How to enter and exit conversations without being awkward

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Vinh Giang

Vinh Giang

Күн бұрын

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@askvinh
@askvinh Жыл бұрын
If you're new to my channel check out my FREE 3 part video series to kickstart your communication skills (link in my profile!)
@AxiomHandpans
@AxiomHandpans Жыл бұрын
I like a lot of the advice you give but I must disagree with telling white lies to leave a conversation.
@ClassicGameMusic
@ClassicGameMusic Жыл бұрын
These aren’t techniques anybody would ever use. Unless your are a guy who grew up with immigrant parents. You’re a phantom citizen of American reality. A sissy who is recommending utter nonsense.
@ClassicGameMusic
@ClassicGameMusic Жыл бұрын
Asians are friendly but not social. They don’t play sports but study too much until useless advice like this comes as a result. Their parents originate from oppressed countries.
@YaNeK92
@YaNeK92 Жыл бұрын
@@AxiomHandpans I know right, especially when you get called out by another Alpha in the group who's not afraid to speak up and you get put in the spotlight making the situation worse.
@DakotaActually
@DakotaActually Жыл бұрын
I use the "I'm sorry what you said was really interesting" bit at bars to talk to new people. It's hard not to overhear in social environments. So, it's a good ice breaker. and the exit..
@KoiAi_
@KoiAi_ Жыл бұрын
I'm an introvert and the drink method works 100% of the time.
@madhavdua1246
@madhavdua1246 Жыл бұрын
Same here man 😅🤣🤣
@KoiAi_
@KoiAi_ Жыл бұрын
@@madhavdua1246 we have all the tricks figured out 😂
@cla0095
@cla0095 Жыл бұрын
And you stay hydrated too 😂
@KoiAi_
@KoiAi_ Жыл бұрын
@@cla0095 exactly 💯💪😎 😂
@DeathStarPokeball
@DeathStarPokeball Жыл бұрын
it really works. everyone knows youre just giving them the bird but they accept it lol
@MrWithinsGift
@MrWithinsGift Жыл бұрын
This man is single-handedly reducing the global awkwardness percentage.
@saulverastegui9147
@saulverastegui9147 Жыл бұрын
nah now its just awkward people over laughing with objects in their hand
@StuartMawdsley
@StuartMawdsley Жыл бұрын
​@@saulverastegui9147 Thanks for the laugh, I'm out of water. Brb
@kreativekabir5419
@kreativekabir5419 4 ай бұрын
Haha. Good one.. He's indeed amazing. 😊
@emmanuelagaehi7831
@emmanuelagaehi7831 4 ай бұрын
You sure are fun mate.​@@saulverastegui9147
@Heavoc
@Heavoc 3 ай бұрын
hes teaching corporate cringe
@not._.unknown
@not._.unknown Жыл бұрын
Bros done a PhD in ghosting 💀
@Killakallie92
@Killakallie92 Жыл бұрын
😂😂
@washingtonmarinho5577
@washingtonmarinho5577 Жыл бұрын
L O L
@not._.unknown
@not._.unknown Жыл бұрын
@@eleegalz Oh My! Never expected this to blow up... Thankss!! (⁠θ⁠‿⁠θ⁠)
@ibrahimkuyumcu2649
@ibrahimkuyumcu2649 Жыл бұрын
@@not._.unknown #GHOSTIN #DemonsRow
@FranciscoJavier246
@FranciscoJavier246 Жыл бұрын
This day I was at a Party and got bored for some reason and just poofed... then I kind of became addicted to it. Got bored... poof, disapear. Awesome trick.
@michaelhenderson776
@michaelhenderson776 Жыл бұрын
I'm an extrovert who unfortunately can be quite awkward in certain situations, so this was super helpful
@laimaravillon895
@laimaravillon895 Жыл бұрын
I’m exactly Like Thiiiis!
@fridayghost13
@fridayghost13 Жыл бұрын
As a dehydrated, socially awkward person: this video is like an angel sent from heaven 😭❤️
@hittheclub50deep31
@hittheclub50deep31 Жыл бұрын
This would make you annoying
@OGTennyson
@OGTennyson Жыл бұрын
Fr. Imma have to start using this technique as well😭😂👍🏾
@TarinTasnimTonu
@TarinTasnimTonu Жыл бұрын
Me too 😂
@astloom8903
@astloom8903 Жыл бұрын
@@hittheclub50deep31lol I agree I don’t know if these introverts understand how a normal conversation goes. If someone talked to me like that with that tone and turn around and walk away lmao
@rileymorrisroe6743
@rileymorrisroe6743 Жыл бұрын
​@@astloom8903Hey...i took that personally.😂
@right.reason
@right.reason Жыл бұрын
My foolproof exit line is "I just remembered that my dog is on fire and I have to go." You can use it.
@DrokkBr000
@DrokkBr000 Жыл бұрын
You forgot to add "take a dump" to the end as a cherry in top lol
@RockSolitude
@RockSolitude Жыл бұрын
​@@DrokkBr000 better, really TMI it: "I have to do a POO"
@RCTricking
@RCTricking Жыл бұрын
“I need to return some video tapes”
@KatieM786
@KatieM786 Жыл бұрын
I actually laughed out loud with that one 🤣 Does it work substituting other animals or do you find "dog" to be most effective?
@keithg460
@keithg460 Жыл бұрын
​@@KatieM786 I just remembered that my penguin is on fire. And as you probably guessed, they don't do well in the heat.
@EllenPitts
@EllenPitts Жыл бұрын
Public speaking content is helpful but this is 100x more helpful!! I have less trouble speaking from a podium than making small talk with strangers. It’s so freaking hard!
@livc.6761
@livc.6761 Ай бұрын
I can relate so much with this 😭😂
@vicki11edbycuriousity
@vicki11edbycuriousity Ай бұрын
Not only is he teaching to interject politely but also making me drink water 😅
@Ryuuk00
@Ryuuk00 4 ай бұрын
Best channel I've subscribed too. He doesn't even talk down to you or at you when he's explaining stuff. This guy gets it for real.
@thecoderabbi
@thecoderabbi Жыл бұрын
The way Vinh says "I'm very good at this" before he begins explaining. So confident and calm in his mastery.
@embeee2011
@embeee2011 Жыл бұрын
If someone drinks a lot in front of me, I will know I’m boring. 😅
@jerkycam
@jerkycam Жыл бұрын
*Takes a sip
@bryanmavis8771
@bryanmavis8771 Жыл бұрын
You might not necessarily be boring though. I tend to take at least a sip of water even when the person/topic is interesting. I just want to do a "side action" while listening. For me it's taking sips 😅
@rishabsharma6631
@rishabsharma6631 Жыл бұрын
Takes a sip*
@h_kh2008
@h_kh2008 Жыл бұрын
Takes a sip*
@h_kh2008
@h_kh2008 Жыл бұрын
Im out of water (im not coming back)*
@zisanahmed8347
@zisanahmed8347 Жыл бұрын
And you necessarily don't have to come back 😂
@tobymacdonald5893
@tobymacdonald5893 Жыл бұрын
Copying what he said in the video and you still got it wrong. Nice job
@PattyFowl
@PattyFowl Жыл бұрын
@@tobymacdonald5893I didn’t think bots could get it wrong, might be a yt first
@janicedenisar3008
@janicedenisar3008 Жыл бұрын
@@tobymacdonald5893 Yeah, however most of us made the leap, & understood the subtlety😂
@racingpenguin1
@racingpenguin1 Жыл бұрын
@@tobymacdonald5893What did he even get wrong? He was just laughing as so the audience.
@RipsterSA
@RipsterSA Жыл бұрын
​@@racingpenguin1. Listen to the video again. Read the comment again. Notice the difference.
@StrangeMuzikFan
@StrangeMuzikFan Жыл бұрын
A good friend who eases that transition for you from being on the outside of the conversation to working you into it 😊.
@maicee7603
@maicee7603 Жыл бұрын
i feel like this is a cheat code
@OnepathGod
@OnepathGod Жыл бұрын
Was just about write this
@Subsistence69
@Subsistence69 Жыл бұрын
Welcome
@snelle_tomos
@snelle_tomos Жыл бұрын
Cheatcode to never getting a girlfriend. You come in super submissive and apologetic for no reason into a conversation. Looking like a fool and zero value rat.
@enriqueshockwave
@enriqueshockwave Жыл бұрын
Does this actually work for introverts? It works for this guy because hes oozing charisma. He pretends hes awkward when hes the exact opposite. Truth is any type of entrance would work for this dude. Someone with actual social awkwardness could not pull any of this off.
@snelle_tomos
@snelle_tomos Жыл бұрын
@@enriqueshockwave Introverts are not only awkward. I can not be with people all the time for longer than a week unless we are at least doing some work together.
@birdie5631
@birdie5631 Жыл бұрын
I'm an introvert, where have you been all my life? I needed this. I'm using this now. And also subscribed for life.
@Protectionandblessings
@Protectionandblessings Жыл бұрын
I do this!!! At work. I HAVE to greet people all day who don’t want to talk to me because I’m the “sales person” I just go heavy on the goofy and humble energy which thankfully I’ve been blessed with a lot of it. However, I’ve also have a lot of knowledge to balance everything. Always learning about everything I can that will possibly benefit myself and the people I meet then I research the conflicting information to know if any of the previous helpful information is flawed.
@inexorableentertainment4756
@inexorableentertainment4756 Жыл бұрын
I realized that every social encounter is completely different and having a premeditated conversation ready to go like the gentleman in the video can only get you so far. At parties, I usually tend to vibe by myself if I do not know everyone. I enjoy dancing by myself, but I’m open to people joining me. If people enjoy your vibe and energy, they’ll be attracted to it and will likely join. Social gatherings where no dancing is involved, I usually scope out the conversations. (Intently listening) It’s pretty easy to tell if it’s a conversation that will appease you or it’ll bore you. Choose wisely there because if it’s usually a conversation that appeases you, for the most part, you’re already on the same wavelength. Reading the room and energy is a big one! We live in a time where instant gratification is a big part of our lives, and we’ll completely bale out of conversations that aren’t exciting to us, but I try not to. Try to learn something new from a conversation that is completely alien to you. Be inquisitive and ask questions, Be genuinely curious and interested about learning new things and people for the most part will be open to teach you and explain things that they’re usually passionate about. It’s okay to say “could you explain that in baby terms” I learned a lot about stocks at a party one time 😂 I was genuinely interested. Some other person thought me about vectors since he was a physicist, and I was excited about the upcoming Oppenheimer movie 🍿 If you’re a guy trying to get laid, women pick up on that from a mile away and usually it’s a big turn off energy. I have learned this happens when you both hit lighting in a bottle, and these situations are mutual. My experiences aren’t textbook, but I hope you all found it interested nonetheless.
@sam_post
@sam_post 20 күн бұрын
Very helpful. Thanks ❤.
@azul1964
@azul1964 Жыл бұрын
As an introvert the barrier is to 1. Interrupt people when your voice is quiet 2. Being ignored because of your small presence 2. The thought of people raising eyebrows when you interrupt them
@kayv5840
@kayv5840 Жыл бұрын
Yess. Sometimes the person or people I’m talking to don’t hear me, and someone else does, and I get embarrassed because I don’t wanna look weird saying hi or bye 3 times lol.
@Ginder0815
@Ginder0815 Жыл бұрын
Wenn du ein Opfer bist, dann bist du ein Opfer! Akzeptiere deine Rolle und hör auf zu Flennen du Mädchen!
@alexasophieridderstrom2631
@alexasophieridderstrom2631 Жыл бұрын
It isn't you who is wrong. The event, the type of people (audience) and the place may be wrong for you. I do not longer try to force barriers. I pick events that interest me and I feel comfortable in being present and enjoying myself. In that way, people "see" me and speak to me easier, "invite" me into conversations (or not). Letting go of the need to pretent someone I am not, is liberating and I save a lot of energy. Being polite is key everywhere. But I don't have to change my personality type for that or to feel less worth. And other people being rude or insensitive does't mean that I'm the one that has to feel bad! If I am not welcome, I just walk away ("Excuse me!" - and don't wait for them to respond, just leave), because that group would not be good or interesting or developing in any way for me anyway. Discover your strenghts as an introvert and let that knowledge build your selfconfidence. And being "not loud", does'nt mean "shy"! It means being "reflecting" or "polite" or "tuning in" or many other good things, that are invisible yet important. Or it just means "I don't care, but I don't have to tell that everybody". 😂
@azul1964
@azul1964 Жыл бұрын
@@alexasophieridderstrom2631 you arent wrong. However, sometimes you need to become a different version of yourself to achieve something that otherwise you will never be able to achieve
@mathieuvernizeau9135
@mathieuvernizeau9135 Жыл бұрын
What is labelled as being introvert, really is being a shit scared life. I'm a life, you're a life, everybody is a life. The thing is when your mind works against you - trying to predict a future that hasn't even happened, or remembering a past that does not exist anymore - it doesn't allow yourself to live the situations as they are, or how they could potentially be. Instead you make yourself a concrete block, based on whatever your mind is scared of, trying to engage in a constant evolving life process. Trying to be in the moment isn't gonna help you either. Because life is not a successions of one moment then another one where you choose to be in one and forget to be in the next one. Life is an eternal moment. It is just evolving constantly. You being scared is just you not allowing youself to evolve with it. It's like this : You are in a boat that you cannot get out. You encounter a beautiful island and you choose to drop anchor so you can enjoy the view. But the island starts running away. Because actually the anchor is an illusion. You can never settle anywhere, its not that you shouldn't (as some pro mindsetters could present it) it just that it is impossible. The moment you try to drop anchor, tension happens. So don't try to keep it between your arms it's too much effort, you just have to come to the realisation that there is NO anchor. The moment you accept the impermanence of life and try to see it everywhere in every aspect of it, its true beauty will reveal itself to you The mind is like the sky, the thoughts are clouds. They are just passing by. You have to allow them to. If you let them grab you, suffering will happen but if you watch them, and accept them true freedom happens.
@brainactivity737
@brainactivity737 Жыл бұрын
I would rather just say I'm out of water without saying I'll be back if my intention wasn't to come back. I try avoiding giving people false hopes because some people are in such a bad condition that you might be the only hope they have so taking this away from them might hurt them badly. If you know you might not commit to something. It's better to say you're considering it or giving it some thought or maybe instead of lying. Treat people the way you want to be treated. 😊🤗
@ruhanrossouw9863
@ruhanrossouw9863 Жыл бұрын
Yeah, I also need a hug from time to time.
@Donnah1979
@Donnah1979 Жыл бұрын
Agreed
@samstromberg5593
@samstromberg5593 Жыл бұрын
And in that spirit I just walk away😂 I mean sure sometimes I’ll be holding an empty drink or something so they can see I’ll be back but for me, treating others the way I want to be treated involves not bothering the group with any sort of excuse for leaving and just walking away
@Garry2527
@Garry2527 Жыл бұрын
Very true
@plantsb4pants978
@plantsb4pants978 Жыл бұрын
Thank you!!! I used to have a friend that would end every phone call with something about calling me back later. But she never would. Mind you, she was the one who called me. Its not like i was just a clingy friend. But i just finally picked up on the fact that she would always say that. “Let me call you back” doesnt always mean that with some people apparently. Literally just say “okay mice talking, gotta go”. Like don’t make it extra complicated and confusing for people who don’t understand these unwritten social codes.
@shellnut
@shellnut Жыл бұрын
what he said about halfway through is 100% true. most of the people you'll see on any given day you probably won't ever interact with again so you can just try something like this and not really have to worry about lasting impact
@hazan0608
@hazan0608 Жыл бұрын
The multi person convo where ur standing there and just watching two people talk kills me - this is great lol
@bravingbrivatebrian
@bravingbrivatebrian 21 күн бұрын
This kind of stuff requires a level of self awareness that many people simply do not have I do believe it can be cultivated, but it takes a lot of mistakes
@sam_post
@sam_post 20 күн бұрын
Proper preparation and practice prevents poor performance 😊
@zupergurkan
@zupergurkan Жыл бұрын
"I've got a weak bladder" no, I think you just chug your water bottles too often
@mytzelk
@mytzelk Жыл бұрын
im pretty sure the ''ive got a weak bladder'' was just another example of the types of excuses you could use lol.
@StefanCreates
@StefanCreates 29 күн бұрын
@@mytzelk yeah no I think OP got that
@marquesmarques8611
@marquesmarques8611 4 күн бұрын
Interesting stuff, not many speak to this depth on communication skills. Definitely subbing .
@gm6856
@gm6856 Жыл бұрын
I used to think this guy was bs. But having done d2d sales all of his tips are extremely effective
@Emmanuel-sg2cv
@Emmanuel-sg2cv 5 ай бұрын
Has anyone ever told you how much of a genius you are 😂😂😂😂😂
@regah
@regah Ай бұрын
Vinh has truly captured a lot of knowledge within these shorts. Make sure to write some of the points down that you wanna get better at instead of just scrolling along.
@DavoKC
@DavoKC Ай бұрын
To exit a conversation, I look away at a random person in the distance, smile, cool guy head nod, a slight wave goodbye to my current group, and then walk away with a slight run, to give the impression I’m trying to catch up with someone. LOL. Works great… and I get to run away.
@xelnjare3945
@xelnjare3945 19 күн бұрын
Brilliant. Vinh, you may never read this, but I just wanted you to know I'm passing down knowledge I've learned from you to my son (he's only 14) - you're helping so many people, just wanted you to know :)
@mathieuvernizeau9135
@mathieuvernizeau9135 Жыл бұрын
We really do take things by the wrong end. This guy even has made it his job, it's mindblowing. Why not just accept the situation no matter how it is ? Or just accept the fact that you want to hear a conversation, or leave a conversation ? Don't try to justify everything in your life because anyway you don't really know all the forces engaged when you take a decision. There is always an emotionnal part of life. And emotions don't need to be explained or justified. They need to be lived and feeled, that's how they resolve themselves. Just be entirely yourself, not only the parts you like or you think people will like. Of course it doesn't mean you have a right to make other people accept your emotions. They can accept them or reject them. And they will. Not everybody is presently capable to deal with anything. Just live life people
@M555-d8l
@M555-d8l 9 ай бұрын
Man i love watching this guy, always can learn something, and its always presented in very interesting way !
@Twisted676Faith
@Twisted676Faith Жыл бұрын
I suspect I'm ASD or something, and I love these videos. Interaction with people is awful and awkward for me. Vinh is a genius
@colegreene2153
@colegreene2153 Жыл бұрын
Having a drink in hand helps a TON. It’s not even because it’s alcohol (although most of the time it is) just having a place for your hands and something to do (taking a sip). Conversation gets quite, take a sip and there’s no expectation for you to be the one talking… because you’re taking a drink
@narasimhaniyer6990
@narasimhaniyer6990 Жыл бұрын
Every clip of yours is a hidden gem.Iam in love with your channel ❤
@HelicopterShark
@HelicopterShark Жыл бұрын
All those people that enjoyed the random conversations they had with you and disappointed they never saw you again, are now devastated.
@filex95
@filex95 Жыл бұрын
How ablut just being straight and honest with each other? I have seen people do the "toilet" trick and I have seen others just say "Alright, I'm gonna walk around a bit, see you!" The first ones I despise, the latter ones I respect. You decide, who you want to be.
@berhcio
@berhcio Жыл бұрын
exactly
@laimaravillon895
@laimaravillon895 Жыл бұрын
Well it depends. On some social situations (say: university blokes) will not treat you minimal-requirement-well the next time if you just say sincerely that you leave, Specially in a country like Colombia where manners have to be sweet and like: oblique. You cannot say you don’t care. Bc instead of being seen as some sincere person, and being admired for that, You will be seen as someone who harbors some secret hate or hatred (example: to your studies’ companions: classmates etc.) and thuuus will be super rejected and your action of “leaving sincerely” will be amplified as being unsincere for something else (of being the cover for something bigger.)
@IncogNito-vz9tm
@IncogNito-vz9tm Ай бұрын
Despise someone just for a “toilet trick”? So ruthless 😂
@LilyGrace95
@LilyGrace95 Жыл бұрын
I HATE networking (social anxiety yaaaaaay) but I'm an actor, so unfortunately it's a big part of it. THANK YOU FOR THIS.
@sam_post
@sam_post 20 күн бұрын
Me too. ❤ Clonazepam and Venlafaxine work for me. I feel as if I'm being terrorized without my medications.
@SiwonCiel_PrinceNightlife
@SiwonCiel_PrinceNightlife 25 күн бұрын
Next please: How to end phone calls effectively?
@themilkybarkid8092
@themilkybarkid8092 Жыл бұрын
Like this bloke won’t be awkward 😂
@thetaylorholt
@thetaylorholt Жыл бұрын
Here’s a good exit. Walk away. Here’s another on, “bye everybody.” Here’s another one, “thank you.” Here’s another one “I love you.” Here’s another one, when someone else walks away, also walk away.
@kaltro_15567
@kaltro_15567 4 ай бұрын
Imagine seeing some random strangers sitting 15 ft far from you, and you suddenly barge into them and start talking what they were talking
@TheSMILINGJOE
@TheSMILINGJOE 4 ай бұрын
Changing one's personality is not as easy as it looks. But it is useful to have these tricks up your sleeve.
@margarethokoli389
@margarethokoli389 Жыл бұрын
In Germany, we say "So!" and without finishing the sentence, slap our laps, get up and awkwardly just go away 😂
@cathylehman7538
@cathylehman7538 Ай бұрын
When I returned from Germany and Austria in the 80’s, I drove my friends crazy with “So!”
@ms-jw3oy
@ms-jw3oy Жыл бұрын
That entering a conversation awkward energy is 100% how the British built an empire. But we did it to entire countries and never left when their faces looked like we weren’t welcome.
@zbruh7268
@zbruh7268 Жыл бұрын
I took 1 semester of psychology and this is all i pearned. Social cues and how to speak to people. Pretty much the only thing i learned in there
@gnamp
@gnamp Жыл бұрын
Phonies are conspicuous, memorable and an object of great scorn.
@giovannidigitalart
@giovannidigitalart 9 ай бұрын
It sometimes helps another person that's already in the conversation that wants to pivot
@heartguidance
@heartguidance Жыл бұрын
If this guy is teaching social dynamics and have a following, anything is possible
@neelanshukumar4308
@neelanshukumar4308 Жыл бұрын
What do you mean?
@lewisalexander6120
@lewisalexander6120 Жыл бұрын
@@neelanshukumar4308he got massive beta energy . Also , his example of “ humorous “ energy showed how insecure he actually is , not confident .
@Nenfish
@Nenfish Жыл бұрын
I like what you say til I heard you say sorry. I know it’s just a thing people say for no reason.
@jackycrazy8316
@jackycrazy8316 Жыл бұрын
Be right back .....my go to phrase ......always works and people arent angry or pissed at you
@mahnoortahir2896
@mahnoortahir2896 3 ай бұрын
Drinking water is such a cool trick. I love it. ❤
@outlandish8
@outlandish8 8 күн бұрын
THIS MAN IS A GENIUS
@graceledleaders
@graceledleaders 28 күн бұрын
Loved it - wouldn’t say be right back if that is not true - but respect your work
@Space_Writer
@Space_Writer Жыл бұрын
very helpful tactic. I look forward to trying this. I never know how to join a conversation, and gettinging out of f the conversation is equally hard.
@AK_-xn1fm
@AK_-xn1fm 4 ай бұрын
Wow I never realized that I did this just out of habit. Frankly it’s been nice for avoiding many sensitive topics in case I ran into a conversation of one
@homebusinessdad
@homebusinessdad Жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂 I've done the water one, not knowing this was a tactic....😅😅 like the other tips as well!! 🎉🎉
@TheHarumaki
@TheHarumaki Жыл бұрын
“Oh I ran out of milk let me go buy some” -Never comes back-
@cchico41
@cchico41 Ай бұрын
i’m new to this channel but love it already
@whereeveritgoes
@whereeveritgoes Жыл бұрын
The thing is, extroverts or people like this guy who know how to 'engineer' social situations seem to don't know that... introverts know what you're doing. We're good at spotting actually genuine approach or talk. That's why I'm a boring introvert. I just don't get along with fake stuff.
@gotsauss
@gotsauss Ай бұрын
Bro. You are hilarious/awesome/inspiring and a really good dude. Well done sir
@Lexx0787
@Lexx0787 Жыл бұрын
Nowadays anything can become skill and there is lesson for all kinds of unnecessary things Be yourself and learn yourself, that’s the only advice you need
@nck4888
@nck4888 2 күн бұрын
The feeling of "awkwardness" comes from the insecurities of the individual person, their desire to be liked by by others.
@JohnWaxed
@JohnWaxed Жыл бұрын
These type of people are so obvious in real life. You can tell they are trying their hardest to be likable. People, don’t fall for this, you’ll come off like you have a lil bit of the ‘tism
@JohnWaxed
@JohnWaxed Жыл бұрын
That and haircuts like that 😂 what in the anime
@BeingForeverBroken
@BeingForeverBroken Жыл бұрын
I find these natural enough and do them myself sometimes the only drawback is as others have said, is that in his examples you're lying and you might be taking on a character. If this is your entry way into socializing then great since it gets you going in the right direction. But in my opinion isn't the final level. Even though it's uncomfortable and you'll be scared, like all great new learning experiences tend to feel, practicing being honest without being a dick is preferable. There's no mental gymnastics or wondering why you said what you said. Also there's so many cultures, customs, upbringings, stages of learning/understanding, temporary life situations with elevated emotions/feelings (or complete lack of), that you don't really know what you're going to meet.. sometimes you don't know that you're giving it off. I think it gets unnecessarily convoluted, frustrating, and often times leads to mistranslations(misunderstandings) when people say things just to "be nice" or you have to translate meaning based on your understanding and not the other person's own words. I don't consider myself shy, I do what must be done to achieve what I need to achieve, and when I encounter uncomfortable territory I think "this means I'm in the right place". My mom told me as a child "you are who you want to be", meaning you don't have to believe any intrinsic things about yourself, you don't have to give in or run away from being uncomfortable, you actively make the choices that lead to what you want.
@jadechante
@jadechante Жыл бұрын
love this and his energy 😂
@MarketResearchReading114
@MarketResearchReading114 Жыл бұрын
Maybe my favorite technique I've seen on here.
@maruscaman
@maruscaman Жыл бұрын
In some countries when the convo is dull, they just walk away without saying a word and I love it
@chadguru9565
@chadguru9565 Жыл бұрын
He's teaching the ditching techniques that us introverts have been doing for years
@MissRuthina
@MissRuthina Жыл бұрын
I absolutely do this! Both things. But the toilet thing is just so legit! VERY natural.
@crystalcove99
@crystalcove99 Жыл бұрын
My dad: "I'm all out of milk, be right back!" but he didn't necessarily come back.
@lego_machene3700
@lego_machene3700 Жыл бұрын
"I have to return some videotapes" works everytime
@MsDrientje
@MsDrientje Жыл бұрын
Adhd autie here who never learned social interactions as a child because crying in a corner only teaches you kids are cruel. Never learned how to not be awkward but you taught me in this 1 video, why in a whole lifetime of sadness and rejection, no one taught me these things. Because most adults also don't know. Everyone is just bumbling around and the fact that you can make a video about this shows, we all don't know unless we study humans.
@OwnedRules
@OwnedRules Ай бұрын
i liked this kind of short informative videos... easy to digest, I'm a g11 student now, and I'm listening to this kind of videos because I'm gonna do a speech!!! in my class, it's about my experiences during covid 19, good luck to me, and Thank you vinh your contents helps me pinpoint the things i need to improve in my self...😇
@GrantsUsername
@GrantsUsername Жыл бұрын
I've never had an original thought - I literally do the drink trick for when there is an awkward silence in any conversation.
@Iceman2005-c2x
@Iceman2005-c2x 26 күн бұрын
People like me would be standing there awkwardly, waiting for people like you to come back 😅 Only say what you truly mean and treat others the way you want to be treated, honor your word
@philbofettiArchive
@philbofettiArchive 2 ай бұрын
I naturally came across this exiting technique
@BeforetheStorm.
@BeforetheStorm. Жыл бұрын
That water one is good. Will definitely use.
@Ribcut
@Ribcut Жыл бұрын
Meanwhile people like me who don't care what people think, just say what was on their mind without rehearsing it. I've noticed people tend to respect that more.
@RicasHomeySpace
@RicasHomeySpace Ай бұрын
"Hi, nice to see you again. Unfortunately, my bladder is about to explode. I'll be back in the room" *true story and an accidental "social skills unlocked"
@AFOLABITIMI
@AFOLABITIMI Жыл бұрын
You are very animated. Love it!!!
@nwaoparathankgod779
@nwaoparathankgod779 Жыл бұрын
You could enter the conversation and become the life of the conversation. You can't leave when the conversation gets boring because you're the pillar of the conversation. Leaving would break the bond immediately Seed dispersal!!
@kinamod2k
@kinamod2k Жыл бұрын
The water thing, pure gold.
@KieranLeCam
@KieranLeCam Жыл бұрын
... or you just express yourself respectfully. Many people are simply overly sensitive to strangers by default, as an emotional reaction. But there is nothing wrong with wishing to respectfully integrate into any scenario as long as you're socially aware you may be intruding. You don't need a trick, or to seem like you're someone you're not. Just genuinely care about everyone involved and their opinion and you'll probably be okay in most scenarios. Why be fake?
@Jock-pl8ey
@Jock-pl8ey Жыл бұрын
Interesting. Regarding the water bottle point though, it's been shown that people who hold things in front of their chest come across as less confident (probably like holding a shield in front of your chest to prevent attack). It may be a great excuse to bail from a conversation but subconsciously will make them see you as less charismatic.
@thelastofitskind3034
@thelastofitskind3034 Ай бұрын
What's crazy about this is it's teaching. You have to learn to speak and be a certain way for people to like you which it means you have to learn to be fake eventually because you can't always be happy neither you can always be sad does that mean you always got to fake it in every situation it just doesn't make sense why can't we just be ourselves
@knight_Blazer
@knight_Blazer Жыл бұрын
Bro has a very unique skills😂👌
@assiaebrahim
@assiaebrahim Жыл бұрын
1. What about people who actually wait for you to come back and hold you to it, then you have to have a whole conversation 2. What about social media conversations and email conversations that are little more casual
@miltoska9708
@miltoska9708 Жыл бұрын
This guy has some overconfident guru energy. The advice isn't even useful, even harmful. But the confidence someone can get from feeling like they know what they are doing is.
@Shabbi2
@Shabbi2 Жыл бұрын
Also, a great tip for any one trying to leave a conversation where you have your phone available; have a fake phone call app downloaded and have it “call” you (not instantly of course). Works flawlessly every time.
@user-sl309jd90
@user-sl309jd90 2 ай бұрын
As someone who was born and raised in Asia with zero events like this, just seeing this already makes me so anxious and stressed 😂
@Frank-ih9ew
@Frank-ih9ew Жыл бұрын
I've always been very fortunate and have never had a problem with conversing... I'm just a people person, I could talk to anyone anywhere about anything. However I can NOT do public speaking 🤷🏻‍♂️ Pros come with cons I guess
@danieljacobs5810
@danieljacobs5810 Жыл бұрын
Also if u ever are at a gathering and don’t know about giving hugs or handshakes etc… hold a cup in each hand and the issue disappears😃
@MSair-rd3hg
@MSair-rd3hg Жыл бұрын
Thanks for the tip , i am going to a family gathering tomorrow and i might need the exit part .
@alexanderm2220
@alexanderm2220 Жыл бұрын
This is British energy by default since they've actually learnt this through pain
@michaelgauntner2083
@michaelgauntner2083 Жыл бұрын
I’ve a question. How would you go about leaving a conversation with say a person you know, but don’t necessarily talk to a lot?
@RyRy2057
@RyRy2057 Жыл бұрын
idk your situation but if you're cool with them you can just be normal and say "it's great to see you but I gotta go, hit me up sometime" or something like that
@samstromberg5593
@samstromberg5593 Жыл бұрын
It really depends on how much you care about them Me, I talk to the people I care about a lot so anyone who falls in your specified category, I’m okay just walking away. With no explanation If that doesn’t feel right for you, I would say “good to see you but gotta go” and then just walk away If you don’t see them that often, by the time you see them next they’ll have forgotten all about it, and even if they don’t, doesn’t matter cause there’s nothing wrong with what you did it just feels a little weird
@mytzelk
@mytzelk Жыл бұрын
@@samstromberg5593 yep. even if ur weird, people will just assume they dont know about something and that you had a reason to be weird (like some appointment you were gonna miss or something).
@tabularasa3269
@tabularasa3269 Жыл бұрын
Say "I'm sick of your lies...." And walk off.
@mon699
@mon699 Жыл бұрын
The entrance so was smooth love it
@RedGamingChair
@RedGamingChair Жыл бұрын
I’m going to start holding a water bottle everywhere I go.
@TarinTasnimTonu
@TarinTasnimTonu Жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@kelpklepto
@kelpklepto Жыл бұрын
stay hydrated, friend
@fabio.1
@fabio.1 Жыл бұрын
not always have to come back... and there are people still waiting for him to come back
@fabio.1
@fabio.1 Ай бұрын
Still hanging there waiting for him to come back
@Wadeaminutemate
@Wadeaminutemate Жыл бұрын
*downs a full pint* "aw damn I'm out... Better.. get another"👀🏃‍♂️ 😂😂
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