How To Feel Feminine If You Feel Masculine in Relationships

[@11REIGN11]

I think the issue is when women expect something or someone outside of them to make them happy. No one was born to, nor is your happiness anyone's responsibility. You have create your happiness and sustain it within. You cannot expect someone to do for you what you fail to do for self. A relationship with God is sustainable, build happiness with where your blessings flow. Everything thing and everyone else is a recipient of the balance and alignment that flows from you.❤

[@scarletta.w8721]

I think the problem with me having a hard time receiving is because I assume when people give me something they are definitely expecting something back and I don’t want to have that burden of owning anyone anything. Because let’s be honest there’s no free lunch in this world. lol. 😂

[@frimunya]

SAME girl, same.... i dont know how to get over feeling so uncomfortable receiving from men

[@TheAustrianPainter87]

They expect gratitude in return

[@The-Oneness11]

Look at it this way. When you deny offerings from someone who really was giving from their heart, you deny them the chance to do something nice and feel good about themselves.

[@juleeanng]

This..yes.. how I feel when a guy wants to give me something or does smtg for me.

[@Patricia_Odila]

I thought i was alone😢

[@mammamehlape]

I've learned a lot from u over the past 2 years and i enjoy being the feminine women ive became ,thanks a lot Dr Deff

[@drmichelledaf]

You're welcome honey 💋💋

[@Alanahg815]

23 and after my almost three month relationship w someone I like, it helped my realize that I need therapy. Found a therapist and will be starting soon. I know that once I work through my traumas I will be aligning myself with the life that I know I am worthy of living. Relationships really help to amplify and provide feedback when your with secure individual. So grateful

[@Nurseaholic]

*Love love love the advice you gave about asking your man about a topic you are novice in so he can inform you about something he’s passionate about* . Also love the tip about letting him show up and accepting what he does. Thank you for giving practical advice on how we can rest in our femininity. I am trying to learn how I can improve myself and how I choose to show up in the world so I will be binge watching your content.🤗🧡

[@ChrisHamm-c4c]

I really needed to hear this right now! I’m struggling with connecting to my feminine energy and really want to be more submissive and need this man that has come into my life ❤

[@MindfulyPorsha]

I just found your channel and I absolutely love love LOVE the way you breakdown these topics. I'm currently working on getting my bachelor's of arts in psychology and I've been drawn to Family & Marriage counseling because I've grew up seeing toxic relationships and its very important that I understand these things so that I can become successful within my own. Your channel has really inspire me to continue wanting to help women become their best selves even as mothers because that is something I've struggled with.

[@heyalexiajanee]

I def have become more feminine in my marriage, but I can pull that masculine out when I need too. I'm a wild one😂

[@pheliciacarmetta72]

Thank you sm!! Dr. Michelle it’s really a breath of fresh air to see this type of content especially as a young black woman with zero guidance on these matters but wanting to fix this aspect about my self. The fact that I’m not alone and there are others who have these same struggles its very comforting that you’re here to give the wisdom I pray to hear ❤thank you!

[@desireenunez7824]

Amazing content ❤ I’ve been watching you since the beginning of my femininity journey. I must say at first it seems like a lot of work, but once we shift into that feminine identity, that is so natural to us, it just becomes so easy. Ive found a power that didn’t know existed .. Thank You ❤

[@steyderlingcampos9440]

I’m agreeee!!

[@drmichelledaf]

Yesssss it's true!! Thank you for your support darling 🤍✨✨

[@Naj_mahhh]

Can u give me nugget what is the exact way. I know all of these things but still. Cannot be in devine feminine

[@desireenunez7824]

@@Naj_mahhh Being energy. You know you are in your feminine when you are not thinking, sort of a meditative state. You can practice by meditating, going somewhere with no plan, flowing in the moment.

[@ericafielder8134]

I don't know how to start and execute. I can listen and rid the content but feel as though I'm in a stand still

[@gimmelife3717]

Love the side stories - makes it more relatable and integrateable than straight up advice

[@Bobomcbagpiper]

Start being joyful

[@Tgill122]

I know this may be off topic, but can you do a makeup routine video? As a dark skin woman, it's hard to find classy beautiful makeup looks like you often have. ❤

[@UMMH2000]

I agree, I'd love to see that.

[@erikadobbins7759]

Beautiful content as always. ❤

[@drmichelledaf]

Thank you love 🤍

[@wisdomdivine4843]

My sweetest mummy Micheeelle thanks for this wonderful inspired platform to change lives positively

[@drmichelledaf]

You are so welcome my darling 💋

[@Yamino752]

Oh my! I'm so happy I'm not the only one that finds it odd that lots of femininity content is presented in a masculine way! 😆 I'm kind of new to your channel and what drew me to your channel is how feminine you are in your presentation. I've only found one other channel that also feels feminine. The second you started talking in this video a genuine smile appeared on my face and I felt a kind of femininity and joy in me that's been hard to feel lately especially with some hurt and healing that I need to work on. I've been wanting to heal and grow in my femininity but watching other content often would just leave me feeling worse because it came off as condescending, so I wouldn't continue watching.. I was worried that it was all in my head and I was just resisting change.. So I just want to say thank you for your content and I'm really excited to learn from you and do the work I need. You're a beautiful person and I hope one day my femininity and beauty can radiate to others as yours does ❤

[@arimox3942]

Can you please do a makeup tutorial for this amazing neutral look?

[@KayonR]

You are so right! This made me cry! Thank you

[@drmichelledaf]

Aww *a big warm hug* thank you for watching!

[@Destinyystars]

As a teen, I love how you talk about femininity while also including Christianity

[@KhadijatHarsevoort]

Can you please do a video of assertive communication for feminine women? I've struggled with people pleasing and want to learn to better assert myself.

[@CRISSGRULLON]

Yes! I've also struggled, I always associated people pleasing with my femininty and have struggled with people using this against me. Also, the flipside how to accept assertive communication from others? How to identify assertive language? What are appropriate language templates to change attitudes?

[@drmichelledaf]

Yes, I love this, thanks for the suggestion.

[@danilaroche1156]

Speak the truth in love. Be gentle as the Bible says. Let God heal your rejection wounds.

[@keedasingz]

such a necessary message!

[@stanmb4646]

You look beautiful ❤❤

[@drmichelledaf]

Thank you babe🤍

[@traumamom4338]

Dr. Daf is the business ❤

[@daminiquerobinson3535]

I’m so grateful for your videos. I feel like God led me here because this is something I truly desire for myself.

[@SkylitVirtue]

this video is perfect!! thank you Michelle!

[@drmichelledaf]

You're welcome love. Thank you for watching 🤍

[@arimox3942]

This is a deeeeeep and true video. I absolutely lovee the gems you're sharing 💛 Receiving is definitely hard to do

[@marissamarlett1346]

I have a huge problem with brain fog. We have 4 kids and i feel after each kid i got foggier and foggier. I felt my vocabulary was going away. My youngest is 4 and it seems i can think more clear now. I do have parts of my middle school/teen years blacked out too, so not sure if that has anything to do with losing my vocabulary as well... I'm guessing trauma at that age. Anyway, since I've been learning from you, i have felt better just asking my husband, "what does this mean? What is this word?" I was embarrassed before because i thought he would think i was dumb and i knew i wasn't like this in the past when i met him. Since I've been reading in the Bible, my brain has opened up again and I've been able to organize our house better. Im usually all over the place. Quick story: You reminded me of maybe 10 years ago, my motherN Law let me know my broNLaw had mentioned how, "Marissa twirls her hair with her fingers and just seems girly. My gf doesn't do that" and i guess he told her he liked that. Plus i was never girly amd always thought that was a bad habit bc teachers always scolded me in school for that all the time😂. *They just married in November and are super happy🥰

[@savageornah7696]

Did you know that it a woman gives birth 5% from her brain is gone like you lose your intelligence because your brain structure changes I read that maybe that’s the reason

[@jessicahitchens6926]

How are your hormones? Sound out of kilter if you have brain fog. You need to be on Vit B Conplex high quality supplements. VitD3 and Vit K2 to start with....

[@jessicahitchens6926]

Complex*

[@freefree1664]

I found since starting keto/low carb eating that my general health & especially concentration has improved immensely. Plus I have lost weight & feel great

[@brighterwithnzu392]

Oh wow, I thought this Was an old video because it's a topic I wanted to search on your channel. I haven't resonated with your channel since I started consuming content on feminity. I'm only pointing this out because sometimes we don't resonate with content we aren't ready for ❤

[@Kayyy8585]

Again … another video made for me lol thank you ❤

[@YouCanStartLateAndFinish]

As always Dr Daf, spot on. Thank you ❤

[@11REIGN11]

Great commentary ❤

[@REALtalkRenataTV]

Love this!!! NEEDED THIS! 💛

[@LB-ku6ry]

Thank you. I learn so much from you. Let’s heal, Ladies! 🙏🏻 “St. Michael the Archangel, defend us in battle, be our protection against the wickedness and snares of the devil. May God rebuke him we humbly pray; and do thou, O Prince of the Heavenly host, by the power of God, cast into hell Satan and all the evil spirits who prowl about the world seeking the ruin of souls.” Amen.

[@janethuizar4029]

Amen 🙏🏼✝️

[@nothandomahlambi3611]

Watching and loving your video from South Africa 🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦

[@Maggs3]

This is good. Thank you Dr.Daf

[@drmichelledaf]

Glad you liked it!

[@melanierosalie]

Ohhh I was waiting for this video!!!! ❤

[@kezia-joywilson9770]

I lost my baby and the person left me.i felt to pick up the pieces and it's hard.i don't feel like woman 😢. What can do to get back in sync..i am longer attracted to my hobbies that usually help me ..it's like I am drowning. I kinda lost that feeling.😢

[@The-Oneness11]

Sometimes circumstances can cause us to become disconnected from our emotions. I wish you healing.

[@UMMH2000]

Take it one moment and day at a time. Even if you don't feel like it, take it one day and moment at a time. There's no need to rush. Also, watch more of these videos and encouraging videos to help with your mind as well as speak words of life and beauty to yourself. "I will make it", "I will live", "I'm an overcomer", "God is with within me, I will not fail". Renew your mind with positive thoughts of truth even when your emotions try to fight you.

[@EstherMungai-xc8te]

But ur still great if ur alive just start allover d.a

[@jessicahitchens6926]

Vit B Complex take daily. VitD3 and Vit K2. Try out a Magnesium as well take at night. I'd also recommend Melatonin to aid sleep with Valerian/Camomile tea. You need to take care of yourself.

[@danilaroche1156]

These losses are traumatizing. Jesus will heal the pain in time. Don't do this alone. You have a solid church fellowship? Trusted friends? I GET it. I've experienced great suffering and loss. I'm hear for you. Call out to Jesus. Read Psalm 27.

[@Kayyy8585]

For some reason I feel uneasy getting involved in a church. I’ve tried … and I always see red flags. It’s a struggle.

[@danilaroche1156]

Because the foundation of most churches isn't always Christ. There is often an agenda. I help people locate solid churches. Let me know if you need assistance.

[@FarAboveRubies1031]

Hello Dr. Daf. You have been such an inspiration and your videos have truly helped me. You may have already touched on this before but I would love to know more on how to NOT nag our husbands and how to stay in our femininity during disagreements because this is typically the only time I feel that I resort to masculinity because I begin to feel unheard by my husband at times. Please help! ❤

[@_klovely_]

Enjoyed this video! 😊🥰💛🙏🏾🍇🍇🍇🍇

[@drmichelledaf]

Thanks for watching 🤍

[@Bonjour_Lisa]

A video I did not know I needed! Thank you Michelle, and thanks to the persons who asked for this video ❤️🩷🤍 I have book recommendations, from Gary Smalley: « For better or for best » (for women to read) and « If only he knew » for men to read 🫶🏾 They are quite connected to this topic of feeling masculine, and they give ways to better understand the opposite sex. I read the one for pen too as it helps me validate and understand my behaviours as women! Blessings ✨

[@iheart.krissy]

this is kinda off topic. right now I feel like I am struggling so badd. my faith is weakem day by day. I don't have anyone to talk to rn. I have cried my self to sleep for the past 2 weeks😔. idk what to do. anyone have any tips? I really dont want to fall into depression.

[@drmichelledaf]

I'm sorry you're feeling this way. Do you have someone you can talk to? A family member, neighbor, church member? I have prayed for you. May the Lord heal your broken heart and bind up your wounds. May you never fall into depression for God is with you.

[@nyashachitiyo2915]

Thank you so much this is amazing ❤️❤️ learnt a lot

[@drmichelledaf]

Thank you for watching love 🤍

[@MrsAnaelimont]

How about if you start asking ( in a feminine way) but his feedback is that you are asking to much...or he gives feedback that you can do that yourself. How to respond to this

[@apollofateh324]

It means he doesn't want to be responsible for those things, and he's not compatible with you. The types of people that want you to be responsible for everything yourself are different then the types that want to help you: if you've begun the relationship as someone who generally didn't ask for anything, it will always be perceived as "too much" from the other person, because they expected to give nothing. You will have to find a new partner if you want your needs to be met: the old one has already informed you that he doesn't want to do it. Find someone who is more compatible with your needs.

[@Iamanillusion1]

I love this

[@AyushmitaChakraborty-o7i]

Love this video. Also can you please do a makeup video? Step by step guide on how you do it.. I mean look at you.. you look absolutely gorgeous girl 😍🩷

[@erind2261]

Dr. Daf is it masculine to suggest the majority ideas for hangouts? My guy friend specifically asked what I like to do on the onset. I didn't answer b/c I just relocated to the city. Over time I suggested different things never giving a deadline. I usually let him work out the details. He rarely suggests anything. I know his personality so I asked if it bothered him. He said no (but too much will get old). So I can't figure out if he's agreeing b/c it's new experiences or he's just being polite...

[@danilaroche1156]

You can't discuss this with him? Hmmm...

[@shebbysavvas4040]

It's spot on.

[@vinylcollectors]

Do you happen to have any recommendations for feminine car scents? To me they all smell either super fruity or woodsy.

[@Chris-hp2gg]

A little male bravado is appealing but not too much.😂

[@OGFlowerArt]

When you said about how we need to be careful on what feminine content we watch, I instantly knew who you were talking about it's that one female KZbinr named Love Dorsey. She very aggressive even she speaks the truth, never take advice from unlicensed people who think that they are life coach either.

[@drmichelledaf]

I've never heard of her so no, I wasn't referring to her. But I have seen lots of content with that nature.

[@vibewithme425]

Am I High or is she a Bot 🤖 or something like omg….😬but she right tho this perfect looking lady.

[@Fatimah-ey9ks]

UR voice kind of different, may you heal soon and as always great content. Thanx a lot 🙏🏼🩵

[@ruthkaunda3343]

❤️❤️🔥🔥🙌

[@nafeesadamier7592]

❤

[@tvalenz4829]

What is up with you only showing white couples. Even the women of color was with white man why ? It wouldn't surprise me if you are with a white man

[@yippehanako]

23:09 and you say that like it's a bad thing if she was

[@mfenderson2714]

I believe that she is just showing stock footage of couples interacting. If you see her other videos she also has other black couples. But seriously, the fact this bothers you is really said. Her husband happens to also be black but God made people to be in relationships with people of the same and all colors. If you are a Christian talking like this, I sincerely implore you to check your heart with the Lord because it's sounding like prejudice at best and racism at worst to be bothered by seeing possibly fake couples of different backgrounds interacting. And you can't expect to go to heaven not loving others. Plus other people marrying people of different colors has nothing to do with you.... You can't miss out on who God has for you unless you choose to.