It is so easy for me to envy women who are naturally beautiful or have that "cool" factor. It is nice to feel better than others but when you compare you can feel worse. I feel like I'm always trying to keep up with others

@Laurefin 8 ай бұрын

I’m so grateful to these new videos with Mother Natalia! ❤

@roseparente7839 9 ай бұрын

I look forward to these every Sunday. Thank you Mother Natalia 💚🤍❤️

@CTdonnner1991 8 ай бұрын

I try to remember this always but it's difficult at times. I know the Lord knows my heart and how I so deeply desire a family but I always try to place my trust in Him and until the day comes, should He see fit, that I have that I will do whatever I can to grow in faith and in means so I can fully be the man my wife and children would need me to be. God bless you Mother Natalia, this video was immensely helpful to me.

@caterinadc5567 9 ай бұрын

Prayers would be appreciated, as I struggle with this. Even (forgive me, consecrated sisters and brothers everywhere) watching this video: comparison-based bitterness rose up in me listening to a sister talk about how her gift is for tax receipts so she does that, while a different sister doesn't have to do the tax receipts and does different work. As a single person in the world (no community, no spouse, no family), I have to do everything for myself, In isolation. And I'm equally ungifted (as Mother Natalia here says she is) at many things but whereas she has different community members to step in and do the things she's less gifted at, I have to do all those things for myself, because I have no one else to do them for me. To be honest it can sometimes be harder to listen to consecrated religious than almost anyone else, because of this sort of thing. They just seem to have SO much privilege and ease, compared to involuntary hermits living and supporting themselves alone in the world. I've been to monasteries. They usually eat better quality food and have more leisure (and more peacefully-ordered work lives) than the rest of us. And I'm not even begrudging them that. I'm genuinely glad they have those privileges. But it makes it hard to take advice from them. Does anyone have advice of holy single people to learn from? Unmarried, unconsecrated role models, who understand what it's like being a Catholic alone in the world having to do everything for yourself, including the things you CAN'T do so you just have to suffer the ill effects of those things not getting done properly? Day in, day out, until you die? I could honestly do with hearing advice from these people. It's be a less bitter pill to swallow I think. Though honestly, prayers would be appreciated so I can be less bitter and more able to hear from people I think are privileged. The point of this video is about not comparing, and the reason I clicked on it in the first place is that I realize this is a problem for me and agree in principle that stopping comparing would probably help me be happier. And I see all these commenters on here making purely positive comments and that seems so healthy and I wish I had in my soul whatever you have. But I just feel so lonely and bitter, and I can't seem to receive consolation about that from listening to people who have the comfort of friends, family, or community. It doesn't feel like they REALLY get it or can really be speaking into the actual life I'm living. And maybe they even do. But it's be easier to hear the "don't compare your life to others" message from someone with similar sorrows to myself. It feels like being a hungry beggar in the street hearing the rich man dining at the banquet tell you not to compare yourself to him.

@themshann 5 ай бұрын

Hello! I don’t know who you are and your whole story, but in a way I understand what you feel. I have been there. Envy and jealousy, although not good things, can be used to make us act on something-for the better. For example, instead of saying, Oh she’s so sexy. I’m so jealous. Why can’t I be that? Reframe your mind into thinking, Wow she is so sexy. I want to be like that too. HOW can I be like that? The answer is of course healthy diet and exercise. Discipline, delayed gratification. I am craving for cookies right now. If I eat it I will feel better…but after that I’d feel disgusted. If I don’t eat it, I can start the small step towards my health goal. And so in the meantime I will find other things to do to distract myself in a good way to avoid temptation. Then I continue those good habits of healthy diet and exercise and I willingly achieve my goal of being sexy. First of all for my health and to give glory to God. The confidence I gain is just a result of it. I am sorry for the long and different example, but the point as I said is, what can I do in my own way to be happy? Use your envy to strive to be better. Take inspiration instead of being bitter. Another advice: romanticize your life. Take pleasure in small things. For example, you have to do all the household chores by yourself. So how do you make it more enjoyable? Think not of, Ugh this is so tiring, why do I need to do this? Reframe it as, Thank you Lord for this house. I need to clean because I have a house of my own. While you are at it, listen to music or podcast while cleaning. Heck, listen to Marie Condo for example when cleaning so you will be motivated. Finding joy and pleasure in mundane things removes bitterness. I hope it all makes sense. God bless!

@philyra8991 2 ай бұрын

Most people do not live in convents, and more and more people leave alone. Your struggle is shared with millions of lone souls. Furthermore, there will always be something nobody can do, even in a family or a community, and those who can do it are not always good at it. It seems that you are being hit by the waves sent by the world, as we all are, but focusing on something you can't change. I do too, too often, and I have often despaired, God forgive me. I think the main reason is, that we are often too blinded by the things we think are bad to see our graces. I say this because another talk of Mother Natalia helped me realize it. I spent years in a pretty dark place because I was isolated, felt helpless, strove for things I couldn't have, until I realized that being in the place I was had probably saved my soul. Having said that, that doesn't mean I have to be stuck there forever, I don't know. We all have choices, even those we don't want to make.

@thatsfunny2051 2 ай бұрын

I feel like this sometimes too. Being a single woman, at times I really feel the *weight* of how everything in my life is going to need yo be handled by me. Earning enough to support myself, planning for a retirement and aged care for myself, managing all of life's little things -- if I drop the bundle, there's a problem. I can't delegate to anyone else.

@RelaxAndMeditateChannel 9 ай бұрын

I really needed to hear this as my life has recently been turned upside down and I've found myself being jealous of others (something I have never really struggled with before) you have given me a new perspective. THANK YOU!

@JW_______ 9 ай бұрын

Thank you Mr. Natalia. I stuggle with this, low key, on a weekly if not daily basis, I believe. I'm not Catholic but I'm always happy to call Mother or Father those who have committed their life and vocation to Christ in genuine devotion.

@MariaA-pf8yd 8 ай бұрын

One of the best talks I’ve heard on this topic ! Thank you Jesus ! Thank you Mother N !

@im3369 8 ай бұрын

What a humble and wise and honest Sr Natalia ❤

@barb4645 9 ай бұрын

I’ve been searching for peace from this kind of issue. Just taking a step back to listen thoroughly to what you’ve been saying, Mother Natalia. It’s very helpful thank you

@donaldkeith139 3 ай бұрын

These clips are invaluable. You are helping this helpless sinner to heal ♥

@collegesuccess 3 ай бұрын

Wonderful talk, Mother Natalia! *** ENVY, indeed, is the great sin of this age! +Peace+ & All Good! Cheers!*** 😇

@JackieKeilthy 9 ай бұрын

God bless you Mother Natalia .. you are such a gift to us all… absolutely love these videos. You’re truly using your God given talents, ❤

@gather.sip.flourish 9 ай бұрын

Thank you Mother Natalia!❤

@jacinthahenriques7817 5 ай бұрын

Thank you Mother Natalia. God bless you.

@mostreal907 9 ай бұрын

I see Mother Natalia and I click. Simple.

@shell41arotc 5 ай бұрын

That point on the Pharisee and Publican hit hard - thank you fir that insight!

@TaylorRose91 9 ай бұрын

Thank you so much these are what I need every week ❤ God bless you!

@piaagbayani4949 9 ай бұрын

Thank you for this, Mother Natalia! I took down notes in my journal so that I can go back to it when I forget how loving and faithful our God is. ❤

@evrebop 9 ай бұрын

This landed in my feed at the exact time that I needed to hear it. Thank you 🙏

@1annewatkins 9 ай бұрын

Once again you hit it out of the ball park. Absolutely brilliant . Thank you sooooooo much.

@lisaculbertson9909 9 ай бұрын

Thank you, Mother Natalia.❤ I needed this message more than you know. Praise be to God the Holy Spirit put this message on your heart.

@fabioeberharddini4073 9 ай бұрын

Thank you Mthr. Natalia for the great insight about how differently Jesus and the devil make us look at our sins. That's the true only perspective where to place our life

@dawndiscusses5685 9 ай бұрын

Thank you ❤ much needed message, and you delivered it so well.

@Loolooette 9 ай бұрын

Truth!!! Thank you for sharing this!

@philomousia 9 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for this, Mother Natalia. God bless you.

@tamaradelacruz3349 4 ай бұрын

Thank you Mother Natalia ❤️✝️

@adelidaa1 9 ай бұрын

So much to say but I’ll just leave it at thank you!! You are in my prayers Mother Natalia❤️

@jeromevillanueva2207 9 ай бұрын

Your walk and talk with Fr. Gregory must be a sight to behold.

@ValentinBrutusBura 3 ай бұрын

Always wear your veil. *That's how Mary discovered "goodness in people."* It could be an extremely nice story to write, actually. :)

@jennamccaskill6661 29 күн бұрын

Thank you! Great message!

@kayleebaginski 9 ай бұрын

SOLID and deeply edifying listen!!!! So good!!!

@brob368 9 ай бұрын

God bless you Mother. That was very wise.

@jrl507 9 ай бұрын

Thank you for bring “comparison” up as a prayer focus …we may find ares of our life where this influence needs to be probed for impact on our decisions. I think it may be driven by our pride… God’s peace

@agathacamilladcruz4938 9 ай бұрын

Thank you, Mother Natalia. I needed to hear this badly.

@lindaharper2870 9 ай бұрын

Thank you for your insights Mother Natalia. So helpful

@MarziaTurello 8 ай бұрын

that s how i vonstantly feel.. i m not ..confident in my identity.. i don t know what i m good at and atm i have too much resentment and fear ..

@robmcdonagh8367 9 ай бұрын

Thank you Mother Natalia your wisdom shared on Sin was beautiful it really helped.

@jamesbonner7251 9 ай бұрын

Truly brilliant as always ❤

@alphacause 9 ай бұрын

Mother Natalia, thank you so much for this presentation. It is an indictment of my own personality, and your wisdom in tbis matter is a much needed corrective in my life. I have a persistent tendency to compare myself with others, and that disposition has led to a whole host of counterproductive and hurtful behaviors, from being jealous, engaging in gossip to expressing condescending comments towards others. This is not to mention how this fixation on the ability of others detracts from time I could have spent cultivating my own strengths and ameliorating my own shortcomings. I need to listen to this video every time I find myself envious of another person's good fortune or abilities.

@gabrielviana008 9 ай бұрын

We urge to a podcast with Mthr. Natalia + Fr. Gregory Pine!

@jopa24601 9 ай бұрын

Thank You Mother Natalia!

@me-ds2il 9 ай бұрын

Skufias (head cap) clothing, which form a part of canonical attire awarded to monks, nuns and Bishops, are a mark of honor. While nuns and monks are prescribed black colored skufias, clergy can don these clothing items in various liturgical colors such as claret, gray, violet, red and purple. I love the skuffia. Unfortunately I'm not of the profession to wear it

@mateaskender1292 9 ай бұрын

Thank you,I felt God's mercy through you 🥺❤

@_Thats_Right 9 ай бұрын

Bless us, sister. God guide you and thank you for your insights

@ReminisceLogic 8 ай бұрын

God bless you Mother. Thank you

@kevingabriel8642 Ай бұрын

God bless this woman...

@SteadmanShorts 9 ай бұрын

absolutely fantastic... thank you

@LionBaller15 8 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing this!

@yolandagutierrez7465 9 ай бұрын

Am a widow too! 💜🙏🏻💜 Thank you!

@Olivier1 9 ай бұрын

Pure gold. Thank you Mthr Natalia. Is it possible to distill this into a small piece of writing? Or add some links to scriptures. I feel it's something Jesus could have said, and you're explaining it to us now 😅.

@DominicMazoch 9 ай бұрын

Some of thos stresesvcome from consumerism and the false need for stuff interfering with our judgement.

@nickm9182 4 ай бұрын

I needed this today

@LizethSandoval006 8 ай бұрын

Gracias a Dios por Madre Natalia 🥰

@triciaklug8097 9 ай бұрын

Great video. Thank you so much!

@ValentinBrutusBura 3 ай бұрын

So, do that "Silva method" thing for three months, except when you're dis-embodied you imagine, in your mind, that your body is perfectly transparent and you are able to walk through walls, just like Casper :))

@walthutch7485 9 ай бұрын

Glory to him forever!

@martinarooney228 9 ай бұрын

Wise words

@_Thats_Right 9 ай бұрын

Your final point was effective.

@DominicMazoch 9 ай бұрын

There is one thing in the LR we meed to stop doing. Putting stuff in sentences so complex and compound that a PhD in English could not diagram it. The non IN BRIEF canons of the CCC are bad about this. Have things in a way George Jestson or Archie Bunker could understand. Without water ing down the Faith. Archbishop Sheen and Mother here are good examples

@alphacause 9 ай бұрын

I totally concur. Much of the catechism is written with such sophisticated rhetoric as to be inaccessible to the common man. Employing esoteric terminology may make those who drafted the catechism sound learned, but it alienates those who seek to understand and follow their faith, who are mostly laymen.