How To Connect Emotionally, Sexual Satisfaction & Sex Gone Wrong | Ask A Black Man

[@kiwthebeauty]

What a great group of articulate and mature men!! No one was trying to be outrageous with their answers they were all calm, probably had their share of wild sexual young experiences and grew up! Great group of men!

[@antoinitaviolette4140]

Kiwi The Beauty ditto!

[@TheLilly]

Kiwi The Beauty Yassss!

[@biancadoss11]

EXCELLENT selection

[@ThePlumbobiana]

OMG I love this panel. These are some intelligent MEN that can really sit and have a mature conversation. I love it

[@tricew2119]

Will the celibate men please stand up! I have been celibate for 4yrs and have not come across any men even close to being celibate. It's great to see this panel of men discussing the subject and wish more men would embrace it.

[@majidhussain1166]

Trice W started my celibacy journey ystrday !

[@NyakzOTSD]

I doubt that's out of choice

[@fireinjunred]

Nyakz lol female incel

[@GiGi-gc2mm]

8yrs celibate waiting on my Husband. Advice stay strong.

[@bfields112]

4 years? Damn ... you have really strong fingers 😭😭😭

[@TheAmberbutterfly]

I am 23 woman and I am over the meaningless sex. I want to connect with a man deeper that just physical, stimulate my mind. Finally met a man like this, that's older and he does that for me.

[@LadyK007]

The man waiting for marriage😍😍😍😍

[@MsBehavin19]

yeeesss💍😍👐

[@somethingaboutmary21]

Love it! 😍💍👍

[@NikNik0123]

+Auragirl86 #unicorn

[@Enheritance]

+Auragirl86 yasssss he's a keeper !

[@sweetlifeofvidette4716]

he can't be 'keeper' just because he's waiting until marriage (christian girl or not) so much more is needed to qualify a man as a keeper.

[@amourlashai]

Real men with good points. I love hearing some things from a mans perspective.

[@VondaBoo]

Thank you for these GROWN men on the panel. Much appreciated!!!

[@kiwiqueen8174]

i am a Young virgin 27 yr old women and I am amazed by thses grown mature adult men about sex it's amazing answers compare to young men today

[@Odin-Must-Dy]

You better hurry up..you should be up against the wall by now!

[@yordanosg.7926]

I really appreciate their conversation.Very entertaining!! I especially loved how calm and open they were about all the topics.

[@JamieLynn12345678910]

Yordanos G. YAAASSSS! lol 💯 THIS is AWESOME 😆

[@informationbusiness9523]

Ikr, a mature black man is more than a breath of fresh air.

[@tjack8235]

This was great to listen to. I was so intune. I like how they included all view points from mature black males. Includes a married guy, single, celibate, one that maybe a player, but still intellectual mature conversation. I applaud our Black brothers. Lead the youth and continue showing more Black intellect.

[@Tabaitha_Elle]

I enjoy this panel. Keep them please!

[@LaaDiosaa]

Glen is a deep thinker, omg that is so rare and so hard 2 find in a man!

[@gdaebb9179]

And he is young too.

[@jeffcane561]

It's not hard to find tho

[@beafranklin516]

I must admit, when I saw this video I was just going to take with a grain of salt. Now after watching I'm glad I took the time. And Glen is supper attractive.

[@ronnietoni819]

Bea Franklin he’s ok lol but yea I second to the video

[@kec01bla]

I'm glad to see an open dialog about sex and relationship. I have to agree with a lot of what these men said.

[@kmd072591]

Wow, I like this panel better! We change and our needs change also. So glad to hear there are men who understand that women go through changes. Awesome discussion.

[@Sweetpea2977]

Great talk with mature men. #refreshing

[@TKr9491]

Yes Patrick! An emotional connection involving sex is needed to thoroughly enjoy it. Where are you guys I live in LA.

[@keepinglifeflowing8392]

Who is the man waiting for marriage? He is a king among men ❤️

[@bosjsjsj6606]

Amen a real king perticular about who he lays with

[@lisas3825]

I am so in to and enjoying the platter of perspectives these brothers are serving up. Diverse, with unflinching truth, good insight and thought provoking dialogue.

[@Enheritance]

i love how all these men have good wisdom and maturity regardless of their ages lol they had some good pointers on the topics . im hungry for more ! especially with the waiting until marriage to have sex . where are the guys like that in the world? lol

[@keke41900]

This men are very intelligent and I really enjoyed all their viewpoints!

[@juanitahector9195]

This conversation was very refreshing 😊

[@2ManyThieves0]

I feel that boys/men in relationships have a lack of communication towards certain things because the answer could be negative. Nobody wants to be told they arnt doing what you want. Like we feel your challenging my manhood. But it's essential for a healthy relationship

[@Pr_20]

Finally intelligent grown men who understand women! Love this.

[@1beatsbytdot]

Ladies, this is how REAL men express themselves. We are capable of doing it despite the popular opinion. I wish they could show younger guys like 22-25 like me.

[@stanleyb2320]

Here we go. Compared to the 5th episode much more balanced. These men are older and more mature and at least one man is married. I've learned being married when it comes to sex men just need a time, women need a reason. I don't get tired.The married brother is right on. If I spend time with my wife and do things for her if I want sex she has much less resistance and it is definitely easier. Unless in a relationship and before marriage I did not need an emotional connection. But now I need a connection with my wife. For the sex decline question if sex becomes bad they are spot on. Like all the responses. Sex does not go downhill per say but other things become more of a priority especially for women. It has not yet for us at yr 4. Answers again on point. Grade A+ for this one

[@blackbutterflylove2758]

Really dope and respectable forum....thank u gentlmen.... quite helpful.

[@lorrilewis2178]

These are some smart men.

[@tstyles9690]

A mature group of young MEN👍👍👍

[@dominiquedelaine]

I'm loving this series now MN! Y'all picked a great panel! Gerald cracks me up and I still love me some Glen!

[@NaturalDivineGoddess]

*”The meaningless sex, I’M PASS THAT!! So CHEMISTRY has to be built before WE GET TO THAT POINT.” I like how Edward Crawford express himself!!*

[@Beautybysable]

Lol you can tell how important sex is to the one married guy😂😂😆 lol that’s all he talked about! I’m glad to find a real discussion about relationships vs all the superficial ideas 💡 we get from the media!

[@iamdannita]

Right, he is the less interesting to me.. Even the 23 yo guy looks more mature than him.. lol

[@Leocalamb2]

This is my favorite panel of men in this series. Love the opinions. Real mature.

[@jasmineadjei2552]

Brother who is holding out for marriage,I hear you🙋🏾‍♀️I’m in the same boat. Believe me, I know how important sex is just for me so I’m praying on that. I do not want the sex drive to go down or any other not so good stuff I’ve been praying and fasting on ALL of that. Good for you for highlighting that.

[@LRamey]

The youngest man has some wisdom at 23 I like where he is headed. I really enjoy these group of men.

[@karenhiggins5237]

What a refreshing. grown, mature panel of men. I surprisingly enjoyed this.

[@ashleybohanon4186]

Why doesn't Glen's fine self have any contact info?

[@tasha5513]

Very intelligent men. The one on the end with the blue button down tho. 😍

[@informationbusiness9523]

Edward has some very rare maturity. Some of the things he admitted can only be done with sold confidence and maturity.

[@shanelowe9257]

Passionate communication and anticipation is what I desire!

[@somegirllaly8390]

if u don't make HER finish then you aint shit,period

[@britina101]

BEST video hands down so far on this topic!! was soooo worried it would be crazy like a previous one id seen but man, this was really really good!! they were mature, intellectual and articulate-- REAL MEN HERE -- and the dude thats waiting...

[@jamesgibson3716]

One of the questions was "does SEX go down hill after marriage"? I would say that is when it's suppose to go UP HILL!! What you've done is come together with some who you decided to spend the REST of your life with, and all you want to do is enjoy a healthy, vibrant and spicy SEX life. And whatever you're both lacking in that department, you BOTH work hard to make it successful and better as the years go by. Sadly, this society is backwards....People tend to think that a bad SEX life in marriage means "it's time for us to divorce".

[@lisadokes2655]

I love this!!! More men need a forum to discuss and communicate these things with each other AND women!!!

[@aaliyahs9594]

This was great I’m glad I watched this ! This was an amazing talk guys thank you 🙏🏾 ❤️.

[@ScaryToRemarry]

These guys are speaking truth! Real maturity on this panel

[@SweetTea742]

Well spoken and mature men!

[@sydneyboyd615]

They touched on something significant though - easy women are still questioned. We still have to provide “pushback” when we want someone or we’re considered diseased or loose. It was an interesting panel but still riddled with double standards

[@shellyb.8387]

Good to see that some men actually thing about emotions

[@cynthiabaldwin3107]

This panel is great the perfect blend of different ages and lifestyles of gentlemen 💯

[@sydneyplunkett6444]

really love this panel and the way everything was approached. also, even though all of the men are articulate and disrespectful, I'm able to notice a maturity level and understanding from three of the men, and two of them need a bit more time. got me reflecting on my current situation, lol

[@kirkbrown2147]

I think as long as she's honest with her feelings, don't say You're satisfied when you're not.

[@lennoxcrochet9718]

Amazing guys love the feed back

[@simplyasia5478]

We have to be in sync, in order for us to sync 😌. Loved how articulate this group was. 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 I also love hearing males perspectives on various topics, such an eye opener.

[@C2EAKali]

There's clearly a disconnect. But I guess I appreciate their candidness.

[@C2EAKali]

They're also asking a women to deny her sexuality or they assume she's diseased? Come on homies. *sigh* P*ssy Policing.

[@user-msjazzy]

Great group of men! Very interesting 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@ShayB2Bad]

This my favorite group for today !

[@Pr3ttyBrwnTwiin]

That vibe yesssss.. will create waterfalls​ and fireworks.

[@user-dn4fu8uy2q]

Smart group of men. I enjoyed that.

[@5325bunny]

Wow. The guy in the bright blue shirt really spoke alot of truth. He truly gets it. Once you hit a certain age, you need more than a pretty face and hot body. I like him👍 all the men here spoke well, I really enjoyed listening to them

[@prettycarmencurls]

What thought out intelligent honest answers. Enjoyed viewing and listening 👂

[@Jackson-pf5jb]

I love these guys and the guy to the right is amazing

[@patriciakoroma587]

Amazing and refreshing conversation by some great looking men. Peace and love from London, UK.

[@JamieLynn12345678910]

SIMPLY AWESOME! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾😆

[@gnormanrizzo6792]

Thanks for the insight it's a gift to be privy to the intermost thoughts of men

[@Sunshinesunset1]

Thank you for your Honesty. 😊✨💯

[@TheEeve1004]

Glen reminds me of Montell Jordan

[@literarylady1125]

noooo. The married guy in the middle is Montell, LOL. The resemblance is uncanny.

[@nicolesnotebook]

These videos are great. I really appreciate hearing all of these different perspectives. But the man who's been married for 10 years said, "I have the perfect wife, I've never been denied sex." LOL okay 😳 I hope there's more to her perfection than that!

[@lisas3825]

+Tayla Williams I hear! #really? And, on the other hand, he has found the perfect wife, for his primary need, aka "love language". Besides, I have learned from personal life experiences (I am now a divorcee), both directly and indirectly: many husbands cheat on their wives during the first 6 weeks after childbirth. Men tend to feel neglected, and some are unwilling to "hold out".

[@LadyK007]

He said his wife was perfect for him. There's a big difference.

[@nicolesnotebook]

+Auragirl86 I totally get that haha. It's just strange that that's the first thing he named that he finds perfect. To each his own (:

[@Wealthy_Jev]

Yes Tayla that was me and I do have "the perfect wife" FOR ME. We were on the subject of sex that's why I said I never get denied and I don't. Yes there's a whole lot more that makes her perfect for me. #1 she prays for me on a daily basis #2 she's my number 1 cheerleader #3 she's supportive #4 she's an excellent mother to our 4 children. I can go on and on, but if you would like you can follow me on Instagram and you can see why she's "PERFECT" for me and its waaaay more than sex. My ig is @Wealthy_Jev

[@nicolesnotebook]

Awwww so cute. I understand now, I respect that! Thanks for replying (:

[@cliquesnvues]

None of them mentioned Love and Sex in the same sentence. Sad Truth

[@matty8272]

As a married male nothing about sex is satisfying. Not having sex feels better as I get to save my energy for something useful. The one thing I want in bed to be allowed to sleep.

[@spiritandtruth194]

I haven't found a man in eight years who wants to lead in abstinence when trying to build an develop a relationship. Brothers need to know that women willing to be abstinent or celibate prior to marriage have been waiting with bated breath to get to the good part too! ...and like the brother on the end in blue basically said....please keep it coming, no slowing down after marriage because we've been WAITING just like you! Could it be a possibility that the women who stop sexing after being married a while were the ones having to give it up prior to being married....there's nothing new here so let's just keep it moving.

[@sagitterrorists]

What an interesting group of opinions!

[@Ebony_Marcelin]

Ok love this conversation!!!!

[@terrillholmes2451]

Real talk!!! I would like to be in that room in that discussion.

[@conniechoward]

Intrigued by the opinion of the man in blue

[@ScaryToRemarry]

He's speaking truth

[@meoy0521]

Glen a sweet heart 😍💕

[@terris.1177]

Can we get one of these panels in D.C.?

[@lovedichoreo1529]

It would have been interesting to see the contrast between single men and married men in a healthy, happy, fulfilling marriage(with a high rating of overall satisfaction in their marriage which includes their sex life) The married men (and their wives)on this panel didn't seem particularly satisfied

[@waynegoldmanjr1708]

At 5:50, ol boy in the blue shirt is lying his butt off hahahaha. Let your idea of perfection come at you offering up the booty, its OVER!! lmao. Other than that, this is a really good panel.

[@purplesassygirl]

I like that they open about this topic but why is it always how to please a man in the bed what about a woman we have needs to

[@sapphy11]

Looks like I'm moving to L.A. 😂 these brothers are intelligent!

[@kyanyack867]

hi Glen..

[@trfrierson]

I would like to know how to differentiate the chemistry that appears to be there from just sex to something real. Men seem extremely attracted to me but they are so sex focused that I start to believe thats all they want so I get turned off and break things off.

[@eddie915]

+trfrierson i think you weed out the sex hungry fellas from jump street. hopefully you'll have a pick of men that want to create something not built on sex. good luck.

[@trfrierson]

+Edward Crawford Thank you.

[@TheSupinesmokey]

+trfrierson emotional intimacy are you sharing more than just your bodies with these men when your sharing your inner most things with one another it's more than just the physical

[@trfrierson]

+TheSupinesmokey13 No im abstinent. i have been for almost 7 years. i dont tell people i date that.

[@TheSupinesmokey]

trfrierson It still applies you shouldn't keep your abstinence from them but rather make it known that you want to connect on a deeper level. How do you know when you do well it when you feel so comfortable around this man you share your inner most thoughts and feeling with him. I know from experience I was having a casual relations with a women and at the time all I wanted was sex. yet I found myself spending time with her because we had similar interests and i got to know her on a deeper level and she said she felt closer to me than the girl she considered her best friend and without even realizing it I fell for her .I felt i could be myself around her and I could be honest about my feelings. There is part of all us that we dont want everyone to see . when you get the point that a man wants to share that side with you you know its real when he feels he can freely express his feeling to you it's real

[@nofacenocase866]

I would like to know if the celibate mean also abstain from self pleasure. As women we’ve always been told that men always have to release because it’s too much built up. If you’re you’re not then are you really celibate ?

[@robinlight]

Where is the Ask A Black Woman?

[@tashaivory340]

+ Robin Light I was going to ask the same "question"until I stroll down & seen your comment question?thank you!! if they're good enough to have a panel of ask a black man...& but why not have a panel of ask a black woman? discussing these topics to...of what they think, wants, needs,expectations,desired, & turn-on and turn-off?

[@iCGreen_]

@MadameNoire So what if the the love is waining but the sex is great? Do you stop the sex?

[@eddie915]

+Carlton Green think that depends on the couple and how meaningful the relationship is.

[@ClaudiasCuties]

Such a smart group of men 😍

[@hgfw9295]

If both parties have the attitude "let's not make sex life the priority in our relationship" and at the same time "our erotic life together is very special and one of a kind", then I think it will never ever go down the hill.

[@1NeoSoulChild]

All that sh they said in the beginning scares me. LOL "At first you wanna freak but after 10 years in boomp boomp boomp." YIKES 😣

[@karenKristal]

how come they say they just want someone who will let them 'finish' but then say they want someone who thinks they are great performers?

[@johnson2191cj]

Because chances are they paid to "finish" in the form of dinner every other night and light bills,so it really doesn't matter if she thinks he's a great performer

[@karenKristal]

@@johnson2191cj why dont they just use prostitutes. It makes so much more sense and is probably cheaper an much quicker. I honestly dont understand why men dont just do that.

[@RoseyNYC]

The men from season 1 were a lot finer.

[@byanyothernameisarose3310]

I wish I could show this to a man I know..... but it’ll be an argument and he’ll say all the men are lying.

[@Pr3ttyBrwnTwiin]

Thank you, men now a days seem to forget they have to butter a woman up in order for her to be fully engaged.

[@ARMG3-e9t]

lol great panel very entertaining

[@buutifuleyes]

Wow!

[@kec01bla]

I would like someone's opinion. If I'm in a "casual relationship" with a men for a couple of years, would it be considered cheating if he sleep with someone else? Or you can use this as a topic for the men to discuss .

[@Sweetpea2977]

+Kecia A I don't believe that that is cheating unless it's an exclusive-casual relationship in my opinion.

[@MedieTC]

I'd say no he didn't cheat because you guys aren't exclusively committed to each other.

[@kec01bla]

+Takeya Hill That's a good question. Should there be an understanding between the both of you that no one is going to sleep with other people? Then I would consider that a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. But then is he obligated to tell you he slept with someone else if there is no understanding?

[@Sweetpea2977]

+Kecia A I do believe that there should be an understanding but in a casual relationship, that may not be necessary. I believe that whatever the relationship is, or isn't, should be made clear via communication first.

[@Sweetpea2977]

+Kecia A I think he would only be obligated IF the relationship is exclusive ONLY.

[@anthonyd3746]

If she not my lady, no emotional connection is needed.

[@RJ-nf1je]

What about if the man has erectile dysfunction?

[@nerogers1978]

I'm not trolling but I found the panel from the east much more interesting, and I'm from Los Angeles. I just feel like these guys were playing it safe when answering the questions specifically "what's the main thing men want in bed?" Speak Truth brothas like literally not one mention of oral not believable at all.

[@krysnm1981]

nickole hall post the link.... I do find that men are totally different in the mid west and west than the East coast men... I'm not saying this because I'm from the east coast but I like them better lol

[@darealgator]

💯💯💯 true story