Mik and I also talk about how to stay mentally healthy as a freelancer on his channel: kzbin.info/www/bejne/fX2bqZSBgr2Nd5I
@MikMilman5 жыл бұрын
I had a blast doing this with you. Next time I'm coming to NY. Lol I can't believe you actually put those photos in the video.
@drali5 жыл бұрын
I've been waiting to find an excuse to use those photos!!!! Looking forward to the next one 🙌
@IAmSweetPea5 жыл бұрын
One of the things that goes first during the developing stages of PTSD is empathy. It can make helping someone in the throes of the disease soooooooo hard.
@DrAdnan5 жыл бұрын
My problem is sometimes I empathize too much and it becomes paralyzing
@knoxiuz4 жыл бұрын
6:47 thanks for that explanation. And good conversation between two beautiful ppl, i had never imagine learning about empathy from a photographer.
@SynthApprentice5 жыл бұрын
Empathy is a powerful skill for anything that involves interacting with another person.
@unleashingpotential-psycho94335 жыл бұрын
Empathy is an important skill for people to gain 🔥🔥🔥
@drali5 жыл бұрын
Agreed!
@HYSIEL5 жыл бұрын
ive always been the one that my friends (and just classmates to be honest) share their struggles to. sometimes, there are days where they come to me one by one and i just feel so drained of empathy no matter how much i want to talk to them about their problems.
@drali5 жыл бұрын
I've definitely experienced that myself. There is a term for it - compassion fatigue. Here's some more information on that and what you can do: www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/high-octane-women/201407/are-you-suffering-compassion-fatigue.
@FromtheMidwest2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the video. I heard of empathy and see people express it but I have aspd and do not understand how it feels. Thank you for this video, it helped me a lot
@ip-l9345 жыл бұрын
Grrrrreat video!! Being in the moment its so important to connect with people, and so to be empathetic. Practice makes the master; there's a lot of people outside who need someone to listen. Almost all of the time i go out, sitting in a bench, waiting in line, on the bus, etc...there is someone who starts a conversation and thats a great way to practice. Loved this video!
@drali5 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much for watching and taking the time to comment! You bring up a great point here - there are opportunity for compassion, empathy, and listening ALL AROUND US ALL THE TIME! 😀
@savnac4 жыл бұрын
Love it. Thanks for this video! One question I have is, I have trouble feeling empathy. I’m sort of a narcissistic person. Will practicing empathy skills increase my interest in others and their need for care?
@ErebosGR5 жыл бұрын
Could you do an episode on crying/weeping? Is there a connection between weeping and a person's capacity for empathy? Are empathetic people moved to tears more easily by movies/music/etc? Is it normal for empathy and intensity of emotional response to fluctuate periodically?
@hallwnby5 жыл бұрын
I’m someone who can feel sympathy but empathy is EXTREMELY rare, I only cry about MYSELF I cry from being very sad/angry etc but if someone died I will cry for the reason that’s I’ve lost them in how they help my life I wouldn’t feel much if they don’t Benefit me in some way I definitely don’t feel bad about them dying just bad about how it affects me
@MikMilman5 жыл бұрын
Also interested in this.
@AmandaKaymusic5 жыл бұрын
The ability to disappear (be not the focal point) is a magic skill. It works with emperor penguins too.
@bejanbaharustani41663 жыл бұрын
I found that the photographer has more empathy then the psychologist.
@grandmastermario36953 жыл бұрын
How to develop empathy after being abused and mistreated by multiple caregivers and authority figures well it's really tough even more harder is to develop trust
@flymypg5 жыл бұрын
O. M. G. Please let me add another perspective to empathy in photography. For a decade I was a semi-pro photographer (definition: takes gigs only to afford new gear). I specialized in "grab shots", those fleeting moments that are there and gone in an instant. I was the wedding reception photographer who got good shots of everyone, including Aunt Edith, who hated getting her picture taken, who always knew where the camera was and kept her back to it. I loved challenges! I preferred to be the "second" photographer, free of the duties to take the posed and formal shots, taking only photos, not videos. I always had a camera with me. When I finally started therapy, it became clear that I was hiding behind my camera, using it to allow me to be around groups without being an active participant outside of the role of photographer. To let me avoid working on my social interaction issues. Yet, as a huge positive, my camera did help me to be out in public even when deeply depressed. But it was a small isolated island of me in the ocean of humanity, there but separate, an observer rather than a participant. Still, the better decision, by far, was for me to set my equipment aside, eventually to sell it. It's been decades and I've yet to replace my gear. Yet I still have my photographer's eye. I still see the instants that are there to be captured. I also clearly see people having appearances outside the Hollywood ideal in whom I see a radiant beauty I wish to capture. So, instead of getting a camera and hiding behind it, I will walk up to such people and share my impression, and recommend they get some shots taken of who they are today. I'm still doing photography, but indirectly. What I do directly is feel and interact rather than hide. And, of course, I'm "that guy" who always offers to help with selfies. For some reason, using someone else's camera or phone changes the moment, makes it about the people, as if I don't get to hide behind gear I don't own.
@Ruby_V_4 жыл бұрын
>"I will walk up to such people and share my impression" That's a really powerful thought. Thanks for sharing!
@audreydupuy26284 жыл бұрын
Great video! I never thought of the difference between sympathy and empathy
@AmandaKaymusic5 жыл бұрын
Thanks... I wrote 2 fairly eloquent paragraphs which disappeared due to a drop out. Just imagine kind and uplifting comments please because I am not writing them again....thanks
@MikMilman5 жыл бұрын
Lol
@emiliam7785 жыл бұрын
Great conversation! Thank you so much :-)
@MrSk8guyJr5 жыл бұрын
Not really related to this video, but I was wondering. What type of therapy do you do? I'm going through psychotherapy atm and I'm curious of how different types of therapy plays out.
@BrianDonato4 жыл бұрын
I appreciate the message - empathy is so important! I discuss this in the last video on my channel as well, in the context of inner peace, from a parenting perspective. I hope messages like ours empower people to practice empathy! I just subscribed to your channel too, keep up the content.
@Spaceseeker5 жыл бұрын
Great video. I learnt I use empathy in my job. Who knew?
@TasLomv5 жыл бұрын
To me empathy is all about effort. Trying to understand what's said, behind the words. And it's really difficult most of the time, to me at least!
@PeaceboneGotFound5 жыл бұрын
Hi Ali! I have been enjoying your videos for a while now, and I find them helpful and relatable! Would you be open to doing a video about coping with breakups? I think it can be hard to keep healthy habits and have good self-talk after a breakup (and even sleeping and eating gets hard)--I'm speaking from experience right now unfortunately :( I just wanted to make that video suggestion as I think it would be totally helpful to myself and other viewers! Thanks for your videos!
@MikMilman5 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry you're going through that right now.
@PeaceboneGotFound5 жыл бұрын
@@MikMilman Thanks, Mik! I'm getting through it :)
@bimetsherojne2335 жыл бұрын
I am very interested to develop this skill, being curious and following up on people question without being lost in their sadness but understand and help. can you give me any more tips how to practically do that.
@DragnPiano3 жыл бұрын
What if you disagree with someone and the other person begins to raise their voice. How do you empathize that situation?
@nikoniko_ni44564 жыл бұрын
Even though I understand the emotions of other people, I don't how to express it. I can't simply comfort a person and try to make others understand also how I feel too. It's so frustrating that I can't simply connect to other people. I tried really but at the end I feel overwhelmed and I act socially ackward. It's just don't know what others expect me to do.
@DragnPiano3 жыл бұрын
Have you asked questions to the other person?
@vincenthimself29864 жыл бұрын
You said smiles is the lesser part of your work, why not study smiles and focus on that just as much as the other side?
@Nieenaah5 жыл бұрын
This is beautiful.
@bhanwarsinghshekhawat20062 жыл бұрын
I'm an INTJ , any injs ?
@christinadelacroix23703 жыл бұрын
reflecting back is not empathy...that is how to fake empathy !