How To Create A Sexual Spark With These Questions

[@ModernDatingMastery]

*These questions aren’t just about escalating the conversation but also about understanding her level of comfort and interest. The real skill lies in reading her responses and body language, making sure things stay light and fun while gauging her reaction.*

[@DosJof5118]

Truer words have never been spoken. Thanks, Sarah.

[@Sky_Burger88]

🤣

[@heruology6869]

I grew up without a mother or a sister. It's crazy that at 50 years old, I'm just starting to understand some basics about women. Thanks

[@Sky_Burger88]

What I've learned from watching Sarah's channels for a year, is that women are messed up. They don't have the integrity that men have. You can't give them respect if they haven't earned it. If you do, they will walk all over you every time.

[@heruology6869]

I got an alert about a conversation. When I came to KZbin to read the comment, it was gone.

[@Steve24527]

I know a guy that had 6 sisters and he didn’t have a clue about women either so I wouldn’t worry

[@Sky_Burger88]

@@Steve24527 It's because they don't want you to have a clue. If you start figuring things out then they just do something to totally confuse you. Evil

[@greghayes9118]

Remember you’re only as old as your outlook.

[@robertdillon9989]

Solid gold advice! Used and successful more good advice here than in any paid program on the net right now! Save it and replay it daily, weekly and when confused, re-organize… or, live in the “friend zone ! “ thank you from a practicing psychiatric specialist for 25 yrs you cannot just listen to this one once !!!! Too much to learn here ….

[@andrewparry7528]

LISTEN TO THIS GUYS!! Having spent my life chatting to women as a farrier 8 hours a day. It's easy. SARAS LAYING IT OUT FOR YOU....

[@lookfeelbehealthy6320]

I'll be rewatching this video before every first date. Awesome

[@JB-kx9bx]

I asked a lot of these on date 2 in a speak easy. We held hands on the way back to her car and made out. Just celebrated 3 months together.

[@commodore6430]

Celebrated 3 months? Talk about beta😂

[@johnnyripple8972]

If you’re interested in a long term thing stop marking meaningless things like 3 month, 6 month “anniversaries” etc. Things like Valentines Days should be very mellow and not about buying stuff. The sooner this is implemented the better.

[@lomotil3370]

🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:29 *🚫 Bad boy mindset.* 01:38 *🗣️ Communication is key.* 04:51 *🔄 Start with G-rated.* 06:29 *🌃 Right setting matters.* 08:59 *🔄 Differentiate values early.* 11:43 *👏 Encourage openness.* Made with HARPA AI

[@jamesmarchetti3286]

Oh, my Gosh I love how you touch on emotional connection first before sexual tension !!!

[@johnevans5649]

First time viewing your content and I find it quite refreshing and equally charming presentation style. Kudos, keep up the great work.

[@grisseldog]

Finally we agree on something, take it slow and enjoy the time you spend with a women. Iv question women for 25 years, started out wanting to find out what make women tick, what turns them on. Ask a question , then sit back and listen.

[@judd0112]

True. But come on man don’t tell everybody.

[@Mrbfgray]

I've had plenty of success and NEVER interrogated her like this, completely unnecessary, weird frankly. Just see where it goes and it happens naturally or you find out it's not going to happen at all, very quickly. AFTER successive intimacy you can query her for more or just experiment. There is value to this sort of advice but to the extent it's "formula" it's a fail.

[@budrogazzi2365]

She said "Beat around the bush" holy crap I lost my coffee. Lol This is one awesome woman.

[@ClarkMiedel-es6ud]

Now you’re back on topic . For awhile I didn’t watch your podcast because to me it seemed of topic for what I started watching you when you first started these episodes.

[@BWater-yq3jx]

Have to say... I will never use the phrase 'What is your love language?' Ever. 🤢

[@BWater-yq3jx]

Also, no way in hell I'm trying to get her thinking about enjoyable sexual experiences she's had with other guys.

[@Jennthegreen]

"How do you like to be loved" is a much more clear question. But if you don't love someone how they need love, your relationship won't work out long term.

[@astronomer747]

The love language tests are basically bullshit. It's no more scientific than those typical personality tests you take online. Only the Big 5 Personality Test has any solid research behind it. These other personality types are not based on any research at all. Some Baptist pastor just made this crap up about five languages of love. He doesn't even hold a degree in psychology. There aren't five love languages, and if you tell a woman sweet things, "words of affirmation", she might reciprocate by kissing or hugging, but is that really less meaningful because it isn't "the same love language?" None of this makes a lot of sense. You are not going to say, "I like you less now that you hugged me instead of telling me you love me," because physical affection is just another of saying the same thing, or can be. Some will have preferences, but it's not like those preferences for affection being displayed a certain way creates conflict necessarily. I think the concept is a bit silly.

[@Jennthegreen]

@@astronomer747 saying that love languages and that people don't have a perfered way to be loved, is ignorant. Ofc we have a preferred way to have our partner to show us love. It's a human thing.

[@astronomer747]

@@Jennthegreen Did you read my comment? I said people may have preferences for one form of affection, but that doesn't mean there are five love languages or that love languages predict who is a good partner for you. This is not based on any solid research.

[@DraconaiMac]

Thanks Sarah :)

[@thedailyword8370]

I enjoyed your take on American women being more "reserved" about having sexual conversations and I agree as I have been with several different "European" ladies and I found it much easier to work the attraction phase into earlier sexual questions than with American women.. just saying!! Thanks Sarah for another great video!

[@tikhongilson3770]

Blame protestantism.

[@deanlowe517]

Great advice Sarah

[@Hawkeye2001]

Amazing the questions / comments you can make, if you do it with a smile and / or a grin.

[@ForeverTogether219]

Yes women do enjoy Communication 💯

[@dionysiosdionou9243]

You do indeed kitchen tested. 😂 😉

[@judd0112]

Depending on whether or not they are asking the question or not. All of a sudden I’ve noticed that when the questions start to get tough and she wants to avoid something all of a sudden communicating like adults become off limits. Imagine if she had some hard/tough questions for you that were really important to her and you replied “sorry , I don’t feel like answering any questions right now….” I literally burst out laughing and was completely stunned with that statement. And that I still allowed her to live in the house. Cause if I EVER game that statement when faced with a hard emotional question I would have been staying at my buddy’s house but. Apparently that’s normal I was told.. (some gaslighting is the cherry on top). So now whenever we’re driving somewhere or she’s pissed about something and is demanding an answer as to why I did something. That’s my standard comeback,,, “ ahhhh I don’t feel like answering any questions right now!!!!!!” I almost got our family vacation cancelled after that comment. Wish I could have reacted that way when she said it…..

[@DanieNoordman]

I'm impressed - thanks

[@StevenJamesJuarez]

Hello again Sarah, I'm here again with you Steven J 4/30/24- 7:37pm Steven J. along enjoying your talk show

[@clintonfreeman799]

Excellent topic

[@harrycordell6123]

That was very good and I really like your hair I feel left out Lol I have never been to a nude beach .i appreciate you as us ual thanks😊😊

[@mikekeeney2024]

You are smart as you are beautiful!

[@astronomer747]

I just think each woman is different. Some will take longer than others, but I think the key is just making them feel like they can explain past sexual dynamics in relationships without judgment or just finding their sexuality curious or interesting. Once you ask a question like, "how comfortable are you with kissing a guy you like after a few dates" or whatever, the rest just kind of happens naturally. It's a conversation so I don't think you have to think of everything. If it doesn't flow naturally, probably wasn't meant to be or they might have some sort of sexual repression going on or something. But I never recommend following a script or saying anything you aren't comfortable with. And if they are comfortable with their sexuality, and comfortable with you, the conversation will not be forced at all. It's only awkward if they aren't interested in you or you lack charm and/or humor, or just proper manners around this. At the end of the day, you either have chemistry or you don't, and if you do not, find someone else. The right way to approach it is the way she responds well to, which can vary.

[@astronomer747]

@@CalebTheConsultant Yes, but the best teacher is experience, and a lot of the does and don'ts advice is going to need to be revised and tailored to a given person. Some women will laugh at sexual humor and are extremely comfortable, and I think conversations a dating coach would say hell no to will work depending on how you approached it and who you were with. A dating coach cannot tell you you're doing it wrong if it is received well. Videos like this are not giving bad advice, but don't think you have to follow it in any obvious way. Some women will laugh hysterically at things others will be appalled by. It's all highly subjective.

[@VTSteve]

Sarah has the sexiest voice ever! text bot scammers please don't reply!

[@robertneal4244]

Your opening graphic misspelled "escalate". It is missing the first "e".

[@michaelvandenheuvel317]

It's already working.

[@cnvi08]

Thanku very helpful!

[@imranraza1978]

To listen and see you is just a feast , a stimuli that one ask for more ,

[@DaRyteJuan]

0:15 _”HOW TO SCALATE?!”_ Wow. Spell check broken that day? 😂

[@greglewis20]

Your pg-13 questions are X rated

[@kenriehl7852]

This was an awful lot of words Sarah….The only thing I can say is that it’s been my experience and I’m 70 years old now. Is the following… I’ve dated many women in my life, and each one of you is different to varying degrees when it comes to intimacy. You must treat each woman as an individual and you more or less have to feel your way. No pun intended. There’s no set rule when it comes to individuals. If you’re perceptive and even slightly intuitive, you will know when it’s a good time to kiss a woman to hold her hand and to take it further than that.

[@loryjones7220]

Exactly. Sarah's young...

[@johnkennedy4023]

If a woman is into you, none of this matters

[@blackronin5578]

thank u, I'm studying dis video harder than any exam n I'm using dis on my new cougar soon💪

[@carolholland1424]

How about a video like this for men- especially one that is quiet and not much of a talker?

[@Danzilly]

Nice to hear a woman talk about sex. It's rare these days.

[@dionysiosdionou9243]

Everything literally is rare these days. I prefer my steak seared rare only. 🥩 😂

[@Rockownz5150]

It's rare these days, compared to what? Are you not aware how many popular sex podcasts there are, hosted by regular women, OF chicks, cornstars?

[@xyzct]

What planet are you on? KZbin is slathered with women talking about sex, down to the most graphic detail.

[@BWater-yq3jx]

Yeah where's Salt n Pepa?

[@MontyVFD]

Obviously you don't get out much.😂

[@michaelrodriguez3329]

Sounds like a conservation to have after a EMP attack. 😂

[@lookfeelbehealthy6320]

True. We'll all feel lonely after our money gets wiped out.

[@michaelrodriguez3329]

@lookfeelbehealthy6320 or ...your cell dont work .

[@JosephCorrado]

Would mentioning that there is an E in escalate be the way to start?

[@adilbajrai]

11:17 no that's just creepy

[@DanieNoordman]

Thank you for this information

[@DanieNoordman]

@Tit_me_up_sarah_down_more Sarah,please don't phone my wife won't be happy. You welcome sending messages.

[@RickertB]

Indeed. So many words, kills all sparks I must say What would be the premise for the guys and girls you are targeting this for?

[@RickertB]

Asperger men?

[@martystory5441]

Love ur channel my question is about DATING SITES, South America, Russian, ect..... do they really work, are is am expensive penthouse letters

[@jaybrown8639]

Wait until date 3 or 4? I can't even get date 1.

[@ricks3905]

what is PDA?

[@BWater-yq3jx]

Public Display of Affection. Kissing in the street. Groping at the grocery. Shagging in the subway. 😆

[@neilbradley]

Absolutely true. I had a situation where I was talking to a woman a month or so ago and she mentioned that she was a nurse at one point in the past. We had only talked on the phone a couple of times. I lowered my voice and very seductively said "Were you a NAUGHTY nurse? I bet you were. Or are." the phone went silent for a good 4-5 seconds and she says, "Sometimes.... and wow. Now I'm aroused." ;-)

[@loryjones7220]

Where did it go from there?

[@neilbradley]

@@loryjones7220 Sorry to let you down, but nowhere. Had our first and only date and definitely wasn't my bag, baby, but we're good friends now.

[@neilbradley]

@@loryjones7220 Nowhere. Went on the first date and definitely not my type (and I not hers).

[@evanlarson5853]

Doesn't matter if a woman thinks you are ugly or a stalker.

[@loryjones7220]

I wouldn't like a whole lot of these questions, BECAUSE I'll suspect he's trying to reformulate and remold himself to my liking, rather than being authentic. Guys, a few basic questions will show you're interested in her. "What makes you happy and why? What turns you off and why?" Take it from there. Too many questions like, "how do you like to be kissed" will have me retort, "a real lover already knows." So pucker up and find out yourself!

[@sv650ssuzuki2007]

Touchy subject... There is a lot of incidents of men being criminally charged for attempting to follow this type of advice. This type of advice takes from only examples of men's success from the group of men who are significantly socially advanced. This advice is then simplified into an A+B+C path for a socially disadvantaged individual to stumble through. Truth is, if she is interested then she will initiate these questions first and identify her boundaries. Once she initiates these questions, then the man can test these boundaries. A man testing boundaries is considered "playful fun". She likes her "secrets", and the man plays to figure out her "secrets". If she does not initiate this conversation, this topic is off limits and significantly risky to navigate

[@ws-ss8ks]

It has been my experience (middle aged American women) that if a woman thinks you are hot, she will carry the conversation towards sex/physical play. If she doesn't think you are hot, she will eat the dinner you paid for and not call back. You will not change that with any series of questions or a good conversation.

[@sv650ssuzuki2007]

@@ws-ss8ks I agree. The ladies mostly know how far any man will get prior to the first date. It is pretty much set in stone by the first date.

[@vladcraioveanu233]

Yeah, try to sexualise interaction with women and you end up being considered "inapropriate" or go to jail.

[@Steve24527]

No disrespect Sarah but most guys don’t want to be asking a girl how previous partners touched her or what she liked! Far better to just do it

[@carolholland1424]

The past is the past. Don’t let your future ❤ feel as if he or she is # 2 or 222. Keep ‘em guessing especially if it would cause heartache. I don’t want to hear how my bf was- even with his wife (who died).

[@loryjones7220]

Thank you! Be bold and find out.

[@kurtvanluven9351]

Now the question is, who will I ask this question of?

[@georgetabacco5379]

We’re not afraid , we do not care for some women attitudes !!!!

[@richardfox2865]

Not scared, Sarah. Let's go😅. Come on. Communicate with me, baby.xxxxx

[@Mario-b2b]

Tell it.

[@davidallegro3395]

I have so many questions! Is it really that bad? Had these skills 18 to 20 years old. Asking what did your ex do that I need to learn? What? Being confident, reading or videos of the woman's body, body language. I understand the fear of being blasted as a bad guy. Take precautions on that front.

[@ForeverTogether219]

Thanks for your information….🎉 The man I am dating … we understand the Spark 😂🤩💯

[@DaRyteJuan]

4:20 Asking a woman her “love language?” REALLY. People do that? Wow. Unless you’re Don Juan de Marco, _”the greatest lover ever known.”_ 😂😂😂

[@randyzaucha4049]

Excellent advice! I am in that spot with my new 65 year old girlfriend. Walking on eggs for sure but your advice will be a huge help.

[@Jennthegreen]

I highly doubt she is interested in sex.

[@davidstein9129]

Question to Sara or the viewers here. What are some more really good 'G Rated' questions I can ask her...to ask my date?

[@JGreen46]

This was helpful

[@dougsheldon5560]

"Is that for a full hour?"

[@philappenzeller683]

How long should you be dating a woman before asking these questions?

[@kuehnel16]

You are my subject of a HOT TOPIC 🔥

[@FenderStrat19711]

I don't know what century you're living in, but if a man waits until dates three and four before bringing up any kind of interesting romantic topics, he is never going to get to a third or fourth date. Because she's already put him in the friend zone. He has bored her to death with non romantic and non sexual banter, so he is going nowhere. Meanwhile she's gone out on a date with another guy who is not afraid to discuss romantic and sexual topics on the first date. That's the guy she's going home with, not the guy who is “playing it safe”.

[@kevindavis9862]

good stuff!

[@backyardrailroader]

Nice questions to ask, Sarah. I need to get past the asking her for a date to the movies or for a hike or a dance and her politely saying 'No.', then turning cold, rarely hearing from her again.

[@BWater-yq3jx]

Honestly though, they're all terrible 1st date choices, for differing reasons. Think about if someone's trying to sell you something expensive that you're unsure on... you initially want the least commitment, the easiest out, the safest testing. What I'm saying is make that first date require very little of her. Or you for that matter. Coffee, at a convenient place at a convenient time. If it goes well, you can stay a bit longer or go for a stroll. If it doesn't, you can just leave after 20-30 minutes.

[@innopva9973]

super info here. just super

[@erictriplett33]

"scalate"?

[@BWater-yq3jx]

To scale. After you've caught a fish, scalate it.

[@Royalchess1]

I'm NOT meaning to undermine you Sarah, but your Q&A sounds more like an interview what you're asking us guys to do. I think you're suggesting that we gently guide her with a combination of HONEST emotion and conversation. . . am I understanding you correctly?

[@jasonromo4416]

Not one question about butt stuff?

[@alanomie]

That sweet, sweet, butt play

[@martin7mkings]

I go by the words of the late great biggie smalls, what’s yo name what’s yo size… 40% of the time it works all the time

[@TommyValley-qg4vh]

Thanks alot for telling me this you gave me a bunch of good ideas, your right I should ask these things hopefully that she will open up more sexually?? I like you alot your cute and your so cool? Thank you

[@willlinke2849]

Are you sitting on a stack of books? Lol 😂😊

[@Lawrence-z3y]

Oh. My. God. We have to communicate? Seriously? I didn't know this was part of the program. I'm out.

[@Sean-rawlins]

7:00

[@andrewpiercy1023]

Women love communication, because they don’t know how to do it in plain English. They have to use games, manipulation, tactics, and all sorts of other BS causing problems.

[@grmyers7603]

Why does everything center around the womans experiences, needs, wants. How about you address a man's experiences, needs, likes, dislikes? I'm not going to give details about my sexual history details nor do I care to hear about hers in depth. I think its kind of disrespectful to ex partners, amd could create create insecurities for potential partners.

[@dhamon-pi6os]

No problems with that but online there is way too much catfishing and lies so can only joke around.

[@jarcadipane2849]

By the way, Sarah, it's, "escalate", and NOT, "scalate"..

[@gittyupg007]

It can be alot of healthy fun without games.❤

[@SkrillaJBH]

I disagree with telling men to have these long multiple date conversations. While you are instructing guys on how to have these conversations a guy like me is gently grabbing a handful of hair on the back of her head and giving her a passionate kiss on the first date. More smash less chat …

[@ws-ss8ks]

3 date rule FTW

[@ceb7894]

Take this advice, and then end up in prison…..😂

[@ericbaker5224]

Mini golf. ROFL.

[@CallsItLikeISeizeIts]

Sounds like an interrogation , just ask her if she’s ever been to a Dungeon and if not would she like to go🫠

[@Serlewsh]

2:21 you don't know me

[@williamclayton9566]

The best communication with a woman is NON-VERBAL. Costly, honest signals, i.e., talk is cheap.

[@AirForceA7x]

Strive to make a woman desired, context matters and escalate properly.

[@evanlarson5853]

These one size fits all explanations are ridiculous

[@adammitchell3462]

You are too critical. You should acknowledge that this is one person's perspective before you even watch the video. She has lots of killer advice that I think is absolutely accurate,I know it's definitely helped me atleast be more social

[@evanlarson5853]

@@adammitchell3462 You accuse me of being too critical while being critical yourself.

[@TheScottEF]

This is intriguing, but for young men looking for dating advice, I'd strongly recommend you watch some of the most popular *male* vloggers, e.g., Dan Bacon. Why? Nearly all female advice folks that I've encountered are unable to speak objectively on the topic. For young men who are shy, a woman describing how a bad-boy behaves is an instant indicator that she's filtering her advice through her own subjective world. You're not interested in dating her -- she's an internet phantasma, maybe a great person, but not someone you'll ever interreact with. Adult women (or men) who are still talking about the bad-boy phenomenon are not sufficiently knowledgeable. This is a female neurosis--you should not be adjusting your behavior to fit someone else's mental malady. What most women *TRULY* want is a real man, a manly man, someone strong in all the positive senses and confident, "bluff" is perhaps the American model (look up the adjective). None of us is all these things, but aim in that direction and you'll do fine. The "bad boy" is the cheap/short-cut version, the male boob-job version, of attractiveness to weak or callow women.

[@davepenn9181]

"If I told you you had a nice body, would you hold it against me?"

[@BWater-yq3jx]

Really, that's no worse than most of these suggestions. Which are cringe.

[@davepenn9181]

@@BWater-yq3jx Yeah, that was kinda my point.

[@peterberman4812]

xo

[@patrickperzynski4221]

So, you are saying women are Not Queens or Princess !!

[@kurthill7030]

That's all they do is talk 😂🤣👍

[@2Oldcoots]

Dear Fellow Men: You have ovcommunicated when she says "Less Talking-More Kissing". Out.

[@NicholasGeorge-cg3cf]

If you need to ask her those questions and give detailed explanations, then she has already been with to many men.

[@greglewis20]

Well said

[@thegrimharvest]

Women are sexual beings? Ok. Women like communication? Ok.. Look, are these "objective" statements the universal absolute you're presenting them as, or are you just speaking for what works for you, and then applying that outwardly in a broad generalization that's unintentionally framed as universal objective absolutes? I rather suspect if one were to try to follow this advice verbatim as presented, it's not going to be nearly as objective and universal as it's being presented.

[@stanmah5721]

A truly horrible video. Completely out of touch with reality.

[@GoodOldGamer]

"Heated discussion." I see what you did there. 😏

[@belogical3961]

Then I think my wife is trying to keep me nice! I want to be that bad boy but when I talk to her, she assures me that she doesn't like sex. She wants all the rubbing without the expectation of sex afterwards and I'm rubbing her hoping it will go somewhere but I know it most likely will not. I keep desiring a partner that I can be my bad boy self with and she is all for it. If my wife and I can turn our attitudes around about sex, and my approach to sex is where I feel okay assuming she wants it too, it'll save our marriage. The damage we are doing to each other must stop when it comes to this subject. I'm pretty much ready to give up on her. I want sex to feel right and I want a partner that I feel is okay to approach it and will actually give it.

[@zornhau3274]

It will never get better. Get yourself protected financially and legally as best you can, then give an ultimatum and be ready to walk. I waited 22 years. Nothing ever changed.

[@belogical3961]

@zornhau3274 Things changed, I kept on telling her about every time I had a sexual experience. Believe it or not she began to trust me and I started to stop begging for sex or complaining and learned how to flirt better myself. She actually is concerned for my needs in that sacred way. 8 months of praying and fighting and just hanging in there. Jesus is real! 🙏🏼