How To Deal With Loneliness - Especially While Self-Actualizing

How To Deal With Loneliness - Addressing the root cause of loneliness, especially when you're doing personal development, and why it's really worth it to face this issue head-on once and for all.
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[@HarjinderSingh-df7bs]

I distract myself with these videos when i feel lonely

[@victoriaporsiempre]

harjinder singh i do the same

[@BeatsByClover]

me as well

[@kavitaramlochan1693]

I dooo as well

[@yuucreations8569]

Me too

[@945daddy]

Me too

[@Morphick]

sad & lonely squad where you at

[@super117knight]

5 months late but im here

[@rinareynolds3284]

Same....late as fuck, yet still lonely

[@TheMaxx111]

If I did not go into work and deal with co-workers, I could go months without talking to someone. Not for a lack of trying though....I wonder if I am really dead, like in the 6th Sense.

[@varun6357]

Here ! 🙋‍♂️🙋‍♂️🙋‍♂️

[@artworld6574]

🤘🏾

[@PadmaPriya-dd3ik]

I am 18. I went alone to a cafe and a movie . That's when I felt alive. I loved it. I am going to do it more often.

[@EsthersCrazyWebshow]

i feel this on a deep level. :)

[@idan7989]

😊

[@andyt9677]

It is exhilarating

[@Xeno-et3hq]

There is no shame in that. If you think about it practically and honestly, I mean how often are you really gonna always gonna be able to grab someone to tag along with you to do something "you" want to do. maybe its easy at your age but its just not realistic long term. Do what you want with or without other people.

[@Ab_A60]

Same age! It’s hard to find people in our age range who are self actualising

[@stephanieb9449]

This was one of my first videos.. watched it About a year ago and it totally changed my life. I am not afraid of being alone or ending up alone . I enjoy my own company and the solitude quite a bit. I don’t need anyone to complete me and I know there is nobody else that can fill that gaping hole inside of us but us. I think marriage sometimes is a way we hide behind someone else, to never have to look within to discover who you really are and what your purpose is.Losing ourselves. Thank you for this lesson and all the others that followed. -Steph

[@annemoretti3173]

It makes sence. I think people just get married to go 50 50 with the rent. Really

[@darrinplatt7917]

That is a Good analogy Thank You.

[@jelenammm4569]

But do you able to have close friends or partner or not? I just try to understand how this works. Thanks!

[@Passion4Fashion2023]

I am with you Stephanie. I feel the same. I like my own company.

[@98ujaal]

41:48 Leo: Share this with friends Really, Leo? Really?

[@ActualizedOrg]

Your imaginary friend ;)

[@andrewduke777]

Actualized.org Thank you so much for your videos I watch every week time to meet my new friend solitude I have been running for a while

[@mimotakibylejaki7984]

hahaha good one

[@hinde64]

Alius Karalius chill, man

[@adamdownes4725]

It's just a prank, bro

[@beauterrence9506]

Is it weird when you are self actualizing and things the people do around you dont interest you anymore. So you feel alone, sometimes i just wanna cry. Lol

[@mv1991]

I understand.

[@toddr2422]

Beau Terrence it's very lonely once u get into self improvement. I used to have tons of friends and women that liked me. In the last year I've lost pretty much every single person in my life. Even most of my family. Keep hoping to meet someone who is awake and into improving themselves

[@daxe6666]

I just realized this is what I have been experiencing too. This past year, I refused to be seen as a doormat, starting with family. I have grieved the loss of family to such an extent I got stuck in victim mode, but then I lost some more friends during the grief. Now, I am starting to focus on my friends that I have more in common with, but I have still been sweeping under the rug. I am still oriented outwards for my happiness. It isn't working anymore. I'm still lonely as fuck. A wise voice in me has been guiding me peacefully more and more lately and has lead me to this idea of leaning into the loneliness. I have to admit, I hate it, and I've been avoiding it for years, but this is what I think is true. It's ok to have a pillow to lean on too at times. We can take vacations from self reflection at times. It's ok to grieve but I don't want to get stuck there. Best of luck to you. My intuition is to take his advice with a grain of salt. there are times we need community & it's ok to dip in and out of solitude. We are community based mammals after all.

[@phoenixrising9352]

Beau Terrence Yeah most people are degenerate NPC sheep, find those with the same goals and interests. Only way. Easier said than donez

[@bonniehirtz786]

I completely understand, Beau.

[@estifanosberta-samuel2570]

As a single man deep into my self actualization, I've done everything you've stated. I learned, in being alone, that one should love them self wholely & only then can others come to "drink from" or experience that overflow of love. Never love someone because you want/need that in return. Rather decide to pour out the overflow and you'll attract someone that loves from that place of authenticity. Now, I'm developing all of my experiences of being into books and study/self help systems to assist others along their journey

[@nazty121]

Sounds great have you published any books yet? If so name drop in the comments 👍🏽.

[@bruh_hahaha]

“Better to be alone than in bad company.” I’ve self-actualized myself and I’ve come to the conclusion that people are overrated.

[@omnivale1803]

i want to teach others the message, but it comes from a place of loneliness. i want to share my experience. i still have lots to figure out ._.

[@resilententity470]

opinion but a opinion i can respect Milhouse... too easy to see humans as trash not worth hanging out with... prehaps Mil bots reasoning is properly formulated by his true experience and research

[@Robert.Lachowski550]

cope because you are ugly.

[@orjanpetersson3099]

Mabye you have been being friends with the wrong people.

[@elan007]

Good one!

[@rAF-jz1yn]

,,We're born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we're not alone." - Orson Welles

[@JuggernautBloon]

Just to add to that...if you were born alone, where the fuck was your mother? lmao Orson Welles is a fucking idiot.

[@willyouwright]

I think he meant you only see the world from your perspective.. I dont think having someone close by is what they mean.. Do you see the world from your mums perspective?? probably not.. Hence its all you!

[@willyouwright]

Yeah that too

[@cold4365]

AND YOu JULY, WHAT DO YOu HAVE TO SAY... WHAT HAVE YOu RE-discovered. WHere is your voice...

[@helenaville5939]

Leo's videos are great but here's the catch. You have to trawl through a higher than usual number of infantile attention-seeking comments to find the intelligent ones. Those writing the most attention-seeking comments are the people who are most afraid to be alone .... they're just the last to know it.

[@ronniecash8111]

i dont have any real friends..i just had a birthday and it was lonely but ..i made my cake with cannabis butter ..i was so high i forgot it was my birthday and i didnt have friends...friends are overrated anyway

[@ActualizedOrg]

Lol

[@beauterrence9506]

Ronnie Cash probably late. But happy birthday! ❤️

[@ronniecash8111]

Beau Terrence thanks.....😃

[@xXAnthony619Xx]

Friends that understand who you are and want the best for you are few, but important to me.

[@FaveORitt]

Ronnie Cash you sound nice, I'd be your friend.

[@MrClickmyname]

27:00 : "alone, by yourself in solitude" Me trying to hit that 500 word count

[@canadiankaren2426]

Daniel Villarreal lol me this past semester! 😂😂😂😂😂

[@nataasa8089]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@graceoline]

omg

[@jeremygraves7982]

500? you lucky bastard, I gotta hit 750.

[@adritadas7434]

AHAYWYWYAYQ

[@dianeclayton4936]

I'm almost 56 years old...just enjoyed my first camping trip alone. I've gone on a few trips to New Mexico ...hiking the national parks alone. I hope to do psychedelics soon. I honestly dont feel lonely at all anymore. I enjoy observing my creativity as it is purely mine when I'm alone. I still have work to do around using KZbin and phone calls when I feel bored more than lonely. Thanks for validating my journey. Recently my last core family member died...I got myself sober...minimized down from a husband with 3k square feet down to what I have in a room I rent. I feel free and absolute peace. No need for others...happy when they are around but not necessary.

[@Shontise_Shonie]

Diane Clayton I love this such a wonderful journey❤️

[@l.k.2337]

If you're happy, fulfilled, and complete, why use psychedelics? I disagree with Leo on the psychedelic thing. I have a clear, great, focused mind ... I don't need a "trip" - my clean, focused life is already a trip.

[@0architect-]

I love how he whispers " you see" everytime after a long talk

[@donotaddmeplease]

The Legend 27 nah man he got it from Peter Ralston

[@richardconstance461]

I like how Alan Watts starts stuff with "Now then"

[@0architect-]

to me these small phrases are little ingredients you put to your meal that makes it unique

[@donotaddmeplease]

The Legend 27 you've gone nuts

[@0architect-]

Dreamers Disease aren't we all nuts at some point? :)

[@consciousvegan2641]

The word LONELINESS will scare the hell out of some people who doesn’t understand it. If you believe that your happiness is dependent on someone, then your concept about life is absolutely wrong. Your happiness should depend on your actions and only on things you do. Sometimes, the company of other people turns out to be nothing but a distraction. Don't ever take loneliness as a setback. It makes you a lot stronger.

[@Goddess-Reign]

Jakobo Motombo is this your real picture, if so you are beautiful!

[@normanisqueen5028]

+Samantha Wallace smooothh

[@shaehepburn2979]

@D Master loneliness is a perception and perceptions can be altered as they are not always necessarily based on reality.So why would you assume that someone in solitary confinement has the ultimate state of loneliness? For all you know you can be feeling greater loneliness than someone who is in solitary confinement, and you have physical freedom and someone in solitary confinement doesn't. It's all about perception and that is dependant about how you feel about yourself and your circumstances. I put myself in solitary confinement mentally and emotionally for many years because I refused to look at my pain.And yet I was never in prison and was always physically free in my everyday life to come and go as I pleased.Loneliness is a gift to me and I have decided to change how I feel about it. And in doing so I am starting to reach out, because I am healing and with that healing comes an inevitable expansion lifeward, instead of the many years I enjoyed (I was numbed out to my feelings for many years) retreating from myself and the world around me.

[@wizzardofpaws2420]

I don't believe in any of those types of things about myself. What I want is human connection and I don't have it. What I really want is family

[@idan7989]

I really like being with my good friends. I don't have many, but i have some strong relationships. I feel good around them but the second i go back home this feeling of emptiness hits me

[@chelseawhoelsee]

"The sweetest part about being is that it gets sweeter in solitude!" Couldn't have said it better myself!

[@BaconWakefoodtruck]

“You become a strong enough introvert that you actually become an extrovert” Fucking brilliant

[@sreelakshmi_viswam]

can you elaborate on this

[@diana-mw3uk]

I don't understand....

[@nefariouspulse9014]

I went through a 4 year loneliness period. The first 2 years I was miserable, but then I found out how to be fulfilled on my own. I used that time to workout, get better at the things I do etc. once I was happy solo, I found the love of my life and have been married for 5 years now. I still don't have any friends though, other than her. Lol!

[@nickiianala2972]

I think that's absolutely inspiring.

[@thelegendkillersshittyduff1335]

Nicki Ianala he got married that's real stupid

[@nickiianala2972]

He found love its not stupid.

[@nickiianala2972]

I live a depressing life, so let me be bluepilled.

[@carlosruiz2411]

Sounds cool, I want to do that

[@krool1648]

"Loneliness expresses the pain of being alone and solitude expresses the glory of being alone." - Paul Tillich

[@AL_THOMAS_777]

👏👏👏 Thats why you should avoid marriage at all costs !

[@grahamtrave1709]

44 minutes of truth Maybe consider that some of us are actually 60 or older. Thanks

[@patriciapowell3998]

i know I'm 77 and have been working on all of this for years....its hard sometime...but worth it

[@charissamerck5779]

Im 69 and iam...tuned in leo.you ll get here one day. Lol

[@aldonunez5082]

I’m 20 years old

[@TheGoat2367]

Truth?He is teaching Solipsism and you guys are being thankful to him?

[@minastamenkovic162]

I'm from Serbia,I live in Belgrade and usually when I have a break from lectures at college I just go to Kalemegdan and sit on a bench all alone.I'm surrounded by people sometimes and while they're there taking pictures,I just sit there and observe the sunrise and the view of nature itself.I felt so fullfilled and peaceful just being there.I often thought about taking a photo,but then the beauty of experiencing all of that would be lost,so I just sit there and enjoy the time being.Just observing nature has brought me more pleasure and calmness and inner peace than chitchatting with friends at a café for two hours.Those moments of solitude are one of the best moments in my life,and I definitely wouldn't share it with anyone even with a romantical partner.

[@LiveProfound]

I have been dealing with this deep sense of loneliness since last few months. Yesterday I went for a workshop where I got everything I was asking for. Connecting with someone deeply, expressing myself fully, opening myself up and also deep listening, letting the other person open themselves up. Yet, it was so shallow. There was absolutely no satisfaction. And this is what I realised on some level that the solution to this loneliness is not outside me. Even if I connect deeply with someone, it won't give me any fulfilment and completion that I am looking for; that I get a taste of when my mind is quiet, during meditation.

[@elan007]

Ever notice that all the self help books are written by someone else? :D

[@ujjwalshrivastava6003]

hey Leo,thanks for existing

[@mv1991]

Leo doesn't exist. Life is a dream. You're Leo.

[@commonpracticecoaching]

😂

[@sumerrose88]

Hey kids, Leo is absolutely right about diving in deep to purposely being alone when you are young! I am now 63 years old, husband left me years ago, kids grown living their own lives 1,600 miles from me, and the decades long friendships ended when I moved 3,000 miles away after the husband left. I've been on a serious path of self discovery since the time I decided to do a solo psilocybin trip over a year ago, a series of ayahuasca ceremonies seven months ago, and will be attending two more ceremonies in a couple of weeks. Until then I decided today that I will be restricting most socialization to prepare for the continued work, so most of my time will be focused on yoga, meditation, Eastern philosophy, and videos such as this one who promote what most in our society abhors, time alone looking within.

[@staycurious644]

Sounds like a great journey!

[@bernardohenriques5907]

@@staycurious644 well said, I’m curious how you’ve been doing now a days…

[@bernardohenriques5907]

The OP

[@liezacarroll8018]

You’re very strong😊

[@sumerrose88]

@@liezacarroll8018 Wrote that before Covid. A lot has changed since then. The isolation that was forced on everyone changed everything for me. I wasn't as spiritually strong as I believed I was.

[@daniellemoysderamirez1302]

Im a psychologist and when you said that the more you get to know yourself the harder it is to explain it to others... Wooow... That's so so so true. There is a unique perspective of the beauty of life within each person and its unexplainable and cannot be transferred. Thanks for putting words to that.

[@Zain0981]

"Solitude is what gives you the vision of a genius" .. i find this so true ..

[@StonagePwnage]

These videos feel like church on Sundays

[@farmerfennell9817]

StonagePwnage I quit church to listen these videos on Sunday :)

[@gogo311]

I do and admire both. Haha.

[@cold4365]

THEN GO TO CHURCH

[@cold4365]

If its in the mind you must be missing it

[@JamesParus]

Leo has better stories

[@merlgitano]

Have you really been alone? Think about it, much of our life is in family, work, school, etc. I thought I was able to be alone until I experienced really being alone. I might mention I am 90 years old. At sixty-two I retired and moved to Mexico (my Social Security was not sufficient to live in the US.) I found a village where I was given a free place to live. I would live for six months in the US and six months in Mexico. Where I lived in Mexico was several miles from my neighbors. I did not speak Spanish. There I experienced extreme loneliness. I thought I did not have a problem with loneliness For I traveled alone (I was living a Gypsy life) Lived in campgrounds, and just along the road. But six months alone, I did, but with extreme difficulty. But I did find out one thing about loneliness. For me, it was. NOT LIKING MYSELF for there was no one else for me to relate to EXCEPT MYSELF. I did this year-after-year and never experienced any great revelation, great peace. I think that is one reason Yogis spend months or years in complete isolation.

[@stoicego]

Thank you for your wonderful insight Donald, appreciate it!

[@hummingbird9221]

I'm 66 years old today..and am totally lost. I have family..I have "things to do"..I don't have interest in doing anything. I hate whining..I just don't know what to do with all the lengthy years looming ahead of me. I was very active in my younger years..now I can't do too much..I have COPD and run out of air easily. I envy folks that have maintained an interest in life.

[@meinungabundance7696]

@@hummingbird9221 Try to take supplements which increase your DOPAMINE level. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter, essential to have motivation to live and have interest in life. Geriatrists talk about wrinkles and osteoporosis, but no-one, virtually no-one talks about dopamine. Research on dopamine in internet. In worst case you might have to take Ritaline, which is a great medicament against sub-depressions like your case seems to be.

[@karliegilbert3917]

humming bird hey I’m here if you want to chat. I feel this way at 30.

[@tamradawn1732]

@@hummingbird9221 hi. I can really relate. I am 49, but very sick. It is a horrible way to live to be so very lonely and without peace or enjoyment in life. And I hate to whine about things too, but sometimes it is good to vent. If u would like to chat with someone who understands, feel free to contact me. Donald, thanks for your insight and interesting comment. I am needing peace so badly these days, but can't seem to find it anymore. I hope this finds u well. And if u would ever like to talk or chat feel free to contact me. Take care

[@luciaebanks2705]

I'm 57 years left my country when I was 18. I struggled with loneliness all my life. I didn't realize that I'm with myself until you mentioned it. Thank you for these videos.

[@AL_THOMAS_777]

Welcome to the gang 😁

[@grimmerjxcts2206]

So you telling me I'm going to be like this forever

[@JAKE-ng8yr]

@@grimmerjxcts2206 yeah fr

[@slaminlad]

Reading the headline I thought this was aimed at lonely people who wanted friends in some way or another. I live a very solitary life, and I'm actually happy with that. I'm 51 now and have been very social earlier on in my life. I don't miss it or the people. I suppose I am my own best friend.

[@littlemama3957]

I..am same..

[@CurrencyGod]

Wow Leo great timing with this video topic in my life. Been living an independent lifestyle pretty much, not hanging out with anyone. Though I do work in a very social environment and make friends. Self-actualizing does get lonely so definitely will check this out when I have the time!

[@dropthekorpi]

Doing some progress on becoming a sage lol, all these recent videos have been perfectly timed for me

[@georgholden3735]

Hillarus haha, hi im working on becoming a sage, what do you do?

[@burzedwave]

I didn't watch the video yet. I will for sure. I think its quite pathetic that we can't make(or hardly) friends who wants to self-actualize too. That could be great to share experiences with each other. And give useful advices to help struggle down the obstacles... But this only remains an illusion, most of the ppl are neurotic minds...keep up the good work Leo!

[@vladimirbelov3572]

Same story in my case. It's weird how relevant some videos were before. I've heard somewhere about meditation and made up my mind to start it and bam, a new video about meditation was uploaded. It seems like some sort of fate:)

[@Freshprankstv1]

7thletter when the student is ready the teacher shall appear

[@CharlesVeitch]

"The prize for the hero is the beauty of life, that's what the holy grail is" - Well said Leo!

[@tastemymeme5728]

I'm not sure if you'll ever see this Leo, but your videos are keeping me above the surface. Your ideas and demeanor inspire me to keep growing. Thank you for everything.

[@losblancos99]

Thanks Leo, been struggling with loneliness my whole life. But I'm completely baffled when you said that when I'm talking to people, I am talking to me. I just chuckled when you said that.

[@mjpreneur]

WOW LEO !! Perfect timing, i speak for EVERYONE when i say Thanks again for another Awesome Video !! You never fail to come thru for us :D

[@son2poetry]

Wow. I was totally into this and then you went into the “don’t wait till you turn 60, because you’re not good looking anymore and you can’t find friends as easy ... “ Well, I turned 60 six months ago and part of what you say is true but I don’t think death is necessarily nipping at my heels. People are vital well into their eighties now. Sounds real discriminatory. You could have just stopped at don’t wait decade after decade. I feel like I have acquired much wisdom and useful gifts along the years and I have not had time to go on the journey I have been on for the last few years for having to take care of others. I can be a success and a visionary at 60 or 70 or at any age. Don’t do this alienation thing. Maybe you have others my age who subscribe and admire you.

[@vanillahoneyhusky]

good point

[@TroyMountain]

Well said. "Sex" is something different and profound to the experienced v. [what I recall of being] 23. For example. I don't enjoy experiencing the sorrow or grief of ebbing "vitality" (flexibility, recovering from injury, skin changing, etc.) but feeling I'm working my way back to God there's some _relief_ there's less [I thought was] "important" to compete or wrestle about. What he says about Solitude translates to Later Life also! I recognize the loneliness as the transition from the delight and recklessness of Youth to The Eternal awaiting "me" with God. "I'm a Soul having a 'Human' experience" would not have paused me when I was 27!!

[@slimshany4602]

Hi Debra, so true.. excellent comment. When you listen to true Buddhist/compassionate and wise teachings, things Leo says is really off and nowhere near their level. I just posted my own comment, on how throughout seeing his videos (and their images) he seems snobbish in his tone, condescending and from the way he's talking he seems to love to have a platform, a stage. I wish him all the best and much more growth. To you I'm sending a big hug and your 60 years is gold; wear these years proudly..!

[@TroyMountain]

"Visionary" becomes less _forward thinking_ as one ages. I'm 55 and hope I'll have _wisdom_ as I'm aging. I took his remarks to mean some milestones to reach or cornerstones to set are better or more easily done when younger. I became invisible to women (of my peers anyway) at 40 because i'd failed to marry, father and accumulate wealth. So he's talking to _men_ as well-- if only covertly or by inference.

[@annamalystic]

Most people subconsciously or consciously if your'e aware, judge by looks.

[@Paul-dw2cl]

12:33 “You are alone in this universe; it’s all just you.” The more people who grasp this, the more the world will be consciously shifted away from 3D ego-driven violence & hostility.

[@joshua.oldchannel4336]

Hey, It's you

[@TheGoat2367]

Lol he is promoting Solipsism

[@AL_THOMAS_777]

[@locoman7]

Oh my god the introversion/extroversion loop is blowing my mind! I can't wait for that video!

[@SanoWritesStuff]

lol Leo, just yesterday I was having 2-3 hours of walking alone because I haven't done that in a while since my job kinda destroyed my weekly walking habit (Also almost all my other helpful habits) and man, I thought it was going to be an amazing walk but just when I started I felt happier than I imagined. Witnessing the clouds changing colors because of the sunset, playing with the trees' leafs, embracing my arms when wind blows (Yesterday was friendly windy), saying hi to any animal and running the fastest I can for no reason, all of that and more filled me with the joy that I've been waiting for. Also throughout the walk, the only strong desire I had was to continue developing the game I stopped developing in 2015 and now I'm ready to put my all in it, so right now I finally found something worth putting my efforts in.

[@royferguson3909]

looney

[@cold4365]

Put effort into BREATHing DEEPER

[@helenaville5939]

+Roy Ferguson. Thank you for that introduction. But don't worry, we won't hold it against you.

[@helenaville5939]

+Sanodermicano. Nice one :)

[@DavidL-wd5pu]

I use to walk a lot when I was a kid, even by myself and it can be a great way to destress. There is a walking meditation that can be done that is also very helpful and similar.

[@l.k.2337]

I left the matrix a long time ago, and I never feel lonely. I can't even comprehend people who feel boredom, there's so much to be done!

[@TimeKillerC]

I'm actually a year here after watching this video and I have to say this is really made my loneliness dissappear. You are a life saver leo.

[@bailarinastestimony2902]

This is EXACTLY what I feel when I do self help. Now I feel support and tools to feel better. Thank you.

[@curlyriri1041]

I got married and moved away from my family and friends. Had children. Did a degree and a post graduate degree. Never had I spent so much time with myself, it was super scary at times, lonely, low, depressing, but I have learnt so much about myself (this happened especially when I started reading about mindfulness). I have had very interresting talks with myself, learnt so much about my fears, weaknesses, strengths, why I act and react the way I do, i would sometimes distance myself from everyone.. i am positive this is going to be especially helpful when I am older as you mentioned in the video. I am still at the start of the journey of self discovery, but I am willing to walk it.. 😌

[@idan7989]

Good luck

[@gryphon8483]

Keep on walking. ... Keep listening to Leo - learn to meditate, it is beautiful. I get myself out of the way - to be in The Way - I Listen every day to Stephen Mitchell's Tao Te Ching without doing anything else for 10 min. Good meditation - The Tao ~ "Whosever is delighted in solitude is either a wild beast or a god." ~ Aristotle I Was lonely and crying this morning so I listened to this and felt better. I live in solitude, in nature. I Was depressed and anxious for 12 years. When I went later in life to get a degree it was scary too. I got depressed after I got my degree in 1998.

[@incogb6696]

update?

[@perkoulidio]

Thank you from the bottom of my heart. By far, the most inspiring video I 've heard. I am an extroverted person but I need my loneliness very often and it is SO GOOD to hear that it IS ok to feel that way! Thank you once again, I am forever grateful!

[@makaylahollywood3677]

I took a week off to do nothing. I am home, alone and found this video. This is so powerful. I am now in week two. I love it. Thank you;-)

[@JAKE-ng8yr]

try few years

[@michaelcondrey3510]

Back in covid 😢

[@cr-nd8qh]

Im on year 4

[@candicemariebeadco]

You are an amazing soul! Thank you, Leo. I listened to you years ago and here I am back again listening to your videos today. It has been a long awakening process, but I am in a much different place than when I first heard you. Your words resonated with me way back when, but even more so today. Crazy how the Universe, our Higher Self, always knows what we need and when. Thank you, Leo. Love and light.

[@AL_THOMAS_777]

I have a nice present for you Candice: "The eye of the I - from which nothing is hidden" (Dr. med. Dr. phil. David R. Hawkins) I think you´re quite r i p e for that. God bless you !

[@poemanderpoemander3007]

You sound like a self absorbed pinhead.

[@AndreeaT3003]

I felt like your video was for me. Each and every word. I am so happy to know that others feel what I feel. Thank you for sharing.

[@victoriaporsiempre]

the true loneliness is the one that elderly with no family and friends suffer , even though there are many options to keep them “distracted”

[@trevadadeva]

"This is not a group effort!" "You cannot raised your consciousness....you cannot do this through a group effort!" It was this quote for me! Thank you! I went seeking a new perspective this morning about loneness while I am growing, and this video was spot on! Thank you!

[@christofer128]

i always sit and rest or think and do nothing and my wife is going crazy and wants me to go out and find friends :)..... i think it drives people crazy when they see u without any troubles

[@jamesandchante]

It's so true that growing spiritually set you up for loneliness, because you leave those that are close to you behind. I left a doomsday cult I was born and raised in. I completely believed in it, for quite awhile. However, once my eyes were open to the truth about it, that it was a false religion and a cult, I left. Everyone I knew, family and friends, shun me now. I am dead to them. Then I made a few new friends; but, eventually I found that many of the other ideas I had about reality, politics, science, etc., weren't really true. When I expressed this, everyone I knew started to mock me and distance themselves. So, I am alone. For the most part, I feel fine being alone; because I distract myself from being alone by constantly trying to learn, improve myself, and keep busy. But, when I slow down, sometimes I feel emptiness, because I know no one that understands me, cares about me, or shares my joys, dreams, and sorrows. I am all I have, and sometimes I don't feel like enough for myself haha (if that makes any sense). I understand that loneliness is caused by thoughts, and not by being alone. Understanding that helps a little, but t doesn't completely prevent the feeling from creeping up from time to time. I will say, the more I am alone, the more I realize that I actually like myself and entertain myself more than I ever thought I could when I was surrounded by people without a depth of connection with them.

[@mahdiomidvar564]

when people do not understand s.th, they simply and quickly judge it..

[@etcetc8198]

I've been on a quest for the Holy Grail for some time now, close to 7 years. The more I develop and expand, the more alien I feel to the rest of the world. It's so hard to relate to people anymore and I feel like some kind of self righteous jerk for it. What kills me the most is the resistance from people when I try to share the beauty I experience with them. That I'll have to learn to just enjoy it by myself. That most people don't want to live extraordinary, gorgeous, profound existences..not if they have to work for it. But there's no turning back now. I refuse to. BITE THE BULLET. Thanks for everything Leo.

[@AL_THOMAS_777]

Thats so true. Only n o b l e f e w w ill reach the other shore . . .

[@TheAlechoc]

Had many of these exact insights on a recent LSD trip however they keep slipping away from me and I have to catch myself from returning to old bad habits and thought patterns, despite having experienced non-duality after my “physical death” experience on LSD. Leo is so wise and his ability to retain all of these brilliant truths and speak so articulately about them is truly amazing. Thank you for this video I will keep it in my favourites for whenever I catch myself getting lost and returning to my selfish thoughts and habits.

[@jasonmathias5343]

You know that when Leo doesn't start out with, "Heyyyyy" in a video its serious.

[@user-my8qj]

iiike yup to be friendly so we don'g suicide from loneliness lmao

[@3zooz17]

All his videos are serious

[@VisionaryTribe]

Hey Leo, just wanted to say thanks so much for making these videos. You're one of the few "self help leaders" that actually are educated and knowledgeable in what they're saying, instead of the usual wishy washy new-age advice. Appreciate your content and keep learning!

[@whatsqualia]

Cried tears of grief and relief this whole video

[@AL_THOMAS_777]

. . .WOW, somebody with EMOTIONS !!!

[@jenniferm3227]

Leo this was so insightful ! I’m going through this myself right now and at first it was hard , but now I cherish the time I have alone . Sometimes I can’t wait to be by myself , we need solitude in order to recharge and in order to give our best selves to the world . Don’t be afraid of the loneliness , embrace it . It’s in those moments that you really learn about your inner strength .

[@vacamulticolor3485]

if the part about sitting alone on a couch is true i must be enlightened af right now

[@ActualizedOrg]

Watching TV or playing video games on your couch don't count.

[@mv1991]

Oh... I'm not buddha after all.

[@fumarate1]

sitting alone on a couch for 10 days i would go insane.

[@GerhardvonAhe]

@@fumarate1 you would probably get enlightened as fuck doing that

[@Sahelienpro]

I’m sitting in public listening to this with my headphones and now I feel a sense of direction. Thank you man, I needed to hear this

[@tgp7104]

Thank you Leo! I have totally transformed my life after watching your videos some time ago. Now watching them again and i am so happy that i understand more and more about life ! My lonelyness was and is sooooo worth it!!

[@crtshells3564]

So far this has been the most useful thing I have found for dealing with loneliness. Thanks Leo

[@rileyjane8641]

I needed this so much. I’ve been feeling very lonely all this year, which I’m sure a lot of people have. I’ve thought this was unfortunate and unfair, but now I’m seeing, to be alone if what I’ve needed to solve my loneliness.

[@cosmicdrifter287]

It's revelation time.I Really thought about this subject deep for the last year and you brought it all home for me.Bless you Leo.

[@cherylcole9051]

WOW! So powerful. This is right where I am in life at 63. I am going to rewatch this and try what you have said. This was a big eye opener! Thank you.

[@Michael-ou8fo]

You are absolutely right. You are born alone, you die alone, when you go to sleep or wake up you are alone. When you realize the truth of this the problem disappears.

[@Wimpiethe3]

Loneliness Is an external problem, in the sense that you need others to fix it. After all we are social animals. To ignore that and to think that we can solve it internally is a grave mistake in my opinion. Even the most balanced, self aware and independant person will need other humans to not feel alone. All this internal nonesense will do is push others away and make you harder to reach, it's bad to be drawn inwards like that. I can know. On many topics I can see the merit of your ideas but on this we are polar opposites.

[@shaehepburn2979]

You missed the point. You need to fix what's inside first before it becomes an external reality. You can have a million friends and yet have not one significant deep and meaningful human connection. The solution is inside, and once that is sorted the outer will follow suit.

[@bcvc3365]

Wimpiethe3 ... we are social animals as primate creatures that we are... but we are spiritual beings as well

[@justsomeguy5417]

Leo thank you for being there for me all these years. I really cant thank you enough for confirming these things for me.

[@peterlehmkuhl1985]

"Let the solitude massage you" great stuff Leo!

[@moorishg]

Thank you! You’re amazing and wise beyond your years! This clip came right on time in my life. You validated what I have always felt and believed

[@vignannakka3074]

"Who? the bald guy again?", my mom says. They never understand this!

[@cold4365]

tell them to sit. JUST SIT for MONTHS, DO NOTHING. AND SHE WILL UNDERSTAND WHEN SOMETHING MOVES WHIle still being still

[@mantas9827]

Lol, my mother does the same thing :D

[@vignannakka3074]

Col D They're really stuck in this world and think that as the ultimate reality. They don't even want to think outside that paradigm.

[@Username-on8hc]

I member one time I left the front door open while she was on errands, she came back seeing thefront door wide open "(My name)! U lisenting to dat white boi again! Get out here!" Hilarious...

[@Username-on8hc]

I don't loathe them , yet what pisses me off about them(family, acquaintances) is well I suck harder than a jet turbine with women and that part of me growing up...they usually see me as some kind of little bitch or another version of a little brother that just doesn't do anything or say anything. (Looking back its kind of funny) Yet my family is just used to seeing me as some betamale bitch who just bends over, I hate how they just justify that not really arguing, yet just turning the other cheek, that taught me that if I wanted to increase my sexual abundance then that's just simply up to me and no one else.

[@sc7244]

You and David Goggins have drastically improved my life. I’m still working on a lot, but you’ve helped me so much. Thanks brotha

[@mindset2billions756]

Hey S.C. i hear that you have a lot on your plate and I recommend you watch this video on self actualization he is uplifting and motivating-mindset2billions.com/

[@lilynguyen4298]

I cried a lot watching this. To me, it's tremendous how this video was made 6 years ago and today I'm watching it and feeling connected, feeling like you speak the deepest truth out of my soul that I didn't even know why I crave for solitude and solo trips after years I've done. And yes, I'm watching this because I'm feeling lonely but this video conveys tons of messages I needed to hear. Watching you is like listening to big brother's great advice. Thank you so much, Leo.

[@BuizelCream]

You express the same thought I have right now. I've always been a guy who finds more joy and fulfillment when I satisfy my craving for solitude and goals to accomplish that only I can do. But recently, I've been feeling rather lonely self-actualizing lately, even though I have my materialistic desires and relationships goals met in more ways than one. Not even my bf can really help me cope fully because he's just not in the same level of plane as I am. Listening to this video from Leo here is helping me face what I feel head on, hoping I'll be able to learn how to live with this kind of moments whenever they come to remind me how lonely I really am, and yet I'll be okay.

[@Earthlienn]

Wow. I just found you on my recommended videos and clicked, wasn’t expecting to feel so understood and hear such wisdom. Thank you for sharing ! I feel re-connected and excited.

[@miskitoragee6296]

I'm disconnected from being. I feel like I'm in my head or like a mist cloud like I'm always sleepy

[@Omega-jg4oq]

Same bro, I feel like I've been gone into different dimension even If I'm still here

[@bertinendongo2115]

Leo, I have to admit this video is really life changing. I mean, I can relate to your personal experience in so many aspects. I actually moved to another city by myself. My family was just like: wtf do u wanna go all alone in a foreign place with no friends, no family and stuff. But I went there and I definitely experienced loneliness. I learned so much in those 6 months and I can affirm I'm a better person today. I really faced my inner demons and I've learned a lot about myself. When I was crying and suffering deep down inside of me because I had no friends and acquaintances, I was thinking about my parents and their non stop advice about the importance of being a social person. As a disguised introvert and anxious person, I made some ridiculous efforts to learn how to be social and I ended up building few relationships with my classmates at school. And yeah Leo, solitude is the key.

[@user-yq5lj8br8w]

i’m currently 17 turning 18 in a month & i started my spiritual journey when i was 15. i’ve made a tremendous amount of change in my life since then & everyone around me has acknowledged it. i just want to thank you for what your doing. Lately, feelings of loneliness and depression have been arising and i’ve been struggling to stay present with them. I’ve had this longing for a “soulmate” since i was 13 years old and it’s been coming to the surface again recently and i’m doing my best to let it go and realize that another person will not fill this void in feeling. it’s not an easy journey, but i know it’s worth it in the long run and i always watch your videos to remind myself of that. Thank you leo

[@aj.5841]

Solitude is your centre - that really hit me! When we're alone, it's our opportunity to find our way back to the present moment without the distractions, without the influence of others

[@sabinacle1529]

Agh! I'm pushing 60 and my body is always in pain but my soul feels like I'm in my 20s

[@ActualizedOrg]

Get serious about enlightenment. You don't have time to fuck around any more.

[@ClearOutSamskaras]

There's nothing funny about his response.

[@mv1991]

Damn Leo, you're a savage.

[@AndreChaser]

@@ActualizedOrg How do you know it? You can die tomorrow... Or next week or next year. It's all about of enjoying the life. Your age doesn't matter. A lot of bullshit here

[@catherinewylie6959]

I am 52 and have been going through this awakening process for about five years or so. It's finally getting really serious. I don't feel old at all. Andre, I like your comment. Feeling more loneliness over time due to outgrowing friends I've known for years (who actually treated me badly.) Getting comfortable with myself in my own skin, in mostly solitude, though I've always had a melancholy that never really lifts. But I am open to healthier connections. I'm kind of noticing myself in that limbo place...but connecting to being at the same time.

[@anonymouse7773]

I tried to explain the loneliness associated with introspection to a friend, and he told me that I just needed distraction, that I need to find love and go on dates, and when I told him distraction wasn't actually going to actually solve my problems, he just didn't seem to understand. Funny how talking to someone made me feel even more lonely

[@DarkMatter-zk3bo]

"sweeping the problem under the rug" - That's the best thing anyone has ever said about this matter. Great video. Thank you

[@kaitlyn_resonant_wizard_6867]

Wow. I really gotta say I've watched so many videos, read so many books, and articles but none of what I've seen or read resonates as deeply as this video. Thank you for this video. For helping me realize that I'm a lot further along on my journey than I give myself credit for.

[@Daniel-ht8mp]

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[@Apocane]

I got rid of loneliness not by facing the loneliness as you suggest, but by spending MUCH more time with other people. Now hear me out, it wasn't the social interaction itself that relieved the loneliness, but it made me realize that I don't need other people in order to be happy. I am indeed happier alone, and this was made much clearer to me. Same thing with sex and women. Being in a relationship made me realize I don't need that. It's not that I can't handle social interaction and relationships, I'm doing just well, but it wasn't really what I wanted after all.

[@johngallagher72]

Anyone else dealing with lonliness during quarantine?

[@AriMelim]

me :(

[@AriMelim]

omfg 1 year ago

[@gotthefeelin]

I've watched this 3 times the past couple of days as I'm at the stage where I'm ready to commit to looking within myself instead of looking out. I've had enough of the people around me. It's exactly what I needed to hear, so thank-you! There seems to be a campaign of news reports and videos on social media over here in the U.K. recently about loneliness. It's usually of elderly people crying themselves to sleep all alone, feeling sorry for themselves. Yet none of the reports tackle the root cause, in that they've never looked within. They usually end up showing the people going to clubs like Age UK to play bingo and being able to talk to others. That's all well and good as a temporary fix, but I don't want to end up like that.

[@TheCrowDream]

I've noticed that too... elderly relatives suddenly proclaiming their loneliness like it's the latest trendy ailment dispensed by their favorite media outlet. Pretty tragic to hear them parroting such self- limiting statements, but I must accept that this is their stage of ego development and draw on my faith that they will find their way.

[@freeradicalpanda]

Instantly subscribed; THANK YOU Leo! I always felt disaffected with the reality and social constructs handed to me (and humanity in general); I thought the lonely acid trips, traveling and going to concerts alone, 14 days of isolation w. books in a summerhouse etc. made me a freak. I’ve certainly been told so, but in reality I’ve taken the journey of self actualization and contemplation without fully realizing it. I suddenly feel much, MUCH less lonely and that maybe you should wear introversion with pride instead of shame. I cannot thank you enough ❤️ This really moved mountains for me.

[@ceilhall8626]

This is excellent, and it helped me a LOT. HOWEVER, I do NOT recommend that you say things like "Don't wait until you are 60 and losing your looks and feel like you won't be able to attract someone." That thought is the result of unconscious ageism. I think you should read "This Chair Rocks" by Ashton Applewhite. It's not your fault - most people are unaware that they are perpetuating myths about age. But I think it would be good for you and your career if you became conscious of these beliefs. They are totally false. I'm 65 and still very attractive; and people find romance in their 90s all the time.

[@gme10955]

I agree. Although I didn't wait until I was 60 to face my demons, I've lived a very healthy lifestyle and remained active and fit in my 60's. I cringed a little when Leo made that comment.

[@jd9720]

I spend a lot of time alone because it's stressful dealing with people, I honestly can't tell if im lonely because i've spent the majority of my free time on my own for years and it's just normal to me now.

[@kvister1]

One of my favorite videos, thanks, loneliness is something which has scared me for a long time, this video is a confirmation of the truth of the path which lies before me.

[@freethinker3083]

New Subscriber. You are simply the fucking best! What I love is that you are real and unfiltered! This is the truth and the harsh reality that mostly anyone can admit they are afraid to experience. Thank you for this video. I'm just experiencing what it means to live alone with no friends in a new city, while single. So Thank you. And Thank for choosing to spend your time and energy into this channel! ❤️✌️

[@rdsginia7499]

Witnessing a loved one dying has always seemed like a strange part of our culture. I WANT to face death alone. I'm a cancer patient. Although it's under control now and I'm doing well, I'm mentally preparing myself to be completely alone on my death bed. I don't want my kids, family, or friends with me because I don't want to be distracted from the deep and personal experience. Also, because it is personal, I don't want anyone talking after my death about how I died, what it looked like, how it made them feel as I've heard from many people about when their loved one died. And I don't think it's necessary or even healthy for loved ones to witness my death. They'll be able to grieve and live on without the additional trauma of seeing me pass away. I want them to remember me living, not dying. After my dad had a major stroke and was scheduled by other family members to be taken off of life support, I refused to be there to witness his death. I did not go into the room to view his lifeless body. Doing so would bring me no sense of joy, closure, or whatever reasons have for viewing the bodies of their loved ones and I felt it would be a violation of his privacy. Nearly five years later, I have to regrets.

[@shashantkhemka2595]

Hi Inia!!! Hope you're alright.

[@jajjakawemperodney1264]

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[@godofdogs6198]

How selfish. Suggest you rethink this bull shit.

[@melakinllc]

I understand you.

[@hunnytaneja7913]

Leo you are awesome I'm really a big fan of yours

[@BTHABIT.]

hunny taneja me to lol

[@DexterTVIsBae]

Smoked and listened to this with a friend. We woke up and being is so profound! My rooftop was gorgeous and I appreciated all that "is"!

[@spruce117]

Be careful of unearned wisdom.

[@DexterTVIsBae]

@@spruce117 I'm trying to be very careful, absolutely. This is heavy shit that cannot be allowed to go unchained in an irresponsible way. I'll need to keep a strong mind and good will towards others. It's literally how I see it now. Can't be any other way. I'm (you're) the infinite creator infinitely creating. I'm just here to experience myself in everything

[@spruce117]

@@DexterTVIsBae "I'm the infinite creator." Yeah, you're def on drugs dude. Shit dont make logical sense.

[@lydiabreckenridge3788]

I GREATLY needed this video. “Let the solitude massage you.” Thank you, Leo

[@shiashiu6149]

You have teached me so much Leo... for 2 years... thank you❤️

[@jon8367]

I have watched this video like 20 times and it always help me a lot! Thank you Leo 🙏

[@Kanjas19]

When you were talking about visiting places by yourself, coming home crying from a bar by yourself because you could not attract any women... I'm currently on that point in my life. I totally agree with you. Finding your passion and purpose, find yourself first, then you go after connection. I love being by myself and ask myself questions to find the answers I am seeking. Thank you so much for this video.

[@MrHlcg1962]

Hey Leo. Thank you. Your videos are my virtual mentors. I'm 57 and feel with authentic peace my solitude for the first time in my life. My monkey mind found another circus to entertain in. I welcome it back occassionally but only as a way to contemplate life's vicissitudes. Thank you Leo.

[@michaelwardenmusic]

29:00 yes this really makes sense! I always used to think by being alone I was making it worse. What a false conclusion I made there. Thank you so much for this video!

[@gamerchristina1079]

ABSOLUTELY AMAZING LEO!! I LOVED IT! GREAT VIDEO! THANK YOU SO MUCH!

[@mukagiri5715]

Beautifully said and put together. The topics that you cover in this video are literally word for word things that have been going through my mind for a long time now. It's sincerely chilling to hear and see how well you've put it together and covered it so wonderfully. I'm very thankful for you and your videos, you do a wonderful job. Thank you, much love.

[@backlashza]

Ive been on my own journey of discovery and contemplated why i felt different to rest of society. You have perfectly encapsulated my feelings and provided some great insight and advice. As you've said "just do it" there is so much that lies in store if you break free from the bonds of societal structures and norms.