How To Feel Attractive And Worthy No Matter What

[@Sirelles]

I'm a 19 years old girl and I'm obsessed with your videos. I watch these almost every day before i go to work - it just makes me feel good and i always end up having a great day.I don't have problems with confidence when it comes to my looks, but I have a hard time accepting some of the mistakes and things I've done, and that's what I struggle with... So this video made me think about maybe being good enough EVEN with the mistakes I've done and how I've behaved. Thank you.

[@jakatak1134]

+Sirelles Aziz seriously brings a great message, I wish more people knew about him -- When I obsess over my mistakes, I try to remember two things. The first is that life is not supposed to be a perfectly straight linear progression upward towards your goals. Instead, it's going to be a line that shoots up and then dips down a bit, and then shoots up again and dips down a bit again. We're only human, and that means that while pursuing our goals, we're always going to eventually become unmotivated, unfocused, become burned out/tired, and mistakes will inevitably come out of that. But after giving ourselves the rest and time that we need, the season of focus and motivation will always eventually return if we're open to it. And the second thing I remember is to look at mistakes they way athletes look at mistakes. When I fuck up (and I've had a few big ol' fuck ups in my life), instead of letting myself get stuck thinking about it, I simply think to myself, "Next Play" and then continue doing whatever I'm trying to do. Athletes are trained not to focus on their mistakes because doing so brings you away from the moment and dampens your confidence, sabotaging you. Instead, it's better to recognize that mistakes happen to everyone; it is all a part of progress. And that as long as you don't give up, success will not be a matter of hope, but only a matter of time. Much Love on your Journey!

[@GetMoreConfidence]

That's awesome Sirelles! Yes to loving yourself even when you make mistakes : )

[@GetMoreConfidence]

Damn right more people should know about me : ) Doesn't the world know who I AM??? I'm a big deal : )

[@Chris-qc9dj]

I'd be happy and have no fear. I'd relax and smile more. I wouldn't stress so much and worry about making a mistake.

[@GetMoreConfidence]

Nice.

[@irinigeorg2148]

[@jakebush7613]

Thanks. I just got divorced recently and I was struggling to find opportunities to date high quality women. I started practicing smiling 20 minutes a day recently and it really was the last missing piece to improve my confidence, mood, and playfulness. That night I met a beautiful and successful woman and asked her on a date and she said yes. Healthy eye contact and smiling were crucial to creating a connection sufficient enough to ask her out.

[@jenniferjoy6179]

Thank you. I realize after a lifetime of intense therapy and program that I attracted the wrong men. People always ask me why I'm not married at 42 and give me the impression that something is wrong with me. I never lied or cheated on anyone. I sincerely made bad choices. I realize now that the more confident I become and love myself that it really doesn't matter anymore. Thank you for sharing your insight and wisdom. It begins inside. So when someone says your so kind, beautiful or talented and grin at me or question me I have no problem saying I don't feel comfortable discussing this. I am happy with the way things are or it's not your business. I don't have to explain myself anymore. I like your point that we are already enough.

[@killogic9106]

you are one of the first to actually put quality content out.

[@fevernova2392]

agreed

[@GetMoreConfidence]

Thanks for the feedback guys. I'm glad you are benefiting from this. Much love!

[@loveforeignaccents]

So glad I found your channel tonight!! Thanks for sharing all of your wonderful insight and advice!!

[@annavillalpando4872]

Thank you so much for your videos. You’re awesome!

[@GetMoreConfidence]

Thank you for watching!

[@approachcoachrich3447]

Great topic and great explanation. " If That! " This is gold, definitely "Subscribing" and sharing this! Q. What if you were already enough? Brilliant.

[@007sudhirking]

Thank you, AZIZ 46. I should've had this encouragement a decade ago. However, itz not too late to start a new life. God Bless U :)

[@blackham7]

I am already good enough thanks! Need to tell myself this, I have friends who love me for me.

[@rhonda8566]

Thank you. This is extraordinary.

[@malemaline]

I used to think I was enough but then my mom started to abuse me n put me down comstantly. It really tore me down.

[@GetMoreConfidence]

What is up with parents anyway?! You CAN get past it and live an authentic and joyful life my friend!

[@phillyfan-182]

I'd be calm relaxed won't try too hard things would just flow easily and effortlessly. I'd accomplish more and get things done efficiently

[@bernie6355]

What about freezing up and have a hard time talking? I do try with what you are telling us but even my friends tell me that I am hard to talk to so I have kind of decided to avoid people if I make people uncomfortable. I do try but I have always been naturally quiet and this compounds the problem and yes I do not feel that I am not good enough.

[@breakthroughmoment1647]

+Bernie Smatavicius There's nothing wrong with being introverted. You need to start embracing it. It's a quality, not a defect.

[@silentobserver9418]

you just need social skills that's it. don't make things complicated than its already is, practice your social skills everywhere.. you would be surprise how good you will become in some days

[@GetMoreConfidence]

Great discussion here! Yes, it's ok to be an introvert. I'm an introvert. You don't have to become a social butterfly... AND, often times low self-esteem and a lack of practice with conversations makes talking to people no fun, so we avoid it, which just makes us more stuck. I'd suggest raising your self-esteem and getting proficient enough at conversations so you can feel more relaxed. You can learn all that here: YourConfidenceCode.com

[@omaralqiwani9054]

Excellent mental attraction drag physical attraction

[@GetMoreConfidence]

Thanks!

[@ridarza]

this sounds like a quick high, & leaving the problem still THERE

[@GetMoreConfidence]

It's not meant to be a total solution, just one piece of the puzzle to get you some forward momentum.

[@MrVentricle200569]

its a hell powerful question

[@hibbiethomas9103]

dude aziz Im studying computer science now In UVic , victoria canada. love your videos. being from guatemala its been tough doing exactly what this video is about. ive met almost zero girls :/ here

[@hibbiethomas9103]

actually, a couple but they always see me as a friend or just always relate me to a group of people when hanging out. e.g. if i suggest we do things, they always want other people to come along.

[@therealalpham2860]

+Hibbie Thomas that's because they only see you as a friend. And they see you this way because you most likely play it safe when you interact with them. Show sexual interest - flirt, tease, play fight etc. when you suggest things to do and she says lets go that in a group say no, I want to hang out with you one on one. If she says no, move on. Invest in yourself more than her and you will become very successful with women. Hope this helps.

[@hibbiethomas9103]

+L Far M thanks. i think you are right. i dont know how to do it, or even which setting it is appropriate in. its even harder now in the summer since my University is near empty and people in general prefer to be left alone from what ive seen.

[@GetMoreConfidence]

Great discussion guys. L Far M is making some great points Hibbie. Listen to this man : ) Also, go here to download my eBook about how to start conversations with women (it's free): 30DaysToDatingMastery.com

[@hibbiethomas9103]

Thanks, Aziz. I didn't see this until now!

[@rafah2528]

great video thank u

[@Chanchanlala]

doctor may i ask, does "level" really exist? i.e artist A have more follower than artist B it means artist B is worse/lower level than A, no matter how hard B tried, B never as popular as A he sell his product cheaper to compete, how to overcome unworthy/lower "level" feeling about ourself, it is also contradictive with "black and white" thinking in cognitive distortion, thanks

[@shubhamhire3065]

i dnt know if i am right about this but"success is what other people decide whereas self satisfaction and self appraisal is what we decide" I think Artist B should be happy because he is putting his hard work and should not compare his success with others.Peace.

[@marijessumar6541]

I am in tears :(

[@GetMoreConfidence]

Thanks for sharing. This is probably a sign of healing your relationship with yourself. For many people this is toxic for many years until we decide to be on our own side no matter what. You are loved, deeply loved. You just have to let it in : )

[@CalculatorTI89]

Thx

[@ElayTVProductionsLLC]

Thank you💜💜 Thank you

[@BTHABIT.]

it's a good video something that you can use

[@gabeguzman]

Sometimes I feel like I'm not good enough because people laugh at me or act afraid of me

[@GetMoreConfidence]

That's not a good reason to change your self worth. Have a look at these two videos: kzbin.info/www/bejne/o56WiousqrSVY7M and kzbin.info/www/bejne/d2HXf4tprZiGeNE

[@bycourtesy7028]

You are great!

[@marvioob5537]

Mh... I loved myself right where i was after listening to your video... people didn't respond THAT well...-,- Jokes aside thanks for everything!

[@GetMoreConfidence]

LOL You're very welcome!

[@boomshell8506]

are you a psychology doctor?

[@dawna4185]

...hhmmmm, i have the if/then sequence occurring right now. i falsely believe, "if i go to university, then i will be and be perceived by others, intelligent and good enough".....now logically, as an adult, i know this is not true but the little girl in side me who did poorly in school due to dysfunctional parents believes otherwise. the resolution is to get her to believe this......

[@Keskinkilicnr1]

+Donna Perry Same here.

[@dawna4185]

Keskinkilicnr1 ....it sucks, eh!?

[@jakatak1134]

+Donna Perry Honestly, the answer is to slowly brainwash yourself. Literally brainwash yourself, because the world is already doing it and they're brainwashing you to think you're not enough! Write down on your phone "I am profoundly intelligent and bring inspiration to the world" and regularly look yourself in the mirror and say it. The way human psychology works is, at first this will feel weird and like you're bullshitting yourself, but eventually you get used to hearing yourself say it. Keep it up, and you will actually start to believe it on a conscious and even subconscious level. And once you believe it, it will show up in your behavior, your physiology and your emotions. At that point, you will have become it. Just give this a try for at least a month, I think you will already notice a change. It works for me. Transformation is head first. Everything else follows.

[@Keskinkilicnr1]

+Donna Perry It sucks exlemely, because I avoid converstations with people who could talk about this topic with me. I isolate myself from my parents to avoid this topic, and to avoid to be judged by them or other people. The main problem is the story that I can only feel good or deserve to live free if my grades are good, but the grades are not good it is a downward spiral. And now comes the fear to be judged by others, in their eyes I am only defined as a student and not a human beeing with other qualities (a part of me thinks this bullshit), and all this is very painful.

[@Keskinkilicnr1]

+jakatak1134 Thank you for you great message.

[@superman-dc4rj]

dude your awesome

[@mayurparekh1334]

or maybe lets just live with it.. we aren't supposed to impress some random ass people that come across, how can you manage to be despicable.. You need some self esteem and be egoistic.. thats how you can love yourself..

[@omarlerouge5420]

wishy washy speech. yes you could be loved, depends by who. women, specially beautiful ones, have lot of choice, in general they will choose successful and good looking dudes. its a fact, its nature. "connection" or ability to be a good listener all that stuff come after on their list. human values are not reproductive values.

[@GetMoreConfidence]

I'm sorry you feel that way Omar. In my experience helping thousands of people, most of those views are just stories you're telling yourself based on a relatively few life experiences. Most of them contain a lot of half-truths and downright misrepresentations.

[@joego7924]

Gotta get the hoes to luv us!

[@GetMoreConfidence]

Well...that's one way of putting it.

[@faed2551]

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