How to Date After Divorce (Rebound Tips)

[@robertlewis3116]

I’ve been divorced 30 years and I quit dating over 10 years ago. My phone isn’t ringing, no texting. I’m 60, retired and free. Dating was fun up until a point, but women hit the wall sooner than men. Y’all can have them, I’m gone fishin’.

[@john-griffin]

Great comment! Thanks

[@Freedom-Fighter1]

Their personalities are worse as they age too. Too masculine nowadays.

[@jekatskin3860]

The constant texting is unbearable

[@robert-zg8or]

Hell yes. At 35 most women in the US are wearing shower curtains for dresses. Have to admit, I'm impressed how much human skin can stretch and how a woman's ankles just disappear.

[@mjaybee]

I got laid more in the first 3 months after my divorce than I did in 9 years of marriage. Never again.

[@jrnumex9286]

scary, what pool of women is making this possible? no risk, no vd, no promises, no glenn close, no help on rent and so on i hope.

[@DrBilly90210]

Have been divorced for over 10 years. Still remember when I broke up with my first GF post-divorce and had the thought "Wait... I can break up with you and you don't get half my $hit??? 😂

[@john-griffin]

👍👍👍

[@sarah-v7h]

This intriguing video serves as a poignant reminder of the heartache I've been enduring since my 7-year relationship came to an end 4 months ago. My cherished partner, the love of my life, made the difficult decision to part ways, leaving me consumed by thoughts of him. Despite my earnest attempts to win him back, I find myself facing frustration and an overwhelming sense of emptiness , unable to envision a life without his presence. Despite my efforts to move on, I'm compelled to confess my lingering feelings and longing for him here .

[@malitatyre8219]

The process of releasing a loved one can be an uphill battle. I can relate, having navigated a similar journey when my 8-year relationship dissolved. Despite the heartache, I refused to relinquish hope and embarked on a quest to win her back. Turning to a spiritual counselor for assistance, I found guidance that ultimately led to our reconciliation.

[@sarah-v7h]

Impressive! How did you manage to connect with a spiritual counselor, and what's the process for me to reach out to her?

[@malitatyre8219]

Allow me to introduce Suzanne Ann Walters, a highly skilled spiritual counselor known for her expertise in rekindling past relationships.

[@sarah-v7h]

Thank you for this invaluable information; I've just checked her out online. Very impressive indeed!

[@andrewpizzino2514]

Four months is not a long time. You suffered a painful loss. I wouldn’t say time heals all wounds but what you do with that time that counts. Focus on yourself and other things and it will get better.

[@tedwilson1477]

My wife left me after 25 years, out the blue, for another man at her work. Abandoned me and my 8yo son. The very next day she was talking to me like an annoying colleague, it screwed me up and gave me PTSD. Im proud as I let her go without any resistance, God knows how I did it. I dealt with all my issues alone, and focused on health, fitness, meditation, nature, diet, sleep, etc Been single now for over 2 years and never been with another woman since. Allowed me to be home who I am now. Thank you, subbed!

[@john-griffin]

Your story sounds very similar to my own. It sounds like you’re following a pretty good course. Prioritize your mental health and your peace of mind. Create a loving environment for your child. Figure out who you are now before you take any new women on even as casual dates. Good luck.

[@rememberdavid9329]

25 years married, wife files for divorce, levels up and marries a doctor at work.

[@LadyJane222]

That’s aweful. Sorry you had to go through this. How does a mother leave her child? I don’t understand people like this. Hope you and your son are doing well.

[@tedwilson1477]

@@LadyJane222 Thank you! We are doing well ❤

[@cookielover1018TM]

I like being alone, this saves me a lot of money and heartache

[@brianmeen2158]

“I like being alone” So do I .. what I’ve learned is vast majority of people do not like being alone .. they simply cannot handle being alone with their own thoughts So they must be around others at all times and that’s where the drama and other bs comes in.. no thanks

[@raincoast9010]

All the stress of dating is not worth it.

[@carolinekelly8481]

⁠it’s just not worth the grief now I invest in me I could not be arsed

[@cookielover1018TM]

I don't like having my peace disturbed

[@abelroman5210]

“Got injured, progress stopped, difficulties started and led to divorce after 20+ years. Recovered and rehabbed for 4 years. Went on a self improvement journey (physical, mental and spiritual). Discovered the red pill. I never had to use game in my days. I saw someone I like and invited her out. No gimmicks. Relearned how to date. And it’s still the same game. It’s not all that deep. Confidence is outmost. Back in the saddle at 50+ years old with a beautiful younger girlfriend. There is always hope for a restart and a brighter future.”

[@john-griffin]

I think it’s possible for men and women to have healthy relationships. I think it’s critical for men to remain in control of the relationship. We transfer control to women when we get married or provide them with some level of commitment that makes them feel in control. That gives them a sense of safety like we’re not going to leave and they let their guard down and then they become controlling. We never let that happen.

[@emailsar3282]

Women are women. There are no unicorns. Young or older. AWALT and the environment remains hostile to men. The motto of the channel is 'stay single, if you can". Some men need another dose of RP reality back on the plantation before they get the message. Or trade unresolved loneliness for a relationship. I also believe men and women can have good relationships, but almost the entire culture and society is hostile to it, unless it aligns to this awful gynocentric simping version. A man has to spend so much effort trying to keep a woman 'happy' now that the ROI is just not there - added to the huge risks and hostility to men. Good luck.

[@chariotsoffire2714]

53, divorced, and i experienced everything talked about here. Did the rebound thing, the single moms, a few 25 yr olds, before finally doing some real healing myself after seeing that i was stuck. Now i feel no need to date. I work out daily, hike often, and play pool leagues with the guys. It was a long journey but im in a good place now.

[@plasmaarmelund]

So true about so many men going from one dysfunctional relationship/marriage to another because they don't do the inner work to grow from the past and gain the insights needed to be more discerning.

[@john-griffin]

Great information, thanks

[@hmurchison8123]

"No" is the most powerful word and expression known to mankind.

[@john-griffin]

Yes it is

[@BradBannister-n8b]

That first relationship after divorce is often called the "transition figure". In which we test out most of our old and newer problems. It will have to happen even if you wait. Best case, the next figure understands and gives you genuine reactions to your fears, questions, accusations, tests, negativity or depression. Stay on it John !!!

[@john-griffin]

Thanks, that was good information. I appreciate it.

[@Damon_Digital]

I've watched your videos everyday since I found out my wife was filing for divorce, thanks for the great videos and insight

[@Noisycowonline]

In my 60s and most of my buddies are thirsty simps, married or not. You would think the decline of testosterone and sex drive would save them. NO SIR. They are in an absolute PANIC if they must spend even a full day alone. Your knowledge is amazing. Thank you.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks!

[@robertlewis3116]

Wow, that’s really sad.😞

[@WhiteGhost21]

they likely are addicts to porn, is why. nofap is powerful to seeing reality.

[@DontPeeOnMyShoes]

Agreed ! I'm 57 and these Simps are utterly pathetic

[@andrewevans7992]

I have an old dude at my gym who is that way and still votes for Kamala Harris.. he’s been married for 30 years or whatever. Still thinks women are special 😂😂

[@subliminallyinc]

Everything on this channel is exactly what I need to hear as i am in my process of my separation. thank you for providing me some light in my darkest of days thus far.

[@CryptoAceYT]

Thanks for all you videos - your cinematics, transitions and storytelling is amazing, I am binge-watching them faster than a Netflix show!

[@john-griffin]

Glad you like them! Thanks

[@BlakesPipes]

Once you swallow the red pill, I can't unsee it now. No troubles sense then.😊

[@john-griffin]

Good advice

[@MrBBaron]

I was married for 4oyrs, and the wife went nuts and stole all our savings out of the bank. Single now for 10 years. Had 3 relationships in that time only to get ghosted in the end for no reason. I am a retired engineer, above average looking, good shape, 6 ft tall, and a good guitarist. I don't know where this guy lives but dating for me in the SE USA has been terrible. On dating apps, the overwhelming of us men are totally ignored. Guys very rarely get any response at all even if we have a good profile and good pictures. Unless you are in the top 10 percent of good-looking, rich, fit dudes you are invisible to women. I am done with women for good and going my own way. Too old for drama and financial loss

[@nomad6086]

Yep, there's a study that revealed 80% of the women on the dating apps only want the top 20% of men - even for the older demographics (which is shocking - you'd expect that with the younger gals not older women way past their prime) And these older women want it all - looks, height, great physique, money, good personality & the willingness to "simp" for them. And what's funny is when many of these women can land their dream guy, they say there's no "good men" out there & they're just give up & stay single. Lol

[@armyparrot9353]

Women have lost it. The benefits of living in an abundant part of the world go to them. For some reason they only see the light after 40y....

[@wisemanwalkingdowntheroad4275]

You are not the only one!

[@tedwilson1477]

Same, focus on yourself, period. You first, everything else 2nd.

[@1t0ns0up]

Thank you for your videos. I wish I had your videos when I went through divorce 7 years ago. A counsellor helped but you talk like that friend I needed to hear when I had to rebuild my identity. Keep up the great content!

[@john-griffin]

Thanks, I really appreciate that

[@steele4347]

I just came from the insurance broker...I inquired about a commercial insurance policy...I gave the woman all the info...how many buildings...how many millions in coverage...etc. One of the question she asked me while she was filling out the application online was if I am married or single. I answered single. After I left I realized that commercial insurance carriers do not give a shit if you are single or married...these women are slick‼️

[@john-griffin]

You’re exactly right. I used to sell commercial insurance and we do not give a shit to whether you are single or married. So there’s not sure your motive in there somewhere. Be cautious my friend you have a Bullseye on your back.

[@gkauto1959]

Dating is simple, the more you like yourself, the more likable you become, the more fun you are to be around! Date when you like the guy in the mirror, or hold off until you do like yourself to the point where your natural magnetism is expressed through the eyes of your partner. Dont date until then!

[@WildMidwest1]

Great wisdom. It fits neatly with this video.

[@john-griffin]

A lot of truth in that comment! Thanks

[@a.modestproposal2038]

Sooo much wisdom in this video. Being the same guy, running the same pattern => you will inevitably recreate the same conditions that you already know you DON'T want to replay. Reminds me of OT's "Roads only go where they go" YT video. Also, epic backhanded compliment: "They're not being assholes, they're just doing what comes naturally..." 🤣

[@john-griffin]

Thanks

[@bphennesy]

I lost my wife to cancer two years ago and though my siblings tried to push me into getting into another relationship I have kept to myself. Reflecting on the 25+ years of being married I find more and more that I like being single... I get to be myself again.

[@john-griffin]

I don’t think people recognize that when you enter it into a long-term relationship with another person you actually give up a part of yourself. When that relationship ends and you get to recover that part that you lost so long ago, it’s like meeting an old friend again. It’s a great experience.

[@hadnotja]

This is great dating advice for men who have never been married as well.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks

[@jeremy7625]

Same exact thing I went through! This is so true.

[@armyparrot9353]

Super important video! You MUST be careful for the Crazies ( Borderlines, narcissists, girls and single moms, bipolars) WHICH will go running for you and LOVEBOMBING you. Like he says hold out as much as possible, take it super slow, don't have her move in, don,'t invest...TAKE IT SLOW. Take at least 2 years to VET her.

[@john-griffin]

So true!

[@BlakesPipes]

51 and divorced twice. Did a lot of dating prior to marriage. post 2nd divorce which was a single mom of three boys.... if I could not give enough of myself to make that work? I am done! Saw a woman for 2 weeks, she had to fly home for a week and I picked her up at the airport, she was almost arrested if it was not for me. She was wasted drunk and could barely walk. Anyways, they all are fun till it's not fun. Very expensive hobby to pick up another one. Live on the beach and smoke a pipe. Riding to a pipe show tomorrow. I am good with my other hobbies.

[@john-griffin]

Wow! You have had some crazy experiences! Thanks for sharing!

[@Late60sMusicFan]

Good point. After getting divorced, do NOT date for at least a year.. or more. Jumping back into dating right away is a big mistake. One has to go through a grieving process, with recommended therapy if needed.

[@john-griffin]

Very true, otherwise you just go right back from the frying pan into the fire

[@gravedesires]

great advice John, I was Married for about Three years and decided not to go back into the dating pool. Many years ago after a breakup with one of my girlfriends I ended up Playing the field for about four years, Honestly, I was just filing a void instead of getting over the relationship. Btw I love the camera shots and angles in your videos, very well done!

[@Jimmer3035]

Thanks John very thought provoking.

[@orvelorten5586]

Great insights, John...thank you. I'm still working on myself and gaining knowledge while I work on my healing journey.

[@john-griffin]

Keep appreciating the small things and the big ones will come

[@steven-k7j7v]

You deliver a lot of good advice in a very concise and structured manner. I can reflect on a lot of what you are referring to. Suffered myself and now again. I believe social media, the rights and laws are fully on the side of women here in Europe. I have three boys and although I never believed it to be right till now, I would advise them not to get married. It still doesn't fully protect you, but at least you have a better chance. How about a video on lying? I have been lied to in a big way with every woman I have been in a long term relationship with. Plus the aspect of realising that the you are married to a woman who is not the person who you thought you were marrying. After finding out for example. Thanks and keep them coming. 👌

[@john-griffin]

Great ideas! Thanks

[@WhiteGhost21]

yes judge by their actions and not words, for the words are only how they are feeling in the moment.

[@steven-k7j7v]

Unfortunately you don't always know their actions and only hear their words. Question them at your peril. 😉 If you happen to get to view their messages, etc. especially when you are suspicious, then be prepared for a surprise. The hardest part, you have to ask yourself what are you going to do if you find out that she's betraying you before you actually do. It's hard when you are committed to others who need you.

[@JR-zl5kc]

Thank you for making these videos! I'm going through this in my life now. Thank you so much.

[@john-griffin]

I’m glad you’re finding them helpful. I know it’s an extremely difficult time. Hang in there it gets better.

[@thebachelorsupreme]

The Force Is Strong With You. ❤

[@john-griffin]

“ I am not your father Luke”

[@thebachelorsupreme]

@@john-griffin😂😂🫡 We are safe in your hands. The message is real. ⚡️

[@codywy5579]

100% correct.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks

[@36handy]

Same old topic but very interesting take on it. Enjoyed the vid. Cheers. DD

[@john-griffin]

Thanks 👍

[@davidmckay4423]

Another good episode. Like you I was fortunate to find a lady who told me it was far too early to start dating. The next lady I met told me the same. I left it a year and tried again. This time it met the cat lady, the single mum and best of all the ones who had destroyed a good thing and were trying to find another mug to keep them in their old age. Dating is soul destroying

[@FLAC2023]

Women in USA are crazy. They ALWAYS have some nonsense excuse for just about everything... it's not you, it's them!!! Move or travel to Argentina or Brazil. There are millions of beautiful women available. Go to small cities first, don't waste your time in big cities. Just walk around and meet them everywhere!

[@john-griffin]

I’m holding out for a multimillionaire supermodel who has a fetish for shorter guys

[@FLAC2023]

@@john-griffin well go to Argentina, Chile or Brazil. They don't care about that nonsense... Stop wasting your time

[@YoMamashouse770]

😂😂😂 🐪 in the tent! I love it! 😂😂😂😂 that almost happened to me!😂😂😂😂

[@youareIndenial981]

Thanks, John.

[@Chuncy566]

A wise man fearith, and depart from evil, but the fool rageth, and is confident!

[@Jackripster69]

Just discovered your channel and recently divorced after 30 years. Refreshing advice after hearing so much the red pill type stuff. Seems you walk a more middle ground which is way more practical for men wanting to live happy healthy independent lives while still having a healthy interaction with women.

[@john-griffin]

That’s exactly right. I don’t think you can turn your back on half the population. It might feel good for a minute to tell people you’re not gonna ever date again but really is that the ideal way to solve this problem? I just think people are deluding themselves or they’re avoiding the opportunity to grow up.

[@Jackripster69]

@@john-griffin Thanks John, i never 100% bought into that part of red pill. Learn from them, yes sure, but to me its unrealistic. You're taking the path id envisioned for myself. Ill be working my way through your videos for sure, but im curious - if you found a unicorn woman would you consider living together? No real point of marriage and the noose that comes with it at this stage i think.

[@Arabdude2007]

Recently divorced too scared to date after losing my house,car and savings.The ex waited till I was at work to gut the house of all my valuables had a safe with life savings in it that she took. Didn't see it coming at all .Just tired and there's no way I could trust any woman again.

[@WildMidwest1]

Terrific video, and the comments here are also top tier. You are building a strong community, friend.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks! I’m really having fun!

[@Sishelterdogs]

Good information John! Love your companions in the videos.

[@john-griffin]

Glad you like them! They are great 👍

[@joshuakelly997]

Thank you

[@john-griffin]

You're very welcome! I'm glad you enjoyed the video.

[@paulbelisle7213]

Those single moms going after you werent looking for a dad….were looking for a financial resource.

[@ttocselbag5054]

I am so thankful that the shots of dopamine and oxytocin that I used get at the sight of a pretty face, have died down as I’ve aged. No doubt that has saved me many, many bouts of disappointment and heartbreak brother John. 👊💪

[@john-griffin]

Me too

[@GGarrigan]

@@ttocselbag5054 low testosterone

[@wisemanwalkingdowntheroad4275]

A man should be only married once at most.

[@blakenelson4045]

Hey thanks for your perspective

[@john-griffin]

I’m glad you are enjoying it

[@rishrao2332]

How do get those nice aerial angles in your videos? Are you using a drone?

[@john-griffin]

Yes! Is the most fun ever! Thanks

[@fredcastelobranco3220]

Hello John, watching your videos from Brazil. Very inspiring. Thank you for the content.

[@john-griffin]

Glad you like them! Thanks

[@TheMiraleah]

Great video john, this is what i needed to hear, your advice has helpte me no end, big thanks

[@john-griffin]

I’m glad you found it useful. Thanks

[@michaeldeangelo5599]

Another great one John!!

[@john-griffin]

Glad you enjoyed it, thanks

[@LeonardEarnshaw]

Every relationship experiences challenges, but there is always a way to progress. My marriage was tested by significant problems, but with appropriate help, my wife and I worked through them and strengthened our bond. Solutions are available if you’re ready to put in the effort and work together. Stay hopeful-there’s always a way.

[@BruceKnapp-n4q]

I’m dealing with major issues in my relationship and can't imagine losing her. I love and miss her dearly and am prepared to do whatever is needed to have her back in my life. Any advice or direction you can offer would mean a lot to me.

[@LeonardEarnshaw]

Releasing someone you love is always a daunting task, but in my situation, I had the support of a spiritual advisor who prevented the disintegration of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.

[@BruceKnapp-n4q]

I'm thankful for this guidance. I'll immediately search for her online. I appreciate it. I'm hopeful that adopting this strategy will also bring about positive changes for me; I miss her deeply.

[@LeonardEarnshaw]

You should

[@tedwilson1477]

@@LeonardEarnshaw not true my wife just up and left for another man, if they fall for someone else behind the scenes, it's over.

[@steele4347]

Modern day women are very difficult to be around...I prefer being single...I am alone...but I am not lonely‼️

[@john-griffin]

👍

[@WeeklyHealthShow]

Thanks for sharing your story

[@john-griffin]

My pleasure

[@rickyfargason8859]

Being red pill is healthy. Understand the game, the nature of women, and what you're getting into. Being black pill is unhealthy. Yes, men are given a raw deal with women and society, but don't let that cause you to be jaded and withdrawn. Live your life with your eyes wide open knowing and understanding the reality of male-female nature. Be aware. Proceed with caution and your self interest in mind.

[@brianmeen2158]

Red pill Is good to a point. There is a very toxic side to red pill and guys like to almost celebrate women hitting the wall or living with cats and Zoloft. I don’t like that aspect of it

[@john-griffin]

Speaking for myself, I feel like the mistakes I made were out of ignorance. However, in the moment when I was making those mistakes, I was having a lot of fun. Over the years I’ve learned a lot of valuable lessons. I’ve also had three great children. So although I have some regrets about my relationships with women, on balance, they have been beneficial to me. I’ve had some great sex, I have enjoyed the company of extraordinarily attractive women and I’ve had some kids. Everything that has a beginning also has an end. So the fact that the relationships ended shouldn’t be too surprising. If I ever get into another relationship I will be much wiser and much less likely to offer my commitment so easily. But I would hate to give up on sex or the company of a beautiful woman for the rest of my life just because I’ve been burned. Life is short, and we’re just here to have some fun. So let’s just have some fun. But this time I’ll be smarter.

[@rickyfargason8859]

@@john-griffin Excellent points. Once we understand the rules of the game, how women behave and why, it makes us wiser and more cautious, better at dealing with their ways of manipulating. Like you say, it's no reason to become a hermit and forgo having women in your life. Understand the reality and move forward.

[@xyzct]

62 year old, here. Never been married. You guys are fools for getting tangled up with those lunatics.

[@john-griffin]

yes!

[@xyzct]

@@craigbarnett5992, sorry brother, I was just trying to playfully tease like guys do. I have genuine empathy for the horrendous beating that divorce brings.

[@melenico4512]

I can't say I have ever really been good at dating and especially romance. I am just not designed that way. I think a US Senator once said, "Dating is legalised prostitution". I would add with the rebound sometimes she is also on the rebound from a divorce or relationship break up as well. With women try stay very neutral as best as possible.

[@jelig72]

If you're looking to date, rebound or get back into a relationship after divorce, you're doing it wrong. Too many men seek validation from women. It's a drug that you need to be sober from.

[@john-griffin]

Excellent advice

[@brianmeen2158]

True. I see so many men that can’t be single and just crave the validation they get from just being with a woman. They go to crazy lengths to enter into and maintain these relationships . I’m often left scratching my head lol❤

[@bindervegas8006]

Thanks

[@john-griffin]

Thanks very much! I really appreciate it!

[@GBU61]

If a man has been married for years and suddenly finds himself single again, he should approach women as a temporary thing moving forward. At 50 or 60, we men have a lot of issues that are unresolved and so does she. The best he can hope for is to find a woman who is not completely crazy and she is tolerable to be around. I maintain my own home and it will stay that way. As I meet women I go into it expecting it never to last, but enjoy it while it does. I set hard lines with her and wait for her to test them. As soon as she does I call her on it and be prepared to end it, with no second chances. This allows me to maintain who I am while never compromising what I will or will not accept. Those days of “happily ever after” are over. Learn to accept it and be prepared to live alone for your remaining days.

[@john-griffin]

Being alone is wonderful. I think too many people fear the silence. When you’re alone, you have the freedom to add and subtract from your life what you wish whenever you wish.

[@plasmaarmelund]

Don't date single moms. You are in for a whole lot of drama and regret.

[@grahambamford9073]

If your dating older women, 40s,50s etc..... ask yourself a question, why is she still single..? Sure maybe she is divorced or widowed, but you can be sure she has had no shortage of guys looking to date her over the years, and for some reason she hasn't been able to keep one....?? Why..? As I've seen from other videos, remember she has been the "common denominator" in all those past relationships. Be carefull don't rush in take your time, as was said, you don't really know this person she could be crazy.

[@neohermitist]

My pre-marriage dating was absolutely pathetic. I only asked 3 girls out each time I was turned down.

[@jrnumex9286]

1;00 she came thru with wisdom..... you'll fall hard...... then bailout so let's not even try.' "i just got a big inheritance" ok, pick me up for coffee fri noon.

[@OziBlokeTimG]

I gotta laugh at guy's who think their getting "lucky" with girls. I mean it's all good enough. But trouble can be just around the corner. There's a lot to be said for holding out. People get confused between Sex and Love. Good things take time. And don't be afraid to be on your own.... always be ready for abandonment. 😅

[@southernexposure123]

Dating is a minefield and marriage is a bear trap..

[@alanbarnes3569]

John, I really enjoy these videos you post. The other thing that women like to do at the start of a relationship is on the first or second time of visiting your house they like to leave something behind, whether it be a scarf or a pair of gloves. Because they know that if you finish the relationship they’ve got a reason to come back, because they will need to come and get their belongings. Once they get into your house again they will start the sympathy trick and even maybe turn on the waterworks and start crying begging you not to finish with them because they know we will 9 times out of 10 give them a second chance. So never let a woman leave anything at your house, every time she leaves make sure she’s got all her belongings with her and then she’s got no reason to come back. Have a great day 😊

[@john-griffin]

That’s a good point, I forgot all about that. But you’re right.

[@alanbarnes3569]

@@john-griffin Thanks John 👍

[@marciamakoviecki3295]

As an older single woman, I am also just focusing on myself and getting lean, strong, learning every day, running a business and doing what I enjoy. I have a house, money, strong income, intellect, sense of humor. I haven't used dating apps, but I definitely don't meet any men 'in the wild.' I truly think older women feel the same way older men do... not worth the trouble trying to find the needle in the haystack when you enjoy freedom and agency.

[@john-griffin]

Love that!

[@AnAussieinNorway]

My sister worked on that consent project. It’s a point of contention between us. It costed 50 million dollars of tax payers money.

[@feralandroid]

I tried dating after my divorce, but everyone got fat.

[@mini-z_me]

Yeah, that's the main issue for me in Australia.

[@john-griffin]

That’s hilarious

[@NJtroutboss]

@feralandroid to keep with his basketball analogy...james harden when he went to the sixers 😆 🤣

[@reclaimtheframe]

I had a mostly sexual relationship about four months after separation, she wasn't right for me but I was upset when she ended it. I hope I'm not doing a repeat. I felt like I was living with a roommate the last 5 years of my marriage and feel I'm okay being in a relationship, but I still get mild times of sadness so maybe I'm not.

[@MVProfits]

Having our hearts crushed add insecurities for sure. And, well, we men are dumped cause "we're not good enough". Even as very confident men, it's going to leave a mark. But in all my long LTRs, I've had lots of sex. Guys, be great at it, and I'm serious, it's skills that can be learned and improved. And of course, chose a woman that likes it, not sees it just as "a man's thing".

[@richiekock8835]

The more I watch your videos the more depressed I get. I don't mean it badly. I guess it is the hard truth that should be heard though.

[@john-griffin]

Stay tuned. I will show you how to deal with it

[@ricvanwinkle1665]

3 out of 4 woman actually make sexual advances with me and I actually gone through too many as I let a good one get away and I broke another heart😅20 years sexless till she asked for a divorce as she wasn’t sexless

[@gregj1350]

Good stuff!

[@john-griffin]

Thanks!

[@Dweeble233]

For a short while after I divorced my first wife I hated women. They were something merely to be used. Pumped n dumped only. I had a rotation that was up to 5 deep at times. After a while however it became boring and unfullfilling.

[@singas2854]

After my divorce and seeing what people around me were doing I said no thanks to western women 😂😂

[@erikt1713]

Why so negative? It is true that I was locked in a sexless marriage for 5 years, but that was after the earlier 15 years of marriage in which we just developed differently. After the separation I found dating a thrilling experience. Naturally, I settled down again after about 3 years and I have a new baby with my new woman. After 15 years I would be 65.

[@RobertSkene-qw3ob]

Don't!! Fly Solo Fly Safe ,Fly baggage less and instead eat BAGELS!!🇨🇦😂

[@LinusWilson]

Mention that u are dating other women periodically if they fail to initiate the talk. If all the women u r dating know they are not exclusive a toothbrush will not be an issue. Don’t accept exclusive relationships so easily.

[@happyhermit2022]

In my experience, all women are financially and emotionally draining...accepting that my experience may be limited, more than 50 less than 200...albeit a small percentage worldwide...and retired now with two exceptional dogs, three two seater cars and a motorbike.. anything else is rentable...pay once and walk away

[@fredstriker2042]

Follow your passions/hobbies. At this point in life finding a decent woman is almost impossible. There is WAY more to life than a piece of worn out tail on meds

[@PinoSantilli-hp5qq]

She told you that because you now know what women are like and will do in a relationship and she won't be able to manipulate you...

[@dw4956]

A colleage of mine has got himself involved with a single mom and he has no clue what he's getting himself into, dispite me trying to feed him redpills to get him upto speed on female nature. He's 40yo healthy tall guy without kids or previous marriage, clean slate. He's seriously marinaded in the blue liquid, a bad case of one - itus. I know she's going to wreck this guy and discard his hollow shell.

[@john-griffin]

You’re probably right! As a father, I have witnessed my children doing things that I would normally warn them against. Unless they’re going to get into some physical danger, I just let them do it without saying a word. I think that we need to respect that each person has their own path the walk in this life. And we have no way of judging, the value of that path from the outside, so although I am certain that you are correct and your assessment, your friend needs to learn that lesson on his own. You can only do so much.

[@dw4956]

@@john-griffin I agree but the proces is still hard to watch.

[@el_txserpico4501]

They love “recently divorced” they run away from “ never been married”

[@aaronlarsen4674]

Female logic finds gold quite well

[@el_txserpico4501]

@@aaronlarsen4674 so you prefer scars and baggage? Sounds like women prefer drama instead of peace

[@knoxrunner]

I think men who have been hurt through fornication have to up our morality. But now, in our culture and probably through the ages, finding a virtuous woman is almost impossible. Seems divine intervention is the only way..and so we may be experiencing a subtle call to repentance.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks for sharing your views!

[@robertobravo6834]

A real man loves himself so much that he doesn't need the love of anyone else. Why dating at all?

[@john-griffin]

Great point

[@nomad6086]

What about sex? If you're a middle-aged man who works out regularly, eats healthy, sleeps good, etc, your libido is going to be very high. I'm 63, workout every day, eat healthy, don't drink & my libido is through the roof (it's hard to concentrate at the gym sometimes. Lol). The problem with most of these middle-aged women is they don't want hookups or even casual dating but they're obsessed with having a LTR. What are us horny guys supposed to do? My dream would be to have a "friends with benefits" situation. Unfortunately, I can get plenty of female friends but I can't seem to get the benefits to go with it. Maybe if I looked like Tom Cruise or George Clooney I"d have better luck. 🤣

[@brianmeen2158]

@@nomad6086. Yeah it’s a tough question . I’ve found that when I got into my Mid 30s that getting into “friends with benefits” relationships got old .. plus no matter how simple I tried to keep them, the women tend to get feelings and then it’s a headache. So id end it and go on to the next but I find even trying to meet new women to honestly be a chore at this point. I just find it to be tedious and it doesn’t help that I can spot the red flags and drama from a mile away at this point.. the last 3 women I met that I found attractive enough to date were also bogged down with tons of trauma. And they don’t hold back on telling you about it. The last one had trauma and 5 kids!! No way am I entering that type of chaos lol.. So I just find the entire process of meeting and dating to be more effort than reward and I’m a guy that doesn’t struggle with attracting women.

[@aaronlarsen4674]

‘Implied consent in everything’ sounds very despicable if used against ladies so of course they will use it against men whenever possible because that is justice for them or something

[@sirg-had8821]

Don't Don't waste your time.

[@heliandme]

Don't!

[@christopherqueen3194]

Consent laws in Australia? Well that’ll definitely help out with the population decline crisis! Clarification: By “consent laws” I mean arbitrary legislation that further estranges young men and women in societies, and tends to convince young men that it’s not worth the potential risks to interact with young women.

[@markhodge5006]

Women aren't worth it.

[@howardbarrett9131]

I'm planning my strategy. Going to be careful. Oh, and I need a dog.

[@john-griffin]

Can't go wrong with a dog!! Thanks