How to challenge your negative self-talk | Josh Green | TEDxSurrey

[@Mr-Persis]

This man just made me think about the opportunities I turned down simply because I felt I was not ready or good enough. Maybe we seriously need to uproot all the negative voices that are deeply rooted in our minds.

[@mimosveta]

you do realize that millions of people try and fail at something they're not good enough, and his story is basically like saying "these rich people drink water, you'll be rich too if you drink water" - it's nonsense, he had one good development and bases his entire philosophy on it.

[@sayo6622]

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[@thecarolineshow9808]

@@mimosvetabut the opposite ist true too isn't it? Many people have one bad development or experience and base their entire negative selftalk on that - it works in both directions! So why not choose the positive way of thinking for yourself?

[@daver744]

"1.Start safe, 2. practice, 3. say yes to opportunities, 4. Show up, 5. get support, 6. the voices in your head are not your own, 7. Drop the ball!"🙂🙏🌱. Amazing!

[@suneeldhariwal152]

Pretty good summing up. Thanks.

[@paddleduck5328]

Thanks!

[@thegodlyprincess_kenya]

Take aways:- Those negative voices you hear aren’t your voices and you don’t have to listen to them Practice pushing yourself beyond the negative voices and Take up space. Do the exact opposite Love it❤

[@LillianArch]

Thank you!!

[@allyson--]

You must start! You must show up! Don’t do it by yourself!! Surround yourself with people who know more than you & think highly of you!

[@Asmrhadeel1]

We should always be confident of what we have achieved even if it's so little thing at least we tried our best❤

[@MS-ns4ki]

Our best looks different on everyone

[@samarpanbanerjee2604]

"Ask yourself, how many people are living your best life because you turned down an opportunity"

[@JohnnyB.Good10]

There is space for ALL :)

[@ReiverBlue1971]

I used to understand this. I went on expeditions into the Australian outback, taught outdoor pursuits, archery, personal fitness, got a degree. Then I had to survive 25 years of severe depression until I made the greatest discovery of my life. I was (and always had been) autistic. I now know that the combination of Autism and ADHD can be vastly improved in one of two ways......exposure to danger, raised heart rate, the flow of adrenaline or the complete lack of the same stimulation. What I'm saying is: Always push your boundaries, believe that you can do it until proven otherwise (and then practice it until you can). Going beyond your comfort zone allows you to grow, gain confidence and trust in your own abilities and yourself. I am autistic, have ADHD, EUPD and PDA (you can find them online if you're interested) so I experience some extreme anxiety (which is not from being shy or awkward as I can talk to an audience easily). This can be kept under control by doing something that scares or even terrifies you making you realise that you CAN do it and giving you an incredible sense of acheivement. Now just need to put it into actualy practice!!! I'm having a go at petrol driven go-carts, bum 2 inches off the speeding tarmac and the competition with the others racers, should be enough to get me going :)

[@abdirahmankeisal9939]

my main take away from this speech is: never turn down the opportunities and don't listen the negative voices cause it's not yours. thank you Mr. Josh. i really mean it.

[@MS-ns4ki]

I really mean it 🎶🎧

[@thuhalan1878]

Thanks for your summary :D

[@_soupnazi]

This video caught my attention because this is something I am currently dealing with. I've been a background performer for a long time. I had some potential opportunities fall in my lap a couple of years ago, but none of them panned out. Since then I don't even want to try, that perhaps this is as good as it gets for me. It's hard when you grow up being criticized for merely existing by the people who are supposed to love you unconditionally. The irony is that those voices are so loud that they influence my behavior, which in turn make it a reality.

[@PaigeSquared]

Pete Walker's book on CPTSD has really great processes on how to actually deal with the negative inner voice. I highly recommend it.

[@TheBlessed64]

I can understand what you have experienced as a child but it is a new day! Now begin to tell yourself what you need to go to the next level. It's not over yet! I'm excited for you!

[@catstickler]

I recently started learning game development. Like I'm following a Skillshare class and making my first game with the free assets from the teacher. Let's be honest: It's not the next Dark Souls 😹 It's literally just a square jumping platform to platform while avoiding triangle spikes and floating circles right now before we put in actual characters and tiles. Despite this, I signed up for a pretty large game jam in 3 weeks. Again, no experience and I entered a competition to create a game in one week. I'm okay not winning the competition (because I won't), but I'm content with winning the war against my own anxiety and do something fun outside my comfort zone (and current skillset). This video is EXACTLY what I needed to watch because that voice has been pretty loud lately. A game jam isn't applying to work at a game studio. It's a group of people playing and having fun. Low stakes, starting small, but still showing up. Not sure how I'll figure out game development in 3 weeks, but maybe I don't have to and I can drop a few balls. 😀

[@HannahLauraAdjorlolo]

Your comment made my day, thank so much ❤

[@Joshuaowengreen]

You got this. You're inspiring

[@MeRia035]

Best of luck to you! 🙂 ☘️ 🙂

[@andrewmctier5045]

❤ dealing with some of the same challenges. Thanks for sharing

[@letsjaywalk]

Joshumes!!!!!!!!! You were absolutely amazing man. Your Ted Talk was a 100/10. The storytelling, the attention grab in the beginning, it being the relevent lesson to learn at the end. I laughed, I felt sad, related, was inspired and learned a valuble lesson. Man, that was awesome. Great job Joshumes!!!!!!

[@anjalivijay2912]

You nailed it on your first TEDEX.

[@ThrowBackZone]

In a world full of critics, it's refreshing to hear someone turn their failures into triumphs.

[@intertwinedinside]

Liking the talk is one thing, I also really like your talking pace. He sounds like a very peaceful and content person.

[@pbinsb3437]

Say this to your negative voice..."Thank you for sharing!"

[@JohnnyB.Good10]

great one!. another one -> The Dude:"Yeah? Well, you know, that's just like uh, your opinion, man."

[@creallyreal]

Yes. "Thank you for sharing, but let's try this anyway--and do my very best--because I REALLY want this!"

[@alanwarburton2719]

Wonderful storytelling and humor cemented your message, Josh. Thanks so much!

[@grabielramirezcancino4219]

Omg!!! Hands down, one of the best Tedx I’ve ever seen. Thank you so much for sharing. God bless you!!!

[@Joshuaowengreen]

Thank you so much

[@drandrewmiki]

Thanks Josh for sharing such an important message!!! I've shared it with my kids to inspire them to manage self-doubt while seizing the opportunities that come along in life. Awesome job!

[@engineer4323]

Got motivated when you said "to doing my very first TEDX"

[@jjojo8365]

Oof, I lowkey cried . Lol felt like I needed that. There's so much going on in the world .

[@AndreaNeil_]

Josh, Thank you for crafting this message and overcoming many of those voices to show up and give your Tedx talk. I loved your talk not just because it was entertaining but also because it gave me some beautiful takeaways to remember for my own life. Thank you again.

[@kyliedyer5773]

Absolutely wonderful! Love that you used the story throughout the whole talk. This really helped get the points through soooo well. Everything about this talk is spot on. Thank you for sharing. It's all concepts we know, but asking someone else for help is viewed as weak.

[@Shubecoify]

So proud of the message you shared with the world, Josh. It's amazing to have talked about this with you almost a year ago and see it now come to fruition! You belong on stages sharing messages that can resonate with others that have found themselves in similar places.

[@molliekaye5504]

Such an important message about how to show up in the world without censoring your dreams or letting your inner critic kill your momentum. Loved the story about never knowing if you will be the perfect one for the job... show up anyway and give it a shot! You might be THE ONE, whatever "role" you are "auditioning" for!

[@martini87c]

SHOW UP, PRACTICE, HAVE SUPPORT OF OTHERS

[@christiana920]

one of the best ted talks i have listened to

[@jamelrodrigo9834]

This is the best talk i've ever listened to. He's so sincere ✨

[@AliTempleYoga]

This was so inspiring! Thank you Josh for encouraging us all to “drop the ball” 💪🏼🧡

[@workoutwithme552]

Thank You Josh, this has really helped me, You're the best speech I've seen so far.

[@AdifaahIslam-eu5qq]

Thanks Josh Green! Your TEDX talk episode really help me. I was thinking maybe I'm not good for nothing, putting down my self actually these negative words are not mine, its people projection about me. But I know I've all the abilities to achieve what I want cause I believe in may self that if I want and start doing practice I can be master on my desire field. From Bangladesh🇧🇩

[@richardalvisman6163]

**YOU ARE UNIQUE** Don't let others' opinions define you. Your uniqueness is a strength, not a weakness. You have distinct qualities, experiences, and perspectives that make you special. It's okay if others don't understand or agree with you. What matters is your self-perception and confidence. You don't need to conform to others' standards. Embrace your individuality and celebrate being one-of-a-kind. Your uniqueness is your greatest asset, so stay true to yourself and let others have their opinions.

[@loicpopote635]

Thank you for these realistic and thoughtful tips, and for sharing so openly.

[@faithellis2010]

What an excellent talk! So real and very relevant, exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you! 😊

[@reenalthakerar7297]

Thank you Josh for your humility.

[@freedom2be_24]

Loved this Talk! Thank you!

[@aushmitasaikia8003]

Right tedx, right time at right point of my life❤❤❤❤ thanks a lot

[@vivian9803]

What an inspiring and wonderful talk!

[@vmandyhi]

What we need to hear, a refresher to tell ourselves to go for it once we feel weary or detached from the most positive reinforcements in our lives like parents and school friends.. great talk

[@TEDx]

Glad to make an impact. Thank you!

[@ShyamkrishnanNair]

Wow, this is such an inspiring story! I’ve had my own share of feeling “not good enough,” especially when stepping into new challenges. Like the speaker, I've learned that showing up-even when you’re not fully prepared-can lead to unexpected opportunities. And hey, who says you can’t juggle your way to success? (No pun intended!) Embracing the struggle is key, and it’s cool how this aligns with the Sense of Humor Improvement Program by Habit10x-finding humor even in failure helps us keep going! Keep pushing those boundaries, everyone!

[@1QU1CK1]

I'm old but I'm amazed at how many kids (those under forty!) have externally driven egos.

[@bouchrabichou1524]

Thank you so much for giving us those positive vibes i hope i will be able to fulfill what i want without listening to the toxic voices in my head

[@danielsouchar5627]

There is a book called The Confident Mind, which is really amazing and goes deep into almost all the points covered in the talk. This was an excellent outline, though, of the process to become more confident.

[@kayreeve.author]

Absolutely perfect! Nothing like in at the deep end for learning to swim in life. ❤

[@NatashaFlorencio]

Take chances and grabe it! And drop the ball! I love it!

[@Rpblackgamer]

I really enjoyed this speech. and I decided just to show up and try myself, even if I screw up and drop the ball

[@peterreed9566]

I enjoyed this presentation and it made me think.

[@vindhyav1506]

It was great!!! Thanks Josh!

[@kathleenmccann-welch5272]

I have some "false starts" that are now calling my name. Going to pick these up immediately! Thanks Josh!!!

[@LeviLevels]

Amazing talk, the story telling kept me gripped the whole time!!

[@chriskincaid6035]

Thank You ...

[@joannaniccitinafree]

excellent advice... for so many things!

[@Secondnotemangal6375]

Thanks to you ❤

[@TC-pandoraprojects]

Wonderful - thank you so much!

[@dieuhoa1111]

What a motivational talk. Thank you! ❤

[@denisateodoracalin4865]

This was so cool, thank you for sharing!

[@Haggard380]

Fantastic and for me the timing is perfect

[@YanyanLun]

not easy! i was super nervous while hes telling the story!

[@pralesaca]

Amazing!. Thank you for the inspiration.

[@behailuterefetesfaye6305]

Thank you, it is a good lesson! Don`t drop the ball!

[@pauloranulfo3220]

Good to hear that.

[@notyouraveragejohn69]

As someone with a disability I wish it was this easy to not believe the voices with certain tasks.

[@isisgregory3910]

The contents of this video far surpassed my expectations. Thank you so much. I loved it.

[@LongLươngBảo]

Man this guy is funnier than I thought🥰🥰

[@shile1417]

You're good at this, wow thank you

[@MdAccount-k3i]

Yours advices are very helpful for listening improve take love from Bangladesh 🇧🇩

[@samandarodilboyev1926]

"say 'yes' to opportunities"

[@bibletriviaUSA]

❤ When I was a little ❤

[@piyushraval9983]

Thanks

[@joelcrneck5402]

Awesome!

[@Martin-ft3nj]

Great thoughts

[@chris.asi_romeo]

Say yes to opportunity. Show up.

[@ShubiDoobyDoo1]

Love your content fam! Keep it up! Can't wait to see what else you make in 2024 and beyond! 👟🔥🎥

[@kyiooaung4133]

Continuing to show up and keep practicing is the key to push the negative voices in your head and the un-comfortability away.

[@TheQueenofConfidence]

Storytelling here just 🤌🏽 chefs kiss!! ❤❤❤❤

[@karthicksalvem8922]

Right time

[@SwarupaSahoo-m2q]

The best❤

[@rhettaldrich7926]

I propose something they are and they are your different personalities we are complex beings challenge yourself in using the voices use the force

[@Heroisharo]

I'm increasingly frustrated by the idea that negative thoughts are somehow not our own. Every individual must take responsibility for their thoughts just as much as they do for their actions. To suggest that negative thoughts 'aren't yours' removes accountability from the individual. In my view, one of humanity's biggest challenges is accepting accountability. But what happens when you take responsibility for your thoughts? You realize that you have the power to change them. You can start replacing destructive thoughts with constructive ones. If you accept accountability for your positive affirmations, why not do the same for negative ones? Personal growth requires taking ownership of all aspects of your mind, not just the parts that are easy or pleasant to acknowledge. It's not about external forces or blaming something else-it's about recognizing that these thoughts come from within, and that gives you the power to change them.

[@Samantha-vlly]

He did not meant that it needs to be eliminated or not acknowledge, it’s about being positive thinker no matter what happen. Just in that moment you are in, it’s a choice of learning to let it pass or accepting of where you want to be.

[@Catfishwilly1]

“Those voices in your head are not yours”

[@BeyondClosedDoors-w8c]

It's true 🎉🎉

[@e.rosario16]

Shift the narrative from “Why me? -> Why not me?” and then take massive amounts of action towards that goal.

[@ИззатТуляганов-м5г]

Anyone wondering how to stop self-talk - easiest way is to relax your tongue. You tongue should feel very heavy - if you want to learn relaxing try first on your arm. There is no self-talk if tongue is relaxed

[@ИззатТуляганов-м5г]

He is right though those thoughts are not ours - whose those thoughts are described in the last Castaneda's book Active side of infinity.

[@gokuldham9508]

Best ever..!!

[@Samantha-vlly]

Even if you turned down an opportunity, there are still chances to make and could even be a better one :)

[@mandisihithyl7742]

nice josh ...

[@mariaantoniettamontella9173]

bravo

[@Lisandro-z9y]

I will be forever grateful to you, you changed my whole life and I will continue to preach on your behalf for the whole world to hear you saved me from huge financial debt with just a small investment, thank you Brenda Devore

[@Alexander-x1s]

Wow. I'm a bit perplexed seeing her been mentioned here also Didn't know she has been good to so many people too this is wonderful, i'm in my fifth trade with her and it has been super.

[@George-l8c3u]

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[@Emily-c7i]

Isn't that the same Mrs Brenda Devore I'm new at this, please how can I reach her? that my neighbours are talking about, she has to be a perfect expert for people to talk about her so well

[@Scarlett-m7g]

I'm new at this, please how can I reach her?

[@Charlotte-f8l]

I was skeptical at first till I decided to try. Its huge returns is awesome. I can't say much

[@MrGordonSims]

So that’s what Pink Floyd meant by “there’s someone in my head but it’s not me.”

[@mikemaurer3320]

You can talk about it like that

[@MyIslah]

his first 5 mins hold me first time i love watching a video who is talking interestingly not an edited video

[@despinagiannika1194]

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@NoahAlwakeel]

great

[@razikhan3799]

it's a game of balls, keep your balls healthy!

[@childoftheuniverse7318]

❤

[@happypepper9326]

I am my negative voices.

[@alisoninchausti1080]

If you choose so, no doubt. Cue to Buddhist saying “Wherever you go, there you are“

[@aramshwany318]

❤❤❤

[@justinh5244]

oh yea

[@no_one514]

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[@JoelKeel]

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[@Bizibee483]

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[@ShivamSingh-hy7ug]

More Border”great,,

[@hapster22]

What if my inner voice is less harsh than others'?

[@Joshuaowengreen]

Then you can still show up and listen if you desire so. As long as it serves you in finding what you want. You got this

[@lilyzhao6899]

❤👍👍