How to Elicit Values & Map Meaning Using NLP | Neuro Linguistic Programming

[@abbyeagle1]

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[@obiwazz6929]

Nice work Abby. You have a nice clear style. Do you do any more work with the away-from values? I will look through your other videos.

[@abbyeagle1]

Thanks. Away-from values either motivate or demotivate depending upon the power that they have. Take a look at the following page on values and the video on binary decisions: Finding your values www.abbyeagle.com/articles/finding-your-values.php Binary decisions kzbin.info/www/bejne/jKDClINoYpaFers

[@neilkerr62]

I done process on my own and what a great insight guide it has given me ;so thank you !!!!!

[@abbyeagle1]

That makes me feel so good. I love eliciting values.

[@bellangi31]

So great. Demonstration was perfect Abby!🙏

[@abbyeagle1]

Thank you Issabele.

[@tsheikh60]

Very great explanation video on values hierarchy eve's after 6 yrs

[@abbyeagle1]

Thankyou.

[@tsheikh60]

@@abbyeagle1 sir thankyou Which book you recommend for reading NLP

[@abbyeagle1]

@@tsheikh60 Take at look at some of these books. www.abbyeagle.com/nlp/nlp-books.php

[@xroce]

Very well demonstrated. I greatly appreciate you for sharing.

[@abbyeagle1]

You are very welcome

[@MrMattias87]

Good demo and clear explanation

[@abbyeagle1]

Thanks - did you see the article on my website? www.abbyeagle.com/articles/finding-your-values.php

[@lyndatregoweth3036]

Very helpful. Thank you!

[@podcastsyoutube5524]

Thank you

[@abbyeagle1]

You are welcome.

[@randyclere2330]

This is really great. thanks for the post.

[@abbyeagle1]

+Randy Clere You are welcome.

[@gabrielsocial2708]

Thanks by this video. It helps me so much. Abby, I got a question, when I choose a high value for get its submodalities and make mapping across to include a lower value to top of my hierarchy how would I lead with aways from or towards values? For example if my top value is away from and I wanna upwards a towards value would I use that change of submodalities or I'll have problems?

[@abbyeagle1]

I don't quite understand what you are asking. Let's say we elicit your towards values and your away-from values. So then you have two lists. Looking at the list of towards values - if you want to shift a value up - say you want to move 'health' or 'money' higher up the list - then one way is to elicit the submodalities for the list and then shift the lower one into the smds of the higher one. If you want me to look at your values heirarchy then feel free to email it to [e-mail]

[@B90-k6e]

A simple submodality shift for a higher level concept such as a value or belief does not usually stick, you need to go to a higher logical level I.e. a meta level and assess it using a new state, read 'the users manual for the brain' by michael hall and bob bodenhamer for more info.

[@djkingotown]

OK so I've watched this video several times. What is the point of feeding back the values to the person? Are you just making sure that you got them right? Also I don't understand the importance of the 3rd step. You got him to explain his values but what do you do with that information? Are you trying to bring out information from his subconscious? You found out that some of his lower values are part of some of his higher values, like money and surfing can bring peace. Does that mean he was just rambling and trying to think of things to say in step 1? Also what happens next? Do you attempt to map out a life plan after gathering this information, or do you just choose to live day by day knowing what your values are?

[@abbyeagle1]

Hi Scott, I replied to you a month ago but for some reason my answer was deleted so i will try again. You feed back the values to the person so that they feel acknowledged. Once you name the value it gives it a frame and some sort of importance. But naming the video is not enough - you have to encourage the person to explicit the meaning. And for many people this will be the first time that they have done this - so it could be an eye opener for them. Values are arranged in cluster or subsets of other values - and some values will relate more to other values or act as drivers towards higher values. Sometimes people satisfy a lot of their lower values but not being conscious of their higher values they still feel a sense of fulfillment. You can use knowledge of your values to guide your goal setting. Also it is useful to know that every decision is guided by a value - and that at the end of the day if you do not feel fulfilled it is because you did not engage in an activity which fulfilled your higher values - so then make sure you do something that is important to you.

[@djkingotown]

@@abbyeagle1 thank you for responding to this!!

[@Basirat81]

Hi. I want to know once we have done all steps then what is next? How do we continue working with someone whose values we understand?

[@abbyeagle1]

Once you have practised eliciting values then you are ready to do it a coaching context. So if you are working with a couple - and that could be yourself and a love partner or business partner then you can formally or informally elicit values in the appropriate context. So with a lover or prospective marriage partner then you might want to elicit life values and relationship values. In a business relationship you might elicit business values. You do this so that you can gain a better understanding of each other. You will learn what motivates, demotivates and fulfills the other person. You will learn where you match and mismatch. You can learn what values are not being fulfilled and gain insights into what needs to be done to achieve a positive outcome. You will also begin to understand what drives people in terms of politics and religion. Having an understanding of another person's values gives you an insight into how to gain rapport with that person and have a meaningful and productive conversation. Does that make sense?

[@Basirat81]

Abby Eagle thank you so much

[@thelanguageofthebirds]

this was really good thanks

[@jamez2u]

So his first two values are happiness and peace, but aren't happiness and peace just what someone gets when their values have been met?

[@abbyeagle1]

+James Taylor Think in terms of frames of mind. A belief is a frame of mind, a decision is a frame of mind, a value is a frame of mind. Then look at the questions that you ask. The questions will frame the conversation and direct it towards an outcome. Do you value happiness? Is happiness valuable to you? If so, then happiness is a value. Do you believe that happiness is important? If so, then it is a belief. Think in terms of meta states and multi ordinality. States are also chained. Once you get one thing, state, outcome, value - then what do you get to have an experience? Have fun.

[@kerryking-businessadvisory952]

Nicely done Abby.

[@abbyeagle1]

Thanks Kerry, just a pity that the video is a bit out of focus. It was a new GH4 camera and has an electronic focus so if you switch off the camera and switch it back on you have to reset the focus. We live and we learn. LOL

[@trukeesey8715]

Phil has eaten too much fried food in the past week; or else fatty meat.