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[@TheHolisticPsychologist]

#selfhealers, I hope this is helpful. Remember, our triggers are teachers. Our work is just to see them that way. -Nicole

[@sandrajovic9304]

🎀wonderful🎀

[@Mountainman1971]

Thank you 🙏 very much.

[@sandrajovic9304]

*triggers are teachers* ..............100% meant to be teachers Merch idea lol but seriously, I'm going to write that down everyday💡

[@reneeca5696]

Thank you so much! Since Christmas I’ve felt shut-down, just numbed out and blank. This month has been just so over-the-top stressful and capped off by trigger after trigger on Christmas Day. I am a Christian and pray and worship every morning, and I’ve felt so disconnected from Jesus for the last 3 weeks, just unable to really get going in either of these things. This video has opened my eyes-you are certainly gifted, I see now that I’ve been ruminating in many anxious thoughts that have effectively put a wall up around my heart-a very old habit that I conquered before with the help of scripture and His Holy Spirit. I feel absolutely blessed by hearing from you today!!❤️❤️❤️

[@beam8250]

Thank you so much for this! You have helped me immensely. My prayers were answered. 💓💕

[@Poniella81]

It’s so easy to forget all this when the trigger comes. Need a panic button that automatically plays this video! X

[@prinzessinaufderknallerbse]

I feel you :) there´s a video of Eckhart Tolle about this topic where he suggests to cultivate and invite presence (when you are in nature for example) into your life in ordinary situations, so it can be there in challenging situations. When you are in the present moment and focus on breathing it is maybe less devastating and overextending...I´m working on that and hope I´ll remember it when the next trigger is coming...best regards :)

[@britter1955]

Yes!!

[@Peresphone]

My panic button is immediately detach myself (maybe my ego) from the situation and act like im in a bird’s eye view..looking down at the scenario. Then breathe, be silent, think, thennn finally react with as little words as possible.

[@umchileanywaysso]

​@@Peresphonethis sounds healthy actually

[@galleta_2024]

I totally understand. Being codependent I react before I even process. I found a little gray stone which I call my 'gray rock' and carry it to remind me I'm in charge. Coda's are super empaths so not easy to go with the flow when ego feels attacked. Not proud of reacting but definitely happy I am an empath, I just needed to learn how to navigate unnecessary requests/comments that 'tug' and process each one as they happen. Good luck

[@gurudra]

If your mind is a garden, and your thoughts are seeds, you can either grow flowers or grow weeds

[@seanmueller556]

A poem!

[@Star-xy2zp]

Gurudra - Emotional Health & Peace ✅

[@iamenough6958]

WOW.....

[@ozywomandius2290]

And yet a weed is in the eye of the beholder. 😉

[@joycloud9080]

Crazy I just saw this saying this morning on Facebook now here! I love it!

[@monicatomlinson4392]

This is wonderful. Im 50 and 2yrs ago I went to the police and ended up in court with a deviant who sexually abused me as a 8/9yr old. I kept all that in for 48yrs. It was horrendous. But one of the most important things I learnt then to help me through court, was the breathing. I have learnt your other 2 points since then. I love watching your videos. They are soothing in themselves, just listening to you....thank you. Ps..... he got 20yrs in prison!

[@karendarling1]

You're strong sister !! I wish all your dreams come true !

[@Mountainman1971]

Good for you for finding your voice! 🙌❤

[@ozywomandius2290]

Wow, this is amazing! Way to be the hero of your own story! 🙏🏼

[@sandrasim1]

Wow! So much respect and admiration for you, such a strong woman. Wishing you a wonderful life ahead

[@monicatomlinson4392]

@@sandrasim1 thank you lovely. Its been horrendous, but im starting to live my life properly now. If anybody ever needs any support or advice from me regarding child sexual abuse and healing, im always available to help xx

[@forjusticeandtruth]

Better idea when triggered is to find a way to release the energy in the quickest way ie through exercise.. breathing is great but if you're highly traumatized, let's be real, you're not about to sit and breathe when you're enraged. So my suggestion would be go for a walk, run, anything that allows you to release the tension and cope with the discomfort of emotions without allowing it to overcome you... just a suggestion because as a therapist, a lot of my clients say they are way too stimulated to sit and breathe when triggered because of the intensity of emotions. Also don't underestimate how long you can stay triggered... I have had to sit for HOURS at times when triggered before my system calms down. So be patient with yourself, sometimes it takes a while for the emotions to pass through. Thank you for the video ❤️🙌

[@cherylkass175]

Also valid thanks

[@Sanjas.83]

Thx but at work I can't suddenly go for a walk. What could help me at work?

[@ecb1979]

I was in the middle of a trigger when I found this and worked myself out of a potential spiral. Thank you.

[@2024Summer]

Me too 🙋🏽‍♀️

[@RachelVHill]

Learning how to control my reactions has been one of the BEST skills I've learned. Thank you for this video.

[@tnt01]

Me too.

[@bottlefly5124]

same here I'm triggered so fast. Now i have to tell myself 'don't respond' whenever a thought arises!

[@kobalt77]

@@bottlefly5124 This is me too, I think these 3 steps will help me though.

[@kobalt77]

This is what I have to work on also.

[@RachelVHill]

@@kobalt77 It takes time. You really have to be intentional and wait a 1/2 second before responding! It's like a muscle... just keep working at it.

[@carolyn3961]

Thank you from all of us still suffering from past wounds. So refreshing to be validated instead of being critised.

[@tortoiseperson]

Wish I had seen this 2 hours ago. Massively triggered, behaved very regressively then felt massive guilt from self and others ("confused or critical" exactly as you say).

[@kcoker9189]

I had the same problem this morning... I was triggered from an interaction with someone else and let it take over my mood, ended up snapping at my kids. Now that I've got some space to calm down and clear my head I know I can move forward with love and compassion the rest of the day. Whereas before I would've let it ruin my entire weekend. Not 100% the outcome I would've liked, but that's still huge progress for me.

[@danielak7204]

I had a similar thing happen. Being able to show ourselves compassion is so difficult but so important 😩

[@maggiesalle2256]

You are not alone!

[@thewewguy8t88]

My reaction is make negative KZbin comments. Cuz a lot of times what can trigger me is the stuff I see in the video. That being said I usallly get told if I feel this way keep scrolling. Like honestly I feel like most humans have this magical power to just not be triggered.

[@sarakh9261]

An hour ago I had an argument with my family. My mother came home from a fam gathering, she said I should've gone, everyone was there. I told her how when we were kids she wouldn't let us go to these gatherings/functions and now when we don't wanna go you force us to go. She was like wow I don't even remember stop talking about the past, everyone sided with her, told me not talk like this to mother. I'm still crying, somehow can't bring myself to stop. When my siblings have a problem my mother listens to them though her help to them looks like denying their experiences lovingly but when I say something she just outright shuts me down like I'm not supposed to have difficult feelings and hold up myself all the time. This hurts a lot. I've completely turned towards myself for space, support, love. I'm so grateful to contents like that and the healing community, it's much easier now. Idk where I'd have ended up without, I'm tuning in. I'm sorry for the long rant. I feel much better now

[@MiillieMesh]

I tell my family how it is despite how many are against me. Fuck them. My feelings are valid & so are yours.

[@ravenel2]

I’ve learned that someone makes negative comments containing the word “you,” it usually has nothing whatsoever to do with me, and may be an attack on their part where they are actually purposely trying to trigger me. Once you get that, the trigger goes away, and you are like, yeah, uh huh, I should have gone. Watch for these objectively and turn it into a game. You should have done this, you look tired, you were really emotional, etc.

[@elhadjdiallo633]

Yes indeed Alack of self love is the root cause of all suffering in this universe.....we are more than enough

[@nihalnihal9356]

Same for me. Honestly, they always be saying how disrespectful it is to tAlK tO eLdeRlYs lIke ThaT but Idc I want the same amount of respect back as I am giving. I didn't choose to be younger than them and I can't change it, but I somehow seem to be able to use my brain better than those who have "been living 20 years longer on this earth" than I have.

[@davesmith5309]

Just disown her.

[@leeboriack8054]

Great information. •Identify our emotional triggers and how they pop up. • When triggers happen, calmly acknowledge and replace with a positive reaction.

[@evaaller4406]

😂 the word “Ego” triggered me. I’m an only child & so I’ve heard the word egocentric easily thrown about in a presumptuous prejudice off the cusp way so many times in my life and I’ve had to self heal from many who tried to devalue my worth. Then I learned that sometimes people are just hurting so they’re hurtful. I stopped taking these things personally & internalizing it but I guess it was thanks to my strong “ego” as you call it, that protected me. Now my ego is out of wack from prior to learning this & all the years of internalizing so I’ve become defensive. I’ve always thought ego was a bad thing and never heard this term used this way but now I’m understanding that it can be both like a double edged sword. Thanks for sharing this wisdom.

[@kardoyle]

Being the observer is SO POwERfUL !!! Being our own best friend ❤❤❤❤❤

[@mjcjjcc7]

Something I learned that helped me on breathing is the explanation of, when we are triggered, our mind and body goes into fight or flight mode. Then our breathing changes to short quick breaths. The heart beats faster in response to the faster, shallow breaths. So by changing the breaths to long slow breaths it slows the heart rate and calms the nervous system down.

[@Jess-yp9fo]

this is the first vid that popped up when i search 'what to do when im triggered' and i got excited because ive been following the holistic psychologist on IG for a while and didnt know she had a channel!! i was EXTREMELY triggered but this helped me sooo much thank you!

[@flookie6283]

Changing the narrative and witnessing the ego as an observer 👌👌 I had a narrative of being unloved. I just meditated for 5 minutes and began changing the narrative. I can literally feel the release in my physical and emotional body. It’s like a giant weight has been lifted off my chest. Thank you so much. 🙏

[@robertafierro5592]

I felt that release you just described when I cried in front of a really old friend just the other day. It felt like I list 60 lbs of stress that morning.

[@cb9209]

I have to say a few things and trust me, they are all good. Thank you, first and foremost. You changed my life!!! Your book, the way you explain things and presented them were so clear. The awareness I gained so early on in the book blew my mind! The ego. My entire perspective of old and new beliefs has changed. What I really wanted to say is this: This just proved to me it was that it had an immediate impact on my life. I just watched this video and I cried. I cried because I realized “I am practicing” (self journal) the steps you laid out here. I cannot thank you enough. I mean that from the bottom of my heart.

[@TheHolisticPsychologist]

Warms my heart, Thank you!

[@Sinsearach]

Go you 👍

[@chrystalbriceno3699]

While trying to work on the last energetic tie to my covert narc ex, I would get triggered A LOT! Now, when thoughts of him creep back in, I literally have a conversation with my ego that goes something like this: "Hey ego, knock it off! We didn't do all this soul healing work just so you could sabotage it. Remember, you are a divine being worth more than what he ever gave. Now shut up and sit down!" 😂😂😂

[@creativecompanion]

Really helpful. The only part I struggle with is to understand what an ego is. Such an abstract concept with so many definitions.

[@binra3788]

it can be used in different ways. But your self-image or self-concept is not You - yet it is obviously something evaluative representing You - the living You. We also make an image of others that is not who they are. The confusion is in a way like being phished, or retriggered into strategies of coping with loss of peace, trust, felt connection of joy or relationship that are old scripts or conditioned behaviours that we learned to survive social realities, but don't serve now and are not what is actually happening now. The willingness to look at or on the ego with curiosity, undoes or fades the urge to defend, mask, pretend or justify ourself. Not knowing can be more helpful that believing we already know ;-) The desire to truly know stirs a self-honesty. But learning to present a 'better mask' of savvy can bury it. Living relationship with ourself and others can also open intimacies where fears are triggered. I see looking within at the same time as looking out as being conscious or present in an active appreciation. Our 'observer' grows our capacity to abide through judgement resistance or reflections (self or other) to share in the qualities of being uniquely this moment, situation or relationship.

[@dianamary6170]

breathing is so important. the first step. I know for me, I forget to breathe when I'm triggered.

[@pattioyler805]

What bugs me is other people who weren’t traumatized in childhood and had great parents don’t have a clue why I am emotional in the first place and don’t understand how far I have come on my journey to wholeness ❤

[@samantharivera7749]

Dr. Nicole, you made such a great point in this video. For so long I've tried only to tame the wild horse that is my emotions (ESPECIALLY when triggered). I may have an inkling of an idea as to why I haven't been as successful as I have hoped. Though I am improving at recognizing when I am experiencing an emotional trigger, much of my self talk is largely negative: "You SHOULDN'T feel this way. This ISN'T appropriate". When really, in parallel to your video this week, I should be saying "You're allowed to feel this way, but you don't have to let it influence how you decide to react". Zooming out and looking at past trauma/pain has helped me find some legitimacy to my triggers without doing this all or nothing dance of either thinking that my feelings are valid and therefore I'm going to act this way or my feelings aren't supposed to be here and therefore I'm going to try and push them away and act in a way that is "rational". I also wanted to add that while future self journalling the other day I had a realization that part of my pattern shift I am working on (emotional reactivity, heh, stole your example) involves not being emotionally reactive TO MYSELF. Sometimes I get so upset with myself about getting emotionally reactive with other people that I create another emotional reaction but I never counted it before because all of it was internal. You've helped me turn a long needed eye to my inner child. Thank you again for all that you do. I look forward to your videos every week!

[@mandarintomato9205]

I’m exactly the same 🙈❤️

[@sharon5259]

Wow yes. I’ve observed in myself this same pattern...it’s like the image of the snake eating itself...if I’m feeling a negative reactive emotion then feeling bad about that which in turn makes me feel WORSE and it’s goes on and on ☠️

[@Sinsearach]

I'm just after getting triggered and searched for this. I felt so fearful in that moment and if I didn't notice it I probably would've went back to unhealthy coping mechanisms later on (mindless scrolling, binge eating or drinking) Did some slow, deep breathing. I'm about to do some stretches out in the garden. Gradually becoming aware and learning to emotionally regulate and not let the emotions get stuck. I'm halfway through HTDTW. Think ti's time to pick it up again.. Thank you x

[@michellerobichaud2156]

I was triggered today, i felt it like a shock through my body, i new at that moment i was triggered, by past experience, i had to work through it. I new nothing in this moment was hurting me but my thoughts. Its not always easy not to let these triggers control the moods and emotions of my day, which made me look this up. It was very helpful, Thankyou!! i'll be looking for more content ;) I just have to figure out why it bothered me so....

[@opticalman6417]

triggers are opportunity for growth when someone says something or does something that make us feel a certain way it not there fault there doing what there meant to be doing being the activator the trigger what we should be doing is not attacking them verbally but thanking them for showing us what we need to work on within are self

[@Rumi001]

“If you are irritated by every rub, how will you ever be polished?”

[@Douglas_Gillette]

I think it is acceptable to be irritated but being polished is pausing and not immediately acting on the irritation.

[@SincerelyTracie]

I appreciate your video. I have abandonment issues & this video made me cry & cry. It's the truth, and that's why it hurts. I lost a good man because I never dealt with my issues

[@caroljohns4459]

No he wasn't the man for you, if he was he would still be beside you!

[@honeybun224]

Thank you so much for this video. After finally reporting an assault I’m experiencing something like “flash rages” when triggered, which is personally very uncharacteristic. Your advice is so helpful, I can’t even begin to tell you. I am so grateful I found you and all of your information and I’m now hopeful for healing.

[@NicoleHeals]

Love your videos so much. I'm originally a Creative Writing major but started taking psych classes because I was really interested in the mind and why we do the things we do, and I've come to realize just how spirituality and psychology really supplement one another. Your channel is a testament to that as well. Thank you for your content :)

[@LunaLeea1]

Perfect timing, going to see my parents and brother and always triggering when we all gather for Christmas! Happy Holidays and thank you!

[@gemnilocs]

I am so grateful I found this video today. This was so spot on for me and has helped me understand what was happening and how to get through those moments. Thank you

[@gabrielle9376]

I’ve followed you for a few years on Instagram, but just came across your channel here. I really needed this lesson today, thank you!!

[@rebekahokelley3981]

I’ve come back to this video so many times, whenever I’m having an anxiety attack and triggered by something. And it has helped me so many times. Thank you ❤

[@lettab460]

Perfect timing!! Thank you! A little late for my triggers this weekend but practicing for next time .

[@user-dm8qk4ry7x]

Thank you so much, I have something I can come listen to now when I feel like I'm losing control, I appreciate you.

[@lilym6754]

Thank you so much for all your amazing videos and Insta posts. They are so helpful and comforting to so many people. Hope you have a really nice Christmas and New Years.

[@celticfairyofeiru]

Thank you for making this so simple to follow and understand. I am grateful to have found you!

[@saltandiron3379]

OMG I needed this today! Thank you thank you thank you 😭♥️😭♥️😭♥️

[@featheredfriend3912]

This fed me so much. Thank you thank you THANK YOU for sharing this!!

[@ZenGuitarShred]

This is absolutely brilliant. I could even relate to the abandonment issues being triggered and then i am right in the Ego observing and making a negative narrative. Thank you

[@chomka426]

I'm glad I found this today. I am working on triggers, and Nicole makes it very understandable. I feel healing in just listening to it. Bravo to this talented lady!

[@Bea._jan]

You were so helpful to me today. Thank you for your work, it has been so healing. ✨🙏🌱

[@carlak.3087]

For me, this truly is one of the most important videos you ever did. This is super helpful. Thank you sooooo much💕.

[@iamenough6958]

LOL Because you needed it in this season

[@MelissaJaneMarshall]

I've done a lot of work in this area, and the way you explain this is so simplistically beautiful 😊👌

[@hessa4959]

just seeing and hearing you heal me so thank you sooo much 💕💕💕💕💕💕

[@cherishenderez4803]

Thank you. this message helps me cope with my emotions when I remember the pain in the past.

[@twotwotwooo]

you are PURE GOLD! THANK YOU FOR THIS, so so helpful!

[@queequeg1654]

I don't normally comment but I just wanted to say thank you so much, I was spiralling and this video really helped to calm myself down and start to see things in a different light. Thank you so much for making these resources available.

[@evolvingwithsheenia]

I love your daily texts. It's crazy they come right on time. Everytime

[@lisaponizova8532]

I love your work so much. It helps make sense of so many of our struggles as humans. I'm learning so much watching your videos and reading your posts on Instagram.

[@katz5434]

This is the best explanations I’ve heard about identifying and dealing with an emotionally triggered feeling and/or response. Non clinical real time application to be used when triggered.

[@thomasendter6770]

Thank you very much for the ideas! Especially point 2 I didn't know yet. It helps a LOT in understanding my reactions in some situations.

[@user-sf7xb3wh4e]

You are so kind to share your knowledge and personal stories in such an accessible and inclusive manor, taking your time to help others is truly one of the best gifts given by someone. You have, and are helping me daily. Thank you. A genuine offering like this where people have free access to heal and therefore heal others around them. you are seen. Keep up the fantastic work cant wait to read your book, your hard and consistent work is a credit to you. x

[@MummaWood642]

gosh, thank you so much for simplifying this!! I am grateful for your videos

[@sandrajovic9304]

This is exactly what I'm presently working on...thinking about my ego , understanding my ego, and omg triggers. (I didn't feel like commenting when I was here yesterday), it's a struggle within my new found inner strength. I really like your channel I subscribe for your "prescription" (video) Lol💖thanks so much Dr.Nicole☺

[@jamievasquez9179]

Needed this more than I even realized, I hit the subscribe button a minute into the video. Thank you for such wonderful insight

[@mariateresaemotionalmusings]

This is one of your most powerful videos, I saved it! Every one of these steps is hugely helpful. Another tool I use and have started doing again is self talk, just having an out loud conversation with myself definitely helps me calm down and brings me back into my body and not in my past. Healing myself with your tools is really changing everything for me. Unraveling 40 yrs of trauma, dysfunction and instability takes time but with your help I am pushing forward. Great advice, thank you Dr. Nicole ❤

[@TouchdownJesusMB]

🌺 Grateful for you Dr. Nicole & your spreading Knowledge!! 💞💞💞 Blessings!!

[@sexyslovak]

Thank you for this Christmas gift Nicole! Bless you

[@i.am.fearlessone]

This was beautifully explained. Thank you. ❤

[@sayusayme7729]

Thank you so much, processing many painful wounds and learning how to calm myself and grow within. Practice. Love this ! 🌻🧡🍁🇨🇦

[@lauriepolden6594]

First of all, you never understand you’re being triggered, unless you know what those triggers are … my life has been so full of horrible things from being raped at 11 years old to having two alcoholic parents beat the crap out of each other every day until I was 12 and they finally divorced. Nothing in my life was easy there are triggers everywhere, so I just get through my life the best I can, and never worry about triggers I don’t worry about people I don’t worry about any of the bull crap that all these therapists tell you to worry about, I push through and I’m fine and please don’t tell me I’m not fine cause you don’t know me. I am a strong, independent, observant, well versed, non-irrational human being that knows how to deal with everything that has ever been thrown at me without therapy. I’m not an angry person, I used to be yes, but I learned how to deal with my losses my anger and my hurt life is never easy. It will never be easy for anyone whether they’ve been traumatized and abused or not it’s still is life and life is messy. Life is hard life is random there’s never easy you can’t have a good without bad you can’t have a happy without sad and you can’t have right without wrong it’s just life, it’s never going to be perfect no matter what it is no matter how much money you have no matter how much support you have no matter how much good there is there’s gonna be bad and if the bad didn’t happen, you wouldn’t know what the good was just deal with it and know that tomorrow’s another day and you’re gonna come out the other side, stronger and better for having lived through it

[@robertapascal6962]

At work many things can make me feel not enough. I am realizing this more and really feeling that anxiety. This video is an answer to prayer.

[@blondiem7442]

Thank you so much Dr Nicole for all your hard work, your spirit, and your knowledge. You have helped me in so many ways, I am forever grateful. I tell everyone I know about you! Have a wonderful and peaceful holidays.

[@BravosReviews]

I appreciate having things written down so simply

[@ovehlu]

Thank you Nicole. This is so helpful for me. Wishing you many blessings 🙏🏼!

[@alexandraaragao5970]

Great. Thank-you. On the 24th day of journaling today and my aim is not to react with violence (to what triggers me). After opening the Christmas presents I got that feeling of "never getting what I wanted, nobody gives /knows what I want" (self-pity?! whatever the name is it has been with me since ever) but I didn't react ... I nearly did but I chosed to love the people around me and kiss them good night and after feeling the pain , a feeling of self-love of being enough to fulfil my needs came.!!!It's happening so grateful to your techniques !!!! love and Light

[@diogoafonso2378]

I’m so grateful for this video and your work. 🙏💜

[@liliworth8098]

Discovered even vaguely recounting the past, thinking that is safe, still triggers tears, even if I’m feeling confident to be able to mention things. I’ve just realised when that happens... I hold my breath and tell myself not to break down like this, it’s embarrassing! Thank you for your tips... here I go. Next time I’ll breathe, and acknowledge myself with some statement, rather than “sorry”, but perhaps “here it is”... loving theses practices. Forever grateful, love Lili ❤️🌞🤸‍♀️🕊🌻

[@HighSpeedNoDrag]

Outstanding Presentation and When "dealing" with triggered stress, I learned/experienced that breathing and taking a walk worked wonders across the board.

[@elvira9228]

Thank you so much 🙏🙏🙏🦋☯️I needed to hear it to be able to continue my journey and know ,what I am on right path on working on myself throw choosing to react with a new way to my triggers

[@dnwanja]

Amazing. The stories we create...lord!!

[@geraldineanez7499]

This video really helped me navigate through an anxiety crisis. Thank you 🙏🏻

[@xdiaz755]

This was so very helpful, especially step 2 for me! God bless you

[@odettecolato]

Always grateful for your weekly videos, notifications are on 😉

[@Mushroom321-]

I LOVE YOUR tone, along w/ your example s!! 👏👏😃

[@drex8682]

I follow you on Instagram and on here and I have to tell you how much you help me recenter myself and get back to healing, whenever I'm experiencing these overwhelming emotions I feel lost and as if I'm strayed from reality/purpose/the present moment/myself and it takes me some (long) time to get back to my senses and to keep going, your work helps me tremendously I have no words to say how thankful I am

[@yolandaingram7378]

😮 OMG! This happened to me last week over a minor mistake that I made and I was so triggered and overreacting internally. This is so helpful. Belly breathing takes practice. Good advice. ❤

[@TheRealTomWendel]

Excellent! Very practical and straight to the point. Autonomous responses are learned and deeply engrained. To weaken them, we need our responses to be autonomous and engrained. Breathing, observing, and acceptance must be practiced to be available when we need them! Thanks

[@loukol]

thank you for changing my life dr. nicole

[@lifeslessons9889]

Wonderful insightful information… at age 62 I’ve had a life long Fight V Flight surrounded me l.unfortunately it’s left scars that have only started to heal through the passing of the controllers and judgements /narcs .. and the one final remaining trigger folk I’ve decided to walk away from ..I don’t need to spend the rest of my life ‘trying’ to fight ( or breathe my way out of these ‘types’) these manipulative bullies. The breathing for my soul is wonderful… the more I surround good kind people around me …and choose to leave behind the toxins , the calmer and sweeter my life will be 😇😇. Thank you for this ❤️

[@greenteaandcigarette]

Thank you so much for this gentle and loving reminder.

[@VJWLPN1]

Great videos! I hope you continue to share your knowledge! So important!

[@sarahjmount9221]

Thank you so much for this extremely informative and helpful video. You really spelled out how to deal with being triggered, for me, better than anyone else has thus far. I’ve been doing the work to recover from CPTSD since last Jan. and use 3 major, awesome KZbin channels (plus, their communities,) a great trauma therapist, and many other resources. I’ve just discovered your channel and I find it to be very useful, as well. I’ve always had an issue with being “clear” on responding to my triggers but this video clarified that for me. I just need to start implementing and practicing it. Now, what to do when the triggers are coming from a place that is real abandonment, neglect, abuse, degradation, etc…I tend to get that a lot due to my situation. So, there’s no “witnessing the ego as an observer.” It’s right back into survival mode. I’m trying to learn how to respond vs. react and/or just walk away. But in one case I am stuck living with the person who does it, unfortunately, for now. So. It’s difficult. My therapist can’t even help me with that one. Thank you, again for the great input into my healing journey. It is greatly appreciated. I look forward to watching more of your videos. 😊💕

[@thetranquilmind1111]

Thanks a ton! This video saved me from getting carried away with my triggered emotions. 🙂 Feeling much better!!

[@LornaT460]

This is really important to know. Thank you!

[@brittneyspringfield9383]

Thank you so much for all your valuable information!!!!! I love learning about this stuff and you are so intelligent. Thank you!!!!

[@deea1266]

thank you thank you thank you 💜 you are a true blessing. so glad & grateful i found your instagram account & youtube channel.

[@MysticCreature]

Heck yes this was helpfu! I’m being triggered now. I’m not sure why or from what? Just don’t want to work at the moment but I have to. The work is annoying me but deeply… like upsetting… and I’m trying to breathe…. Accept that my ego is trying to protect me…. And also reminding myself the work isn’t doing this to me it just work… and working through it! You’re so great! Thank you. Will spread this channel with people!😊

[@alysonjenkins436]

Thank you. Practicing this is a lifetime job. Very helpful x

[@MkCD.]

Thank you!! This was much needed. I’m looking forward to practicing this. I’m ready to alter my experiences. My past is sometimes so prominent. I love that even while acknowledging the discomfort, I would still accept myself.

[@leeboriack8054]

We are a common denominator in every situation in our lives. Overwhelming at first and it can eventually become empowering.

[@zinebrazki6533]

Thank you so much for this! Please more videos we learn incredibly much 🙏🏾❤️

[@itsjoelanderson]

This was so helpfully, thank for sharing your wisdom! Thank you!

[@gigi0689]

In the example you give I experienced that my “instincts were scream at me endlessly forcing me to see the cheating” my spouse used gaslighting and emotional abuse to create serious self worth issues. This is an example of what I’m Concerned about loosing as I heal and spend more time in control consciousness Thank you

[@holliebingham1311]

Such great, easy to understand, practical advice! Thank you!

[@NorAnon]

These videos have really helped today🙏🏻💕 I have felt invisible this summer, for a number of reasons. This past weekend was my nieces wedding. She has lived next door to me her whole life. I got sent to the reception to wait for pictures and was never fetched. It felt deliberate. I am ashamed at my over reaction (through texts). Now no one will speak to me( my sister and my niece). I keep apologizing, but nothing yet😭 🙏🏻💕

[@sophiedeem587]

You are such an incredible teacher! Thank you!

[@ozywomandius2290]

This is great, thank you. You have a very clear and soothing presentation style. 🙏🏼

[@johnmcleod6308]

Two seconds in... I liked you respectfully. I've just recently have learned to take responsibility and not take it out on my partner or whomever it's applicable.. Literally yesterday I came to the understanding of" personaltriggers". Thank you so much for investing your time to us in need. Have some work to do indeed but thank you for your page.

[@DIRKCHRISTIAN]

so happy to found your content...love you, incredible helpful advice/exercises! 💫🙏