How to challenge your negative self-talk | Josh Green | TEDxSurrey

[@Mr-Persis]

This man just made me think about the opportunities I turned down simply because I felt I was not ready or good enough. Maybe we seriously need to uproot all the negative voices that are deeply rooted in our minds.

[@mimosveta]

you do realize that millions of people try and fail at something they're not good enough, and his story is basically like saying "these rich people drink water, you'll be rich too if you drink water" - it's nonsense, he had one good development and bases his entire philosophy on it.

[@sayo6622]

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[@thecarolineshow9808]

@@mimosvetabut the opposite ist true too isn't it? Many people have one bad development or experience and base their entire negative selftalk on that - it works in both directions! So why not choose the positive way of thinking for yourself?

[@jeraldbaxter3532]

​@@thecarolineshow9808Thank you! I thought much the same as I read their comment; actually, what I thought was, " Here is someone who has been beaten down, pushed down, kept down so much that they have given up." I say that because I still have days (weeks, months, etc.🙄) when I think very similar thoughts; like just about everyone, I have had more than my share of negative talk. Maybe some of it is given by people who are trying to protect us ("Don't touch that stove, it's hot!" is what I call those types), to out right vicious bullying (I was an only child, so I was very timid, I had red hair, and wore glasses; I didn't wear a 'kick me' sign, I WAS a 'kick me sign') , but I digress... The message I got from this Ted Talk was, basically, "If you try, you might struggle long and hard before you succeed, and you might not succeed, because success is never 100% guaranteed. But if you do not even try, then you are guaranteed to not succeed.

[@karenroutledge5361]

Great talk ..thank you 🌹 Take opportunity's....... Negative thoughts are implanted xx 🌹

[@daver744]

"1.Start safe, 2. practice, 3. say yes to opportunities, 4. Show up, 5. get support, 6. the voices in your head are not your own, 7. Drop the ball!"🙂🙏🌱. Amazing!

[@suneeldhariwal152]

Pretty good summing up. Thanks.

[@paddleduck5328]

Thanks!

[@Joshuaowengreen]

@dave744 You nailed it. Love the sum up.

[@icewolf1974]

As someone who has spent his whole life with negative self talk due to intense bullying from kids at school and my father and hearing their words reverberate in my head since I was 13; as a 50 year old man in 2025, I have learned so much from this one video. Thank you for the tools to help me conquer my lifelong crutch in life and I will try to use them to see what happens. So awesome!

[@android584]

All you needed was one 10 minute talk to undo decades of damage? I don't think so.

[@lucassamsmusic]

I hope the best for you. A little knowledge can absolutely undo years of damage if it’s the right information.

[@kevinhanley3023]

Good luck. Don’t worry about what others are thinking. They are too busy worrying about what you think of them.

[@kennytanification]

Sure. Blame your bullies

[@samarpanbanerjee2604]

"Ask yourself, how many people are living your best life because you turned down an opportunity"

[@JohnnyB.Good10]

There is space for ALL :)

[@thegodlyprincess_kenya]

Take aways:- Those negative voices you hear aren’t your voices and you don’t have to listen to them Practice pushing yourself beyond the negative voices and Take up space. Do the exact opposite Love it❤

[@LillianArch]

Thank you!!

[@allyson--]

You must start! You must show up! Don’t do it by yourself!! Surround yourself with people who know more than you & think highly of you!

[@abdirahmankeisal9939]

my main take away from this speech is: never turn down the opportunities and don't listen the negative voices cause it's not yours. thank you Mr. Josh. i really mean it.

[@MS-ns4ki]

I really mean it 🎶🎧

[@thuhalan1878]

Thanks for your summary :D

[@Joshuaowengreen]

You're very welcome. Thank you for watching. I hope this helps you fight for what you want in this world. You got this. We got this

[@android584]

The problem is if you haven't had opportunities to turn down. Being isolated from complex PTSD with no friends or family to help or care really stops the flow of opportunities. You have to be putting yourself out there to be finding these opportunities.

[@Asmrhadeel1]

We should always be confident of what we have achieved even if it's so little thing at least we tried our best❤

[@MS-ns4ki]

Our best looks different on everyone

[@ReiverBlue1971]

I used to understand this. I went on expeditions into the Australian outback, taught outdoor pursuits, archery, personal fitness, got a degree. Then I had to survive 25 years of severe depression until I made the greatest discovery of my life. I was (and always had been) autistic. I now know that the combination of Autism and ADHD can be vastly improved in one of two ways......exposure to danger, raised heart rate, the flow of adrenaline or the complete lack of the same stimulation. What I'm saying is: Always push your boundaries, believe that you can do it until proven otherwise (and then practice it until you can). Going beyond your comfort zone allows you to grow, gain confidence and trust in your own abilities and yourself. I am autistic, have ADHD, EUPD and PDA (you can find them online if you're interested) so I experience some extreme anxiety (which is not from being shy or awkward as I can talk to an audience easily). This can be kept under control by doing something that scares or even terrifies you making you realise that you CAN do it and giving you an incredible sense of acheivement. Now just need to put it into actualy practice!!! I'm having a go at petrol driven go-carts, bum 2 inches off the speeding tarmac and the competition with the others racers, should be enough to get me going :)

[@vikasmishra8125]

Yeah, that's amazing bro. Keep going. I will do something similar now.

[@ThrowBackZone]

In a world full of critics, it's refreshing to hear someone turn their failures into triumphs.

[@Joshuaowengreen]

Thank you

[@ianbrown2984]

I spent a year learning how to ski so I could share experiences with my daughters, a year of saying “I can”, I hated every moment of learning, the fear, the anxiety, it was physically and mentally draining. 12 months of learning and I turn up at my first “proper” ski holiday and was overwhelmed by everything, my family being a ski family and the expectation of my wife and kids was too much, I gave in to my feelings and chose not to ski. It had such a negative fall out, I felt ashamed and embarrassed but most of all, I didn’t turn up for my daughter’s. I chose to waste all of that time, money and emotion because I chose my existential right to do what I felt was right for me, so in my case, I’m glad I gave in, I’m glad I didn’t push myself further beyond my limits, I’m glad I chose my path. Sometimes, in some circumstances, it’s okay to ignore those voices but sometimes you need to take them into consideration, who else knows you best.

[@HeyyArsh]

This whole positive talk was much needed, Thank you Josh 🙏

[@intertwinedinside]

Liking the talk is one thing, I also really like your talking pace. He sounds like a very peaceful and content person.

[@Joshuaowengreen]

Thank you. I truly appreciate it. I too have the voices and they come up for me as well. I wish I could say I am content all the time, but life isn't linear. It comes in waves. Thank you for watching and I hope you found it helpful

[@dawnravenel2473]

Great talk, so many times I have begun to realize some of my own opinions were not my own, they were learned from other trusted sources. Now that I am learning the real me, I am examing many things to get my own true opinion, and dropping what no longer serves me.

[@letsjaywalk]

Joshumes!!!!!!!!! You were absolutely amazing man. Your Ted Talk was a 100/10. The storytelling, the attention grab in the beginning, it being the relevent lesson to learn at the end. I laughed, I felt sad, related, was inspired and learned a valuble lesson. Man, that was awesome. Great job Joshumes!!!!!!

[@alanwarburton2719]

Wonderful storytelling and humor cemented your message, Josh. Thanks so much!

[@_soupnazi]

This video caught my attention because this is something I am currently dealing with. I've been a background performer for a long time. I had some potential opportunities fall in my lap a couple of years ago, but none of them panned out. Since then I don't even want to try, that perhaps this is as good as it gets for me. It's hard when you grow up being criticized for merely existing by the people who are supposed to love you unconditionally. The irony is that those voices are so loud that they influence my behavior, which in turn make it a reality.

[@PaigeSquared]

Pete Walker's book on CPTSD has really great processes on how to actually deal with the negative inner voice. I highly recommend it.

[@TheBlessed64]

I can understand what you have experienced as a child but it is a new day! Now begin to tell yourself what you need to go to the next level. It's not over yet! I'm excited for you!

[@grabielramirezcancino4219]

Omg!!! Hands down, one of the best Tedx I’ve ever seen. Thank you so much for sharing. God bless you!!!

[@Joshuaowengreen]

Thank you so much

[@catstickler]

I recently started learning game development. Like I'm following a Skillshare class and making my first game with the free assets from the teacher. Let's be honest: It's not the next Dark Souls 😹 It's literally just a square jumping platform to platform while avoiding triangle spikes and floating circles right now before we put in actual characters and tiles. Despite this, I signed up for a pretty large game jam in 3 weeks. Again, no experience and I entered a competition to create a game in one week. I'm okay not winning the competition (because I won't), but I'm content with winning the war against my own anxiety and do something fun outside my comfort zone (and current skillset). This video is EXACTLY what I needed to watch because that voice has been pretty loud lately. A game jam isn't applying to work at a game studio. It's a group of people playing and having fun. Low stakes, starting small, but still showing up. Not sure how I'll figure out game development in 3 weeks, but maybe I don't have to and I can drop a few balls. 😀

[@HannahLauraAdjorlolo]

Your comment made my day, thank so much ❤

[@Joshuaowengreen]

You got this. You're inspiring

[@MeRiaNevaMynd]

Best of luck to you! 🙂 ☘️ 🙂

[@andrewmctier5045]

❤ dealing with some of the same challenges. Thanks for sharing

[@nattybynature1262]

This is excellent. You've inspired me to do the same in my own pursuits.

[@kyliedyer5773]

Absolutely wonderful! Love that you used the story throughout the whole talk. This really helped get the points through soooo well. Everything about this talk is spot on. Thank you for sharing. It's all concepts we know, but asking someone else for help is viewed as weak.

[@drandrewmiki]

Thanks Josh for sharing such an important message!!! I've shared it with my kids to inspire them to manage self-doubt while seizing the opportunities that come along in life. Awesome job!

[@jjojo8365]

Oof, I lowkey cried . Lol felt like I needed that. There's so much going on in the world .

[@vmandyhi]

What we need to hear, a refresher to tell ourselves to go for it once we feel weary or detached from the most positive reinforcements in our lives like parents and school friends.. great talk

[@TEDx]

Glad to make an impact. Thank you!

[@anjalivijay2912]

You nailed it on your first TEDEX.

[@richardalvisman6163]

**YOU ARE UNIQUE** Don't let others' opinions define you. Your uniqueness is a strength, not a weakness. You have distinct qualities, experiences, and perspectives that make you special. It's okay if others don't understand or agree with you. What matters is your self-perception and confidence. You don't need to conform to others' standards. Embrace your individuality and celebrate being one-of-a-kind. Your uniqueness is your greatest asset, so stay true to yourself and let others have their opinions.

[@jackgeary6928]

Imposter syndrome is real. Only way to deal with it is to keep moving forward or quitting. Failure is just an opportunity to learn and try again. Nice vid.

[@DibaDibaKhalil]

It was very good and made me think about all those opportunities I turned down because I thought I wasn't good enough, although I was good enough.

[@PawanKumar-ze4sr]

I got a new way of thinking thank you so much ❤

[@AndreaNeil_]

Josh, Thank you for crafting this message and overcoming many of those voices to show up and give your Tedx talk. I loved your talk not just because it was entertaining but also because it gave me some beautiful takeaways to remember for my own life. Thank you again.

[@AliTempleYoga]

This was so inspiring! Thank you Josh for encouraging us all to “drop the ball” 💪🏼🧡

[@Shubecoify]

So proud of the message you shared with the world, Josh. It's amazing to have talked about this with you almost a year ago and see it now come to fruition! You belong on stages sharing messages that can resonate with others that have found themselves in similar places.

[@Tamikafair]

Thank You Josh, this has really helped me, You're the best speech I've seen so far.

[@loicpopote635]

Thank you for these realistic and thoughtful tips, and for sharing so openly.

[@molliekaye5504]

Such an important message about how to show up in the world without censoring your dreams or letting your inner critic kill your momentum. Loved the story about never knowing if you will be the perfect one for the job... show up anyway and give it a shot! You might be THE ONE, whatever "role" you are "auditioning" for!

[@pbinsb3437]

Say this to your negative voice..."Thank you for sharing!"

[@JohnnyB.Good10]

great one!. another one -> The Dude:"Yeah? Well, you know, that's just like uh, your opinion, man."

[@creallyreal]

Yes. "Thank you for sharing, but let's try this anyway--and do my very best--because I REALLY want this!"

[@linda9497]

That's what my friend said..."Thank you for your feedback" Love those answers. Thank you for sharing this message. 😃❤

[@faithellis2010]

What an excellent talk! So real and very relevant, exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you! 😊

[@jamelrodrigo9834]

This is the best talk i've ever listened to. He's so sincere ✨

[@AdifaahIslam-eu5qq]

Thanks Josh Green! Your TEDX talk episode really help me. I was thinking maybe I'm not good for nothing, putting down my self actually these negative words are not mine, its people projection about me. But I know I've all the abilities to achieve what I want cause I believe in may self that if I want and start doing practice I can be master on my desire field. From Bangladesh🇧🇩

[@Rpblackgamer]

I really enjoyed this speech. and I decided just to show up and try myself, even if I screw up and drop the ball

[@futures2247]

We can no more forget negative thoughts like we cannot forget riding a bike or anything else habitual and commonplace

[@christiana920]

one of the best ted talks i have listened to

[@martini87c]

SHOW UP, PRACTICE, HAVE SUPPORT OF OTHERS

[@henryomorodion]

This tedx talk is so iimportant.thanks

[@danielsouchar5627]

There is a book called The Confident Mind, which is really amazing and goes deep into almost all the points covered in the talk. This was an excellent outline, though, of the process to become more confident.

[@engineer4323]

Got motivated when you said "to doing my very first TEDX"

[@reenalthakerar7297]

Thank you Josh for your humility.

[@e.rosario16]

Shift the narrative from “Why me? -> Why not me?” and then take massive amounts of action towards that goal.

[@vivian9803]

What an inspiring and wonderful talk!

[@freedom2be_24]

Loved this Talk! Thank you!

[@LeviLevels]

Amazing talk, the story telling kept me gripped the whole time!!

[@kayreeve.author]

Absolutely perfect! Nothing like in at the deep end for learning to swim in life. ❤

[@nezrintemirova8453]

That was an amazing Ted X I have listened recently

[@NatashaFlorencio]

Take chances and grabe it! And drop the ball! I love it!

[@bouchrabichou1524]

Thank you so much for giving us those positive vibes i hope i will be able to fulfill what i want without listening to the toxic voices in my head

[@aushmitasaikia8003]

Right tedx, right time at right point of my life❤❤❤❤ thanks a lot

[@kathleenmccann-welch5272]

I have some "false starts" that are now calling my name. Going to pick these up immediately! Thanks Josh!!!

[@victoriaman117]

I understand this intellectually, however internalizing it is so hard!

[@ShyamkrishnanNair]

Wow, this is such an inspiring story! I’ve had my own share of feeling “not good enough,” especially when stepping into new challenges. Like the speaker, I've learned that showing up-even when you’re not fully prepared-can lead to unexpected opportunities. And hey, who says you can’t juggle your way to success? (No pun intended!) Embracing the struggle is key, and it’s cool how this aligns with the Sense of Humor Improvement Program by Habit10x-finding humor even in failure helps us keep going! Keep pushing those boundaries, everyone!

[@jonnysee2948]

Love this, thank you!❤

[@vindhyav1506]

It was great!!! Thanks Josh!

[@Secondnotemangal6375]

Thanks to you ❤

[@joannaniccitinafree]

excellent advice... for so many things!

[@1QU1CK1]

I'm old but I'm amazed at how many kids (those under forty!) have externally driven egos.

[@sydismine]

Find the David Whyte poem “Start Close In.” Outstanding talk! Thank you. 🙏🏼

[@ELIJAHHefner]

Having an icon like Finch associated with 4ra makes every event feel premium and top notch

[@dieuhoa1111]

What a motivational talk. Thank you! ❤

[@HerbertAckermans]

Oow, my dad did it, he on several occasions told me "you can't do that" when I was a young child. He even broke my phantasy when I wasn't even 5. Completely destroyed any hint of self esteem or any positive thought about myself forever and ever. And lo and behold... life told me that was right, funny eh?

[@behailuterefetesfaye6305]

Thank you, it is a good lesson! Don`t drop the ball!

[@denisateodoracalin4865]

This was so cool, thank you for sharing!

[@isisgregory3910]

The contents of this video far surpassed my expectations. Thank you so much. I loved it.

[@olgaolivares1622]

Bravo! This was inspiring and relatable

[@OmerYurdun]

Aaron Finch at 4ra events makes everything brighter his sporting prowess is a beacon of reliability

[@georgeduncan8946]

Yes yes....often the feeling of Safety nets in life Inhibit your growth☝🏿.. i am greatful for not seeking approval 🫡it has paid off in my life 💫💫💫💫✌🏿✌🏿

[@Haggard380]

Fantastic and for me the timing is perfect

[@pralesaca]

Amazing!. Thank you for the inspiration.

[@TC-pandoraprojects]

Wonderful - thank you so much!

[@chriskincaid6035]

Thank You ...

[@peterreed9566]

I enjoyed this presentation and it made me think.

[@Tailung984]

Don't listen what people say just believe in yourself

[@jfoster3134]

The only thing worse than failure is not to have tried at all. FAIL= First Attempt In Learning...

[@kyiooaung4133]

Continuing to show up and keep practicing is the key to push the negative voices in your head and the un-comfortability away.

[@userin26496]

coming back after my math exam. i will pass with amazing grades, i trust God.

[@ShubiDoobyDoo1]

Love your content fam! Keep it up! Can't wait to see what else you make in 2024 and beyond! 👟🔥🎥

[@shile1417]

You're good at this, wow thank you

[@MdAccount-k3i]

Yours advices are very helpful for listening improve take love from Bangladesh 🇧🇩

[@chris.asi_romeo]

Say yes to opportunity. Show up.

[@f.schmid468]

Because the weight of the world hasn't crushed my spirit. To say this such lightheartedly means someone done his homework of healing sheesh

[@YanyanLun]

not easy! i was super nervous while hes telling the story!

[@MargLaster]

Aaron Finch being part of 4rabet just shows they’re all about excellence in sports and beyond

[@manswidhodi4012]

Amazing!!

[@piyushraval9983]

Thanks

[@pauloranulfo3220]

Good to hear that.

[@bibletriviaUSA]

❤ When I was a little ❤

[@Catfishwilly1]

“Those voices in your head are not yours”

[@karthicksalvem8922]

Right time

[@EmineSafak-g7d]

Bro, did you hear? Aaron Finch is with 4RA now This is going to be epic!

[@ChrisBarry-h5h]

I'm a musician who auditions constantly and I keep being turned down. It isn't helping me feel better. If what doesn't kill you makes you stronger I should be Hercules. But I'm not.

[@MS-Patriot2]

If you keep getting up, you’re winning.

[@avengemybreath3084]

Yes they are. And they are saying you should be quiet and go away now.

[@SifiFan]

Don't have friends or outside connections. Never had a friend or connection. Have struggled my entire life with loneliness and depression.

[@huha123]

No, those negative voices are not mine, I am theirs, and I belong to them. If you lived my life you'd feel the same. I wish my life againt my worst enemy, yet I don't have those anymore either. So it's just me and my inner voice dialogue that gets to be my enemy. I really do hate me, I hate my existence, I hate anyone who tries to be a friend, I tell everyone up front to not try to be a friend as I would destroy their lives, just for knowing me. Everything is my fault and I can not forgive myself or allow myself to forget the fact that I deserve every moment of punishment I get.

[@LongLươngBảo]

Man this guy is funnier than I thought🥰🥰