If a Hoarder can have an Extreme Declutter | You Can Too!

[@tizianachiffi1204]

Miss Heart and Miss Pepper = the dream team! 👸🏼🐈🤩 The longer the video, the better! 🥳

[@vanessawhitneypro]

Agreed!

[@lakbaydiva]

I'd definitely take a longer video if possible. 💖 They help me get through the stressful week. It is something I look forward to.

[@alicialacroix]

Maybe continuing to include the bit at the end of your videos where you show actually getting rid of the tossy tossies will help you churn less? Either way, you're doing awesome and I love seeing your progress! ❤

[@annajosephinalucke8272]

I loved the videos where you put the things into the trash at the end of the video, you said it helped you too and it was so satisfying to watch haha 😅 Kind regards

[@rebeccan3288]

Yes, "don't put it down, put it away/out"

[@lakbaydiva]

Yes!! 💖

[@ros8986]

I think with creative supplies, there comes a point (of volume) that sometimes it ceases to be a resource, and becomes a burden.

[@lakbaydiva]

Very well said. 💖

[@ros8986]

@@lakbaydiva thank you. Fumio Sasaki (his book Goodbye Things is excellent) has concept called the "silent to-do list" which is that our things silently nag us about things that we haven't done.

[@thedustwhispered]

​@@ros8986 oh this is so true! it's why i stopped buying nice notebooks. nothing was ever important enough to write in them so i never did and they always just made me feel bad. same with excess art supplies.

[@ros8986]

@@thedustwhispered Your comment reminded me of Joseph Campbell's "You must give up the life you planned in order to have the life that is waiting for you.'

[@ApDiEr]

When I heard you tell how you assigned value to yourself through social status objects, I felt very impressed. This is not an easy thing to let go of. I took marketing classes in university, and that phenomenon is called "social value" and is deliberately used to bring people to buy items. It's one of the methods used to create a market. This culture is so omnipresent, that few people will have in their lifetime the ability to question it, let alone let go of it. I'm feeling very proud of how hard you've worked on yourself. And you deserve to be proud too.

[@JMA864]

This is such a good point. My status objects are different but the dynamic is the same.

[@ApDiEr]

@@JMA864 Oh, would you accept to tell me more? I'm always curious to learn about how people live these things from the inside. I myself have mostly been against the current during my formative years, as were my past and current friends, and thus I have often struggled to understand those who abode by the norms. Especially since I have been bullied by such people, and it was easier at the time with my limited knowledge to just lump up all of those who seemed similar and reject them, as a protection mechanism. Now in my mid-30s, with education, experience and therapy, I have more nuance and empathy for those who were on "that side" while growing up, and am eager to continue learning. There seems to be a distinct type of suffering that can arise when your reaction to adversity is to try harder to respond to society's expectations, rather than reject them.

[@JMA864]

@@ApDiEr Oh, too long a story to tell here but yes conforming when it’s not in your nature can be damaging too. In HS I was an outsider and part of a happy band of weirdos, until I decided to get in with the cooler kids, at least some of whom were headed to college, which is where I was definitely going. Mostly succeeded but *big mistake.* Many decades (and much therapy) later, I’m close to reclaiming my weirdness! 🤪

[@ApDiEr]

@@JMA864 Aw, thanks a lot for the response! I'm really glad you got the help you needed and that you're feeling more connected to yourself as a result. If there's one thing in life that's within our control, that's where it lies I'd say. You did your best when you were young, youth is real hard and we often simply did not have the tools to handle it. I'm glad that getting psychological care is becoming more normal. We deserve care and are allowed to seek it where it is available.

[@JMA864]

@@ApDiEr 💯 agree!

[@colemine7008]

Wow, you seemed the happiest I have ever seen you on a video. Well done today.

[@andrearobbins9450]

I was never into labels but i had a cousin who LIVED by labels! Looking back, she had terrible self esteem. Thanks for helping me understand! Give pepper a hug!

[@joyindrelie6715]

The way you talked through these things was really inspiring and helpful to watch!

I like when you go through the items and talk about each item 😊

[@JMA864]

Me too, it’s so helpful to hear the thought process behind specific things because usually some piece of it connects to a problem item I have.

[@Looming_ewe]

I've just started decluttering my space from type 2 hoard, and found your channel. It feels sooo encouraging to see someone's very similar journey! It fills me with so much positivity and excitement! 💖 I also hope that with the insight you share I'll eventually be able to help my family manage their hoarding clutter.

[@Isabel-gz6ki]

Omg a 101 dalmation item ánd babytoys?? That is an amazing milestone!! Regarding your flipflops, I feel you, I tried to keep a pair of italian booties alive for as many years as I could trying to revive them every year at the shoemakers.. but the holes came in... i wore them almost everyday for years. Miss them still dearly but at least its nice to know I got all the wears out of them I could. 🙃 It's so double but stuff is to be enjoyed!

[@Turtle4Cats]

You are making decisions amazingly fast and I'm so glad that you no longer feel the need to hold onto things for the status that you feel they convey onto you ❤

[@decide2day815]

You are now Ms Ruthless Heart! Love it! You are just flying through these decisions now. So happy to see how quickly you are making these decisions. ❤❤❤❤

[@SalsaNube]

Love the Ms Ruthless Heart! Suits well at this moment of the healing journey! And aounds fun:)

[@lakbaydiva]

I can't heart this enough! Ms Ruthless Heart made me smile. 😊😂💖 Awesome name for an awesome person.

[@alicialacroix]

My town's recycling center has a textile recycling bin. Any fabric can go in there as long as it's clean and dry - it can be ripped, stained, bleached, whatever. Maybe your town has that too!

[@grettamaeB]

oh my, the boxes.. sometimes I wonder if I actually have more boxes than stuff to put in them! little boxes, big boxes, decorative boxes, wooden boxes, tin boxes, recycled, reused, and upcycled! what is so enticing about an empty box!!?? 😅

[@rebeccam1027]

Yayyy!! It will be great to let all that go rather than shuffle it to a different part of the basement!!

[@MsArtistwannabe]

Excellent tossy, tossy pile. Well done.

[@228Lari]

Wow you literally let go of everything you handled today, not shuffling anything around. That great progress

[@amberwhit]

You could take the operation Christmas child stuff to a local church that does them! I know my community does this saves it to make extra boxes to send

[@ncshomevids]

Fabulous! In the last two weeks I have felt empowered by self-discipline! Yay! Rather than retail therapy, I started the no spend challenges again and felt an immediate difference! Yay! This is a long time coming! Now I can't wait to see the blessings pour in from healthy habits! I have hope! I also beat diabetes this week! Dr just wants to make sure I maintain it! Things are looking up despite other stressful areas of life! I, too, have recognized my own churning and letting things go. Yay us! ❤️🙏❤️🤣❤️🙏 Hope you find another favorite pair of shoes!

[@AmyWhoLovesFlowers]

What an epic clear-out! 💖 The tossy & after photos look amazing!!!✨ I love hearing your thought process, too! Way to go, Ms. Heart!!! Now YOU are a unicorn! 🦄💜🎉

[@christinequintana881]

At my church we collect for Operation Christmas Child all year long. The gals hit up the sales and bring to church as we go. We sort into bins by categories and age. These bins are stored in our parsonage garage on metal shelves. Then we have a church packing party in November. It's fun. We play Christmas music, wear our Christmas sweaters and when we are done we order pizza. We even bake some allergen free ones for our gluten-free, dairy-free folks. We are a regional drop-off so we don't have to take our boxes far. If anyone wants to pack a box ahead of time we store it too. No clutter at our own houses anymore! Alot of your extra school supplies and craft items could be donated or made into sewing kits and craft kits for the older kids' boxes for OCC. Just an idea. There may be a church in your area that would love to take them off your hands.

[@siljehh]

Wild! Well done!! So very proud of you and really enjoying this format when you are talking through your items again. Makes me really see how far you have come with your mindset shift! ❤️❤️❤️

[@cosmeohana2376]

I don't know I don't thinkanita juat rhe vacation but it really is like watching a totally different person! You are doing so wonderful!

[@lauriemyers3]

The BEST advice I ever heard about decluttering reminds me of the contents of the Coach box. Sometimes we just aren’t READY to part with things and that’s OK. Go ahead and box it up and keep, but revisit the contents every year or two. There WILL come a time when you ARE able to part with those things…it just might not be today. Perfect examples of this are my kids’ baby clothes, toys, things I was attached to as a mom. I make a point of dwindling my collection down and one day it will contain only what I love the most. Decluttering is extremely emotional to some and it has to be done gently and with compassion.

[@DistanceTraveled]

I love how you are combining the conversation of the meaning behind the items and keeping your discovery storytelling. You are such a happy, bubbly person and must just brighten a room. ♡

[@ellenstam-mulder3002]

you doing it so good. you can do this this year clear out the basement. go for it. big hug Ellen

[@eyrunsigrunardottir6977]

Congratulation on all this space you got just in one decluttering session! Pepper was clearly glad to get you home 💜

[@christinagodfrey7095]

I've recycled clothes in the past using the Trashie Take Back Bag and it was a very easy process!

[@aprillauman]

Retold Recycling is my go-to textile recycling!

[@thisisbethm]

I’m so grateful for your inspiration. Thank you for sharing and educating!

[@rmf4]

Amazing declutter session!❤❤❤

[@snorlaxjen]

I don't in any way want to encourage keeping a tossy tossy, but Pepper may like the bubble gun? My cats love bubbles! Great video, you're doing so well!

[@barbarap6851]

Your decision making has come so far! Great job!

[@Bekind0612]

Yard sales are a great idea!

[@raiMorrison]

I thought you had a box for all of the Operation Christmas Child gifts! Old clothes all go into the garbage bin sadly, but I cut up the cotton ones into rags and use them in the kitchen so they get a second life.

[@susanmunoz7688]

Wow! You did a great job!❤️👍❤️

[@tashainjena]

I laugh when you found that Operation Christmas Child stuff. I was cleaning my OCC stuff this morning. 11 Banker's Boxes right now. Stacked neatly in the corner of our living room.

[@JMA864]

I’d like to see things go into the trash at the end. Part of your service to us is that we get to practice and feel changes vicariously through your videos. I’d love to “practice” the last and hardest step along with you too!

[@michellerobillard4067]

Good job looking better each time keep it up and I'll see you and pepper in your next video ☺

[@thebeachyfarmhouse6410]

That was a huge tossy tossy pile. Good job. And pepper the inspector aproved it too!❤❤❤

[@hollyasmr2675]

I always do clothes recycling at H&M! 😊

[@rebeckamattisson5083]

Yay, you are doing great!!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤

[@rachelrobertson5689]

Excellent work once again!

[@carrie3206]

Wow! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼❤❤❤

[@traceybradshaw]

I have 2 spaces that I have been avoiding facing in our home and it has prevented us from finishing our renovations for over a year. I have also been busy in this time working long hours, but if I had put aside 15-30 mins a week, it would have been dealt with long ago. Unfortunately I’m struggling to see past the WHOLE space and divide it into sections. I do KNOW how to declutter and let go of stuff - I used to be super organized. After a number of life events that have heavily impacted my physical and mental health, I find it so much harder to face letting go of stuff, so I procrastinate. It all weighs heavily on my mind though.

[@lfuentes4098]

You might want to donate those Christmas toys to your kids grade school. They can use it in their rewards box for the littles.😊

[@Katy_living_simply]

Ms.Heart thats what i've been thinking over the years as you have decluttered more. That your style is so vibrant, colorful, bubbly, and unique... yet your home doesnt resemble that. ❤ And i dont mean it in any disrespectful way. We just get so caught up through the years and the different phases of life that our personality gets lost in all the shuffle in our home. I would love to see your home reflecting who you are today and who you have blossomed to be. You feel more confident and comfortable in your skin and it eould be a joy to see you transform your home into that new person❤. Much love!❤❤❤

[@danazzimmerman5534]

❤❤❤❤ You are just amazing!!

[@wendyinegbenedo1307]

Wow what a big tossy tossy pile!!❤❤❤❤❤

[@anarita6021]

Mrs Heart, so nice you had an havaianas flip flop, we love havaianas here and it was nice to see that you used yours until its broke. 🇧🇷 I love your videos ❤

[@Saforra99]

So impressive! You really did let go of a lot :D so inspiring!

[@dlsetaro]

Great job! That was a lot and you made really good decisions.

[@Siures]

H&M has a clothing recycling program. It’s not the most sustainable thing because clothes don’t get reused but for rags or unwearable stuff it’s better than nothing. I would put the operation Christmas child into a seasonal bin for autumn/ thanksgiving. Then you find it just the right time.

[@nancycosgrove4005]

You are so strong now!

[@annbeth6730]

I personally have started to put a lot of my decluttering in the rubbish bin. The charity shops are getting overwhelmed with poor Quality items. So unless it’s something that is reasonably still in fashion and wearable it’s in the bin Was talking to the guy at the charity shop today. He said if people drop off and say it’s good stuff it’s probably rubbish.If they don’t comment it’s usually decent quality.

[@robertwalton1054]

As a trash man here in the US, I love you!

[@rachellskerlec4713]

You did a really great job decluttering! I loved the look on pepper's face when you were talking about the big empty box. She had her eye on that the whole time! 😂. And the answer is yes you can recycle old textiles. By me there is a collection bin at our dump transfer station. I think they gather all of the textiles together and then donate them to third world countries.

[@jessicakullander8517]

Miss pepper is the best body double :) Lucky you!

[@susangriffin-byrne8393]

I love coming across an empty box when i"m decluttering! Score! Lol

[@justinewhite-hadley3138]

Oh shoot! If I was closer to you I'd buy the red chargers! Im in Northern cali. I actually don't know where you are....so cal? I had a stack of them and all but 1 broke in storage between our last 2 moves. 😢 I was super sad.

[@francinehogsett3065]

Been following you for a while and you are doing sooooo great 😘❤️

[@SynesthetiX]

If your recycling centers won't take the fabric, there's a company called Trashie that I've been advertised to - looks like you can ship old clothes, jewelry, shoes etc using their bags they send to you! Just a thought, sending all the good vibes!

[@ExploringWolf]

I'm always trying to sell or give it away for free rather than throwing it with the trash

[@connieverbeck1110]

Holy cow! You have truly come so far!! So proud of you!! 👏👏👏👏 Honest confession!! A while back I was getting frustrated with you. (My problem, not yours!!) But I realized you and I are very much alike!! I just wanted you to get it done. YEARS ago, I went through my whole house. My goal was to make to have so much stuff I had to move 10 things to get to the one I wanted. I accomplished it. So proud. I even conquered bringing new, so possession level remained constant. I have de littered here and there. As the mood struck. It should have struck more Fast forward to last September when I had my first bout of encephalitis!! What? At 73!! Bounced back greatly. Until January 12. It was BACK. Crud! During the first bout they discovered a mass in my cerebelum! Affected my speech and equilibrium. But again it all came back. It was decided to keep an eye on it as it was in such a touchy spot. I was fine with that. After all they were the best of the drs. Surgery was scheduled for July 11. A month prior the mri showed it the size of a small pee. Might of grown from the previous month, but it was decided it need to come out. July 11 finally arrived. They did a final mri the day of. It had grown to the size of a blueberry!! It was time for it to leave. Wasn’t invited in the first place. 6 hr surgery only took 3!! Came out cleanly. Tested out as slowest growing, non malignant tumor. No spinal involvement, as this mass liked to go down the spine. They will monitor for a couple years, it it is all good now. And I’m not anticipating anything different. Why Ami telling you this. Because I’ve been told in October sometime I will be fully recovered. I’m claiming it I will be able to drive again. Not reliant on others!! Yippee! But I’m really restricted on what I and what I can’t do!! Can’t bend over……..Ugh. All this to say of course NOW I WANT TO RECLAIM MY HOUSE. lol. We want what we can’t have! I’m convinced!! Have a feeling when I’m released I am going to the walls in my house. Do not want to leave a mess for my kids when I’m gone. Thx for listening. Have a great evening,

[@mandyburns-iy7lx]

So motivating.🥰

[@joyindrelie6715]

I think it's ok to put things in the trash like stained clothes when we have so many things to think about ❤

[@melanietrester]

Hello from Germany, hi Miss Heart and miouw. 🎉❤ Yah new Video. You Rock it 🎉❤

[@saltandpepper9389]

Miss Pepper is so proud of you and so are we ❤

[@dlcarbonneau3750]

My friend owns a marina and I learned that mechanics are happy to use up old clothes/rags in many ways.

[@SalsaNube]

Woohooo! Way to go! Impressive tossy tossy pile! And wow-adding to it The 101 Dalmatians, baby toys, the Havayans, some x-mas stuff and, most importantly "past-you" pretty and loves items - Another Huuugfe milestone your cone over! You rock'n'roll Ms. Heart! And as in one of the comments - you truly become Ms.Ruthless Heart in those times! In a good sense! Cheers to You and Miss Pepper🎉❤

[@kittyrascherranger6062]

Great job!!! I love ur videos. It empowers me letting me know it’s ok to get rid of things if I’m ready to.

[@vanessawhitneypro]

YAYYYYYYYY!!!

[@pyrobunnymaniac]

Idk about where you live, but I found my city has those drop off bins for donations of clothes as well as textile recycling. I put old socks and scraps of fabrics in there. For operation christmas, I would put an 'event' reminder on my Google calendar and a few days before on my physical planner. In the notes of the event I'd put reminders like 'check laundry room bottom shelf' and 'schedule next year's event' so you know where it's at & can forget until then. Then assess next year's system. May not apply now, but I try to do that more for seasonal or recurring things that I know I'll forget (like home maintenance & flushing the water heater). Hope this helps but love all the work you do!

[@ashcraft555]

You did awesome on this - these are things you haven't touched in a long time and you rightfully understood that they were mostly nothing that adds to your life. I'm so inspired by the percentage of these things you let go of!

[@nicolechew1029]

I love the videos where you talk through your decisions! I'm glad you had a great vacation! We leave for our beach vacay on Sunday and I can't wait!

[@hipheli]

Well done! ❤

[@Shiryone]

You go! I was wondering if you were collecting for another garage sale. So glad that you are.

[@summerbaby4600]

That’ll be awesome to have multiple yard sales👍

[@Franjcr]

Awesome job! Huge progress today, well done! Xxx

[@erinmaclean5064]

You can still take junky clothes to Goodwill. Items that don't sell in a certain time frame are cut up and sold in boxes for rags

[@amystewart9228]

Loved it

[@eileenlester4342]

Pepper 💜

[@elisamaurerbailey2787]

Holy moly you are going amazing!

[@sarahamill1793]

Ha! I have a (tiny) coach box in my basement too! I could never afford one but a friend gave me a wallet and I was so proud to have anything coach.😂

[@angiefisher2780]

You encourage me to continue to declutter. You are doing great!❤❤

[@louiseparis2023]

I love these new videos, Mélanie ! You seem so natural and relaxed there.

[@Stefunny82]

Excellent job to you and Pepper… I’m so proud of y’all! ❤

[@ShopaHAULica]

You were amazing in this video, great job❤❤ I don't know if they are still doing it but H&M has a cloth recycling program. Also for each bag of recycling you bring, they gave you a $5 credit which you can use when you spend over $30. Hope it helps:)

[@sharpiesarecool814]

your improvement is awesome

[@spiralali]

Clothes recycling: do you have "Threadcycle" through Goodwill on the East Coast? That's the free option. Ridwell is a company you pay for a monthly or biweekly pick up, and one of their recycling areas is clothing/fabric related items. (Again, this is a West Coast located company, not sure how far they've spread out yet) Keep on going!!! Woohoo!!! Every step forward is progress~ ❤🎉❤

[@debratakagawa4764]

That was a very large tossy tossy pile. I’m glad you’re not feeling guilty about that corner. It will be gone in a couple videos.

[@storyinternships9636]

Luv the tossy, tossy pile! :)

[@cack121]

The village outside our town has one of those big drop off bins that are usually for "clothing and shoes" however, it is designated for TEXTILES. They take all material...clothing, linens, towels etc that are ripped, stained etc and they recycle it. Maybe look and see if your town has something like that for clothing you are getting rid of that is not able to be donated or gifted

[@CynthiaMiller-cc3qj]

You are really getting after it now❣️You hardly kept anything at all, except for stuff to sell at the next yard sale!! Congratulations!

[@minimaladjacent]

for your childhood toys you could put them on a themed xmas tree so you could enjoy them instead of in a tote until you get a bookcase set up etc. not just a hoarder thing... adulting... "this is a good box, imma gonna keep it" lol. pens and markers when I go through them ... I check before tossing... donate if they are ok but unwanted...some schools take markers etc to recycle them.. I think its through crayola but they take any brand. xmas child bag I'd stick it by the door( maybe a note in the phone to where you put it) or on top of xmas stuff. if donating a food bank or maybe at school would appreciate a small donation. some thrift stores take ragged off clothing... I let them know when I drop them off. last time I did that value village took them. normally I shred them for cleaning rags when they are too far gone to wear if they are the right materials. If I get too many cleaning cloths I give them to family. looking great :)

[@KlingonPrincess]

That was AMAZING! You did so great, I really sensed a shift in your decision making. Go you!! 🌻🍄

[@TashLife870]

In Australia, if you take rough clothes to the charity bins, they use them to make bags of rags

[@tngirlz4622]

Wow, way to go Ms. Heart!🥳👏👏👏🦄

[@lindamusser7370]

Wow! Good job!

[@lindalundgren9781]

Great work! 😀 Sometimes you just need to let things go as you said. I did the same for my storage in the basement. Gave a lot a away and thew things away. It felt so good and now I can go in and find things ;)