How To Become Emotionally Intelligent W/ Dr. Susan David

[@spis4753]

Not "I am sad" but "I am noticing that I am feeling sad". The power of the language we use for our experiences. Beautiful!

[@loukol]

So important!!! Once I started to implement this, so much changed! ❤️❤️

[@TheHolisticPsychologist]

Yes, The power of language!

[@scottbartel8163]

There is sadness

[@jbeezy8245]

Yes I just learned this language! I love it. I am not what emotion I'm feeling and when I say I am sad I take it inside of me, making it mine but when I say I am noticing I feel sad it's a completely different feeling

[@christinecardoza7253]

Thank you for commenting. It sunk in more seeing it in print. 🤩Our words are so important. Innerstand 🙏⭐️

[@TheHolisticPsychologist]

#selfhealers, the KZbin CHANNEL IS BACK! We just did a re-launch and will have new videos for you every Saturday at 12 pacific. Let me know what you want to see on the new channel, as always I'm listening!

[@TheEssenceIsLove]

Deeply grateful for the wisdom you share, just subscribed to your channel 🌷🙏❤☺

[@helenryan2848]

I think Gabor Mate insight into trauma is very helpful and he would be a very interesting person to interview.

[@Stars_intheskys]

Thank you for this episode I love the Medfor of the blue sky and not the clouds that pass by thank you

[@aileenkiim]

Im 23 and just started therapy. This presence of staying with your uncomfortable emotion and giving it compassion and an ear is what i've been learning. it's been incredibly life-changing and awakening. Thank you for this conversation

[@theresawaveyme4482]

Brilliant...the emotional reaction is the sign post pointing to our values...like what is important to me here? I'm seeing this as developing a truthful relationship with myself...MIND blown.

[@HebronY9]

Jordan Peterson!!! Conversation on how young men can have a balance with emotion while still being powerful.

[@Lauren-ey7rp]

"I'm not going to be defined by this experience." .... I realize some people overshadow my own shadow, and we don't have to create this whole narrative.. Truly enjoyed this holistic conversation. Thank you

[@loukol]

Nicole and Susan?!!!!!! My two absolute idols, I’m tearing up and it has barely started

[@TheHolisticPsychologist]

This warmed my heart. Appreciated!

[@zejarra]

I have to unashamedly say that you are a beautiful woman - There is divine feminine energy in you that shines when you smile.....

[@Phor0phor]

What is it in you that drives you to help people in the ways that you do? I may never know, but I am so grateful that you chose to act on that drive and passion. Thank you!

[@Userhandle937]

The way Dr Susan speaks so softly is so comforting, really helps connect to her words even more

[@makeyourday3722]

This is amazing. It is so powerful for me to understand over and over again how our thoughts and feelings change instantly if we just look at the situation from a tiny bit different perspective. Information that you gave us is life saving in my opinion. Thank you so much for giving us the opportunity to learn and grow.

[@watermelonenlaplaya]

No story must own us. We own our stories❤️

[@Stars_intheskys]

I am listening to this episode again to improve my self really really listening to the words spoken i appreciate this episode thank you to the both of you.

[@tiffanycole110]

Ahhhh!!! Yes!!! Tweaking our self talk, to not identify as an emotion, but instead acknowledge that it’s an experience we are travelling through. This is how we stand in our power, and witness. Empowering.

[@clarapowell6381]

Thank you for this💕 I coach children in social emotional literacy. I live in South Africa 🇿🇦 so the topic of emotional literacy is still very unknown. It's not an easy career to be in because I've never had formal training it's a career that I was lead to intuitively, it's my calling so I just keep advocating the importance in developing these skills..... it's been the longest and toughest journey because I've had to do alot of selfwork in dealing with all my own emotions growing up right into adulthood....I want children to understand that all emotions are valid and important and to teach them how to navigate them in postive ways , especially the hard and difficult ones. Since discovering you and the work you do, it's the first time in my life that I haven't felt alone. Your work speaks to my soul and I'm incredibly grateful for all your posts, blogs and videos.

[@denisestevens572]

I am greatful for your work. This is exactly what I am working on in myself. I can see the changes I am making within my amazing daughter. I love how we can change.❤

[@chrislewis-uk]

Absolutely amazing, thank you so much, I’ve had an apiphany and you’ve really helped me uncover one of my core values. This I’ve identified comes from my parents and time at school. Thank you!

[@smarandamaier9334]

Oh my God, my dear Dr. Nicole, you are my gift from the Universe, I can’t stress enough how much enlightenment and good will you brought into my life! And this interview speaks so much my internal language and hit the right spot! Thank you thank you thank you! ♥️🙏

[@ensambleconsultoriabarragan]

Amazing Guest!!! Great Dr. Susan David

[@erjolaable]

Emotions are Data not Directives is beautiful!

[@havefaithtarot]

Lots of valuable information in this. Found it interesting that she was using vortex as a way to describe being disconnected from the world as I’m a person that has been actively studying the law of attraction with Abraham Hicks’ teachings and they use the term vortex to describe a place of connection internally where all of our manifestations are and that place internally of being connected to yourself and in the receiving mode to what the universe has in store for you. I did enjoy the part about not identifying with an emotion by saying “I am sad” but instead creating space by instead framing it in a different way by saying something like “I recognize that I am feeling sad” or something of that nature instead. Interesting stuff. Good work. Also, our outfits kinda match today. 😊

[@sisthebest4810]

Can you make a video on how to heal cPTSD and the step by step process? Most of the people who are living in developing countries can't afford therapy...and are suffering from it. That would be great If you make a video on cPTSD self-healing. Thanks 💙

[@arielhrrs13]

There's a KZbin channel that I listen to that only deals with cPTSD. VERY HELPFUL. crappy childhood fairy

[@marniesullivan8000]

Thank you for your energy, efforts, teachings, wisdom and time.. I am learning so much and your helping me to find and embrace me which is something I have never wholeheartedly been able to do. I appreciate you x

[@Rav3r916]

So insightful and helpful. I can't thank you enough for sharing this with us and for allowing us to stay engaged and be more connected to who we authentically are by leaning more into our values, embracing all that is us, and be inspired to take empowering actions toward self-compassion, personal growth, and a heightened sense of awareness of all the parts that we have yet to rediscover within us, through courage and wisdom from the physical/human experience here on Earth. Thank you! Love and appreciation to all! Please continue to stay safe and healthy!

[@AlmaVidaHorseRanch]

I'm so happy your channel is back! I personally would love to see guided meditations, interviews like this one, and maybe discuss different types of holistic healing like somatic experiencing, emdr, therapy w animals, etc etc. Just some ideas for you ;) thanks for sharing with us!

[@TheHolisticPsychologist]

Thank you, More coming soon!

[@bilalhoward6424]

Dr. Nicole, you have such an inspiring skill, which is the your deep capacity to listen while interacting with someone. A skill that's very, very rare. I find it so remarkable how, given your personal example of being "voiceless", you have acquired this timeless, invaluable skill.

[@hellomynameismom3134]

This was incredibly powerful to listen to. Thank you for allowing Dr. Susan to simply share her wisdom and knowledge. Found all of it very inspiring.

[@jacquelinemcneil4868]

Can’t wait to listen! Would love to see you and Lori Gottlieb together. That would be a DREAM 😍

[@fadass88]

An absolutely brilliant conversation between two people I admire greatly

[@Wopperific]

What an informative, helpful interview. The part about moving from the umbrella label of emotions to a more grandular, clear identification and the use of language around thoughts, emotions and stories ‘as a human being you are not your emotion’ just brilliant and illuminating. Thank you both for this ❤️

[@carriearrowsmith2878]

oh wow i needed this today and learning about me and my values and trying to honour myself just wow

[@bilalhoward6424]

My word, what an amazing production. Truly insightful and educational video. Thank you so much for your efforts Dr. Nicole LePera :)

[@lanabee2732]

I'm SO excited for more videos! ❤️ One of the biggest things I struggle with in life is feeling conflicted - I have really powerful thoughts and feelings that tug me in every direction. I'd love to know more about how to connect with my intuition and differentiate between genuine intuitive feelings vs anxiety, old thought patterns etc. Also any content related to being a highly sensitive person! X

[@aheestar]

This is amazing and vital content ! Love love love u ladies , endless Gratitude 🙏❤️🧬❤️

[@vaishalivaidya7978]

I just love both of your work and this particular conversation. Thank you for bringing forth this wisdom through this conversation. If you could also bring Dr.Dan Seigal, Dr.Gabor Mate and Dr.Brene Brown on your podcast it would be a priceless blessing 😊

[@amillia4828]

Thank you both so much for this conversation 🙏🙏 This has helped really structure the many many thoughts that run through my mind every day. Will be mindful of this.

[@TheHolisticPsychologist]

Thank you so much for listening Amilli!

[@christinecardoza7253]

Brilliant conversation. Thank you!! Would love to hear a video on values now that we have this awareness if possible Dr.Nicole 🙏⭐️

[@danielarodrigues8696]

You are not the emotion. You are not that cloud or any cloud you are the SKY… powerful

[@amberdear7318]

OMG!!! So much resonance!!!

[@laurenbau3356]

Wow! My feelings are data, not directives! I work with kids and will use this. Thank you!

[@desafinada9841]

This was wonderful. Thank you! ❤

[@olganan3023]

This is such important info for living a human existence!! Just WHY are we not taught this as BASIC in school?? Oh my goodness!!

[@KP-mw6cx]

This was very informative and insightful! It reminded me a lot of the work that Dr. Sue Johnson does. Except that she’s helping people identify “core wounds” vs. “core values”. But it is a very similar concept/formula. It’s very fascinating how there’s really a common thread in most psychological teaching, exploration, and manifestation.

[@LouiseMannigel]

Oh, this is gold.

[@ceciliapena3294]

So good….I’m feeling understood in this talk ;)

[@destinyhernandez5642]

I loved this it helped me immediately

[@mindy561]

Dr. I have seen the benefits of speaking things into existence and the power of positive thinking. I am curious to know your thoughts on this work + that work and how they can be balanced to help us most impactfully.

[@Zelig_G]

Wow. Thank you 🙏🏻

[@sheindyone]

I would love to hear words to use when seeking this kind of help. I feel like when looking for help, i don't know what words to use to find the help i am seeking

[@vv7299]

You are not thr cloud, you are the sky

[@TaraRaeDev]

Super dope talk!

[@demetriusbubisi573]

"Toxic positivity" this is a completely new term to me but it's shifting the way I view positivity

[@anitabubic6094]

Are the Non been seen in childhood , is that some kind of triger? Are ours values which are not seen , are ours trigers?

[@glampreda3803]

But is it bad when you do not want to be around what triggers you? For example, of there is a toxic person who yells and screams and is aggressive and Is not safe to be around because of his unpredictability. I don't think that I'm avoiding that scenario, I'm just practicing good common sense and safety. Does that mean that I am not dealing with the issues head on. I know why the trigger and can deal with it without being around that person? Right. I feel so.

[@lisaredmond4116]

Yes, you don’t need to keep retriggering yourself to understand and heal the trigger. In fact, retriggering yourself can prevent your healing.

[@lissam8988]

There's a difference between filling emotional discomfort and a panic attack triggered. Only an individual can define what their emotional discomfort or panic trigger are. The word triggered is overused and sometimes inappropriate. Not all moments are panic attacks that is being triggered. Sometimes we are feeling emotional discomfort there's a huge difference between the two.

[@shanjaliarul6077]

I don’t get panic attacks but when I’m triggered I go through a very traumatic recap and experience really bad anxiety. I think it’s okay to validate what you don’t presume as ‘panic attack’

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[@SneakySteevy]

CBT work when the patient is open and not stuck in his ego.

[@starvethebeast6480]

Speaking of having one's autonomy threatened or impeded, 2020 anyone?

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🇮🇹💯✌💪

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[@WizRumburak]

Nothing to learn

[@mikemcghee5413]

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