STOP THE WEDDING! Watch This First!

In this video, we dive into essential marriage tips that ACTUALLY matter for a lasting and fulfilling relationship. Whether you're contemplating a prenuptial agreement or seeking valuable relationship advice for men, we've got you covered. Discover insightful strategies and words of wisdom about marriage that can help you navigate common challenges. Our discussion includes practical marriage advice that resonates with men, offering man-to-man advice that is both relatable and actionable. From understanding the importance of open communication to recognizing the signs that may lead to divorce, this video provides marriage insights that every couple should consider. Join us as we explore effective prenuptial tips and uncover the secrets to a successful partnership. Don't miss out on these valuable marriage strategies that can transform your relationship!
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[@john-griffin]

I wish someone told me this before I got married!

[@MichaelThalee]

😮

[@Carolina480]

@@john-griffin im learning a lot it’s great information to be a better future wife

[@2ndborn186]

Exactly. Me, too. In fact most all men feel this. I have never understood why Father's do not warn their son's about this. My father and my two grandfathers were miserable. No one said a thing to me. I actually had these discussions with my son and my daughter. They are in the 30's and NOT married, thankfully.

[@andre1987eph]

You were warned and people tried, you probably insulted them by saying things like, "who hurt you?" etc The information has been out there for 30* years

[@jasonwiesenbach7457]

I remember dating someone in my 20s. I told her i was about to buy a car I'd had my eyes on for a few years. She said I was a fool for not spending money on us. I told her I earned that money, and will do as I please with it. Safe to say that relationship ended shortly after I bought the car. It was a lesson learned, and one I still value. And 20 years later, I've still got the car. I think it's important to never compromise my values for anyone. If a woman doesn't like who I am today, how could I expect her to respect me tomorrow?

[@Bibbob-vm2hu]

This guy should have a million subscribers. His lessons are excellent.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks

[@seamusdelahunty1615]

ye probably wouldnt have listened

[@iainbarker4935]

Spot on. Have lived alone since divorce 10 years ago. Love the freedom, peace and absence of drama.

[@2ndborn186]

Yes. Thank you for this. As an older guy I try to tell young men this and they DON"T LISTEN. I guess we keep trying.

[@mikesnaturalroast7748]

63 yrs old. Divorced at 60. Hard to imagine getting married again.

[@mikesnaturalroast7748]

Correction. Divorce final at 61.

[@armyparrot9353]

I think there is no point for a man to get married. It is an immediate securization of wealThe cat is out of the bag.

[@TheAccord77]

Man, enjoy your life now

[@kengaroo5170]

Marriage is a business contract. Where a man signs the contract that favors a woman to break it. An older man with kids can have female friends with benefits. But they will try to get your money for the sex eventually. They are always in business not love.

[@gary6514]

A man marries because he loves her....she marries because she sees a good business opportunity. An important video John. Well done.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks

[@sweetbeep]

That is not true all the time

[@Jasmine-qv9gq]

Yeah, not true all the time

[@themoonsea9893]

@@sweetbeepThe test would be good: Instead of marriage he gives you a contract. When he leaves you, you pay him alimony, you give him half of your savings. When you sign this, I will believe you.

[@kissengerc9468]

They picked those houses so they can kick us out 😂

[@marse7092]

A good female friend of mine literally told me that’s her plan in life lol 😂

[@Brian-qg9bm]

There's a dude in Spain who sells services as a "wedding destroyer". Something like $500.00 Euros and he'll show up at your wedding. When they ask if there is any reason the two should not be wedded, he stands up and pretends to be an old flame of the bride and he contests the marriage. He charges extra for every time he gets slapped or punched.

[@FreedomTravels720]

He shoud be payed much more

[@peterrichardson9248]

Love it, if you pardon the pun.

[@Brian-qg9bm]

@@peterrichardson9248 It'll only work until people start to recognize him. I know about him in Alaska, so I'm guessing that over there in Spain, right about now, the jig is up. He'll have to raise rates and hire some people if he wants to stay in business.

[@seamusdelahunty1615]

who hires him? friends of the groom?

[@timizo691]

Everything you said was 1000% accurate. My marriage with my ex was exactly how you described it. It’s like you watched it live.

[@john-griffin]

I think a lot of us have the same experience. Thanks

[@timizo691]

@@john-griffin thank you! Your videos have been extremely helpful!

[@JeepWrangler1957]

I’m floored that I’m watching my life. Most men are like water. We choose the path of least resistance. We’re told “happy wife…happy life “ or “cheaper to keep her”. Peace is wealth

[@bobjames6622]

The CORRECT term is "NO wife....HAPPY life".

[@gerry742]

Just found my favorite channel! It's like having coffee with a buddy, and talking about anything!

[@john-griffin]

Thanks man! I appreciate that

[@jacksquat4140]

Divorce is a State-sponsored wealth redistribution program for women.

[@9avedon]

Yep ! , In communist Canada Prenuptial agreements have no legal standing.

[@tractorman1990]

Between you and Patrice o Neil I’m terrified to get married! He talks about how women change you into someone they don’t like them leave you for someone like you used to be. Crazy that more people aren’t talking about this! Thanks for bringing it up!! Just do you thing and you will have lady friends, the fear of loosing that ONE is what drives a lot of people I think.

[@nickcalderone75]

Absolutely great advice!!! I hope this reaches so many men out there who are considering marriage. I type this as the ink on my divorce is drying... 14 years and $142,000 dollars is what it has cost me. Oh, plus additional attorney fees. Please THINK before you get married.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks for sharing that information! Those real life stories will hopefully help young guys making that decision. I think we need marriage reform!

[@TheAccord77]

Man, that's much, I hope you recover for the best in every aspect in your life.

[@WhiteGhost21]

it cost me a condo now worth $580K

[@nickcalderone75]

@WhiteGhost21 I'm so sorry man. As men, the system really is against us and honestly, marriage provides no real benefit any longer. I NEVER thought I'd say that, but now being on the other side of this, it's painfully true.

[@WhiteGhost21]

@@nickcalderone75 its fine, technically she helped me set me up to getting way more from projects we were doing together. i was kind of the toxic one, but yeah i dont think it is ever just one persons fault, either and there was definitely a change after the wedding. it lasted 11 months.

[@GSFlood]

Glad you said legal contract. I’ve been saying that for years

[@john-griffin]

@@GSFlood 👍

[@yeisonalvarez5776]

I have said the same for years and many people specially married people call me "irresponsible coward". But these same people are miserable and hate their lives, this is manifested thorough their cheating and other vices they have.

[@36handy]

I’ve avoided getting married. One of the best decisions I’ve ever made.

[@beanzbeanz]

How do you know?

[@36handy]

@@beanzbeanz - never fit me. Ever.

[@WhiteGhost21]

that was me, until a woman sucked me in and i fell for her ultimatum

[@yeisonalvarez5776]

​@@beanzbeanzI am in the same situation. I have made the decision of not getting married and for us men it gets hard because when you are developing you get the attention from women who are in the need. When you see so many men's lives ruined after getting married you start to feel that there is something incredibly wrong and dark with the institution of marriage.

[@waggytail289]

My decision to remain unmarried and child-free has been reinforced. Thank you, from a content 53 year old solo man.

[@john-griffin]

I’m glad I was able to confirm your lifetime of good decisions! 😀

[@rosalindamartinez8941]

@@waggytail289 I agree! I've only been married once. No children. Divorced in 1996. No desire to remarry. Not worth it for men or women. In your American culture, women rule the nest. I'm from a Latin culture in which men rule the nest. I understand how it's feels to be the controlled party in the marriage. I love being free! My life has gotten better each year since I divorced. Marriage is for the insane.

[@waggytail289]

@@rosalindamartinez8941 I'm from the UK. The US seems even more punitive than here. Cheers.

[@Thechist781]

I was doing it great till my 40’s till some chick convinced me she was not like the others and she would be great for me just to end up like the biggest living nightmare ever. Now I’m trapped between being homeless and ruined or keep being abused for the rest of my days. Neither choice is a good life prospect.😮

[@waggytail289]

@Thechist781 It's a trap we can easily fall into when they seem so convincing. Even apparently good women can turn from a dream into a nightmare, and then you wake up. I'm sorry you find yourself in this situation. There's usually an exit door, but it may be hidden away. Best of luck.

[@herbertvonsauerkrautunterh2513]

One good reason I married an under educated Asian Sheila from a poor village from the north of Thailand. She has issues but is a good woman.. been together 27 years and married for 26. I'm only 48 lol

[@GUITARTIME2024]

What issues

[@sweetbeep]

Where did y'all live?

[@plasmaarmelund]

This should be a mandatory training course for young men before they get married. Thanks for spreading the word and creating awareness. I do think men are slowly waking up to the realities of marriage and family law in the West.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks

[@caliente4657]

When you're single you seem to focus on what you don't have and take what you do have for granted like freedom and autonomy. It seems as a man progresses through marriage he loses more and more of those two things. Eventually he's reduced to a Utilitarian role in the family leaving him feeling lost and deeply unhappy.

[@john-griffin]

You are so right. I remember when I was married the feeling I would get when my entire family would be out of the house for an afternoon and I had the place to myself. I felt like a kid again. I could do anything I wanted now I get that feeling all the time.

[@ktsenya2]

71 and NEVER have I been married. Came close once but glad I got my sanity in time. Sex? Cheaper by far to just pay as you go

[@john-griffin]

I agree completely

[@Mrhdigital3791]

Love the content John. I follow a lot of channels regarding this kind of stuff and yours stands above them. Clear and precise. Keep it up!

[@john-griffin]

I appreciate that! You know I don’t follow this category on KZbin at all. I had the idea of talking about this issue last year and I just canned it. This year I got more targeted with my audience because I could see that I had a lot of men my age following me, and I just guessed that they probably had gone through many of the same things that I had experienced. So I took a shot and made a couple of videos on the topic and got a really great response. Once I can see, there was an audience. It became really easy to draw upon my experiences and my conversations with my clients on this topic to create content that I felt would be immediately recognizable for most men. Thanks for your comment.

[@Mrhdigital3791]

@@john-griffin glad you decided to go with it. I’m 33 years old, been in 3 long term relationships over the past 14 years. Finally single at 33. I had a vasectomy at 30 kids and always contemplated marriage. My opinion still stands today, not getting married.

[@TuyenPham-bt6yx]

The more I deal with people, the more love my dog!

[@john-griffin]

me too!!!

[@TheAccord77]

2:50 , on spot. 7:15 , so deep , solace in solitude.

[@sammalikmerc]

its hell, i got out early. 1 phone call to cops your life is over!!!

[@john-griffin]

@@sammalikmerc that sucks man. I’m sorry you had to deal with that.

[@sammalikmerc]

Brought her from pakistan in 2001. She was ok until USA free society corrupted her....she eloped with middle aged white man trucker. At first I thought it was horrible.But now i'm very grateful that I have my peace quiet and freedom and dog...bruno (belgian mal) and cali (pomeranian Rip jan 2023). There is a saying in mexico; If someone takes your wife and brings her back to you he is not your friend. If someone takes your wife hez your friend. No alimony or CS.

[@darkwhitedirewolf]

It's a trap!

[@BigGyz680]

Thank you John, i needed this right now. As times and seasons of the year seems to bring more solitude to single men like me, You have brought peace to my heart, The peace i have is not worth being put aside for some moments of sex maybe and some moments of closeness, i am a 52 years old, never married no kids Canadian that has done good with money, and no good with women, and i know that is not a coincidence, I always moved myself ahead in every aspects of life while alone. Surely guys do not take this video likely and see what you have and your worth, nobody can add to what you are, only you can.

[@john-griffin]

I’m glad it helped. Thanks

[@johnkim163]

Research has shown that there is an inverse relationship between how much $$ was spent for the big day ( reception , church , wedding and honeymoon ) vs the success of the marriage. Exceptions will always exist but the data is very solid. Don’t get me started on the all the lies the diamond industry has sold us for over a hundred years on real diamonds. Ask any pawn shop & they will tell you how much your diamond is really worth.

[@john-griffin]

That is funny and true. Thanks!

[@jeffbrown3805]

❤ NO WIFE = HAPPY LIFE. ❤

[@rodbryant1928]

Very very accurate.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks

[@WeeklyHealthShow]

Speaking the truth!

[@anthony_ugent007]

Hey John, just discovered your channel last night and I find your videos very helpful and insightful! I'm 39, single, no kids, and never been married and still contemplating heavily on having either of those as I love my autonomy and talking to any chick I want, doing what I want, etc!

[@john-griffin]

Just a dispelling miss, I’m not totally against marriage. I just think most marriages don’t work out. It just requires a higher level of thinking regarding your potential partner before making that kind of commitment. If you were buying a house, you would want an inspection to know if all the systems were working correctly. The least we should be doing is asking our partners, a list of questions to determine what their values are what their needs are and what we can expect going forward. But as it is, we get all googly eyed and fall in love and next thing you know, she owns half your stuff and has a new boyfriend. So, I would suggest going slowly on any potential long-term partnership that involves a legal agreement. Enjoy your autonomy it’s worth it.

[@anthony_ugent007]

@@john-griffin Thanks man for the reply. I guess part of my reason why the last 8 years I was mostly single was because of a freak car accident I was in on April 9th 2016 and I smashed into a palm tree late at night at almost died here in Miami and went through a lot physically because of it even needed a colostomy for 6 out of the last 8 years which they finally got reversed 2 years ago! Most of my abdominal wall was removed because of sepsis so I was told I won't be able to lift in the gym anymore. Definitely some newfound appreciation though in my life. Would be nice to talk to you one day bud 👊.

[@john-griffin]

@@anthony_ugent007 well you really have been through it haven’t you? I guess you’ve had a lot of time to reflect on your life and what you really want from it. I hope your body heals enough so that you can get back into the gym. Retaining your muscle mass is really important for your long-term health. Thanks again for your comment. Really appreciate you telling your story. It’s really a privilege to be able to reach out and communicate with so many people through this medium. Thanks again.

[@anthony_ugent007]

@@john-griffin Well after all the 20 or so surgeries I had on my stomach and that abdominal wall that was physically removed, it doesn't grow back so I'll have to find a way to maybe do some isolation exercises that won't put as much stress on my midsection and not get a hernia again. My case was definitely unique in regards to what I went through, but ultimately I remained resilient and am alive to tell my story. Glad I was able to share it with you bud.

[@WhiteGhost21]

you should see my ex father in law. very similar to how you described longterm husbands being... he would be outside working on his boat all day or on his lawnmower only coming in to eat. he also was a smoker and had a drinking problem.

[@john-griffin]

There’s your sign!

[@MichaelPrudhomme-u7x]

Thanks!

[@john-griffin]

Thank you very much for your contribution. I really appreciate it. I am sincerely moved that my videos are impacting so many people.

[@jacksquat4140]

Men don't "compromise" - they either obey or they walk away.

[@billyliar1614]

And if they assert themselves, they either find themselves in the divorce or criminal courts

[@jacksquat4140]

@@billyliar1614: So true. In this day and age women don't have to put up with even the slightest "insult," and not only don't they have to put up with hearing "no," they don't have to do anything they don't want to.

[@ispep8882]

@@jacksquat4140 Telling her she can't buy something is now called financial abuse. Sick world.

[@jacksquat4140]

@@ispep8882: For the betrayal of men, and children, women have been given perks, privileges, and protection from the State.

[@MikeS-7]

The prenup is a fools game. If that prenup is not financially beneficial to the states client it will be tossed out. Child custody is the sole choice of the women's court system, not yours, and not handled in a prenup. This is crucial, because this is the method the women's court system uses to provide women with backdoor alimony and for the state to profit from Title IV D reimbursement money.

[@FreedomTravels720]

Child support is a scam...the federal government pays out matching funds to the counties for each dollar collected...and its fundedthru the Social Security trust funds...so by the time many men reach retirement age...the Social Securty ponzi will be depleted...evil system.

[@JohnBret-n1k]

Could you do a video on parental alienation if you have knowledge on the subject. I am a 50/50 dad of a 3 1/2 year old little girl and my ex has got her to call another man daddy. It is rough man.

[@john-griffin]

Wow, that’s really tough. I’m quite fortunate in my two relationships that resulted in children. I was a recipient of the children. I guess that says more about the women I dated than anything. I can’t talk a bit about Post divorce parenting. I’ve done a lot of that. my advice to you would be to be as positive about the other guy when you’re talking with your kids as possible. The problem can be that if you talk trash about the other guy or your ex-wife as your kids get older, they may judge you more harshly.

[@eunicef1]

Just found this channel. Great content!

[@john-griffin]

Welcome aboard! Thanks

[@jbryant9591]

I really enjoy your contact. Thank you.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks for letting me know. I really appreciate your feedback.

[@Ladislav1993]

Since I am married, but not ordinary. I told my wife"I dont have kids, and if you have problem with it, you can leave". She understand my decision. I have time for myself, and I do not everything what she wants. Rather traveling around world, enjoy free life, than follow society rules. She respect what I want.

[@john-griffin]

Sounds great

[@jacksquat4140]

It is well known within psychological circles that one's level of happiness can be increased for up to 4 years, after meeting that special someone, before plumetting back to baseline. This is to say that when someone feels the euphoria of love, it won't last forever. In time, you will be as happy as you were before meeting your dream lover. But, you may become disillusioned and less happy as a result of the relationship. Studies have shown that if couples make it 10 years, 90% of them will claim to be unhappy in marriage.

[@john-griffin]

Good information. Thanks for sharing.

[@Janisg616]

Depending on where you live, living together can be interpreted as a marriage without a marriage. Need to check local laws, if your girlfriend you dated twice has left a toothbrush in your house does not count as marriage. Maybe it is safer to not let her in your house, or not date at all. There is lot of money to be made from divorces and stingy people avoid divorce by avoiding marriage. In some places the laws are changed, so cohabitants are eligible for divorce court and expenses associated with it. Usually one of partners (the one who is unemployed or makes significantly less) is entitled to other partners stuff, to split assets now, and maybe future alimony. Therefor divorce court will never run out of clints. There would less divorces, if there was not such financial incentive and possibility to rob your ex using family court.

[@marcinliandzis1827]

Man you are describing my ex , I guess she wasn't special they really are all the same !!!

[@billyliar1614]

The question to ask yourself really is whether if you had met the person you are with NOW when you got together, would you have stayed or would you have run for dear life ?

[@seekertruth72]

sex is euphoria which will disappear and you will be handling house chores, taxes, others persons behaviour, temper tantrums and issues . Great learning thanks John can you make video on how to handle sexual aspect when one is single even married and in sexless marriage or divorced but not ready for marriage again

[@john-griffin]

I’ve been working on that subject today. Hopefully I’ll get it. Edited and posted this afternoon of this evening but certainly no later than tomorrow.

[@seekertruth72]

@@john-griffin super

[@nathangilles2839]

Like this fellow 🎉

[@john-griffin]

Thanks!

[@steelearmstrong9616]

I’d say 85%

[@alexsimard5151]

Spot on as always! Haha

[@john-griffin]

Glad you think so! Thanks

[@armyparrot9353]

Marriage is a hard sell for men today. Actually the happiest couples i've see are NOT married. The one's that were marriage either aleays complain about the spouse or get divorced. What is funny is that many many say it was never very good.

[@FreedomTravels720]

Married men envey the free agent lifestyle of single men...80% of Only Fans subscribers are married men lol

[@Mdykstra769]

It is not my responsibility to make you happy! It is my privilege to share in your happiness.. she didn't get it...

[@john-griffin]

I think that a lot of women spend too much time believing things they see on social media are true. And when their own lives, don’t look as glamorous as what they’re seeing on Instagram or TikTok they think they need to do something about it. Unfortunately, that usually means binding a different man to deliver it for them.

[@Carolina480]

Make a video about mothers and daughters

[@john-griffin]

That would be hilarious

[@roger10coutinho]

Why divorce is expensive? Because it's worth it.

[@oscarm.1417]

I fundamentally disagree with the comparison of love to a potent drug. There is no drug that comes remotely close to clouding your judgement in the way that love does. Not even close.

[@john-griffin]

That’s really true. At least with drugs you can hangover a few hours later. With love it goes on for years and then you wake up broke.

[@FreedomTravels720]

​@@john-griffinThere is one other drug to cope with it...search Fukitol 1000 mg images...

[@redpilledbachelor7776]

You remind me of Gregory from the Optomized men, just speak fact. None of these toxic red pill extreme stuff.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks

[@zooski1516]

Poor dude married the 😈 lol Jokes aside, I’m 41, had a 7 year relationship and luckily I was very young and wasnt sure about marriage. My parents divorced when I was 15 so that experience kept me unmarried. I now own 2 homes, good career and plans to retire in a few years. Life is great.

[@john-griffin]

Well done! -"poor dude"

[@thomashilmersen711]

Dang, this is soooo true. We get marrried because we are horny and want sex, and that blinds us to all the disadvantages.

[@MichaelPrudhomme-u7x]

I got lucky financially. But yea, years “building a deck” were miserable. Their sex drive is to capture and then poof Eros is gone. It’s a real shame that progeny is not a glue that can hold things together. It’s actually a wedge between husband and wife. So strange. My money is great (but absolutely pre-nup a parachute) and I’m grateful for that, but I can’t shake the feeling of wasted years. Maybe with time that goes away. I hope so. Life is not long and 14 years “wasted” is a terrible burden.

[@john-griffin]

I don’t know, I understand what you mean, but there must’ve been some value in those years. I wouldn’t let yourself think that they’re completely wasted. That’s a heavy burden to carry.

[@MichaelPrudhomme-u7x]

@@john-griffin Yea, that old saying that hate is like swallowing poison while the other person walks free comes to mind. Heard a therapist once describe a technique for the yoke or burden of something. Get a heavy item and write your burden on it. Carry it around your back yard until you can't any longer. Then set it down and be done with it. I dunno, maybe it could work.😅I think what you said previously about doing some forward thinking so that you take action so as to avoid big regrets is the key for me here. Thanks for taking us on your walks!

[@ritchiemills3894]

You know what bro? You are a black comedy hit with me, seriously blank devastating truths, absolutley deadpan delivery. lol! Ps, I’m 61 and never married. You’re right bro.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks! I'm glad you like the videos

[@joeont]

Are you saying that after you marry the girl she will change her expectations?

[@john-griffin]

Yes. Most women are externally, focused for happiness. When you’re dating, you make them happy, when you get married at the wedding, you make them happy, when you get them pregnant, you make them happy, eventually you’re gonna stop making her happy. She will expect you to make her happy because you’ve always made her happy. When you can no longer achieve that, she will leave you.

[@ramblinvanman6250]

You want to get married cause she told you you do !

[@albert2395]

I have seen quite a lot of specialists talking about how many times married men have sex, on average. And it is a shocking!!!!! One time per week.😂😅😊

[@stephenlyon8577]

Its almost spiritual walking through nature with a friend, talking common sense .

[@john-griffin]

Thanks I’m really glad you enjoyed the setting in the video. I love it there.

[@christianmeyer4054]

I think, every man subconsciously doesn't want to get married. We lose listening to this voice when we get older if we ever heard it.

[@club1fan552]

Don't married men live longer and have better health? Just what I heard...

[@andrewevans7992]

So what if you moved to another country and found a woman? Would you marry her then?

[@john-griffin]

I don’t think so. Thanks for asking

[@janchristensen5692]

😂🎉Jan

[@johnsjourney4978]

Damn you live in great place Where is this?

[@john-griffin]

I live in Norther, VA, which is a nice place. The forest is unique. It has been there almost completely undisturbed for hundreds of years. It is in a flood plain, and the main stream is fed by three springs and several creeks. When we get big storms with a lot of rain in a short time, the stream becomes a raging river and rises 10 feet very quickly. But, it is a beautiful place to walk. Thanks

[@johnsjourney4978]

@@john-griffin Thanks.. It seems so therapeutic.. i have to drive 2 hours from where i live to find a decent forest

[@PeterCunningham-rk5qk]

Women learn very early on that they are sitting on a fortune

[@mikeprice4103]

The circumcision debate with my ex was just like you said and im the one with the penis, she won.

[@john-griffin]

That is ridiculous! Thanks

[@FreedomTravels720]

Dont get married...dont be a Breeder...mitigate lifes problems...she aint worth it 😊

[@David-f2j4b]

The financial risk of marriage goes up exponentially the older you get. You WILL have at least a 50/50 chance of losing HALF the assets you have accumulated in your lifetime. (In some states like Wisconsin, you can lose HALF of everything you brought TO the marriage) A man in his 20's or 30's losing half his assets is in a much better position to rebuild his life after divorce. A man in his 50's or 60's doesn't have enough time to rebuild. He CAN lose his house, his cars, and retirement savings, and that concept becomes MUCH more frightening the older you get. Young Man, HEAR these words: DO NOT MARRY

[@howardbarrett9131]

Parachute analogy: good. ..... My dad, military man married a 22yr old beauty (my mom) when he was 37 fresh back from a major war.....miserable for the rest of his life. .... I, also a vteran, married a spoiled beauty 15 years younger than me................miserable, now obviously divorced. I do have a daughter at the most expensive private boarding school in the world out of the deal, but man, do I miss having a dog. Right now, I am cracking brazil nuts using a hammer and the handle of a kettlebell in a studio apt.

[@john-griffin]

Wow. You’ve really had a tough time of it. Don’t eat too many Brazil nuts their high in selenium. I think too much can be bad for you. Thanks for your comment.

[@mikejames9642]

John, you and I have both considered many of the same topics and found the exact same conclusions. You seem to have a fondness for dogs. I have a fondness for guitars. Enjoyed the video brother!

[@john-griffin]

Thanks for sharing! I have guitars, too. It's just hard to carry them when I walk the dogs. Thanks!

[@FreedomTravels720]

Unlike any woman in history, your Dog will love you unconditionally...Get a Dog, not a Chick...

[@redpill109]

Listen to this man young men! This will save your lives. As a married man, everything he says is truth!

[@fudogwhisperer3590]

I made it abundantly clear in my relationships with women that I was going to be calling the shots, she’d get input but I’d make the final decision. I did tolerate any disrespect or pouting. Probably why I never got married and remained a bachelor for life. There was no way I was yielding to her attempts at gaslighting. It seemed the nicer you were to women, the more horrible they treated you. It was a complete mindfuck. It didn’t make any sense. I just couldn’t deal with the constant petulance and unnecessary drama. It was a big ick. I’m so glad I never got married. It would’ve ban hell for both of us because I wasn’t backing down. I learned this from my dad. My dad was in charge, and my mom, she submitted. It worked for them. I thought this was how it worked for everyone. I learned very quickly it wasn’t.

[@ariyano23]

One of my best friends is getting married to a girl who has so many Diseases is alcoholic and over 35. She talking about everybody's back and he is trying his best to get her pregnant. It's like driving down the highway without breaks. He´s completely Nuts! Talked him through all kinds of scenarios but he´s like: "I don't wanna be alone!"

[@quixote1965]

I think this is true for about 95% of women. I look at my extended friend group, guys I've known since college and after 35 years, I think two of them have decent marriages. The other eight couples are very typical, or there have been divorces. Bottom line is the guys aren't getting any

[@steveburke7675]

I did something even more f'ed up. I got married knowing full well that I didn't want to get married and that the person I was marrying was not the right woman. I walked down that aisle with absolute dread. Why? I didn't want to upset anyone...her...my parents...her parents, even friends. Fast fwd 35 yrs and I'm divorced and retired..........and finally content.

[@priortokaraew7569]

How anyone can marry for sex is beyond me.

[@jacksquat4140]

These days, I find it strange that men are bound to an oath they took in their youth, to love and cherish a woman who will change over time, just like a 20 year old Groom will do a lot of changing by the time he's 40. And, although one's brain isn't fully developed until the age of 25, and many of these youngsters don't have much life experience, or even know who they truly are at 30, must nevertheless adhere to the conditions set forth in their marital oath, even though many circumstances, and things, have changed over the years, including their wives. Now, it's perfectly permissable to change occupations, colleges, cars, residency, cities, states, countries, friends, religions, political affiliations, opinions, and goals, but a man cannot change a marital decision without incurring massive penalties as well as facing potential ruin. I just don't get it.

[@quixote1965]

When I was young, I married a woman from a rich family. I put myself through college on a scholarship. What I didn't realize is that after I got married, I was now an employee of her corporation. The sex stopped unless you wanted to get pregnant. And I let her boss me around even though I was the one who made all the money. I just wish I could go back and give advice to my younger self

[@john-griffin]

Don’t we all!!

[@brentie2604]

You should knock it John. Go in hard on it. Marriage is crap.

[@FreedomTravels720]

Marriage is turning out to be a bigger scam than Income Taxes SS NASA and Big Pharma wrapped into one...

[@gerry742]

Spot on! Great advice I wished I had known 30 something years ago!

[@john-griffin]

Glad it was helpful! Thanks

[@lewishorsewell8852]

So true. I got married after I had a kid. She got bored, as women do. It feel apart. She made money, Which means I lost money. Great trade, for the Women involved. Zero downside.