STOP THE WEDDING! Watch This First!

[@john-griffin]

I wish someone told me this before I got married!

[@MichaelThalee]

😮

[@Carolina480]

@@john-griffin im learning a lot it’s great information to be a better future wife

[@2ndborn186]

Exactly. Me, too. In fact most all men feel this. I have never understood why Father's do not warn their son's about this. My father and my two grandfathers were miserable. No one said a thing to me. I actually had these discussions with my son and my daughter. They are in the 30's and NOT married, thankfully.

[@andre1987eph]

You were warned and people tried, you probably insulted them by saying things like, "who hurt you?" etc The information has been out there for 30* years

[@emailsar3282]

​@@2ndborn186great comment.

[@gary6514]

A man marries because he loves her....she marries because she sees a good business opportunity. An important video John. Well done.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks

[@Jasmine-qv9gq]

Yeah, not true all the time

[@themoonsea9893]

@@sweetbeepThe test would be good: Instead of marriage he gives you a contract. When he leaves you, you pay him alimony, you give him half of your savings. When you sign this, I will believe you.

[@sneak9407]

​@@themoonsea9893 she never will agree on that. She knows the truth

[@emailsar3282]

Men love altruistically, women love opportunistically. It's not by chance that 80 - 90% of women marry someone wealthier or higher social status.

[@Bibbob-vm2hu]

This guy should have a million subscribers. His lessons are excellent.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks

[@seamusdelahunty1615]

ye probably wouldnt have listened

[@jasonwiesenbach7457]

I remember dating someone in my 20s. I told her i was about to buy a car I'd had my eyes on for a few years. She said I was a fool for not spending money on us. I told her I earned that money, and will do as I please with it. Safe to say that relationship ended shortly after I bought the car. It was a lesson learned, and one I still value. And 20 years later, I've still got the car. I think it's important to never compromise my values for anyone. If a woman doesn't like who I am today, how could I expect her to respect me tomorrow?

[@LadiboiJoy]

Same crap with my self..this lady yelling at me as I was on the phone ..and all the happy single people walking by...I realized it's better to be single forever and free...stacking bills.😮

[@WayneARobertson]

Well Spoken!!!

[@jacksquat4140]

Divorce is a State-sponsored wealth redistribution program for women.

[@9avedon]

Yep ! , In communist Canada Prenuptial agreements have no legal standing.

[@andrewmackenzie325]

Perfectly stated.

[@Gumpmachine1]

Haha that’s good

[@daishan1234]

and the state gets its own cut too

[@jacksquat4140]

@@daishan1234: So true, and so do the lawyers and attorneys.

[@iainbarker4935]

Spot on. Have lived alone since divorce 10 years ago. Love the freedom, peace and absence of drama.

[@waggytail289]

My decision to remain unmarried and child-free has been reinforced. Thank you, from a content 53 year old solo man.

[@john-griffin]

I’m glad I was able to confirm your lifetime of good decisions! 😀

[@rosalindamartinez8941]

@@waggytail289 I agree! I've only been married once. No children. Divorced in 1996. No desire to remarry. Not worth it for men or women. In your American culture, women rule the nest. I'm from a Latin culture in which men rule the nest. I understand how it's feels to be the controlled party in the marriage. I love being free! My life has gotten better each year since I divorced. Marriage is for the insane.

[@waggytail289]

@@rosalindamartinez8941 I'm from the UK. The US seems even more punitive than here. Cheers.

[@Thechist781]

I was doing it great till my 40’s till some chick convinced me she was not like the others and she would be great for me just to end up like the biggest living nightmare ever. Now I’m trapped between being homeless and ruined or keep being abused for the rest of my days. Neither choice is a good life prospect.😮

[@waggytail289]

@Thechist781 It's a trap we can easily fall into when they seem so convincing. Even apparently good women can turn from a dream into a nightmare, and then you wake up. I'm sorry you find yourself in this situation. There's usually an exit door, but it may be hidden away. Best of luck.

[@redpill109]

Listen to this man young men! This will save your lives. As a married man, everything he says is truth!

[@michaelp2514]

As a 50-year-old, twice divorced, single man, what you’re saying is absolutely true. This is sage advice, gold. Well done, sir.

[@Brian-qg9bm]

There's a dude in Spain who sells services as a "wedding destroyer". Something like $500.00 Euros and he'll show up at your wedding. When they ask if there is any reason the two should not be wedded, he stands up and pretends to be an old flame of the bride and he contests the marriage. He charges extra for every time he gets slapped or punched.

[@FreedomTravels720]

He shoud be payed much more

[@peterrichardson9248]

Love it, if you pardon the pun.

[@Brian-qg9bm]

@@peterrichardson9248 It'll only work until people start to recognize him. I know about him in Alaska, so I'm guessing that over there in Spain, right about now, the jig is up. He'll have to raise rates and hire some people if he wants to stay in business.

[@seamusdelahunty1615]

who hires him? friends of the groom?

[@WayneARobertson]

I wished he was at my first wedding

[@2ndborn186]

Yes. Thank you for this. As an older guy I try to tell young men this and they DON"T LISTEN. I guess we keep trying.

[@55tmilam]

15 years ago I sat my cousin down and talked to him about his pending nuptials with his pretty girlfriend. He had life by the nads with a great job,a home and grown man toys!!! He also had a good swagger! As I warned him f what was going to happen he gave me this cynical grin and I know he was thinking “ this girl is different!!! She could never act that way! We are so in love and she loves everything I do” . well here we are current day and he is absolutely miserable while working himself to death!!!! She tortures him!!! Sadly he tells me every now and then “ I should have listened to you! You were spot on.” A familiar sad tale!

[@highplainsdrifter699]

Women are an education that you'll never forget . Run

[@clays1507]

“Marriage is like building a deck or something…”. Love it. Decks are a never ending maintenance headache

[@timizo691]

Everything you said was 1000% accurate. My marriage with my ex was exactly how you described it. It’s like you watched it live.

[@john-griffin]

I think a lot of us have the same experience. Thanks

[@timizo691]

@@john-griffin thank you! Your videos have been extremely helpful!

[@TuyenPham-bt6yx]

The more I deal with people, the more love my dog!

[@john-griffin]

me too!!!

[@JeepWrangler1957]

I’m floored that I’m watching my life. Most men are like water. We choose the path of least resistance. We’re told “happy wife…happy life “ or “cheaper to keep her”. Peace is wealth

[@bobjames6622]

The CORRECT term is "NO wife....HAPPY life".

[@GSFlood]

Glad you said legal contract. I’ve been saying that for years

[@john-griffin]

@@GSFlood 👍

[@yeisonalvarez5776]

I have said the same for years and many people specially married people call me "irresponsible coward". But these same people are miserable and hate their lives, this is manifested thorough their cheating and other vices they have.

[@kissengerc9468]

They picked those houses so they can kick us out 😂

[@marse7092]

A good female friend of mine literally told me that’s her plan in life lol 😂

[@mattrodgers157]

@@kissengerc9468 it really puts ice in your veins

[@andrewevans7992]

@@mattrodgers157after a while you realize that’s all they want lol and attention. It’s pathetic

[@36handy]

I’ve avoided getting married. One of the best decisions I’ve ever made.

[@beanzbeanz]

How do you know?

[@36handy]

@@beanzbeanz - never fit me. Ever.

[@WhiteGhost21]

that was me, until a woman sucked me in and i fell for her ultimatum

[@yeisonalvarez5776]

​@@beanzbeanzI am in the same situation. I have made the decision of not getting married and for us men it gets hard because when you are developing you get the attention from women who are in the need. When you see so many men's lives ruined after getting married you start to feel that there is something incredibly wrong and dark with the institution of marriage.

[@gerry742]

Just found my favorite channel! It's like having coffee with a buddy, and talking about anything!

[@john-griffin]

Thanks man! I appreciate that

[@tractorman1990]

Between you and Patrice o Neil I’m terrified to get married! He talks about how women change you into someone they don’t like them leave you for someone like you used to be. Crazy that more people aren’t talking about this! Thanks for bringing it up!! Just do you thing and you will have lady friends, the fear of loosing that ONE is what drives a lot of people I think.

[@ronaldtenayuca7447]

Thanks John. This is the answer to LIFE! I have never heard better advice. Wish I could've heard this when I was in my 20s. Gob bless u man. I know u been thru hell n back.

[@caliente4657]

When you're single you seem to focus on what you don't have and take what you do have for granted like freedom and autonomy. It seems as a man progresses through marriage he loses more and more of those two things. Eventually he's reduced to a Utilitarian role in the family leaving him feeling lost and deeply unhappy.

[@john-griffin]

You are so right. I remember when I was married the feeling I would get when my entire family would be out of the house for an afternoon and I had the place to myself. I felt like a kid again. I could do anything I wanted now I get that feeling all the time.

[@nickcalderone75]

Absolutely great advice!!! I hope this reaches so many men out there who are considering marriage. I type this as the ink on my divorce is drying... 14 years and $142,000 dollars is what it has cost me. Oh, plus additional attorney fees. Please THINK before you get married.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks for sharing that information! Those real life stories will hopefully help young guys making that decision. I think we need marriage reform!

[@WhiteGhost21]

it cost me a condo now worth $580K

[@nickcalderone75]

@WhiteGhost21 I'm so sorry man. As men, the system really is against us and honestly, marriage provides no real benefit any longer. I NEVER thought I'd say that, but now being on the other side of this, it's painfully true.

[@WhiteGhost21]

@@nickcalderone75 its fine, technically she helped me set me up to getting way more from projects we were doing together. i was kind of the toxic one, but yeah i dont think it is ever just one persons fault, either and there was definitely a change after the wedding. it lasted 11 months.

[@akosreke8963]

@@john-griffin You could make interviews with these "other victims". It would be simply awesome. It would catapult your channel, too.

[@ralphmalph3040]

Excellent point to conclude with John. Entering a contract where the state will have a say in how your affairs will be conducted...that should give pause for thought for any man considering marriage.

[@steveburke7675]

I did something even more f'ed up. I got married knowing full well that I didn't want to get married and that the person I was marrying was not the right woman. I walked down that aisle with absolute dread. Why? I didn't want to upset anyone...her...my parents...her parents, even friends. Fast fwd 35 yrs and I'm divorced and retired..........and finally content.

[@ktsenya2]

71 and NEVER have I been married. Came close once but glad I got my sanity in time. Sex? Cheaper by far to just pay as you go

[@john-griffin]

I agree completely

[@Gumpmachine1]

“ Pay as you go” I’ll use that Thanks

[@ruthlessreid9172]

Lease with an option.

[@jbiscuits84]

I learned my lessons from what my mom put my dad, myself and my siblings through. I was adopted at six weeks old, yet still she thought the grass was greener on the other side and left us for the final time when I was in middle school. Why would I ever sign up to be most likely discarded like trash? It's already happened and I don't want to put myself through it again. As far as not having kids, I've made my peace with it. My brother was killed in a car wreck with his sons in the car with him. They were life flighted in critical condition and pulled through. I feel so grateful they made it. I know their dad spent his last breaths making sure they were ok. So if I never have kids, I'm at peace knowing that my brother's kids will carry on. Take care.

[@benmen8699]

NEVER FORSAKE ALL OTHERS FOR ONE. FREEDOM IS PRICELESS.

[@delawarepro3539]

Pure Gold 👌

[@mikesnaturalroast7748]

63 yrs old. Divorced at 60. Hard to imagine getting married again.

[@mikesnaturalroast7748]

Correction. Divorce final at 61.

[@armyparrot9353]

I think there is no point for a man to get married. It is an immediate securization of wealThe cat is out of the bag.

[@kengaroo5170]

Marriage is a business contract. Where a man signs the contract that favors a woman to break it. An older man with kids can have female friends with benefits. But they will try to get your money for the sex eventually. They are always in business not love.

[@johnnyjohnn281]

Never go back to the plantation. ✊

[@tabbypanda82]

@mikesnaturalroast7748 you really don’t think you deserve to be divorced from your wife? Why didn’t you sit your wife down and have a talk about what’s bothering you, I bet you took her for granted, didn’t you? …or were you the perfect husband? I wish I could speak to your wife🤝🏾

[@plasmaarmelund]

This should be a mandatory training course for young men before they get married. Thanks for spreading the word and creating awareness. I do think men are slowly waking up to the realities of marriage and family law in the West.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks

[@jacksquat4140]

It is well known within psychological circles that one's level of happiness can be increased for up to 4 years, after meeting that special someone, before plumetting back to baseline. This is to say that when someone feels the euphoria of love, it won't last forever. In time, you will be as happy as you were before meeting your dream lover. But, you may become disillusioned and less happy as a result of the relationship. Studies have shown that if couples make it 10 years, 90% of them will claim to be unhappy in marriage.

[@john-griffin]

Good information. Thanks for sharing.

[@knowthyself8233]

Men are in love, women are in business period.

[@benmen8699]

THE MOST INTELLEGENT TWO WORDS ANY MAN SHOULD SAY ,,, "I DON'T" !!!!

[@emailsar3282]

Prenup are probably a waste of time. A court can just throw it out depending on circumstances of the divorce. A good divorce lawyer will just unpick it, or tell the client that an allegation would overturn it. Just DO NOT get married! I agree about having a plan B though in any kind of relationship.

[@quixote1965]

I think this is true for about 95% of women. I look at my extended friend group, guys I've known since college and after 35 years, I think two of them have decent marriages. The other eight couples are very typical, or there have been divorces. Bottom line is the guys aren't getting any

[@kingjoseph5901]

My buddies talk about wanting other women now 😂. I'm glad I'm single again. I was with a woman for 13 years. I'm very happy I made the wise decision not to marry. She went out within the first few months of our breakup and found some poor younger dude. He's f'd

[@RapiBurrito]

This video reminded me of something I read a long time ago, it went something like: Women marry men hoping they'll change Men marry women hoping they'll never change

[@sammalikmerc]

its hell, i got out early. 1 phone call to cops your life is over!!!

[@john-griffin]

@@sammalikmerc that sucks man. I’m sorry you had to deal with that.

[@sammalikmerc]

Brought her from pakistan in 2001. She was ok until USA free society corrupted her....she eloped with middle aged white man trucker. At first I thought it was horrible.But now i'm very grateful that I have my peace quiet and freedom and dog...bruno (belgian mal) and cali (pomeranian Rip jan 2023). There is a saying in mexico; If someone takes your wife and brings her back to you he is not your friend. If someone takes your wife hez your friend. No alimony or CS.

[@charlesterrell2507]

You are one hell of a good counselor I’ll look forward to every morning watching one of your videos you inspire me I’m 67 years old. Still learning some of the things that you’re telling me. It’s gonna happen to me but I’m doing better I’m growing and stretching and listening thank you for the good videos

[@herbertvonsauerkrautunterh2513]

One good reason I married an under educated Asian Sheila from a poor village from the north of Thailand. She has issues but is a good woman.. been together 27 years and married for 26. I'm only 48 lol

[@GUITARTIME2024]

What issues

[@keithcitizen4855]

One or two has turned out fatal, literally.

[@rrrobeltnest7295]

@@GUITARTIME2024 I’m sure they’re the kind of issues you wish to hell you didn’t marry her

[@thomashilmersen711]

Dang, this is soooo true. We get marrried because we are horny and want sex, and that blinds us to all the disadvantages.

[@WhiteGhost21]

you should see my ex father in law. very similar to how you described longterm husbands being... he would be outside working on his boat all day or on his lawnmower only coming in to eat. he also was a smoker and had a drinking problem.

[@john-griffin]

There’s your sign!

[@Mrhdigital3791]

Love the content John. I follow a lot of channels regarding this kind of stuff and yours stands above them. Clear and precise. Keep it up!

[@john-griffin]

I appreciate that! You know I don’t follow this category on KZbin at all. I had the idea of talking about this issue last year and I just canned it. This year I got more targeted with my audience because I could see that I had a lot of men my age following me, and I just guessed that they probably had gone through many of the same things that I had experienced. So I took a shot and made a couple of videos on the topic and got a really great response. Once I can see, there was an audience. It became really easy to draw upon my experiences and my conversations with my clients on this topic to create content that I felt would be immediately recognizable for most men. Thanks for your comment.

[@Mrhdigital3791]

@@john-griffin glad you decided to go with it. I’m 33 years old, been in 3 long term relationships over the past 14 years. Finally single at 33. I had a vasectomy at 30 kids and always contemplated marriage. My opinion still stands today, not getting married.

[@rodbryant1928]

Very very accurate.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks

[@johnkim163]

Research has shown that there is an inverse relationship between how much $$ was spent for the big day ( reception , church , wedding and honeymoon ) vs the success of the marriage. Exceptions will always exist but the data is very solid. Don’t get me started on the all the lies the diamond industry has sold us for over a hundred years on real diamonds. Ask any pawn shop & they will tell you how much your diamond is really worth.

[@john-griffin]

That is funny and true. Thanks!

[@Gumpmachine1]

Yeah I kept my wedding cheap and my wife never complained, she was just happy to get married

[@anthony_ugent007]

Hey John, just discovered your channel last night and I find your videos very helpful and insightful! I'm 39, single, no kids, and never been married and still contemplating heavily on having either of those as I love my autonomy and talking to any chick I want, doing what I want, etc!

[@john-griffin]

Just a dispelling miss, I’m not totally against marriage. I just think most marriages don’t work out. It just requires a higher level of thinking regarding your potential partner before making that kind of commitment. If you were buying a house, you would want an inspection to know if all the systems were working correctly. The least we should be doing is asking our partners, a list of questions to determine what their values are what their needs are and what we can expect going forward. But as it is, we get all googly eyed and fall in love and next thing you know, she owns half your stuff and has a new boyfriend. So, I would suggest going slowly on any potential long-term partnership that involves a legal agreement. Enjoy your autonomy it’s worth it.

[@anthony_ugent007]

@@john-griffin Thanks man for the reply. I guess part of my reason why the last 8 years I was mostly single was because of a freak car accident I was in on April 9th 2016 and I smashed into a palm tree late at night at almost died here in Miami and went through a lot physically because of it even needed a colostomy for 6 out of the last 8 years which they finally got reversed 2 years ago! Most of my abdominal wall was removed because of sepsis so I was told I won't be able to lift in the gym anymore. Definitely some newfound appreciation though in my life. Would be nice to talk to you one day bud 👊.

[@john-griffin]

@@anthony_ugent007 well you really have been through it haven’t you? I guess you’ve had a lot of time to reflect on your life and what you really want from it. I hope your body heals enough so that you can get back into the gym. Retaining your muscle mass is really important for your long-term health. Thanks again for your comment. Really appreciate you telling your story. It’s really a privilege to be able to reach out and communicate with so many people through this medium. Thanks again.

[@anthony_ugent007]

@@john-griffin Well after all the 20 or so surgeries I had on my stomach and that abdominal wall that was physically removed, it doesn't grow back so I'll have to find a way to maybe do some isolation exercises that won't put as much stress on my midsection and not get a hernia again. My case was definitely unique in regards to what I went through, but ultimately I remained resilient and am alive to tell my story. Glad I was able to share it with you bud.

[@fudogwhisperer3590]

I made it abundantly clear in my relationships with women that I was going to be calling the shots, she’d get input but I’d make the final decision. I did tolerate any disrespect or pouting. Probably why I never got married and remained a bachelor for life. There was no way I was yielding to her attempts at gaslighting. It seemed the nicer you were to women, the more horrible they treated you. It was a complete mindfuck. It didn’t make any sense. I just couldn’t deal with the constant petulance and unnecessary drama. It was a big ick. I’m so glad I never got married. It would’ve ban hell for both of us because I wasn’t backing down. I learned this from my dad. My dad was in charge, and my mom, she submitted. It worked for them. I thought this was how it worked for everyone. I learned very quickly it wasn’t.

[@eric_linden]

Please do a future video about mother/daughter issues when they become teenagers.

[@john-griffin]

Yes, I am planning that for next week. Another commenter asked for it too. As it happens, my ex is moving back to my region to be closer to our daughters. Let the drama begin! Thanks

[@maneljoaquincaudet3443]

So naive when I got married. XXs are so argumentative, they always want to have the last say, no matter what, and it is very exhausting to argue about everything. Men are not like that. In a marriage we give up and retreat to keep our peace but is not going to work in the long run. I wish I knew at the time. Too late for me but I hope my son will not do the same mistakes I did. By the way, married once, divorced once, never, ever considered to marry again. Keep strong and protect yourselves from XXs

[@quixote1965]

When I was young, I married a woman from a rich family. I put myself through college on a scholarship. What I didn't realize is that after I got married, I was now an employee of her corporation. The sex stopped unless you wanted to get pregnant. And I let her boss me around even though I was the one who made all the money. I just wish I could go back and give advice to my younger self

[@john-griffin]

Don’t we all!!

[@billyliar1614]

The question to ask yourself really is whether if you had met the person you are with NOW when you got together, would you have stayed or would you have run for dear life ?

[@countables]

I could listen to you speak all day

[@emailsar3282]

A prenup that explains what will happen in the event of a divorce is almost worthless. If you have a child together, or one becomes ill, she claims financial dependency at divorce, or if she makes false allegations against you, it will be thrown out. Very few women will go into marriage unprotected from family (female first) courts. Just DO NOT COHAB or GET MARRIED.

[@billthecrusher8283]

The autonony is where I actively choose single to the govt contract

[@Ladislav1993]

Since I am married, but not ordinary. I told my wife"I dont have kids, and if you have problem with it, you can leave". She understand my decision. I have time for myself, and I do not everything what she wants. Rather traveling around world, enjoy free life, than follow society rules. She respect what I want.

[@john-griffin]

Sounds great

[@shaunsmith18]

There are 3 rings involved with marriage: engagement ring, wedding ring, and suffering.

[@indexoutofbound-u5f]

One of my best friends is getting married to a girl who has so many Diseases is alcoholic and over 35. She talking about everybody's back and he is trying his best to get her pregnant. It's like driving down the highway without breaks. He´s completely Nuts! Talked him through all kinds of scenarios but he´s like: "I don't wanna be alone!"

[@racebannon96]

He will have to learn the hard and expensive way.

[@Elephantintheroom-t9i]

Wedding? Are you kidding? lol After 2 divorces, if a chick Im boinking ever gives me the proverbial; _🎵“so like, it’s been 3 months, where are we going with this?”🎶,_ She’s Gone the Next Day. 😂

[@priortokaraew7569]

How anyone can marry for sex is beyond me.

[@andrewevans7992]

It’s cause most men have to simp for it, and afriad to lose it once she’s gone and found a way better man

[@BigGyz680]

Thank you John, i needed this right now. As times and seasons of the year seems to bring more solitude to single men like me, You have brought peace to my heart, The peace i have is not worth being put aside for some moments of sex maybe and some moments of closeness, i am a 52 years old, never married no kids Canadian that has done good with money, and no good with women, and i know that is not a coincidence, I always moved myself ahead in every aspects of life while alone. Surely guys do not take this video likely and see what you have and your worth, nobody can add to what you are, only you can.

[@john-griffin]

I’m glad it helped. Thanks

[@robertanna9964]

My dating pool at 60- Married woman in their 30's and 40's cheating on their husbands. Married woman in open relationships. Lesbian and bi-sexual woman (looking for annual vitamin D injection. Please don't ask me why they do this) Childless woman in mid to late 30's (These woman will want a commitment for marriage and children on the first date) Divorced woman with young children (These woman expect you to assume every responsibility of the biological father/ex-husband even though she rejected him for the most specious of reasons) Single woman, never married, multiple children, multiple baby daddies. (ONLY if your life lacks sufficient dramatic elements OR you have a penchant for masochism) All of the aforementioned categories are a NO-GO for me. I'm sure I've left one or two categories out. Please advise.

[@SvenThatoverpassisinLanc-qj4qg]

Love your channel brother! Just discovered it and I am grateful that I did. Thank you.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks

[@emailsar3282]

Never let a lawyer or the state get between you and someone you love or are in a relationship with. Signing a marriage contract does just that.

[@darkwhitedirewolf]

It's a trap!

[@WayneARobertson]

Most people fall into the trap

[@jacksquat4140]

Men don't "compromise" - they either obey or they walk away.

[@billyliar1614]

And if they assert themselves, they either find themselves in the divorce or criminal courts

[@jacksquat4140]

@@billyliar1614: So true. In this day and age women don't have to put up with even the slightest "insult," and not only don't they have to put up with hearing "no," they don't have to do anything they don't want to.

[@ispep8882]

@@jacksquat4140 Telling her she can't buy something is now called financial abuse. Sick world.

[@jacksquat4140]

@@ispep8882: For the betrayal of men, and children, women have been given perks, privileges, and protection from the State.

[@billmcclarnon1806]

Brilliant ...

[@gerry742]

Spot on! Great advice I wished I had known 30 something years ago!

[@john-griffin]

Glad it was helpful! Thanks

[@emmaabumere2870]

99% of them are damaged goods and unfit for the job. When you find that 1% that's when you've struck gold. Understand finding that 1% is super hard.

[@akosreke8963]

I think it is a dangerous approach to the problem. That 1% dangling carrot, which is more like 0.01%, is what keeps the hope alive, which is not a good thing in this case since 99% thinks in the "love phase" that they have struck gold, later to be awakened by reality of your math.

[@JohnBret-n1k]

Could you do a video on parental alienation if you have knowledge on the subject. I am a 50/50 dad of a 3 1/2 year old little girl and my ex has got her to call another man daddy. It is rough man.

[@john-griffin]

Wow, that’s really tough. I’m quite fortunate in my two relationships that resulted in children. I was a recipient of the children. I guess that says more about the women I dated than anything. I can’t talk a bit about Post divorce parenting. I’ve done a lot of that. my advice to you would be to be as positive about the other guy when you’re talking with your kids as possible. The problem can be that if you talk trash about the other guy or your ex-wife as your kids get older, they may judge you more harshly.

[@jamie30701]

40 here wish someone would of guided me I was raised by single mom thought women could do no bad married at 22 served her with papers at 36 after 14 years somethings can't be fixed. Got out with no kids or alimony lucky and blessed she is 50 now the wall has crushed her shes hooked on pills no helping her our marriage died way before the divorce. I now live in a 16x24 cabin paid for on a mountain with my older brother debt free and frugal living my best life. I spend my days hiking in the mountains, playing games, playing with ducks, and hustling money haven't dated in over 4 years now no desire too. If by some chance I do date it won't be serious and I will be the one who cares the least no living with another woman or marrying again be smart and stay strong gents.

[@kingjoseph5901]

How did you go about purchasing your cabin?

[@elbertbeam6891]

I agree

[@Carolina480]

Make a video about mothers and daughters

[@john-griffin]

That would be hilarious

[@Dober_mon]

I understans the law , i understand how the system work . Im 27 , ima have a PG , not doing any job , stay with my parents , they got pension , family business . Im ok . Im fine. Ima happy

[@Billy-eq6sc]

Yep. I tried it a few times and he is right. Now as an older man who takes care of himself and is over the debt/emotional pain of losing my kids etc, I only date with sugar babies. We start off knowing the deal. They don't expect to get married or have a long term relationship and we have fun until it gets dull and then we move on. It's reality. The pain of losing someone you are used to seeing most of the time is over faster and there are no legal obligations and kids etc. The truth is that you must be an attractive man to be a sugar daddy and not so fat ugly dude. Trust me, you will not get hot young women like that no matter how much money you have. It actually does not take a lot of money, just enough to spend on things you would do anyway, but you pay for a guest or friends with benefits. Yes, you can get lonely in-between women , but this is life and it is better than having a wife, kids, house, bills etc and having a sexless life with your wife. There is no one to blame because people change. I just enjoy my short life with young pretty women who all enhance my life instead of draining it. But it is not perfect because women are women and things happen. You need to start and jump in the water and build a lifestyle.

[@john-griffin]

Excelent testimonial!! Thanks

[@WeeklyHealthShow]

Speaking the truth!

[@MichaelPrudhomme-u7x]

Thanks!

[@john-griffin]

Thank you very much for your contribution. I really appreciate it. I am sincerely moved that my videos are impacting so many people.

[@Janisg616]

Depending on where you live, living together can be interpreted as a marriage without a marriage. Need to check local laws, if your girlfriend you dated twice has left a toothbrush in your house does not count as marriage. Maybe it is safer to not let her in your house, or not date at all. There is lot of money to be made from divorces and stingy people avoid divorce by avoiding marriage. In some places the laws are changed, so cohabitants are eligible for divorce court and expenses associated with it. Usually one of partners (the one who is unemployed or makes significantly less) is entitled to other partners stuff, to split assets now, and maybe future alimony. Therefor divorce court will never run out of clints. There would less divorces, if there was not such financial incentive and possibility to rob your ex using family court.

[@WayneARobertson]

The same laws that benefit women are the sane laws that will keep them single for years to come. It's just a matter of time

[@eunicef1]

Just found this channel. Great content!

[@john-griffin]

Welcome aboard! Thanks

[@jbryant9591]

I really enjoy your contact. Thank you.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks for letting me know. I really appreciate your feedback.

[@seekertruth72]

sex is euphoria which will disappear and you will be handling house chores, taxes, others persons behaviour, temper tantrums and issues . Great learning thanks John can you make video on how to handle sexual aspect when one is single even married and in sexless marriage or divorced but not ready for marriage again

[@john-griffin]

I’ve been working on that subject today. Hopefully I’ll get it. Edited and posted this afternoon of this evening but certainly no later than tomorrow.

[@seekertruth72]

@@john-griffin super

[@lewishorsewell8852]

So true. I got married after I had a kid. She got bored, as women do. It feel apart. She made money, Which means I lost money. Great trade, for the Women involved. Zero downside.

[@jeffbrown3805]

❤ NO WIFE = HAPPY LIFE. ❤

[@George-ri6vg]

4:57 subject of A LOT of criticism. I mean everything was an issue😮.she was Always unhappy and never satisfied. It’s interesting that everyone have a similar story to share

[@john-griffin]

When you see enough coincidences, you have to scratch your head and wonder maybe this is just the way it is

[@dylanmacdonald7908]

Yes, don't think with the wrong head!

[@stephen5147]

Marriage is a business arrangement, with (a little bit of) romance thrown in.

[@Plumduff3303]

I married ...after 20 years..no sex hardly any conversation just bills and bringing up the kids and arguments about going on holiday stay single marriage sucks i box clever now keep a low profile and leave my motorbike at a mate's house. I want a simple peaceful life i think she will leave me one day we did discuss the issue but she won't be honest.

[@LenSheppard-sc2vw]

The only reason I married was our son. 20-30 years ago the saying was’Dead beat Dad’ and at the same time, I have 5 sisters, 4 were divorced, I was saying we will never divorce! Will there no love never was!

[@armyparrot9353]

Marriage is a hard sell for men today. Actually the happiest couples i've see are NOT married. The one's that were marriage either aleays complain about the spouse or get divorced. What is funny is that many many say it was never very good.

[@FreedomTravels720]

Married men envey the free agent lifestyle of single men...80% of Only Fans subscribers are married men lol

[@louissavoy4832]

I'm fascinated by the issue of a woman eventually trying to change the man. All men know this to the point we can predict it. We see it coming. Deliberately striving to change your partner is already odd. Changing him into something you find less attractive is simply paradoxal. It's qualitative so impossible to prove, but my intuition is that it stems from women transposing their emotions on the man. Something bothers them, so they seek to "improve" the man as a solution, misaligned as it may be. After enough improvements are completed, both are miserable and she finally has an excuse to either leave him or continue venting on him. Both lose, him more so. It's a misery machine and she's got her hands on the levers. It's a very insidious, gradual behavior. It must be kept in check constantly like a loose nut on a bicycle.

[@mars56100]

It’s a SPELL! John you’re so right! I’m 68 yr. old gay woman & never married. Didn’t believe in it.

[@sw6118]

Marriage is a partnership, romance is a bonus. Regular sex requires commitment. Sorry but I never thought about changing or criticizing my husband, he’s a great guy. He just bought a new car, one that he wants. We each have our own interests. We try to share those interests from time to time and we do have some things that we do together. Life is wonderful. We also married in our 50s so maybe a lot of what men are dealing with is due to immaturity?

[@Mdykstra769]

It is not my responsibility to make you happy! It is my privilege to share in your happiness.. she didn't get it...

[@john-griffin]

I think that a lot of women spend too much time believing things they see on social media are true. And when their own lives, don’t look as glamorous as what they’re seeing on Instagram or TikTok they think they need to do something about it. Unfortunately, that usually means binding a different man to deliver it for them.

[@joeont]

Are you saying that after you marry the girl she will change her expectations?

[@john-griffin]

Yes. Most women are externally, focused for happiness. When you’re dating, you make them happy, when you get married at the wedding, you make them happy, when you get them pregnant, you make them happy, eventually you’re gonna stop making her happy. She will expect you to make her happy because you’ve always made her happy. When you can no longer achieve that, she will leave you.

[@Dober_mon]

Of course yes . These creeature has 5000 mood in given 24 hour. Better stay away .

[@WayneARobertson]

Facts. Try it out if you don't believe us

[@WayneARobertson]

​@@john-griffinWell Spoken!!!

[@MikeS-7]

The prenup is a fools game. If that prenup is not financially beneficial to the states client it will be tossed out. Child custody is the sole choice of the women's court system, not yours, and not handled in a prenup. This is crucial, because this is the method the women's court system uses to provide women with backdoor alimony and for the state to profit from Title IV D reimbursement money.

[@FreedomTravels720]

Child support is a scam...the federal government pays out matching funds to the counties for each dollar collected...and its fundedthru the Social Security trust funds...so by the time many men reach retirement age...the Social Securty ponzi will be depleted...evil system.

[@WayneARobertson]

Fàaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaacts!!!!!

[@askquestions1236]

I think the goal should be to find a loving forever roomate

[@alexsimard5151]

Spot on as always! Haha

[@john-griffin]

Glad you think so! Thanks

[@roger10coutinho]

Why divorce is expensive? Because it's worth it.

[@richiekock8835]

I am 52 yo. I never wanted kids. Everyone tells me that you don't know if you never had them. Well, I am perfectly fine without them so. However, I really would like a life partner. Difficult to find a great one though, as you know... (honestly, I don't even really know whether I rather opt to stay free until I die).

[@Michael_Livingstone]

I’m 42 and feel the same way. They say being a parent is the best thing in the world and that’s fine but for me I’ve just never wanted any kids. Weird that people can’t accept it.

[@gettingschooled3094]

Common law in Australia. You don't even have to get married for the contract to apply.