How to do the 4 Box Method | Extreme Garage Declutter with Me!

[@kaylag9579]

Tell your husband thank your for decluttering on camera with us and that we totally understand him being shy but really am enjoying these videos.

[@ahoardersheart]

Awe, thank you so so much!!! That really means a lot of us 🦄💜🙏🏼🌟

[@nicolebochert4706]

Thank you very much for your work. I don't have hoarding disorder at all. I live more on the minimalist side. But what has kept me by your side for years is your ability to have grace for yourself, despite all your weaknesses and challenges. That is something that fascinates me and that I am learning from you bit by bit. Thank you very much for that! Best wishes for you. Now, from your nightmare, a dream come true, that you are living a life with purpose and what a testimony to our empowering God: that he can make something good out of everything that challenges and almost kills us in life. You are a blessing. Best wishes and never stop believing in our god an what he can do through you!

[@ahoardersheart]

Thank you so so much for your beautiful message and generosity ❤️🙏🏼❤️ Your message means everything to me and I am so grateful for you!!!

[@NatalliaRabitsa]

I'm so glad to support you a little on your path! I believe in your success with all my heart. Your videos really supported me in 2021 when I was going through a tough time. I return your kindness)

[@ahoardersheart]

Aweeeee!! Seriously you are the best and I so appreciate your generosity ❤️🙏🏼❤️ Thank you so much for letting me know your story too!! That is my life’s purpose, to help as many people as I can while I have breath in my body! I will always send you loving positive vibes on every step of your journey 🦄🌟💜🙏🏼🦄🌟💜🙏🏼

[@debratakagawa4764]

Your hubby and boys don’t have hoarding disorder but they did have to keep Mrs Heart from going into panic mode for many years. Your hubby just needed the signal that it was ok to clean up. Boy o boy he’s got the clean up going now.

[@ahoardersheart]

Yessssss!! You are absolutely right in every word you wrote!!! And now that they know mommy is happy & proud of them for cleaning & decluttering, they are ready to take it to the next level 🌟🌟🌟

[@drewconway7135]

I remember watching a talk show maybe 25 years ago or so where they had an organizer on and she was using the box method like you describe, but she also had a fifth one that she labeled “emotional withdrawal.” The idea was to work fairly quickly, and if there were things that were causing you to stop because of the emotion attached, you would place them carefully in that box so that you could continue working on the easier decisions and not lose your momentum. I always thought that was such a great idea, and I’ve used it a few times myself. 😊

[@ahoardersheart]

Oh wowwww, thank you for sharing that with us!!!! An emotional withdraw box!!! I subconsciously do that in every video!! Thank you for bringing this awareness, I will be using this in future videos!!

[@drewconway7135]

@@ahoardersheartAlways glad to help 👍😊👍

[@jackiew.9470]

I look forward to your videos each week. You are a positive and fun person. Thank you for letting us into your home. I wish you the best, Mrs. Heart!

[@ahoardersheart]

Thank you so so much for your generosity 🥹🙏🏼❤️😻 It truly means a lot to me and I am so grateful for you believing in me 🦄🌟💜🙏🏼

[@Stephanie_UM_Wife]

You’re doing a great job!

[@ahoardersheart]

Oh my goodness, thank you so so much 🦄🌟💜🙏🏼 I truly appreciate your generosity and helping me follow my life’s purpose of helping people heal and declutter!! Thank you so so much my friend 💕💕

[@leezasims9959]

Thank you for speaking kindly to yourself on your journey to declutter it has helped me speak kindly to myself on my decluttering journey ❤

[@ahoardersheart]

Awe, thank you so so much for your generosity 🥹🙏🏼❤️ It truly means a lot to me and I am so grateful for you!!!!

[@erinvosbury7993]

Thank you! I love your channel and you help so many people. Best wishes making this full time!

[@ahoardersheart]

Oh my goodness, I have tears in my eyes!! I am so grateful for your generosity and believing in my life’s purpose to help people!!! Thank you so much my friend 🦄🌟💜🙏🏼🦄🌟💜🙏🏼

[@goconnor0304]

Sometimes people forget that others work long hours. 'Hubby' does that as Mrs Heart has told us in various past videos. Also, if you can't get to the areas you want to clear out, it's hard to do. I think it is fab that he will have his garage in order very soon with all the progress that they are making. Well done! 👏👏👏

[@ahoardersheart]

Thank you so so much my friend 🦄💜🌟🙏🏼 Yes, hubby works longer hours and always driving one of the kids to their activities as I drive the other one! Now that we designated the time towards a video: it’ll be cleared out in no time!!!! 😻💜🌟🙏🏼

[@loveyakylagirl]

I've been following you for 3 years and I wanted to thank you for making me realize that I too have some amount of hoarding tendencies. It was hidden from me because I was forced to get rid of stuff regularly by having to move every year, but I would feel so much distress and regret over every decision. It really came to a head when I first moved in with my boyfriend and I just could not understand why I was so anxious and depressed all the time. Most of my items were in storage, as I had moved in with him, and we had disagreements about me putting my art up. As soon as we came to an agreement on what art I could put on the walls and I was able to have my own little space in the house that was full of my stuff, I felt so much better. It turns out that I view my items as my home because I've had to move so often and the items come with me when I move. Not being able to be surrounded by them made me feel unsafe. I only realized that after binge watching your channel when I first discovered it. I am happy to say that we moved earlier this year and I was able to get rid of tons of stuff because I've been watching your channel and able to identify the emotions I had attached to my items. I was able to identify the things I had no attachment and would therefore be able to get rid of easily. So, thank you!

[@ApDiEr]

Oh I relate to this very much. At some point I even thought I was unattached to items since I had to let them go so often. But those experiences in fact made me even more insecure and when I finally had a stable home, it hoarded up pretty quick. Especially since I've been so tight on resources and felt the need to hold onto everything that could have a use. Around four years ago I had to store piles of things on the floor, tables, all my cupboards and drawers were difficult to use bcause I had to dig through them, and I had bins in all my closets. That's when I realized. Good job on the progress!

[@ahoardersheart]

I just resonated with your message on every level: emotionally, mentally, spiritually…thank you so much for sharing your story with us ❤️🙏🏼❤️ You are doing absolutely amazing and you are an inspiration to me!!!!! Thank you my friend, thank you for keeping us motivated 🦄💜🌟🙏🏼

[@shemarlover23]

Wow thank you at 8:18 when you talked about " giving permission that mom is not going to be upset" that hit me hard, I have just moved far away from my parents and brought all my stuff up here. I cant just go into the other room and ask my mom if it's okay to give an item away and then wait for her to decide or she puts it into a box to "deal with later" ... im not going to have my garbage and donate boxes looked through and get in trouble. I am now at a place to shed the guilt and anxiety she instilled into me when it comes to my things. Thank you, I have been so stuck and overwhelmed with all my things that was brought to my new house. Thank you

[@eatme9970]

I was literally not allowed to get rid of anytbing as a child, unlike my brothers, and guilted for not liking or wanting things becuase of "how expensive" they were (I am not even a girl yet they would only ever buy me girl clothes amd things. Mynleast favorite colors were always pinl and red and my brothers would get the blue or green things while Ingotbstick with pink or red while my 2 favorite colors are green and blue.). Guess who has hoarding disorder.

[@ahoardersheart]

Your message is my why my friend ❤️🙏🏼 Why I decided to go on this journey publicly, in hopes of helping people heal in their hoarding or children of parents who hoarded. You are doing absolutely amazing in everything that you do!!! Please know that I am cheering on you in every endeavor you start!!!!!!

[@Lashlove16]

I can’t believe how much energy you have to continue your mission. It seems never ending but you are getting there day by day

[@ahoardersheart]

Thank you my love!!! I thank my ADHD for the extra energy 😅 Also all the loving support you all send me 💜🌟🙏🏼🦄

[@laurahicks8084]

You have a very nice conversational manner as the video goes on, and you explain your thinking. I enjoy watching your channel.

[@ahoardersheart]

Thank you so so much my friend!!! That means a lot to me 🦄💜🌟🙏🏼

[@flightlessphoenix77]

Wow it looks incredible! I guess because hubby loves you and didn't want to upset you by throwing things away he's gotten pretty clutter blind over the years and probably a lot of stuff doesn't bother him so he has made decluttering his things a low priority for a long time. You are both rocking it now though. Well done!!

[@karenstairs8273]

You and Hubby did a fantastic job!!! I love that you are mindful of recycling!! It was nice to see the Jeep full and that you made some money for all the hard work!

[@ahoardersheart]

Yessss!!! I always was an Eco-Hoarder so recycling is a huge component of myself letting things go in my house 🙏🏼💜♻️🌟🌎

[@vanessawhitneypro]

I appreciate you talking about the differences between your sorting styles… You’re not “the problem”… You’re just different in your sorting & tossing. Cheers to You & Yours! ☮️💟

[@bonessam9618]

Great job to your hubby, and you too, Melanie. I bet your husband is loving this clean up! He'll have his garage back in no time.

[@NourishmentRedacted]

Did anyone else audibly GASP at the AFTER shot??? I am so beyond proud of The Heart Family's growth!

[@ahoardersheart]

Oh my goodness, thank you so so much!!!! That means everything to me!!! Thank you so so much my friend 🦄💜🌟🙏🏼

[@decide2day815]

not taking the time to clean up your stuff is more than likely a case of being too busy or not making time to do it. NOT hoarding disorder. I agree with you. Wondering if you two want to clean out my garage next. 😂😂😂

[@ahoardersheart]

lol!!!! I mean, the next step for me is to start Decluttering other people’s spaces, I just need to figure out logistics!!!!

[@janeorr3074]

Good job getting some gas money for the scrap metal! very happy about the old hot water heater That basement is getting cleared out!!!! here comes that Craft corner!!!

[@ahoardersheart]

Yesssss!!!! I’m happy it opened up that spot in the basement too!! We’ll be back into there soon once the garage is decluttered!! 🦄💜🌟🙏🏼

[@remainingembers]

Wow, love seeing such a big change! Very satisfying to see so much cleared away. Happy for you, I'm sure that feels so easy to walk through now 💌

[@josephdaly2015]

Omg I can’t believe how much ye took out this week. Delighted ye made a bit of money with the metal 💵 Oh Miss Pepper did the right thing having a nap. Have a great week. Mary, Joes wife 🙇‍♀️🙇👏👏💪👍🙏💐🐈🦄

[@nikedoesthings]

Pepper is the cutest!

[@marystrenke3050]

😊😊😊I know! The opening shot was ADORABLE 🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@goldfishsnake]

do you have lightbulbs anywhere else in the house? maybe putting everything together in one larger bin would help vs multiple smaller ones. since you didn't know the baby wipe container had light bulbs in it, are you sure those are ones you need to keep? garage is looking so great!

[@katrinamuritala3207]

Please do attic next xx

[@queenmarynovelwriter5397]

You’re doing a good job.

[@CynthiaMiller-cc3qj]

You guys are doing a fabulous job with your garage. I think it’s important to show that this kind of huge job can’t be completed in one session. Two things make it less stressful 1. You’ve broken it down into doable chunks and 2. You are working together. God bless you both.❤️❤️🍁🍁🎃🎃

[@ikrobiee]

Wonderful job! I think your husband just needed the ok to declutter, knowing you were more emotional about it. Your overall lives are steadily improving!

[@jessicasturm5099]

You’re doing a great job and your videos help me to stay motivated on my own journey to a decluttered home! Greetings from Austria 🇦🇹😃

[@CB-jh1pt]

This series has been an “in” for me and my partner. I’ve been following you for 4 years (and have watched every video from the start). You’ve helped me so much to kerb my strong hoarding tendencies… but since moving in with my partner last Summer, I feel like he can’t tell! You have such a way of explaining things, and it’s helping us to communicate (and he requests to watch your videos, too!!). Can’t wait to let him know the next garage one is ready and waiting ❤ we have similar dynamics to you and hubby… all of our differences are our strengths in a team, and your fab family is a fab team 🎉 💪 congrats on your progress, Miss Heart. I can’t keep up with your unicorn powers and decluttering muscles, but you inspire me to keep at it. Loving the talk-through a of decision making in the recent vids, too, it’s helping loads ✨ 🦄 💕 [I haven’t commented in ages, but very excited to see this notification- we’ll watch this together over dinner!]

[@nerdyvinyl]

So fun and motivating to see you two tackle this together! "This baby is 30 now." 😆😆😆

[@paigecollier1062]

Wow! It’s really coming along! Great work, guys!

[@gohelio]

Great job!!! You're blessed with an amazing family & they're blessed to have you!

[@cack121]

I have felt the same way in the past in regards to your hubby being a hoarder. When I see him clean the garage, not so much. However, when I see all the things in the basement that he has saved from childhood, school etc, I lean toward the possibility of it for sure

[@MsArtistwannabe]

We have toxic round up here. You can drop paint off and they go through it and then it’s offered for free to others. Also, local paint store will take up to ten gallons for free. So very happy for you and your husband getting through this garage declutter. It’s going to be awesome to have it organized.

[@priscillalange1222]

Another fabulous decluttering of the garage. So proud of both of you for such a great job! Very soon it will all be beautifully organised ❤❤❤❤

[@julietsgems5616]

I needed you today! Cleaning my sons room that hasn't been touched in 3 months. We still have to sort toys but the room is clean and that feels good enough!

[@susanmunoz7688]

You’re doing a good job, God bless you and your family! 👍

[@shereemorgan1430]

I am hoping that you will be making longer videos now. Great video!

[@marinalodi6313]

Wow you r moving very fast in the garage!!! Also, helping someone declutter might be a good exercise for someone with hoarding disorder! You dont have to make any decisions, and, as long as the person is respectfull, you might pick up the flow and learn a thing or two in the process, just by helping out!

[@darleneh608]

I was proud to see you grab that shoebox sized clear box to store the lightbulbs. We did that, too. Also had a few sweater-box sized clear boxes that stored random things. One had all plumbing-related things (washers, aerators, plumbing tape, spare mechanical sets for the toilets, etc. Another had cables related to the TVs. Another had all the extra extension cords. They stacked easily on a shelf, and you could easily get to the stuff you needed.

[@thebeachyfarmhouse6410]

That was a huge tossy tossy pile and good for you that I got taken away right away too❤❤❤

[@sherrygantt2158]

Awesome teamwork!! Yall are doing a great job!!

[@mandasusan]

It is seriously looking amazing!!!

[@AriLo-d9g]

Wow. You both created such a huge transformation!! It’s awesome to see how well you two work together - divide and conquer! 🎉🎉

[@lfuentes4098]

My dad is like this. He saves everything because it could have a purpose. He is 86. So the mindset is different. I don’t get the saving garbage though. I think he thinks oh I’ll just leave it here and pick it up later. 😂 But then later comes and he’s overwhelmed by all the stuff and gives up before he starts.

[@JLJ2730]

My brother is half that age and he saves everything. I make fun of him for it, but we've actually saved a good bit of money raiding his barn for projects.

[@catharinabra]

The garage looks amazing! 🌟

[@stefs3460]

I personally never thought your husband had hoarding disorder even in old videos because you commented that he encouraged you to get rid of stuff and in the garage I didn't think so because you had said he is not emotional when he declutters and the tossy tossy piles are humongous! The garage had a lot of stuff sure but what that looks like to me anyway is someone who works full time and didn't get around to doing that project yet. I also think that is a very useful segment on your channel to have your husband's non hoarding decluttering journey too because it is going to be different from yours and may resonate with many of your viewers too.

[@ahoardersheart]

Thank you my friend for sharing this message with everyone!!! Your insight in right on point 🦄💜🌟🙏🏼

[@rebeccam1027]

When you’re finished, if you want, you can get gray concrete paint for the garage floor. Super easy and looks awesome.

[@bethstratton3391]

Mrs Heart you hand your husband did a fantastic job again today. You really made a significant difference. The impact was really noticeable. You can now walk easily in that garage space and now you can open up the garage doors knowing that the space inside is presentable.

[@tngirlz4622]

Bravo, Mr. and Ms. Heart!🥳👏👏👏🦄🐴

[@ladystrange7791]

You touched on an issue here (paint, metal) that's caused so much stumbling for me in trying to move forward....something I hope you can delve into even more. Something I'm wondering if others are struggling with extensively as well - disposing of items with specific restrictions...computers/electronics, batteries (ie fire/explosive risk), massive volumes of confidential/financial documents, etc. You're videos have & continue to be what's helped me the most (THANK YOU❤). It's taken me years to feel safe enough to place things in the toss pile... the anxiety of knowing they'd have to be disposed of in very specific ways has made me revert back so many times over the years. The information isn't readily available in our town & contacting people who should know unhelpful. It's clearly posted you can't just dispose of those items - but nothing on how you should. Is everyone else's house in this town jammed up w/ this stuff too because they don't know how to get rid of it either? It's beyond frustrating, defeating more how I'd describe it. 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

[@jeno264]

It is quite satisfying seeing all the progress! 💖💖

[@dailywithdils]

I don’t know how I missed this video?? But another amazing declutter took place here! Your partner has made a very large dent to the garage with yourself and the final product of this declutter is going to be sooooooo satisfying! Good luck xo

[@ritavasnanigurbani6063]

This episode was great🎉🎉 Really loved the result🎉🎉

[@liveforjoy22]

I hope you're able to make this your full time job - I love your content!! Especially these big clear-outs and how intentionally you find new homes for your items or ways to properly dispose of them.

[@labsareperfect]

Y’all are such a great team!! Great job!!

[@Constance-q2b]

Wonderful job folks. Thank your husband for working with you. Interesting style, I wish my husband would use it.❤❤❤

[@dlsetaro]

You’ve really picked up momentum in the last month! Great job! I’m so excited to see your progress as you work through everything.

[@yvonnehardy9336]

Wow, you have really made an impact. And it shows what can be done when you work together

[@jewelspencer577]

Im so amazed!! You guys are a dream team!

[@charishurt1768]

You two are fantastic team congratulations on your ckean up looks fantastic so proud if both of you ❤🦄💜

[@seedylee]

OMMMMMMMG ---- BLAST FROM THE PAST that ironing board! i had the same one as a kid!!!!

[@nc3145]

Another great job! 🎉

[@familycarr398]

I look forward to your videos. I am loving watching your garage transformation. Great work.

[@Anberel]

I have been watching your channel for years. I have thought all along that you modeling a different behavior would eventually spark a change in your spouse. I’m a minimalist but my husband has hoarding tendencies. Over the years he’s influenced me to keep more sentimental items and I’ve influenced him to but attach importance to an item because he has attached a memory to it, but it had nothing really to do with the event (a hotel ice bucket that was in a hotel he stayed in is not a souvenir).

[@patpalmer1337]

Your videos have been and are very important.

[@dlcarbonneau3750]

That was an amazing job ! Have you thought of giving it a quick coat of cement paint? We did that once and it was like brand new and even more motivating to keep it clean and tidy.

[@katiafield9604]

Together you are a great team! 🌟 Thank you for sharing your journey!

[@rebeckamattisson5083]

I'm so proud of you, Team ❤❤ So happy for you that you have some time to do the garage...and you finally got rid of the old water heater, yay! 😊😊 🎉🎉🎉 Have a great weekend!

[@tracygarrabrant1801]

You can put kitty litter in the paint cans to help dry up the paint.

[@comenerdwithme3346]

I just found you but I’m very proud of you for coming this far good job! ❤️

[@homeschoolteenswithjenny]

WOWSA!!!!!!!! Awesome job, you two! That was a lot of detailed stuff, and I LOVED that you showed us you guys throwing it away!

[@carolemyers7432]

I just think that was a ton of work you and hubby did! You must be exhausted!😊

[@doriann3826]

Awesome job you two!

[@silver_csmith]

☺️👏🏻some great progress!!

[@KimQ1425]

The garage will be looking amazing in no time! Also I hope your hubby kept the Miami Dolphins bins. 😂 I’m watching all the way from Miami Fl.

[@connieverbeck1110]

You two did great!! Feels wonderful, doesn’t it!!??

[@susanteague5775]

Your garage looks awesome 👏 I’m so proud of all the work you’ve put into your home. You’re an inspiration to me, thank you.

[@alisonsmith7162]

Great job Melanie and hubby!

[@jeannebowes2898]

Both of you are amazing!!!

[@rmf4]

Amazing progress!❤

[@amystewart9228]

I’m loving this video

[@rachellskerlec4713]

I am really enjoying these videos where you and hubby work together on cleaning out the garage. I hope you do other spaces together as well. I really would like to see him go through all the his boxes in the basement because I know you say he's not a hoarder but I don't know anyone who has kept as much stuff from their childhoods as you guys. And aren't there certain characteristics that tell you if you lean in that direction? Like having the garage at this level of clutter doesn't that border on hoarding? Or is it just like a pack rat syndrome or something? Sometimes people don't have trouble getting rid of things but they're not sure how to organize them or they are ADD/ADHD and don't have good systems where they put things back in place. No matter how you slice it, it is very encouraging to watch you guys work together on these spaces.

[@francinehogsett3065]

Great job…..you 2 are really making progress….love the garage declutter 😘❤️

[@susanrikimaru6630]

Oh how I love seeing you two tackle the garage!

[@nancycosgrove4005]

Great job! What a lot of hard work!💕

[@BeautifullScenery_2024]

I feel like im not alone since I watch your videos,miss...Thankyou so much now I can learn how to handle my hobbys🙈

[@carollane7938]

Great job! I was overwhelmed just watching you work. This video was so encouraging!

[@colettenewell4634]

That was a crazy huge pile. Really great job. So satisfying seeing your hubby get to it. I know a lot of the stuff is his so needs to be his decision. What a great benefit though when you have your items down to just the necessities and you can figure out how to organize so everything is easily accessible. Looking forward to your future content.

[@CharleneEvenson]

Thank you and your hubby for setting a good example with all your hard work.

[@IceCreamHoldingFee]

Wow! Good job! 💜

[@carolynb2457]

Wow looking great!

[@dawnscheidemandel6247]

Awesome 🎉

[@DistanceTraveled]

In addition to being busy, I could see by outward appearance that your hubby may look like a hoarder, but could also be ascribed yo his accommodating you for so many years. He didn't want to stress you out, and he let's you process your things in your time. ❤

[@downunderveggiegardendiaries]

The garage is his things.

[@life.with.mrs.a]

You're such a beautiful family! ❤

[@croccatcher]

Wonderful

[@DaijaGrinage]

Happy Friday Blessings to you this is Stacey from Virginia love your videos thank you for sharing 😁😁👍🏽👍🏽🤗🤗❤️❤️ have a wonderful and safe day 💖💖💝💕💕💝🍂🍂🍁🍁🏵️🏵️🌼🌼🩷🩷💛💛

[@KelleeYouPersonalOracle]

Wow guys, it’s amazing! Any chance someone can park in the garage soon!